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DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

Are all the guys waiting for the woman to contact them? Posted: 9/18/2007 10:30:08 AM
Just the good looking ones. The pervs are more than happy to make first contact. Usually with themselves, and then you but whatever. Men and women are like stones on the beach. Some are worth picking up, and others not so much acording to each person's own personal preference. If you see a guy you like, mail him. If you don't you may miss a wonderfull opportunity. Remember, just because he shows up in your matches doesn't mean you always show up in his. Cheers!

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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If you were blind what would attract you most about a woman? Posted: 7/16/2007 11:16:49 AM
Darn double post.. Sorry. No offence...LoL

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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If you were blind what would attract you most about a woman? Posted: 7/16/2007 11:16:30 AM
In Shorty's case, probably something that would make her pass coffee through her nose. In my case, probably something less esoteric and more grounded. But whatever it is, it would be exactly NOT that crack about please read before responding. Mostly because it shows that, however well meant, the OP assumes they are right, and everyone else is an idiot, wherease it is equally likely that perhaps the title of the thread, which is obviously what posters are responding to, and in fact was what lead them here in the first place, might need changing. That or to admit that it was intentionally, if only slightly, misleading. No offence.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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I think I look pretty good, why no male attention? Posted: 7/8/2007 6:07:29 AM
Hmm.. Hard nosed chick quick to point out how men are in need of instruction for the simplest things. Is judgemental, young, and obviously both single, and has been reckless or unlucky enough to have more than one kid at 22? Do you think guys are actively LOOKING for a way to spend child support??? LMAO. There is more to catching a guy than looks.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Is chivalry dead Posted: 6/13/2007 9:03:41 AM
I honestly don't know If chivalry is dead or not. But he days men being expected to do those things, such as open doors and pay for the meal and things along those lines are very close to being dead. This is because Women of this day in age or more independent. Not more independent. More callous. Women have always been more independant and self reliant that they are given credit for by thier fellow women. You don't think all those ships and munitions made themselves back in the late thirties and early forties do you? And that's just the tip of the iceberg. Turn the statement around. Do women honestly think that if you were expected to open doors for men and pull out thier chairs, would that make them dependant on you? Are you nutz? Every activist on the planet would be bellowing about men expecting women to behave in such a servile fashion....!!! Any way you slice it ladies, chivalry has nothing to do with your "indpendance" as a sex, and far more to do with noblesse oblige.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Is chivalry dead Posted: 6/12/2007 1:09:45 PM
Chivalry? Dead? The devil you say! It is however, under seige. Think of it more as an endangered species. A population that used to number in the tens of millions decimated by a half century of over trapping by greedy selfish females driven by a ever increasing frenzy to have the best heedless of the damage they have done to the social environment of the fabric they live in. A devestation on par with Japanese fishing factories in one's own back yard. Will this noble and once plentiful species avoid utter anhillation in the face of such rampant female destruction of it's natural habitat? Only time will tell if future generations of women can remove the collective thumbs from thier ears and hear the incessant din that is the clamouring for attention that passes these days as a mating call. To realize with shock the sheer volume of noise pollution that they contribute towards the end of chivalric man and take steps to reduce the levels of pollution of the body social and graft cuttings of what remain of the once great forests of the social tapestry onto the puny stunted shrubs that carpet the banal landscape of the modern post feminist era. Truly with care and your help, starting right now the cries of "Ego sum an indomitus vir." and "Nex pro ignominia!" and other colourfull sounds of chivalry may one day be heard again across our great nation. Stay tuned after the break while your local Chivalry Ressurection Team Members get you the number of your local groups so you to can pitch in and help with this glorious revival of a sacred trust from generations before, to generations to come. Thank you.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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can men read? Posted: 6/1/2007 6:25:57 PM
HotMama As for what my question is "really about" its just that. a question. theres no hidden meaning or "between the lines" theres no variants, stop reading into hidden meanings that really are not there. Cool. The answer is "Yes!" Can we end this thread now? Simple question. Simple answer. Next?

