Alternative solution: Go Dutch. That's right, hang out with your hottie friend or friends, have fun, split the check. If they run from you, then you know the lack of depth they have in their pool. If they stick, then you've got a firend that just happens to be hot!

Like a dummy, for years I have been blundering into situations where the women want to be "friends". Invariably, they play on my kind heart and convince me that being their friend is a HUGE and wonderful gift.
I've also noticed that the women who pull this crap are usually hotties. (They figure that they can get away with it since demand is high.)
"Friends first and always fun!" (Translation...let's have you spend lots of money entertaining me while I sleep with somebody else.)
This little friend game keeps guys at a distance, since these women are really only in love with themselves.
From now on, if I see the word "friend" anywhere in the profile, or if I hear the word early in dating, I will quickly take my leave and not look back.
I'm not a callous person. Ideally, YES, it would be great to actually fall in love with your best friend. That's the theory these women are taking advantage of. The idea is to get you thinking that you're in the game, even when you don't have any chance whatsoever.
It baffles me that anybody can think this way, but experience has shown me the ugly truth.

How do I tell him nicely??

I have met many successful, educated men who have the social skills of a field mouse. Why do you think that is? Are all their efforts focused on business and not pleasure?

he'd be chasing you

Please tell me if you can fist a lady who has not given birth.

months, or even years, after the breakup, do you still think you lost your one true love (so to speak), or did you realize in time that that person was not the right person for you regardless of how much you wanted him or her at the time?

please she could be wearing a nun's habit and some guys will want sex, and if he does not, then he will come out of the closet in a few years.

I dont feel like giving up... I already have given up... modern women are simply players, even the nice ones... okay, I haven't quite got round to locking the door and throwing away the key yet but pletty close to it. I know some women are going to claim they are not players but the fact is modern 'liberated' women have crossed the line between the genders, virtually making relationships pointless. The only way is to become a player too and play the women at their own game, which they seem to fall for very readily, but that's not my way, I live by my high moral code in a world without morals so I stand no chance. Every woman I have ever met has either lied to me, cheated on me, taken me for a ride or done all three. In the words of the band YES.. owner of a lonely heart, better than an owner of a broken heart... women aren't worth the heartache... sad but true...

You ever had just "Read" yet no response, that's just about like a Read/Deleted. Do these women think we're going to be a backup guy or something. F that!

One NEVER becomes successful without first being UNsuccessful.

Honestly kill her/seduce her and slip her something in food/drink that will cause a misscarriage, people that intentionally get pregnant (by not taking that pill) and then hides it for months as a ploy to exploit a child for money are the ****ing scum of the earth. The only people i can think of that are worse are child molesters.

Second you work with these guys so doing anything sexual with people from work isn't a good idea.