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sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks Posted: 9/22/2009 6:23:42 PM
I think what it boils down to is a lack of good manners on the person's part, if you haven't got something nice to say about a person, then don't say it! Besides as the old saying goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Not all people go according to how a person looks or whether they are overweight or not but for who and what they are as a human being. It's like my Dad used to say, "some people let their mouth run ahead of their brains" and he was right about that, only in this case it's fingers and not mouth, that is running ahead of their brains, right? People should really stop and think before saying what they say, whether or not it is verbally or typing up an email to send to someone and ask themselves, how would they like it, if someone said that about them but they don't because they really don't care and have no conscience or they wouldn't do it? It is best to just try and ignore them because they really aren't worth the bother, there are far better people in this world, just remember that! Don't let it get to you, either, it isn't worth it!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Is it rude not to respond to an email??? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:00:46 PM
Of course it's rude not to respond to an email that is sent to you and I have read some of your responses to this question, I see that some of you lay the blame for not responding to an email on women only but guys are just as guilty for doing this as well. I have sent emails to different guys on this website in particular and they very seldom, if ever get answered. The guy either, reads it and deletes it or reads it and ignores it or he doesn't read it at all and deletes it. I have often wondered, why I even bother sending these emails to different guys on this website in particular because of the way they react to them by not responding to them at all? If they would send an email in response saying they are not interested would be better then not responding at all but I guess it just takes too much effort to do even that! No such thing as good manners these days, I guess, right? I wonder where they went, don't you?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Why Do We Turn To Internet Dating?? Posted: 9/17/2009 5:50:35 PM
I have often asked myself this question but I think the reason I turned to internet dating was that I figured I'd have more luck in getting a date that way, as opposed to offline. But I have since found that, that isn't true, it doesn't seem to matter whether or not it is online or offline, I still don't get asked out, anyway. I have also asked myself, many times why do I keep coming back to internet dating websites, when it doesn't seem to serve any useful purpose, I'm still no further ahead then when I started? Like deluxe edition says, "who doesn't like opening their email and seeing a bunch of mail icons there", I most certainly do like seeing such things in my inbox but where are they, there is none? I feel like I am wasting my time on internet dating websites because I'm getting no where fast! It would certainly be worth it, if I did get messages every once in a while and got asked out occasionally but I don't, so why do I bother? I haven't got the answer to that one!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 590 (view)

Name the number one thing keeping you single.. Posted: 6/27/2008 5:36:05 PM
The number one thing that's keeping me single is the fact that I am not that anxious to go out on a date anymore because I have been disillusioned by the guys I have met and gone out with, that are members of the same singles websites I am, as well as the ones I have met and gone out with offline. I am in no hurry to get married, anyway at my age and I have never seen any good reason to hurry into something like that anyway, there's no point in it.

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Why do you join a singles site to find a mate and yet don't ?? Posted: 6/22/2008 12:55:43 PM
To be perfectly honest, I got talked into joining singles websites after I bought my computer, it wasn't my idea but I thought at the time it would be fun to meet guys and go out on dates but since then I have found it to be the exact opposite. It started out like it was going to be fun but I soon learned that it isn't, I have since then become not so anxious to go out with guys on dates and I'm still not that anxious to go out with guys on dates. All the fun seems to have gone out of it and I still much prefer the old-fashioned way of dating that existed before singles websites were created in the first place! At least where the old-fashioned way of dating was concerned you got to meet the person who asked you out first before going on a date with them and could not only see what they looked like but also be able to read their facial expression and body language which kind of gave you a warning of sorts as to what they were like beforehand. On this particular singles website, I don't usually receive messages from guys unless I contact them first, when it should be the other way around but I am not particularly worried about it because of the fact that I am not particularly anxious to go out with guys on a date because of previous experiences with ones that I have met on other singles websites that I am a member of plus the fact that some of the messages I have received from guys on this website and others were nothing but judgmental personally speaking. Maybe things will change, I don't know but I wouldn't want to bet on it, though!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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smoking ban in ontario Posted: 6/19/2008 5:56:52 PM
I must say I completely agree with mom2beagle in what she said about firmbear8, whether smokers realize it or not they smell from what they have been smoking, it is all over their clothes on their breathes as well. That would be a good enough reason for any person for not wanting to meet a smoker! Of course a lot of smokers will tell you that cigarettes or any other tobacco product doesn't stink and the reason they can't tell the difference is because smoking affects both the sense of taste and smell, which is a proven fact! I read what firmbear8 wrote in his response and it only proves what I said in what I wrote before in this thread and that is smokers are so addicted to tobacco products that they don't care about the affects their bad habit has on non-smokers as long as they get their fix of nicotine. Their nicotine fix is more important to them then the lives of other people and the health of other people, including those they care about or they wouldn't talk like firmbear8 does and use any excuse in the book to get it, including the decline in the number of bar patrons!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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For electronics, Best Buy or Future Shop?? Posted: 6/18/2008 6:04:36 PM
Before I bought my new TV to replace my old one this year, I did a lot of research online as well as offline, I used my search engine on my computer to check out many electronic stores and finally decided on the Future Shop in the city I live in. I wanted to get away from the picture tube style TV because the picture tube from what I understand is the most expensive part of a TV to replace when it needs to be replaced. I also wanted to make sure that I bought my new TV from a place where the staff know quite a bit about electronics and that the place I bought it from was conveniently close by for me to get to, in case it had to go back. Offline I visited several stores including Walmart, Canadian Tire, the Source and the Future Shop, I checked them out before deciding on which place to buy my new TV from. Online I checked out several websites including Leons, the Brick, Best Buy, Walmart, Canadian Tire, Zellers, Tiger Direct, etc. The best place I found was the Future Shop, I went there and there was no sales pressure, the staff were quite knowledgeable about electronics, the price was quite reasonable and I decided to buy a 37" LCD TV from Toshiba. I wasn't pressured into an extended warranty or anything like that, I was informed about the return policy they have, which was reasonable and also how it could be delivered for me but I chose to have a friend help me bring it to my place, instead. The picture quality is excellent and the sound quality is also excellent and I am perfectly satisfied with it! Because of how well I was treated by the staff at the Future Shop and the prices and selection of electronics there, I will definitely go back there again when I need something and I am not advertising for them by saying that either, I mean what I say, I was quite impressed by the place, which doesn't happen very often when I go shopping for something, at some places I do get disgusted and walk out.

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 123 (view)

