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 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Retirement
Posted: 7/19/2009 12:34:10 PM
I agree with daynadaze :
"you are either perfect or hiding something sinister."

Do you ever find that you are a bit demanding of their time because you have more leisure time and this causes them to feel pressured? A man I was dating worked almost eighty hours a week because he was divorced with four kids; three of which were in college. From time to time I would bring up my frustration with his lack of time. I understood intellectually why he had to work so much but honestly on an emotional or practical level it would bother me and he would say that he felt pressured when I would bring it up. Now in reality some of his feeling pressured was on him because he felt a bit guilty about not being able to spend more time together. So on another note is it possible that you are reading more into what they are saying than is actually intended?
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
How long should sex last?
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:28:14 PM
Recently heard that the average is actually....4 minutes!!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 560 (view)
 
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:16:42 PM
Oprah just did a show and had an author on who wrote a book about the subject. Here is some of what was revealed some of which has already been stated:

Men cheat to feel appreciated

Men cheat to have someone to listen to them and make them feel as if their concerns and issues matter

Men cheat because they feel lonely in their relationships

The women they cheat with are often not prettier than their spouses or girlfriends

Sex is not as much of a motivating factor as some would think as to why they cheat.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 282 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:03:56 PM
Gonefishin...keep up with history. The Africans long ago apologized for their part in the slave trade. I think someone even mentioned that in one of the posts a while back.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Obama spells doom for America
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:53:13 PM
It was a sad day for America when Obama was elected president yesterday. I see nothing but problems ahead for us because the middle class will most certainly be affected the hardest. The people that will benefit are the people on welfare that know how to work the system and the rich. People like me that work hard, pay taxes, and when something goes wrong financially no one will help us. Do you guys honestly believe that Obama is going to bail the average joe out. No he will continue to give welfare to people that are too lazy to work and illegals that do not speak English and expect to be waited on hand and foot. Lets not forget the major corporations like Ford and GM that are too big to fail. All your hard earned money is going to go to people that do not deserve it. If you are a church goer be careful because this could spell the end of the Christian religions as we know it. I still think that Obama is not a legal U.S. citizen and the Middle East is celebrating because this is their ticket into our country.


Corey why aren't you more angry at the white men who basically robbed the country blind, caused the worst economic downturn since the depression and put us in debt to other countries? Over the past twenty to thirty years their greed caused them to neglect our schools and infrastructure, ignore energy concerns, and rob our pension funds. They destabilized our banking and financial institutions and compromised our futures and the futures of our children and grandchildren. And you are still pissing and moaning over welfare cheats and illegals? Damn man look in the mirror you have seen the enemy and he looks like you...not like an illegal alien!! More could have been done to address the issue of welfare cheats and illegal aliens if white men who had the control and power over the agencies and institutions that dealt with these issues did their jobs and stopped stealing. But the white men in those big businesses benefit from a low paying illegal workforce and while they have you worrying over welfare cheats and illegal aliens they are draining your pension fund.

Although I don't agree with people being lazy and living off government hand-outs the amount of money that has been spent on that is a piss in the sea compared to the billions and trillions that have been stolen by the white collar criminals. Why aren't you outraged by that? And most illegals are here to work, and do work, menial, often dangerous, low paying, no benefits jobs.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 280 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:17:12 PM
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:19 AM

I suppose you guys missed the official apology from the US government to "Black" Americans for slavery and Jim Crow. It came out around August 7th and guess what
I'm glad to see that there are others who witnessed this event. So for everyone who was against it... this is now a moot point...the US government has officially apologized for slavery...so there!!!


Geez don't you guys keep up with current events... the apology was made last summer. So stop talking about what you won't do...too late ... it has been done... the apology has been made thank-you very much!

Get worked up over something that matters now. Maybe you should ask for an apology from the white men who basically robbed the country blind and caused the worst economic downturn since the depression. Over the past twenty to thirty years their greed caused them to neglect our schools and infrastructure, ignore energy concerns and rob our pension funds. They destabilized our banking and financial institutions and compromised our futures and the futures of our children and grandchildren.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 117 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:24:19 AM
I suppose you guys missed the official apology from the US government to "Black" Americans for slavery and Jim Crow. It came out around August 7th and guess what


I'm glad to see that there are others who witnessed this event. So for everyone who was against it... this is now a moot point...the US government has officially apologized for slavery...so there!!!

