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bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

A foolish problem for a young guy Posted: 7/29/2009 5:52:14 PM
the soul hero: as the same kinda guy i can tell ya somethings. my current girlfriend is the most beauiful and sexy woman in the world. I never talked about sex while we were in the freindship and first part of our realtionship stage. she thought i was jest wanting to be friends or did not like sex. but i dont want a realtionship based on sex either so its a while before discussing and doing. i traditonally have a low sex drive. but i love sunshine blondy ( her profile name) very much. i have enjoyed the love making more then i have ever in my life. but its because we love each other. i know its hard to wait but if the woman loves you there will no low sex drive. hang in there man.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Favorite Lingerie... Posted: 7/29/2009 5:38:52 PM
i love my woman in a nice pair of see thorough string thong underwear and a mans dress shirt with the cuffs un buttoned and unbuttoned down to the third button. its classy but sensual. i also love her in a black long dress with the slit all the way up the sides. and then of course her bday suit is awesome

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Guys, why OH why??? Posted: 7/29/2009 5:30:58 PM
honestly when you are in a boyfreind girlfriend monogomus realtionship there should not be cheating. if they cheat now they are gonna cheat later. and its better it ends now. cheating is because the cheater is insecure. and people cheat for many reasons

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

good body or face? Posted: 7/29/2009 4:36:23 PM
AMEN RENIORS DREAM: I no big fan of hollywood and they are the ones that tell us that we all need to be pretty cute and thin and hard bodied. they forget that the average person, likes people down to earth, and with great sense of humor and great hearts. they forget to potray the most simplest of things. that is personality. and people with the same personalities tend to attract each other. if you a stuck up materialistic party person thats usually what you are gonna git. if you are a down home down to earth person thats what you gonna git. what we dont realize is we all get gray and loose our teeth. womens boobs eventually sag to thier belllies and men testicles hit the toilet water. we all get old and loose our looks. so its what you built in freindship and communication that lasts. so i say its not apretty face although my gal is the most beautiful woman in the world, in my eyes. and she has the greatest body in the world at least to me (sunshine blondy is her profile name). but we also have a very intimate honest and open realtionship in everyway in and outta of the bedroom and we are the best of freinds. so is it face for me : no is it body : no its personality, intellegence, common sense non materialsism. ect that makes it for me.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

The Four favourite questions guys love to ask.... Posted: 7/29/2009 4:22:20 PM
as far as i know i have never asked these questions till we were actually in bed. most of the women i have dated have voulenteered this information before i have went to bed with them. but it has been weeks after we dated and the first time we went to bed. but also you women in some areas are jest as bad.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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The Four favourite questions guys love to ask.... Posted: 7/28/2009 9:53:06 AM
as a guy 1) There is nothing that feels better then oral sex for ,for me. i love giving and recieveing more than anything. 2)the orgsam that way is more intense and feels so much better when you cum in a womans mouth. 3) the whole aunt ruby and cousin flo thing bothers me. so when they come to town i wanna make love to my woman, so i wanna put it in another hole. 4) i dont care if a woman squirts or not. thats a novelity thats why a guy asks that and because we are so insecure bout givin women orgasams its a way to show it. 5) if a woman has been with an animal like the furry 4 legged kind i wont touch her, way too many diseases period. 6) hair downstairs thats a personal preference. me i like hair down there because of the mental stand point. i have a daughter thats nine. a woman without hair downstairs, that would be like a lil girl. i have to have carpet to munch on.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Swingers.. Posted: 7/28/2009 9:41:44 AM
but let me pose a question on this issue: 1) there is the whole aids and std thing yes but what is the difference in someone haveing sex behind someone eleses back ( and cheating) and doing it while in the same room. i know many ex swingers that have given up the lifstyle because there marriages were distroyed because then it led to cheating. once you cross the line for most people its a blanc check to pass that line whenever you want. the reasons they gave it up is because there mariages were distroyed. there came running off with the other persons spouse or having so much sex outside thelimts set that they could not handle it. I personally now enjoy monogomous sex with one partner because i can ge ta know her body and what turns her on and what dosent. and the sex is much better because there is love and comittment and devotion. and we dont f**k or have sex we make love. and its like every need and want and desire is fullfilled. so i dont understand how i did it and how people can do it now.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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what's your perfect man/woman? Posted: 7/27/2009 1:16:14 PM
@ sandorb: okay long blonde hair green eyes, 40ish, 36 c breasts with small nipples, hair downstairs tight cooch, great smile very pretty, athlectic build, sweet soothing awesome voice, gentel but firm demeanor two great teenage kids, good with money, soft beautiful skin, always know the rightthing to say and never says the wrong thing. should i go on. a pretty smile great white teeth.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Mostly the women want to change it... Posted: 7/27/2009 11:25:15 AM
@CASSAGO: Hate to burst yer bubble babe. there are some of us guys who want the realtionship and not the fb/fwb thing. they get too complicated. and not every guy is out to bang everyhtings with breasts and a clit. my gf thought i was not generally intrested in sex till we moved in toghether. she thougt i jest wanted to be friends. then when i told her that she was not a piece of meat but a lady, and that i would rather make love in a committed realtionship then jest have sex with a freind with benefits, she understood why i never brought the subject up. even us guys want a realtionship. it does even get boring for most of us hoping from bed to bed becuse there is still somthing missing. i would rather hve one woman for the rest of my life that i make love too then 100's that i bang jest to git off. and trust me after having over 70 female partners i know the one that i am with now is the best sex i ever had because i love her and there is an emotional and intimate bond whenever we make love. i love her and want only her

