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*Sassy Redhead*

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 143 (view)

Is appropriate to sleep with your ex to get closure? Posted: 9/21/2009 6:08:36 AM
Of course he is going to have feelings for her....he had been seeing her off and on for a year and that is what happens when two people connect. In my opinion.....generally having sex with someone doesn't provide closure but leaves you wanting more. From my perspective the only way to get closure is to not have contact with an ex after you have determined what the demise of the relationship was about. Sex is never a form of closure in my book. Plus, if he had sex with his ex in the three months that he was seeing you what kind of trust basis are you forming in this relationship? Unless you gave him the go ahead to stick his penis is someone else I would be leery about his commitment to you.....but that's just me.

*Sassy Redhead*

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Are we all looking for perfection? Posted: 9/17/2009 7:57:30 PM
Nope....I'm not looking for perfection....just someone who can mesh with my life and willing to put up with my bullshet.....

*Sassy Redhead*

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Washington state importing convicted criminals Posted: 9/13/2009 9:55:15 AM
Some offenders are more responsibly monitored, and some get away with countless other offenses due to lack of supervision. Example, convicted sex offenders allowed to live with young children (here in WA). Some offenders are more responsibly monitored, and some get away with countless other offenses due to lack of supervision. I work within and with the criminal justice system and this to me is an unfair statement. As you are taking away the personal responsibility of not only the convicted felon but the community as well. PO's can't supervise their people 24/7. Would you want to live with convicted felons? And that is what the community demands when when a felon on supervision commits yet another crime. You could blame the sentencing structure but then people would be complaining because the prisons are more over crowded then what they already are and the tax payers would have to pay for housing them. Here is a novel idea....what about blaming the women who allow convicted sex offenders to live with them and their children? I see this happen all the time because they don't do the research to find out who they are bringing into their children's life. Then when something happens to their child they want to blame the system for not informing them that the guy was a sex offender. In my job I see this is a common occurance. Or here is a good one....what about the women whose children tell them that the guy they moved in is touching them and the woman refuses to believe it....hmmmmm. Therefore, allowing their children to continue to be victimized by Sex Offenders. Let's look at community responsibility too. There are people all around us who allow people to be victimized all the time because they don't want to be viewed as a "snitch" or have the belief that "it is none of their business" so they don't report crimes to law enforcement or get involved. Then there is the voting responsibilty of the people. The people that are making the laws that govern the sentencing structures for crimes, the policy and procedures for DOC and the governing guidelines for Interstate Compact. Guess what....they were voted into office by us....American citizens who have maintained our right to vote. So, in essences, we are responsible too. Our reality is that Interstate compacting of convicted felons has been happening for a long time. We export just as many as we import. Also, you may be surprised to know that some of the people here on POF, that participate in the forums, whom people admire for their sense of "honesty" are actually convicted felons who are imported/exported amongst the states. I know this because I have come across some in my dating life....yep, do you truly know who you are communicating with on here? Ok, I'll get off my soap box now but come on people stop blaming the system take some personal responsibility for what is going on in your communities. Reality is we are surrounded by people who will always make the choice to victimize others in this life. This is our reality in society and I don't see it getting any better but that could be because of what I do for a living.

*Sassy Redhead*

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Msg: 129 (view)

Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:27:07 PM
In this woman's world YEP YEP and YEP

*Sassy Redhead*

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Letting go of someone you don't love Posted: 9/9/2009 8:19:50 PM
I don't know....does she love you? If the answer is yes...then be humane and let her go. By continuing to be in a "relationship" with her you are giving her false hope that it will be so much more with you. You are going to hurt her regardless so it is best to do it sooner rather then later. Just rip the band aide off...it stings way less in the long run. The friend aspect....sure let's just rub salt into an open wound. Guy says to jilted girl: I still wanna be friends with you because I connect with you on a "best friends" level. I want to keep you in my life so you can watch me fall in and out of love with other women, all the while wondering why it isn't you. Really dude....is that fair to her? If you don't want her...then let her go to find happiness with someone who truly appreciates her, who wants to love her and will incorporate her into his life fully. Just my .02