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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can men read? Posted: 6/1/2007 3:31:08 PM
its a question. simple as that. Bull. You posted a question "Can men read" in the ask a GUY forum where presumably men go, in a format by way of keyboard that is clearly a written media. That makes you either incredibly stupid, or troll. Your call. Assuming that you are in fact not vapid to some alarming degree it follows that your question is really about "Can't men read between the lines?" or more directly, "I put what I want in writing and didn't get it. Men please justify not following my clearly written instructions." Or possibly some other variant. The fact that you have been intentionally vague from the start and repeatedly failed to clarify forces the men that read the thread to choose between Door #1:Troll Door #2: Demanding and Stubborn or behind Door #3: A girl that should have been born blonde. As a man I have to ask, "Where as a woman or a person do you garner to yourself the righteous belief that if a person doesn't do what you ask there is something wrong with them they need to justify?" Sorry guys. Blew my cover. I had Shorty read the OP to me and then explain it, just so I was sure what she was asking. Mostly because I can't read, and have a Neanderthal tendency to play grab a55 with anything missing a "Y" chromasone, and a penchant to randomly ask for sex!

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

WHY IF YOU GIVE GUY PITCURES,HE THEN BLOWS YOU OFF? Posted: 6/1/2007 3:02:58 PM
Dented Knight said I sounded bitter - I have been getting that alot lately- LOL!!! - No just realistic around here lately-I got my eyes opened OK. I'll bite. Dear Curly, what is "realastic" about this statement of yours in your previous post? Really this is a sick twisted little fat bald man sitting behind a computer rubbing off to you - thats about it- The only item you missed is you forgot to rant that he had a small penis to make the bitter bit complete. Or am I wrong and you have met the OP's beau? That you have personal knowledge of the specific individual involved? Thought not. That's the bitter bit. The whole married vs. seperated thing is just something between nervous paranoia and the mistaken belief that you will be competing less for a single man than a seperated one. That's common and irritating, but hardly bitter girl. OP: Your profile is pretty clear about wanting to chat and e-mail. Perhaps he wanted to move forward and you, errr, dropped the ball, ahem, a couple of times? Women I know personally have done that more than once. Usually the result is that if the man wants a relationship to progress and the girl misses the cues a couple of times he assumes she didn't misss them, but in fact chose to ignore them. Since he can't tell the difference from his side, he just moves on. Which he obviously did here. No need for anything more arcane than that. Certainly not the instant bugaboo of "his wife found out." Man. The excuses that some people would rather believe than employ Occam's Razor is astounding. But hey, that's life I guess. And before anyone points it out, I think a relationship outside one you have, either as a the person stepping out, or the "other man/woman" is just plain emotionally self destructive and wrong. Just so there is no confusion...lol

