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 Author Thread: can you take a look and see what im doing wrong
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
can you take a look and see what im doing wrong
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:48:43 AM
Right then seriously... Your profile states
my name is dj, i am very romantic, and passionate... i have never and will never hit a woman, i am a complete old fashiones gentalman... i open door, puul out chairs, cook, take thier plate... i wont say more cause no will will more then likely email me... if you like these qualities and want to know more, email me and ill tell you...


It doesn't say anything about YOU as a person. As previously said, the spelling, punctuation and grammar aren't too great and yes, this does matter to many females. It shows that you have taken great care and attention and you care about how your profile looks. Some of the above does not make sense i wont say more cause no will will more then likely email me..

When I read a profile I personally like to be able to read a good 3 or 4 well written and strong paragraphs. Firstly about YOU as a person, your personality/traits, then continuing about yourself but incorporating your interests and a little about your life in general and finally something about the lady you are looking for. All that you really tell the ladies is that you are old fashioned and that you open doors etc etc etc. It tells nothing of you as a guy.

To combat the spelling errors firstly write your profile into word or something like word and this will high-light all errors which makes it easier for you to correct, then copy and paste onto your profile.

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
help
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:29:29 AM
Not post a duplicate profile review, which is against the ground rules of PoF.

Here is your original post:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12994992.aspx

Continue with the above thread as this will end up being deleted.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Time machine - where would you go and who would you meet?
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:58:09 AM
I would go forward in time to say 4-5 years from now and take my 13yr old son with me.

Strange I know but at the moment I am having quite a few (teenage) problems with him and he cannot see that things WILL work out in the end! I would love to prove to him that things will turn out alright! What if they don't? Well at least we will be able to see what has gone wrong and be able to face them together.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Caster Semenya
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:49:19 AM
If she has lived her life as a female then that is what gender she should be classed as.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How do I express interest?
Posted: 8/23/2009 8:10:50 AM
How about sending her a note or e-mail stating that you had enjoyed your outing with her and would she be interested in doing it again some time. I wouldn't, at this moment in time, state how you feel but just see how it goes. Do you speak to her at work? Failing the note/e-mail, have a conversation on the same lines. I am sure if she wasn't 'interested' then she would say so. Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Please Give me help with my profile
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:45:47 AM
Hi there Smilemm

The first thing I notice about your profile are the pictures are all of a very similar pose. You have a beautiful smile/laugh but every shot is just head and shoulders. You state that you are average size - guys are visual... Get a full length body shot of yourself to prove to them that you are average size.

Don't tell the guys what your friends think about you (they are hardly going to say that you are boring, sad, untrustworthy etc are they?) Tell them what makes you happy, what you do for fun etc.

To be honest your profile, in my opinion is just as your size is... average. Nothing really stand out about it (sorry if I am being too blunt here). It lacks personality.

What I used to tell people was to write three (or four) strong paragraphs the first about YOU as a person, your personality/traits. Then something incorporating your interests and your life and finally something about the type of guy you are looking for. Add some Pazazz to it - a bit of Oomph but don't tell them everything about yourself, leave them guessing just a little bit. Intrigue them and interest them!

Oh and one last thing - your mail restrictions are 'very restrictive'. Not many guys would be able to get passed first base. Delete a couple of them at least - you can always weed out the ones you aren't interested in easily enough.


