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Thread: Embarassing yet unavoidable
ThirdChakra
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Embarassing yet unavoidable
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6/23/2009 11:56:26 AM
It happens because of the way external air enters the vagina during sex. Usually through a form of Tantra.
Kinda like it when it talks back to me. Nothing to be ashamed about.
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The drug thing.
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10/23/2008 12:29:24 PM
People who do drugs have ****ed up body language. The last time I smoked weed had to be 1985. And I stopped for two reasons..
1. because It made me paranoid and was no longer fun.
2. because my best friend at the time was smoking & drinking excessively and tried to kill me.
So to answer your questions, I'd never take a puff because it's not enjoyable to me. If I want to relax, I'll meditate or use dozens of other methods for that.
I've dumped girls who have admitted that they smoke weed. In my past experience, they are dead fish in the sack too, and sometimes their natural attraction/pleasure neurology in there brain is so whacked, they can be paralyzed in lust one second, and go instantly in accounting mode the next. That's the best I can describe it. It's just freaking weird. But every girl I've met that smoked weed was like that.
I know that's much more than what you asked for, but hey, it's my day off and I don't get on this site that often. Hope it helped.
G
ThirdChakra
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Why do you think long term relationships either fail or succeed?
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10/23/2008 12:15:01 PM
I think communication is the biggest for me. Of corse, trust, honesty and respect are great, but are perceptions that each person will see differently, and at different times during the relationship. In other words, people's attitudes change. So I think it makes just as much sense to say that being adaptable to new ideas and circumstances also play a pivotal role for sticking with it during the hard time.
Ironically, most women who play the online game are usually the first ones to indicate that they are bad communicators, simply by not returning email..for one 'reason' or another. Clues like that, from the very beginning shouldn't be ignored.
Grant
ThirdChakra
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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
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10/23/2008 12:04:04 PM
Could be any number of reasons. She might have had a bad experience before. She could have been forced to do that, when it wasn't in her best interest.
It's also possible that you might not taste good to her because your reproductive system is out of balance (happens with female yeast infections) because you're diet is missing those essential vitamins & minerals:)
There's the possibility also that you're not satisfying her to a point where she wants to feel like she's yours. Ask yourself if you're turning her on as much as you could beforehand.
Releasing your energy in that way, I think, is a gift. That's your 'chi', dude. Your male energy that you are sharing with her. Does she deserve it?
Grant
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Dead Fish F*ck
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10/23/2008 11:54:12 AM
You might not be doing a good job in leading. And I mean that with respect.
Show her. Lead her. You can even mentioned things that you imagine the two of you doing. But unless you want a girl that's more "yang" than you are, which there's nothing wrong with that, I'd get more educated in the Alpha role of your relationships.
G
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Is sexual attraction based on fetish?
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10/23/2008 11:49:45 AM
It's never just one thing. It's a series of mating cues that you can reference from just about any animal in the animal kingdom.
David Deangelo has done years of research about the subject of attraction. To answer your question..
"What is it that attracts us to a particular individual?"
Body language, voice tonality, the way a person walks, how fast or slow their movement is, their lifestyle, their personality traits.
"Obviously, a heterosexual man isn't going to be attracted to all women despite the fact that he is oriented to women"
I'd agree with this. I'm repulsed by some women, and I find other women really attractive. With me, I think it's the way she walks that gets my attention first. That says a lot about what might be possible later, but her attitude comes through her body language.
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ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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5/1/2008 5:58:31 AM
I studied Shiatsu at ASMT massage school back in 2004. I didn't like it because I'm tall, you work on your client on the floor, and it was really hard on my back. But it did feel really good.