smoking ban in ontario Posted: 6/18/2008 1:13:01 PM
The new law regarding a ban on smoking here in Ontario applies to smoking in cars or vehicles where children are present. I would like to see a total ban on all tobacco products not only here in Ontario but across Canada and the world, there is no need for smoking and it only causes a lot of health problems and death, not to mention a lot of unnecessary sorrow and grief in familes plus it raises the cost of health care that could be used in other areas of health in this country. I have seen on the news on TV, that they have now found that smoking does cause pollution in the air, that it contributes to bad air and pollutes the air we breathe. A lot of smokers don't seem to realize it but smoking has been found to be ten times more addictive then heroin and that is one of the reasons it is so hard to quit and there is apparently a genetic link to it as well. I think that smokers get so addicted to smoking that it doesn't dawn on them what kind of damage it does to health and makes them not care about the health of other people around them, that it actually clouds their judgment where this issue is concerned. All you have to do is read some of the responses in this thread in particular and you can actually see this, that smokers don't care what harm their smoking does to other people as long as they get their nicotine fix. I, myself, don't see why us non-smokers have to put up with smokers' bad habits and breathe in that awful, smelly cigarette smoke every time we go out some where, anyway or have to suffer the consequences of smokers' bad habits, do you? It is long over due for a total ban on tobacco products and the use of them!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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What is your #1 Pet Peeve in Profiles Posted: 6/18/2008 12:42:41 PM
My #1 Pet Peeve in Profiles is the ones you contact who set themselves up as judge and jury where your looks and what you wear are concerned. Myself, I don't set myself up as judge and jury where a guy's looks are concerned when I contact them, what I do is look for something either in their profile that interests me or sometimes just the smile on their face and then decide whether or not to contact them. I also don't go looking at their earnings that are listed nor their profession to make my decision as to whether or not to contact them. I don't usually go judging them until I actually meet them or at least I try my best not. My second pet peeve in profiles is the lack of honesty in them, do they think you can't see the dishonesty in their profile or what? For instance, when they say in their profile that they are looking for a long-term relationship, when in actual fact they are not and it turns out all they want is an intimate relationship, a one night stand in other words. Why not be honest about what you are actually looking for, instead of being dishonest and saying you want a long-term relationship when this isn't the case at all? My third pet peeve in profiles is the ones you contact and they respond with a million and one false excuses for not wanting to meet you, why don't they simply be honest and say, no thank you, I'm not interested, instead? I think that, that is much better then coming up with a million and one false excuses for not wanting to meet you, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Dating Thoughts? Posted: 12/22/2007 9:40:37 AM
Stryler 1, I totally agree with your observations on dating, especially meeting other people online on a singles website, I have gotten to the point where I am not exactly anxious about going back to dating again, much less anything more. It is mainly the attitudes of other members that really stops me from being anxious to go back to dating again or anything more then that. It is like they think that anyone who they meet online or receive a message from is disposable and the heck with the person's feelings. They don't exactly give two hoots about how the other person may feel or that they are hurting that person's feelings by doing so, they seem to figure that there are a lot more that they can meet and plenty to chose from. The trouble is that it doesn't exactly leave the other person with a good first impression, nor does it improve the person's ideas or feelings when it comes to a member of the opposite sex, it actually does the opposite. Another thing that these people who do such things don't think about is that whomever they treat like that will pass on that bad impression to someone else, it like that saying goes, the best form of advertising is by word of mouth. So they are not exactly helping their cause by treating others like this. Another thing I have come across in going out with members from a singles website is that they seem to think that other members are only good for one thing and the heck with their feelings, it is on to the next conquest and it looks like that is the only reason they join singles websites for. They are not serious about developing a relationship of any kind that may result in something lasting, they are only in it for one purpose only. The trouble is that other members of their sex get painted with the same brush and they may not be like this at all but this is what happens, it only takes a few to spoil it for the rest. I can see a certain amount of being picky about who you go out with but to be honest, I really don't see any real good purpose in it because whether you are picky or not or whether it is on a singles website or offline, you are still running the risk of either a good relationship or a bad relationship, it doesn't matter one way or another. It is always a matter of luck or not, there have been good relationships as well as bad realtionships long before the computer or singles websites were invented, it always depends on your luck and your choice of partner. There are far too many people who stand in judgment where other people are concerned as well and as far as I'm concerned I don't think that is right or fair, who gave these people the right to judge others, they are not perfect themselves, when they are then they can judge but maybe not even then?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Teens and drugs Posted: 12/20/2007 6:32:28 PM
TEFUNMAN, I am very glad to read what you said about your upbringing and that you have done so well, it proves that there is still hope for this world we live in and I wish there were more young guys like you! You sound like you are a credit to your parents, they must be extremely proud of you, you could teach a lot of people how to live their lives, whether they are of your generation or not! It is extremely nice to read what you have written compared to what I have read in this thread and been responding to, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, way to go and keep it up! I sincerely hope that the children of the person who created this thread read your response, gain something of value from it, maybe you could tell the young boys about what you said and steer them in the right direction, I am sure!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Teens and drugs Posted: 12/20/2007 6:22:12 PM
Special J, you make me laugh whenever you post your answer to what I have said! But then again I could use a good laugh and you provide me with one every time, thanks! Keep them coming! It sure doesn't take much to get a rise out of you and you rise so beautifully, I think I'll come back tomorrow for another laugh from you, okay?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Teens and drugs Posted: 12/19/2007 6:07:47 PM
Special J, someone like you for instance who defends the use of illegal drugs are in the minority now a days, as far as your generation is concerned because the majority of people of your generation have learned a good lesson from my generation and are no longer using illegal drugs of any kind! The number of people who use illegal drugs has dropped drastically and they are of your generation, according to my research and from what I read about it, look it up and you will see that people of your generation no longer condone the use of illegal drugs. Ask high school students what they think about the use of illegal drugs and the answer will surprise you! What right thing could you possibly have done in your thirties years of living, all you are trying to do is make my generation the scapegoat and using them for your excuses for doing illegal drugs, what you are doing is nothing short of a cop-out and that is exactly what you are doing! You are the one who is showing hypocrisy and ignorance, you are the one who should be ashamed of yourself, not me, I never did illegal drugs when I was young, I knew better and I knew about better things to do with my money then blow it on garbage like you do! By the way when is the last time, you told a police officer your line of garbage, still haven't got the guts for it, have you, instead you would rather take on a woman like any coward would? Show some guts, talk to a police officer and tell the police officer, what you have told me, you can't can you? When you have done that then come back and talk, not tell then! Do the research I have told you to do, it might teach you something useful and make you realize that you are in the minority!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Teens and drugs Posted: 12/18/2007 6:37:53 PM
Special J, ignorance is bliss and you've got it by what you said, you sound so much like the hippies of the 1960's, it isn't even funny and you still don't know what you are talking about as usual! You weren't around when the hippies of the 1960's were around, you weren't even thought of, do you really want to know what was happening back then with illegal drugs? Back in the 1960's and 1970's when the use of illegal drugs started, there were university students who got high on L.S.D. (acid) and decided that they could fly like Superman off of buildings on the campus of their university and ended up dead. There were other university students who also got high on L.S.D. and decided to stare at the sun without the aid of any special eyewear, two ended up legally blind and the third student ended up totally blind. Plus there were others who used that drug and had what they called a "bad trip" and committed suicide. By the way all of this was happening in the United States, look it up in the newspaper archives in a library near you, it should enlighten you, since you are so keen on research! Just because my generation started it, doesn't mean your generation has to continue doing the same stupid thing, nor is it okay to do so. You don't keep making the same stupid mistake a previous generation made and use it as an excuse to do illegal drugs that is copping out! When you learn that a previous generation made the mistake of using illegal drugs, you are supposed to learn a good lesson from it and not make the same mistake they did or don't you realize that? Making laws to prohibit the possession and sale of drugs is there for a very good reason, it is for your protection and the protection of other people as well, the trouble is you don't see it that way, you see it as a form of punishment only and it is not! I think that when or if you ever do see it as a protection for you and others, if at all, will probably when it is too late and you are laid to rest in a early grave because that is where you are headed right now. But like I said, you don't see it that way and because you don't see it that way, those laws will remain in effect until others like you do see it as a form of protection and in your best interest, it is someone like you who actually helped bring in those laws, along with my generation. You have just as much to do with bringing in those laws as I did and my generation, only it hasn't dawned on you yet and probably never will. I'll still be around when they put you in that early grave I mentioned above and I'll be able to say then, "I told you so!"! Heaven forbid, that the sons of the person who created this thread ever read the kind of garbage you put out, they most certainly don't need extra problems in their lives and hopefully they live a very long and healthy life compared to your fate that awaits you in the future! I'll bet you haven't got the guts to tell your garbage to a police officer like I told you before, have you? It doesn't surprise me one bit!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

