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onthemoors

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Is it normal for people to be celebate there entire lives?!? Posted: 10/3/2007 8:20:33 PM
I used to be celibate but now I have a three way at least once a week- me,myself, and I. ba da boom! -:)

onthemoors

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BitTorrent Uploader Faces 5 Years Posted: 4/18/2007 9:17:16 PM
5 years in Federal Pound Me In The A** Prision for uploading? I hope it wasn't Talladega Nights...

onthemoors

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Mature women doing oral Posted: 4/18/2007 9:06:32 PM
Can I say that I hate you?? -:( "why do older women seem to be so much more into giving good oral, I have been with a few mature women and they have been so good at giving head, i have been dep throater more by older women than younger ones, why do you older women like giving good oral?"

onthemoors

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Help! - Should i feel marked!!!! After Divorce Posted: 3/31/2007 4:20:44 PM
From personal experience and observation of friends divorces it's my opinion that when a couple breaks up the woman usally can count on the support of whatever mutual friends they had. The man, if he is lucky, will have one or two close friends willing, and capable, to listen. The short answer is you are not tainted in any way. It's just that the gender stereotype states that a man must carry the burden alone. It's supposed to signifiy 'strength' somehow. I think it's stupid myself. There is a sense of personal failure of course, and this may feed into some of your feelings rgarding being 'marked'. It's normal in the short term but don't let it last or you'll be trapped in it for a very long time. Just keep telling yourself that you have the opportunity to completly re-create your life in whatever way you want. Not many people get to do that. just some advice from a divorced guy.... stay well..

onthemoors

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Wow..men above 35 show great improvement in relationships Posted: 3/28/2007 9:00:11 PM
goggle Erikson's stages of psychosocial development for further info

love_more

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Asked a Stranger Out for Coffee! Posted: 2/6/2007 9:26:51 PM
Never doubt your mojo.

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Why would you prefer someone lie to you then tell you upfront they are polyamorous? Posted: 2/6/2007 8:38:19 PM
"I might sound stupid here lol but I will chance it what does pollysomethingsomething mean??" Means "I love you on tuesdays but my wednesdays are for Maria baby..."

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Why would you prefer someone lie to you then tell you upfront they are polyamorous? Posted: 2/6/2007 8:37:18 PM
I'd prefer to know that as soon as possible. It makes the "goodbye and good luck" so much more easy...

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I thought it was only in my dreams. Posted: 12/23/2006 10:55:19 PM
"On day three with POF, I recieved an email that has forever changed my life. The most wonderful man came into my life and let me realize my dreams of a life time. Me, the all time "skeptic" is no more..." Has he got a sister?

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Just need to let it out. Posted: 8/3/2006 8:08:51 PM
amen I've been in your shoes. Maybe your relationship will come back. But you can't live your life as if it's going to. You're older, and from the sounds of, it wiser too. Maybe that's how love and marriage is anymore- we only share the connection for a short time before the complications of life blew it all apart. I hope not.

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Thanks for the sex, now get out... WTF? Posted: 7/29/2006 10:40:17 AM
" I started dating this woman a couple of weeks ago... Tonight she cooked me a nice meal and promptly jumped my bone. When we were done it was like "I'm going to sleep you can let yourself out". I'm feeling a little used here but thought I'd solicit others' opinions". My opinion is that you should tell me her name, her city, and her phone number....

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What else can I do? Posted: 7/9/2006 8:49:17 PM
Consider asking your wife to attend a weekend marriage encounter. Check retrouvaille.org for details. I attended one with my ex and it worked...for a time. It's a very intense weekend and should not be undertaken unless both spouses are willing. At the end you will leave with either renewed love and respect for each other or you both will be absolutely certain the marriage cannot be saved. It is Catholic based and a few prayers are said throughout but it's not over the top. There is also www.marriage-encounter.org which offers something similiar. I found retrouvaille to be enormously helpful even though my marriage ultimately ended a few years later.

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has anyone gone through this??? Posted: 6/24/2006 10:35:05 PM
I've not gone through this but if I faced your situation I'd like to think I'd be able to cowboy up and help the recuperation of the mother of my son and the woman I once loved. Despite your shattered relationship it's likely you are the closest human being she has in her life. Since you want advice my advice is to be an example to your son and show him that even though you and your wife no longer love each other, you have enough compassion to help heal your estranged wife and your family. Remember that what you do will be imprinted on your son. PS- I don't know what its like in Canada but in the USA a couple of weeks in intensive care will financially cripple most citizens to the point of bankrupcty.