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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the sugar daddy sites Posted: 6/1/2007 10:02:42 AM
The only difference that I see is that with a gold digger you find out later that she is really for hire... EEeennnnnhhhhh.....Buzzer sound. The gold digger is NEVER for hire. There is no honesty, there is no quid quo pro. A gold digger wants a man's respect while she rapes his self esteem, good name and lets not forget the bank account while we are at it. The sugar baby wants your cash, and flash sure. But is honest about it, and expects to reach a quid quo pro up front. The gold digger and the sugar baby are polar opposites of each other. One you pamper and pay to get screwed by a gorgeous, attentive partner. The other one screws you to pamper and pay herself. One you can work out a pre-nup with. Not so much the gold digger...lol. Or at least by the time you know you needed one it's way to late.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Dating a vegan/vegetarian Posted: 5/31/2007 9:24:20 PM
If you are a meat-eater, would you be okay dating a vegetarian or vegan? Been there done that. It's no biggie. Would you make special allowances for this on dates - go to vegan restaurants, eat vegan foods, etc? OK. Will you make special allowances? Go to meat only restaurants? Eat meat? If the woman could not eat at the same table with someone who is eating meat - would you swap your burger for tofu to share a meal with her? - And so we come to it. It's all about incremental questions to ask if it's OK to demand that your partner change thier values, lifestyle choices, and acquiesce to you. Nope honey, it's not Ok to be a manipulative female canine. Seems like you need to figure out how to integrate your lifestyle choices with others, not asking for permission to expect people to meet yours.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Ratings? Posted: 5/31/2007 8:59:47 PM
Wow! 1) If they ask, don't lie. 2) If they suck, they know it. They are just fishing to see how much you have emotionally invested in them. Almost invariably to your loss. Don't do it. 3) No. I wouldn't. If a guy knows what he is doing, he doesn't need to ask, she will be more than happy to tell him. 4) See number one. Be brutal. Either he is insecure and you need to know if he can rise to the challenge, or just be done. Harsh but stops you from wasting your life fixing up some guy that isn't in it for you or the long haul. 5) Can't give you the secret decoder ring that tells you which partners will suck in bed and which ones won't. Sorry, proprietary technology and all that you know.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Illiteracy decreases your chance of response!! Posted: 5/31/2007 8:52:48 PM
Gray should be spelled with an "a", by the way. It's too bad that it's one of my favorite teas, because I don't like the "e" spelling. In this case, it's named after an actual Earl whose name was Grey, so I guess it's OK. Guess that just goes to show that if it isn't American it must be just wrong. Grey, as in the colour is spelled with an "e". But not to worry, I'm pretty sure that you regularly skip the "u" in most words too. (As in "colour"...lol) Why is it that people cannot just READ what they write before they hit send? I have enormous experience with the language, but I still read everything I write before I send it. Everytime. Can't you have the decency to do the same? A-la Star Trek's Bones. Good God man! Do you count your sperm allotment before you ejaculate? Do you think these people can't READ? Of course they can! They read what they intended to write, it is the way the mind works. Just because you can be a little BiPolar before you hit send doesn't give you the right to expect everyone else to go a little nuts! ~Ahem~ Seriously though. Everyone just get a grip. When you are anal about language you are pretty much garaunteed to hook up with someone that likes language. That doesn't make you better, it just shrinks your dating pool. Stop whining about it and trying to disrespect those that don't have your skills and get that those very people can be smarter, more succesful, more fun, or better looking than you. There is no link between written language skills and those traits I listed. Deal with it. Language use is a selection preference based on a hang-up, not on any other factor.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Blocked for the first time, why? Posted: 5/31/2007 8:38:31 PM
^^^ What he said....

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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How does one date? Posted: 5/31/2007 8:37:19 PM
Go with JohnnyMac and Frau's answers. They have thier heads screwed on straight with this one. Oh. Try not to have sex to soon. If you think he might want it don't. If you think it will help, don't. If you think...err...if you are thinking....just don't. It will be right when you don't have to think about it, until then, be safe, happy, and just relax.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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What does this mean in menspeak? Posted: 5/31/2007 8:32:09 PM
What is he saying? "Thanks for the sex babe, but I'm done. " Whether he has found someone new, or is in the process, something tripped a huge red flag for him and the fact that it took you two weeks to do anything about it means you are over. Really. Sorry. As the first returning poster put it.....Move along....

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Illiteracy decreases your chance of response!! Posted: 5/31/2007 8:28:28 PM
Smith: You know, I've met two people on POF who claimed to be in Mensa, and I've invited them both to post on the Mensa forums. Neither ever responded to me. Well Damn boy! Don't I feel like the designated non-caucasion on the board! Not to worry, once the gifted testing paperwork comes through from the school board for the offspring (tested out as gifted at approx. 142 last month) I'll be happy to bug your arse there two. (sic) lol. On topic, As I pointed out before, isn't the underlying premise of the question crass? Perhaps it's just me....lol