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Teens and drugs Posted: 12/17/2007 6:24:34 PM
special j, why don't you tell that to the police since you're such an expert, okay or those in drug rehab, maybe they will enlighten you instead, right? I would love to see you tell that to a police officer or a family who have lost a loved one because of illegal drugs. Why don't you start doing that right now? Let's see you do that, seeing as you think you are so smart! The use of illegal drugs started with my generation, long before you were even thought and I have seen what can happen to those who take illegal drugs as well. I have no intention of doing any such research as you suggest, I think it is you who should do the research on what happens to people who do illegal drugs and the long-term and short-term effects of illegal drug use! Let's see you walk into a drug rehab center and enlighten everyone there, I think you would be in for a shock! You are spouting off with your mouth without knowing what you are talking about, young man, when you get older, around my age, you are going to regret doing it and using drugs, if you live long enough to do so that is and you will end up asking yourself, why you ever bothered doing drugs in the first place! It also sounds to me like you are already hooked on illegal drugs by the way you talk or you wouldn't be so willing to defend the use of them in the first place! I doubt very much if you even know what is actually in the drugs you buy from a drug pusher, do you or you would list them along with what you said, right? Don't go shooting off your mouth unless you actually know what you are talking about, which you don't, it is quite obvious in what you said that you don't! The person who created this thread does not need to read the kind of garbage you put out in what you said, they are trying to find a solution to the problem not create an even worse problem by following what you have wrote and I hope that his sons don't read your garbage, either!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Teens and drugs Posted: 12/15/2007 3:03:59 PM
To be truthful, I never could figure out why anyone would want to do illegal drugs for anyway, for one thing you don't know what is exactly in the stuff the drug pusher is selling you, for another you don't know the short-term or long-term effects of these drugs you are buying. After hearing about how screwed up some people get from taking them, it makes me wonder why anyone would be stupid enough to take them in the first place or even consider taking them. The stuff that drug pushers were selling when I was in my teens was mild in comparison to what is being sold by them now a days, right now you run the chance of either getting you brain fried or dying before your time or committing crimes you wouldn't normally think of doing if you weren't under the influence of these drugs. I never did drugs when I was in my teens because I could never figure out what useful purpose it served or spending money on something like that plus I was too scared of what they might do to me once I was under the influence of these drugs, so I thought twice about it and decided not and I am very glad I did! I have a second cousin, who is about two years younger then I am, when she was about fifteen years old, she had a child by a guy who was abusing drugs and alcohol, when the child was born, it was severely disabled because of the fact that the father was doing drugs and abusing alcohol. The child was a little boy who the doctors figured wouldn't live more then six weeks because of being severely disabled, this little boy was born blind, severely mentally retarded, a blue baby and paralysed from the waste down, he couldn't walk in other words. The little boy fooled the doctors, he lived to be thirteen or fourteen years old, then died and long before that had to be placed in a home for severely disabled children to be taken care of properly because my second cousin had no choice, she wasn't able to take care of him. This was all because the father of the child abused drugs and alcohol and not the mother of the child! If I was the parent of the two boys, who created this thread, I would warn them of the serious consequences of doing drugs because they are not only running the possibility of ruining their own lives but other people's lives as well, including any children they may have in the future. I would ask them if they are only thinking about themselves or would they consider thinking about the people who care about them and their future children, do they want to bring children into the world, that are severely disabled or not? If I was this parent I would also take them to a drug rehab center and show them what would happen to them if they still considered doing drugs. But sometimes even that or anything else wouldn't work either because some people never do listen until it is too late and they are really in trouble, why they don't listen when given good advice to stay away from such things before that happens is beyond me but they do! Even if they do get into trouble because of doing drugs they still won't quit and the only thing you can do is pray that they use their common sense and stop before they start! I hope for the sake of these young boys and their father that they start using their common sense before they do run into trouble and quit, I wish the father the best of luck in getting his two sons to use their common sense and stop before it is too late!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 52 (view)

Gun violence Vs. Drunk Driving Posted: 12/12/2007 7:24:35 PM
As far as I am concerned, if you drink and drive or use a hand gun, it is still the same, you are committing murder and should be punished for it! Both should carry huge penalities no matter what, I think that it is time the government, whether on the provincial or federal level should start tightening up the laws again, alot of other people may not agree with me but that is what I think should be done! The trouble is that the people who complain about the laws being too tough are those who have never had a crime committed against them or lost a loved one because of a crime happening, I sometimes think that the only time that these people will agree with me on my view of it, is when it finally hits home with them and affects them personally, that goes for both levels of government as well! Then it is too late for them! A lot of these crimes of violence you see and hear about in the media are usually committed by young people, I wouldn't say all young people are bad or do these types of things to other people because I really think that the vast majority of young people are innocent but it only takes a few to spoil it for the rest! This minority of young people who commit crimes of this nature should receive a punishment that fits the crime they have committed in a way that will make them think twice before doing it again and not get the slap on the wrist they get now! Right now all they do is laugh at the police when they get arrested and charged with a crime because they know that they are not going to receive the kind of punishment that fits the crime and are only going to get a tap on the wrist kind of punishment, it is time it was stopped! The kind of solutions the different levels of government is coming up with don't work and don't make these young people who commit offenses think twice about doing it again! I think if the punishment actually fitted the crime these young people commit, they would soon learn to stop it, maybe not all of them and make something of their lives that is a lot better instead but it isn't going to happen that way! I think that a lot of people, including myself, who think like I do about tightening up the laws and making criminals, whether they are young or not, think twice about committing such things again, are only dreaming because it will never happen, the different levels of government will never do it until it hits home! We can talk all we want on this thread about it and voice our opinions in doing so but it won't get us anywhere! That is the extremely sad thing about it, isn't it, who is going to listen?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

What is your favourite Beatles Album/Song??? Posted: 12/3/2007 12:46:49 PM
My favorite Beatles song is Yesterday and Hey Jude. I used to watch the Beatles concerts on TV when they were together and I used to kill myself laughing at all these girls screaming and carrying on in the audience, it looked so ridiculous, they were and are only guys! I couldn't see myself making a fool out of myself doing that at a concert but I enjoyed watching it, anyway! When I used to laugh at these girls in the audience screaming and carrying on like that, my father was in the kitchen wondering what I was laughing at and would come into the front room to find out the reason behind it but I was laughing so hard that I couldn't tell him! I could never figure out why these girls did that for, unless it was just excitement of being at a concert, I don't know but to me they were and are only guys, even though they were the best singing group around and still are as far as I am concerned!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