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To separate or not?? Posted: 5/22/2006 9:25:07 PM
Here's a sh*tty truth- being a good father doesn't always require being a husband. Staying together for the kids often just makes it worse for everyone. A happy and fulfilled parent is the best. A broken bitter parent isn't so good. I hope you and your wife can work it out but you gotta be happy in order to share happiness. " I really wanted to be sure about making such big move. I also realized that I love my children so much! My 15 year old is having some teenage like problems and I feel that I have to be there for him...I guess I have a very strong "sense of responsibility"...? "

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Tell the wife or not? Posted: 5/20/2006 9:03:40 AM
I've read all the replies and I think it's a little sad how many people(society) just give a pass to this type or sin. My ex was a serial cheater and in hindsight I discovered that many of her colleagues/friends knew or suspected this. I noted four types of responses- One is the witness who completely ignores you, no eye contact, no acknowledgement, just a blankness to your prescience. The second is the person who goes into overdrive and blabbers on and on about superficial things as a way to fight off authentic conversation. The third is the person who stays outside of the group and stares silently. The fourth is the person curious enough to slow down and take in the slow motion carnage. It's a pretty humiliating experience to be in a room where everyone knows a secret about your marriage except you. Life isn't fair and bad things happen everyday but if just one of these types of people had the guts to step forward and say "you don't know me and I don't know you but I need to say one thing about your spouse..." I would have had external confirmation of that voice in my heart and likely would have saved myself 2 years of agony and self-doubt. I know that if any of my close friends ever cheated and were being cheated on I would have to say something.

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Emails that made your day Posted: 5/20/2006 8:29:02 AM
I got an email from a recuiter asking me to interview for a job at microsoft. Went on the describe all the bennies etc. Made my week. (%70 travel time though)

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If you could, would you? Posted: 4/10/2006 3:30:16 PM
If any of you are offended by this, my apologies. But in order for me to gain the closure I was really needing, this is what I did. For me it worked. For her, she's still pissed to have been played like that. I think she's more upset that her dream guy simply doesn't exist though..." offended?! Dude you should have told her to meet you in a expensive restaurant, order the two most expensive meals and then call her on her cell and drop the bomb

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How to end it as gracefully as we started it Posted: 3/27/2006 9:08:04 PM
Sometimes compassion means inflicting some (temporary) pain. It sounds like you don't like to be alone. The dignified and compassionate path is to actively choose not use this woman's love to fill up the holes in your heart. That you can only do alone.

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Barnyard Animals in Bondage 16 - Has Porn Gone Too Far? Posted: 3/27/2006 8:54:23 PM
as with everything the pendulum will swing back and someday the new porn will be holding hands, giving flowers, and actually caring about the emotional well-being of your lover. (naked)

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childhood trauma and the need for extreme pleasure Posted: 3/27/2006 8:49:14 PM
There are over three decades of research literature on post traumatic stress. Your doctors statements are correct- however it's not correct to assume that every child who experiences serious trauma will wind up a skydiving sexual deviant. (although if there's a female out there that fits this I'd like you meet you-:) for what it's worth the most common symptoms of post traumatic stress are exaggerated startle reflex, extreme isolation, generalized intimacy disorder, and a habit of blathering on message boards on a school night...