Male
Age between 35 and 47 Change to under 50
Live in United Kingdom
Live within 75 miles. Delete, the 75mile radius is not always accurate
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. everybody makes mistakes
You must have a picture to contact this user. Many guys don't have pics - you could be stopping your dream guy from contacting you beauty is only skin deep
Must not be looking for Other Relationship you can weed these out yourself
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter ditto above
Must not be looking for Activity Partner ditto above
Must not do drugs
Must not be married


Good Luck

Obviously THIS is just MY opinion it is not meant to offend in any way, shape or form.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
football season
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:13:46 AM
zedhead
as the supporters are seriously pissed off at mo.esp after a 7-1 hiding last night.what an embarresment i was hopeing russell slade left the team up there to make there own way home and dont pay them this week as they dont deserve it
It WAS a great game though - well for us anyway!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Would you do any job rather than be unemployed?
Posted: 8/16/2009 9:21:14 AM
I am being made redundant on 4th September. I was in this same situation this time last year and was out of work for 7 months - I do NOT want the same thing this time so I will take whatever I can get but continue searching for something along the lines of what I am experienced in. Not only would I lose out on my pay packet but also my working tax credit which is a much needed boost to my income. Last year I verged on major depression and do not want to go down that same road.

Any job is better than no job in my opinion
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
help with my profile
Posted: 8/15/2009 1:26:23 PM

would appreciate it if you would do the same critique for me.


mindmeeting... It is again the PoF rules to ask for a review of your profile within somebody elses review request, therefore I suggest that you create your own personal review request. However, for the regulars on here and people that have read MY profile I am sure they will also notice that YOURS (or parts of it) is copied from mine....
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
comics
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:31:27 PM
When I was younger I first started out with Bunty and the paper cut out dolls and clothes! The stories I used to make up with them in my Grandads shed!!! I then progressed to Jackie and Diana and then onto Just 17 and Smash Hits with all the song words
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
keeping cool on muggy nights so you can sleep
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:04:05 PM
FoxyMoron, that is me exactly! I tend to go to bed and read first but I always read on the side of the bed which I don't generally go to sleep on, when it is lights out time I move to the cold side of the bed and then start with the pillows! I have the same quilt on year round - my duck feather - it is lovely and warm in winter but also cooling in the summer.
Don't think I could sleep on damp sheets - if I remember correctly, when I was with my now ex, we always used to argue over who didn't get to sleep on the wet patch!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Bit of technical help needed regarding hotmail - Can anyone help?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:42:28 PM
Download FireFox and try access it through there (http://www.mozilla.org/) I tend to use this rather than IE but I am not technically minded. I am not having any problems
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
karl malden
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:26:42 AM

Blimey.. they are all poppin off ...

Who the hell is next.. ???


Mrs Slocombe from the Are You Being Served comedy also died yesterday.... 20 days off her 87th birthday
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
NEED PROFILE REVIEW
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:29:50 AM
Hi there Blue

Firstly, get some more pics of you smiling and a full body shot too. You are a handsome man so flaunt that!

Your actual about me, in my opinion, needs work. It is very repetitive which gives off the boring tone. Yes, you are handsome, but some will not think so therefore making yourself sound arrogant. You say that you are unique (twice) but you do not say what makes you so unique - ie. different from any other guy on here. You say that you are passionate (twice) and that you like cuddling (many times) which comes across as clingy/needy. Right that is the negatives out of the way with - sorry if they are too brutal.

What I have suggested before is to firstly read the tips at the top of the page (in green) and incorporate them into your profile. Write a paragraph about YOU as a person, what makes you tick, laugh uncontrollably, what makes you different from the other guys. Then write another paragraph still about you but incorporating your interests, dreams, goals, etc and finally something about the type of lady you are ultimately searching for - her personality/traits etc.

Don't lay too much emphasis on the touchy-feely interests - it doesn't come across as you probably intend it do.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Free vs Pay Dating Sites
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:19:55 AM
Read the posting rules - in particular this one...

If you're NOT ASKING FOR A PROFILE REVIEW - your thread WILL BE DELETED. This forum is not a platform to just rant or make general observations about other people's profiles.

Aside from the above, it just seems that you are going for quantity rather than quality...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
The rules of the game, Dating demystified
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:49:24 AM

Women are intrsted in the fact you were in the SAS, an F1 racing driver or climbed mt everest, they simply want you to UNDERSTAND them, not solve their problems.


......typo, should read NOT intrested.


