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rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Do you feel closer to a person after you discover flaws and love them anyhow? Posted: 8/2/2008 12:43:27 PM
Yes, I like finding little things that make my interest pop out with individuality. I don't like those hollywood barbie doll girls they just seem to fake to me; give me a girl next door natarul beauty any day.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Should one or shouldn't one ? Posted: 6/25/2008 3:37:46 PM
So she left you without reason and 6 months later she tries to make contact with you saying she wants to talk... Hmmm I can't believe that no one has thought that she might be pregnant.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Why are some men so heartless? Posted: 6/24/2008 10:57:44 AM
I'ts not just men women do it to, I recently went through some heartbreak. I can't say that I fully understand how to cope but I've noticed just taking it a day at a time has been helping me little by little. I'm a hopeless romantic and I believe someone's out there thinking of thier ideal man and what they're like, and what thier family is like. If I keep searching I'll find someone who cares for me and will teach me how to love again. If you wanted you could do the same it's really been helping me lately.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Needing some understanding and perspective Posted: 6/23/2008 2:18:06 PM
What you said is what I suspected what do you think would be an appropriate way to show her that I still haven't abbandoned her? I understand that I might not get another chance but I feel I have to try one more time. I don't plan to try any time soon because I want to give her space so she can think things out. I also know I might just need to let her go and move on. So I'm curious how long I should wait? Till the end of summer or longer? Before I try one last time.

rowdy303

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Needing some understanding and perspective Posted: 6/23/2008 11:16:38 AM
Lol, I'll break it down better next time thanks for the post.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Needing some understanding and perspective Posted: 6/23/2008 10:11:48 AM
This isn’t a pity thread I’m just trying to get other people’s perspective on my situation and I apologize in advance for the wall of text. I was dating this girl who to me the more I got to know her the more I cared for her and the more important to me she became. We never had any real problems in our relationship and never fought once. We got along extremely well and we spent a lot of time together and the way she looked at me and the affection she showed me seemed to me that she cared very much for me. The things that bothered me with her was what she would say about herself. She said things like “please don’t leave me”, “you deserve better than me”, “why are you so good to me”, “I’m all worn and used up”, and “you treat me better than any guy I’ve ever dated”. I always tried to explain that I would be there for her and I didn’t care what happened in her past the only thing we need to focus on is the here and now and enjoy the moment. We started the relationship with honesty and had a four hour talk on our first date and told each other everything. Even in the serious moments in our conversation we seemed to make each other laugh. She told me about things like her mother left her when she was young for drugs and her father raised her. That her father had been married 6 times and some of her stepmother’s abused her. Also, that recently about a year before I started dating her, her ex-fiancé dumped her about a month before their wedding for “being to immature”, but when I was with her she seemed like the most level headed girl I had ever met. Before summer started she made me promise again that I would never leave her, but summer came and she wouldn’t return my phone calls or e-mails for a little while. Finally, she answered my phone and assured me that everything was all right and she sounded happy to hear from me. We talked for about two hours until she finally dropped a bomb on me saying that she was used and worn and that she wanted me to see other people. She assured that there was no one else in her life and she wasn’t looking and I’m the only guy she wants to be with but she’s just too busy to be in a relationship right now, that she was working two jobs and she didn’t do good in her first college year so financial aid is gone unless she goes to a community college. She also told me that her aunt died who was the head women of the family so now she’s the head women of the family and has to plan all family reunions and events and she’s just really stressed. I told her I wasn’t really interested in anyone else and that I’ll wait for things to die down if she wants so she sounded excited again on the phone and said that would be great and she would like to still be friends. She then told me she wanted me to come visit a lot and that she wanted me to come visit next week but just as friends we’d go see a movie or hang out. Another thing to keep in mind is that I’ve only had two relationships before her but after she was dumped by her ex she slept around with a lot of guys and she told me to her sex means nothing but pleasure unless you’re in a relationship. At the beginning of our relationship she said she’d only date me if we were going to be in a relationship and in the middle of our relationship she said that this was a real relationship and was what she was looking for so everything we were doing really meant a lot to her. So she also said that there was definitely a chance that we could get back together and start where we left off, but last night she messaged me saying that we could never be together because she feels that she could never love me and that she thinks she could never love anyone. To me it seems like she has some major self-esteem issues right now and because I can’t be there every day to shower her with affection like I really want to she started doubting herself and us and just gave up. I live an hour to an hour and fifteen minutes away and told her previously that even if she doesn’t have time for me I’ll drive down there to her work and give her a hug and leave if that’s all she has time for. I also feel like she’s putting up a wall because of how so many people in her past that she should have been able to trust up and walked away from her. I’ve got to the point to where I’ve excepted that it’s over but I still care for her deeply and even if she can’t be happy with me I want her to be happy. I don’t want her to sell herself short and end up alone or with a guy that won’t treat her right just because she can’t forgive herself for what she thinks she did wrong in the past or what people have done to wrong her. I know that I can’t call her anymore or e-mail her because it needs to be on her end if she still wants me in her life if nothing else than just a friend. I also feel that it’s past the point to where I could say or do anything that would change her mind, but to the people that read this I was wandering from your perspective if I should hold on to a little hope and give her time or is she beyond my reach and I can’t be an anchor in her life like I told her I would be.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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One for the girls.... Oral sex after intercourse Posted: 4/3/2008 12:11:47 AM
I am suddenly extremely attracted to cdorsey2006 .