*Sassy Redhead*

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Msg: 123 (view)

Do you see yourself as being fat/overweight Posted: 9/6/2009 8:30:34 AM
I personally don't see my self as overweight. Sure, I could lose 15-20 more pounds but I'm comfortable in my body. When I was overweight I was not comfortable at all being in my body. Am I perfect? Nope.... Do I wanna be perfect? Nope.... I think that I am an average gal. I am sure that there are others that will disagree and feel that if you are anything above a size 8 then your overweight. I disagree with their philosphy as each person is different in their build and body types and carry their weight differently. Who cares how other people classify you as long as you are happy with yourself and healthy according to your doctor !

*Sassy Redhead*

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Spelling, grammar and punctuation in profiles. Posted: 9/6/2009 8:24:15 AM
Seriously???? If that is the most important thing that you look for in silly lil profiles on POF than you are going to be HUGELY disappointed in life. I personally take education seriously and believe that your never too old to learn new things. I don't, on the other hand, discount someone because they've used a period in place of a common, typed out there instead of their or they're, or mis spelled a word. I have a master's degree and I am the worlds worst speller and dislike the pretentiousness of those who think their way of talkin is the only proper way in this world and on top of it feel the need to correct somone in order to make themselves look smarter then they really are. It has been my experience in this world that you can be book smart, common sense stupid and have no clue how to relate to others all under the pretense of "intelligence". That to me is a sad, lonely life. I purposely mis spelled words in my profile because I thought it was funny and cute but that's just me !

*Sassy Redhead*

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How can you help someone who's been hurt before? Posted: 9/3/2009 6:43:02 AM
From my perspective the only thing you can do is give her the time and space she wants. Only she can help herself through the pain of the previous hurt and build trust in you. Patience, patience, patience is the word of the day!

*Sassy Redhead*

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How Many Times Do You Say GOOD BYE? Posted: 9/3/2009 6:38:46 AM
Why is it we seem to stay with someone we know isn't right for us? I think we stay for a variety of the following reasons: * it is comfortable for us in the situation * we are not ready to become vulnerable with someone who is equally interested in us * the sex is good * the sex is REALLY good * we maintain a false sense of hope that his feelings for us will change * we lack confidence in ourselves in that we don't think we can find anyone better * some attention is better then no attention * we lack self respect * we have fun when we are with them * we are martyrs (just a few ideas before coffee) No opie.....your not the only one this happens too! I can say that from personal experience. How Many Times Do You Say GOOD BYE? As many times as it takes until you're DONE!

*Sassy Redhead*

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I only see my boyfriend once a week Posted: 8/28/2009 6:39:28 AM
This is a problem ...Why? What are your expectations for contact and seeing each other? And most importatntly.....have you communicated your expectations to him (especially if your not happy)? Answer these questions and your on the road to problem solving with him....good luck lil

*Sassy Redhead*

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do YOU see others as they truly are? Posted: 8/28/2009 6:35:21 AM
Agreed? Do your experiential filters color others in the way you really perceive yourself? Disagree....I think my experiential filters color others the way I want them to be often ignoring red flags in the process, not being a reflection of who I am. I think, for me, it is a sense of holding on to false hope in another because of the desire to find a man whom I can form a relationship with. I found in the past year that I was often willing to let some of my values slide in order to hold on to the "false hope" that the guy (s) I was involved with were something they truly were not. As always choosing a date is always confounding as it can be a crap shoot. I guess that is the excitement of dating. So, NO.... I don't always see others as they truly are but not based on your theory....I am self aware enough that I maintain my own theories.

