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sparklepants

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Is Van Halen truly over and done with? Posted: 4/22/2006 11:03:25 PM
I've been a true-blue VH fan since I was 14. First concert was in '82, the Fair Warning tour, and every one of them were in their prime. Dave hadn't yet evolved into a cheap clown...he was seriously rocking hard, still looked the part, and was a great performer. Edward was every bit the shining star Dave was; and actually looked as if he was having fun. All his signature licks were effortless, with a twinkle in his eye and grinning from ear to ear. Saw them again with Hagar. Sammy was a great performer, but part of me just wasn't completely comfortable with him in the forefront. Edward's playing wasn't as stellar as before, (of course he was amazing, just didn't have the je ne c'est quoi he had previously). Saw DLR on a solo tour. It was fun, had a good time, but I was disappointed with the direction he had taken. That being said, I've just accepted the fact that VH will never be what they once were and I really don't think they could be if they wanted to be. Edward has a few demons he's never been able to exorcize, as well as health problems, not to mention the breakup of his marriage. These factors, as well as some I'm sure of which we're not aware, have affected his playing and more importantly, his inspiration and his drive. I prefer to just see them call it a day. I still love listening to their old stuff...VH 1, VH2, Women and Children First, Fair Warning, Diver Down, some of 1984....and that's about it. I like to remember them as they were in their prime, when Dave was still a rocker, when Eddie was still smiling, and their music still moved me. Of course I don't know this to be fact, but I believe Edward's done, and there's not a frontman alive who can replace DLR, even DLR himself. It's over, but I still get a huge kick out of their old stuff. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Stevie Ray Vaughan Posted: 4/12/2006 7:40:54 PM
Man, the memories just came flooding back. I guess I was 18 years old and he played here in Tulsa, with the Greg Allman band opening. It was an outdoor show in the sweltering heat. I had talked two of my girlfriends into going - they didn't know who he was, but were always up for a good time. Our car broke down on the highway and we hitched a ride the rest of the way. My friends were more interested in partying and meeting cute guys; I left them and made my way front and center, just to watch Stevie play. He was so close; I just wanted to touch him so that maybe, just maybe some of his talent would rub off on me. I'm glad I didn't let two uninterested friends and a broken down car keep me from experiencing his presence and his soul. Thanks for the trip down memory lane! -sparkle

sparklepants

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The day the music died. Feb. 3, 1959 Posted: 2/3/2006 8:34:58 PM
Ya know, twobits, you have a good point. We didn't have a chance to really know how diversified Holly could be, and he would have had to be not only willing to roll with the changes, but have a diversified talent as well. We'll not know the answer and that's how it was supposed to be, apparently.

sparklepants

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my bf went to the strip bar Posted: 2/3/2006 8:29:54 PM
I don't think the strip bar is the issue....you're more bothered by the fact that he knows you don't like it, but he goes anyway. Compare it to...say...he knows you don't like going to bars, but that's the only place he takes you. It's not about the dancers, it's about how he handles what makes you uncomfortable. Hell, the dancers are the least of your worries, hon. -sparkle

sparklepants

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The day the music died. Feb. 3, 1959 Posted: 2/3/2006 8:18:21 PM
MMMM......I don't know...I think Holly for sure would have made his mark. Valens might have. Big Bopper, probably not. Hell, who knows? We'll never know, but Buddy Holly was a charismatic guy with lots of talent; which is always a good combination. Valens was talented, but so young and inexperienced. I don't know. I appreciate all three for their contributions. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Dating guys who are work-a-holics....can you trust them? Posted: 2/3/2006 8:10:50 PM
MMMMM.....if the guy's a workaholic (and only you can know for sure), then you can probably trust him. -this coming from a former workaholic who dealt with men who didn't trust her

sparklepants

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After a breakup Posted: 1/14/2006 3:14:59 PM
I've found that sometimes you miss what you thought you had not what it really, really was Ainsel...you're a genius for articulating that. I think a lot of folks (myself included), after a breakup are missing the "idea" of having the relationship instead of concentrating on what the relationship really was. Why do we lose our sense of what was reality when it's over? Why do we grieve over something that maybe was never there in the first place?