 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Sheeesh ...pretty quiet in Montana
Posted: 7/29/2008 2:26:50 PM
wow i didn't know women could keep a secret


(Mareena gives dddiesel a dirty look and then quick as a twinkle yanks his pants down which shockingly reveals that he is wearing SHAZAM Underoos.)
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:53:58 PM
I've written testimonials for two guys and both have stated that the testimonials have had a positive effect. One guy has no pic and not too much in his profile (yeah I know I should just help him beef up his profile instead of writing testimonials) but has a growing number of women making him a favorite. When I teased him about how he managed that he said quite a few have mentioned my testimonial.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Vets with scars
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:40:34 PM
No. I look at the total person.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What Playgirl women want: hairy, chubby and poor?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:34:10 PM

A guy with a bit of chub is adorable.
LMAO. That is funny...a bit of chub. I couldn't agree with you more though.

There is a guy I know who openly admits that he is metrosexual. He is absolutely gorgeous and is always perfectly groomed. But honestly... I wouldn't want to date him. If I see two guys walking down the street and one is in a suit, tie, sportin' a perfect haircut and obviously works out at some gym somewhere and the other is in jeans, t-shirt, work boots, hard hat, and has just a bit of a belly...I'm always more attracted to the latter. Actually I really dig big blue collar guys especially those in the trades.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:23:29 PM
After a quick perusal of those opposed to apologizing for slavery on the basis that it was the misdeeds of their ancestors, and they had nothing to do with it, I noticed that most listed Christianity as their religion. For me, this begs the question....why are you still atoning for Original Sin which is the basis of the whole religion? You weren't there, and had nothing to do with it. I'm not asking this to bash your religion. I really want to know. I'm hoping that someone can give me an answer so that I can say, 'Oh....okay....that's why.'



Hmmm...this is a really interesting point that I am hoping someone will answer.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Sheeesh ...pretty quiet in Montana
Posted: 6/16/2008 3:13:47 PM
Right about now I think all the Boston girls and the Montanan guys are having a good time. The Montanan women are secretly staging an attack and I think they're gonna' run all those city girls outta' town.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:32:57 AM
As I said in an earlier post I had no problem with the apologies made (or reparations paid) for the internment of the Japanese during WWII and to Native Americans...even though I had nothing to do with those acts. As an American I embrace our good, bad, ugly, right, and wrong and take responsibility for our good, bad, ugly, right, and wrong. This is what it means to love your country.

There are many examples in life where one must apologize or accept responsibility for things you have not caused, or been directly responsible for, because you accept being part of a larger entity or group, and therefore represent the decisions and deeds of that larger group or entity. For example when you work for a company and that company doesn't live up to its' responsibilities or does wrong to a customer or client, you may find yourself apologizing for decisions and acts that you took no part in, don't have responsibility for, or took place long before you came to work for that company.

I just wonder what kind of place America (the world for that matter ) would be if everyone decided that they would take responsibility for, or only cared about what they caused directly, or would only work to remedy wrongs or misdeeds they took part in directly.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
should the US apologize for slavery
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:27:13 PM
Yes. And the passage of time does not negate a wrong.

I didn't participate in the internment of the Japanese during WWII or the slaughter of Native Americans and theft of their land, but I didn't have any problems apologizing for these acts as a nation and felt it was a positive healing gesture even if many or all of those who directly suffered are no longer here. Acknowledging wrongs done to others whether it be on a personal level or societal level is always the first step toward healing and moving on. The apology is a symbolic gesture that acknowledges that in our past we did something horrible to other human beings.

This country was built on the backs of those slaves and maybe, just maybe, they are taking some of that prosperity away from us and that is why we are in such an economic mess. We may find that by apologizing we free ourselves as a nation from some of the negative karma that still haunts us from the tortured souls of those we wronged. Maybe this will set them free and in doing so will dredge open the pathways for the good karma ...that will bring us even closer together as a nation.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Do Your Friends With Children Expect Too Much?
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:16:47 PM
OhioLady ~I did think about this seriously after I read your post...that I should have called to say I wasn't able to attend. Over the years when I have received invites from her it has always been understood that if I were coming I would let her know. To me the invites have always been a formality to let me know about the event. And I have always appreciated being included in this way and would respond by sending a gift or making a phone call to hear how the event went and offer my congratulations. Somehow this time was different and maybe because this is her last child to graduate from college. I guess...hmmm.

GirlyGirl ~Never thought of it this way but you are right... my boundaries ARE changing and I am becoming more comfortable saying no. And the kid in the restaurant yelling and screaming drives me nuts too. People sometimes don't realize that others don't think their kids are as cute as they do. I have actually said that to a few people in restaurants.

Yna ~I love my Godson but I have been thinking that it may be time for me to stop the gift giving since he is 27 and he does not respond in kind. He does call me and sometimes he will send a card so maybe that it what I should give him as well...just a card.