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Best. Divorce. Letter. EVAR (joke-adult) Posted: 3/22/2006 7:33:40 PM
Dear Connie, I know the counselor said we shouldn’t contact each other during our “cooling off” period, but I couldn’t wait anymore. The day you left, I swore I’d never talk to you again. But that was just the wounded little boy in me talking. Still, I never wanted to be the first one to make contact. In my fantasies, it was always you who would come crawling back to me. I guess my pride needed that. But now I see that my pride’s cost me a lot of things. I’m tired of pretending I don’t miss you. I don’t care about looking bad anymore. I don’t care who makes the first move as long as one of us does. Maybe it’s time we let our hearts speak as loudly as our hurt. And this is what my heart says: “There’s no one like you, Connie.” I look for you in the eyes and breasts of every woman I see, but they’re not you. They’re not even close. Two weeks ago, I met this girl at Flamingos and brought her home with me. I don’t say this to hurt you, but just to illustrate the depth of my desperation. She was young, maybe 19, with one of those perfect bodies that only youth and maybe a childhood spent ice skating can give you. I mean, just a perfect body. Tts like you wouldn’t believe and an as that just wouldn’t quit. Every man’s dream, right? But as I sat on the couch being blwn by this stunner, I thought, look at the stuff we’ve made important in our lives. It’s all so superficial. What does a perfect body mean? Does it make her better in bed? Well, in this case, yes, but you see what I’m getting at. Does it make her a better person? Does she have a better heart than my moderately attractive Connie? I doubt it. And I’d never really thought of that before. I don’t know, maybe I’m just growing up a little. Later, after I’d tossed her about a half a pint of throat yogurt, I found myself thinking, “Why do I feel so drained and empty?” It wasn’t just her flawless technique or her slutty, shameless hunger, but something else. Some nagging feeling of loss. Why did it feel so incomplete? And then it hit me. It didn’t feel the same because you weren’t there to watch. Do you know what I mean? Nothing feels the same without you. Jesus, Connie, I’m just going crazy without you. And everything I do just reminds me of you. Do you remember Carol, that single mom we met at the Holiday Inn lounge last year? Well, she dropped by last week with a pan of lasagna. She said she figured I wasn’t eating right without a woman around. I didn’t know what she meant till later, but that’s not the real story. Anyway, we had a few glasses of wine and the next thing you know, we’re banging away in our old bedroom. And this tart’s a total monster in the sack. She’s giving me everything, you know, like a real woman does when she’s not hung up about her weight or her career and whether the kids can hear us. And all of a sudden, she spots that tilting mirror on your grandmother’s old vanity. So she puts it on the floor and we straddle it, right, so we can watch ourselves. And it’s totally hot, but it makes me sad, too. Cause I can’t help thinking, “Why didn’t Connie ever put the mirror on the floor? We’ve had this old vanity for what, 14 years, and we never used it as a sex toy.” Saturday, your sister drops by with my copy of the restraining order. I mean, Vicky’s just a kid and all, but she’s got a pretty good head on her shoulders and she’s been a real friend to me during this painful time. She’s given me lots of good advice about you and about women in general. She’s pulling for us to get back together, Connie, she really is. So we’re doing Jell-O shots in a hot bubble bath and talking about happier times. Here’s this teenage girl with the same DNA as you and all I can do is think of how much she looked like you when you were 18. And that just about makes me cry. And then it turns out Vicky’s really into the whole anl thing, that gets me to thinking about how many times I pressured you about trying it and how that probably fueled some of the bitterness between us. But do you see how even then, when I’m thrusting inside your baby sister’s cinnamon ring, all I can do is think of you? It’s true, Connie. In your heart you must know it. Don’t you think we could start over? Just wipe out all the grievances away and start fresh? I think we can. If you feel the same please, please, please let me know. Otherwise, can you let me know where the f*cking remote is? Love, Dan

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About Being a Stepfather Posted: 3/15/2006 7:50:26 PM
"I am telling you as a retired police officer with 20 years experience of dealing with kids on the street, that the ones whose parents cared enough to punish them generally wound up making something of themselves." "Punishment = sucess" does not work. Sucess comes from nuturing, supporting, challenging and having consistant expectations for a child. If you and your spouse can't agree about that then failure is a given - no matter how much punishment is doled out. I was a step father to two boys. When I married they were 8 and 10. I loved them completly. The only regret I have about the ending of my first marriage is that I am no longer there for them in a day to day way. I don't get to be part of their daily lives. I don't get to talk to them about their desires and I no longer have an opportuniity to guide their growth or rejoice with them at some new discovery. I still love them deeply and always will. But it's incredibly hard to discover the love of fatherhood and then walk away because the marriage burned up. I hate being the occasional disney-dad only there to entertain never to instruct or enjoy their emotional growth. Step parents have it tough. But if you love your spouse what choice do you have? This doesn't speak to your initial post but if you fall in love with a parent you must share a vision for the children in addition to a shared life. It sounds like you and your soon to be ex didn't have a cohesisive program for her children. A healthy marriage is impossible without that.