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Swingers.. Posted: 7/27/2009 11:09:36 AM
LET ME FIRST START BY SAYIN THIS: PEOPLES LIFESTYLE CHOICE IS THERE OWN. WHAT CONSENTING ADULTS DO IS THERE OWN BUSINESS. AND NO ONE CAN JUDGE ANYONE FOR IT. NOW ALSO LET ME SAY THIS I USED TO WANT THAT KIND OF LIFESTYLE. I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE GREAT. MY GF DOING OTHER WOMEN AND MEN. ME DOIN OTHER WOMEN. GET WHAT I MAY NOT GET AT HOME, YEAH I THOUGHT THAT WOULD BE AWESOME. NOW NO WAY IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE MY WOMAN TOO MUCH. TO ME ITS CHEATING PLAIN AND SIMPLE WEATHER YOU KNOW ABOUT IT OR NOT. WEATHER YOU AGREE TO IT OR NOT. WEAHTER YOU ARE IN THE SAME ROOM OR NOT. WHY BECAUSE THERE WAS ALWAYS SOMTHING MISSING IN MY REALTIONSHIPS UNTIL NOW. I MET A GIRL SUNSHINE BLONDY IS HER PROFILE NAME. AND FELL HOPELESSLY AND TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH HER. AND ALL MY NEEDS ARE FULLFILLED. I WOULDNT ASK HER TO DO IT AND COULDNT DO IT BECAUSE I LOVE HER WAY TO MUCH. AND I KNOW HOW MUCH IT WOULD HURT BOTH OF US. IT USED TO BE NO BIG DEAL FOR ME TO LET MY EX'S IN THE HOUSE WHILE MY GIRL WASENT HOME. NOW I DONT. I TEXT HER AND LET HER KNOW THE EX IS HERE AND WILL STAND ON THE PORCH AND TALK TO THEM TILL MY GIRL GETS HOME. TO ME SWINGING IS BECAUSE THERE IS SOMTHIN MISSING OR THERE IS INSECURITY IN SOMEONE AND THEY CRAVE THE ATTENTION AND THE PHYSICAL AND SOMETIMES THE EMOTIONAL BOND. WITH ME EVEN THOUGH I AM NT GREAT IN BED, EVEN THOUGH I AM SHORT AND FAT DUMPY AND NOT SO GOOD LOOKING. EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A SMALL PEEPEE OR I THINK ALL THAT ( SHE TELLS ME NONE OF THAT IS TRUE). SHE LOVES ME AND SHE FULLFILLS EVERY NEED AND WANT AND DESIRE. I HAVE NO REASON TO WANT ANYONE ELSE. I AM TO THE POINT I DONT LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN EVEN. MY WOMAN HAS ME HEART MIND BODY AND SOUL. AGAIN THOUGH WHAT CONSENTING ADULTS DO IS THERE OWN BUSINESS.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 75 (view)