If one has a want to be intimate with other women, then do it. The thought is there for a reason. I make no judgments about another persons sexuality. It just is what it is, and I honor that. It's just a conscious choice. It could be something related to Karma. Past-lives (which I know very little about). Who knows for sure, except God.
referring to the black dot in the white and also the white dot in the black - it does not imply two yin's are more naturally compatible than two yangs.....it simply means referring to this thread, in my mind, that we all have a bit of the other in us - and it is a perfect balance
It's SUPPOSE to remain a perfect balance. And then we live in a western culture that is still in its infant stages of the Tao. One of the 5 Elements of water- water is YIN. Have you ever noticed that when you ease your open palm in a pool of water slowly, the water embraces itself around your hand without making a sound?
But when you move your hand quickly toward the water, the water resists it, and moves the water outward from your hand. Or a bullet fired from a gun into water (while I was watching a Discovery Channel show called "Mythbusters")... the bigger and more powerful the bullet was, the less distance it traveled in the water. In fact, the bullet fell apart like a rock meeting hammer.
The nature of YIN is acceptance and nurturing. Water embraces water.
I'm not saying that you're wrong and I'm right. I'm simply saying that this is what I've learn on my journey so far
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/30/2008 1:47:55 AM
honestly, to me, it has tones of a cult leader in a very strange way
I don't think so. A cult leader manipulates and threatens with fear of loss, for one thing. I teach women to NOT give their own power away to those that do not appreciate it.
i'm glad you think you are offering so much to these women and i'm sure opening to love is always a blessing
I'm not just glad, I'm thankful for being able to give my love away, even when I don't always get it back. This is called "unconditional love." I love myself fully as I am, so no outward validation is required.
how come no other oak trees are around?
"..I would never expose my lover to "double-up" on YANG energy. It sucks the life right out of poor YIN. Ever see a women who looked like she was 80 years old, but was actually 50? Exposure to too much male energy is actually speeding up the age process, whereas two YIN's + 1 YANG = Happy, giggly cuddle bunnies..."
Imaging having two dominant males in the mix...who would lead? Who would mediate and be the YANG for the YIN(s)?
Do you actually WANT to see two men cuddling?
i also have a very clear knowledge of chi, having done t'ai chi chuan for 23 years.....and ki - the japanese word for the same life force energy - for it is at the heart of shiatsu and the essence of everything, according to that belief system and my view of understanding also. so, please be equally respectful of others and careful of your assumptions of their knowledge, or lack of it, in your opinion.
? I don't understand what you're talking about. Giving unwarranted advice is something I try to avoid giving, and if your letting me know that I unintentionally did that, thank you.
Thank you for your questions. I'm a student to be a better teacher.
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/30/2008 12:42:53 AM
I can't help it. This is going to be a long (but very educational) post. My fingers are tired.
"I do apologize thirdchakra for not answering u earlier"
No apologies:)
"I don't see the question u have referred to that u wish me to answer."
The second line that has the "?" on the end.
"Your chi is a little tilted this evening u think?"
Only when I walk with too many rocks in my pocket. Are you being a smartass? Careful, I might like you too.
"R u a little tight between ur shoulders?"
Why? Are you offering a free massage? I live much too far away from you, but my shoulders are a little tense from typing all this.
"The yin u speak of is a direct relation to the female but isn't there in the female a small drop of testoserone which does indeed help us, being we were made from a mans rib?"
I think you're refering to the white dot in the black portion (yang) and a dot of black in the white portion (yin) of the symbol. Between a man and woman, the dots represent what is missing in each partner. For example..
There is a small portion in YIN that can only be fulfilled by the male
And a small portion found in the YANG, which can only be fulfilled by the woman
When male and female are bonding, there is a point beyond just sex, that occurs where sensuality becomes an enlightening experience. Those parts are fulfilled, and the two together 'feel' like they become one. If you look at the chakras, this deeper level of consciousness includes all of the characteristics like love, honesty, trust, etc. So if these characteristics are missing..like if the woman cannot yet trust the man, this level of intimacy can't be reached.
In the past, I've had women tell me that attempting that going to that level was scary for them. They simply live life like a large majority of people in the U.S. with only their first three chakras open and balanced. I hope this answers your question.
