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namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Houston POF - June - LIVE Band - Saturday, June 23 7PM Posted: 6/25/2007 7:03:45 PM
Where's the pictures???? Would love to see what I missed!! Will they be here or in a different thread????

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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WHEN ? OR WHAT AGE SHOULD WE LET GO OF MEETING THE ONE ? Posted: 5/20/2007 11:46:11 AM
Never stop hoping, but you might want to consider stopping the 'search' for a little while. Take time to work on something you like, or something new you want to learn, experience, etc. There is no such thing as 'not in the cards'...but there is definitely such a thing as putting too much pressure on yourself and someone else. Let it go for now and relax and enjoy life. You would be surprised what pops up when you are not looking. If you are feeling the 'void', try filling it other ways for now and not focusing on what isn't there, but the things that are there. Best of luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Have you ever dated an English guy/gal? Posted: 2/21/2007 6:16:47 PM
I will say, I'm a total sucker for a man with an accent. But in all truthfulness, it is the brain/heart/conversation behind the accent that really does it!

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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how do you tell that your potential date is real?? Posted: 2/17/2007 7:33:19 PM
Trust your gut. If something smells fishy, it usually is. See what happens when she get's back from her 'trip' (although I think she actually lives in Africa and will never make it back to the 'states'). If she comes back, great...go meet her. BUT, if she asks you to call her on your cell phone 'just for a minute', or to help her out by sending money..obviously run the other way. I would not be surprised if her trip gets extended, and it's next week, then the week after that, etc. while she tries to string you along. Don't fall for it darlin'. Her english is NOT first language, no matter what she says. Good luck, I hope it all works out for the best and we are proven wrong ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Your so vain.. Posted: 2/17/2007 4:59:43 PM
Someone here explain to me then the difference between being 'presentable and taking pride in how you look', and being vain? I think I am vain to a point, but I am also a very nice person. I don't leave the house witout make-up, and have never been anywhere in sweats but to work out. It takes me an hour to get ready in the morning, shower, make-up, blow dry, etc. Sometimes a little more, hair takes awhile. And, I check my make-up while out and about...reapply the gloss when need be, whatever. You people get what I'm saying. More a girlie-girl. I don't believe it makes me any less interested in other people, or any less interesting. The size of my heart is the same. Some people will love ya', and others won't...and thats OK. So where is the line???

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Book thread Posted: 2/9/2007 8:10:58 PM
Princess, Read Wicked year or two ago, found it interesting, but was very disappointed with the end. Had a friend read it after me, and she loved the whole thing. So....is it worth battling on with? Only one way to find out, finish it! I believe there are a couple more from him...Son of a Witch is next I think. Favorites: The Infinte Jest (drawing a total blank of the author) Me talk pretty one day (David Sedaris) The Brothers K (David James Duncan) The Tailsman (Stephen King) Pride and Prejudice (favorite classic!)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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The 'real' meaning of christmas Posted: 12/3/2006 8:03:06 PM
"What child wakes up on Christmas day morning and thinks of Jesus Christ?" Ummmmm, we did. First thing we did every christmas morning was sing happy birthday to the baby jesus. My parents started that as soon as they had kids and we have kept it up. We always had huge christmas's (still do), but no one touched a thing untill after 'happy birthday', usually sung to the nativity set baby, but what the heck. It was supposed to remind us what we were there for. As a grown-up, I am a lapsed catholic, not buying into everything religion has to sell you. But old habits die hard and I can't touch a present without thinking of Jesus to this day. It keeps me in touch with what the holiday really means, as has been said. And what it means may be different to every person, but I know what it means to me.....and that's what matters. Merry Christmas ;P

NamelessGrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Xmas ...ba humbug.... Posted: 11/26/2006 7:39:43 PM
Sheesh Nom, my little jingle-bell.........shall I leave you off my christmas card list then?? I adore Christmas....and it is 'about' what you make it about. Things that warm your heart all year long, will do the same in December as well as July, no doubt about that. But it is also a time of year when it is acceptable to take off work to enjoy your friends and family (the people you love), what could possibly be wrong with that? As far as presents go, some people enjoy the giving and recieving, and some people don't. Personally, I love to pick out things for the people I love that I know will make them happy. And if I could afford to do it all year long, I would. But I can't.......so christmas is my time! If I could have family get to-gethers all year long, I would too. But again, not everyone can get time off, they have other obligations, money, etc, etc. Christmas though, will usually bring everyone together if even for a short time. What's not to like about that either???? Cheer up my crabby friend...and don't take your frustrations out where they don't belong ;) You can blame the hypocrits all year long too....take christmas off. I'll send ya a naughty card if that will help ;) I see nothing wrong with setting aside one day to say 'stop, appreciate, love each other'. Yes, you SHOULD do it every day of the year...but sometimes life gets in the way. This is just the 'season' meant to remind you how you should be all the time in my opinion. Butcher me if you must, but I love the holidays, and will go on loving them. I'm not even going to touch the whole pagen, christian thing ;P Love ya sweetpea. *sings 'merry christmas baby' under her breath"

