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TedJMill

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Is it Wrong to call a woman handsome? Posted: 11/22/2009 7:20:41 AM
I'd associate "handsome" for a woman with a couple of times they used it on Star Trek series. In both cases the implication was an attractive older woman.

TedJMill

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Prove Me Wrong, PLEASE Posted: 11/15/2009 6:53:44 PM
Those of you (male or female) who have a partner or have had one, would you have been able to remain with them if sex were not involved? Yes, absolutely. In fact, that's how I'd prefer it, and I doubt I could remain if sex WERE involved.

TedJMill

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How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 10/29/2009 12:31:51 PM
I'm kind of uncomfortable with dating humans, but they're all that's available.

TedJMill

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When You Aren't Attracted to Someone Who Seems Perfect For You Posted: 10/29/2009 6:27:42 AM
For me, the physical attraction aspect isn't important. So if I dated someone who was right for me in terms of interests and personality and we got along well and all, I'd continue seeing her and let an emotional attachment develop.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Are you better at finding or being found? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:09:21 AM
I'm better at being found. The four women I've had my longest involvements with all took a significant role in initiating things with me.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy Posted: 10/21/2009 8:24:34 PM
Interesting choice. I have heard of the a-sexual movement but it has little appeal to me. I believe, bibically and physically, that in marriage (if not non-married relationships), sex is vital and necessary, and cannot imagine such a relationship without it. Do you have a medical condition, if you don't mind me asking, or is there something else too it aside from simple lack of desire? I wouldn't call asexuality a movement, more like a sexual orientation. If a man is heterosexual, he looks at another man and doesn't feel drawn to have sex with him; me, I look at everybody and don't feel drawn to have sex with them. There's no medical condition or anything like that; it's just how I am. I have romantic feelings toward women, I like cuddling and other aspects of affection, I could see wanting to spend my life with someone. But for me, that doesn't translate into wanting to, or being willing to, have sex with her. They're just not connected for me.

TedJMill

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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy Posted: 10/21/2009 12:59:19 PM
I'm a male virgin, age 51. It's not a matter of religion or morals for me, though; I'm just rather asexual, not interested in sex with anyone. Romance, kissing, cuddling are nice, but I wouldn't want to go further than that, even if I was married to someone.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Sexy Stockings Sightings.....When was the last time YOU saw a woman in hot Nylons?? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:06:26 AM
I saw two women in fishnet stockings this morning, but they were the comic book superheroines Black Canary and Zatanna, so that may not count.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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STD's Posted: 10/21/2009 7:04:40 AM
I've never asked for or been asked for proof like that; you can't T a D if you never have S.

TedJMill

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How hard is it for men to not cheat? Posted: 10/21/2009 6:49:01 AM
It's natural for me to NOT cheat, but that's because I'm rather asexual, so it's natural for me to not have sex with someone I'm in a relationship with as well.

TedJMill

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eharmony ... Really? I'm a match with a troll? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:25:18 AM
I tried signing up for eHarmony, and they rejected me; I'm not suitable for their matching algorithm.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Is Every Man On Here A Felon? Posted: 10/17/2009 1:47:12 PM
No, I'm an iron ... I've committed irony.

TedJMill

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Guys, how did you get motivation to start dating in your 20's? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:27:25 AM
I didn't have my first date until I was 22. Most of my dates came through dating services; Single Booklovers was particularly effective. There was also one woman I met while on a tour group. Though I'm currently a 51-year-old virgin, so I can't speak for the effectiveness of that.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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How soon do you discuss sexual preferences???? Posted: 10/4/2009 6:48:11 AM
Maybe you should just put it on your profile if it means that much to you. I put it in my profile. Although in my case, my preference is for a non-sexual relationship.

TedJMill

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Bed Time Posted: 10/2/2009 6:12:43 AM
I usually get to bed between 10 and 11 PM, and get up at 6 AM for work.

TedJMill

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Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 9/29/2009 8:27:38 AM
My brother and sister-in-law have been happily married for a long time, and she has a Ph.D. while he only has an MBA; does that count?