Michey~ I hear ya' so don't worry about the rant. Leaving donation jars or info someplace neutral so that employees don't have to be put on the spot or asked in front of someone's child is a good idea. The last time someone asked me for a donation I actually had to say no because it was the week I shelled out the $50. The woman kept asking me and another co-worker why we wouldn't give and kept whining..."but it is for a child."

Criztine~As you and OhioLady have pointed out in the future I will make sure that I respond earlier and make it clear that I will not be attending. This may alleviate some of the confusion and hard feelings. And you are right I don't believe for one minute that her daughter was overly concerned, if at all, that I was not there.

Thanks For All Your Input!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 256 (view)
 
Greatest threat to mankind?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:26:49 PM


3. a zombie outbreak
4. an alien invasion
5. a demonic invasion
9. dopplegangers


I don't care what you guys say...I'm still stickin' with these. Yikes!!!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do Your Friends With Children Expect Too Much?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:07:48 PM
Over the years I have often felt, (and even been told in some instances) that it is expected that I be generous to the children of friends and it is often assumed that I have more disposable income because I don't have kids. Many of my childless, single friends, have also experienced this and are also frustrated by the expectations of their friends with children. They are especially frustrated by those who have expectations of them to always give simply because they have been financially successful . Even my friend with one child has expressed the unfairness in trying to give gifts or participate in events for various occasions for her friends who have several children, when they only have to reciprocate or participate in kind, with her one child.

Yesterday a friend of mine called and she was sobbing mad. I did not attend the graduation of her daughter. She said she felt abandoned and that everyone was asking for me. We have been friends for thirty years and her 27 y/o son is my godson. In 27 years I have never forgotten to send him something for his birthday or Xmas. I never forget my friend's birthday either and plan on sending her daughter something for her graduation as well. I did work that weekend and wasn't really up for an out of state event. I also have dogs and the logistics of either kenneling them or finding someone to come in and look after them is always a challenging part of my travel equation.

Over the past five or so years, I have cut down on my gift giving and participation in baby showers, graduations, retirement parties and the like unless: I truly want to participate, I can easily get the time off, the person means a lot to me and I can afford it at the time. I have become more conservative with my money for a variety of reasons including preparing for an early retirement. Since she is out of state, participating in the graduation would have set me back about $800 dollars. Recently I even decided to stop giving at work everytime someone comes around selling raffles, candies, cookies, etc., for their child's event after I shelled out $50 in one week. I wish the company would do something to discourage this behavior.

How do others feel about this issue? Have you experienced similar situations?
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
My pet peeve...no pun intended.
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:49:34 AM
Interestingly enough I work mainly with men. I am amazed on a daily basis how much gossip goes on around me......is it necessarily a gender issue as you have suggested?

This has been my experience as well and no gender has a monopoly on gossipy, catty, behavior. I've been around plenty of straight and gay men in a work environment who gossip, pout when they don't get their way, and engage in passive-aggressive behavior instead of directly dealing with a situation in order to get their way.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Chores you hate
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:52:19 AM
With two, sometimes three dogs running around, I hate cleaning up dog poop. One of the worst arguments I ever had with my ex-husband was over...dog shit. We each took turns with this chore and the month that it was his turn he didn't do anything. With three dogs the yard has to be checked daily. Often during the winter I don't go into the yard at all, so I didn't know that the stuff was piling up. When it was my turn I went into a yard with one month multiplied by three dogs worth of crap. The tears were streaming down my face; I was so mad as I cleaned every bit of it up. When he came home he found a couple of his model trains in the yard with crap dumped all over them. (Not my proudest moment but hey I'm being honest.)

At one of my animal rescue events I met a guy who owned a franchise that does nothing but pick-up dog doody. I contracted with the company and now they keep up with this nasty chore. I love them!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Sheeesh ...pretty quiet in Montana
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:58:03 PM
How Montana Got It's Groove Back!

Weeks went by and the Montana Mountain Men ( M&M's) - that's what they were calling themselves - had been watching 'round the clock. The guys were getting restless and bored. They had endless discussions and had come up with tons of plans on how they were gonna run these fast city women away. They even formed a committee to remove all Mr. Bubble, Jean Nate' and Miss Clairol from store shelves. Without the conveniences of home they figured those gals wouldn't be much for these parts.

Back in Boston Mareena had gathered a large group of women with tales of strong, handsome, cowboys. She had convinced the women that they should learn a whole bunch of outdoor type skills so she took everyone to her old girl scout camp.

"Honestly Mareena what do stuipid girl scout skills have to do with us going to Montana?" asked Kaysi, Alissa and Caroline, three friends who had come from New York.