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The straw that broke the Camel's back. Posted: 3/6/2006 9:16:18 PM
I can't say but I certainly know I do (did). I no longer pretend to understand her. Her stated conception of love is a spiritual meeting of souls but in practice it's been a disposable connection. She appears to be addicted to the excitement of newness.

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The straw that broke the Camel's back. Posted: 3/6/2006 8:36:26 PM
We were trying to reconcile after a year long separation. During this time she burned through two other men. She assured me she wasn't in love with anyone but me, wanted us to be together, promised me over and over that I could trust her, etc. etc. Then one day she brought home a stack of crap and left it on the kitchen table. One top was a journal thing-his journal. I opened it to find that this guy was still very much in love with her and was pleading for her to come back. (she had told me this man was no longer in love with her and they were completely done with their affair). She left the next day for a science conference and met and screwed another(3rd) guy. She came back on my birthday and completely forgot it. She was glowing and said the conference was the best one she'd ever attended. I told her I was done with this perverse marriage and would rather live single than live in the agony of trying to love her. In my life I've never encountered anyone like her. She loves quickly and deeply yet lies and deceives so boldly. It was my first (only?) marriage and I thank her for opening the door inside me to love and I did get to experience being a step-father. I still love her two boys very much. The woman has a PhD and is a highly respected college administrator yet in the months we've spent negotiating a dissolution she's had two more relationships- one of them with a married man, and both of them peers at her college. Good luck to the men that try to love her. So here's to that little voice in my heart that kept trying to protect me. You were right after all...

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I proposed Posted: 2/17/2006 9:32:58 PM
That's awesome! Congratulations

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I proposed Posted: 2/17/2006 7:20:31 PM
Typical guy... what was her answer dufus!? -:) hilarious

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 2/3/2006 10:29:58 PM
She would say, "Honey, I was reading this passage from Schopenhauer that I think you'd like and Oh by the way there is a showing of Gerhard Richter paintings at the museum wanna go?" And then she'd stop, put her fingers to her sexy geometric glasses, pull them a little lower on her nose, her eyes widen is shock and excitement as she says, "Is that a TI-84 graphing calculator in your pocket or are you happy to see me...?"

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Question for when the 2 years is up and divorce is automatic Posted: 2/2/2006 7:53:05 PM
Pennsylvania is a "equitable distribution" state. Which means assets and liabilities are shared according to about 20 different factors- like employability, age, etc. Go here and good luck... http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/pennsylvania.shtml

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Married - & was cheated by spouse on this site - why & what to do now? Posted: 1/15/2006 6:19:39 PM
"We have started talking & now it seems the communication lines are open wide. What is bothering me though - why is he willing to open the lines now... and not before????" because he got caught. Now hat it's not some private secret pleasure/fantasy he realizes his behavior can have serious emotional and financial consequences.

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Ex-spouse 1, You 0 Posted: 1/15/2006 6:11:04 PM
Rabbit and turtle You are (or should be) focusing on yourself. Now is the time for you to be self-directed. Figure out who you are and who you want to be. Figure out what happened and how you feel about it. You do this to heal yourself and become a stronger individual. Your ex may not be doing this. If she's involved with someone else she's seeing herself in relation to another person and likely not focusing as much as she should on her own weaknesses. The result is that while you're single (and alone) you'll be more healthy in the long term and your next love will be stronger and more mature. Your ex may not be so lucky. If she becomes emotionally entangled with another person so soon after the divorce she's just setting up a repeat of her emotional issues.

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Is It Cheating If Its Only Online???? Posted: 1/12/2006 8:16:46 PM
It's emotional infidelity, which in my opinion, is a betrayal of the relationship and ones' partner. emotional infidelity is any relationship outside of the primary relationship that contains three elements; secrecy, sexual desire, emotional intimacy. This: "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?" may or may not be emotional infidelity but it's certainly immature ( to me)

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He has no clue what she wants... Posted: 1/11/2006 8:35:36 PM
She's telling him that she's a sexual being and has had recent frustration-enough to swear off sexual encounters. That's the verbal part. The nonverbal subtext is she's telling him she's available if he steps up. She should do the breast brush against his elbow trick. If he doesn't pick that up he's gay.