Typo no 2 at least... intrested should be intErested

Another tip: The majority of women tend to like men who can spell correctly too! Just for future reference of course!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How does it look?
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:16:11 AM
Hi there BlackHat

I read your profile through and thought of a couple of things to say, unfortunately everything went out of my head when I found your AIM and MSN addy's at the end! Delete, Delete, Delete before the mods delete you! It is against PoF Rules to have any other contact details on your profile.

All in all, I did enjoy what I read...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Does my profile look fake to you?
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:12:08 AM
Hi Melissa

Are you actually asking us to review your profile or asking about the guy?

If you are looking for a review just clarify this and I am sure many will do.

However, if you are just asking about the guy then you are in the wrong forum, but... as previously said, just block him and/or report him! He cannot delete your account! Do NOT give him any personal details, regardless of whether it is myspace/facebook details.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Profile Review
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:53:43 AM
Hi there Cole

Firstly, your pics need re-doing. The one where you are wearing your headphones, there is a lot of clutter in the background looking untidy. Your current primary pic is the best that you have, although would be better without the hat. Get outside, get a mate to take a load of photos of you (both full body shots and head and shoulder shots) and choose the best eight to upload.

There are a few typo's and spelling mistakes in your profile. Run it through a spell checker, although it won't pick up 'allot' as a mistake due to this being an actual word - just change that spelling to a lot .

Do not say in your profile that you can be 'smothering' This screams out needy and clingy which is not attractive, especially to somebody looking for long term. Your profile stops and starts, you mention in your second para that you are particular about music and end it there until we get to the final paragraph where you touch upon your music interests again. Combine these together. You spend a lot of time with family and friends from what you have to say, would there be room for a long term partner in there? I do not understand the To love is to quote - that is if it is a quote, it just seems to appear out of the middle of nowhere and then you mention that you can be shy and reserved. Personally I find the profile quite confusing and lacking in quite a bit of information about YOU as a person.

Read the tips at the top of the profile review page (in green), follow them and do a re-write. What I tend to suggest is to write a complete, coherent paragraph about YOU as a person, your personal traits, what makes you tick, laugh uncontrollably etc. Then, another paragraph about you but incorporating your interests, your friends and family life and finally a paragraph about the lady you would ultimately like to meet. Do not say what you do not want, what she must not be, you can wheedle the ones you don't like when they message you.

Your message restriction stop anybody looking for Friendship from being able to contact you. Long Term and or Dating all start off at the Friendship stage so why restrict this? If a lady IS just looking for Friendship, she is hardly likely to contact somebody who is looking for Long Term.

Good Luck

Ps: Obviously, this is just MY opinion - it is not meant to offend in any way, shape or form.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
*See forum name*
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:46:00 PM
*See forum rules*

PROFILE REVIEW FORUM RULES - CLICK HERE
Only Threads Asking for a Profile Review
DO NOT post a new thread every time - Click Here

Have You Recently Updated Your Profile and Want More Comments?
DO NOT post a new thread every time you make a change to your profile, but rather, continue to use your original thread. Click on your My Forums link, (or HERE) in the upper right, to locate your old review thread and reply to it stating you've made changes and would like further opinions.

Your original thread is right here...
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12623883.aspx
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Ok I've just updated how is it now?
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:35:55 PM

I lost my sight back in 1982 but I've never let that hold me back
I am sure there is a story behind this (or I am sure you can form it into a third party story), and although I know you won't be going for the sympathy vote etc, I think if you could add into your profile it would give more of any insight about you.

 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
wish i had wrote that song
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:27:16 PM
American Pie by Don McClean
Thriller by Michael Jackson
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ok I've just updated how is it now?
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:16:52 PM
Hi there Bob...

When I read the previous review about not liking profiles done in the third party I did think 'Oh No...' but, decided to decide for myself and I was pleasantly surprised. Although it IS written in the third party, there is plenty of information that gives us an insight of you. I would personally like to know more about Bob as a 'person' though.