"Look you don't wanna' go up to Montana all wimpy and stuff? There's a guy down there named Crash who is into primitive survival skills. Don't you want to impress him? Do you think Montana men want women who spend all their time strategizing over how to get the best price on Coach Bags and Prada sunglasses?" Mareena shot back in disgust.

Finally everyone was ready and they set out on their trek to Montana on horses borrowed from local animal shelters.

" Mareena why couldn't we just fly to Montana why do we have to ride down on all these broke down shelter horses?" asked Caroline.

" Caroline these horses need a start on a new life. So I figured we could ride them to Montana and leave them to run free and I wish you wouldn't call them broke down!" yelled Mareena.

"Mareena we can call these the brokeback mountain horses of Montana. At least that is what yours will be after riding your fat a$$ all the way there." replied Caroline with a fake smile. Mareena made a mental note to let any Montana guys who liked Caroline know that she had hair extensions after that comment.

"OOhhh I just loved that movie those guys were hot." Kaysi piped in.

"Those guys were gay Kaysi!" Caroline shot back.

"Caroline they were still hot and not all the men in the movie were gay and I'll take a hot gay cowboy over..." Kaysi never got to finish because almost everyone yelled "Shut-up Kaysi!!!!" in unison.

"BTW Mareena what's up with those flat black ugly orthopaedic looking Rockport style walking shoes?" asked one of the women.

Mareena replied: "For goodness sakes do you think you are gonna be runnin' all over Montana in high heels?

Someone in the back of the pack shouted, "Mareena ...Montana men, like all men, want women who look and act like women. Don't you read the POF forums?"

In the meantime after weeks of waiting the Montana men spotted the large group of women riding some of the saddest, homeliest, horses they had ever seen. They watched as a few women got off their horses and started walking toward a little stream. They also saw them fall down. The men rushed into action to go to their rescue, not worried about them being fast city women, not after they got a look at all those breast implants.

The men started carrying the fallen women back to their camp to check them out for injuries. Mareena was just about the only one who hadn't been carried off by some guy and yelled "hey guys what about me???" The men took one look at her and her unenhanced breasts and sensible black shoes and said, "sorry Ma'am but women in stilettos first...."

Stay tuned for the last installment and answers to such questions as: Do the city horses like Montana? Will their girl scout skills come in handy? Will the Montana women run the city girls away? Will any men in the Western Hemisphere go to see that new chick flick , " Sex In The City?"
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Double Dating, Winging, etc; 50s rules Today's Rules
Posted: 5/26/2008 12:53:40 PM
What do you mean couples being the third wheel? Do you mean a couple go out on a date and another couple invites themselves along? If that is what you mean the direct approach is always best i.e., "hey folks we love hanging out with you but tonight is our night...alone...catch ya' later...bye."
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
How close have you come to dying?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:01:19 AM
There were acouple near drownings, car wrecks...There were many other times getting robbed, living on the streets, getting into the wrong car hitchiking jumping out of a couple of them

ummm...can I get a million dollar insurance policy under your name with me as the beneficiary??
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
How close have you come to dying?
Posted: 5/26/2008 4:52:15 AM
About fifteen years ago a series of fortunate coincidences saved my life.

For days I had been feeling weak and on one particular day I could barely get up for anything. I thought I had the flu or something. A neighbor who was from England and was doing cancer research for his Ph.D, ( I mention this because I always wondered if his work made him see something that someone else would not have) came to borrow something from me. He gave me a funny look and said "you really don't look well." I told him that I was worried about my dog and didn't want to leave him if for some reason the doctor sent me to the hospital. (I know this sounds silly now.) He was adamant that I should see a doctor and told me to let my dog stay with him until I returned. He ended up taking care of my dog for three weeks.

I called the doctor's office and had to beg for an appointment for that day. At the time I had an HMO and it took forever to get appointments. (After my illness I changed to BC/BS. The HMO and all their shitty policies about getting appts. almost killed me.) At the time I lived alone and finally decided to call an ex-boyfriend to give me a ride to the doctor's office. He had to help me get dressed and cleaned up...I was so weak.

At the doctor's office she checked me out, but said she felt I was having a reaction to an antibiotic I had been taking, and was about to give me another medicine and send me home, when I threw-up in the exam room. She gave me a funny look and called for an ambulance.

At the hospital the overworked emergency room nurse was really pissy to me because I couldn't take my clothes off. They examined me and took some blood samples. When the results came back I could see a change in the nurse's demeanor...she looked sad. A young doctor came in and asked me if I had any family in the area. When I asked why he said: " call your family and tell them to come." He explained that I had a rare blood disorder that only happens to one person in a million. He told me they didn't know what causes it but they do know how to treat it. They asked me had I eaten raw fish like sushi, or raw meat like steak tartare, which I had not. Later I had other theories about how I contracted the disease. One involves being trapped on an Amtrak train for 16 hours with no ventilation a few days before. I often wondered if I caught a virus or something from the ventilation system like what happened with the folks who caught Legionnaire's disease years ago.