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Purely sexual and it sucks . Posted: 1/4/2006 9:16:09 PM
/I have a friend who is purely all about just sex ..... It kind of sucks . whenever we get together it's all just a do me attitude .../ I agree. How terrible for you. I think she needs a good talking to. Please give me her phone number Anyway, you should confront her with how you feel. If she resists a deeper connection why waste your best years in a one dimensional psuedo-relationship?

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How do you verify your trust in someone?? Posted: 1/4/2006 9:08:05 PM
Perhaps a answer is to reject the premise. In other words it's not possible to have a loving committed relationship yet insist on maintaining a private relationship with a "friend" of the opposite sex. It just doesn't compute since a healthy understanding of committed relationship precludes any secret friendships. In effect what you describe is a large secret between the couple that's not allowed to be discussed and will set up the struggle that will eventually end the relationship. I would not fully trust a woman you describe. In fact I'd end my involvement with her as soon as I hit this boundry. My sanity is too important to me and being alone is infinetly preferrable to being deceived by someone I care about. The other question is that if trust requires verification it's not really trust. Something has been damaged. If a partner has insecurites you help them through because you care about them.

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After you've had sex it is 2 out of 3 or goodbye Posted: 12/28/2005 6:31:49 PM
Teddybare, Every man since Adam has tried to figure out women. I figure if Aristotle, Shakespeare, and Cassonova couldn't do it there's no way I can't either. (but I'll die trying I'm sure) Money, status, and sexual prowess may be fun and bring some opportunities but it doesn't guarentee a deep passionate love that will last the decades of life. And that's what I seek.

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After you've had sex it is 2 out of 3 or goodbye Posted: 12/27/2005 6:21:27 PM
"What is sygolism or whatever that word was you used. What does that mean?" The term refers to Aristotelian logic. Aristotelian or Syllogistic logic is either deducitve or inductive. Deductive (also called modes ponens) Inductive (also called modes tollens) It's a way of putting logical arguments into a equation format to either prove or disprove. Your theory is a statistical syllogism because it's based on anecdotal evidence and does not cover every possible female motivation. For example your theory only lists 3 possible masculine qualities that attract women-personality, attractiveness, and size of your johnson. However, there are many many men who have terrible personalities, are ugly in appearance and conversation, and likely have small johnsons. I'm sure there are plenty of woman who have spent years with these types of men. Battered woman are another class that spend years attached to men who possess none of the measurable attributes in your theory. So, while the theory is entertaining and fun to discuss, because it doesn't cover female psychological response it is a statistical syllogism (modes tollens) in the form of IF this THEN that which precludes a whole range of other motivators that a potential partner might weigh more heavily. For example- it's commonly believed that a fat wallet beats a small johnson. My theory is that all humans want to be taken care of. The trick is finding out if that vision of "being taken care of" is shared or not. My ex seemed to believe that my taking care of her meant I should fold the laundry and chauffer her children so she could pursue her career and extra-marital lovers. (even though I'm moderately attractive, make good money, have a decent sized johnson, and am quite a compassionate and caring guy). Took me a few years to figure out we were using the same language but had completly different definitions of the words. Anyway thank you for the entertaining and thoughtful thread.

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poor performers or am i too hot for my own good? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:35:09 AM
[anyone else had this problem? ] No, but I'm willing to fly to your home town to find out.

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After you've had sex it is 2 out of 3 or goodbye Posted: 12/26/2005 8:28:20 AM
Your theory relies on a statistical syllogism and is therefore flawed. I prefer a much simpler theory. "it's all magic"

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REGRETS Posted: 11/26/2005 9:58:59 AM
Do the math: Go back in time and fix one problem with one woman or Buy 1000 shares of Microsoft stock circa 1985. I'll be the guy with the beach house and the Bentley.

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Whats the correct solution Posted: 11/26/2005 9:51:06 AM
How the H can you know(really( that he's moved on? I mean this guy has beaten two complete strangers and driving over 4 hours to do so and has stalked you?. You very lucky he "blamed" the other men and not you. Your ex is an abusive women beater. Take whatever steps you need to keep him away. Do this as if your life and your child's life depend on it. Because they probably do.