*Sassy Redhead*

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Hurtful Name Calling. Posted: 8/26/2009 7:31:22 AM
Ummmmm.....he is verbally abusive and yes it is meant to hurt your feelings. I would think that you would want to leave if someone is being mean and hurtful to you. I can tell you from my personal experience if you continue to put up with it....well it will continue to happen. It shows a total lack of lovingness and respect for you. Hey, if you want to put up with that though....more power to you sister. My vote is to dump him especially if you have expressed your feelings about his behavior and he continues to say hurtful things to you. He is a Jerk (yes, that's a capital J)

SassyRedhead10

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How to tell when he's playing you... Posted: 8/21/2009 6:38:10 AM
How to tell when he's playing you... When you get burned !.....Finding out he is happily in a relationship/married and only wants you for sex. Or finding out he only wants you for sex. I think you have already seen the signs....you're just refusing to look at them. It happens to us all!

SassyRedhead10

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Ever seen a mail order husband? Posted: 8/20/2009 8:30:31 PM
Nope.....all my friends have taken the price tags off their hubby so you can't tell they ordered them out of a catalogue. Really? Seriously? In the world of on line dating you have to ask this question...wow. Online dating could be construed as "mail order" without the snail mail....more like email. So, I'm guessing that anyone woman who has met their hubby on line could potentially be a mail order hubby. I often compare online dating to online shopping. Your just a click away from your next best sale giggle .

SassyRedhead10

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Hugs: Harmless or Meaningful Posted: 8/20/2009 8:18:58 PM
Ummmmm.....I'm not a big hugger but IMO a hug at the end of the first meet is pretty harmless. Now the kiss is what will make or break the first meet from my perspective . I gotta have WOW kisses !

SassyRedhead10

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If he didn't like it, would you want him to eat it anyway? Posted: 8/20/2009 7:50:16 PM
If I knew a man didn't like something I slaved the whole day over the stove preparing (ok, that was a little dramatic) NO I wouldn't expect him to eat it. I wouldn't want to be forced to eat something that I didn't like so why would I force someone else to eat something they didn't like. Hell, yeah, I'd be disappointment but that is a normal human reaction but I would get over it....duh . Hmmmm....if someone slaved all day over preparing a meal for me and I didn't like it what would I have done....well, I would explain my aversion to the meal and offer to take him out to a resturaunt of their choosing....on me of course. Yep, that is what I would do.

SassyRedhead10

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~~ When to Tell Someone You Love Them ~~ Posted: 8/19/2009 9:56:50 PM
My guess would be that if you tell her you love her and she runs screaming the other way....it was probably not a good time to tell her. Who knows when the right time is? I think it depends on the two people forming the relationship. I would go get a magic 8 ball and ask it. It may be able to lead you in the right direction.

SassyRedhead10

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Do you want me? Posted: 8/19/2009 6:25:57 AM
Sounds to me as if he wanted cyber sex. He didn't get what he wanted to he made his excuse and opted out. Move on OP and don't try to figure this dude out. It is a waste of your time. You were only chatting with the guy for three days. When a guy asked me that and I have never even met him before I think "what the hell dude?". Then I tell him: "I've never seen you, have only been chatting with you for three days, how do I know if I want you or not....HELLO?" It appears to me that the two of you are "poles apart": He wants sex (cyber) and you want a relationship. I'm just guessing here but my magic 8 ball concurs.

SassyRedhead10

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Ex Partner Posted: 8/18/2009 8:19:23 PM
I would write it off and close the bank account yesterday! Hello, you have been "broken up" for two years and she still has access to your bank account. Wow

SassyRedhead10

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Should I let her come back...AGAIN???? Posted: 8/18/2009 8:16:13 PM
Really Dude? How long you gonna ride that emotional roller coaster she has got you on? Based on what You said...it doesn't appear that she is ready to give up her "fun" lifestyle to be in a responsible relationship. It appears you are her fall back guy but that is just my opinion based on what little you have told us about your complex relationship with your ex. An ex is an ex for a reason but that is just me .

