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 Author Thread: I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
 made_of_stars28
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 488 (view)
 
I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 11/2/2008 6:20:41 PM
no way are you a bad mother because of marjuana. you could be a bad mother if you didnt care for your child or neglected her, which by the way, many acoholics do on a regular basis. yea, marjuana use is illegal in the states, but in canada, where i am from you can grow 5 plants in BC and you can smoke it as long as you dont have a over a certain amount.

for those of you who feel that it is illegal, therefore its wrong, Socrates would disagree. Now I am not sure if you have heard of him, but he is a philosopher who was put to death for going against his governments laws. yes he was killed for teaching and trying to encourage thought in children, and smoking green is a little different, but I am pointing out the faulty logic in saying that because it is illegal it is wrong.

what makes something morally wrong is if you are harming people or if you are not maximizing happiness and you are maximizing pain instead and if you feel that most people could smoke green and not be abusers. .. this is according to philosophy morals and ethics, not mine specifically.

i think society has to examine what is legal and illegal. using alcohol causes greater damage to children then smoking the odd doobie.

sorry guys but really there are more serious issues like abuse, neglect, and alcoholism that need to be addressed so lets stop passing blame on mom who smokes a little green....

is it wrong for cancer patients to smoke it... i mean, common here...

anyways....

thats just my thoughts
 made_of_stars28
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
I did it HAHAH
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:12:32 AM
My man and I have been having problems for the whole two years together and I moved out for 7 months for space. We dated and kept it casual during those 7 months. I knew he needed time to know whether our relationship was something that he wanted at that point, we had a ton of issues. During that time we dated other people and tried to get on with our lives. However, after ending it for two months (we dated for 5 of 7 months and then he called and we ended it for the last two months).

we both started a new life with other people. We were moving on. However, we saw one another in a store one day, well he drove all around town to find me because he saw my car. And my heart just dropped and I knew I had NEVER felt that way seeing an ex. Plus we hadnt been living together in 7 months, so why should I feel like that.

That was that, it was only a matter of a couple of weeks until he told me that he made the biggest mistake letting me go and that he regretted it and his heart is broken and all he wants is us to get back together. I thought about it, and told him that this was no story and there was no happy endings like that. I told him how could I go back to living there, just like that. He said lets make it our story and do it.

So I came back after he finally, after 7 months, told me that he didnt want to be without me and I was that important to him. We ended our relationships with the others, and although its hard to picture he was with someone else, so was I, and I work on letting that go. We never cheated on one another.

He said I want you to come home, and two months later, he says he never wants me to leave. I love him very much and I am 29 years old, I am not silly.

Who knows if it actually will work. Maybe, maybe not. But its definately nice to hear how much I meant to him and its a great thing to try!
 made_of_stars28
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
I believe the vast majority of relationships are unhappy
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:06:48 AM
I completely agree. Although I would like to say that having a good relationship and being happy within is very important to human happiness, that being true, I would also have to say that having unhappy relationships takes a toll on us that just can't be justified. Friends and family are our best hope of happiness from relationships. Why are so many people unhappy and still in their relationships? Who knows, there's plenty of reasons. However, I know at my age, 29, I am now ready to just date and see people and have male friends in that manner, but I am staying clear of relationships that move too fast or ask too much. it is very important to have a peaceful and balanced life, more important then trying to bend to meet someone's expectations and hopes. If one is to find someone that makes them happy, even though there are issues with every relationship, then good on you. However, it is time to stop hoping that a relationship can and will make us happy. Happiness is a quality that only we can develop, as individuals.
 
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