guess what i'll do, i'll pick myself right up, and carry on!! chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: guess what i'll do, i'll pick myself right up, and carry on!!

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

guess what i'll do, i'll pick myself right up, and carry on!! Posted: 4/8/2008 5:26:52 PM
As well you should and GOOD FOR YOU! I agree with your post 100%. I've been terribly heart broken on exactly two occasions. Cried for a bit, got up, dusted myself off, took MY power back and moved on. This does not make you self centered....more likely extremely centered. You didn't feel a need to sit around and wallow and feel sorry for yourself. My kind of girl. Keep it up!! T

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 151 (view)

being online, has only made me more aware that men are liars, cheats and cons. i dont trust anyone Posted: 4/2/2008 9:13:40 AM
Ah....now wait a minute. You cannot blame this type of behavior on bieng "online" or make it completely gender bias. There have always been and always will be men AND women who cheat and lie. The internet has only given us the option of exposure to more people in general than is possible off line. It sounds like you need a break. If I were ever to find myself feeling jaded and not trusting anyone, I would stop dating completely, take some fun classes and focus on ME and making myself happy with myself. Surround myself with family, friends, educational possibilites, self improvement and awareness. Fortunately I don't feel a need to "have a boyfriend, husband or partner" in order to make myself feel complete or happy. Good luck.

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 143 (view)

You most likely did not overhear the entire conversation, and obviously don't know who they were ref Posted: 3/11/2008 8:42:36 AM
I agree. Wow and Ouch. You are single? I find that difficult to imagine.

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 273 (view)

why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 3/9/2008 5:10:08 PM
By her saying "why do men think they can use women for sex" IS her blaming men for a mistake (presumably) that SHE made. I just get so tired of people blaming others for their mistakes; then to go on long tirades looking for people to help lift the blame or guilt she is feeling. THEN she gets upset because people "go off on her" or whatever it is she whined about when she made another choice....putting her very personal choices on display...geez, lord help me. If she is this naive she probably shouldn't be dating...I'm smiling, I'm smiling, I promise I'm happy!!

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

are the ladies expecting to be swept off their feet Posted: 3/9/2008 11:17:54 AM
No. I've been in what I'm going to presume was her situation. Actually, a lot of times back when I internet dated frequently. I would click with someone online and it is going really, really well. Meet at a Starbucks and the physical chemistry just would not be there. At all, nada, zip, so NOT going to work for me... it sounds to me as if this may have been the situation and she wasn't mature enough to handle it in an appropriate manner. It is very difficult to tell someone that you are not attracted to them. They almost always take it personally. I've met with men who were gorgeous....they just didn't click for me. It sucks but remember, in the future that "it's" not there until you actually meet in person...perhaps meeting someone sooner, prior to spending all of that time getting your hopes up, would be the thing to do. You seem like one hell of a guy...pick yourself up, dust yourself off, start again. You really wouldn't want someone around that does not know how to deal with any type of conflict, would you?

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 168 (view)

why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 3/6/2008 2:51:33 PM
You must be joking! Seriously? It is called "A Choice" and you made it. Now you are blaming "men in general?" No one can "use" you that you do not allow to do so. Take responsibility for your own actions as well as your part in the situation. The word you are looking for is "no." If you want to have sex then have it. If you don't, then don't. If you want to set the bar and expect men to rise to that level, my experience is that they will. This is ALL on you. Period.

Joined: 3/2/2008

Msg: 128 (view)

Am I stupid? Posted: 3/6/2008 10:38:15 AM
It is clear that you already know the answer to this question.

Show ALL Forums