How do you feel about age differences? Posted: 12/1/2007 4:49:51 PM
I have had guys who range in age from 18-90 look at my profile on some of the singles websites I have joined and some of them have contacted me as well. I would much prefer guys either my age (55) or a bit older because I feel when they are far too young or too old for me, I wouldn't be able to communicate properly with them or relate to them properly and the relationship would never work out. I wouldn't be comfortable going out with or getting involved with a guy who is either too young or too old for me because I would think that we would have nothing in common with each other. If I were to go out with someone who is too young for me, I would feel like I am going out with one of my brother's friends or getting a son I didn't have. If I were to go out with a guy who was too old for me, I would feel like I was going out with one of my father's friends. I feel much more comfortable going out with or getting involved with a guy my age (55) or a bit older because I feel I am better able to communicate or relate better with them and that being close in age would have far more in common with each other, especially when it comes to common interests and being in the same generation. The question is what would a person have in common where interests are concerned, being able to communicate with or relate to, where someone who is either too young or too old for the person is concerned? You're talking about a difference in generations here, one from one era and another from another era in time, it would be much better to go out with or get involved with someone who is either same age as you or a bit older, in my opinion. Maybe it is only psychological on my part but that is how I feel about differences in ages are concerned!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/2/2007 6:08:45 PM
moonchild48, I am well aware of the fact that he doesn't have to take advice, that isn't the point! If I were him I wouldn't have even bothered to ask for ideas at all from members of this website but I would gone to a lawyer instead, you get better ideas from a lawyer on what to do in his situation plus a lawyer knows the law in such matters and what you say is kept confidential. Then again, why not discuss it with your family, your family would be a better choice as well, they at least know you better? I wish him the best of luck in getting the mess he's in, straightened out and his life back on track but I also hope that for the child's sake, he makes an effort to bond with the child and be there for the child for many years to come! I hope that he has learned a valuable lesson from this experience and doesn't repeat it again in the future and I hope that from now on, he thinks first before he acts, cheaper that way, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/1/2007 8:22:15 PM
moonchild48, you can get unbiased advice from a lawyer too, as well as legal advice, you don't need to come online to a singles website to do it and ask people who aren't qualified for that advice! As a matter of fact, he should have gone to a lawyer and accomplished both before chosing to so online on the internet on a website, it is much quicker and the lawyer is qualified to do so! I sometimes have other people, people I don't know ask me for advice when I am at a transit bus stop where I live, I sometimes wish they wouldn't because I am not qualified to advise them on anything and I think it would be far better to go to a lawyer rather then a singles website who's members aren't qualified to give advice on his problem. I wouldn't mind so much if I was qualified to give advice to someone on their problem but I am not! Besides, what happens if someone does go into a forum on a website like this to get "unbiased" advice about a problem they have and receives advice that could be totally wrong and uses it and gets into more difficulty with their problem, what useful purpose does that serve? Wouldn't it be better to go to someone who is qualified, for instance and get the right and correct advice instead and avoid getting into further trouble with their problem? The same goes for transit bus stops or any where else, it is still better to get the right advice from a qualified adviser who knows what to say, rather then to do what this member has done and go online on a singles website in a forum, in the end it is more helpful and solves the problem without anymore problems coming up from unqualified advice and it is quicker, right? I am not sure that it is the right thing to do, going online like this member has to solve a problem, if it was me, I would think twice about it and go to someone who is qualified to give such advice, rather then someone who is not and create even more problems and troubles for myself. I would hate to think that someone came to me with a problem and I gave them the wrong advice because I am not qualified to do so, I would have a guilty conscience from it, wouldn't you?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/1/2007 6:15:46 PM
I completely agree with what Sweet Euphoria says, she basicly says the same thing I said in my response, only didn't go on about it like I did! You can say that again, Sweet Euphoria, you came to the point better then I did! If you play with fire, you get burnt and that's exactly what he did, now he has to pay up!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/1/2007 6:09:16 PM
moonchild48, apparently you didn't read everything I was talking about in my response, I said the son should have kept his pants on and I also said words to the effect that if he had have kept them on, he wouldn't have ended up in the predictment he found himself in, in the first place! I also said that he should have used a condom if he didn't want to face the responsibilities of fatherhood, which is what it looked and sounded like to me! I am well aware of the fact that a lot of people now a days go to bed with the person they date or ask out on a date, I have nothing against that but if they choose to do this, then they should be using some form of protection, so that there are no future responsibilities coming into the world! A lot of people now a days act first and then express surprise at the results when it happens, it would be better for them if they thought first then acted but they don't! What I would like to know is, why didn't this son of the member who created this thread, didn't think first before acting, surely he must know that if he doesn't use protection, he should ask his bed partner if she did, otherwise, he must know that if the two of them go to bed together, they stand a good chance of producing a child? The only one in this whole scenario that I really feel sorry for is the child that was produced as the result of what happened because I wouldn't want to be in the shoes of that child once it gets older and realizes what is going on and what happened after it arrived in this world! I really don't feel sorry for the mother or father of the child, only the child because it is caught in the middle of this mess, that was created by its parents, the child didn't ask to be brought into this world but the parents of the child should really think of this and go to a lawyer and work it out for the sake of the child, instead of asking strangers who aren't qualified to give an opinion, that includes all members of this website who have accessed this thread! Maybe I am still a little bit old-fashioned in some ways where this type of thing is concerned and I express myself in an old-fashioned ways but I do have the right to express myself and I will!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/1/2007 11:04:25 AM
jeeprennie, you got that right, the guy's son should have gone to a lawyer instead of having his father ask other people on this website their opinions, a good many of us aren't even lawyers by profession! As for any criticism the author of this wasn't expecting, I think he kind of asked for it, when he created this thread in the first place! As a matter of fact he sort of invited it when he did this, if he didn't want criticism then he should have told his son to go and consult with a lawyer, instead! Besides, the one member of this website who complained about the guy being criticized in this thread is doing the same thing, talk about the kettle calling the pot black!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

If ypur name aint on the birth certificate do you have to pay child support? Posted: 11/1/2007 4:20:19 AM
Even if a man's name isn't on the birth certificate, he still has to pay child support because they can now determine who the father of the child was, simply by checking both the child's DNA and the guy's DNA, who is the father of the child is. Guys can no longer claim that they are not the father of the child simply by saying he isn't and getting some of his friends to say that they slept with the mother of the child, like they used to years ago. A guy can't get away with using that excuse anymore and get out of paying child support, it doesn't work that way! If your son doesn't want to pay child support now that the child has been born then he should have kept his pants up and not got the mother of the child pregnant, in the first place, it takes two to make a baby and not just the mother of the child, simple biology! Now that the child is here in this world, your son should face up to it and take part of the responsibility for creating the child in the first place and not try to get out of it, like any guy who is old enough to get a woman or girl pregnant! In fact he should start acting like a man and admit to it and pay up for it! You can't go laying the blame for the child being born solely on the shoulders of the mother, the father must take responsibility as well, nor can you use the fact that the mother of the child behaves badly, as an excuse for your son getting out his responsibility of supporting the child now that it is here! Now that the child has been born, he should try and bond with the child because the child needs both of its parents, not just one, when it is growing up and becomes an adult! If your son didn't want the responsibilities of being a father, he should have thought about that before hand, before going to bed with the mother and should have used a condom, that way he wouldn't have become a father of a child, it is not only the mother who is responsible for the child coming into the world, it is also the father of the child as well! This business of laying the blame solely on the woman's or girl's shoulders for a child being born is an out dated excuse and should have been gotten rid of a long time ago! Women and girls shouldn't have to put up with getting the dirty end of the stick for a child being born outside of marriage, it takes two to make one, so the guy should also get the dirty end of the stick as well and not be treated as some sort of conquering hero by his friends or anyone else! Your son should face up to the fact that he is a father now whether he likes it or not and learn to live with it and not try and get out of it! The only way he can temporarily get out of paying child support is to not have a job and go on welfare but even then the authorities keep track of how much he owes and when they find out he has a job again, he still has to pay what he owes in back child support, so one way or another he can't get out of it! Your son caused his own problems by going to bed with the mother of the child, no one else did it for him, it was his choice!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

