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paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

HELP i'm being E-Stalked Posted: 9/30/2007 8:59:18 AM
Yes, I called the police and the nice Sgt took the fella's email and contacted him directly asking him to stop. Never heard another work from the creep. What ever you do...do not read or respond.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Why do older men have dirty minds? Posted: 9/29/2007 4:01:12 AM
"Dirty"? As in a human biological drive to make love to and appreciate women? Shocking...disgusting! What is this world coming to?

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

Alcoholism and dating.......help Posted: 9/29/2007 2:27:06 AM
Just broke up with someone I believe to be an alcoholic. Run, don't walk. It was my first time dating someone who drinks... He was charming, but over several months I realized the bottle was his lover and I was his mistress on the side. Kicking myself now. When someone lives in such emotional or physical pain and cannot address it by healing whatever makes him drink in the first place, forget emotional honesty in your relationship. It's self-centered behavior. I tried to be compassionate, but at some point it became obvious that he was stuck in his pain and the bottle. Hanging around and watching someone drink is about as exciting as watching paint dry. Between drunks, he was a wonderful person. Anyways, lesson learned the hard way.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Patience........They will show their true self Posted: 9/29/2007 2:06:10 AM
Congradulations on your narrow escape. On the bright side - she saved you time.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

The illusion of online dating Posted: 9/28/2007 5:40:03 PM
The OP has a point. Well, several even. Positive thinking and attitude dosen't hurt, but looking for someone to love "right off the shelf " echos our ultimate consumerist attitude. Does life imitate Walmart? Heh...can you tell I'm in the "take a break mode"?

paradoxx

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Msg: 26 (view)

Good Books!! Posted: 9/28/2007 12:25:26 PM
Why did you release her prat?

paradoxx

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Msg: 46 (view)

I lost my Mojo! Posted: 9/20/2007 9:24:52 PM
Yeah, lost mine too. Hoping it will turn back up around the time I need it again. Until then... well, I have POF.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 110 (view)

AT MY WITS END....INPUT PLEASE!!!!! Posted: 6/25/2006 2:16:42 AM
Okay...I did it. I left a jerk husband while making 7.50 an hour 6 years ago with 2 little kids. The ex told me if I tried to make him pay me support, he would kill me. Really nice guy, I am sure he meant it. we have joint custody, and I didnt make him pay me a dime. We exchange kids week on/week off. The last 6 years have been a struggle (an understatement). I have also managed to go to college at night and now earn twice what I made when I left him. I am 3 payments from paying off my crappy old car (thank god I bought a little Nissan, 42 mpg highway). I have food in the house, bills are paid (for the moment) and my kids are fine. I look back and know I did what I had to do to keep my sanity intact. I am also not sure how I have made it so far- formula= Live/One day at a time. My ex paid for child care- I dont know how I would have made it without that. There are programs that can help you pay rent, buy food, take care of the kids. I didn't apply for them- couldnt deal with the idea. Looking back maybe it was stupid not to. In any case, it can be done- you live one day at a time and take care of yourself and your kids.

paradoxx

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Msg: 52 (view)

can women love too much Posted: 6/24/2006 3:42:59 AM
I think there is a book entitles "Women who love too much" and it's a great one. The title refers to women who cling to guys that are emotionally unevailable, trying to change them into a different kind of guy who will be able to offer emotional fulfillment. Problem is, no man alive can supply endless attention and romance, they need to snuffle around and do guy things...In a healthy relationship they are free to come and go, meeting you in the middle for love. When emotionally famished women chase them down in a relentless pursuit for romance- it quits working right. Oh, the cliff notes on the book: Feed your own soul and find your own happiness, don't look for a man to do it for you- they really can't.

paradoxx

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AT MY WITS END....INPUT PLEASE!!!!! Posted: 6/24/2006 2:51:48 AM
I would teach her about birth control, give her a laminated card with social services and shelters in her area, and keep helping, but remind her she is there by CHOICE. There are women's shelters that provide out patient group counceling for free, you could check into it. As painful as it sounds, step back from the horror stories and make sure you don't enable her to stay with her poor choice. It's really black and white, she stays with Controlling Charlie or moves beyond him and into the scary unknown alone.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

Serious relationship after sex the first day? Posted: 3/2/2006 4:16:57 AM
What I don't understand here is the assumption that having sex soon after meeting would "taint" the relationship in some way. I wonder how many people here avoid black cats and carry a lucky rabbit foot too. Nice people have sex sometimes...and sometimes sooner than later, and sometimes they wait. If we really had prescient minds, I don't suppose we would be here.