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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leykis 101 dating rules Posted: 9/13/2006 3:45:49 PM
Answer me this Oh wise one.....what woman worth anything would want a man like that? Offensive doesn't even begin to cover it. And your disclaimer about the age group this is aimed at is a poor excuse.......do you truly believe until you are 25 or 30 it's perfectly OK to act like this? And then what.....you just turn the moronic behavior off? If this is amusing to you, or how you wish to live your life, have at it. But don't pretend you can't tell what's offensive about it. Good luck to you, and I hope you use protection for everyones sake.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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want some opinions Posted: 9/7/2006 3:53:35 PM
Good for you. You found out information sooner, rather then later. They are public record, no reason NOT to look them up. I think Canada is crazy if that is illegal, but not the point of this thread. You asked him about it, instead of just jumping to conclusions, and he flipped out. That tells you enough. Anyone with nothing to hide would not flip out about something like that. It wouldn't bother me in the least if someone wanted to check out my 'court records' before dating. Don't be nervous about meeting someone new, just do your homework and trust your judgement.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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An ex...has something of mine and I WANT IT BACK.. Posted: 8/23/2006 6:50:19 PM
Guy sounds like a jerk, sounds like you knew he was a jerk after the break-up, but you kept being 'friends' with him anyway. I hate to say you asked for something stupid to happen, in mho anyway. Call the cops, tell them you gave your laptop to a friend who was going to see about getting it fixed (tell them you used to date), and he refuses to answer your calls now, or any attempt you've made to contact him. Give them his contact number, and at the very least, a detective will give him a ring to see what's going on. Even if they police do nothing else but THAT...it should be enough to put a fire under him and get your dam$ laptop for you. He should know that 'ignoring' the situation is NOT his brightest move...and if it takes the cops to point out that obvious observation to him, so be it. It is your rightful property, broken or not...and he has no right to ignore your calls about that subject. (unless of course you have the friends number who had the computer and can call him direct). Good luck.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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NEED VIEWPOINTS ON IM ON HERE... Posted: 8/19/2006 3:57:44 PM
The IM's don't always work here. Just because your window opened, doesn't mean theirs did. And not everyone wants to be IM'ed when they are on here. They could be chatting already, or reading their mail, or whatever. You would probably have better results if you emailed them first and ask if they would like to chat (IM). Just because your phone rings at home, doesn't mean you have to answer it does it? Are you being disrespectful to the person on the other end? IM is the same way hon. No one 'owes' you a response because you choose to break into their screen, so to speak. It would be nice if everyone would take the time to respond, but it's not going to happen. Try not to let it get to you. If I've learned anything here, it's to have thick skin ;) Good luck and enjoy.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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would you date her? Posted: 8/18/2006 5:03:58 PM
Man-behaving-badly, You live up to your name. No one is challenging your choice to date whom you wish to date. I believe your trouble stems from your complete lack of tact or compassion. Which, again, is your right. Post as you see fit. But don't be surprised if people find you an A$$, and then be offended that they are offended. Sheesh.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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the hot friend in the profile pic Posted: 8/14/2006 6:17:48 PM
I'm going to have to go against the grain here (with mostly female posters). I don't think it would really bother me if someone messaged me to ask about a friend. I would NOT ever pretend to like someone to get to 'the friend', that's just wrong on so many levels! But if someone saw a girlfriend they thought was attractive and wanted to know if they were single, I am certainly secure enough to not freak out about it. Having said THAT, let me say if it was the only messages I ever recieved, THEN it would bother me!!! In which case, I'd learn my lesson and take those girls out of the picture!! Now that we're on the subject, can't remember if i have any girlfriend pic.s up? Will have to go look and maybe add a few just to see what happens ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Can't see the forest for the trees Posted: 8/8/2006 8:34:15 PM
Let him go OP, he will not change, does not want to change, and certainly won't do it for you. There is a huge difference in being a loving and supportive parent.....and letting your kids rule your life with their demands. He has obviously raised ungrateful, self-involved adults with no thought to the fact they are killing their own Dad so they don't have to 'work'. Great job. Who ever said they are in a co-dependant relationship hit the nail on the head. It is subtle control on both sides by parties that are too scared to live without the other. You are wasting your time with this man, he doesn't really want your help. Go find a man who has raised his children to be loving adults who can stand on their own two feet...it bodes better for your own emotional well-being. Grown children would let their own father work two jobs, with hardly any sleep...AND still ask for more??? Someone has done more to cripple them emotionally then to help them mature. You know the difference...but I doubt he ever will. Good luck to you, and to him too. He sounds like a heart attack waiting to happen.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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what happend to honesty? Posted: 8/7/2006 8:24:55 PM
Well....I'm sure after those last two statements the girls will be falling all over you. (who'm I kidding, after starting this thread, any girl with half a brain would avoid this guy). So very nice and kind it just warms the heart to be here, doesn't it? (looks for the 'puke' face icon)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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interesting question on double standards Posted: 7/30/2006 8:40:45 PM
You both need professional help. Resorting to physical violence is the stupid persons answer to everything.....and putting up with abuse....well, you need some help to overcome it. Two wrongs do not make it right, so why worry about what you view as a double standard and go learn how to live with dignity and respect for yourself, and the people you choose to have around you. She is obviously not of them. Good luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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In need of a big SURPRISE Posted: 7/30/2006 8:30:04 PM
I'm sorry, I hate to be the one to rain on the parade. I think all the ideas are wonderful, and personally, I'd be thrilled if someone did any of those for me...BUT...did you just say she is soft-spoken, unassuming,hypersensitive 20 year old girl? You are going to embarass the snot out of her with those ideas. Take a card, or scrapbook you've put some real thought and effort into to let her know how much you missed her and give it to her to look at while you're waiting for her bags. Then take her somewhere quite and romantic to relax and eat with you, or have a drink. Leave the flowers in the car for a surprise there. Dont make the whole airport look at this poor girl after she get's off a 12 hour plane ride...she'll want to run into hole and die. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, she's a lucky girl ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Being Single Rocks Posted: 7/30/2006 1:49:43 PM
"It is false to assume or generalize that everyone has a ticking clock or a need to be owned. I like my single life" It is also false to assume that anyone who would like to be married down the road has a ticking clock or a need to be owned. sheesh. If you like being single, have at it hon. Just be up front with the gal you're dating and you should have no problems. Being married does not allow you the selfishness of only having yourself to worry about. For some that's the best place to be, for others, not. To each their own. I would also like to know who came up with the inane term 'rocks' for something that is good. Ugh ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Is Recieving Dirty Pics Normal When Dating A Guy? Posted: 7/30/2006 8:11:50 AM
You don't have to 'get mad' sunshine....but do you really want to date someone like him? If he chats so much that other things are getting ignored.......that's a problem. Naked pictures or not. That by itself would cause trust issues down the line...and knowing that those he's chatting with are sending half naked pictures.......well it would lead one to believe they are not chatting about knitting. You will always be wondering what he's up to when he's not with you. If you truly don't see this relationship ever going anywhere serious, and you're ok with that, keep dating him (and make sure you only practice SAFE SEX). If you would like more out of the relationship, then I would stop now before either of you gets any more involved. His need for all the sex chat(which is what it obviously is) would be a big red flag.....his need for all the chat period would be even a bigger flag for me. Sounds like he just needs a LOT of attention right now, and not from just one person! You're just setting yourself up for a fall hon. Good luck.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Professional singles Posted: 7/26/2006 7:54:45 PM
"In fighting the urge to stab my eyes out at a lot of blather that's been posted in response......" Now that's the pot calling the kettle black! Blather indeed. "Professional", used in context of dating site ad's is generally accepted to mean not blue collar. I can see how you might find it annoying that the word is not being used correctly in your opinion....but do we need a book on it? And then, you feel the need to belittle the people who actually took the time to read your post. Might try looking up 'manners' next hon. If the 'loose translation' used in so many profile does not sit well with you, then don't use it. Easy as pie.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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The posted picture where the guy is definitely with his date Posted: 7/21/2006 7:38:08 PM
What about if the other person in the photo is simply a friend......and out of respect to that person, you cut them out of the picture? People are not always with dates when you see the hand, but no face shot. I can testify to that ;) Although, I do find it weird to see pictures where the person is being kissed by someone else in the photo. Oh well, takes all kinds!!

