Second read and it seems that you're not really too upset with your life, you just think sex with another person shouldn't require any effort and shouldn't come with strings attached. I don't get how all that ties in to "making something of your life", as if the only reason you'd think of doing more than the minimum was to increase your chances for easier, uncomplicated sex. .

So what then should comvince me to succeed in life?

lol. kinda funny he got mad.. usually its the opposite for me.. no way in hell im going to bust from head.. (or maybe im just not getting very good head...)

Hockey, I once dated a guy who said that exact same thing, it's safe to say he was proved wrong. You're dating the wrong chicks

solution = spit it back in his face ..or throw up on him ...that will do it

NOT for kids. Simply put, until the two adults have decided to take the relationship to the longer term stage, the children do not need to be involved. After that decision is discussed then you see how everyone gets along. The children do not need to get rejected along with the adult.

. I just think that any mad would have a problem with a child not his own being aorund 24/7. Orrr lol it oculd just be that I have horrible taste in men?

One thing I have learned over the past couple of years is that my instincts in the "single/dating" world are not always accurate - but sometimes I find it difficult to see things differently. Getting independent viewpoints helps a lot.

I have thoughts for whatever theyre worth. That for husbands who suffer from a union where all of a sudden the wife is not interested in sex anymore.....

Instead of tapping your wife on the shoulder when you want some, what about reaching down and rubbing on her clitorus? Do you think or envision it helping you getting better sex

Just curious about your success rate meeting GENUINE people as potential daters and or good future friends....

You probably snore too, and just don't know it

they suggest is that you write to a lot of women hoping some will answer. You do not focus on the few women who might really be compatible for you, but do a sort of scatter shot method of contacting women.

average people like myself are often overlooked and can't even see with their wide eyes open that this person might have something to offer for. It's no wonder people are still single and picky. .... I do believe that you tried so hard to keep searching for that 'ideal' partner, you will never find it until you stop looking for it.

problem with POF or any other dating sites, people are looking for the next best thing

why do these people seem to produce happy, in some ways fairly innocent children, who are well behaved without having to be told a gazillion times to whatever? These are all children of comparative wealth whose counterparts in the United States (some of them) are greedy children that adopt an attitude of entitlement at a very young age.

Do y'all really need others to conform to what you feel is the appropriate means to communicate? ... those with the attention span of a flea

It appears that none of us have given the OP the response he wanted.

My children come first. ... I just simply asked if women are okay with a single father. I don't intend on introducing people in and out of their lives, but I'm not going to just stay single until they turn 18 either, however thank you for your comment.

Because I am sad and have no one to talk to, do I get points for the paragraphs?

My way is to usually see a guy and think "oh he is nice looking/interesting/my type" then get to hear his voice, the way he talks to people and reacts to people etc and be seriously crushing on him or have gone off him big-time at this point.

mandakay said: "maybe... maybe.... If that's the case..."

Otherwise, you just like to lie and deceive.

There's a big difference in 'disclosing everything on the first date' and hiding the fact that you have kids.

If someone fell in love with me, then finds out three months later I have a child