"I will go a bit deeper and say that a woman that would get with two males would indeed want full attention on her,to lavish her,adore her and yet when it is done she will not want to stay with both"
That's perfectly fine for girls who want to be "spit roasted", feminine men who never take the time to TEACH and TRAIN his lover about HEART-CENTERED, spiritual connections together. Consider this...
My lover knows beyond the shadow of a doubt that I trust her. Why? Because I've taught her how to open and ballance her 4th chakra (the heart). When this is open, you can accept and give unconditional love. Without this, and possibly other training to trandsend the ego, you have a bunch of people who don't know what they are doing, they don't fully trust each other, and they are doing nothing more than having sex (living in the first three chakras)...
A.K.A : A threesome
I only build and manage INTERDEPENDANT CIRCLES. It's about awareness and compassion for others, and I would never expose my lover to "double-up" on YANG energy. It sucks the life right out of poor YIN. Ever see a women who looked like she was 80 years old, but was actually 50? Exposure to too much male energy is actually speeding up the age process, whereas two YIN's + 1 YANG = Happy, giggly cuddle bunnies.
"I do however feel that the man would indeed be more willing to keep the two women together with him for long term"
That's what INTERDEPENDANT CIRCLES are about. Not THREESOMES. Normal threesomes are a joke, for the very reasons you mentioned.
Keep in mind, I teach women how to connect with their pleasure centers. I often know more about their female anatomy than they do. Tantra, female ejaculation, ect are all forms of cellibrating sensuality. It's not 'dirty' or 'raunchy'. I spent 10+ years learning about relationships, heart-centered leadership, and relating to women. I simply love women, and I love them back, and teach them how to celebrate and enjoy their love for other women.
Also understand that my girls are highly screened. It's a lot of work, and it's not easy. In fact, 90% of the girls I've made contact on this site are NOT worthy of the position of "Vice President Of My Heart".
For those lucky girls, it's an honor and a privilege to be part of something so wonderful. It's like a family. Everyone is happy because they are FREE to go away anytime they want. The girls are like butterflies that fly around a big oak tree.
And if one ever decides they would be happier as a nun
because it gets too much for her, I keep the names of a few psychiatrists, priests, and exsorsists handy just in case.
I hope this clears up a lot of things.
In my experience, relationships are about service. Love. Not bickering, jeliousy, rudness, manipulative behavior, or trying to control people. It's not about acting aloof, or trying to 'get' something. And CIRCLES are not about talking women into them.
If they qualify, learn about love and play with life TOGETHER! Love together, laugh together.
To understand the nature of men and women, you have to open your heart to love. In order to find true love, you have to be willing to give it unconditionally. But it's also about not taking crap, but being compassionate.
What is a true CIRCLE?
Imagine having a deep connection with someone (the male's primary girl), and there is sooooo much love to give, that you're primary girl CAN'T HELP but want to bring the male women, so they can SHARE that love together!
If everyone did that, there would be many more happier women having incredible orgasms, and less hate, and uglyness in the world.
Love is the only truth!
Namaste
ThirdChakra
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Seven traits to avoid in a partner
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4/29/2008 11:01:51 PM
Hmmm. I choose my own.
1. Women who have issues with men/other people/themselves
2. Women who act aloof (a form of control)
2. Women with too much YANG (male) energy
4. Flakiness
5. Disrespect
It's really simple. Love me, or be gone!
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/29/2008 8:31:37 PM
"you are making the assumption that the bi-female (your girlfriend in this case) would want to have a three-some with you and in your selfless way, you would be more than happy to accomodate her. and of course you would enjoy it also."
Am I? Or are you making the assumption that my girlfriend and I can NOT talk openly about what we desire spiritually and sexually? You still think my 'girlfriend' and I have "threesomes". She is a "primary", and the other girls are secondaries in a CIRCLE. More on this later.