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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dont know wha to do Posted: 7/5/2006 7:29:10 PM
Are you brain damaged? What do you supposed it going to happen when he finds a new job? Love yourself a little more from now on girlie, and dump the trash at the curb where it belongs.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Do you Inflate your status when on a date? Posted: 7/1/2006 5:31:17 AM
Have to agree with cornflakekiller.......if some guy told me about some wild weekend with another girl, and then was out on a date with me during the week, that would be the last one with this guy. No girl wants to be part of some chain gang with a party boy. It does NOT make you more attractive. You'd be foolish to do something that pathetic. Tell the truth. (and if you really work that much hon, with only one day off a week and you play pool that evening......when in the world are you planning on dating anyway????)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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should i call/email them? Posted: 6/27/2006 5:33:23 AM
Forget them both and move on. Don't contact either of them....do you want to set up the pattern of chasing them? IF they wanted to really get together with you, they would have followed thru. Sounds like they both are busy with the 'grass is always greener' effect. That never ending 'oh, look at HER!...oh wait, look at her!....oh, she might be EVEN better'. Happnes to everyone for a little while, but do you really want to get caught up in that? Keep looking and find someone serious about dating YOU. These two guys are not it.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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She wants to talk.. Posted: 6/26/2006 2:21:27 PM
Sparkly, You're 21, definitely move on! YOU made a big mistake by telling her the day before you were 'happy', then breaking up with her, that was just dumbas*. Apologize for that. Tell her you didn't have the guts to hurt her that day, but after giving it some thought, you decided you would hurt her more in the long run by NOT breaking up, so you did it the next day. Apologize for what you said about her family, that was not nice, even if it's true. Be very, very, very clear that you would love to remain friends with her, but that you simply don't see you two as a couple, ever again. She will probably lose interest in you 'as just a friend' if she knows you will not be getting back together with her. That means you must not sleep with her again even if she throws herself at you and tells you it's just a friends with benefits type thing...she'll be lying and want more. Don't do it. The kindest thing you can do, is be honest about your feelings as far as being in a relationship with her. If her, or her friends don't like it....well that's not your problem. Don't let it bother you. Good luck.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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He does a 180 on me, and then wants me to call him? Posted: 6/25/2006 11:41:51 AM
Actually wolf, I think I can make you feel better about this one! I was seeing a guy from here (POF), went out four or five times. He emails me last Sat. afternoon to cancel our date for sat. night. Said he was sick all day in bed, blah,blah,blah. I get an email monday from what I am assuming is his girlfriend (or some other girl he's seeing who broke into his email), telling me he was perfectly healthy sat. night and stayed with her. AT LEAST you heard it from him. Voice mail sucks, and is cowardly, but not as bad as an pus*y who can't even tell you at all. I'm not sure if men think our little worlds will crumble is they no longer want to see us, or if it's really just the whole 'how many notches in the bedpost' thing? Go figure. Glad you went out and had a good time!! Many more good times to come, for all of us ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Men that run away before facing their feelings - men's take on it please! Posted: 6/25/2006 11:20:42 AM
"Honestly, I think that the whole 'men run away from their feelings' line is a myth us women created. The bottom line is, is there a lot of drama? Is he worth it? Is the relationship worth it" Couldn't agree more anglesherry. Well said. We spend too much time coming up with our own excuses for why such and such happened. Yes, men get scared sometimes. But most of the time, if they leave you, it's because they do not wish to be with you anymore (just like when you leave them). Plain and simple. The great debate need not ensue to 'explain' it away. It happens, such is life. I get tired of the whole discussion. If it wasn't meant to be, move on and find a man it IS meant to be with. Just my two cents ;)