rowdy303

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Any guys in here that do NOT like talking on the phone? Posted: 3/31/2008 12:35:54 PM
When I talk on the phone I try to make it short and sweet. I prefer to talk face to face because you can try to pick up body language and it seems more personal.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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your bro before your ho.............. Posted: 3/29/2008 6:02:07 PM
I've noticed guys throughout my life that preach "bros before hos" to me all the time end up getting really attached to a women and ditching me. I also noticed that when a "friend" would spill that line to me it was normally because I would say that their was a girl I was interested in and he'd then go after her first knowing that I am very shy and have a real hard time approaching them. So when I hear someone say that to me I generally trust them less and think their a womenizer and it pisses me off because I just want one girl to come home to. And they normally f em and leave them later calling them a whore behind their back. After meeting many people in my life I would have to say that my friends know are probably my most trusting friends and the earlier where just filler because I was a very nieve paster's son.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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A world without the USA. Posted: 3/29/2008 2:21:25 AM
I'm going to have to agree with gotapulse on most of his statements. America, although having a very strong military, waited to enter into WWI-II and as a result did many great things but mainly tipped the scales. If you take a look at recent wars you'll see a interesting story. Korean war, Veitnam war stalemates or withdrawels with continuing strife to this day. Then there's the blunder of putting Fidel Castro into power. Kosovo a weaker force was easily overthrown but still with help. When gorrilla warfare is used against us like we used in the revolutionary war we seem not to have a strong tactical stratagy against it and end up withdrawing or getting into a political or military stalemate. Case in point the war in Iraq, Vietnam, and Korea. There is one time I can think of off hand were a strong peronality in a president helped us avoid war and keep us from being in a stalemate too long and that was during the Cuban Missle Crises. I think what America is lacking today is a strong, charasmatic leader who can anticipate and adapt to the problems were facing.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Online Schooling, does it really work? Posted: 3/29/2008 1:42:08 AM
Well, I took a German online class and it was too difficult to learn that way for me so I had to drop and retake it as an offline class. We only had to meet in class for tests and part of the tests were oral, which is the part that made it hard. However, on another note I've met people that took some classes that weren't language related and they said they were a lot easier to learn because the teachers let you go at your own pace.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Would you be with someone who cant have children? Posted: 3/25/2008 1:02:45 AM
If it's the right person it wouldn't matter to me. In your case at least you do have one kid, and if it really seems necessary to have another why not adopt? There's also the hope of advances in medicine to give you another chance someday.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Gaming Girls... yea or nay? Posted: 3/24/2008 12:22:28 AM
Absolute, yea.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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What celeb would you date and why? Posted: 3/24/2008 12:20:55 AM
Shakira - everything she does is sexy. Natalie Portman - She has this plain, sexy look to her. Olivia Munn - Common interests and beautiful.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Why do men lie about why they are here? Posted: 3/20/2008 8:44:04 PM
That's why I put dating, so I can see where things lead. I want a long term relationship but no one can say 100% that the next person they meet is going to be their perfect match. I'm a "see how far this rabbit hole leads" or "go with the flow" kinda guy. The next women I meet could end up being my friend, a hot steamy fling, or getting a wedding ring handed to her at some point.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE? Posted: 3/20/2008 8:24:14 PM
I have no problem relocating for love. I have two more semesters of college left and plan on moving wherever I need to. I have no preference of location.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Movie at home or at a theater Posted: 3/17/2008 2:05:12 PM
Probably not a wise decision to watch a movie on the first date, but for me I have an hdtv and a blue-ray player and I prefer to watch movies at home than in a theatre. That also might be because my first job was at a theatre and now I hate popcorn and feel uncomfortable at a theatre.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Could you go 11 months without sex? Posted: 3/13/2008 10:47:30 PM
I originally went 20 years without sex, then I went 2 years without sex, and now I am currently working on a little more than 2 years without sex. So yes, I can survive without sex, but I think about it every day.