For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:51:22 AM
AS A GUY PERSONALLY FOR ME ONCE SHE CUMS ITS ALL OVER. WEATHER I HAVE OR NOT. I LOVE THE CUDDELING AND HAVING HER HEAD ON MY CHEST AND JEST LAYIN THERE TALKIN AND RUNNING MY FINGERS UP AND DOWN HER SKIN AND TELLIN HER HOW MUCH I LOVE HER AND HOW GREAT SHE IS AS A PERSON AND HOW GREAT HER BODY IS AND HOW BEAUTIFUL SHE IS. I LOVE JEST BEIN HER MAN. FOR ME ITS THE INTMACEY BUILDING THAT MAKES THE SEX GREAT. AND LETTING HER KNOW I LOVE HER. AND THAT SHE IS THE ONLY WOMAN I WANNA BE WITH AND THAT SHE IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SEXY ATTRACTIVE WONDERFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD AND THAT SHE IS PERFECT WITH NO FLAWS TO ME. AND THAT I APPRICIATE AND LOVE HER. SEX IS SEX YOU CAN GET OFF WITH A HAND. MAKING LOVE THATS A DAY TO DAY HOUR TO HOUR THING. AND YOU CAN BE TURNED ON JEST BY THE WAY SOME ONE LOVES YOU. MY GAL LOVES ME. I LOVE HER. WE DONT HAVE SEX WE MAKE LOVE. AND FER ME THAT HAS CHANGED MY WHOLE PERSPECTIVE. I CANT JEST DO IT. THERE HAS TO BE LOVE AND CARE THERE. OTHERWISE I WOULD RATHER USE MY HAND.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:36:40 AM
@ zuglo: US NICE GUYS MAY FINISH LAST BUT WE FINISH WITH WHAT WE WANT AND ON TOP. AND WE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE TRUE FRIENDS NO MATTER WHAT. WE MAY BE SLOW IN THE PROCESS OF GETTIN THERE BUT WE ALWAYS FINISH WITH OUR GOALS AND WHAT WE SET OUT FOR. WE GET THE GOOD WOMEN.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:34:23 AM
So ladies from a gals perspective, i love my beautiful young lady very much. and i am agressive in the bedroom. she never has to tell me shes in te mood at night when we go to bed. because by the time she gets it out my tounge is downstairs. and i love new positions and some new things. but i wont spank i wont pull hair. And with her i want her to orgasam first and foremost because to me her ultimatre pleasure is more important then anything. I dont care if i have the big o or not as long as she does. and i cry almost if she dosent and i do. i treat her like a lady. i open her car door, i let her eat first, i give her control of the remote, i carry the groceries in, i bring her flowers and gifts, i worship the ground she walks on and she knows it. so am i a nice guy or a bad boy? i wear leather or a cowboy hat and cowboy boots, i wanna play music and i am the type that is outspoken and will state my opimion in a heartbeak. and i dont care who hears me. so am i a niceguy or a bad boy or the rough extierior and the good guy on the inside. oh yeah and do not insult my lady or kids. thats an ass kickin right there.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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good body or face? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:21:52 AM
AS A GUY I CAN REALLY SAY YOU HAVE LEFT OUT ONE BIG PART OF THE EQUASION. THE HEART MIND AND PERSONALITY. SEE I CAN LOOK AT BODY AND FACE AND BE A HOTTIE IN ONE OR THE OTHER OR BOTH, BUT IF SHE A BEEATICH THEN FORGIT IT. BUT SHE MAY NOT HAVE A GREAT BODY. SHE MAY NOT HAVE A GREAT FACE BUT IF SHE HAS A GREAT PERSONALITY THEN THE GAME IS ON. I WAS FOURTUNATE. MY GAL SUNSHINE BLONDY IS HER PROFILE NAME, SHE HAS IT ALL. LOOKS BODY AND PERSONALITY AND BRAINS. AND THATS RARE. BUT ITS BECAUSE SHE HAS A GREAT PERSONALITY AND IS SMART WHITTY INTELLEGENT DOWN TO EARTH AND JEST A GREATPERSON INDSIDE AND OUT THAT I LOVE HER

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Advice??From both men and women Posted: 7/27/2009 10:17:16 AM
BECAUSE US NICE GUYS DONT WANT JEST SEX. LOOK AT MY GALS PROFILE SUNSHINE BLONDY. SHE HAS A GREAT BODY. SHE HAS GREAT LOOKS. BUT THE THING I FELL IN LOVE WITH IS HER HEART AND HER MIND. SHE IS INTELLEGENT AND SWEET. EASY GOING AND AWAYS MAKES ME LAUGH. SHE CALMS ME DOWN WHEN SHE KNOWS I AM REACHING THAT BLOW UP STAGE. SHE IS COMFORTING AND CARING AND A TEAM PLAYER. SHE IS JEST EVERYTHING A MAN COULD WANT AND MORE. AND YEAH I WAS ATTRACTED BY HER PICTURE. BUT ONCE I GOT TA KNOW HER, THERE WAS SO MUCH MORE SO MUCH DEEPER. AND I FELL IN LOVE WITH HER.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Nipples! Posted: 7/27/2009 9:11:50 AM
i love playin with my womans nipples. she gets instantly turned on weather its jest touching them or licking or sucking. but i am different i dont get turned on unless mine are sucked. but as with all sex i found the more you love someone and the more emotion involved the more anysex feels better.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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does size matter? my un-scientific observations Posted: 7/27/2009 9:06:13 AM
most women i have talked to say its not how big it is but how you use it. they say that there is such a thing as too big. my soon to be bride says that she has had big and small men. and that smaller and average men know how ta use their parts. she also said that there is a point where too big is jest too big and it does nothing for women. they perfer sex with a average or small guy and that most size queens are ****es anyways

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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what's your perfect man/woman? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:16:22 AM
mine is perfect. she is strong and whitty. intellegegent and whitty. charming and a pretty smile. does the little things.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Advice Please Posted: 7/12/2009 8:50:48 AM
dont force the realtionship. or even the issue. to me it seems she is a game player. jest let her go and move on. i call and ask once or twice and then the third time its all over. she is playin ya like ah fiddle. and i am finding that if you wait the possible right one will come along. fer so long i pushed and pushed and my realtionships all fell apart. so i go to the point where i gave up. then boom there was the presnt gf and she is awesoe. nothing about her that dosent attact me. so dot look it will jest happen