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Illiteracy decreases your chance of response!! Posted: 5/31/2007 1:42:16 PM
Do you really hope to attract the intelligent lady you claim to seek if you can't spell at a grade 3 level? It matters. Perhaps they are personally less focused on finding a partner that is intelligent as on one say that is good looking? Or caring? Or compassionate? That having been said, your question is utterly irrelevant for the following reason: The spelling and grammer which bothers you interrupts the chemistry that you would have with that person. Hence you are not attracted to them, and thus you are not a prospective mate for them. Further, since they are obviously excluded from your dating pool by such action, why should they care? For you to point out that you would be more attracted to someone if they invested in a greater command of the English language is as crass as any man starting a thread that pointed out that a woman that can't put down the fork is less attractive than one that can. While I to have personal limits outside of which I find a persons writing style to be difficult, hilarious, or pathetic by turns I would never think to pretend that I was doing them a favour by implying if they bettered themselves they might be worthy of dating someone like me.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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WHY IF YOU GIVE GUY PITCURES,HE THEN BLOWS YOU OFF? Posted: 5/31/2007 1:24:48 PM
Wow! Curlygrl's just a tad on the bitter side today now isn't she??? The whole divorced/seperated issue has been done to death and has nada, zip, zilch to do whith the OP's predicament. I normally respect Adam's opinion, but today? Not so much. Between the two of them any spouse exiting an abusive marriage for instance should be shunned for the two years or so it takes to drag thier ex's sorry a55 through the legal system? That's just gonna be marvie for thier courage and self esteem. Could even make them bitter and angry once they are "permitted" back in the dating pool by such fair minded people. Sounds like a self perpetuating cycle to me and all I can say is "Wow!" OP: In all probability one of the following explains his behaviour. 1) He got back together with his ex. Happens, whether with married people or ex girl and boyfriends. Happens a lot unfortunately. 2) He found someone else that sent him better pictures and he is more attracted to them. No aspersions on what you may look like my dear, just the rock bottom realization that different people are attracted by different things. 3) He couldn't take the yelling any more? 4) He was lying. He was in a relationship all along, perhaps not even married but dating and made the whole thing up to see if he could get some sympathy, some pics, and maybe a piece of tail. Some people are just scum that way. Male and Female alike. Sorry for your luck. Hope it works out better in the future. Just remember, you can't win if you don't play.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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When you are first with a new woman Posted: 5/31/2007 1:00:34 PM
Go slow? Why? So she can take longer to figure out you can't hack it??? LoL. Let's say she's pretty open to just about anything and can tell you what she wants. Both what she wants to do to you, and what she wants you to do to her. Don't you think she deserves the respect to know if you have the balls to ride that kind of a bronco out of the gate? If you're a casual equestrian, to stick with the analogy, then stick to the nags. If you want to be a rodeo rider, fine. But even the ballsiest rider doesn't go from shanks' mare to the real deal in a single ride. That's just silly. Besides, unless you have yet to sexually mature and know it most people don't drift far from thier comfort zones. They might as a fling, but there is a natural human tendency to go back to the rut you knew unless there is a compelling reason not to.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Orgasms....So what's with the Counting anyway? Posted: 5/31/2007 7:16:56 AM
I had no idea this had floated back up, but I need to clarify something... And, it's not about quantity, it's about quality......sorta like that "size mattering" bullshit.... lol...... 1) Size matters. Check the number of threads where ladies either whine about needing a magnifying glass and tweezers, or while attacking a man they have never met in the threads call him some combination of short, fat, balding, and insignificantly endowed. Yes there can be too much of a good thing, but few and far between are women who have encountered such a man although many a young boy confuses his four inches with the metric system and thinks it's ten... 2) It's about quality? What is this, a Charmin commercial? The vast preponderance of women would really like to get the big "O" at all from a guy (as opposed to having little or no problem in the do-it-yourselfer department), let alone with the kind of consistency and frequency that would lead a girl to need to sort them out by quality. Sort of like a girl that's never been near a farm pretending to sort chicken eggs in to small, medium, large and extra-large because she knows someone, somewhere does. But I will concede there is a difference between the regular ones, the ones that make her shake like a leaf, and the eye popping ones that cause a girl to freeze and go "Stop! I'm stuck!" when she comes so hard she cramps. But does that kind of quality really matter? Really, I gotta ask, just how good an orgasm is "good enough" to be a "quality" one. (Yes I have a problem with ephemeral use of language when used to sidestep meaningfull discourse) 3) I started this thread quite some time ago (duh), and have learned a few things in the interim. Not that I would change my mind at all, but after a year of being together Shorty still likes to count to seven. God knows why, and no it's not self promotional, I'm perfectly happy thank you very much, it's just a fact. If that makes the bar higher for others, oh well. So not my problem. Just want to say thank you to all of you that gave your input. It has been very helpfull to read as time passed and I could reflect on your thoughts over a period of time. I wish all of you the very best and thanks again. DK