One thing that did confuse me is that you state you are looking for 'Friends' yet you have a first date listed which states that you would like to discuss what you are looking for in a relationship and if you feel any compatibility. This could well scare off some ladies that are just looking for friends. I would personally delete the compatible etc part or change your looking for to Dating.

Good Luck

Ps: Gus is such a cutie...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Dating Sites..what a con some are!!!
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:13:36 AM

Have you not seen all the fit busty women on the forums!
But, But, But... Not EVERYONE was to see fit busty women!!!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Dating Sites..what a con some are!!!
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:30:19 AM
When I was naive enough to go on a paid dating site, I would just try it out for 1 month - got a couple of messages during that month but you could guarantee the minute my subscription ran out I would get e-mails from the site saying that I had so many messages waiting to be read. For one time only I re-joined - the messages resulted in a total waste of time and money! Soon learned my lesson on that! It ain't only you guys that get conned!

Yes, some of the sites are all in a group and they pass on the profile to each other. I had messages from sites I had never even heard of and when I went to check the site out, the profile was exactly the same as I had elsewhere. I am now only a member on here (I think).

Happy
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 169 (view)
 
PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........????
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:19:01 AM

I am saddened anytime I hear a father wanting to be in his child(ren)'s life and being denied that opportunity by a selfish mother.
This could also be reversed! I did everything I could to get my son's father to take an interest in him when we split up (our son was 5 at the time) but No... he was not interested and still is not particularly interested. Do not tar all mothers as being selfish and denying the father their rights!

OP - I hope things do work out for you - this is going to be a long and bumpy road as you are already finding out. You say that your ex has taken a U-Turn in matters, maybe this is down to baby-blues, maybe she is just wary - without the full story and background people are going to come to their own conclusion. No matter what, be there for your son. Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
England V Germany - Euro Final
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:57:01 AM

We're bound to get beat as usual


Think Positive!!!

We have got THIS far so who knows... I will certainly be cheering them along
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Not sure where to post this
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:17:03 AM
The sent message will only be deleted from YOUR sent box - it will still be delivered to the recipient, you just won't know when the message is read or deleted
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is my profile appealing?? why or why not!!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:12:52 AM
Hi there lulu - Obviously I'm not a guy so cannot say what they think of your profile, however, I don't really think you DO mention enough about yourself. Yes you mention the type of guy you would be happy to meet and you mention about your interests but there is no mention of anything about YOU as a person - your personality, what makes you tick and/or giggle uncontrollably! What is a trait of yours that would have the guys wanting to know more?

You have set your mail restrictions to nobody over 40 so they shouldn't be able to message you.

You are on 9 peoples favourite list so you must be doing something right! You have been on the site since February - remember, Rome wasn't built in a day, be patient and enjoy.

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I am confused
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:53:35 PM
Hi there DJDan... Pop along to the profile review forum, let them look through your profile and tell you what may be wrong = personally I feel your profile doesn't say enough about YOU as a person but for a full review go to the correct forum
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
The Man and His Music
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:27:39 PM
One of my favourite songs of his is probably one of his least popular/remembered - Farewell My Summer Love - I think it was released in approx 1985 and was a very slushy 'summerified' song, but still holds special memories for me...

To all that are calling his such and such, he was, a fantastic musician, putting aside his private life, nobody will come up with songs that he has and for that he WILL be remembered.

Yes, at the moment there will be everything thrown about about him, the good, the bad and the god damn ugly but... when all is said and done, he WAS a great musician! Who can deny him that????