sparklepants

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After a breakup Posted: 1/14/2006 2:44:44 PM
Squeak, I agree....it sucks big time! I've always been a firm believer in taking a little "time out" from the dating/relationship scene when you've been really hurt. Let yourself grieve for the lost relationship, spend time with people who care about you, do things you like to do. It's never a bad idea to allow yourself some time to heal. Often times if you don't, you end up hurting the next person you get involved with, because you've not been able to really move on. Good luck!

sparklepants

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Fear of being alone Posted: 1/12/2006 6:29:03 PM
Well said, musicman! (great new pic, btw) Alone does not necessarily mean lonely. Really, I believe when we get to the point of being completely comfortable being alone, often times that's the healthiest time to begin a new relationship.

sparklepants

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Are Motivational Speakers just another form of entertainment? Posted: 1/12/2006 6:24:34 PM
OhTeeBee, just cut to the chase and become a motivational speaker. You know you want to.

sparklepants

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Are Motivational Speakers just another form of entertainment? Posted: 1/12/2006 6:14:55 PM
My take on those motivational speakers is that they have found a market....by some strike of luck, timing, and connections, they've become fabulously successful at insert success story here and like cows, we flock to hear how we can do it, too. Yeah, they are entertaining. Sometimes I'm even a little inspired immediately afterward. It always goes away, though, when I realize this is their job and they are putting on their dog and pony show for the almighty dollar. Ka-Ching!

sparklepants

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blindheart Posted: 1/12/2006 5:57:38 PM
I intentionally become very, very boring. Works like a charm!

sparklepants

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Why do women ask this question? Posted: 1/12/2006 5:52:33 PM
Good Lord! Now that's one thing I really don't want to know. Really.

sparklepants

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so my girlfriend is due next month(not my kid though) Posted: 1/9/2006 2:05:06 PM
Daboy, I don't think either one of you are in any emotional shape to make any decisions right now. I can tell you, she's uncomfortable physically, and that's a wild understatement. Her emotions are running all over the place and her thoughts are primarily on the baby and the delivery; neither of which will come soon enough for her. Just take it easy....stay calm. The situation will level itself out to a point where you guys aren't running on raw emotion and can think through decisions rationally. Best of luck.

sparklepants

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quick question Posted: 1/9/2006 1:24:50 PM
Stay where you are, and let him move, darlin'. Not a good idea to uproot yourself, let alone your child right away. Support his big career opportunity and if it's meant to be, it will be. If your relationships is as healthy as you say, you have plenty of time to make this decision. Good luck!

sparklepants

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Why Can't People See When Someone Is Not Into You? Posted: 1/7/2006 10:36:21 AM
They can't see it because they don't want to.

sparklepants

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A Touch of Grey Posted: 1/2/2006 12:01:10 PM
Personally, I don't mind grey hair at all. What really turns me off is when I can tell a man colors his hair to cover up the grey. They may as well hop into a polyester leisure suit.

sparklepants

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Decree from the Queen Posted: 1/1/2006 1:20:53 PM
<---curtsies to the Queen Good decision, Your Majesty.

sparklepants

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Do i really have to call guy after we've dated? Posted: 12/30/2005 5:36:49 PM
...and kitty got the SMACKDOWN! (Sorry girlfriend, that was too funny) He was honest, better than messin' with someone's mind...

sparklepants

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What do you say.... Posted: 12/30/2005 5:34:06 PM
Bucs....no matter WHAT you put in your profile, as long as you're posting on the forums, you're gonna get wacky emails from complete strangers. I get 'em too....they feel compelled to tell me how wrong, right, ugly, beautiful, stupid, intelligent, (oh and here's a good one) untrustworthy I am. Of course he went on to explain that "everyone" on POF knows you can't trust "forum people". Watch, now I'll get an email about this post...

sparklepants

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Ladies, have you ever faked it to make you guy feel good about himself? Posted: 12/30/2005 5:20:02 PM
Yeah, when I was 16 and playing grab-ass with my stoner boyfriend.

