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justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

The Abscent father returns Posted: 7/2/2007 8:33:40 PM
Wow this is going to be long but I think worth the read. First, Hiwayman, if you new ( that one is for grog27 ) were to send the child support checks, because you said that you paid your child support, how did you not know where they were living. There is a lot of hateful people in this world today both men and women, but there is no way in h_ll that my ex would keep me from my kids no matter how hateful or how far she moved from me. 2nd, grog wow dude you need to get a date or something. Third, OP we don’t know your child out all but I would hope that you would take the advice that is being given here. If your daughter wanted to go at first and now does not ,there is something wrong, A father and daughter relationship is one of the best things in this world and if a little counseling would help your daughter to have that, It would be worth a millon. 4th justcueit, Sounds like you have done well with your son, and the no thrash talking the other parent is some of the best advise anyone could give. Encouraging a relationship is a very good thing, but sometimes you just have to try and then leave it up to the other parent to see if they want to have a relationship with the child. Oh and by the way u spel very nice.

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Worst date ever Posted: 10/31/2006 8:40:12 PM
Damn girl, Guys like that give us good guys a bad name, sry to hear about your bad deal but dont judge all men cause of it, there r some of us good guys left. Adventure, she did nothing wrong at all, its called a party that is what u do at parties is go and talk to people.

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Engagement ring meant for someone else Posted: 10/31/2006 12:45:58 PM
seems like the thing to do today is sell the ring and buy breast implants for the next wifie pooh

justlooking101

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do dead beat parents ever actually become parents? Posted: 10/22/2006 8:04:26 AM
[Best thing, don't just date a "single father"....date a guy who was with a woman for 10 years.] WOW Are you kidding me, I know a guy that was married for 15 years and has a 14-year-old son, got divorced last year and might see his kids once ever 3 months (maybe). Now a different friend of mine was married to this girl for 3 years, had a son, got divorced, met a different women and has been married for 12 years AND has custody of his son. How about this though...... WATCH what a man does with his kids and then you see the REAL him. I was with a women for 16 years and never married, have 2 kids with her so you want people to ASSUME that I am deadbeat dad or not a good man.

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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feelings from the start Posted: 10/18/2006 4:38:58 PM
[/I no a person who got engaed 7 days after meeting her and than 3 mths after bougt a house together and now 4 mths later she is pregant I highly doubt they will make it they moved way to fast.] wow you know my ex !!!!!!

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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feelings from the start Posted: 10/18/2006 2:17:21 PM
wow great replies thanks ladies, sparks vs lust, thats a good way of putting it And i just have to say there r some beautiful "European with Black hair" women on here too

justlooking101

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feelings from the start Posted: 10/18/2006 1:48:17 PM
I hope this is not a repeat thread (I did do a search and could not find anything) but here it does. What is your feeling on a relationship starting out with sparks fly vs. Things just starting out slow without all that honeymoon feeling but still like each other very much. Has there been studies done on this that might state witch one might last? Everyone is looking for the sparks, honey feeling relationship but does it last, or realistic to ask for. Has someone started the relationship not feeling the sparks but turned out to love each other a lot?

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/15/2006 10:23:28 AM
no not at all, i respect the fact that she looked me up and asked me about it, at least i know that she care enough about herself and her kids to take a little time to check and being careful.......... I must not be with it today, i dont get the whole thing on that guy asking for my phone number ???????????????