Lynx: I am sure you are right in what you say about recapturing his own childhood - his father ruled him with a rod of iron and I am sure that this was just his 'escapism'. Maybe her went about it all in the wrong way but... he DID do himself A LOT of damage with those few 'mishaps' and these will be the things people remember him for! Unfortunately...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Wasps
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:24:05 PM
I got stung many years ago by walking through a wasps nest - yeah I know I shouldn't have been walking over through it and disturbing them but... There were 5 of us... Me and my sis were 4th and 5th in line walking through the woods and down the bankings, and lo and behold, we were the last ones to walk over this bladdy nest but who did the bugger attack??? Me and Sis!!! Bearing in mind that this was in the 70s and sis and I were wearing sweet lil hot pants...!!! Luckily, my neighbour, when we eventually got home screaming and crying had heard what had happened and came round with the vinegar!! Worked wonders! Then a few years later, I was happily walking along the street by my Aunts and felt a 'tickle' by my ear, I swiped at it and consequently got 'stung' by a bee... My Aunt was having a 'tuppaware' party at the time and her friend immediately suggested soaking my thumb in either vinegar or bi carb of soda - the vinegar worked wonders!

I have since heard that 'weeing' on a sting or as such cures the pain/itch but also more recently apparently, wasps and other bugs, hate the scent of vinegar, so to prevent them entering your house, spray a combination of 1pt vinegar and 5 pts water in the air and they will avoid the area. Vinegar has so many uses - google it and be surprised!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
would any women go out with man who wore a braclet or wristbands or even necklaces ?
Posted: 6/26/2009 10:48:10 AM
There is loads of the surfer type jewellery about and I think it is just whats the trend is at the mo etc. Have seen many wearing them round their necks too, wouldn't class them as a necklace as such but they still look good. Also saw a guy the other day with an anklet on too, again in the leather twisted strands
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 717 (view)
 
Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:58:42 AM

Well guys & girls my experience hasn't been good. My two boys live with me full time. It was never a choice. They wanted to be with me & I'm their dad - simple as that. However after reading some of the post's on here I have to agree with most of the men. As soon as most women find out I not only have kids but that they live with me the best I can hope for is a nice comment or two. Generally it means the premature end of any possible relationship.

Sad! but true! I have resigned myself to the fact that I will have to put any chance of a relationship until the youngest has flown the nest. This means I have up to a decade to wait and will be in my 50's before I can think about it. Not an attractive prospect but there is no alternative. I'm not entirely sure why so many women think that my kids will always come before them. Ladies!!! Its not about putting them first. They are dependent on me you aren't!!! If that elusive woman comes along that makes the good times fantastic & the sad times bearable then they become an equally important part of your life.


WOW! Does this really happen?!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is it appropriate?
Posted: 6/24/2009 12:16:29 PM
When he says replacement, he could just mean a female companion. I wouldn't say there is any time limit on when he should/could start looking for a companion, however, if he is looking for romantic involvement too it could well be too soon. Much depends on the individual in my opinion. What is his state of mind? Does he mope around missing his wife? Is he a loner? Could you get him involved in the running group? Get him interested in an outside activity or something like? Or just be a shoulder/friend for him to chat with...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
where are you planning on going on holiday
Posted: 6/24/2009 10:43:47 AM

Im off to Menorca in Sept for 11 days with my daughter and a bunch of family friends, should be brill, am really looking forward to it, just gotta pay it off and save spending money now!! Gulp...


I'm off to Menorca 4 weeks tomorrow for 2 weeks with my lad - Cannot wait!!!
Then going to Blackpool for long weekend in August and hopefully days away throughout the summer!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
do i need to sell myself?
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:38:22 AM
Hi there Dan

A short answer to your question - YES! You DO need to sell yourself. There are many more guys on here than girls so you need to make your profile stand out and be remembered!

Firstly, your photos - your primary one should be full head & shoulder shot, without hat or dark sun glasses. The ladies like to see a guys eyes, they like to see you smiling. So get back out there in the sunshine and take lots more pics (along with a full length pose) and choose the best ones - there is room for eight in total!