When I asked if I would die he said "we will do the best we can." No one expected me to survive. As the days went by in intensive care I learned that they had never seen anyone as sick as I survive this disease. Interns were in and out because this was a rare opportunity to see a disease that they may never again see in their lifetime. They told me if I had stayed home one more day I would have died. They also told me that a lot of patients die because they go to smaller hospitals or come from rural areas of Maine or Vermont and by the time they diagnose the disease and get them down to Boston for treatment, it is too late. I prayed...a lot.

Somehow I beat the odds. Not only did I recover but I never had a relapse as they had expected. I've stayed in touch with the student from England all these years and tease him every now and then about the time he saved my life.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Sheeesh ...pretty quiet in Montana
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:22:38 PM
(Mareena pops into the Montana section and looks around...gee it sure is quiet in here she thinks to herself. She starts strumming a few songs on her guitar and a few sheep wander over to see what all the noise is about. Frustrated she pops in that tape by Pink "Get The Party Started" and still no one comes out to dance. "Okay I guess I'm gonna' have to bring my posse of hot women friends down from Boston to do a round-up of all you guys hidin' out in them hills." The word gets out that hot women are gonna' be coming down from Boston and this strikes terror in the hearts of the Montana men who were told by their Mamas to stay away from fast city women.

In preparation for the invasion the Montana men stock up on lots of supplies. They shore up their defense lines and put sentinels out with binoculars around the clock to sound the alarm if anything is seen coming over the horizon. )

To Be Continued....
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 162 (view)
 
Guys with little money
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:50:26 AM


steak dinner for two can cost around $50.

Well then, date a vegetarian

LOL
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
LIVING--What was your HAPPIESTexperience or Moment?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:24:48 AM
Well one of my happiest moments.

I was taking a certification class for equine massage and everyone else had been around horses for years, many from childhood. The instructor and even some of the participants were a little condescending toward me due to my lack of experience and exposure to horses. I grew up and basically even now live in the city and my love and interest in horses came later in life. I could tell that some didn't even want to be paired up with me when we had to practice some of the techniques we learned in class.

However they were all surprised and everyone's attitude changed when I was massaging this huge, difficult, old stallion around his facial muscles and his head drooped onto my shoulder, his eyes closed, and his lower lip went slack..a sure sign that he was thoroughly enjoying his massage. No one else was able to do that with any of the other horses. I felt not only a sense of accomplishment but pure joy and also proved that there is a lot more to becoming accomplished at equine massage than just a lot of years of being around horses. It was a defining moment for me.

I cannot even begin to describe all the emotions and feelings that go through me when I connect with a horse. Even if just for a moment I am able to help relieve a bit of their pain, stress, sadness, or fear. Sometimes I almost go into a trance when I'm massaging a horse and I feel that connection coming on. Pure joy!

This is one of my passions and when I retire I hope to pursue this as my next career.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
How close have you come to dying?
Posted: 5/25/2008 3:41:25 AM
Years ago I had a little part-time job where every night I would go to a handicapped woman's house and help her get ready for bed. At exactly 7:oo pm every evening I would be waiting to cross an intermediate highway just outside my apt. bldg. On this particular night an older neighbor lady called me. It always stuck in my mind that she was a Christian Scientist, who was rather reserved and not much for a whole lot of phone chatter, but on this particular night I could not get her off the phone. At exactly the moment I would have been standing to cross that highway I heard a terrible crash.

When I went outside a car had crashed into a tree, flipped, and burst into flames. Miraculously everyone in the car got out in time with the help of some good samaritans and survived. (The driver a young kid actually got out on his own and ran off and left everyone else.) However I would not have survived had I been waiting in that spot to get across.

There is at least one more time that I survived a near death experience. For some reason all of a sudden I don't have the energy right now to write about that one.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Booming car stereo systems...
Posted: 5/25/2008 2:35:50 AM
I think that there is more annoying things in this world then just loud music(ie. loud, lifted redneck trucks, motorcycles, semi's, slow drivers etc). I don't see anyone complaining about those things because I'm sure there is people that have posted in this thread that own a loud truck or a motorcycle thats loud. Its a phase that people go through, you guys were all young once too and people tend to forget that.


