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Why do women find sex on a first date so weird? Posted: 5/31/2007 10:28:48 AM
Ya know this baffled me too for a bit, of course guys want to have sex on the first date, although not intentionally at the beginning... OK lets see, we girls like this guy and we are goin out on our first date..... Clothing choices..... Old ragedy sweats, or the little black dress? the scent of after tibo in summer, or a light mist in strategic areas? Granny panties? or something you and i both know arnt worn for comfort????? hair in tossled bun with pencil holding in place, or new color, cut and even rollers..... ladies the saying I SHAVED 4 this, had to come from somewhere???? HMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmm ladies.. we go to that much trouble because we want our date to be dreaming of us naked, and that confidence makes us feel sexy then we too get horny and before you know it BOTH parties are willingly engulfed in hot sticky passion. Ladies if you are gonna pre planned "not give it up" dont make yourselves so sexy, it doesnt seem fair...... if you want to prolonge the anticipation factor, which i think is sexier than sex then dont shave your legs............... this keeps most women from dropin their gear....... In answere to your question, i think that women say they dont like a guy who "just wants sex"? because they have bin subjected "we had sex, and he hasnt called........"syndrome, so they btry a different approach, act how we (women) perceive a lady should actlike and , say it has to be meaning ful, so that we dont get fckd n chucked. in all reality women want it just as bad as guys do, and if you arnt the least bit horny on the first date, then honey he just aint doin it for ya....... stop with the "im not that kinda girl"persona.......... men are men instinctually driven to reproduce, not mate for life, so "it has to mean something" is a bit heavy at first......... and unlikely in all cases.....

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why cant they give head properly? Posted: 5/31/2007 9:57:22 AM
My guess is because they are too HORNY, A for effort, trust me its nice that they are able to keep from busting long enough to warm you up...... i have found that the younger the guy the more KIBBLES N BITS they are, all they can think about is gettin er dun, and they are chemically driven to this... It takes age and experience to take the edge off the eagerness. it doesnt hurt to go for a guy whos favorite part of the female anatomy is not TNA but ****. p u s s y ask the question and ask what makes it their favorite..... my guess is you have bin dating guys who like tits... and yes that is how they would say it when asked............lol

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How do u tell if ur attracted to girls or guys??? Posted: 5/31/2007 9:48:49 AM
The question realy is ... are you sexually attracted to guys/ girls.... we are all attracted to both sexes, in one form or an other, even the people we become friends with, something must have attracted us to them in order for a friendship to develop. If you are sexually attracted to both sexes , than my guess is you are one of the lucky ones whos choices arnt limited. So dont wast time questioning ... just go with the flow and date the PERSON that makes you happy, regardless of gender........

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Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out Posted: 5/31/2007 9:03:53 AM
Go for it, ... you wont upset your friend, this is good, give it a shot, if you dont chances are your friend will be effected by you shooting her son down, his confidence will be crushed, and the whole triangular relationship could be altered. I would suggest first you talk with your friend and advise her of the chances of you actually dating her son ( if you are even attracted to younger men, etc) oh and give her shit for not lettin you in on this b4 this point. lol.... then agree to a coffee date with no promisses... just a lets hang out date...... who knows you may actually like him, and if your still not into it, you `can atleast boast his ego, give him some advise and carry on as his crush, and friend.... at least this way you hurt know one and actualy increase you bond with your best friend and gain a new one.......... WeLL Mrs ROBINSON......................YOU GO GIRL

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/3/2006 9:56:44 AM
Again.... Who said anythin about bed.... is sex and cheatin spouces all you dwell on? my husband cheated on me, got over it lost a few pounds ,and am thankfull, Bla Bla...so @&^%$ what?? I am also glad i was able to give you somethin to do....

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/3/2006 9:48:20 AM
To POPSICLE MAN, Soft porn, huh, lets see comin form someone who calls himself "popsicle man?? " wishfull thinkin perhaps??? And whats with the treasure trail photo ???? look whos callin the kettle black As far as the comment.... scantily cladded in lingere' you looked didnt ya????

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/3/2006 9:44:26 AM
in response to indigo rose Now u r jumpin the gun, ....you didnt read,,,,, who said anythin about bed?? And i only mentioned sex because i knew that (sadly) headline would get attention. Honey, we have all bin cheated on, if this subject bothers you so intensly, why did you even go into let alone post a comment on a thread that had the word sex in it????? hope someday you can retract your claws, and stop hatin Peace...