rowdy303

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Do men enjoy foreplay or do they really just want to go to home plate? Posted: 3/13/2008 6:08:08 PM
I like foreplay, there's something about watching a women's reaction when your doing a good job of orel on her, thats really sexy.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Are immature hobbies a turn-off? Posted: 3/12/2008 4:15:33 PM
Not a girl but, it sounds to me that the women in the article has the mentality that "if I don't like something or understand it I'll bash it". Literature, movies, all forms of media have adult themes, violence, vulger language but when games have it, it seems to be a big deal to someone who wasn't raised on it. I think its just a generational gap. Pong was originally for elitists because it cost $500, then came atari which was for nerds but as games progressed in graphics and art style the target group has changed to about everyone. The wii really brought in non-traditional gamers. Now, I would say its just like any other hobbie like fishing or shopping.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Review of profile sought Posted: 3/12/2008 12:35:29 AM
I'm new so I won't be able to help much, but I have seen often that people frown on misspelled words and grammatical issues. Counselor* not counsellor.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship? Posted: 3/12/2008 12:18:27 AM
I'm on this site because I'm single, if I found someone it wouldn't serve me any purpose to keep it.

rowdy303

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Has anyone ever been falsely accused of something, Posted: 3/11/2008 9:42:33 PM
Well, it didn't happen to me but one guy in our fraternity had sex with this girl and about week later she told the police that he raped her. About a year later the same girl got really drunk with her sorority sisters and said that she felt really bad because he didn't rape her she just regreted having sex with him, it was her first time. Needless to say the damage was done because he was going to school to become a teacher and if you are charged with a sexual offense of any kind you can't become a teacher(he lost two years of college). It cost him over $15,ooo in court fees, he was kicked out of school for a year, until all charges were dropped.There is no action taken against her and he really can't do anything because if he wanted to it would just cost him more money in court fees. As for the girl, she took two years of school off and is now back in the same college. The only real punishment she got was being kicked out of her sorority.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Marriage...can we, as humans, be committed? Posted: 3/11/2008 6:02:07 AM
You may find it interesting in researching the history of marraige. You might be surprised at what you find from culture to culture. You also might be surprised at your own culture's history. One interesting fact is that in the earlier years of marriage people got married at younger ages. The reason being is people didn't live as long. Now in our modern times people who get married tend to live two lifetimes compared to past couples, so spending a lifetime with a partner has different meaning today than in the past. That also has contributed to a higher divorce rate in our times due to vast changes in personality in the later years of people. People today get married and can change drastically from who they where when they originally got married.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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A little help needed for a newb. Posted: 3/9/2008 10:49:03 PM
No, no one has messaged me, if they had I would immediately respond. I put that there for the people that I'm interested in and viewed their profile or put them on my favorites'. I wanted to fine tune my profile before I started messaging people.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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A little help needed for a newb. Posted: 3/9/2008 5:51:31 PM
Ok, cropped the photos. Now, do you think I should get rid of the first paragraph all together and just put that in interests. I'll add values and life goals soon but I want to make a rough draft first.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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A little help needed for a newb. Posted: 3/9/2008 3:30:39 AM
Sorry for double post but, I was wandering after the edit do you think I should leave out the whole p.s. part. The only reason I left it in was it has a song I really like in it and my places of residence. I thought the whole residence statement might be relevant to people so they know where I am and don't overlook me because they think I'm too far away. If you think, however, that it is a problem I'll delete it.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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A little help needed for a newb. Posted: 3/9/2008 3:19:03 AM
Ok, so I edited some of my profile but haven't got it exactly how I want it just yet. I really appreciate the suggestions from the both of you. I'll change the settings on mailing so I can keep in contact for further help.