port perry ghost road Posted: 10/28/2007 7:28:43 AM
I haven't read all the comments and what not in this thread as yet but not that long ago I finished reading a book by an author named, Terry Boyle, it was called Haunted Ontario Revisited and it has one story in it about the Port Perry ghost road. I found the book to be very interesting and entertaining but I don't believe in ghosts or anything like that because I have never seen one in my life and there is no scientific proof to back up the many stories about ghost or anything of that nature. As a matter of fact from what I have read about it, scientists have been trying for over a century to pprove the existence of ghosts, the paranormal and parapsychology. My eldest niece, Tiffany, claims that she and a friend of her's, when she was living at home with her mother, actually saw a ghost in my sister's house that my sister had inherited from my parents, in the downstairs hallway near the stairs leading upstairs to the second floor of the house. I lived in that house for the first forty-four years of my life and I never even seen this so called ghost once in the whole time I lived there with my parents! But my niece says she and her friend saw it and went running out of the house screaming to her friend's house and they got her friend's mother to come and see it and the mother apparently is supposed to have seen it as well. I think all it was, was their imagination playing tricks on them and that it was nothing but a domino effect and nothing more! My sister also told me that the house next door to her's, which was owned by my father's parents originally is supposed to be haunted by my father's parents, my grandparents who passed away many years ago, acording to the people who now own it and that they have actually seen the ghosts of my grandparents and it scared them a great deal, so my sister to make sure it was my grandparents who were haunting the place gave and showed them a picture of my grandparents. When her neighbours saw the picture of my grandparents, they actually confirmed that, they were the ghosts who were supposed to haunting their house. But as usual I took it with a huge grain of salt! If I ever do see a ghost or whatever, I will mention it in another thread that I will create on this website in the forum or if I find out that scientists actually have concrete proof of the existence of such things, then I will and then maybe I will believe in such things but until then, there is no way I will believe in such things! Seeing as I now live in Niagara Falls maybe I will eventually see one or you would think I would, seeing as Niagara Falls is a very old place, right? From what I have read of Niagara Falls, it used to called, Fort Niagara at one time many years ago, before Confederation took place here in Canada in 1867.

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 150 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/24/2007 5:40:49 PM
I completely agree with what lookin4ulookin4me said, she has the right idea about people who drive vehicles and don't obey the new law concerning it! Vehicles are one of the worst weapons ever invented and they are deadly! I think far more people are killed or seriously injured each year by this deadly weapon, then in any of the wars that have been fought over the centuries! It is time the government of Ontario and Canada did something about it!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Canadians should be more vocal about paying more than Americans despite our high dollar! Posted: 10/19/2007 6:13:59 PM
I think it time us Canadians did speak up about the prices we pay here in Canada for the different things we buy, we have been ripped off but good here in Canada for a good many years and have said absolutely nothing about it! But it is not only the price of things we have been ripped off on, it is also the sizes in different things we buy here in Canada as well, for example, have you ever been in a grocery store over in the U.S. and compared the size of different things, like pies for instance or have gone into a store in the U.S. and priced the perfume over there? They get their money's worth over there, we don't and yet we get charged far more for the same thing and it is a smaller in size then over in the U.S.! I think that when the Canadian federal government brought in the metric system is when we really got ripped off, like for instance gasoline for vehicles, etc. The different businesses really took advantage of the metric system didn't they? But I think we must have been ripped off even before that in the size of the different things we buy and we just didn't notice it! The metric system just brought it into more focus for us and made us really notice it! I think that it is time that all Canadians not only spoke up about the price of things but we should also speak up about the size of the various things we buy as well because we are certainly not getting our money's worth by a long shot! I think it would help alot if we went back to the imperial system and got rid of the metric system, that would be a perfect start but we would have to go even further then that! But let's start with the price of things we buy here in Canada, first, right? Having said that, I see on the news tonight that some retail businesses are starting to realize that Canadians aren't going to put up with being ripped off anymore where prices are concerned and have started to knock down prices on the different things they sell! Zellers is now starting to knock down prices on the various things they sell and the news reporter on the news is figuring that other stores are going to follow or risk losing out! Apparently, the retailers aren't happy with the idea of knocking prices down but they don't have any choice in the matter because if they don't knock prices down there are going to be more and more Canadians either shopping down in the U.S. or shopping online and that don't sit very well with the retailers here in Canada! All I can say about that is toooo bad!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 73 (view)

Ontario Disability support program Posted: 10/17/2007 6:10:19 PM
diggy03, I have read your update and I am glad to hear that you haven't heard from this guy for a while but if I were you I wouldn't wait until the next time he brings up the subject of O.D.S.P. coming after you now that you have a job and are supporting yourself and your child because this kind of creep won't quit until he drains you of money, he'll keep bugging and bugging you about it until he gets what he wants and even then he won't quit! I wouldn't be too surprised if you eventually say he is back at it and has found out where you are, in the near future! For your own safety and that of your child, I strongly suggest you go to the police in your area right away because the next time he pulls this stunt and you either ignore him or refuse to give him what he wants, he is going to either take it out on you or your child and I am not joking! Matter of fact, the rest of the members who have responded to your thread, including me, might not ever hear from you again on this website in the forum because you waited too long to report him to the police in your area! I am not trying to scare you in any way but don't wait until the next time he brings up the subject of O.D.S.P. and you because then it might be too late, go and report him to the police in your area now, let them deal with him! This is my suggestion to you and I sincerely hope that you heed my suggestion, for your own sake and your child's sake! When I first read your thread in the forum, I became very concerned about you and your child because of what this creep was doing to you and he won't stop doing it until you contact the police in your area and let them handle him, it is the only way that it will stop permanently! Of course, I am well aware that it is up to you to decide, I just hope that you do some serious thinking about it and do the right thing, don't wait too long to do it, that's all!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 70 (view)

Ontario Disability support program Posted: 10/16/2007 6:27:18 PM
diggy03, your ex-common-in-law husband is pulling a scam on you, he is trying to get money out you, if I were you, I would report him to the police in your area right away! What he is up to is illegal and against the law, O.D.S.P. is not going to come after you at all, just because you now have a job and are supporting yourself and your child! He is trying to fool you into giving him money or into supporting him because he is too lazy to go out and get a job! It has nothing to do with you, he is the one who applied for O.D.S.P., not you and you don't have to take that kind of thing from him, report him to the police in your area right away, don't delay or he will keep it up until you do give him money to make him go away but he won't go away, he'll keep doing it over and over again until he drains you dry of money, don't let him, he is using you! Your relationship has ended with him and you now say he is your ex, don't let him do this to you, go to the police in your area and report him! Just because you happened to have been in a relationship with him, which resulted in a child being born doesn't mean you have to support him and doesn't mean that O.D.S.P. will come after you, the only one they will come after is your ex-common-in-law husband because he is the one who applied for it in the first place and made false statements to them in order to get it! You are under no obligation to O.D.S.P. because you are not the one who applied for it or gave them false statements, even though your name and the name of your child was added to it during that time! It has nothing what so ever to do with you and the fact that you now have a job and are supporting yourself and your child! Notify O.D.S.P. and the police in your area as to what is going on and let them take care of it and I am sure that they will no doubt tell you the same thing I have told you here, believe me because I am on O.D.S.P.! I am sure that if you notify them as to what is going on, they will round up your ex-common-in-law husband and put him away, where he belongs, for a very long time! You mentioned in your thread comments that you notified O.D.S.P., right away once the relationship had ended, so they could take your name and the name of your child off of their records and you moved away from this guy, you have done your part, now phone the police in your area tonight or tomorrow and tell them what is going on and let them handle it! The same goes for O.D.S.P., notify them as well because I think that they will be very interested to find out what is going on and may do something about it! I think that this is going to be the only way you can finally get rid of this guy and put an end to what he is doing to you for good! Do it now, even if it isn't for your own sake, do it for your child's sake because I am sure that your child doesn't need this kind of thing happening to you, anymore then you do, hurry!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 110 (view)