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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How to treat a woman Posted: 5/30/2007 11:59:17 AM
Women treatments? Pedicure? Manicure? Hairspray preservative? Perhaps some spackling? Seriously though, I could tell ya, but then you might go and spoil them all and then where would the next poor shmuck be?? LoL.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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How to treat a man Posted: 5/30/2007 11:35:34 AM
Gotta love GreekGrl's reply. She picks a guy that is perhaps a bit intimidated by her and lies about her needs to "support" and "boost" his ego. Yikes! Guess we know how that turned out... But I suspect it's not uncommon. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the least intimidated by sucessful women. See Shorty for details....lol. But it sidesteps the question of "How to treat a man" with "Here's how I treat my man." OP: To answer the question... Treat him like your hero and he will never fail to protect you and your interests. Treat him with tenderness in private and he will open his heart to you. Treat him with deference when appropriate and he will honour you. Treat him with honesty and he will trust you. Treat him with Beer, Blowjobs and a good Boinking and he will never think of roaming. Treat him with lies and he will mistrust you. Treat him with expectations and he will defy you. Treat him as an inferior and he will quit you. That's the general idea anyway...

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Drink of choice. Posted: 5/30/2007 11:13:59 AM
Drink of choice? Why water of course. With various quantities of an alcohol pollutant. Beer generally. The hotter the weather, the colder the beer! Corona is the staple, with side trips to Stella and Heineken to avoid palate bordom. Occasional drinks include Margaritas, Ceasers and dirty Martinis with Bombay Sapphire. Simple man. Simple pleasures.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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When she won't do oral sex Posted: 5/25/2007 12:44:42 PM
Just reread the OP why is it so damn important that a female give a male head!?! I don't demand men to go down on me! You think it's about quid quo pro? Really? Not even close! We are equal but different. You don't like giving head? Fine. Truly that is your choice and you have a right to be comfortable with it. The downside of that right of personal choice is that you don't have a right to ask anyone else to alter the perceptions they have chosen for themselves, nor to justify them to you. Basically it looks like you have made your dating pool smaller by choosing a sexual style that you desire, and then asking men to justify how thier choice is important to them shrinks your dating pool. Sorry kiddo, but that is nothing if not the height of arrogance.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

What do men prefer? Posted: 5/25/2007 12:08:17 PM
OP: The one with bigger boobs. While some men like women with small breasts, I believe they are generally referred to as "petite", the overall tendency is for guys to pick the girl with the better boobs and butt. A nice waist helps, as does a pretty face. But they are more of personal preference things for guys, like a nice voice or B.O.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Why am i unlucky in love lately? Posted: 5/24/2007 7:54:23 AM
You are 19. Please tell me that you don't actually have all that much experience in love? Please? Anyway. Sorry girl, next time try dating a few times, it's a completely different scene from the intimate encounters group. Trust me, you can seperate the two groups.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Expectations? Posted: 5/24/2007 7:24:13 AM
Everyone has expectations, it's what motivates us to do things. If I'm talking to you, in the exploring dating opportunities sense, it's because I want you as a lover. If I wanted to have you as a friend, I would be talking to you about friendship, not relationships. Most guys have enough friends. So just be aware that it is part of the mix at some point. Timing? Wait to long to meet (say more than two weeks for locals) and I assume you aren't that interested. Otherwise why would you invest in an emotional relationship before you find out if there is any chemistry? But lets assume you have had a date or two and want to explore things. Then sex is whenver it feels right. Just better feel right soon! Seriously though, it should flow. To quick might be fun, or it might be needy, or could be just the way it is. To slow (say a couple of months) may indicate a girl with hangups or other issues, or simply that she subconciously attaches her worth to sex, and uses it as a bargaining chip.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Okay I need help with flirting...I am super shy. Posted: 5/24/2007 7:11:25 AM
OP: Start with Noble_Heart's list. It's an excellent place to start. Especially since it doesn't require much talking. Once he does, then treat him like a friend until you decide if the hot exterior has a similar interior, or whether the guy is just Neiman-Marcus on the outside, but Wal-Mart on the inside.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Did he really just say that out loud? Posted: 5/24/2007 7:02:11 AM
That's hysterical! Verbal Evil Knievel. I gotta remember that! I'm thinking that the only thing that matters is in the split second after he said it did she think "OMFG!" or did she think "Think so do ya?" The first is good, the second not so much. Me, I don't have that kind of balls, but I'll give him props for honesty. Yeah. I know, I like a blunt verbal instrument as much as the next person...lol