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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What motivates you to look for a relationship? Posted: 7/12/2009 8:43:16 AM
there is nothing that motivates me to date except this: the girl i am dating drives me absolutely crazy in a good way when i am around her. I find myself thinking about her all the time. she is intellegent and soft. she is caing and sensitive and giving and gentel. she is a hard worker and a great mother. (she has kids of her own). i wake up thinking about her. i go to bed thinking about her. she is sexy and attractive and i cannot think about any other woman but her. we are becomming best freinds the kind that can tell each other anything without juding each other. i cant wait to call her or text her or see her. and when i do see her i smile and have fun. she is not a giddy teenager type. she shares my intrests and i share hers. and for me the love i have fer her is going beyond that puppy love stage to a real genuine biting love. and my girl is very pretty to boot. (that is an added bonus). what motivates me to date her: she is awesome. i could have lived without dating and sex the rest of my life. but there was an instant chemistry and mutual attraction. there was that burin i wanna see her again when i met her in person for the very first time. she accepts me the way i am ( the no so great looks, the little bit of a belly, that i am a jeans and tee kinda guy, that i want to learn ta play music). that i dont make much money but i love my job. the reason i date her: plain and simple i love her and she is the best thing to ever happen to me. thats why i date her.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Why does love become so complicated as we age? Posted: 7/12/2009 8:32:33 AM
because as children we look at lovein a different way. we have no expierence. we just know we love our parents and our siblings and our pets. and we look at love with bright eyes and bushy tails. as we get older we begin to have expierence. and as we get hurt and as we go through realtionships and learn things about ourslefs. and others. and because people are so different and some really have thier own agendas or some have thier own wants. some learn to use people. and then there are some who genuinely love you. for you. the wonderful young lady i am dating is the type that has no agenda. she has no self wants and will. she is not materialsitc. with me i have often heard it said no two good people end up tagether. and i find that is because good people dont feel they deserve another good person. i dont think love is comlicated. I think we make it complicated. and thats cause of expierence.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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A question for Men Regarding Online Porn/Sex Chat & Monogomous Relationship Posted: 7/11/2009 10:04:58 AM
no. i am dating a very wonderful woman from pof actually. i stepped our realtionship up a couple of notches. i have my myspace profile. but thats so friends of mine in baton rouge can get in touch with me. i also im on yahoo. again friends of mine from baton rouge. but i put on my pof profile not single not looking. I also deleted all my downloded porn. all my porn websites and got rid of it all. and when i talk to female friends i watch my limits. i also put in my profile i am dating so there is no miscommunication. now i jest pretty much email her and talk on these forums. so there hs to be a drawn defined line once you date someone. the only person i really keep in contact from my past is my ex wife and thats only because she is the mother of and has custody of my kids.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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A gentleman confused for being a sexual morsel Posted: 7/11/2009 9:49:56 AM
and ladies let me add somthing: if you are not treated this way by a man then you in my books are not gettin the respect you deserve.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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A gentleman confused for being a sexual morsel Posted: 7/11/2009 9:48:16 AM
i was taught the following. and i have a daughter and a son. and when i am back home i teach then the same: you always open a car door for a woman. you hold her coat when she takes it off or puts it on. you let her sit down first and you stand up when she comes too or walks away from the table. you make her plate for her and let her take the first bite of every meal. you let her order first and for herself at a resturant and you pull out and you push in her chair. you let her have control of the radio and tv or what movie you go see. if you are out and its cold and you have a jacket and she dont you give her yours. you never ever kiss and tell. you always treat a lady like a lady, even if she is the biggest whore on te block. you never talk down to or bad about a woman. you never raise your voice at her and you NEVER EVER EVER HIT A WOMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you light her ciggerette for her. when it comes to sex. her pleasure is first. you let her initate. you let her have the postions and do what she wants and let her guide you for her pleasure is first and ultimate. the problem i have encounted in and out of the bedroom is women tell me because you are a gentlman there is somthing lacking in sex. but when i have been intimate with a woman and have treated them this way, they always call me back. I dont know why i am not that good looking or not that great. the fact is women think gentelamn means pushover most of the time. they dont realize its respect.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 93 (view)

Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back?? Posted: 7/11/2009 9:30:20 AM
i am dating someone. and i obivously get on. yes i get on to talk to friends as i am in oregon and most of my friends are in baton rouge. also i get on to read and participate in the forums, obivously. please do not read things into it that are not there. i am very open with my gf about reading the forums and talkin to my friends. isnt really iming through yahoo or texting or calling someone the same thing. if you have a good realtionship you have nothing to worry bout.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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What is your opinion Worth? Posted: 7/11/2009 9:26:48 AM
opinions are a valuable resource for everyone. the ones i post come from many things. I dont go by lifes trends or relitive morality or what the next fashion or craze is. All my opinions are based on what has made me me. I take from lifes expierences or what my core beliefs are and post. or jest comming from watching people. It doesnt matter if i value my own opinion. Because the simple fact is i am not giving an opinion point of view or life expierence to myself. I am giving to someone who may be going through something i have already been thorugh. the problem with opinions are we usually want someone to tell us what we want to hear. not what we need to hear. Its like right now. i am dating someone, going through a divorce. I have a friend that is really religious. hes a great guy, but he has never been in my shoes, hasent walked where i have walked and been where i have been. his expierences are much different then mine. but he thinks he is my dad and my conscience. and last night in a text i told him you are not my conscience or my dad. you are my friend. your opinion is what you want me to do. (ie he is on me bout goin ta church, bout my divorce, bout the gal i am dating and such) but until he has been in my shoes and walked where i have walked all my life and had the same exact expierence. he cannot express an opinion that is really valuable. he had never been there. the point is to that story, an opinion until you have been down that same road is not a valuable tool. once you have walked down that road then is becomes valuable