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Please help me. . . Posted: 6/21/2006 8:43:55 PM
Seek profesional help. You either are in dire need of it, or just a troll looking for attention. No one get's trampled on like that and has to ask for advice. If you truly believe you can love this women after everything that has gone on, you need some self-esteem pills in a big way. Run, don't walk to the nearest clinic and see if you can't get your head on straight before you entertain the idea of marrying anyone. Be a man, suck it up, and figure out why it's ok with you to be treated in that manner...and you still call it 'love'. Best of luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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should i stay or shoul i go when yhigs are not the way i want Posted: 6/21/2006 6:03:32 AM
Honey, get your ducks in a row. Go find a job, that is the first thing! You can do nothing, and will feel like nothing if you can not support yourself!! Don't tell your boyfriend why you're looking, just that you are looking because you want to work again. Once you have an income all the rest won't seem so overwhelming. I know London is a REALLY expensive place to live, so it may take some time to find a new place you can afford, but keep looking, the train/subway system is awesome so you can commute. Take one thing at a time, and get it done. First a job. Then a place to live. Then look at your emotional well-being and figure out why you let yourself be beaten down by this in the first place. If you are truly unhappy in this situation, it's up to you to fix it. Do NOT go find another man right now. THAT IS THE LAST THING YOU NEED. You need to work on you first! All the trust, feeling beautiful, etc. will NOT come until you can hold your head up high as your own person first. Right now, you can't. What kind of man do you think that is going to attract? Don't do it. Get your life together yourself. Best of luck to you!!,