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at? Posted: 5/24/2007 6:55:12 AM
Maykitten, I suspect he knows that. In North America the average dress size is 14! What programme were you suggesting? I thought the name of the game here was to find a mate you love and respect, not go bang some big chicks 'cause they are common as dirt, but whatever. Things that are Major turn offs? - Use of poor catch phrases such as "Looking for an honest man" et al. - Inability to be physically supportive. Not sex. But the stuff from touching to PDA's - Foul language - Her organizational skills are so high she becomes routinely inflexible. - And the most common one, saying one thing and doing another but expecting her partner to always talk the talk and walk the walk.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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American Idol!! Any one watching it tonight? Posted: 5/17/2007 9:11:59 AM
My, my. Colour me surprised! Happy, but surprised non the less. I have no idea who will win between Blake and Jordin, but I suspect either one will have reasonable careers. Guess I gotta watch an see....

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Fave Walt disney moive Posted: 5/17/2007 9:09:21 AM
The original animate Robin Hood. Followed by The Three Musketeers and Hercules. (loved James Woods as Hades)

DentedKnight

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Your List Of Things To Do At Least Once..... Posted: 5/17/2007 8:48:24 AM
To do: 1) See the Gobi Desert 2) Go whale watching 3) See the Earth from space 4) Become a grandparent 5) Believe three impossible things before breakfast each day. 6) Make purple gold from scratch 7) Create a beautifull piece of jewelry 8) Record one of my Quartet arrangments 9) Poke Shorty 10) Remember each and every day I can choose to be happy or not. 11) Never stop learning new things. Done? 1) Climb the mountain to the ruins of old Sparta in Greece. Check. 2) Walk among the Menhirs at Stonehenge. Check. 3) Save a life. Check 4) Serve my country. Check. 5) Be a good father. Check. 6) Learn piano, guitar, french horn, flute, violin. Check, check, check, check and working on it...lol 7) Keep a lifelong friend. So far, so good. 8) Never Ever Finish This List...

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Do you think blondes are as innocent as they look? Posted: 5/16/2007 12:03:31 PM
The only person, blonde or any other colour, dye job or no that is as innocent as they look is, er, well I was going to say a newborn baby. But then again I think Emanuel Kant was wrong with the whole tabla rasa thing so anyway. Short answer? No. Can you tell by looking? No. Only interaction with a person will give you any real sense of whether they have value as a human being, or are just a waste of skin. What's that old adage? Time will tell.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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oral sex Posted: 5/16/2007 11:58:07 AM
Just think of it as the only socially acceptable way left for a man to give a woman a tongue lashing. Does that help?

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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American Idol!! Any one watching it tonight? Posted: 5/16/2007 9:26:24 AM
OK. I'll guess...lol Blake goes home because women will vote for men and women often but men are more likely to vote for women. Just a guess. Barring really sucky performances or the odd act of divine intervention like Sanjaya lasting as long as he did. So Blake goes home tonight. Then Melinda wins makes one record and dissapears into obscurity and Jordan may eventually make it big after she is taken advantage of on several record deals by her manager father who will run off with half her money a-la Leanne Rimes or some such nonsense... Still, it's all a guess. Edit below: @crazy...are you reading impaired? Which part of guess looks like an absolute anything? Oh. Right. Just cross posting your pouts across threads. Man you need to get laid bad...Lol

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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Lover or sister Posted: 5/16/2007 9:19:48 AM
OP: Has it occurred to you that he is jerking your chain? What I mean by that is it sounds more like the poor bugger really likes you, and wants to keep you from forming a long term relationship with a guy before he does. Sad. Do yourself a favour, get a full time boyfriend and stop the cuddling stuff. Then you get to win, and he can get on with his emotional life. Simple.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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from a man's perspective please Posted: 5/16/2007 9:12:32 AM
He's just banging you to fill time. When he finds a local gal he will tell you it's over and that he told you up front he could never go that far with you. He just holds out the "chance" for a chance at your pants. Sorry girl.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