Jasonweremy and others make a good point. Now I don't like to hear booming car stereos either but I hate almost more the sound of a pack of loud motorcycles coming down the street or one revving up at six on a Sunday morning. Just like the above poster said as you look through the profiles of POF and you see a whole bunch of middle-aged guys with pics of their loud a$$ motorcycles... whose complaining about that??? And Rivereye do people who annoy others with their loud motorcycles have anything to do with your theory about "haves" and "have nots." I wonder if we look at the demographics of people who who own loud annoying motorcycles or the trucks some have mentioned would a lot on POF fall into that category and would more than a few who are complaining realize that they are hypocrites?
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 117 (view)
 
Booming car stereo systems...
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:44:57 PM
There seems to be a rising culture of the "have-nots" intentionally doing things which are bothersome and annoying to the "haves". Their motivation more than likely stems from a feeling of societal impotence, resentment, and not having the testicular fortitude to do anything effective about it, IMO.


Huh??? What does this mean? I've seen people from all economic levels riding around blasting their music. I've experienced this type of behavior in the city, suburbs, and rural areas. The only constant is that generally they are within a certain age range. When people from all economic levels, races, educational levels, walks of life go around annoying people with loud cell phone conversations does this annoyance have anything to do with "haves" and "have-nots?" And I can think of quite a few things that the "haves" have "intentionally" done to the "have-nots which is more than "bothersome and annoying. " At this point in time $4.oo/gal. for gas comes to mind.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:52:43 AM
In the past a person's profession and education were more defining factors in who they were via what types of activities they could engage in, places they could go, where they could live, and friends they could have. The world is a much smaller place today and people are becoming more multidimensional because of greater access to everything and everybody else in the world. Just think... right here on POF in these forums people from all parts of the world, religions, races, ethnicities, educational levels, and political beliefs are sharing ideas, changing minds, making friends, and even finding love and marriage. I know I have.

People are talking to others who a generation ago they would not have met and even if they did would have been hesistant if not afraid to take on as a friend. Having said that I know bankers who after work put on their hip hop gear but also love classical music and electricians and plumbers who have traveled all over the world and are voracious readers of the classics. They refuse to limit their interests and lives by some artificial parameters defined by their professions. Rightfully they are offended when someone makes assumptions about them based on what they do and not who they are.

Although I will not slam Jana, or anyone else for their preferences, that is entirely up to them, as everyone has a right to whatever makes them happy. I do know that my life and my world are richer, (and becoming a lot more exciting as we speak) because I have been willing to look at people with....my eyes wide open.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
 
Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:13:18 PM

With that said, if you really feel as if someone's profession defines them, what do you say about the single mother who waitresses or scrubs floors to put her child through college? Or the man who digs ditches to feed his family? Or the man who picks up your garbage who supports his elderly parents? Honestly, I think people need to look less at the actual occupation and look at the work ethic and the circumstances which make up someone's life before proclaiming that you would have nothing in common with this person simply based on whether they have a "job" or a "profession."


Well said!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Are people looking younger?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:56:41 PM
I do look my age of nearly 55 but I think I look ok for 55. :)

Yes there are so many people who look their age but look great and that is the whole concept of aging gracefully.


Personally I am doing everything I can to stay healthy and live longer. I have some opinions on what future technology has in store for us that the majority of the medical community may not necessarily agree with. I am cautiously optimistic that many of us may live much longer than our grandparents did/will.

I am really interested in hearing about these techonologies that you mentioned. Some people believe that eating very little will help prolong your life but some say this only works if you start as a child. Is this the type of thing you are referring to?
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Are people looking younger?
Posted: 5/19/2008 5:42:01 PM
Yes I do think more people are looking younger than their actual age than they did in the past. For many it is all the anti-aging treatments and information that is available to help you look younger longer. By the same token I see high school girls who look like they are middle-aged with middle-aged looking bodies...something I never saw when I was growing up.

For a lucky few it is all about genetics. My grandmother who lived to be nearly 100 never had a wrinkle and could wear a bathing suit with pride until the very end. She never did anything special. Drank a little shot of whiskey everyday and smoked until her sixties. But she did maintain a positive attitude, went to church every Sunday, and was very active.