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/14/2006 10:35:18 PM
Personally I would think twice about someone who plead guilty to something he didn't do because of money issues...I would wonder what else he wouldn't feel was worth fighting for........... Well let’s see here, court date was 3 weeks after I got arrested. First pay check went on all new clothes, second pay check went on getting a place to live for the next month, third pay check went on getting something to eat for me and my kids, 750 dollars for lawyer to start (could be up to 2000 dollars) vs. 342 dollar fine, DO THE MATH. OP, maybe you could let the new lady talk to the ex and have her explain you did not touch her. 4 counts is the scarey part. why four counts??????? Having those to talk would NOT be a problem for me except I am sure she (the new lady) would get the same answer I got when I called my ex the next day to ask her why she did that to me 5 years ago, the ex;s reply was “ I don’t remember that happening “ she had nothing else to say nothing at all. Why 4 counts, 2 counts on my ex ( one count and aggressive actions and one count for contact ) and 2 counts ( same as hers ) for her 19 year old daughter that was there that night. I wouldn't go around telling everyone about your checkered past........; I didn’t, to be very honest with you I had forgot all about it I think that there's one point that was overlooked: She found the record - but still kept the date. If it were really an issue, she may have cancelled......... Thank you, that is exactly what she said, word for word was “ if I was worried about it I would not be here “. OP said he was charged with 4 counts, so that sounds like he was facing the very real possibility of doing actual jail time......... Thank you too, 4 count of domestic battery went to 1 count of simple battery and 12 months of court supervision check in one time and they said I didn’t have to anymore. Thanks for all the replies, it has really helped me deal with this and get some other opinion. Now the big question is, I called her that night and made sure she made it home ok , when should I call her again, I hear that one should wait for 2 to 3 days after ?

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/13/2006 6:22:27 PM
thanks ladies, to be honest about it i had forgot all about it untill she said something about the public records, and in all fairness i have kids myself and i dont really know if i would have went out with someone with that past record like that but i am opened minded and trust myself to at least met for a drink and see for myself. Just to add a twist to all this , i called my ex today (witch we ususally talk everyday about the kids) and asked her why she did that that night and she is saying that she does not even remember , i said what ever see ya at 4 to get my son and was done with it.

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/13/2006 6:05:55 PM
sguss, wow u should be a laywer very well said and thanks for all the reply's, when she started to talk about the public records i just started to laugh cause i knew where it was going, i just told her that it was simple not true but would understand if there was not a secound date but after the night was over we made plans for a secound but it still really bothers me bad that it is on my record but oh i guess like someone said 50/ 50

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/13/2006 5:53:59 PM
i went out with her the first time last night and she know about the charges, i never said anything about it , she brought it up. we have around here where you can look up any public court case on the internet so she ran my name before we met.

justlooking101

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Criminal record Posted: 10/13/2006 5:43:31 PM
Ok I will make this real short and to the point, I was arrested 5 years ago when me and my ex broke up cause I found out that she was talking to someone else and I got pissed one night and started to yell and I left and a cop arrested me with 4 counts of battery.( I never touch any one ) The lawyer was going to be 750 dollar to start and when I went to court they said that I could plea brogan out with 1 count of simple battery and 230-dollar fine. So I did (big mistake). Now 5 year later (after being single for 5 years) I go out with this girl and the first thing she brings up is my battery charges. Here is my question for both men and women, Ladies would you think a lot about this or see how the man was before making a judgment on who he is, and men would you after fives hire a lawyer and get this removed from my record or just let it go and live with it.

justlooking101

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why do men always go back to there exs who treat them like crap Posted: 10/12/2006 2:38:21 PM
oh yes the good old make up sex now i remember why

justlooking101

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why do men always go back to there exs who treat them like crap Posted: 10/12/2006 2:36:49 PM
I did it for a long time but the only thing that comes to my mind is a song by Buckcherry "crazy bi... "

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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why do men run away? Posted: 9/17/2006 9:16:38 PM
I think its cause ppl really dont know what hell they want anymore. Ppl look for happiness in other ppl and when they date someone a few times and they r still not happy they think it is the other person and move on to the next to see if that person will make them happy , well guess what if u r not happy yourself no one else is going to make u happy

justlooking101

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3 dates and you're out- a mans rule.. Posted: 9/11/2006 8:08:09 AM
OP sounds like some guy is trying to B.S. you into having sex.

justlooking101

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O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore? Posted: 8/28/2006 2:56:09 PM
message 14 and 16, he know if he put "look at me" for the subject they would delete the post, this is just one more way to get women to look at his profile.

justlooking101

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Men & Premature Balding Posted: 8/28/2006 12:57:31 PM
Just my 2 cents worth, i use to have long hair when i was younger now that i am geting older and starting to lose it, i went short and i love it, wish i would have done it a long time ago. Please dont send me hate mail on this comment (this has happened to me) but if some women out there will not even look at me cause i am balding, that is a good thing cause i would not want to see what the rest of her attitude is like, i am a good man, father, and a nice person, and would not want someone that is in the relationship for looks only.