SassyRedhead10

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The meaning of silence.... Posted: 8/17/2009 6:19:55 AM
Oh, he will come back again when he is lonely and needs some positive reinforcement to make him feel better. So, prepare yourself. Your response to him is totally up to you. What you want from him and the perspective of whatever it is you want for your life. Gotta love the game of catch and release, catch and realease, catch and release. It plays havoc on a person's thoughts.

SassyRedhead10

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Worst way of being cheated on????????????????? Posted: 8/17/2009 6:12:44 AM
Are there "good" ways to be cheated on? I'm pretty sure not! Cheating, is cheating, is cheating. How ever it is done it is gonna be hurtful to the person being cheated on! There is no "worst" way to be cheated on IMO.

SassyRedhead10

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New Term? Posted: 8/15/2009 2:46:30 PM
Hmmmm....I always thought a twit was someone who lacked common sense...an air head. Hey, but then what do I know....I'm in my 40's....what's the acronym for my age group? (Gawd, I hope no one says "cougar" because there are some of us who are soooooooo not that!)

SassyRedhead10

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Who was it that wrote the rules on Love?? Posted: 8/15/2009 12:30:53 PM
There are rules? I hate rules . To restrictive! The only rules you should follow are the ones you have for yourself to live your life in peace. Well, and you should probably follow the rules that keep you out of jail . All other rules can go to hell............. Living your life to the fullest works for me.

SassyRedhead10

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How many of you actually have dates for the weekends? Posted: 8/13/2009 6:34:23 AM
No, your not the only one. I think it is a common phenomenon when in the dating arena for awhile. There are times that I just want to sit out of the game for awhile. Nothing wrong with taking a little "me" time.

SassyRedhead10

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How are there so many people outside during the day? Posted: 8/12/2009 7:48:06 AM
It is a benefit called Vacation/Annual Leave. That is what I do when I take AL...go to the beach, fly a kite, jog, spend time with my son in a park, etc..... Don't you get that benefit where you work?

SassyRedhead10

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Do you do drugs??? Posted: 8/11/2009 10:38:51 AM
Let's see...I do Claritan(allergies), Claritan D (when I'm really stuffed up), One A Day Vitamins/Vitamin B 12 (I'm getting older and need supplements),coffee (one mocha a day), alcohol occasionally, and Aleve (when minor aches and pains get in the way). I think that covers the extent of my drug use...Can I still mark no on my profile? bats eyelashes I'm curious as to why the rant against pot smokers? Did you have some bad meets with pot heads?

SassyRedhead10

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Mean Girls Posted: 8/10/2009 10:21:04 PM
I think Sugarland sings this song....mean girls. What are the little girls doin that constitutes "mean"? Need more information Aren't their anti bullying laws where you are? If so, follow your companys procedures to report them. Whatever you do...don't show fear....then they know they got you. Stand up to them and don't let them bully you. You don't need to use physical violence to stop mean people. Just don't play into their bullcrap.

SassyRedhead10

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What's up with the Taken profiles? Posted: 8/10/2009 10:08:32 PM
I'm not sure what the issue is here. This is a social site so everyone is welcome regardless of their relationship status. If their "taken" status bothers you then click away to the next profile. Even if the "taken" hide their profiles they can still be contacted if they post in the forums because you can open a person's profile from there.

SassyRedhead10

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How long will you use online dating? Posted: 8/10/2009 10:54:51 AM
I go with the flow and will stay as long as it takes to develop a healthy relationship with a guy that I meet either on or off line. Once I'm in a relationship I will swim ( ) away from this pond.

SassyRedhead10

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How much should a man chase you to show he is interested? Posted: 8/9/2009 8:34:41 AM
Gosh, this is a hard questions because, for me, it depends on if I am equally interested in the man as well. If I am appathetic about a man, I don't want him to come on so strong that he overwhelms me (cornering me in my truck, calling me and if I don't respond to his VM soon enough he is emailing me, constantly asking me out after I have declined). If I am interested in a guy then I like to know he is thinking about me so I appreciate it when he text messages, calls, emails, asks me to hang out. When he makes an effort to show he is interested. This is kinda like a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. Whew!!! This dating thing is hard for everyone involved, isn't it?