I just don't understand!!! Posted: 5/15/2007 2:06:35 PM
I just don't understand why some men have trouble telling it like it is! Men have no trouble telling it like it is. It's spending the painfull hour and a half explaining what it means that most men avoid like the plague. Often men AND women fail to here what they are being told. Mostly because if it isn't in a form they were expecting or find palatable they just ignore it and ask the same thing again and hope for a different response. have the rules changed? You bet. Check with your local chapter of the Femi-Nazi organization for full details.... Guys are much more likely to expect more when the cost of bieng wrong is so much higher these days. Are there no more decent men out there? - Sure there are! But they are going fast, so pick yours out today! Sorry if you are getting a bit bitter and jaded OP. It happens when someone doesn't have thier expectations of the game met and feel ripped of or shortchanged. Just think though. The kind of "Goodbye" you want to here so you will be OK is Exactly the kind of "Goodbye" you do NOT want to hear because it will mean a man that was one of the "better" ones for you got away. Odd, but true.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

What is so important about having a threesome to guys? Posted: 5/15/2007 1:58:34 PM
There is more to lovemaking than just having sex and pure pleasure. ooops. Not much... I understand where you are coming from OP, but I hasten to point out that what you are adding to the mix in your mind has nothing to do with sex per se. You are adding the "Q-factor" of an emotional attachement and then justifying backwards to the act itself. Common, and acceptable for most people make no mistake. But not a fair assessment non the less. You are calling the act "lovemaking" and then saying it's not just sex. Um.. Yes. But we are talking about sex, not necessarily lovemaking. And BTW, many people can love more than one person at a time, so that old chestnut won't wash either. I am not judging. Far from it. 2 naked women? With me? As long as none of them even remotely resemble Cher, or Rosanne... But I think the OP was kinda gearing her question of a threesome of a persons choice. The bottom line of this one is that some people can share, and others are just to jealous to. Both are OK. There are loving partners for each. It's when one group insinuates there is something wrong with the other for not "getting" thier standards things get icky. Figure out which group or subset you are in, and then go with that. Just as long as it's consentual.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 6 (view)

what happened to dateing over 40? Is it dead? Posted: 5/9/2007 8:19:58 AM
Its either intimate encounters or long term. Don't mistake the labels. Intimate encounters means what your think, but many people use long term not to mean they want to jump into a permanent relationship, but that is what thier goal is. As oppossed to say, intimate encounters, or the in-between of clubbing pal or activity partner. What most of the men mean with long term is lets start with dating, but don't mail me if you have no intentions of commiting if we hit it off. Could you clarify which kind of "dateing" you want to do, vis-a-vis your objectives, not the starting point? 'Cause I read your profile and it reads like you are wanting to start with a couple of casual dates and see where things go. Could the message guys get be not the one you want to send? That could increase your frustration. And no, dateing after 40 isn't dead, but it is a tad more polarized than it was in our twenties.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 305 (view)

American Idol!! Any one watching it tonight? Posted: 5/9/2007 5:17:35 AM
Blake or Lakisha? Jordan should be fine, irrespective of Simon. But Blake had a really bad night. I get he wants originality, but man! If you don't connect not just with your fans but about 15,000,000 other Americans you are doomed. Save the big "I must be me." untill later...lol. Anyway. Seems the judges have been steering for a showdown between Doolittle and Lakisha since the top 13. They may get it. Might even be great. Then the season will be over and the winners will drift away like Fantino and The Velvet Teddy Bear. Gone from the great public concious. Too bad. At least Blake would have been original, and Jordan has the adaptability and youth to fill concert venues. That's my call anyway.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

Abusive controlling men? Posted: 5/8/2007 1:48:14 PM
When I got home he beat me bad. Made me beg for my life. He tried to stab me I took off running and drove to the police station on 2 flat tires. He went to jail. but Why are guys like this So much for "Made in America." Might I suggest an import? On a different note, while these things happen, the answer isn't moving to a different city. It's dating a different class of men. Whatever kind of scene you like? Loose it. Whatever kind of man you like? Loose it. Wherever you learned those habits, they got you with the best green thumb for looserdom imaginable. It is NOT your fault they beat you. They are damaged goods and everyone knows it. It IS your fault if you pick loosers. I mean, anyone can be sold a crappy car that looks good. But if you keep going to the same low end dealers and keep getting crappy cars, can ya honestly say, "Why do all dealers sell crappy cars?" Same with guys. That they are creeps is thier problem, please, please, please stop picking creeps. For your child's sake if not your own. There are help groups out there. Phone your public health office and they would love to get you in touch with programs to help you and yours end the cycle for you.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

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paranoid much ? Posted: 5/8/2007 1:27:03 PM
If ya sent an American reporter a story telling them that an American could loose his mind at a tractor pull, do you think they would interview surgeons to see if anyone had ever put one back?