sparklepants

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Do i really have to call guy after we've dated? Posted: 12/30/2005 5:05:29 PM
Good call, kitty. OP - you're just taking the easy way out. It takes more guts and character to be honest than what you're doing. You seem kind of mean. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Trigger Words Posted: 12/30/2005 4:55:30 PM
Hey, I've seen some good ones here...have to agree "irregardless" is like nails on a chalkboard for me. And please, never preface a statement with "Don't take this the wrong way but..." OK, what this means to me is that the person wants to say something rude but doesn't want you to perceive it as being rude. And how can one receive a spoken message in any "wrong" way based upon two things; the words themselves and how they are delivered??

sparklepants

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Fake fun wrestling or boxing with your partner? Turn on or turn off??? Posted: 12/28/2005 7:18:34 PM
Yeah, I own a pair of boxing gloves. My specialty is Muay Thai kickboxing. Ummmm.....not a good idea to kickbox a lover. Even with the gloves on. Not going there again.

sparklepants

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how do you get revenge on someone you loved Posted: 12/28/2005 7:14:48 PM
Honey, listen....revenge does nothing for your spirit. It will not make you feel better. It will only keep the hurt and anger churning in your soul. Really, the best revenge (if you want to call it that) is to live well, look good, and trust that that Lady Karma will pay him a visit. It might not be soon, but it will happen. It always does. Take your hurt and anger and channel it into something that works for you. Whatever it is...work, reading, friends, keeping a journal, getting your nails and hair done, etc. Do something for yourself and keep your dignity at the same time. You'll be glad you did.

sparklepants

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What is your favorite smell and why? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:31:52 PM
Ahhh, nothing like the smell of napalm in the morning. Ok, kidding aside....best smells are the salty air blowing in from the sea, the smell of babies just out of a bath, coffee in the morning, and the natural scent of the person you love. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Has anyone's holiday turned tragic? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:23:39 PM
I'm sorry, dear....had the very same thing happen to me this year. I still miss her. Hugs to you, sparkle

sparklepants

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Would a persons job affect your decision to date/be involved with them ? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:19:44 PM
Nope, job doesn't matter to me. If they like what they do and it makes them happy, who cares?

sparklepants

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Woman should answer all e-mails Posted: 12/26/2005 8:18:16 PM
OP - Yes, we should. And we should go on every date we're asked upon, we should answer the phone every time in rings, no matter who it is, and we should sleep with everyone who wants to sleep with us. -sparkle

sparklepants

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How has the women's movement hurt men? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:06:57 PM
Oh, please. It hasn't hurt you guys a bit; just levelled the playing field somewhat. Cowboy up, you whiners.

sparklepants

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Dating a married man Posted: 12/26/2005 8:03:29 PM
OP - There's not a damn thing you can say or do to protect your friend. You know it's going to end in nothing but misery and heartbreak, but you'll never convince your friend. Just be there when she is hurt beyond belief (and she will be). She will feel like she's been hit by a train and she's in a million different pieces. Someone will have to help her put those pieces together again, and it's certainly not going to be him. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Pre-Nups before Marriage --- good or bad ? Posted: 12/26/2005 7:55:02 PM
Prenups are the WAY TO GO, people... Wouldn't get married without one, no way, no how. Don't care if I ever marry a billionaire or a pauper...prenups all the way. They aren't a bad thing; in fact they can be your very best friend if and when things go haywire. If things go great, then it's a non-issue, n'est ce-pas?

sparklepants

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The Last Waltz... Posted: 12/26/2005 6:56:51 PM
Oh man..... "The Last Waltz" is a classic! I've been a major Levon Helm fan since I was a mere pup. He can do no wrong in my eyes. Robbie Robertson's no slouch, either. I'm glad to see some appreciation for The Band...grew up listening to them, courtesy of my mother and (then) stepfather. "Virgil, quick come see, there goes Robert E. Lee" - I like to play this on my guitar and sing it, although I sound really bad. One of my all-time faves, hands down. Ever see Coal Miner's Daughter? Levon played Loretta Lynn's father in the flick. If you're a fan, you might want to check it out. Great thread, thanks. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Your past life (if you believe in re-incarnation) Posted: 12/24/2005 9:47:25 AM
OK, someone must be lyng to me. This thing said in my previous life I was born in the 1600's in Poland. A voodoo priestess told me I was a very new soul, had one life before, and it was fairly recent. I think I'll just make up my own. In my previous life I was a pirate. AYYEE MATEY!