What are the lamest excuses someone has used not to date you Posted: 10/15/2007 5:54:21 PM
It is really amazing how many lame excuses other people come up with for not wanting to go out with a person isn't there? There must be millions and millions of these lame excuses going around, when a simple, no thank you, I'm not interested would be enough, right? I think that saying, no thank, I'm not interested would be a far better phrase to use rather then coming up with all these lame excuses, at least it would be honest but to come up with all these lame excuses is nothing short of lying and gives other people a wrong impression of you. I think when you give other people a bad impression like that, all they are going to do is tell someone else, like a friend, who may be a member of the same singles website as they are and if by chance you should contact that person, they will already know what you are like and they would also have made up their mind by that and you end up losing in the end. So, why not say, no thank you, I'm not interested, in the first place that way it would leave a better impression of you and also help your cause in the long run? I think that makes more sense then coming up with a lame excuse and looking like a liar on top of it, right? Making a good first impression counts whether you are looking for a job or even just a date to start a relationship with and as they say, the best form of advertising is by word of mouth!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 106 (view)

What are the lamest excuses someone has used not to date you Posted: 10/14/2007 2:47:45 PM
Well, here are sampling of the lamest excuses I have gotten from guys on singles websites that don't want to go out with me:- 1.) I am looking for someone closer to home. (They are within a reasonable distance.) 2.) You're not active enough. (Because I don't do the gym routine.) 3.) I am already seeing someone from this website. (Usually a lie because they still have their membership and are still active on this website.) 4.) I have met someone and we are getting along really great! (They still remain members of this website and are still active on this website.) I have a fifth lamest excuse that I was recently given by a male member on this website for not wanting to go out with me and it was extremely insulting, this male member decided to set up himself as judge and jury on my looks, the fact that I don't wear make-up and jewellery. He could have said instead," No thank you, I 'm not interested.", but instead he proceeded to criticize me because I didn't measure up to his personal idea of beauty! I am certainly glad that not all guys are like that! But after he said what he said about my looks, etc., I contacted the management of this website and told them what was going, I also blocked this male member from contacting me again, but my main concern was for other female members of this website making the same mistake I did and contacting this male member. The reason is quite simple, I was concerned that he would do the same thing to them and set himself up once again as judge and jury of their looks, etc. I decided not to quit because of him as well! But if you decide to contact someone you would like to meet and get to know and date, etc., why is it so hard for them to just say, "No, thank you, I'm not interested."? It is a very simple sentence to say in a message and it shows good manners as well, it also leaves the person with a better impression of that person! I would much rather a male member of a singles website say, "No, thank you, I'm not interested.", then for them to give me lame excuses or turn around and insult me because I don't measure up to their personal idea of beauty or just not read the message and delete it or read it and ignore the message I sent them. If they are really not interested in wanting to meet and date me, then they should say what I said they should say above and as far as I am concerned, I won't bother them again! I am willing to bet that some of the male members of this website, have run across pretty well the same lame excuses, I have because I don't think that it is strictly a female type of thing, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 129 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/12/2007 6:26:48 PM
jeeprennie, I agree with you about keeping the police and what not, if we didn't have the police to enforce the laws of our country then we might as be back where our ancestors were, back in pre-historic times! I think that we have needed that new traffic law the government just brought in for many years now and it was long over due, I think the rights of everyone to get to where they are going safely and alive far outweigh the rights of these drivers who insist on violating the traffic laws here in Canada and Ontario! If these drivers don't want to get their vehicles and what not taken away from them, they should start obeying the traffic laws here, they would have a lot less to worry about if they did and I am sure the police wouldn't bother them or take their vehicles and what not away from them if they did! I think that, in my opinion, the ones who are complaining about the new law and are losing their vehicles and what are the ones who are guilty of breaking these laws, it shows that they also have a guilty conscience about how they are driving and that's why they complain, if they didn't complain then they wouldn't have a guilty conscience and be worrying so much about what the police do! Why should other people have contend with having serious, disabling injuries and death or the loss of a loved one or ones, just because some people don't like having the police take their vehicles and their ability to drive taken away from them for a certain length of time? The drivers who violate the traffic laws here in Canada and Ontario seem to think that they have more rights then anyone else, just because they have a vehicle and they don't, it just doesn't work that way here! Maybe, they should be made to face these people and their families after they cause an accident because of the way they insist on driving, maybe then they would think twice about it because they would have to give them a good enough explanation for why they were driving the way they were when they caused the accident and injured or disabled or killed someone, that would be a fitting punishment, right? But then again, it wouldn't work or change them for the better because they are too blind to see the truth of what they do to others when they drive but I bet they would be the first to holler if it happened to them or someone they cared about! It is too bad it has to happen that way before they see what they are doing to other people when they drive like they do!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 126 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/12/2007 11:31:55 AM
I understand where you are coming from, cdnrednk but this device I was talking about is far more advanced then the one you are talking about, it is part of the onboard computer system that are part of the vehicles this manufacturer is building and it can kick in when the police use the remote control that goes with it and can safely stop a speeding vehicle or a vehicle where the driver has violated the new law that the government just brought in. This device won't be available in vehicles until the 2009 model of vehicles are made and put in the showrooms of car dealers. So you have to wait until then to have it in a vehicle you would buy at that time. It will end the need for high speed police pursuits, etc. and make the roads safe for everyone, which I think is an excellent idea and long over due, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 122 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/10/2007 7:25:18 PM
From what I heard on the news last night, one of the manufacturers of vehicles has come out with a device to put a stop to people who insist on violating this new law with their vehicles, that the government of Ontario has just brought in recently, although that wasn't strictly their intention when they invented it. It is some sort of electronic device concerning the computer systems built into vehicles now a days, that will allow the police to remotely and safely stop the vehicles of drivers that violate the traffic laws and will put an end to fast police pursuits that may accidently cause serious accidents that cause death but the trouble is that they say it won't be ready to install in new vehicles until 2009. But I think in the meantime, this new law might cut down on the number of drivers who insist on breaking this new law with their vehicles but it also may encourage some of these drivers to go ahead and do it anyway, to try and see if they can get away with it because they see it as a challenge of some sort between themselves and the police. This is what worries me more then anything concerning this new law, I sure hope I am totally wrong about it but I have an awful feeling that I am not! Whichever way it goes, there has to be something done about it because if it doesn't stop, I don't think I would want to even hear about it! The question in my mind is, will they ever find a way to stop this kind of thing from happening no matter what they do about it or will it keep on going forever as long as people have vehicles? If they can't stop it from happening legally speaking then what is going to happen next?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 118 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/10/2007 10:24:43 AM
I think that I have to completely agree with jeeprennie, totally because there are too many people who are always trying to make the police look like scapegoats for enforcing the laws of Ontario and Canada, which is totally unfair and uncalled for! They are only doing their jobs and are doing what they have been ordered to do and nothing more, besides they are the ones that put their lives on the line every time they do their jobs or go to work to enforce the laws of this province or country! I would dearly love to see these people who constantly criticize and complain about the police and also make them scapegoats, do what the police have to do every time they have to go on duty because then they would end up changing their opinions about the police if they did! I, for one would never want the job of being a police officer here in Ontario or anywhere else because it is not only a thankless job but an extremely dangerous job as well, plus it must be terribly frustrating for them, when you consider how lenient the laws here in Canada have become! For example, where young offenders are concerned, etc. As for the money being generated from this new law is concerned, I think that it is the least that these bad drivers or drivers who violate the new law can do because they are the ones who cause these accidents that make other people end up either in the hospital or an early grave! The money generated from this new law should go to pay for the amount of damage that is done and should be given to the victims of these drivers who insist on violating this new law, in the form of a compensation fund! There has to be something done about this kind of thing to make everyone, not just the drivers, stop and think about what is going on, on the roads here in Ontario and finally put a stop to it for good to protect everyone, drivers included! The question that should cross the minds of every person who complains about this new law is, "Do I want to end up badly injured or killed by these types of drivers or would it be better to keep this new law in effect so I can get to where I am going safely or not?" That is the question they should be asking themselves instead of complaining about this new law and they should also ask themselves, how can they help prevent others from getting seriously injured or killed because of what is going on, on the roads of Ontario and Canada, when they drive their vehicles on the roads, right? Or would they like to take the place of people who are seriously injured or killed by what is going on, on the roads here in Ontario, maybe they'd think twice about complaining then, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 114 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/10/2007 7:24:27 AM
I think that this young woman who thinks that this new law enacted by the Ontario government recently violates the Canadian constitution and it doesn't nor does it set up the police as judge and jury over the people who drive vehicles either! She has missed the point entirely, in my opinion because the main reason for this new law is to make all roads in Ontario safe for everyone and not just for a few! It also is not a way to net cash for anyone, either, it is also quite obvious that she has never lost someone in her family or a friend to these bad drivers causing accidents because of the way they drive as well. I think that there will come a time when she will change her mind entirely about this new law and see the correct reason for this new law, experience is an excellent teacher and maybe this is what she needs in order to see exactly why we needed this type of law for a very long time and why it is long over due! In my opinion, as I have stated before it is about time the Ontario government came up with a law like this but it needs to go further, it needs to include a section in it similiar to what they have in the United States and have these bad drivers who cause accidents on the road that result in death for innocent victims, to be charged with vehicular manslaughter as well! The roads of Ontario are not the sole territory of these bad drivers or drivers, they are meant for everyone and everyone should arrive at their destination safely and alive, including these bad drivers or drivers, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