TedJMill

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How Many Seek Love Over Sex? Posted: 9/21/2009 8:30:10 AM
I want love, affection, companionship without sex.

TedJMill

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how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 9/18/2009 6:16:27 AM
So many different characters on these forums, and asexuals I find fascinating. Do you consider yourself the quintessential asexual? No thought of sex for procreation even? Its just so fascinating because I cannot even fathom such an ideology. Not really the quintessential asexual; I do masturbate and fantasize on occasion, and some asexuals don't even do that. But the things I fantasize are just fantasy; I wouldn't want them to be real. As for procreation, I've had enough indirect experience of parenthood; my brother, my sister, and my last girlfriend all had kids. That's enough for me; I'd prefer to just be an uncle, and not father my own kids. I wouldn't call being asexual an ideology, more of an inclination or orientation. I don't object to sex; I just find that it doesn't appeal to me personally. I have dates, I lived with my last girlfriend for months, I like cuddling and so on, but I never wanted to make any involvement I had sexual. It's just not my nature.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 9/17/2009 6:29:31 PM
I think I would. I don't have that strong emotional reaction to the idea of being cheated on. If the rest of the relationship still works, the fact that she got sex elsewhere at some point wouldn't be that big a deal to me.

TedJMill

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Are LTRs doomed to degenerate into lukewarm coexistence, if not worse ? Posted: 9/16/2009 11:51:16 AM
A practical comfortable symbiosis, with stability, commitment, respect, trust, appreciation, friendship, compassion and other nice and fluffy stuff, sounds great to me. Can I start like that, and just skip all the messy passion, surprise, excitement stuff?

TedJMill

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Would you sign a prenuptial agreement? Posted: 9/16/2009 6:23:55 AM
Yes, definitely. With my last girlfriend, we never got married, although we were considering it, and when things went badly it cost me a lot. If we'd been married, she could have gotten half my retirement savings as well.

TedJMill

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BUSTED: are you a mamma's boy? Posted: 9/13/2009 6:55:19 AM
My Mom wouldn't set up an account for me; she doesn't know enough about computers. Although if she had the help of my 7-year-old nephew...

TedJMill

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 9/11/2009 7:44:47 AM
I'm currently seeing someone from another dating site who didn't have a photo up; it didn't really make a difference to me in deciding to meet her. She's quite overweight, so that may be why she didn't want to use a photo, but she's very nice, we have lots of interests in common, and appearance isn't a big deal to me. It's like a book cover; a good book cover can be an attention getter, but it's the actual book inside that's important.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 9/9/2009 6:23:40 AM
Everyone is out to get my Fanny Everybody wants to see my Fanny Everybody likes to hold my Fanny But she loves no one but me Everybody wants to seize my Fanny Everybody likes to squeeze my Fanny They do everything to please my Fanny Still she loves no one but me Oh, don't touch my Fanny Please don't ever try My little Fanny Is reserved for just one guy That's why I never let another love light blind me Everywhere I go you'll always find me With my little Fanny right behind me 'Cause she's so in love with me Everyone who ever spied my Fanny Tried to hang around beside my Fanny Maybe I should go and hide my Fanny Or she'll find somebody new I've seen lots of fannies in my time And frequently their cheeks were close to mine But never have I held one so divine Like the Fanny that belongs to me We will be married Some day next June And when we go away To spend our honeymoon I know that everyone is goin'a miss my Fanny No one ever could resist my Fanny But they wouldn't dare to kiss my Fanny 'Cause she's so in love with me by Benny Bell