Personally I like a face that reveals character and wisdom and not botox treatments. To me I find men most attractive when they are in their late forties and fifties.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
I thought it would be fun to learn something new!
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:00:30 PM
The Defense Minister of Norway has the authority to mobilize all privately owned Norwegian Elkhounds which can be used as sled dogs in the event of war.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
IF YOU WON THE LOTTERY......
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:23:58 PM
I live in smalltown USA, pop 750. I would get my house 'off grid'

Great idea I have been thinking about this myself for a long time.

i would buy some land, probably a hundred acres or so and start a rescue for slaughter-bound and other unwanted horses. i'd hold onto the ones i couldn't adopt out. the operation would provide housing and work for single, child-free women who love working with equines. i'd also have a little organic herb and vegetable farm

(Mareena hands in her application for Juniper's equine rescue farm.)
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
IF YOU WON THE LOTTERY......
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:15:41 PM
I would build a 400 acre farm for abused horses and dogs


We are on the same page there and I would also give money to sanctuaries that take care of large animals like elephants and big cats or unwanted circus animals. Fund educational programs for children to help them understand why it is important to take care of the earth and be kind to animals and offer college scholarships for young people who want to go into careers that help animals or the environment.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 137 (view)
 
favourite paintings
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:11:28 PM
A Georgia O'Keeffe and Paul Gauguin print are always on display somewhere in my home.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/12/2008 3:39:40 PM
What a man does for a living would only concern me if it would get in the way of a relationship. Other than that I don't equate how much education a man has or what he does for a living with how intelligent he is or how compatible we will be; so having a blank profession doesn't bother me a bit. Now if he is into some secret squirrel type stuff, or tells me he didn't list his profession because he was in the witness protection program, I would back away from him very slowly.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Early retirement: curse or blessing?
Posted: 5/11/2008 9:34:03 AM
Early retirement is a blessing if you have a plan. If you don't have a plan and just sit around doing nothing you will probably shorten your life. The longevity statistics for people who retired from my company in their early fifties and early sixties who just sat around is not good.

I also learned from the people who didn't start paying down expenses long before they retired and ended up not being able to retire because of a lot of debt. I see more and more people at my job who are very well-off and are ten years or less away from retiring doing things like: brown bagging it to lunch, ironing their own shirts and not sending them to the cleaners, and holding on to ten year old Hondas. I am following their lead. (Except for the shirts thing...my ironing sucks!) They are opting to stay away from car payments if they are close to retirement and will buy a brand new car for cash a few months before they retire. Honestly one guy pulled his credit card out of his wallet and it was dusty. He says if he HAS to use it he pays off the bill when it comes and if he can't afford it he won't buy it.

In exactly six years I can retire and have already started preparing for another career involving some of my hobbies and life long passions. Now I can and may stay longer but I don't want to be one of the ones who keeps working at their current job because they have nothing better to do or are afraid. Over the past few years I have lost a few friends who were months away from retirement...one as recently as last November. These experiences have convinced me that I should retire while I am still young and healthy enough to enjoy my life, rekindle old and pursue new interests and spend more time with my friends and family.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Funny Dating Experience
Posted: 5/4/2008 4:24:47 PM
Beachy you crack me up half the time anyway so I was chuckling after the first paragraph just knowing you had something to laugh at in store. Oh my goodness...too funny!!!
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
when your best friend is dying inside and out
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:17:21 PM
So sorry to hear that you are going through this difficult time. Do for her what she cannot do for herself and this will not only be therapeutic for you but will offer some practical support for her. Join a support group if you need to or offer to join a support group with her.

She needs to keep being told that you don't want to be pushed away. As you already know people do this because they think you can't handle it and they think they are making it easier for you when in reality they really do want you to be there for them.

Last November I lost a very dear friend to cancer. In the spring of 2007 she was fine, planning a trip to Italy and looking forward to her son's wedding last summer. A pain in her side revealed a problem with her gall bladder and during the surgery they found a rare form of liver cancer. Her friends got together and formed a help tree and as your friend's health declines you may want to consider this form of support. Your friend may have sometime to go before she needs this level of support but it is good to have a plan in place so when the time comes you are ready.

One person kept track of the schedule and coordinated assigning tasks. Each person was assigned a specific task mainly of their choosing...something they were comfortable with or good at; or a day to just sit with her and just be there. We didn't wait for her to ask us and we didn't expect for her to think through everything that she would need help with since each day brought new challenges and different needs.

It allowed us to have precious time with her, provide the support she needed while not feeling bewildered by what we should do to support her in her dying days. Because we shared the duties we could be there for her without neglecting our own lives and responsibilities or becoming too overwhelmed.

Some people came once a week or more; some every other week. Some groomed or walked her dogs, took her to appts., shopped, cooked, cleaned, organized, gave massages, or just sat and listened. It was the most beautiful time I could have spent with her even though it was often filled with sadness. Sometimes we sat in the soothing joy of pure silence and each other's company and other times we laughed it up, ate too much chocolate when she still had an appetite, and gossiped. Honestly there were a few times when one of us could not handle being around her and someone else would step in. You will go through this and that is okay. Even though you may feel guilty just accept this as a normal part of dealing with someone you love who is dying.