"but, the post was not about three-somes"
I understood the post as I understood it. She asked if there is a double standard and I gave my answer. Then, I tried to clarify what it is she meant INSTEAD of making assumptions, so I could answer accurately. Since she hasn't responded to my question directly, I still sense that her knowledge or curiosity was about a couple consisting of 3 or more people. In other words, a THREESOME or a CIRCLE.
They are two different things. The THREESOME has multiple categories/options. The other does not.
Then, I simply gave a brief overview about the common missconceptions people make of what a threesome is, what a true circle is, and why the common "threesome" that people often idealize from watching porn, doesn't work.
"i always thought bi meant sexual desire with both sexes, but not necessarily at the same time."
Bisexual is nothing more than a label. It's my experience that all women are bisexual. As you grew older, you also learned, or "bought in" to the pressure/control of society saying it's wrong to love men and women equally. Or the same message came from the church. Equality is what the feminist movement was all about.
This is where understanding YIN/YANG polarities is important. I think it's amazing that we live in the information age, and people still don't understand the natural energy "chi" that flows through your body every second of every day.
The characteristics of YIN (female) are naturally:
Feminine
Water
Nurturing
Soft
Comforting
Loving
Giving
Introverted
Caring
Inward
When two YIN energies get together, you sometimes cuddle with each other, you do each others hair, you even go to the bathroom together. It's your nature. It's how you are made, but western society as lead you away. Visit China or most eropean countries, and you'll EXPERIENCE exactly what I'm talking about with true YIN energy. Like water, you embrace and meld into each other perfectly.
If you want to understand why two males in a THREESOME or an INTERDEPENDENT CIRCLE won't work, go google "yin/yang characteristics" and you'll see why two men and one women will never last. Look at porn. The men don't want to touch each other! It's not how their energy works. Like two magnets repelling each other when you try to put them together.
Let me know what you learn.
Namaste
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How to let go after a breakup?
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4/29/2008 6:52:02 PM
That's because you don't understand/accept the fact that you're truly loved, just for existing.
Secondly, you are clearly putting her happiness and wellbeing before your own. The external validation I'm talking about is simply called "neediness" and mentally/physically healthy women find this as a turn-off.
"I am still hurting every day over it"
Love yourself more, and stop relying on her to feel loved. You ARE ENOUGH!
"She never really loved me, I guess"
Why would you spend so much energy on someone who doesn't want you? Be thankful, see this as a gift instead of CHOOSING feeling like a victim.
This post is an actual response I sent to an aquaintance several minutes ago, about a husband that cheated on her. Her story was long and filled with emotion:
"I empathize with you, and its unfortunate that this happened.
You might have a hard time having compassion for this guy. By compassion, I don't follow the definition that webster's version gives because I think it's arrogant. Webster's version seems to suggest PITY and pity is condescending. It really says nothing about love, loyalty, and honor. Here is the thing..
The first thing you need to accept is easy. Ask yourself what the most hurtfull feeling is you have about this. Then, embrace it for what it is. In this case, possibly Betrayal or cheating.
Next, ask yourself "How did you invite this into your life?"
It's important that you identify the roles both of you played in this. It's simply to take responsibility for the part that you played in this. How did you invite this betrayal into your life?
You could have ignored some of the warning signs, you could have been too needy, or you could have given your feminine power away. You could have put up with too much of his "crap". Maybe you pushed to many issues under the rug.
Now, take as long as you need to look at the role BOTH OF YOU played in this, paying particular attention to the role YOU played.
next, take as long as you need to WATCH THE MOVIE in your mind, but from the other persons eyes. This is called EMPATHY. How to you think they percieved these events?
Step into their body and FEEL what it's like to walk a mile in their shoes. Then look at the events from a distance, as if someone else is watching the events unfold. See the movie in your mind.
See the events from your own eyes..
From the other persons eyes..
and from the 3rd person perspective
Now, ask yourself this question:
"What practical lessons did you learn from this experience?