Singles websites, are they a good source for what they say they are for? Posted: 10/9/2007 7:01:45 PM
I am curious to hear from other members of this website as to their opinions concerning singles websites being a good source to meet other people, get dates and to form long-term relationships, etc. Do you think that they are a good source for these types of things or not? Have you had much success with this type of website or not? Also, do you think that the rules on singles websites are satisfactory or need to be strengthened more, regarding conduct and the treatment of other members by other members on singles websites? I am talking about things like insulting messages, etc. being sent to members of a singles website from other members of a singles website, what do you think about them? Do you consider them to be immature and just ignore them or what? Do you that people that join singles websites who send insulting messages to other members of the singles website should lose their membership and be forbidden from ever coming back for good, irregardless of the fact that the singles website is 100% free or not? Please satisfy my curiosity and come forward with your opinions about the subjects I have asked questions about in this thread, it would be interesting to read the answers from different members, okay?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 111 (view)

new speeding penalties good or bad? Posted: 10/9/2007 6:36:04 PM
I think the new speeding penalties are an excellent start to weeding out the bad drivers on the roads of Ontario but I also think that a lot more needs to be done in order in order to make these bad drivers sit up, notice and realize that they are not the only ones on the roads and that they don't own the roads! This includes the sober drivers as well as those that insist on driving when they are drunk as well. I have seen many people driving their vehicles here in Niagara Falls, Ontario who shouldn't have been allowed to drive a vehicle of any sort in the first place, just by standing on the sidewalk and watching them drive their vehicles. It can be a very scary sight when I see these drivers and makes me feel extremely thankful that I don't drive a vehicle, as a matter of fact I feel alot safer walking or taking one of the local transit buses because I know that I will make it home safer then if I were to drive a vehicle with this kind of driver on the roads. I think that it is about time that the government of Ontario brought in a law like the one they have brought into place just recently, it has been long over due and I also think that they should extend this law to include a section in it concerning those bad drivers who insist on driving like they do, who cause an accident in which some poor unfortunate person loses their life or lives because of it and charge them with vehicular manslaughter like they have down in the United States and have them punished by serving a long prison term! This should include drivers involved in street racing, showing off to others, playing a game of chicken with their vehicles and drunk drivers plus aggressive drivers. It would be reassuring to others in Ontario if they knew that every time they go out on the roads of Ontario, that they are going to safe from these types of drivers, it would be less for them to worry about and be concerned about! Something needs to be done about these bad drivers because I think it makes other drivers look bad, who are good drivers, I am sure that good drivers don't want to be painted with the same brush as these bad drivers, right? In the fall of 1989, I lost an aunt in a case where two young men insisted on playing chicken in the fog that night on a street in my hometown of St. Catharines, they not only plowed into my aunt but about four other people coming home from playing bingo at a bingo hall trying to cross an intersection safely, with their cars. These young men not only severely injured my aunt and the others but they also managed to cut off my aunt's one leg in the accident that resulted from them playing chicken in the fog with their cars! My aunt passed away that night from the shock of losing her leg because of these young men doing what they did, it is people like these young men who the government was thinking of when they brought in that new law recently and the police are now inforcing! Some people may object to this new law because they think that only drivers are being singled out and being treated unfairly because of this new law, that has nothing to do with singling out a certain group of people and treating them unfairly or anything else, it concerns the safety of everyone who find themselves either on the roads driving or are riding in a vehicle or who may be walking, this includes the ones who are drivers as well, to make sure they get to where they are going safely and alive! I sincerely give three cheers to the Ontario government for bringing in this new law and the police who inforce it, good for them! I am sure that there are other members of this website who agree completely with what I have said in this thread, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

What works for you? Posted: 5/18/2007 5:18:26 PM
I'll tell you what works for me, absolutely nothing, I have followed all of the suggestions laid out by various people on singles websites like this one and nothing works! I'm not kidding either, I've reworked my profile over and over again, posted a picture of myself and have listed all the things I am interested in doing as hobbies, in my opinion it is a waste of time even bothering to join singles websites or even look for someone offline as well! I am going on fifty-five years of age and I am still single and no one asks me out, I am beginning to think that maybe I said something wrong or did something wrong or that I am just plain repulsive in looks. It gets pretty frustrating and discouraging after a while whether to look for someone online on a singles website like this one or offline and you begin to wonder if maybe you should give up and accept the fact that you will always be alone in life. I am not exactly pitying myself because this is how I feel after a while, I actually get to the point where I try not to dwell on it too much because it makes me feel even lonelier then I already feel. I am pretty sure that I am not the only one on this website as a member who feels the same way I do, am I? How many of you feel exactly or close to the way I feel regarding this? I bet there are lots and lots of us that do, so what do we do about it give up on the idea permanently and get on with our lives or what?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 57 (view)

ANYBODY HAVE ANY RECIPES OF MEALS DONE IN A FRYING PAN THAT DON'T TAKE LONG AND ARE EASY? Posted: 10/11/2006 1:44:52 PM
I have been checking the recipes that you were kind enough to post with the thread I started and you have made me very hungry just reading them, I am copying down as many as possible in a notebook I have for that purpose and I hope that you keep them coming as I think that you are not only helping me out by doing so but a lot of the members on this website! I think that everybody can benefit from it, including me, it really does help me give a lot of ideas on how to vary what I eat at suppertime and I really appreciate it very much! Thanks and please keep them coming, you are being extremely helpful to me and others on this website!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