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Dating a Married Man Posted: 7/11/2009 9:10:23 AM
i dont know how to approach this gentally. but i will try. Lets see the guy is married with a child, and he hasent told you. so if you ask him he is probally gonna lie and make up an excuse. already starting out bad. and the other thing is if he is cheating on his wife with you and lying to you and probally lying to his wife then how honest about others is he being with you? i would say confront and get rid of. i know from personal expierence that once a cheater always a cheater isnot true. and i also know that you need to confront him. like carrie underwood says maybe then he will think the next time that he cheats. and you may save some trouble for the next girl. and he is a married man. 70 percent of all married men will never leave thier wife and kids for "the other woman". like sugarland says. "the next time you wanna leave her bed fer mine/ what dont you stay/ im up off my knees/ you cant give me what i need/ when she begs you to go/ theres one thing you should know/ i dont have to live this way/ why dont you stay/" but both breakin up and confronting will teach him a lesson. and then also you do not wanna get the reputation as a home wrecker either. and if he keeps seein ya and he breaks up with his wife there is the whole "you broke up his marriage knioda thing". and its not him i would feel sorry for. its his wife and child. and then also if he is cheating on his wife with you and you with other women, what kind of diseases might he have that he is not tellin ya about? somthing potentially life threatening maybe? and then think of the emotional costs as well. if you are struggeling with the issue and he leaves his wife for you, then eventually you will feel guilty. and that guilt is hard to live with. its all about honesty.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

Do women really speak in code? Say one thing and mean another ... hear something you never said! Posted: 7/11/2009 8:59:25 AM
women do talk in code. women do hear things we said but take thier own uptake on them. so yes they hear things we never said that we did say if that makes any sense. women are very expressive. they use 75 percent more words then men. they are very emotional. and thats a good thing to a point. its like here is an example. men when we give directions we use landmarks. women use street names. men when they say turn this way or that way we automatically know one is left and one is right. women need left and right. men will say hey i saw somthing really kewl today. let use a camero for example. a man will say i saw a kewl 69 camero taday and thats prettymuch the end of it. a woman is gonna say hey i saw a really kewl 69 chevy camero that was a convertible with black leather interior and really kewl rims and a kickin stero system with dual exhaust and a 4bbl carburator and headers. the seats were black and its was a really kewl car. (and yes fellas there are women out there that can do that). it made a left hand turn by the mcdonalds on a street. that is jest and example. the woman code is hard ta read and listen too. i have a freind that says men only listen to 25 percent of waht women say because the other 75 percent is always tmi or repeated

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Should I not be on here? Posted: 7/10/2009 8:15:36 AM
no you are not doing anything wrong. me and the girl i met who is now my gf, we talked and emailed on plenty of fish for over a month b4 excahnging phone numbers. we then text each other for the better part of the day when we were not at work for over a month before we even met. and then we met. its nothing you are doing wrong. the only thing i can tell ya is (and i havent looked at yer profile) is maybe you need to word jest testin the waters and looking fer friends a little more storngly. the basis if all dating websites is to find and date people. me personally i wasnet lookin fer a gf when i got on pof. but i found her. jest there in fornt of me. but i have also met women who have become very very good friends. if they are not willing to take things in your time then they arent werth datin. also what i do and have done to me sometimes is thank you for your response to my profile or thank you for lookin at my profile but at this time i am not interested good luck in yer search. and that werks. or thanks fer the invite for a date but right now i am just looking fer freinds.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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how easy is it 4 a guy 2 get jealous?? Posted: 7/10/2009 8:07:09 AM
i used to be jealous. but i have learned thorugh painful expierence not to be. if they are gonna cheat they are gonna cheat. period. I look at it like this. she can talk to other guys. she can talk about other guys. hell if she wants ta sleep with another guy for a one time thing jest tell me. I know if she cares deeply for me i can be secure in the fact that she is my girl. my gf werks in the medical profession. she is groped and felt up all the time by guys. and she tells me about the guys and talks about her co werkers. but do i have any reason to be jealous no. jealuosy in a women turns me off. I have learned to only be jealous when there is good reason. the reason us guys get jealous is this: most of the time we feel the woman is outta our leauge and dont wanna loose what we have with that person. and its insecurity. at least for me. but my gf and i have a great realtionship. we let each other look at other people. god made the beautiful. and there is nothing wrong with appriciting it at all. my gf told me she would let me go ta strip clubs and look at porn. she is not jealous because she knows she has me heart mind body and soul. so if yer guy is jealous ya need ta find out why. communication is the best thing

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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What to think? Posted: 7/10/2009 7:59:11 AM
1) its over move on 2) werk is keeping him busy 3) hes a player 4) he is confused and dont know what her wants. 5)there are others he has intrests in 6) he is scared and running and the list goes on and on and on and on. in my expierence with women if they act like that i was jest something to fill the void and then they moved on.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Favourites... huh? Posted: 7/10/2009 7:55:20 AM
favorites are people that are either very good frineds or possible suitors. I am dating someone but i also have others on my favs list that are jest really good friends.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