It's SO important to learn from this, because if you choose not to, you're guaranteed to experience the same thing happening with someone else. You see? In the context of being cheated on/betrayed, what could you have done instead of _______________? (fill in the blank. Sweeping things under the carpet, nagging, etc).
What will you do differently next time?
What aspects of yourself are being reflected back to you? This will be the hardest question to face. Why?
Because most people will fail to accept things for what they are, being honest with themselves, and understand that the world is your mirror. In other words, when you're angry, or pissed at someone or something, it usually means you are seeing part of yourself that you need to handle- the world is your mirror.
For example:
If you were cheated on and have trouble having compassion for this person, talke a look at the parts of YOURSELF that you are judging. Would YOU cheat under ANY circumstance? Now is the time to be honest with yourself and be that non judge-mental observer.
Whatever it is, take responsibility. Maybe you could have trusted your intuition more, and not given in to promises (always trust your gut).
If someone steals from me, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm a thief, but I still need to look at the role I played. I should have taken better precautions to make sure my home was secure.
After you have done this, can you now release the other person from blame? This one is easy if you've looked at all three roles, and REALIZE that you are not a victim. It's wise to look at yourself as an active participant in the events because thats what you were. Don't just see the face, see the soul/spirit. There's a soul inside that body, and its here, just like you are, learning the tough lessons of love and life.
Let go of the feelings that no longer serve you, and understand that awareness and love is the only truth.
Love YOURSELF more. You deserve it. Here is your homework, and I want you to take responsibility and do this. Don't just read this and say "I have REAL compassion!"
Take out a pen (yes, one of those pointy things with ink on the end) and a piece of paper and write down 75 times:
"I accept myself fully as I am, because I am enough, and I am truly loved"
You should now be feeling a surge of compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the conflict.
You should now be experiencing this conflict as a learning experience and as A GIFT, instead of feeling victimized.
I've done this myself and it works. God bliss!
ThirdChakra
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How Can I Tell When a Man is Serious About Me?
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4/29/2008 6:42:57 PM
How do you tell?
He meets all of your qualifications. What are they?
Write down what you're willing to accept, and what you're not. Otherwise, you'll be attracting men who contribute very little to the relationship because they don't know what they want in a woman.
Namaste
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/29/2008 11:24:56 AM
"You manage to be esoterical but grounded & funny at the same time, heehee."
It makes my head hurt sometimes. Whenever people want me to abuse them, I just look them in the eye, lean back in my chair, put my hands behind my head, smile and say..
No.
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/29/2008 11:11:47 AM
dave summed up a good part of the population with that, I think another part will be the macho man mentality influence and then of course you have the female non testostarone influenced opinion...
does that make sense?
I think his quote misses the point.
With a woman that has an open heart and wants a man to mediate her desire to share her love with other women [and him at the same time], she messes around WITH him, not ON him. In other words, he's taken the "WE" out of the equation. He's simply talking about cheating.
And yea, from the research I've done in the last 6 years, more than 80% of the couples have no true HONOR for each other, and for the most part it's us men who have let the women down because we forgot to listen with our hearts and lead.
That's why you have better odds winning at the blackjack table, than you would making a marriage last for more than 20-30 years
Cheers!
ThirdChakra
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has this affected you?
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4/29/2008 10:25:38 AM
"No need to play mind games"
I honor your reality and substitute it for my own, which is stronger than you, your fears, AND your defensive-looking, green elf dude. I just want to give you both a big
and
on the forehead.
Fear = 0
Love = 1
ThirdChakra
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4/29/2008 6:27:24 AM
".It's cheating no matter how one tries to paint the picture."
When three consenting adults are having fun together (at the same time, in the same room) because it's truly what each wants to do, and two girls are enjoying the feeling of pleasing their lovers with no jeliousy, it's called "sharing".
"Cheating" is an illusion of the body (separate from the soul) and is a fear-based emotion from the ego. It's also a main reason why temporary lust circles never seem to last. People are so stuck in the ego, they have built a wall around their heart, and are unable to give love. The ego is nothing more than a protection mechanism to protect the heart, and filters out what truly is.