sparklepants

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For People that KNOW how to trust and forgive. Posted: 12/23/2005 2:22:14 PM
OhTeeBee - The inability to forgive and open one's self again to the cheater is rooted in what just about everything negative, relationship wise, is rooted in, and that is fear. It takes a brave soul to deal with the pain, still feel and express love for the person, and hold on to a faith that gets you through the grief. There are so many shades of "cheating", it's difficult to judge how well the "cheated upon" reacts. Maybe it was a one-time only mistake and the cheater is genuinely sorry, remorseful, and is willing to work on the marriage/relationship. Maybe the cheater has no intention of stopping, but juggles two people for years, lying to them both. My personal situation was one which I could not forgive, even if I wanted to. We were engaged, I thought we were happy, he cheated (had been cheating for awhile, but I wasn't aware). The wedding was fast approaching when in a matter of 3 days, I learned not only had he been cheating, but that she was several months along, they were having a son and he cared about her, but he still loved me and would I still marry him and welcome their child and accept her as the mother of his son? This was a lot to digest in a short period of time. I managed to forgive him for the cheating, but the circumstances that resulted in his cheating were too much of a burden for me to bear. My worst nightmare had come true, so there wasn't much left to fear. So, long story short, I set him free, grieved for a very long time, and now I'm glad I made a graceful exit. My life got better, his got worse, and I'm sorry his life got so screwed up, but I would have been right there with him, had I trusted him and tried to work things out. It's all about the circumstances.... -sparkle

sparklepants

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The Wonderfully Oranized Chaos We All Follow.... But Why? Posted: 12/14/2005 8:25:02 PM
Fascinating subject, and one to which I’m not inclined toward cute answers; too easy. Let’s peel the onion a bit. How does one ever find anything? There is the traditional approach. First, formulate a good description of what it is you’re looking for then decide where are the likely places/environments you would expect to encounter things of that description go there, observe, compare subjects to the specs, identify, and acquire. That approach works pretty well if your need is to drive a nail into a piece of wood and it hurts your hand if you hit it with your palm. So you conjure up an image of something in your head that will satisfy the need and come up with something that has the basic qualities of a hammer. You determine that hammer like things are usually hanging around in places like tool boxes and they are usually in garages. So off you go to the garage, observe all the things in the garage until you identify one that meets the specs of a tool box, open it up disregard all the screw drivers and pliers, see the hammer and pick it up. Viola!! Of course this isn’t always so simple with the more complicated things in life like love, happiness, success, tenderness, security, or peace. First of all they are much more difficult to describe in sufficient detail to make highly accurate choices among the observable options. The environments in which they are found are almost infinite. The fact that they usually involve other people or relationships complicates things because the same word may mean different things to different people. I think this is why cruising the single bars or gyms are at once reasonable choices, you are a searcher and it’s highly likely that other searchers are going to be there, but more often than not, a disappointing experience because even if you find someone who looks like they meet your specifications and claims to be searching for the same thing as you, on closer scrutiny they don’t or aren’t and even if they do meet yours, you may not meet theirs. Quite a crap shoot, don’t you agree? So what is a searcher do? Here’s my two cents. Stop searching. Stop longing. Stop imagining that you are in any way incomplete, in need, or wanting of anything. Be a person of equanimity. Be content and at peace in your space and skin while the world spins around you. Then, and here is the trick, open yourself to the all the possibilities as you encounter them regardless of how improbable or unimaginably unattainable they would normally appear to you and they will come to you. Take a deep breath, relax, be patient and open to everything and you won’t need to find someone....someone is going to find you. OK time to put down the wine glass! -sparkle

sparklepants

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stupid things that scare you Posted: 12/14/2005 8:14:42 PM
Summerteeth, are brown recluses an Oklahoma thing? I always have problems with them! Got bitten a couple of years ago....got out of the shower, put on a robe and the little sucker was in my robe just waiting to bite my back. I didn't even know I was bitten until a couple of hours later, then a rash....nice little scar I have now. Even so, spiders don't scare me. I'm not afraid of anything except.... any situation or thing that I can't easily and quickly get out of! Anything. Tangible or intangible.