Secondly, Interests - pubs and people is not anywhere near enough interests to capture a ladies interest! You ought to have between 8 and 16 - a combination of things that you enjoy by yourself, that can be enjoyed as a couple and if you get stuck for some, use generic interests such as reading, music, cooking, tv etc.

Thirdly, About Me - Capitalise I throughout where you talk about yourself. Don't abbreviate (atm), run the whole thing through a spell check (copy and paste onto word and that will highlight all the typo's). Do not use negatives to attract somebody - think positive. Where you mention about your now ex moving to Australia, you still sound bitter and hurt about it - not attractive. A lot and at least are both 2 words - not alot and atleast. Check and double check everything before submitting! At first you may not notice any mistakes, but a second or even third reading can throw something up that you didn't notice.

Read the tips at the top of the profile review page (in green), there are lots of helpful bits and pieces there. Usually what I suggest is for somebody to write a paragraph (3 or 4 strong sentences) about YOU as a person - our personality, what makes you tick or laugh uncontrollably. Then continue with another paragraph (again, 3 or 4 strong sentences) about you but incorporating your interests and finally yet another paragraph about the type of lady you are hoping to attract.

The testimonial may not be doing you any favours. As nice as they are to see what others think about you, it always makes me wonder 'If he/she is so nice, why aren't you with them'

Brutal? Sorry, it is just MY opinion and not meant to offend in any way, shape or form. Obviously it is your choice whether you take some or all or none of the advice.

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
how law abiding are you
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:17:18 AM
Without a shadow of doubt I would gratefully accept it! Better in my pocket than anyone elses!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Do you know why asking a girl is a waste of time?
Posted: 6/21/2009 12:26:12 PM
Women are the best people for a guy to ask a question about dating because we know what we want/like - unlike the guy, which is why he is asking the question in the first place.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Opinions from Ladies
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:32:31 AM
You are off to a good start - your photos are alright but some could do with replacing - namely the blurred ones and the 2005 photo. It seems to be the general concenus that photos older than 6-12mnths are a no-no.

As for your actual about me, there are a few typos in an amongst so would benefit from a run through a spell checker. I don't like the three questions - No lady is going to answer no to the first or third question - even if No is the true answer.

The ladies need to know about YOU as a person, your personality, what makes you tick or laugh uncontrollably as a first paragraph/introduction. Leave what you have for your second paragraph and then do a further paragraph about the type of lady you are hoping to meet.

Being patient IS the name of the game on internet dating - many ladies will look at your profile because you know how they enjoy window shopping. To get them to 'make a purchase' you need to have an outstanding profile - to get their attention and leave them wanting to know more!

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
no ladies are leaving me messages dont get it
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:18:43 AM
Hi there Mike

Your profile holds some good substance but as previously said, it needs splitting up into readable paragraphs to make it more reader friendly. It also needs a thorough spell check as many words are misspelled. When you split it into paragraphs make sure you keep each paragraph relevant to each other. What I mean by that is, in the first paragraph talk about you as a person, follow this with a separate paragraph talking about your interests and finally a paragraph about the lady you are ultimately hoping to meet.

I am sure your photos do not do you justice. A clear, well lit, head & shoulder shot with a dazzling smile and twinkling eyes could really do the job perfectly!

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
BBW and disabled
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:13:27 AM
No, this will probably get deleted when the mods realise that it is a duplicate thread - or if will just go back into the pages and beyond!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
BBW and disabled
Posted: 6/21/2009 10:30:38 AM
Maggie, you are only suppose to have one review request running at any one time - here is the link to the one you posted last week

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12541094.aspx
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
If you would please .. an honest review :)
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:32:50 AM
Hi Snafflr (B)

Firstly, as good as the pics are, they are all the bladdy same and yes, far too obvious that they were taken at the same time. You ever heard of 'variety is the spice of life'? Get some variety amongst them. Keep one, yes one, well maybe two then of the close up facial pics (your current primary pic and the thinking one are very attractive) and the full length body then get out again with your mate holding the camera and snap away, maybe over the weekend - as I say, variety is the key and you don't need the make up or airbrushing etc

Although there is some great substance in your about me, and I did chuckle a couple of times throughout it lacks expansion on your interests. You enjoy table tennis - do you play competitively? Where have you travelled to etc? You vaguely touch upon the subject of your children, maybe (only maybe) mention their ages. I am presuming that they are fairly young - although I could (and it has been known in the past) be wrong.