When a man takes the time to understand the complementary opposites like YIN/YANG, Fear/Love, and gives his bisexual woman what she loves, sex magic happens:) You transcend the ego, and move into unconditional love, awareness, and very happy, giggly cuddle bunnies:)
*Sigh...
I honor your comment. Thank you:)
Be well
ThirdChakra
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would this bug you?
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4/29/2008 6:01:40 AM
"So did a fortune cookie tell you she was expecting a baby or is the simple addition of 9 months too complex for either of you to figure out."
The trick to having your fortune cookie fortune come true, is...
Hold break the cookie open slowly..pull it apart..slowly.
Now...
Place the empty half on your plate, and pull out and read your fortune. (Only eat the cookie half that contained your fortune).
Now, whatever your fortune says, add one of these two lines to the end:
...in the sack
...under the sheets
Namaste
ThirdChakra
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4/29/2008 5:34:19 AM
I'll answer your questions all at once for clarity..
I think you're trying to say that "if a guy only wants girls, why can't it work for the girl to also have two guys?"
First of all, it's not a double standard. You're confused because you are thinking logically with your head, and not your heart.
This point of view is from my experience with 'interdependant circles'. They are built on trust, unconditional love, respect, and loyalty with two female's (YIN: Like water) and one male (YANG: Like an oaktree). They come from Shamanistic ideas/YIN/YANG polarities between male energy and female energy. It's source of focus is mainly the heart chakra, and the ones above it. The root chakra is there to, mostly as a foundation for grounding the heart.
"Threesomes".. are build on the lower three 'chakras'; sex, money, power. I like to call them "temperary lust circles" because they don't stay together very long, the girls are constantly in ego (jeliously, denial, insecurity, cheating, etc.) and have nothing to do with unconditional love and enlightenment, which has been proven to actually "reverse" the aging process.
Some funny things (for you) to imagine (I don't even want to think about them..
Who would lead? The male oaktree or the male oaktree? That would be like two bulls in a china shop.
Why would FEMININE women want to see two oaktree's cuddle after sex? ewwww!
ThirdChakra
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If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
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4/29/2008 4:41:18 AM
No, I wouldn't be ok with it. It's called "looking for backup" and it's "cheating's" angry cousin.
I would make my girl write a 3 page essay on:
"How cheating on your lover F&$cks up realtionships"
And then I would make her promise me that it never happened again. If I'm giving my energy, love, time, loyalty, trust, and honor to my girlfriend and she wants to go out with friends, I'd better be invited.
Keep in mind, if your partner is telling you that these guys are just "friends", then she's probably telling the guys the same thing about you. Think about it.
ThirdChakra
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would this bug you?
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4/29/2008 4:21:03 AM
Sir, you must be kidding.
"i love my girlfriend and we are having a baby in jan but she is on a bunch of dateing sites"
If you loved your girlfriend, you wouldn't be on a dating site yourself.
" it bugs me that she's still on them"
The world is your mirror. If someone broke into my home and stole something, it doesn't actually mean I'm a thief, it simply means I need to look at MYSELF and find out what ROLE I played in the events that took place. Did I ever steal from someone?
If I didn't, then it's usually a reflection of myself from a different place..like taking responsibility for my own reality, and buying a security system, or locking all the doors so this doesn't happen again.
"i know she loves me because she tells me all the time"
Who is she trying to convince? You, or herself?
"what do you all think"
It's really amazing to me how a man and a woman can have sweaty sex together and have a baby, and not share with each other how they are feeling. Sir, you're an idot, and you created ALL OF THIS yourself. She's probably waiting for the opportunity to dump you since you can't man-up and lead the relationship, and make her feel secure, truly loved, and honored as the beautiful woman she deserves to be.
She, on the other hand, should take responsibility for her role that she's playing as well. It always takes two to tango.
Namaste
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