TedJMill

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Has anyone here gone on 100 online dates? Posted: 9/6/2009 5:00:25 PM
I'm 51 years old, and I haven't gone on 100 dates, online or not, with different people in my lifetime. Two or three a year is typical, and I've ranged from none in a number of years, to one year that I had five dates as the maximum.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Contradiction in terms and actions Posted: 9/6/2009 4:56:55 PM
Not having sex before marriage wouldn't be a problem for me, although it might be an incentive NOT to get married; as long as we're not married, I wouldn't have to worry about or deal with sex. Her being religious is possibly a problem; I'm Jewish, not too religious, but I wouldn't want to deal with someone who'd try to convert me. And meeting in a bar might be a problem; nothing to do with any religious hypocrisy, just because I don't drink, and wouldn't want someone who's too much of a drinker.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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How long have you been single??? Whats the longest? Posted: 9/4/2009 5:40:20 AM
From the first time I had a date to my first long-term, live-in relationship was about 26 years.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Do you know what exactly what you want from life now? Posted: 9/2/2009 6:39:44 AM
After my last relationship, I've got a good idea what I want and don't want from life. Home ownership, parenthood, and sex are all out. What I want is my nice reasonably-priced one-bedroom apartment, enough time and money to take vacations, attend sci-fi and anime conventions, watch DVDs, read books, etc., and ideally someone to sometimes share those things with me, in an affectionate but non-sexual relationship.

TedJMill

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Whats up with all these Virgins Posted: 9/2/2009 6:02:24 AM
So for all you virgins out there, I say, good on you. It shows a whole lot of self control and I say bravo. When the time is right, it will be amazing for you. Though in my case, I'm a 51-year-old male virgin, and it didn't take self-control at all, just following my natural inclination. With my last girlfriend, we lived together for months, slept in the same bed, were talking about marriage, and I'd say I loved her. But while I liked cuddling together in bed, I never wanted to actually have sex with her; the whole thing just didn't appeal to me. And judging by my inclinations and past experience, I'd say that the time will never be right for me.

TedJMill

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Do guys like sweet & innocent or naughty girls? Posted: 9/2/2009 5:47:45 AM
Sweet and innocent in public, and MORE innocent in private.

TedJMill

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Sex while talking? Posted: 8/29/2009 6:06:37 PM
The movie "Network" has a sex scene like that, where Faye Dunaway's character talks about her job throughout having sex, with a brief pause to orgasm.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/27/2009 7:41:22 AM
Men. Need. Sex. They need sex like they need air. Men will climb tall buildings in a single bound to have sex. It's the way a man emotionally connects to a woman. Women are built differently. We need the emotional stuff.......the talking, the cuddling, the holding hands and the "elusive bonding" to connect. But, I'll say it again. Men. Need. Sex......... to emotionally connect. Not in my case. I'm a man, and I want the talking and cuddling and holding hands, but without ever having sex.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Is fear of HIV/AIDS causing ppl to prefer solitary sex? Posted: 8/27/2009 7:31:19 AM
I haven't changed my behavior because of HIV/AIDS; I wasn't having sex with anyone before AIDS, either.

TedJMill

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What would you guys do? Posted: 8/27/2009 7:18:31 AM
I'd ignore it. Physical appearance isn't a big factor for me, and I wouldn't want her to bug me about my weight, so I wouldn't bug her. I guess in an extreme case, like putting on 100 pounds, I could bring up health factors, but otherwise the scenario is no big deal for me; if she's still good in intelligence and interests and personality, looks are secondary.

TedJMill

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Introverted vs Extroverted women Posted: 8/26/2009 7:23:12 AM
Theres always the interesting question of what do you prefer for a relationship, an extroverted, outgoing, wild and outspoken girl? OR a more introverted, shy, introspective nice girl? Phrased like that, the introvert, definitely. I'm a quiet, introverted guy, and an outspoken extrovert would be too overwhelming for me. A shy, introspective, nice girl? That sounds really appealing.

TedJMill

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Dating in the Dark... would you do it? Posted: 8/26/2009 7:11:45 AM
I'd do it. Physical appearance is not very high on my list of priorities; interests and personality and potential dealbreakers like smoking are more important. Her appearance might be a nice bonus when revealed, or just okay, but wouldn't be a major factor unless she looks old enough to be my mother or something like that.

TedJMill

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Would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone who is into BDSM? Posted: 8/25/2009 6:12:35 PM
I guess, I can just as easily not do BDSM as not do regular sex.