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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I spent the day with my ex and his 1st new girlfriend since me Posted: 8/26/2006 8:27:18 PM
Wow it is really nice to see that some ppl can get along with the ex's new partners. I think that it is great. I get along with both my ex and her boy friend, she has dropped their baby off here to stay for a hour or two while she went shopping, no big deal to me, besides it is all about the kids at this point, not us. NICE POST

justlooking101

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Psycho Ex-BF Posted: 8/24/2006 11:12:48 PM
xxxxooooooaaallll

justlooking101

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what is up with ppl today Posted: 8/23/2006 8:09:12 PM
Why do people say “I still love him/her “ , “ I cant get over him/her “, Why did he/she dump me” or my favorite “ I will never love again like I loved him/her” First off , with that attitude you will get a date, second it not as bad as it could be people. Live, have some fun and don’t give up, things will happen for all of us. My brother was in a car accident, paralyzed for the chest down, and then died a year and a half later, but he never complained about one damn thing, so every time we think things are bad just look around, we don’t have it that bad. So what makes our life so bad that we just cannot move on and be happy?

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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body peircings? Posted: 8/20/2006 1:49:48 PM
was this comprehensive study done back in the 1960's ?????????????

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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body peircings? Posted: 8/20/2006 1:13:56 PM
That is just stupid vivid, i have tattoos and i am not a angery person nor do i have a problem with who i am . I would really like to see where u got that info from and if u dont post anything up we will just assume that u never seen that.

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Oral sex the first time you make love Posted: 8/16/2006 7:58:39 PM
I agree totally

justlooking101

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how to lose a guy in 10 days? Posted: 8/16/2006 3:11:32 PM
There is some funny sh.. on here. for me its real easy a women could lose me in 10 secounds just tell me that she has messed around on me , i will be gone by dawn . lol

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Men on a Marriage Strike Posted: 8/14/2006 1:47:08 PM
I have been on strike for 21 years now, works for me

justlooking101

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How many is too many? Marriages I mean . . . Posted: 8/10/2006 3:15:09 PM
If you are starting to get worried then i think it might be too many

justlooking101

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Help, please!!!!!!!!!!!1 Posted: 8/10/2006 3:09:01 PM
Sounds like to me that u r still in love with this guy , the thing that i really want to know is why did you 2 break up? I think alot of answer would come out if u would tell us that. Is your ex and this girl members on here?

justlooking101

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A Dating Dilemma - Just between friends Posted: 7/20/2006 3:58:34 PM
Damn girl i need one of those after reading that , but my only question is , where is uncle dad at in this whole thing,lol, getting to close to home with all these friends.

justlooking101

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How to let a man down nicely? Posted: 4/26/2006 5:00:51 PM
Do it now befor it does to far and always remember that you should never get your honey where you make your money

justlooking101

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i caught my ex boyfriend dressed like a woman Posted: 3/6/2006 4:04:49 PM
OHHHHH sh it that is funny man very good one

justlooking101

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i caught my ex boyfriend dressed like a woman Posted: 3/6/2006 4:03:32 PM
Thank you Ruby Reb , at least i know there is still normal ppl out here today

justlooking101

Joined: 7/14/2005

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i caught my ex boyfriend dressed like a woman Posted: 3/6/2006 10:39:50 AM
What the hell is wrong with people today, am I just really old fashion ? This is not right from the start. There is only one reason for me (a man ) to wear women clothes and that is when they come flying off her in the heat of passion and just happen to land on me, that is the only reason. There are some serious issues going on here. Be careful !!!!!