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/1/2006 3:30:59 AM
indigo rose Joined: 12/14/2005 Msg: 18 view profile Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 1/31/2006 118 AM Did I mention CHEATERS SUCK? Did you actualy READ, He never cheated............ it seems as if you have recently bin cheated on, a bit jaded perhaps.... its ok, u are very pretty, once your sharp hating attitude fades, im sure you will make someone very happy. I know you are a sweet person, stop hidin it.

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/1/2006 2:55:20 AM
In response toTee Thank you, your advice has been well taken

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/1/2006 2:51:31 AM
In responce to Good and Plenty's post reply (tallykatt, you are 1. A screenwriter for the T.V. Soaps 2. A person that really like to see themself type. 3. Has too much or too little drama in their life. 4. Needs a dictionary And the Survey top answer is !!!!) Well good and plenty, seems as if.... 1) your cookies are stale 2)the darkside you mention turned on the lights.........aaaaaahhhh run, run 3) trying to convince everyone of whats good.... and plenty, of what? 4) You are lookin for drama, or reasons to vent on people who have real questions... And the Survey top answer is !!!! No worries honey, there is someone for everyone even you.

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 2/1/2006 2:45:33 AM
I love when women go trolling for attention and the drama that comes with it is so amusing Sounded like I was talking to a 16 year old good god ....... Sorry about your current situation hon...... dont hate.... Cheers.. ;o)

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 1/31/2006 11:39:58 PM
Thank you, you seem to understand ...... as far as the sex was amaising, i just used that because i knew it would attract attention to my post where maybe i could get some insight into whats goin on... thx again

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 1/31/2006 1:19:02 AM
OK IN short Met a guy in a very strange way..... Instant attraction.... was married. wife left.... great sex...... he went back ......... he left, going through divorce....... papers filed the whole bit great sex....lol goes away to his home town b4 leaving expresses excitement about starting a relationship....cant wait to return returns with other girl come to find he was lead to belive things that were untrue by friend , now roommate. Who subsequently wnats me to be with him rather than friend... doesnt realy like the other girl does not want to get hurt wants to try with me, after he clears up his present situation.. friend roommate still sabotaging and i cant get ahold of him, messages errased by roommate, etc....

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Did i mention the sex was amaising??? Posted: 1/31/2006 1:07:21 AM
Yes that did cross my mind and trust me it would be easier if i knew thta to be true.... but i know that he never cheated onhis wife through his relationship, he did wait a week or so befor contacting me the last time, and was actualy mooved out, and was very angry with me before i clarifed the missconceptions his friend placed. and he is totaly beat down, there couldnt be a player in him right now, he barely has a personality anymore and has absolutely no real clue who he is....

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Did i mention " the sex was amaising???" Posted: 1/31/2006 12:48:53 AM
Hello to all, Ok this could take a while....... I met this guy about three months ago. My friends and i got stuck out in the wilderness,and so did the guy im confused about... We had an instant connection, knew what each other was thinking, and completely turned on by eachother. Two problems stood in the way of perfect bliss.... His best friend who was hitting on me the entire evening.. and his common law wife. ____________________________________________- A couple of days after being stranded, i learned that his wife left. I and a friend for his friend went to his house....in short.... he and i had amaising sex. and afterwords cuddled like we had known eachother for ever. a few days pass..... Upon the realizeation.. that he was not misserable without her. his wife returnes.....she plays all the games from, i love you, lets have sex.. to your not getting anything and you wont be able to see your kid... dispite this we continued to see eachother, a month passes.. and he decides to try with his wife, admitidly out of the guilt that was placed on him, the fear of not being able to see his child and loosing everything. I dont see him or speek to him, during this time his friend, the one who was hitting on me, now my close friend ( i thought) mooves in and attempts to sleep with me, saying that he cares and the guy i like does not... I decline and stay away for fear of ruining any further possabilities with the guy i like... A month passes and out of the blue he calls me and asks if i could come over, i try to resist but cant. When i got there io found out that he had left his wife a week prior, and was staying with his friend, the one that was trying to moove in on me. We have the best sex either one of us have ever had. cuddled for the evening while sharing our thoughts of eachother. A few days pass and i come to learn that he was going back east for a couple of weeks through christmas, we talk for hours about how much he likes me and what we were going to do upon his return, actually dating eachother, a real couple. I i wait patiently, happily 1 2... weeks... 3...4 weeks no contact with him, i thought he should have his space... he returnes, calls me and tells me he met someone and actualy brought them back with him. I was crushed, he said that he didnt think that i would care and that he was unaware of how i felt, he thought we could all hang out together , (sure....) I too a tay to regroup, then called him, i asked if we could meet, making it clear that i did not want to meet the other person who was now living hith both he and his friend. we sat in the car infront of the house for over an hour. I come to find that his friend had made me out to be a relationship hunting ball and chain premiscuouse person who cant be trusted... this was cleared up through conversation, he said that the stow away he brought home was a toy, and that it had only bin two weeks and he was already going nuts.... he also mentioned that he was afraid of me because he did like and want to be with me , but refuses to get hurt. we laughed and flirted and blushed.. he said upon leaving that this girl wouldnt be there for long and that we would get together shortly. Thats the last i have heard from him, im sure that his friend is continuing to sabotage while we are apart, ( deleating messages i have left etc....) at one point he suggested that i come over to the house and hang out with him in his room away from the guy i like and the stow away, because " no matter what, we are still friends, "and he cared about me....... Help what do i do, everytime i call the friend interceps the phone and runs into the room with it, i cant even contact the guy i like, to reassure him of any other conceptions planted.... I dont know if he even knows i have tried to contact him. ???? PS. have you ever met someone who you have no reason to want to be with except.... you know the two of you met for a cosmic purpose, and were ment to be together... "THE ONE"???? Ive bin single for over two years, i dont settle, or have even liked someone past a friendship......