SassyRedhead10

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Did you really give it your all? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:58:30 PM
but do you ever (like me) realize that where you used to completely blame your ex for the demise of your relationship you now see in fact you had a whole lot to do with it? Yep...sure do, did, done....I believe the relationship would have ended the same way though. You can have love without respect and he never respected me and I lost all respect in him...so be it! Nothing wrong with new beginnings though. I can say that I will do things differently with the next man I truly love. See more of how my behavior is contributing to problems in the relationship, blame less and truly forgive.

SassyRedhead10

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Honestly, what is sexier then a mullet? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:52:48 PM
Ummmm.... a sharp stick in the eye? Yep, that would be sexier!

SassyRedhead10

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What do couples do every day? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:50:55 PM
Afternoon delight? Oh, oh, I heart this idea!

SassyRedhead10

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What do couples do every day? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:49:25 PM
They do things together, they do things separately and they do things with friends and family. I'm guessing they do the kinds of things together that you or I would do with our friends: Dinner, movies, maritini bars, shopping, washing the dog, walks by the water, in a park in the dark....Now I'm starting to sound like Dr. Suess....on no....

SassyRedhead10

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PAST LOVE Posted: 8/7/2009 8:43:28 PM
Move on with your life....the memories are of unrequited love and what could have been...yet you moved on from that time long ago. Enjoy the memories while they last and then go on living in the present...not the past. That's my best .02 that I got tonight

SassyRedhead10

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what would you rather have, peace or passion? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:39:50 PM
Why do you have to have one or the other? I want both! I don't think that you have to be in a drama filled relationship to have passion. The last guy I was with told me I am so not the drama type yet our sex life was hot, exciting, and adventurous! My vote is for both.....peaceful passion !

SassyRedhead10

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Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that? Posted: 8/6/2009 7:59:52 PM
Do they even realize how negative they are? Some do....some don't..... to each his/her own. If that is what makes them happy then so be it. We can all choose to hang with them or not. I prefer positive people but I do have a couple really close friends who fall on the pessimistic side of life. I still love them as they love me...the eternal optimist. Do they ever get tired of being like that? Yep....they sure do....they try to make changes but it is sometimes hard to make changes when a behavior is so ingrained into you. They are tryin though. There is hope OP!

SassyRedhead10

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what is evil ? and how can you tell the most evil around ? could you ever become evil ? Posted: 8/6/2009 9:46:13 AM
IMO....evil is when someone has a total disregard for another being and finds pleasure in doing harm to others without remorse. I see evil in my job all the time. When an adult kills a child and then pleads not guilty. When an adult breaks a baby's bone in 17 different places and pleads not guilty. When an adult shakes a child so hard the child's brain is mush and pleads not guilty. Who knows what causes people to do crazy and evil things. I really don't care why they do it as long as they take responsibility for their deeds and accept the consequences. There are a lot of peole in this world who have screwed up childhoods who never go on to do evil so I think that excuse is a cop out. I know that I would rather take my own life then do harm senseless harm to others. So...NO....I could never become evil by my definition.

SassyRedhead10

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Are women marketable after age 30? Posted: 8/5/2009 7:58:53 PM
I guess it would depend if they are on sale or not..... hmmmm.

SassyRedhead10

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Crossdresser Posted: 8/5/2009 7:56:40 PM
How long did you know him before you moved him in? Seems to me the issue isn't that he is a crossdresser but more so that you have lost interest in him and now want him to move out. So, tell him to leave. Give him a time frame to find a new place and then change the locks if he doesn't abide by your request.