rowdy303

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Lots of looks, not so many messages..... Posted: 3/8/2008 6:42:45 PM
I'm new to this too and have the same problem. As far as your profile goes I think your a keeper , unfortunately for me you don't live anywhere near me.

rowdy303

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A little help needed for a newb. Posted: 3/8/2008 2:50:43 PM
I was wandering if some people could give me some suggestions on my profile. This is my first online dating site and I am unsure if I'm putting too much info, bad pics, or any other misguided attempts to explain myself to potentials.

rowdy303

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Can Only Have Orgasm With A Vibrator Posted: 3/8/2008 2:36:28 PM
I know I'm younger and some people will ignore my post, but I heard the same answer to this question from two professors at my school and a sex expert( who was a women) that was on the radio. It is hard to near impossible for a man to be desensitized by masterbating with his hand because its a slow motion in comparison even if you do it as fast as you can, still possible but unlikely. As for a vibrator, though, you can be desensitized because it is moving at a high motion(1000 something per second, can't remember because I don't own one). What all three said was it damages nerve endings over time and they cannot be healed. They all suggested stick with the tongue, dildo, fingers, or penis.

rowdy303

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Have you ever tasted male ejaculate? Posted: 3/8/2008 12:46:23 AM
This topic = instant win. I can't stop laughing, but to answer the question after getting my first bj I was very grateful to my girlfriend at the time and hesitated at first but kissed her anyway when she leaned in. I went down on her 5 times before she returned the favor. She only ended up doing it twice to me in our relationship, the first time she did a good job the second time, however, I think she did a bad job. She was a nibler and it hurt. Sometimes I think she nibbled on purpose.

rowdy303

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Does the number of members favoritelist a profile appear on matter? Posted: 3/8/2008 12:17:50 AM
I put a girl on my favorites list because I'm interested, but haven't gotten to the point of contacting them. First online dating site and still haven't gotten the courage to contact someone I'm interested in. That and I live 75 miles + away from one girl and can't contact her, although during the summer I live close to her.

rowdy303

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do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 3/7/2008 3:15:17 PM
A little help from Miss Eyre's perspective. Quick facts: I am 25 years old, my parents are 10 years apart. I was a pasters' son, the kind that stays out of trouble, but I'm not very religous. I wouldn't date a 17 year old. I go to college and I can never tell how old a person is by looking at them. Even if I go to a 21+ bar a lot of people have fake id's. To me, some people don't look thier age. There aren't a whole lot of women my age that I know of in this very small town, most of the females in the area are 18-23. I've been told often when I shave I look 16-20 but when I grow out the facial hair I've been told I look 25-30. I don't have a whole lot of experience dating, only had two girlfriends. I moved 16 times which makes me extremely introverted to women I'm interested in until I've hung out with them for 2-3 weeks. I know a lot of people because I'm very active on my campus and am in a fraternity. When it comes to the women I can't seem to go from the friend zone to dating. Questions: What do I do? Is it acceptable in my position to date an 18 year old?

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 3/7/2008 2:03:22 PM
I'm not trying to be rude but if you ask a stupid question you'll get stupid answers. My advice is to go take a human sexuality class or two and pay attention to what drives a man and women to do what they do and don't be so judgmental as to what the opposite sex does. Men and women's minds process things differently when searching for a mate so don't get mad at the man get mad at nature. If you ever get married and your husband doesn't like your bodily endowments than you're going to have a whole set of problems. I could post more info but I'm sure the more you read the more that you think I'm being a jerk, but hey honesty hurts sometimes.

rowdy303

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Do platonic male friends scare off those interested romantically? Posted: 3/6/2008 4:58:38 PM
I was taught at a young age if you want a good relationship you should learn to be a good friend first. So I try to make friends first then I decide if she's a women I would like to date. I've also encountered times where there were friends of mine that I wasn't even interested in at all but the more I hung out with them the more I liked them. On the a negative note to that, I've noticed when I try to be a good friend first I end up in the dreaded friend zone forever even after I let them know I'm interested. The two girls I dated in my life I went on a blind date first and they worked out well for a while and I wasn't put in the friends zone, but I have yet to have made a women a friend first and later even been given a chance to go out on a date.