sparklepants

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Music - IV Posted: 12/14/2005 8:00:48 PM
Back To The Island - Leon Russell

sparklepants

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Music - IV Posted: 12/14/2005 7:48:40 PM
Mona Lisa and Mad Hatters - Elton John

sparklepants

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 12/14/2005 7:30:22 PM
SIIIIGGGHHHHHH Well, OK. As long as there's no tattoo talk.

sparklepants

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 12/14/2005 6:59:37 PM
Geeezzzz...how many times must we beat this dead horse? <---tramp stamp right here Like it? OK! Hate it? OK! Attn: this post is in no way a solicitation of e-mail.

sparklepants

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Is it me, or is this a tall order guys? Posted: 12/14/2005 6:04:22 PM
Hmmm insight into ourselves? Well, you're really best off with a woman who will just flat-out tell you what she's really thinking or feeling, what she likes, what she doesn't like, etc. Makes it easier for you guys. There's no guesswork involved and everyone's happier. I have no idea why more women aren't willing to do that. On the flip side, it's been my experience that it takes one VERY secure man to deal with women who are straight-up, who don't pout, who will very clearly verbalize what the issue du jour is. What do men prefer? You tell me. -sparkle

sparklepants

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Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/14/2005 5:50:04 PM
well, maybe more women should give them something to come home to What, a phat house and tons of scratch isn't enough?

sparklepants

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do chicks get more desperate for a boyfriend around the Holidays? Posted: 12/14/2005 5:22:45 PM
Well, OhTeeBee...you know me... My answer is a resounding "hell no!" Geez, there's enough to deal with over the holidays without a boyfriend, let alone WITH one. *Making note to self: Hire professional shopper very soon* -sparkle

sparklepants

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X's that just won't give up. Posted: 12/14/2005 5:14:29 PM
nice - I just read through this thread (OK I read a lot of it, not all) and had to respond. It will take time for her to give up. That's it, there's not a lot you can do to make her give up. Unfortunately for you, depending upon how stubborn or how much she believes what is really her own wishful thinking, it might be a LONG time. Brace yourself for this one.....it took my ex 10 years to give up. Well, I can't say he's completely given up, but he's almost there. I know how it feels; I detached myself completely from him, but still had to communicate because we have a child. I had other relationships, some serious, some not....didn't matter. He never gave up. I won't bore you with the details; they really don't matter. The thing you need to be aware of is that you cannot control that for which she is hoping and wishing. Just live your life, enjoy your relationships with others, and be patient. Time will take care of the situation...it may be 6 months, or (shudder) 10 years. It's not your issue; it's hers. Don't let her issue become your problem. -sparkle

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I need a good Apology Posted: 12/3/2005 12:06:38 PM
You may have to just accept that you'll never know why she cut you out of her life. Sounds as if you've put in enough effort to find out why she's angry and she has no intention of discussing it with you. Maybe you'll find out eventually, maybe not. You need to get to a point where you're OK with either outcome, hon. I wouldn't waste any more energy or emotion on this right now....you'll drive yourself nuts.

sparklepants

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How to tell a guy where to go and how to get there? Posted: 12/3/2005 11:57:27 AM
Just cowboy up ONE TIME...say exactly what you want/like. You'll find out it doesn't hurt, he won't be offended, you'll probably get what you want, and it will just become an easier thing to do. Might have to take a shot of liquid courage the first time, though.

sparklepants

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Best Hangover Remedy.. Posted: 12/1/2005 12:51:25 PM
The best cure for a hangover is to get up and around! Yeah, I don't believe it either, but it's what my raging alcoholic step-dad told me when I was 15 and experiencing my first....

sparklepants

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Personnel time Posted: 12/1/2005 11:13:55 AM
I spend my personal time doing all sorts of things....reading, watching some documentary that would only interest me, call some friends, drink a great bottle of wine by myself, play my guitar, find a poker tournament...whatever I feel like doing at the time. Nothing "bad", just things that I like to do and have always liked to do by myself.

sparklepants

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Personnel time Posted: 12/1/2005 11:01:12 AM
Good Lord, I could never quantify how much personal time I need! I just know when I need it....and everyone around me knows it too and gives it to me without any hassle. I'm so thankful for that; imagine the nasty situations totally avoided because of the keen perception of others.

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