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Once a cheater, always a cheater??? Posted: 7/10/2009 7:53:48 AM
no. i can say from expierence that is different for everyone. I have had women that have cheated on me. that are now in very succesful monogmous realtionships and have found the love of thier lives. and some still to this day we remain friends and we dont cross lines at all. (they are in realtionships that are very good and are faithful). the sad part is its not the guy they cheated on me with. also i can say i have cheated. never on a wife. but on a girlfriend. but i have met a very very special lady. and she is my dream girl. we are dating and maybe someday more. but i am to the point where i only think about her. i dont wanna look at other women. i am bout to git rid of all my porn. i would not cheat on this one. the point is once you find the love of yer life then you wont even think about it because they will keep you satisfied. and happy. susie puts me on cloud nine and i love everything about her. she is mature, bright, intellegent has a beautiful smile. is great lookin and has a great body and personality. is giving and caring and there for me when i need a freind. she also because we both have kids, that family is very important. and when we met there was an unexplainable chemistry there. we know what each other is thinking and when. i know i can trust her and she is loyal and faithful. would i wanna give that up fer some bimbo? no. so would i cheat again? nope not in the least little bit. she is a very special gal.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

what am I NOT doing to get noticed???? Posted: 7/8/2009 11:40:18 AM
jest hold yer chin up and keep on keepin on

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

How can I change his interest? Posted: 7/8/2009 11:18:51 AM
i am the same way. i have been hurt so much that it takes a while fer a woman to git ta me. and its hard fer her ta do. but once a woman has my heart and i let her in, weather friend or dating, she has a loyal friend for life. it jest takes time and effort. anything werth havin is worth werkin fer. and jest take is step by step and dont psuh

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

What Girls say and what they really mean. Posted: 7/8/2009 11:14:50 AM
i am known not to coddle people and i dont sugar coat things. men or women once a cheater always a cheater. if it was me and a gal, and she ended a nine year realtionship fer some dude there aint no chance. gave you a long time and a big part of my life. guess what its over and if she dosent ever talk to ya again more power to her.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

Things men seek????? Posted: 7/8/2009 10:33:44 AM
hey kelly sup girl? there top 1o things i seek in a woman; 1) can she hold an intellegent conversation. ( if not thats a turn off) 2) is she down to earth (dont like the better then everybody attitude) 3) is she fun to be around.( if its more fun sitting in an insurance seminar then problem) 4) is she herself (dont try to impress be yerself) 5) is family important to her? ( if my kids are a problem then they arent good enough fer me) 6) does she have common sense? (book smart are good, but need common sense fer everyday life) 7) does she have some common intrests? ( will she go ta car shows and concerts with me and by the same token will i with her?) 8) is she clean physically? ( the dirty lookin woman means she dosent take care of herself). 9) is she matiarialistic ( i dont beleive money is everything.) 10) is she loyal and honest and truthful. ( loyality is important. in a realtionship you need ta be there for each other no matter what). the top ten things that turn me off: 1) playin the slut. ( a woman is to be respected) 2) fake laugh and smile ( that means she is not true and genuine) 3) going to bed on within the first five or six dates. 4) jealousy 5) Posseveness ( cant spell that word) 6) feeling somthing i git her is unappriciated 7) dirty apparence 8) dressin up ( be yerself) 9) texting someone or talkin to someone other then her kids or family durin a date 10) lack of family importance. hope that helps. and gives ya an idea. and email me soon. and those are jest my opinions. smoking dosent bother me. drinking as long as not a drunk dosent bother me. and physical apparence (ie eye or hair color dosent affect me its whats in her heart)

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Women and flip flops. Posted: 7/8/2009 9:22:13 AM
if you cannot accept a woman for the way she dresses then why date her? its not the looks or the clothing or the boobs or the face or the hair or anyhting like that. its whats inside the heart. me on a date i like a woman ta wear jeans and a tee shirt and flip flops if thats what she i comfortable. because what we ferget bout dating is this. its the time ta git ta know each other and therefore you should be yerself. i am a jeans and tee shirt and boots kinda guy. i wear what i am comfortable in. if a gal dont like it and i cannot be me then there is no second date. plain and simple. dating is not about pretending who you arent. its sbout who you really are and lettin yer guard down and gettin ta know the other person. dont make me wear a suit and tie. i only do that to weddings and funnerals.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Why does the conversation abruptly stop when I ask for IM info? Posted: 7/8/2009 8:33:14 AM
or they are married and thinkin bout cheating and cant go through with it. or they are a guy in womans um whatever. or they are jest not interested. or they are just a very private person. or they only have a werk computer and cannot use it all that much fer conversation. or .......................................................................... the possibilities are endless. hold yer head up buddy. dont break the guy code and let them know ya are feelin rejected. move on and make friends. my problem is i never go fer the hotties until recently because i think they are outta my league. and i am findin she like who i am. she aint interested in money looks or anyhting else. she wants a sweet guy who is gonna treat her right

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 10 (view)