paradoxx

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Weddings Posted: 3/1/2006 4:00:26 AM
My ex and I had a small Justice of the Peace wedding, never regretted bypassing the horse and pony show.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Different is groovy:).....or is it? Posted: 3/1/2006 3:48:08 AM
When it gets down brass tacks, mutual respect, kindness, sexual attraction and perserverence wins the game. Differences can be good, as well as simularities...but it's what you do with them that count.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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hoe? why does every guy............... Posted: 2/24/2006 5:36:28 AM
Er, your friends are still boys and it's obvious. I'd dump "friends" that called me a slut, but I'm funny like that :)

paradoxx

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Win the mind, win all.... Posted: 2/22/2006 7:31:47 AM
Not saying the mind isn't a factor. It is. But if it were a top priority, Stephen Hawking and Albert Einstein would've caused more wet panties than a demonic washing machine on permanent spin cycle. They don't? :) I've always thought a rather ordinary man with an extrordinary mind is much sexier than a pretty boy with vapor lock. Wet happens faster with mental stimulation than oral...at least for me.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Wanting More Posted: 2/22/2006 7:24:55 AM
SOme women may be looking for a long term partner. When you said "not looking for anything serious right now", they assumed you meant with anyone EXCEPT them...something about a challenge that gets the heart pounding. My advice- drop them, They are not honoring the "deal". The focus becomes changing you, when they would be much better off dating someone who has a simular relationship style and goal. In the long run, letting them go to find someone who can offer them what they want is the right thing to do. If a women is seriously looking for a partner, and wants to focus on dating one person at a time, that is perfectly okay, too. You just can't have it both ways with all women.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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3 hugs, no kissess and a wack of confusion... Posted: 11/11/2005 3:00:16 PM
I would give him some time. If he find himself attracted to you, he could also find himself having struggles getting close...old ghosts and such. Enjoy his friendship! Other things will work themselves out in time.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Will Dorothy and the Cowardly Lion ever make it to the Emerald City and see the Wizard? Posted: 11/11/2005 3:37:27 AM
Nightengale, he can't read these replies, but you can. this kind of "love" isn't love at all, it's obsession, and it dosen't feel good to you anymore. Good love is built on truth, and he hasn't been able to give you that.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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He's changed, can I handle it? Posted: 11/11/2005 3:16:14 AM
Buccaneer38, while she is on 150 people's favorites lists, it could well be she knows about 15 of them, and the others just clicked on her profile...and of course favorites mean different things to different people. I have several women on favorites, and have added several to mine...it's not necessassarily about sexual lust, just people who found you interesting or have offered friendship over time in the forums. Only man you should wholeheartedly trust is GOD. Tell that to the Platypus!

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Would you date an older man? Posted: 11/11/2005 3:08:33 AM
^^^ Forgive me, I couldn't resist the temptation Silver and gold and shiny things, exactly...but not sure how much love is going for these days on the commodity market. Remembering back to my youth, I wouldn't date older men, I preferred my age...more to talk about, or was it just the attraction of two pretty bodies?, I don't even remember my old attraction formula. I can tell you it has changed completely from age 27 to what I hold in value now. At my age, I find the wisdom and experience of a man in my age group or older to be damned sexy, and view younger men as incomplete or "becoming" the man he will be after age 40. Not at all to imply a right or wrong on anyone else's views, it's just how my attractions work at this stage of the game.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Timing Posted: 11/11/2005 2:50:26 AM
I agree blue eyed girl, usually timing issues show up (for me) in hindsight, or at least when you realize that someone you care about can't/won't be with you, for whatever reason.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 25 (view)

Perfection verses Reality Posted: 11/10/2005 7:38:52 PM
I don't offer perfection, so how can I expect it? That's not even logical. Authenticity is sexy.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Ouch. Just got rejected. Venomous. Posted: 11/10/2005 7:14:01 PM
Oh no, watching this come down to a he said/she said battle of the sexes is about as interesting as eating chalk... I'll pass

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Guys who end their emails with.... Posted: 11/10/2005 7:10:37 PM
If a guy came up to you talked to you for a min then walked away and waved and went kisses you wouldn't think that was a bit odd?! I would be much more concerned if he was wearing a velvet cape.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

Answers to Redundant Relationship Threads Posted: 11/10/2005 7:04:56 PM
^^ Oh Evil, you live up to your name well.

paradoxx

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Answers to Redundant Relationship Threads Posted: 11/10/2005 6:59:35 PM
What can I say, it seemed to fit

paradoxx

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Answers to Redundant Relationship Threads Posted: 11/10/2005 6:55:40 PM
Actually I think redundant relationship threads has been done too.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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At least she put her picture up...? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:49:52 PM
Was this a sociology experiment?

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

why won't a guy tell you that he's NOT interested dating you? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:44:18 PM
He has already voted with his feet...he is where he wants to be for now. Men are rather headstrong creatures, in my experience you can't hope a man into loving or dating you that dosent want to. Why he says is secondary to what he does.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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At least she put her picture up...? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:33:20 PM
male/female wars are what draws the crowd around here, quick, get the gladiators and lions onto the field, I'll pop the popcorn. Seriously, no matter what the guy may or may not have said, hitting Ignore is just so much easier than wasting precious energy like that.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Answers to Redundant Relationship Threads Posted: 11/10/2005 6:29:27 PM
Take out the angst, and what do we have left? Boys sitting on one side of the gym and the girls on the other, he shows you his pet frog, and you offer to let him chew your gum...wait....wrong storyline. Please, not another thread like the three things I am thankful for today....please

