Since you're new I'll save you the trouble of posting any questions about dates. The answer always is "Sorry. He's just not that into you"

I would venture that everyone has this experience. And I think the reason why is because everyone on dating sites are basically going for others who are a bit "out of their league" in the upward direction. This is due to the "catalog mentality" which doesn't exist in Real Life, the phenomenon that says, "here are all these people at my fingertips, I actually have a real chance with them", when in reality they most likely do not, and wouldn't even dream of approaching such a person in Real Life.

You're contacting people slightly above your "league", so of course they're going to be more exciting than some guy who is contacting you who is below or equal to your league, so to speak. (And by league, I mean the classification based on social capital that consists of beauty, money, fame, talent, power.)

I don't date anyone that smokes.

If I hadn't said anything, and this woman gets to find out, perhaps further along the road to have her little girl calling this "poor man" daddy, and everything goes pear shaped for them, she will be heartbroken and perhaps, even, unable to allow herself to be in love again... He texts me to say that he is so sad because he split from his girlfriend (*), and I knew all along what he was doing, then what would that make me? A nasty, evil, rotten and twisted piece of work?

Let it be known that, by Tuesday night, when he started his buttering texts in the aftermath, he told me that he was happier than ever before for having found the most wonderful woman in his life. Did he reach that conclussion in about four days?

"Eyes that don't see, heart that doesn't feel".

Based on that, I don't actually see what he did that was wrong...
First off, He posted the pics AFTER he "sexted" with you...
Second, If he posted the pics of her, it doesn't seems like he was hiding her from you... or from anyone else....
Third, you admit you were out of contact for several days, so maybe he had no opportunity (or any great need to - you were only FWBs) to let you know...

So you find all this out and suddenly jump to the conclusion he was "cheating" on her????...
He could have also been in a FWB with her at the same time as you and only on Saturday, they decided to ramp it up to a full relationship.
I really think you were out of bounds by telling her he was cheating on her...

I can cope with a non commital, FWB situation,

but I can't accept to be used in order to cheat on somebody, especially a single mum who has suffered a lot in the past. Being a single mum myself, and having had my heart broken by players, I felt quite sick that he would be doing something like that.

But - I see that you are separated. No need to review. Look for other separated people, or work on your divorce .

If you're just looking for friends...but you also might wind up having a 'meet' or date from it, you might, just might....want to change the category to Dating, just in case. The reason for that is because you won't show up in many searches for Friends, because most women use it as a dating site.

Well, other than that..........I wasn't too brutal.

Brainless beauties is what I get. .

Hispanic; look up the definition......Albanian; look up the definition....both of these are Caucasians...."whites"..................

A bunch of people called native Americans were here first when the Hispanics came to the Americas they came from Spain......

So yes I am Caucasian any way you slice it.......And Albania also in Europe, also in the south like Spain is Caucasian

Italy, Greece, Spain, Albania and many other places in East europe

But just because Japanese bombed pearl harbor doesn't mean they screwed everybody and had kids, and the same is true in South Europe and Eastern Europe and anywher eelse there is war [/qouted]

What you are saying here ?? and where you are going ?? who talks about wars ?? and whatever who screwed who ?? this is a Dating site ...... simply .. so please take your ....... where ever it belong .. "I told you either you are a ................ or you have other Issues"





Again ?? ok .. You was in hell.. so what is this to do your religion with what we talking about Liars in A DATING SITE , alot of people here are christians and they don't cry for sympathy or to show that they are cristians, and alot of people are Athiest " Albania Country more than 80% are Athiest" and then comes the cristians in the population count ?? so what the hell you are talking about in A DATING SITE . you talk about history whatever 400 years ( Are you trying to say you are a Vampire ??!!!) ..
By the way i didn't get a clue yet about why you keep talking about Hispanic and Spain in the same sentence you say you are from Albania ?? those are 3 different locations and big countries and oceans separates between each of the 3 backgrounds ???





glad you say that .. yet i don't believe or think you listen to your own words..

And i'm very happy you have such imagination, but please .. this is Dating site, and this is Dating Experience forum... and if you have issues with what you have in your previous country / countries.. or in your own mind.. you can go back and kill all those bloody Arabs or muslims or whoever.. just i give you a lesson for free (( Arabs are White Race)) ..

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Great Reply ..

If you knew the op's posting history you would have realised what you where walking in to in the first place. Come on, the picture of a church with the caption "I have culture" didn't give even a little hint?

Yah why don't you try looking in to the Bloody history of East Europe and then you can judge me and my culture that was dominated by Muslims for 400 years

Well Anglos are a Nordic tribe, and most Europeans are a mix of north/ south or just central. Actually a good deal of indo European languages would beg to differ that there were caucasians aka whites, in the area of india, Iran, Pakastan. They were and are still throughout the middleast. And so just like there are real East Asian people there are real Caucasians. Anglo is the same as saying Roman, it is a blanket rem that is not acurate. And not all Europeean languages are Indo-European, there are also Latin, Uralic, and Celtic and I would assume others. English is considered Indo-European and German as well, though Latin and Greek play a huge part in medical and law; proving there are differnt caucasian tribes all of one race. Just like Japanese, Korean, Indonesian; same race..

However there seems to be a group of "1kindman-haters" who search for my comments on these forums just to bash me

even if she didn't get checked or has had a history of a/or multiple std(s) you think she's going to tell you the truth? The real question is, what do you get out asking such a thing?

What is offensive is your assumption that their inviting you in for a coffee or a glass of wine means they intend to have sex with you. Yep, it is offensive.

Everyone is "supposed" to pretend you're only there for the wine, and the sex "just happened."

I believe the best time is when the two of you are taking off your clothes as "the moment" is about to begin.

Its right to ask if she's been tested and when. But rather than you saying you get tested every 3 months, just say you tested clean on whatever date you got tested. There's no reason to divulge how often you get tested, its the last test that counts.

Would probably need a decent qualification in psychology to get at that answer properly, i would say its because as a race we are still unable to treat sex asnormal and have to make it a private thing to each individual, i'm not suggesting everyone be uninhibited and honest about it but i don't think std's should be a taboo subject, seems its not going to be casual conversation anytime soon though.

Do you say, "Thanks for the cup of coffee. Oh, and when were you last tested for STD's? Can you pass me the cream and sugar?"

It's your timing that's offensive.

ummm if you didn't have sex on the mind you wouldn't be asking that. so they were right to freak, you should only ask those questions when you know them well enough.

"Just be yourself."