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 12/15/2005 12:59:43 PM
Awsome answers, keep em coming, Its cool to see the diversity... And to all, some great insider tips here......ohhhh, yeahhh

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Worst of the worst pick up line???????????????? Posted: 12/15/2005 12:52:27 PM
Hey I may not be the hottest guy in the bar but I'm the only one talking to you now arn't I. Thats funny...lol

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Worst of the worst pick up line???????????????? Posted: 12/13/2005 6:00:00 PM
Hi all, now i know we have all heard tose "pick up line jokes" but do thay actually happen? or is the joke the pick up line???????? Share the worst pick up lines you know have bin used, and what happened because of it????

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 12/13/2005 5:56:16 PM
Hey hey all. Being am a nosy kinda gal, i figured i would ask those of you daring enough to answer............................... Whats an instant turn on for you, This is something you hope your new love will do /say/etc...... and if they did it would make them almost perfect..... Now the opposit, Instant turn off, ya know its all over when ............................. _______________________________________________________________________

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what do u miss most????? Posted: 11/30/2005 3:14:40 AM
Hey all, hope all is well. Have a question for ya, What is it you MISS most about a relationship, And Miss the least? Curiouse to see how simmilar/different your oppinions are.. What i miss the most is cuddling, Least..........hmmmm, the break up, not an easy thing to be part of , in most cases. Tag your it

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/13/2005 5:36:41 AM
In responce to sunfishone2001 I have to wonder sometimes if people like you have any friends..... Please befor replying READ All the information.. Thank you for this comic relief ciao

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 2:36:53 PM
Thank you..............................what goes through your mind through out that evening? And after having sex the first night ' or not having sex, even though she did come over

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 2:33:43 PM
Im actualy not talking about myself. Im just wondering why it happens, i love psychology, this is always something that baffled me

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 2:31:36 PM
What would make her " the right woman" what would she do, be like?

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 1:52:53 PM
Thank you, what if The girl dresses very sexy, and can dance. This is why there is pawing

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 1:50:27 PM
That actually makes sence, i find guys r always trying to do (the right thing) and more often than not they are very nervouse........ So then why dont they call back???

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 1:48:31 PM
How r we damned??? What do u think the guy would do If she put out? If she didnt? Pretend that she is a catch as well??

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 1:46:56 PM
LOL, Do you by chance work for MAXIM, or play girl??? Funny suggestion, which probably happens more often then not....

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 1:45:43 PM
Ok , all great advice...... but what i want to get to , is .......................................... WHAT GOES ON IN THE MIND OF A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol What in that given situation...... What could the girl do to make him want to spend time, besides sex that one night?

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 12:56:29 PM
Ok, let me give ya a scinario A girl goes to the club with her friends, she looks great, carries herself with class, in no way acts slutty. Sometime throughout the night she hooks up with a guy she would like to get to know, they chat dance, she in no way leads him to believe that she is going to sleep with him, but makes it obviouse she is interested. The end of the night comes and he asks her if she wants to come over for a bit to watch a movie, she accepts. They get to his place and the paws start goin...... she sais no, they just met, ( not because she doesnt want to , but because she likes him and wants to get to know him) After a while she feels guilty because the guy has worked himself into a horny frienzy........ What should she do? Sex on the first night? Does this ruin a possible relationship? If you were the guy in this situation, what should she do? What would turn u on the most? And if she does give in ....... why does he not call?????? I have always wondered about these things, the F^%K N Chuck syndrome Thanx Ciao

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