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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what do you do.......... Posted: 6/18/2006 2:17:43 PM
Hon, it's been said before, and will be said again, We teach people how to treat us. If you feel he is not serious about you, and you want different things out of the relationship, then stop it. You can't make him change, you can only work on yourself. You should ask yourself why it's ok with you to be treated as less then you feel you are worth (and I say it's ok with you because you keep going back for more). Answer that question for yourself and you take away his power (that you have given him). Find someone who gives you what you need, not just when they feel like it. If the relationship is not good for you, for whatever reason, then you need to leave it. Take responsiblity for your happiness. Good luck to you, it's not easy sometimes, to let people go that we wish would could be more....but your self worth is more important than this guy.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Intelligent, Attractive, But Dateless For Years Posted: 5/31/2006 6:00:46 AM
CoasterGal- I'm going grocery shopping with you! Not sure I've seen anyone shopping with 'that' look on their face....you crack my up girlie. JWA- Good points. I don't believe I've got 'romance' in my profile at all ;) (not that I don't love it of course) OP- After 40 many men are taken, already settled down, unlike when you/I was 25. But there are good men out there, and one that will give you the butterflies again. Just be patient and do what you're doing. Putting yourself out there and being open to the experience is half the battle. Good luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Why or why wouldn't you have a relationship with someone who has a six pack? Posted: 5/30/2006 1:03:50 PM
Call me dense, but what does abs have to do with being in a relationship? If we all based our decision on who to date by the flatness of their/our stomach......there'd be a LOT of lonely people in the world, myself included!! Basic health is important, but beyond that....the body changes with age anyway. You'd better have something else keeping you together ;) A killer bod is nice, but about as important as the color of someones hair.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Need help.... Posted: 5/25/2006 5:52:13 AM
You really NEED to ask him. Better to find out now how he feels then to wait another month or two and find out it's not the answer you want. If he is ignorning the email you sent him, it's not a good sign. Any grown up would tackle it head on, how do you ignore the fact someone has layed their feelings out on the line? You don't.....except if you do not feel the same way and don't have the balls to own up to it. I would really take that as a sign you are at LEAST a page or two in front of him. Your choices are to back off, and maybe play the field a bit (I assume you two have not made it exclusive?). Or stay where you are, ignore all the signs, and keep doing what you're doing. He may come around........he may not. Can you live with that? Getting hurt sucks...for both genders....but figuring out sooner, rather then later, that you two don't want the same thing, is so much easier to take. Step up to the plate since he won't...or you will have no one but yourself to blame if you get hurt later.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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A NSA affair Posted: 5/23/2006 5:41:53 PM
" Please no flames here asking honest questions from people who have done this before. Thanks " Gee, I don't see very many people 'who have done this before' jumping in joe. Maybe because they are ashamed to admit it? Sureeeeee....have a fling with the lady you met. Just go tell your wife first that she is now allowed to go screw whoever she wants as well since you are boring in the bedroom. That's your logic right? What's good for you, is good for her. Give her the green light...and you're good to go too! Enjoy.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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SLOW DOWN SONN Posted: 5/22/2006 3:44:24 PM
Your post still makes no sense. " Why do men don't want a serious relationship...without sex being involved." Work on the grammer darlin' if you want some answers. It should be either, 'why don't men want a serious relationship'...or Why do men want a serious relationship, without sex involved'. The way you've stated it.... well, I'm no moron, but I can't make out what you are getting at.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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I need some good advice what to do? Posted: 5/19/2006 6:14:49 PM
Girlie-girl...are you nuts? Call the cops! Change your phone numbers, and move if you can. You have no idea what this idiot is capable of....don't give him any extra help. The harder it is to find you, the more likely he'll get bored and give it up. But if he knows where and how to find you, scare you, annoy you....he will keep doing it. I think it's only FAIR to warn the new guy too. What if your ex comes up to him one day? If the new guy has no idea what is going on, he can't very well be on his toes to help himself, or you. Tell him. If he bolts, well you'll have to deal with it. But you have to put his safety ahead of your 'like' for him...it's the only decent thing to do. How would you like it if he had a crazy ex that walks up to the two of you one day out of the blue and you are clueless about the situation? If there is any chance you, or him could be harmed, he needs to know ahead of time. Do whatever you can do to keep yourself safe hon...file a restraining order, file harrassment charges, whatever it takes to let the ex know you are serious and will not be walked over!! Best of luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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he still maintains an active profile after >a year Posted: 5/19/2006 6:05:04 PM
oh hells bells.....if he's on here for the forums, he'll find it himself! If he's not...sure, tell him to come take a look. It will either be a place for you two to talk about what you want out of this relationship...or it will end it. Either way, you're in a better place. Personally, I don't know why you just don't tell him to take a flying leap...but hey, to each their own. It's better to speak up and get the ball rolling then to just sit around and wonder. Good luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Independence vs.feminism Posted: 5/18/2006 8:32:41 PM
fackker, Can you truly be THAT vapid and immature? Or just trying to be a troll because you're bored? Grow up baby-boy.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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Independence vs.feminism Posted: 5/18/2006 8:28:23 PM
Feminism= advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Independent= not subject to authority or control. Not depending on another person for ones opinion or livelihood. They are not that far apart for women. Unless of course you can figure out how to not depend on anyone, without advocating your own rights. Both words, and the ideas behind the words, are positives. In mho anyway. Any man who thought being either of those were 'bad'....wouldn't really be worth knowning anyhoo. Live you life Sanchele...there will be a man who will appreicate who you are and your independent nature.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

he still maintains an active profile after >a year Posted: 5/18/2006 7:08:55 PM
YOu people are generous tonight!! If he has an account on here, that he is checking frequently...he's looking. If that doesn't bother you (that he's either looking to replace you, or get a little action on the side), then stay with him. If it does bother you, get rid of him. His profile says 'long term', he's checking his mail. Do you see any forum posts at the bottom of his profile that would tell you he's just here for the forums? Does it say it in his profile? If those are both 'no'......then I would have to say, walks like a duck, sounds like a duck.......it's a duck. After a year of dating...he's knows if he thinks you're 'the one', or not. You better discuss that with him, and what you want out of the relationship. Best of luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 54 (view)