rowdy303

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do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 3/6/2008 4:47:09 PM
I have my setting set at 21-29, but if the women was a mature enough I'd go as low as 18. On the other hand, I have seen some really attractive older women and wasn't opposed to dating them but not much older. On the rating portion of this site I give a 7-10 to women who I would go out on at least one date with to see where it leads or if they look really attractive for thier age. 6 if I think I would have to hang out and get to know her first, 5 if I can tell she's attractive but not my type. 4 if she's just not my type and 3 and less if I don't find them attractive at all.

rowdy303

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what do you really think of the girl? Posted: 3/5/2008 9:35:55 AM
Nothing wrong with being selective especially if you have a child. If you already have one child how much harder do you think it will get if you have a second one with a guy that was just looking for a good time. I have no children and I'm selective, heck I've only slept with two women. I want to care about the person I have a child with, I don't care for complications.

rowdy303

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Do you look at the shoes? Posted: 3/5/2008 9:27:16 AM
I look at the shoes but its never is the determining factor if I like her. It's basically done so I can tell if she'll judge my shoes. I once heard if your shoes look bad women will overlook you so I always try to keep clean shoes and nice clothes when I'm on the prowl. I do, however, find an athletic women in sweatpants pretty sexy. There's a lot of health gurus at my campus and they look good to me in athletic apparel, even though I'll hear them complain about not being dressed up.

rowdy303

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Putting out on the first date. Posted: 3/5/2008 9:11:56 AM
I'm in college and as we all know a lot of people do a lot of experimenting in college so it wouldn't bother me. If I actually had sex with a women on the first date I probably would keep in contact. I'm in a fraternity and there are a couple of guys that are already married, so they talk about thier sex lives all the time. One particular couple has a very healthy sex life and has no problem talking about it. On the other hand, there's a guy that is in his thirties who is very succesful and has a wife that is really fun to hang out with and is gorgeous(she looks like a model). However, when he's just with the guys he tells everyone that she won't try anything new at all only missionary, won't even let him go down on her. They've been married for about 5 years. All that being said I would pay attention to what she likes because if she was adventurous I wouldn't think twice about asking her out again. I don't want to get married to a women that is stuck on one position, I want variety in my life. Although, I've only had two partners in my life because I always ask myself "if I got this women pregnant would I want to marry her?". Maybe I'm too picky but I like to know I care about her before I jump into things.

rowdy303

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Another profile picture question. Posted: 2/29/2008 9:31:28 PM
Is there a way to keep men from voting on my profile picture because I'm not really looking for thier oppinion?

rowdy303

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Ladies..How do you test a man? Posted: 2/29/2008 9:23:16 PM
A lot of these posts don't seem to be that helpful at all, but they show that these ladies have a great sense of humor.

rowdy303

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Pregnant and alone. Posted: 2/29/2008 9:15:27 PM
I can't say that I've been in that situation because I'm a male, but when my 17 year old sister got pregnant by a 27 year old guy she managed to stay afloat. I believe in the phrase "it takes a village to care for a child", and thats what I think you should look for. What I mean by that is look to your friends and family for support, you'll find out who your real friends are really quick. No matter how many times we told her he was no good for her she didn't listen and now she has two kids with him and he doesn't help at all. I've taken care of her kids and it was a good learning experience for me and although a child is a huge responsibility that will take up the majority of your time you can survive and be succesful. My sister has a job, her own appartment, a car, and is a very loving mother who has matured tramendously into a beautiful young lady. Just keep your chin up and your hope alive and I'm sure you and your little one will be fine, and someday you'll find a guy who is mature and be a loving addition to your family.

rowdy303

Joined: 2/26/2008

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two questions. Posted: 2/29/2008 8:46:04 PM
Is there any way to see your fans who rated your picture between 7-10? Secondly, when I am in the rate picture section and try to set it to females in my age group it always gives me females between the ages 30+, is the site not responding correctly or might it have something to do with my computer?

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