You fail to mention what kind of lady you are ultimately seeking. We need to know this lil bit of info. It would be pointless a lady contacting you that was and outgoing extrovert if you are looking for a homely introvert (or words along those lines anyway!)

Good Luck and Happy fishing...
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
fisherman in need of advice
Posted: 6/21/2009 4:02:43 AM
Your first date is longer than your actual about me and you are only looking for friends. Are you really only looking for friends? If so, forget about the first date section. If, in reality you are looking to meet somebody to date then you know what to do.

There is a section wholly devoted to interests - you have none. This can mean one of three things. a) You have no time for interests therefore you would have no time for a lady. b) You have no interests = boring! c) You couldn't be bothered completing the profile properly = lazy! Get a good mix of between 8 & 16 interests, some which are solely your interests and some which you can enjoy with somebody else. Separate each interest with a comma so that they turn blue and become searchable.

Your about me is pretty non-existent! Write a paragraph about YOU as a person, your personality, what makes you tick or laugh uncontrollably. Then follow this up with a paragraph about you but incorporating a couple of those interests that you are going to add in the 'interests section'. You have to sell yourself, make yourself attractive to the reader. Remember there are more guys on here searching for ladies so you need to stand out from the crowd. Finally, something about the lady that you are ultimately hoping to meet.

Think about what you are writing, run it through a spell checker to make sure there aren't any little typos, read the tips at the top of the page (in green) and then come back to this thread and ask for it reviewing again.

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Review plz.
Posted: 6/21/2009 3:27:30 AM
Write in sentence and paragraph form throughout! Lists are lazy and look like you have just flicked through a dictionary and chose a few choice words.

Write a short paragraph about YOU as a person, your personality, what makes you have some of the qualities you list? Secondly write another paragraph about you but incorporating your interests, work life, etc. Finally something about the girl you are ultimately hoping to meet.

Your pics are decent (although I do not like people having children on their profile, even though it is your nephew doe his mum/dad know you have his pic on a dating site?) Love the way all the pics are shown in the sun and then you come to the UK shot and low and behold we have snow! Grrrrr...

Good Luck
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Does Married but separated mean women see you as married
Posted: 6/20/2009 3:00:18 PM
In my opinion, provided there is no chance of any reconciliation etc and there is no drama between you and your ex then I wouldn't have a problem. However, as already said, some ladies do see the separated tag as a red flag, in that you are currently just seeing what else is available while you and your ex sort things out. Technically, you are still married but be honest about it and it shouldn't be a problem. Please do not go down the road of changing your status to single!
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Good idea? Any experiences?
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:13:32 PM
I am sure something like this was brought out a few years ago - it died it quick death then too. People do not want to go around wearing bands stating they are desperate, sorry, single and I am sure there will be certain 'attached' males who will get one for their Friday nights out etc. The best way to find out if somebody is single is purely by conversation and body language.
 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Just gave my profile a complete makeover...
Posted: 6/20/2009 1:35:49 PM
You can't delete this, it will just die a natural death IF you continue with the original thread. Just click on the link below and post there:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12430749.aspx

 sunflora
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Summer is Here, How Many of you CANT Swim...
Posted: 6/20/2009 11:23:59 AM
My son had swimming lessons at school as an actual 'subject' in years 6 and 7. He loves the water and so do I, although I wouldn't class myself a 'strong' swimmer I am one of the first jumping off the boat into the deep blue sea on holidays!
 
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