Do you do drugs? Posted: 5/17/2006 9:05:54 PM
nope, I didn't miss anything. Try reading the whole thread. He's the one who kept defending it's use. Either you tell or you don't tell...but it doesn't make it any less illegal or harmful. Same as smoking ciggies.....I could yak all day about how good they are for me, doesn't make it true...and doesn't make it any better to lie about smoking them if I do. I don't have a problem grasping 'complicated', but thanks for the input.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

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When is a good time to meet in person? Posted: 5/17/2006 8:45:13 PM
It REALLY is a matter of when you feel comfortable Loop...but in my humble opinion, the sooner the better. You can waste weeks emailing and talking just to find out you have zippo attraction to the person. Don't waste the time building them up to something they are not...and them you. If you like them, feel comfy meeting them in a public place...do it within a week, two tops! Good luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

Tough Love Posted: 5/17/2006 8:32:54 PM
ROFL! Very nice so far, all 12!

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

attraction Posted: 5/16/2006 8:35:43 PM
"noticed that many of the women in my state on POF are not that attractive compared to other people in other states.....oh well " Bashing all the girls in your area is always a great way to get them to reply to your emails and get a date! And, who made you the speaker of who is pretty, and who is not? That was just rude bud...you might as well consider moving to Canada now.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 2 (view)

Email I received this morning Posted: 5/16/2006 7:05:11 AM
Oh please.... I would have told him to take a flying leap too. Open minded??? About what exactly?!! " Let's see what you have to say"? UGH. "I think you're cute, but not the end all". Well gee, thanks for lowering your standards to talk to me. Where's the puke face icon? This guy needs some serious help in speaking to the opposite sex...or anyone for that matter. Maybe he's just been here too long as is getting a little jaded, hard to say. I think your reply was fine, and you are NOT too critical. Red flags all over the place in that message.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

what should i do? Posted: 5/16/2006 6:28:56 AM
Yes honey...I'm sorry, you'd be a fool to go. If running is his answer to when things get tough, what do you think is going to happen to you? He's needs some counseling and fix whatever is wrong with him right now. You don't try to kill yourself twice without some serious problems. I know you think you're 'helping him thru it' and making him better, but unless you are a professional...how do you know? You will spend the next couple years looking over your shoulder....you will leave everything you have and love....you will be helping a criminal and a coward...and you will be the one to get hurt. Don't do it hon. I know it seems tragic and romantic right now....but the reality will set in soon enough. He will not be happy leaving everything he had, you will not be enough (even though he tells you you are). His mind is not his own right now...depression, chemical imbalance, whatever. He doesn't know what he's saying or doing......he's grasping at straws. Do Not leave everything you love for this man......not right now anyway. There are a lot of good people above me giving you advice...some much older they you (myself included)...please, please, listen to it. So far, I haven't heard ONE person who thinks this is a good idea....why do you suppose that is? Good luck to you.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

Coupons and Dating Posted: 5/15/2006 2:03:16 PM
I would have to agree with some of that ^^^^. I would be thinking you picked the place because you had a coupon. And if this is your attempt at being charming (on first dates, everyone tries to be charming) what are things going to be like down the road??? I love coupons, don't get me wrong. But on the first few dates, I'd say no. If you're worried about spending money on someone you might not want to see again, suggest coffee for the first meeting, not a meal. Do something that in itself is cheap, not something that is going to cost more money then you feel you want to spend. It sends the message 'yes, I wanted to get together with you, but not enough to pay full price'. Call it right or wrong...you asked for opinions. Wait a few dates, then get excited you have a coupon and she'll think it's cute.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

Are profiles with people flexing/topless pretentious or acceptable? Posted: 5/14/2006 8:53:35 PM
OP, in all honestly, the human body is lovely. But there is a time and a place for it to be shown off. And the only thing better then the bod...is the brain. It's much more impressive, and always acceptable in any social setting. And, not all women "who have to say something negative to make themselves fell better" are "intimitated" by your muscles..sheesh. Just like all the women who think a picture of a mans crotch in a loin cloth is in bad taste, are intimitated by your penis.

namelessgrace

Joined: 7/3/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

The Gyno Posted: 5/14/2006 8:22:52 PM
ummmmmmmmmm....are we back in jr. high school? If the post is meant as a joke it should at least be funny on some level, in mho. This was just offensive and inane. Better luck next time.

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