HAVE YOU EVER GOOFED ON YOUR PROFILE ON A SINGLES WEBSITE? Posted: 10/4/2006 5:59:18 PM
I am kind of curious as to how many members have checked out their profiles lately to find out why they aren't getting any messages from other members of this website or not? I just checked out my own profile and found out I had made quite a few goofs on it, big ones and I didn't realize I had done so until today! I read over again my profile and I couldn't believe the number of goofs I had made on it, it is no wonder I wasn't getting any messages from other members of this website, so I have edited my profile and made quite a few changes to it in order to improve things where messages are concerned, hopefully! I would very much like to hear what other members have to say on this subject and whether or not they have checked out their own profiles and discovered the same thing I did or not? Did you make any goofs or not regarding your profile, check it out and let me know, okay? I hope I'm not the only one on this website that has done that!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 9/2/2006 7:57:50 AM
someone xtraspecial, I sincerely hope that you are right about what you said in your last response and I will certainly look forward to that day and try my best to think positive about it and what you also said about expanding my social circle, I happen to like the idea of having lots and lots of friends, whether they be male or female! Thanks!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 56 (view)

Verbal Abuse in relationships Posted: 9/1/2006 5:43:08 PM
In this thread people are talking about verbal abuse in relationships but what about the kind you get when you create a new thread on a singles website and other people who are members don't agree with what you said either because it has been said many times before and is therefore redundant to them or they simply don't agree with what you said and say so in the thread with their response to it, then what? Isn't this sort of thing a form of verbal abuse, it may not be in a relationship as implied by the title of this thread but it is a form of verbal abuse, right? And some might say in a relationship of a sort as well, what do you think about it? I have read this kind of verbal abuse in my threads that I have created and it doesn't seem to matter what kind of thread I create on whatever topic, either, the question is why do they do it and why do they go into the forums if that is all their going to do? How many of you have experienced this form of verbal abuse, I would be interested in finding out?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 9/1/2006 3:07:59 PM
If you don't like reading threads by other people even if it has been said before, why do you bother, nobody forced you to? I think that you just like to add your two cents worth in an effort to spoil things for other people who need to express themselves and get it out in the open instead of bottling it up, too bad, not everybody is going to do things your way all the time, I know I'm not! If you don't like to read what is in the forums then maybe it is time you stayed out of them and quit reading them, right? Forums on singles websites like this one aren't your exclusive territory to tell other people what to do that happen to be members of this website, so quit acting like it is and adding your two cents worth of nothing! If you have something worthwhile to add to a forum then do so, nobody objects to that but if not then stay out, nobody is forcing you to read the threads created by other people, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 9/1/2006 10:56:13 AM
bernzg, of all the responses I have read since I created this new thread, I like your response the best, you have a far better understanding of what I am getting at and a lot of excellent advice, which I will try my best to follow. You also seem better then a lot of the ones who did respond to this thread of mine, of understanding me and where I am coming from on it and I wish to thank you very much for it! You call what I am expressing in this thread of mine, "frustration", that is understatement if ever I did hear of one but it comes very close to how I feel about it, it also sounds like you have been in the same situation as I am in as well. I am very glad to have heard from you and read your response, you sound like a very nice person and someone well worth knowing and I bet you would make anyone an excellent friend to confide in, thanks very much! I will also give myself more time on this website and see if maybe things will change as someone else said in their response as well, I guess that you have to have a lot of experience with being a member of a singles website, which I don't have being new to this type of thing, cyberdating doesn't exactly sit well with me anyway and needs to get use to, call me, old-fashioned but right now, I much prefer the old-fashioned way of getting asked out on a date, at least back then you got to meet the guy first before getting asked on a date these days it is over the Internet. These new fangled ways of doing things, anyway! Ha, ha!

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 9/1/2006 8:50:40 AM
When I made up this thread, I was actually thinking or wondering just what other people expect in other people, when they join singles websites or in every day life regarding dating and forming relationships, do they expect to find their idea of a perfect person or perfection regarding members of the opposite sex or what? I thought that if this is the case, then they are going to have a very hard time in finding this person they have in mind, right? What do you think, do you agree or disagree with me? This is what I was trying to get at when I made up this thread, DivineBovine and not what you thought it was. I'll be the first to admit it that I am not always good at expressing what I am talking about when I do make up new threads but I wanted to find out what others thought and to discuss it with them and see if they felt the same way I do. I also wondered if other people got the same impression I did and felt that other people on either singles websites or in every day life were being picky regarding who they wanted to meet and date or form relationships with. I also felt that I should bring it up in a new thread I would create even if it might seem redundant to other people and overly done where discussion is concerned to not only bring it back to other people's attention but to make them think about it and find how they felt about it when other people do it to them. I think that by reactions I have gotten from it, that I must have pricked a few consciences by what the responses are like that I have read so far, right?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 8/31/2006 7:39:46 PM
Roxygemini, is my new thread bothering you in some way? I made this new thread for the purpose of discussion and also because it needs to be brought up every once in a while to remind people that it has happened in the past and is still happening now, that it isn't right and it isn't fair, that it should be stopped right now, this being picky on singles websites, would you like it if someone did it to you and wouldn't you like it stopped right now? I know I would! How many agree with me?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

How many of you tired of hitting your head against a brick wall on singles websites? Posted: 8/31/2006 6:08:11 PM
I am wondering how many of you feel like I do that joining a singles website is like knocking your head against a brick wall and that you are getting absolutely no where when it comes to getting a date or forming a relationship with anybody on these types of websites? How many of you have found a lot of the members you have contacted to be awfully picky where it comes to contacting or chosing whom they wish to ask out or go out with or even when it comes to answering messages sent to them, like I have? I understand that there maybe some members that get an awful messages that they don't have time to answer but surely not all members that a person contacts, right? Though you wouldn't know it in my experience and I am betting in your's either, correct? I find that alot of the members on singles websites are far too judgmental where these types of things are concerned and yet some of them probably complain of members of the opposite sex being too picky where they are concerned too. I am wondering why this is? Do you get as frustrated and fed up with this kind of thing like I do and wonder why you keep coming back to a singles website and maybe feel that you should have your head examined for bothering to even join a singles website? I have always tried to look for something about a person on a singles website that I chose to contact besides their looks, that appeals to me, like maybe their smile or something in their profile interests me, when contacting them, do you do this or not? I'd like to hear what other members think about this and read their answers to see if they agree with me or not, okay?

sweetie52

Joined: 7/14/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

THANKS FOR THE RECIPES-PLEASE KEEP THEM COMING!! Posted: 8/4/2006 11:54:42 AM
I would like to thank all the members of this website who were kind enough to take the time and type out the recipes for the thread that I created, I really appreciate it very much and hope that you will be kind enough to keep them coming as I am writing the ones that I like down in my recipe notebook that I keep adding to and the more I get the better I like it! I sincerely hope that other members are taking advantage of this thread I created as well and getting some benefit from it, as the ideas for something to cook in a frying pan are concerned. I like the idea of creating threads that not only benefit me personally but will be of help to others as well, so that they can stretch their dollars just like me and benefit from it, as things are getting far too expensive to buy and I think that the more we help each other the better, even if it is only in the form of recipes that are inexpensive to make! Please keep the recipes coming, okay?

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