If I ask a first date how they think it went, is that a good idea? Posted: 7/8/2009 8:28:00 AM
i always approach it like this: i really had a goodtime with you. and i hope ta see ya again. and i hope ya had ah goodtime. so you are telling them how you feel, how you think it went but you are also giving them the pppertunity to give you thier feed back and tell them what they thought. and if the date goes badly and there is no chemistry. i tell them ya know i like ya but i think we should jest remain freinds. or i wanna see more of ya but i also wanna see others. and then they know where they stand. its all in how you approach them.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

Palin resigns! Do you think she will run for President! Posted: 7/7/2009 6:58:36 AM
you know though we can all be considered facist. facism is just taking your political view and turning into the extreme. think about it for a minute. I am a passionte consevritive suthern man. and i believe where i am at right now (oregon the bastion of liberalism even suthern liberals would say is tooliberal). but if i become govenor one day and over throw the state and become so my own agenda that i put people in jail who disagree with my political views or put them to death because they disagree with me that is facist at its very root. there is a difference between being outspoken ( as most people who take stands for right and voice thier opinion often are called outspoken). i am the first one to tell you whats on my mind and that i agree or disagree with you, and i state my views. but i am not facist. i believe that everyone has the right to thier own opinion and belief. and thomas jefferson said a little revolution every two hundred years is not a bad thing. the problem is our government by its very nature is becomming the very thing we stopped england from doing to us. and its on the national, state, county, and city levels. and unfortunately is begins with those out side of polotics that starts the ball rolling on poloticians being corrupt. for instance i am in salem oregon ( the arm pit of a wart on a pimple on gods butt). yeah slightly do not like it here. but anyways. the cops here are corrupt as they come (worse then back home in leesianah). well the cops are in bed with the das who are in bed with the lawyers who are in bed with the judges who are in bed with the politicans. the breweries are in bed with the lawyers who are in bed with the jjudges who aare in bed with the poloticians. the point is i have realized a few things about america. weather liberal or conservititve. the media tells us how we should think or is in creative news making. they want a name for themselfs and that seat at the national anchor desk. like sara palin the story should have been two seconds palin resigns as govenor of alaska and we really dont know why. but that dont make for a good story. and dont even gett me started about the media and micheal jackson. who cares depending on your point of view a very gay balck man or a very gay white woman died. ( notice the similarities between him and liz taylor). so the media and the legal system already corrupt polotics not to mention big business and buddies who have agendas. the point to all this is with us we create our own facism, it depends on how far we let the government go and how much we listen to everyone but our own slefs.

bgrumling

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Msg: 48 (view)

sex questions... a somewhat awkward situation... Posted: 7/7/2009 6:41:18 AM
crazy old cat lady: hummm never thought of that. thanks. only i need a female now. but i am not being a sa jsut thanking ya.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

sex questions... a somewhat awkward situation... Posted: 7/6/2009 10:49:50 AM
@ im a hot mess you look very nice now. thank ya ma'am.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

sex questions... a somewhat awkward situation... Posted: 7/6/2009 10:48:50 AM
work, kids, bills, soccer games making dinner, stress of bills. you obivously are not married and dont have kids. those of us who are married or live with our so's and have kids face this all the time. you really start gettin into hey we are gonna make love and then the baby cries. or one of the kids haz a bad dream. or you make plans during the day or week to do it and then by the time it rolls around you are so tired you both fall asleep and somtimes its weeks before you can get the chance to again. your situation is by no means nothing new. it happens. and you have to learn how to deal with it. those of us who are married or have so's that we live with would in a dreamworld love to do it everynight. but in reality sometimes you get to the point of sex what is that does it really exist?

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 90 (view)

You know what pisses me off? Posted: 7/6/2009 10:41:24 AM
webcams are kewl. ya'all reminded me what i need on my next trip ta wally world besides the digital camera the scanner/printer/fax/copier, new boots and such. sigh anyone wanna go shopping fer me? hehe yeah and like brad pasley said "on line i 6'5'" and i look damn good/ i have a set of six pack abs that would blow yer mind/ i live out in malibu/ i have posed for kelvin cline/ ive been in gq/ im single and im rich and i love a good glass of wine" i am 5'6' the only six pack i have is the budwiser, i only look damn good when im asleep. i am form baton rouge and stayin in oregon, the only thing i have posed for is my millitary id mug shot and drivers liscense photo (which looks like a mug shot). and gq what the hell is that. and wine well i aint no wineo. love jack daniels though. i am single and as fer rich i cant borrow a dieme to save my life. keep it real ya'all

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 146 (view)

Where are the decent men that are looking for more than just sex.... Posted: 7/6/2009 9:15:11 AM
kelly its okay. my species is really bad at that. I am one for sure that dosent care bout the sex. I enjoy making freinds. if sex happens it happens if it dont it dont. I respect women they are not jest there for sex. a woman is to be treated like a princess and she is also a person to talk to and men should be there jsut as friends. i like the hey how is yer day goin and her tellin me bout it. or the occasional cry on my shoulder bout things. or the hey ya bored lets go see a movie or bowling or dinner after work. and when i feel it moving towards the sexual if we are jest friends then i move back. friendships are not werth distroyin over sex. and sex isnt always a bi-product. I have a very good close freind in leeisianah. her name is laura she is a 4'9' blonde with a killer body. and pretty as all get out. after her husband died we would go to the movies and races. we would have dinner or go to the house and watch movies. we would drink ta gether. we would do almost everything together. she would spend the night at my house. i would spend the night at hers. but we never once saw each other naked or thought about sex. we were like brother and sister. so keep yer chin up lil lady. there are those of us who can be dates or friends without the sex. if ya ever need ta talk look me up at knhectsman@yahoo.com. i am always an open non judgemental ear, that what you tell me stays with me. weather irl freind or cyber friend

bgrumling

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Msg: 69 (view)