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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What is the women thinking? For the ladies! Posted: 11/10/2005 6:26:21 PM
OMG, he just caught me doing a package check on aisle 9.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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why won't a guy tell you that he's NOT interested dating you? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:25:07 PM
He has already voted with his feet, I think. Super glue may work as a temporary measure, until he figures out he can untie his shoelaces and escape.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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whats weird about females Posted: 11/10/2005 6:23:02 PM
is that the ones I find hot other guys do not find so hot or ignore them or at least pretend to, but I have fantasies about them. As long as you aren't calling out Mommy in your sleep, it's all good.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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At least she put her picture up...? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:20:48 PM
PMS, a perfect example....try her again in a week :)

paradoxx

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Msg: 180 (view)

Can women really go without sex???? Posted: 11/10/2005 6:18:26 PM
Yes, but it makes us grouchy.

paradoxx

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Msg: 38 (view)

What's the point of playing head games? Posted: 11/10/2005 3:11:49 PM
The point is calculated manipulation to gain an advantage or outcome without concern for anyone but the game player. If there are regrets, they are soothed by the final play in the end game...the payoff, what ever that may be.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Psycho Men... Posted: 11/10/2005 3:32:35 AM
Ummm, MSN? no...the police department, think restraining order. I had a guy turn very nasty once after I decided not to date him (ha, called that one right)...anyway, after some verbal BS, a couple of veiled threats, took my emails to the local police. They made a record of the situation and contacted the man, giving him a "buddy, what the hell is wrong with you?" speech. Seemed to work, and I felt more comfortable knowing they had a record of his interactions...and knowing HE knew they did too. You never can tell...this guy had worked for a major wallstreet accounting firm for 25 years...not a drifter. You have to be careful. Don't even play nice, or talk to him anymore, he is feeding off of your terror and fear.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

When is it too late to forgive someone Posted: 11/10/2005 3:23:18 AM
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, as well as the other person. Not forgiving someone who has hurt you or taken advantage of you could cause YOU to be stuck in a cycle of bitterness. Best to forgive, and depending on the circumstances, probably run like hell in the opposite direction.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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Would you date an older man? Posted: 11/10/2005 3:19:09 AM
If you have the bait to catch the younger fish (try bright and shiny lures) and do not use a net or random abduction, it's all good.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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are artists better lovers? Posted: 11/8/2005 5:40:53 PM
Is an artist more sensually in tune? I think passion is the muse of art and making love...just a different canvas.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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REGRETS Posted: 11/8/2005 5:28:27 PM
Regrets, only in hindsight...but if I look a little deeper, I find some of my most valuable moments wouldn't have happened if I had not taken the roads I chose.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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What would u do or say to this.>>>>??? Posted: 11/8/2005 4:05:44 PM
If it happened very quickly, without much time to know him...I would assume he wants to fall in love, and I am an object to fixate on (not good). If it happened a couple of months into dating, I would tell him I am honored, but can't return it yet...then tell him my heart works really slowly on such matters.

paradoxx

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Should I drop this guy or what? Posted: 11/8/2005 3:59:16 PM
Drop him like a wet sock. When you think of your future, I hope you won't settle for this kind of man and call it "love". Do you someday want a man in your life who treats you kindly? If so, don't date men who treat you poorly...in the end, you choose what you settle for.

paradoxx

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Man Hater Posted: 11/8/2005 3:11:06 PM
People look for "labels" to sound bite confusing behavior in others, especially when dissappointed in a relationship. Women don't hate men, but some are wary once burned, others go through a process of bitterness while learning to trust again, especially after a negative experience. This is not nessasarily indiginous to one sex or another; there are plenty of men with chips on their shoulders and trust issues. When we disregard the "sexist" labels (all women, all men...), and realize people (men and women) all are trying to make sense of life and love, it becomes apparent we're just human.

paradoxx

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Msg: 19 (view)

How small is too small for a penis? Posted: 10/28/2005 12:31:14 PM
Hmm, different strokes... >: ) Actually, I prefer 6

paradoxx

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How small is too small for a penis? Posted: 10/28/2005 12:27:44 PM
It really is the technique, not size. Most of the nerve clusters and assorted spots that can make a woman speak in tongues are only 2-1/2 inches inside of her...You're more than adequate :) Get a GOOD book and find out about those secret places.

paradoxx

Joined: 7/2/2005

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What's your turn on? Posted: 10/28/2005 12:15:45 PM
Intelligence with compassion. Sensuality, nuance, whispers things that makes me blush.

paradoxx

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the Duh guy Posted: 10/28/2005 12:07:32 PM
The DuH guy... large belt buckle with a picture of deer or a big truck Profile contains blurry pictures and two sentances, mostly mispelled Uses the word "solemate" alot Gets angry when you dont buy what he's selling

paradoxx

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the Duh guy Posted: 10/27/2005 4:42:04 PM
anyone besides me run into Duh guy? What did you do/ say ? Goodbye always seems to work well in that situation. Run Forrest Run!! Rainbow, you are such a well spoken and intelligent lady, what in the world would you have in common with the DuH guy? ; ) Must be the entertainment value.

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