During one of our conversations I asked her what she would have done differently in her life and what advice could she give. There was nothing earth-shattering here but it was more profound coming from someone who was facing her own mortality straight in the face. Her words gave me the incentive and courage to make some changes in my own life and I am happier for that and forever grateful to my dear friend.

BTW she told me that even though she was in the health care field she ignored her own advice. She had been feeling the pain in her side off and on for a couple of years and never told her doctor. There is no way to prove it but she said there was a possibility that it may have saved her life had she brought her concerns to her doctor sooner. Just a reminder for us to not ignore what our bodies are trying to tell us.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:46:35 PM
OP put it in your profile. That is what I have done. And I totally agree with you it just seems strange to me that someone would have a fancy car, etc. etc. and not take care of their teeth. This has happened to me and I did give the guy the name of my dentist. He brought the subject up when we first met so it wasn't like he was caught off guard by me giving him a referral. Actually he was very appreciative since he was trying to get his teeth fixed, and had not found a good dentist, and said that his teeth have been a deal breaker for most women.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Guns, the range, target activities.
Posted: 5/3/2008 4:26:30 AM
Wouldn't mind at all since I already enjoy going to target practice. However if the guy has an unhealthy obsession with guns and violence then I would be outta' there.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 356 (view)
 
Firearms and Dating
Posted: 5/3/2008 4:14:00 AM
I don't own a gun and I am not thinking about getting one at this point. However I am a member of The Second Amendment Sisters and love going to target practice and have a pretty good eye. I dated one man who was a Firearms Instructor and it didn't bother me at all. He is the one who encouraged me to learn how to shoot. Although I hope it never happens if I get into a situation where I have to use a gun I want to be able to know what I am doing.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Forum, has it changed you and the way you respond?
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:09:20 PM
At the end of the day it's what I think that's important to me and everyone else is entitled to their own views... Right or wrong.
So no more long, protracted and ultimately pointless round after countless round arguing with Internet trolls, bigots, racists, sexists, nutters, weirdoes etc anymore.
Debates should be fun and enlightening... Not a hassle... I get enough of that in Real Life.

Couldn't agree with you more Kinky. I learned my lessons long before coming to POF. Years ago I used to moderate a site on Yahoo and learned not to take this whole debating thing too seriously. Someone just posted on another thread that he had several heart attacks and had been lying awake at night with chest pains as he pondered what he claimed were attacks on his character and that he was leaving POF. I hope he is okay but I don't care what people say or ultimately think about me in real life so why would I care here.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Seven traits to avoid in a partner
Posted: 5/1/2008 10:07:04 AM
4. If he has been married more than once, I will feel very cautious about connecting with him until I feel a very very high comfort level.

What is the difference between being married more than once and being in more than one long-term committed relationship in terms of your level of caution? Just wondering.

Being married only once can mean so many things and not all of them positive just like being married more than one time can mean many things and not all of them negative.

Does it concern you as much if someone has never been married at all?
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Seven traits to avoid in a partner
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:00:49 AM
2. Women with too much YANG (male) energy

ThirdChakra What were the women like who had too much yang?

Funny, I was just thinking this morning about the guy who stole a towel from the hotel we were staying in, and how that should have been enough for me right then and there to know we wouldn't work out...

Msflis LMAO!

The excessive use of flattery

Huh? I'm with Bassman on this one go ahead and compliment me all you want.

Foolishness...???? What type of foolishness??? A little foolishness is good for the soul.


7)You know if we all went around so “anal” and “politically correct” that we adhered to every rule, regulation, law, and or personal boundary there is in the various societies on this globe, how boring we would be as individuals, let a lone as a complete global society. I could be wrong – lol.

Honestly I would be terrified because I would think we had been invaded by body snatchers if everyone obeyed every law and rule and never questioned anything and were completely good all the time.

 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:06:29 AM
A man with no kids doesn't concern me at all; a man who has never been in any form of long-term or committed relationship by the time he is in his 40's does. Although I try to keep an open mind because most men around my age have kids and by excluding them I would dramatically reduce the number of men available for me to date, I prefer men with no kids or grown kids.

I have met some really nice men lately but the drama associated with dealing with their teenage kids (and in some instances twenty-something kids) and ex-wives or ex-girlfriends has been too distracting for them to really devote the time and attention needed to start a new relationship.
 mareena
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
$63.8 cents per gallon .... $2.50 a gallon What are you paying????
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:24:17 AM
A few days ago I saw a guy riding around on a little scooter with a briefcase and a really nice business suit . Six months ago I would have laughed and thought he lost a bet or was on a dare. Today at $3.56/gal. I started thinking that guy maybe on to something and a scooter is not such a bad idea for trips to the grocery store, bank, and other little errands in my immediate area.
 
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