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

How important is it for a guy to please the woman that he is with? Posted: 5/8/2007 11:58:49 AM
Do you guys just want to please you partner (on many different levels) ? Short answer? No, they don't. Guys want to be HAPPY. If making her happy (assuming hetro btw) is enjoyable and gives him positive feedback for his sense of self worth and self esteem he will do it more. If it is belittled or taken for granted he will do it less. I have often seen women complain as the OP points out. What they are really asking is "How much can I get away with?" Where there is only 100% of the resources of "US" she is starting out trying to figure out how to get 95% of it and, ideally, make him think she is doing him a favour giving him 5%. It's sad, and usually everyone else can tell which one is the Pot, and which the Kettle. Those girls are bad news. Just check the ones that make thier man happy on thier man's terms. Those are the same ones that inspire a level of fierce devotion and trust that a woman wants. The good ones give and get. The harpies get, then negotiate. Posession is 9/10ths of the law after all.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

~ Honey Bees dying! ~ Posted: 5/1/2007 12:34:12 PM
I'm thinking someone really wants some research bucks here. If cell phones mess up the bees ability to find home, then there would be a clear correlation between cell phone use, and absence of bees. Case in point, if bees are disturbed in what is arguably a largely semi-rural to rural industry, then there should be no bees in any major metropolis. Which clearly is not the case to anyone that actually lives in a city in the late spring and early summer. I would suspect that, given the dispersal pattern and timing that a avian borne parasite which transfers to the bees alters some enzyme in the bee food, which alters thier abilty to navigate. Kind of like trying to find home when incredibly stoned. Other bees would leave the hive alone because they would find it, eat and not make it to THIER home, thus not leading a predatory expedition that would normally happen in nature. And since the parasites don't live on the bees, it would be very hard to track. And not knowing the exact chemistry of honeys I would bet that finding a brain affecting enzyme would be very difficult. But thier is evidence for that sort of thing in nature. Still a potentially dangerous problem. Welcome to North America, or as we like to call it, Ethiopia West. Would I give it up if I were wrong? Sure. I like to live. The problem is what to do with the stupid or shall we say, selfish people. Shall we bar them from Fortino's and Sobey's and the like if they still have a cell phone account? And who guards the guards?

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

why are we always compared to your exes? Posted: 5/1/2007 11:48:00 AM
I got hurt by a bloke with short hair does that mean I should avoid all men with short hair?? Milly-Molly adequately pointed out the female viewpoint. And the answer is, you shouldn't but thier is a higher likelyhood that you will. Until such time as you have at least as good an experience with another short haired man. Or say one that you got to know with medium length that then when short for instance. It's fair. To rail against it is to pretend you are wiser than creation. You might be, I don't know you, but I'm not betting the farm on it! The answer is to find how to make this kind of thing work For you, not Against you. It's an attitude adjustment to be sure, but one that is far healthier and more productive in the long run.

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Advice from the Men Posted: 5/1/2007 11:38:28 AM
You have a RIGHT to be happier. In the beginning the reasons made sense. Now they sound like excuses, but regardless the bottom line is he just isn't getting the job done. So tell him, "Sorry, but we are clearly on different courses. It was nice to meet you, but I need to find someone that meets more of my needs without having to work at it." Because that's what you want. There is no reason not to want it, nor to have it. Perserverance! That's the ticket!

DentedKnight

Joined: 7/7/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

high maintenance women Posted: 5/1/2007 11:14:58 AM
@Diamond...Only High maintenance if you paid for them... ... P.S. Ingnore Poshlady, she's a few bricks shy a load. OP: Guys don't lie to you and say they like low maintenance, and then pick high maintenance. It isn't that simple. Men want you to look good. Whether it's stunning in a nice get up, or the wholesome beauty of a tomboy. And the simpler the beauty is the better. Every time. So guys don't mean "low maintenance" to mean an invitation to look like a frump, they mean it in the sense of use the lowest amount of effort to show off the greatest amount of your natural beauty. Then they will have stable grounds for comparisons and choices. Not exactly what women want...lol. I think they would prefer to choose, rather than be chosen..

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