How should I arrange a MFM threesome? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:05:16 AM
hey. from a guys point of view there are some swinger websites you can go to www.foreplaymagazine.com and swinglifestyle.com and you can put a profile and add on those. that way they know exactly what you are looking for and they are looking for the same thing. also you can put ads on crigslists. or go to an adult bookstore and get some swinger magazines. those are the safest ways to do it because then you can chat and get to know the guys. and that way its also more secure. i know from swinging expierence that you have got to like the people you do this with. craigslist aint all that safe but these other two you can see pics alot of times and they give emails and such that you can email back and fourth. and i am from leesianah so i am a suthern gentelman. i dont think badly of you for wantin this. most of our gals are bi and into the same thing

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

Palin resigns! Do you think she will run for President! Posted: 7/6/2009 8:18:09 AM
faith2565 what are you satisfied with obama with? closing down gitmo bay and releasing the terrorists into the general population of the us? tearing down the fence between the us and mexico so more illegals can jest freely walkin and possibly steel you and my job? the fact that he is destablizing iraq by pulling our troops out so soon? that our country is becomming sosicalist by the govenmnet bailing out banks and automakers? or the fact that he wants us more involved in the un and nato sacrificein our young men and women? or the fact that taxes and gas prices are on the rise , but we get a relief of 25 dollars? or the fact that obamas plan for jumpstarting the economy is good now but according to all the financhial people i talked to will make the economy worse in ten years? the fact that the white house is telling us we are loosing the war yet when you talk to troops we are actually winning? or the fact that now spanish has to be taught in schools as a second language? or the fact that he wants to enact such strict gun control laws that americans cant have them? or the fact that one day the man is one way on an issue and then another way the next day on an issue? or the fact that he supports the palestinians more than isreal? which parts of these do you like about him? to me obama wants us all broke jobless with ileagals and terrorists running around with no way to defend ourselfs. and then he willl put the blame on someone else.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Palin resigns! Do you think she will run for President! Posted: 7/6/2009 8:08:44 AM
but here in lies the problem for obama. first he is not the first popular black man to run for president. the dnc forgets to tell you this. and i am talking bout a balck man who had a serious showing in the poles. not jessie jackson or al sharpton. i am talking about alan keyes (if anyone remembers him). he was a black conservitive republican that ran for the white house and had a good showing but didnt get eleceted. now that being said the problem is: there will never be a conservitive female president or vice president as long as the media (who is half the reason for the destruction of america). is around. the rason why they have thier own agenda. unfourtunately hillary clinton has more of a chance because of the media in becomming president than sara palin who i think is a closet liberal, or condalisa rice, who i wouldd vote for in a heartbeat, and she is balck and a woman the republicans would have a double whammy with that one. but i would vote for condalsia rice. and when i saw the news story the alaska govenettoril race is soon. she is doing the same thing blanco did in louisiana before the election. chosing not to run, becasue the party told he there was no way she was going to be re-elected. and with palin and her poupalarity being low from what i hear, i think she is retireing from polotics and lettin the big dogs have thier way.

bgrumling

Joined: 2/28/2008

Msg: 60 (view)

Do ANY guys make love rather than F***ing? Posted: 7/6/2009 7:55:57 AM
i think we put too much into the emotional aspect of sex. i think we put too much into the fact of our personal satisfaction comes first. I think we put too much emphasis on the fact that sex love making or whatever is the ultimate pleasure. sex the orgasam are for some the ultimate pleaseure. i find the physical act of sex itslef boring most times. its like a chore like walking the dog, taking out the garbage doing the dishes or changing the oil in the car. its somthing we do out of duty to keep another happy. making love can come for jest holding each other and feeling the bond and emotion. or looking into someones eyes. it can come from jest fe that one moment in time you see him/her across the room smiling and content and happy. and they look at you with love in thier eyes. its the way they respond when around you and how they act towards you. thats making love. making love is somthing that is on going outside the bed room. its somthing that happens with every phone call, with every time you get the special someone a card or a gift. for some of us it was our paretns going out and taking a drive and going nowhere but spending time together. its when she has had a rough day you messauge her or him without them asking and not wanting in return. making love is a giving of yerself for the other one 24/7. the physical act is jest a mere by product of that love. like an ex of mine. one night we laid together totally naked. we did not haver sex. but we held and rubbed and caressed each others bodies. no sexual contact. but when we fell asleep we had felt like that was the best love making ever. love making is not sex, sex is not love making. sex is a physical act. that just gets you off emotion or no emotion. the things we do in life are how we make love and the way we treat our so's thats my take on it

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