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advice about a cheater Posted: 11/26/2005 9:38:21 AM
(I'm talking beyond the original posters specific circumstances) Telling the other woman/man may not change anything. That's not the point. How you confront injustice and the evil of humans defines who you are and sometimes remaining silent is the bad choice. I don't believe slinking away silent, telling yourself you behaved with dignity is the default "right" choice. It isn't about wining or losing or about slapping back and trying to get revenge. (to me) It's about acting in a way that reinforces who you are as a moral person. telling the fiance will change what??? chances of the fiance being able to rationalize what she is told and staying with the man are high...... chance of her believing are limited... there will always be the thought of alterior motivation.... and bottom line... women know when something is wrong... intuition is a b#tch....

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advice about a cheater Posted: 11/26/2005 8:48:00 AM
You realize that by taking a position of silence you're complicit in this man's deceitfullness? It's like watching a man steal a car and saying nothing to the police. Remaining silent only reinforces the cheaters sense of accomplishment.

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Does N.American culture prolong childhood? Posted: 11/25/2005 9:21:18 AM
My opinion is that you got it all in reverse. Children in America are forced to grow up way to fast. There are far too many adult situations and concepts that children under 13 are forced to deal with. divorce, violence, sexual abuse, etc. The consumer culture glorifies "justified" violence in movies and tv, sexuality is used as a marketing tool for music and games. Half of all marriages end in divorce, most due to spousal infidelity. And all this mental crap is filtered through a brain that hasn't even fully developed yet. It's a heavy burden for a child especially since most parents are oblivious to it and are stressed about careers and getting little billy to his third weekly baseball practice.

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weird shadows on moniter Posted: 11/24/2005 9:05:14 AM
I have a friend who paid $1200 for a big screen rear projection TV 8 months ago. He had the same problem. The RGB guns went out of allignment. After screwing around with the manufacter he returned it. I believe it's a common problem.

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weird shadows on moniter Posted: 11/23/2005 3:48:45 PM
Do not ever run a magnet over your monitor screen. You run the risk of getting a permanent R,G or B tint. Instead go to your monitors setup options and degauss the monitor. (this is for CRTmonitors only). If your monitor has no degaussing controls throw it away and buy and buy one made within the last decade.

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getting to the bios Posted: 11/23/2005 3:39:52 PM
All bios chips have default settings written to nvram so it's possible to get back to defaults if you screw something. If your so screwed you can't get to the bios you can pull the cmos battery on the mobo which will drain the settings in vram. obviously this isn't something a typical home user should mess with.

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whats the farthest you have traveled for sex? Posted: 11/23/2005 3:26:10 PM
um, where do you live? Posted: 11/14/2005 4:05:27 PM i was talking this over w/ a friend and i was wondering how far will people travel for sex? so whats is yours?

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Unlucky Posted: 11/20/2005 12:22:11 PM
Good God, Are you saying I look like a over-weight middle aged bald jewish guy!?? No wonder I'm single!!!!

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What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home Posted: 11/20/2005 12:18:32 PM
@ perspecitve And you're an idiot if you believe a husband calling his wife fat and lazy and accusing her of cheating is merely name calling. "You're a brainwashed moron if you compare someone's name-calling with a fictional wife-beater who gets burned in a movie. "

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Joined: 7/9/2005

Msg: 5 (view)

Unlucky Posted: 11/20/2005 9:25:17 AM
I understand what you're saying. But(to me) it paints a picture of two people trying to dance while wearing armor and the dating becomes about me, the girl, and our defenses. I don't want to give more power to my personal history. When I finally acknowedged to myself that the marriage was dead I had to decide what to do with all that agony. I fought hard to not let it shut me down with distrust and bitterness. Survivors of trauma come out as vicitims or they come out stronger. I wanted to be stronger. Mostly that's been successful. I don't have a problem being vulnerable with someone I care about. I do have fear and doubt and it does hurt like hell when it fails. But I'm thankful that it does hurt because the alternative is living an emotionally dead life. Of course all this is made much easier because I truly believe I have surrvived the most soul destroying pain anyone can endure. No one can hurt me as much as I've already been hurt. The pain we're already felt isn't as painful as the pain we've never felt before. There is a certain fearlessness in that. Bit of the skydiver is my attitude. Sure you have a parachute and sure it's supposed to work but who gives a damm it's a hell of a ride.

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