SassyRedhead10

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Can you fall in love with someone on line? Posted: 8/5/2009 7:40:30 PM
I can make contact with someone online, meet them, spend time with them and fall in love....been there, done that, got some t-shirts . I'm not sure you can fall in love with someone online when your only form of communication is via the net. How do you know the person is who they say they are without meeting them?

SassyRedhead10

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So how about cheaters Posted: 8/5/2009 7:37:17 PM
Dude....what are you thinkin? If you can't trust her to be in a relationship with you then why tempt fate by hanging with her. Is her SO a big dude? Total drama, drama, drama. You like livin on the edge...don't cha?

SassyRedhead10

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Ever had a perfect day? Posted: 8/5/2009 6:35:30 AM
I've had a lot of perfect days in my 41.5 years. I will have to think of some and get back to you on that. I know some included wonderful sunrises and sunsets. Days filled with giggles and smiles. Comfortable days where I can snuggle up under the blankets drinking hot cocoa, reading a good book and doing nothing all day long. Perfect days are about the company you keep and doing the things that make you smile....JMO.

SassyRedhead10

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Is he 'into me' or not? Posted: 8/4/2009 7:58:35 PM
My magic 8 ball says....the only way you are gonna know is by meeting this guy and if he stalls about meeting then....he is not into you as much as you are into him and you may have to cut your losses. Are you sure he is not married?

SassyRedhead10

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Who wants a happy ending? Posted: 8/4/2009 7:54:16 PM
So....are you the cynic? or the hopeless romantic? Do you believe you will find your "happily ever after"? Or....are we doomed to just keep searching for a fairytale that doesn't exist? To settle or be alone? I am a hopeless romantic that experiences boughts of cynicism when it comes to love. I believe that my happy ending will find me. I don't know what that looks like but when my end comes then I know that I have been loved by a few who will be loyal to me till the end. I know that I have made a difference in at least two children's life (one is my very own child). My philosophy in my profession is one that "If I can make a difference in at least one child's life then my journey through this life has been worth it". I am blessed because I've made a difference in two children's life. To settle or be alone??? How is one different from the other. I have done both and they feel almost the same. I almost think it is worse to feel alone when your with someone....settling. So, I would rather be alone then settle I suppose. I don't want a fairy tale....I want to find the person that compliments my life and wants to be in it through the good, bad and the ugly . With this said.....my friends will tell ya that I'm the hopeless romantic of the group!

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Intuition, Gut Instict? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:20:33 AM
question is What was that whole gut feeling about? Fear, Nervousness, Lack of Confidence in self to be interesting, basing your present on your past experiences. If you are always careful in life how will you ever experience adventure? I don't know about you but I can't guage my attraction to someone by just talking on the phone. Probably because I suck at phone conversation as I need to see someone so I can read body cues when communicating with them. I say meet the girl and see where it goes. Work through your "gut instinct/intuition" and live life a little!

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Do girls have backups? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:10:38 AM
Nope, don't need a back up number if I am in a relationship with a guy. I would respectfully decline the number if it happened to me. I don't look at relationships as throw away, continuously waiting for the next available fish to swim by. That's just me though .

SassyRedhead10

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2 strikes and you're out? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:33:54 AM
Ahhh, go for the 3 strikes your out. If he cancels/no shows again let him know your done! Erase his number from your phone and move on! He is not worth your time if he doesn't have follow through.

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Don't Put Long Term Posted: 8/3/2009 6:29:18 AM
Whats the point of looking for friends on a dating site. The point for me is so that I can meet cool and interesting people. If I come across the man I want to get to know better then....Woohoo...bonus, I'm dating someone really cool. If it develops into something more then....Yipppieee....I have found the one who is willing to mow my dandelions! Once I start dating someone I delete my account. When I find someone who is committed to me as I am to them....then I will delete my account. So, far I have found mostly men who say they want to be exclusive but maintain other relationships with women....moving in ex wives, living with their ex wife who is supporting them, wanting to play the field, etc.... I agree though that when I become serious about someone who is "with me" then I will delete my account.

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