TedJMill

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how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 8/21/2009 10:43:47 AM
Right, just like looking and smelling a delicious dinner and can't eat it. No, for me it's more like watching a sport but never playing it. I like cuddling, having someone hold me; that's relaxing and comforting. But I wouldn't like getting all sweaty and physical with her and having to deal with all that sex stuff.

TedJMill

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would you marry for money? Posted: 8/21/2009 10:27:53 AM
No. I make a good salary at my job, enough to buy the things I want: I have an apartment I like, get to travel each year, buy more books and DVDs than I have time to read/watch, etc. I wouldn't care about living in a mansion, or luxury travel, or eating in fancy restaurants every night, or things like that. The only thing I'd want that I can't afford is to be able to retire now. And marrying for money wouldn't really give me that, since then the marriage would be the job I do to get money. So marrying for money wouldn't get me anything I really want.

TedJMill

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Men who wear sunglasses in their profiles Posted: 8/21/2009 6:45:30 AM
My pictures were from a while ago, so I switched to a more up-to-date one. This was on vacation, and I have glasses which darken in sunlight, so they're kind of sunglass-y. I left the older pictures as well, if you want to see my eyes.

TedJMill

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How long before you'd consider going away with someone on vacation Posted: 8/20/2009 5:05:20 PM
With my last girlfriend it was about four months; we had separate beds in the same room.

TedJMill

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how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 8/20/2009 5:01:59 PM
I'm a 51-year-old virgin, and I'm very happy with my life right now. I got out of what was the longest relationship of my life, though still non-sexual, because I wasn't happy. Now I have an apartment by myself, things set up the way I like, can spend time and money on what I choose. I've started writing again to women on PoF and other sites, but I'm not really in a hurry to get together with anyone. And if I do, I'd prefer it never become sexual; some affection and romance is all I want.

TedJMill

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Would You Go To A Wedding Dateless? Posted: 8/19/2009 10:15:49 AM
I've never had a date for any wedding I've ever gone to.

TedJMill

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are guys scared off by confident women who make the first move? Posted: 8/18/2009 6:01:24 AM
I'm a shy, quiet type of person, so having the woman initiate things is useful, but I wouldn't want her to be too aggressive; that's too overwhelming for me. So what I'd find most attractive is a woman who asks me out, but in a gentle or hesitant way.

TedJMill

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 8/18/2009 5:29:16 AM
As I'm rather asexual, I can see a situation where my marriage is good except that she's unhappy with the lack of sex. In such a case, I'd consider the possibility of her getting sex elsewhere a couple of times a month, but otherwise remaining married to me.

TedJMill

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Men....what do you think if SHE pays ? Posted: 8/17/2009 11:08:03 AM
I'd find it a very good sign. My last girlfriend expected me to pay for EVERYTHING; when we went on vacation together, I not only paid for the whole trip, but she didn't even bring along any cash or credit cards to pay for incidentals.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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At what point in life did you get confidence about interracting with the opposite sex? Posted: 8/17/2009 6:00:02 AM
I'm 51 and it hasn't happened yet.

TedJMill

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is waiting till marriage for sex dead? Posted: 8/14/2009 5:32:21 AM
I'm 51, never married, and still a virgin (male). But I'm not so much waiting for sex as avoiding it; I don't actually want to have sex with anyone, and ideally I wouldn't have sex even if I was married.

TedJMill

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Does anyone wait until marriage before having sex? Posted: 8/14/2009 5:26:25 AM
I'm 51, never married, and still a virgin (male). Though in my case it's not through any religious conviction, it's just lack of interest in sex.

TedJMill

Joined: 7/6/2005

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Waiting for Marriage for SEX... Posted: 8/14/2009 5:18:49 AM
I'd have no objection to waiting until marriage for sex, and did date one woman who made a point of ruling out sex before marriage. But in my case it's not a matter of religious or moral convictions; it's just that I'm not actually interested in sex. I want affection and romance, but the sexual part I'd prefer to do without.

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