justlooking101

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Keeping up with the Jones Posted: 10/19/2005 7:00:46 AM
This is for all the ppl that come on here and say " what a bumb post " Duh if u dont like it shut your damn putter off, this board is for everyone to talk about what ever they want , not just the things YOU think should be talked about

justlooking101

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 10/13/2005 2:26:55 PM
see i got so bothered that i forgot to pun in viewed

justlooking101

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 10/13/2005 2:26:12 PM
Damn livewire i just your profile now i really think u r hot

justlooking101

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 10/13/2005 2:24:05 PM
livewire and munch, could have not said it better, livewire i think u r very good looking

justlooking101

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Men...What is the most romatinc thing a woman has don for you? Posted: 10/13/2005 12:45:06 PM
mine gave me a divorce finally

justlooking101

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 10/13/2005 8:39:03 AM
Dear Bambi75 So r u suggesting that if a man does not want to date a good looking women that he is insecure ? Or r u suggesting that if a man is insecure that the women will cheat cause he is that way? Either way I will respond, I will not date a good looking women just cause I don’t want to take the chance of going through the bull shit that I have with the other 2 good looking women that I have married. And as far as being insecure , u keep on using that excuse for your failed relationships all u want, like they say it is easier to look at someone else issue than to look at your own. Just kinda wonder if Bambi75 should be Bimbo75

justlooking101

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Marry an ugly woman Posted: 10/13/2005 6:57:17 AM
i have been mairred to 2 great looking women and i will say this its not that all of them cheat,or if any, but there are games that r play with reallt good looking women. Its the little things that makes the relationship hard, like the whole thing with a women coming home and telling her man how many men hit on her, y ? i was hit on alot but never came home and told my wife, the relationship just seems like to me its more about insulting, tring to stay above the other person, competition, just my thought. oh and another point is simple shit like if i spell something wrong, y would that bother anybody, its stupid little shit like that.

justlooking101

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As a man, what are the 3 most important things that you look for in a woman as a potential mate? Posted: 10/13/2005 6:34:29 AM
I like my women to be “fine” F...ed up Insecure Neritic Emotional

justlooking101

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Okay don't yell at me............ Posted: 10/12/2005 3:15:16 PM
I totally agree with tenbear on this, there is nothing better than well lets just say going south for some pizza, it has to him girl cause in my book there is nothing better than oral or 69 but thats y they call me "puff the muff diver" and it r good looking so move on if he can not give u what u need.

justlooking101

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I am very passionate about multiple partners. Posted: 10/12/2005 11:41:11 AM
Sounds like where AID's starts to spread good luck and happy hunting

justlooking101

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Who gets the check? Posted: 10/10/2005 2:10:38 PM
wow i must be really old fashion , the man should always pay for the date with wanting nothing in return, unless she is willing , all the men out there step up to the plate and start treating women like they should be treated.

justlooking101

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do women like being shaved by their man? Posted: 9/9/2005 10:00:54 AM
i did it to my ex just Be Care Full

justlooking101

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What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic? Posted: 9/9/2005 9:55:47 AM
Run like hell

justlooking101

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I've got your answer, HERE !!!!! Posted: 9/9/2005 9:50:41 AM
said perfectly and i like your tattoos

justlooking101

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Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women? Posted: 9/9/2005 9:49:18 AM
Alot less bull shit to put up with, I have been in 2 major relationships in my life and both were very good looking and it is just to many head games, not to say that all good looking women r like that but the ones that i run into r

justlooking101

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Why are WOMEN so blind??????? someone let me know!!!! Posted: 9/9/2005 9:42:59 AM
I think u r very right, i have done it and seen it , does not make a bit of sense but when u let them know that u really like them and want to take it to the next level, they take the next bus out of town, and i am sure that does for men to so please dont send me hate mail ladies, I think it is that some ppl just dont know what they want or r into head games.

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