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Joined: 3/8/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Opinions please Posted: 11/7/2009 10:06:58 PM
Perhaps I didn't read the first profile and the one I saw is the revised edition, however I thought it was charming. I liked the reality TV references it was original and humorous. The Taxi in China thing should be left as a cliff hanger to your audience, don't tell us how it ends. Say something like "I look forward to telling you the rest of the story." I personally enjoyed reading about the @%#$ deer eating the plants you bought it made me laugh but then I can relate, I had a rabbit that did the same. I liked the description of the hardwood forest, gave me a visual of a beautiful fall. You could lose the POF reference as suggested above it is just filler. Overall I thought your profile was an interesting and humorous read, gave me a good idea of what type of man you are your willingness to help others and be depended upon. It also gave me many visuals of your life and how you live and I love that. I did not find it at all difficult to read and was more than happy to read the whole thing. You described yourself through a sense of humour... (OK someone please tell me why a freakn' Canadian web site uses US English spell check ? Humour has a bloody U in it just like colour....oh hell don't get me started) Sorry I digress...now where was I? The "I'm a pretty darn nice guy," I agree no need to add that we can see that from reading your profile. You are trying to attract a woman who is attracted to you and your lifestyle and I think you pulled it off quite well. So there you go, ask millions for their opinion and you will get millions of opinions. Take Care A

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Hmm...it needs something (please be gentle) Posted: 11/7/2009 9:13:21 PM
Not sure where the above poster is going with the divorce thing. Are you suggesting he lie now and ask for forgiveness later? Don't to it man it's just plain dumb to start with a lie unless you are happy to find a liar yourself. You sure changed that profile fast, however you did leave out all info of your separation so you may want to add at least the impending divorce time line. There was one more thing you changed that really bugged me.....THIS.... " especially my two boys playing baseball. I even help out as an assistant coach on my younger son's team. He's quite a little ball player!" If I were your daughter and I read that I would be horribly hurt. Not to say you shouldn't have that in there but what about the girls? Now you look biased! You still don't have an interest list that is interesting and yes you can add a couple of bands to give examples but don't list your entire CD collection like some do. And as for these guys... I think they're cute and if you don't over use them which you didn't in MHO then they give an example of your fun nature and also help break up paragraphs. So happy for now I'm gonna go get Baby! A

Joined: 3/8/2008

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Review Review Posted: 11/7/2009 8:47:40 PM
I agree with pretty much everyting the first poster said, The" bsing around" absolutely delete it. makes you sound kinda like a vandal. The sex comment OMG!! How fast can you say "Get that the hell off of there"? You're what...22 ? We know you like sex you are a young horn dog like all men your age! if you weren't one would have to question if you were actually human. It's a given honey no need to advertise it. When I read it I actually got the picture that perhaps you spend a little too much time alone with your willy if you know what I mean. Put in paragraphs Add what kind of food you like to cook most Put at least something on a 'interests list' it goes a long way. More pics. perhaps one with you tossing something in a flaming frying pan so we can see your expertise in the kitchen. Women Love men who cook it's a huge plus . OK now I'm getting hungry...what's for dinner? A

Joined: 3/8/2008

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Hmm...it needs something (please be gentle) Posted: 11/7/2009 8:24:39 PM
No way do not add divorced if you are not....honesty is the best policy if you seriously want to meet someone. She would find out you weren't divorced and then have to wander what else you lied about. I liked your profile, I liked the paragraph form of it making it easy to read,. You come across as a dad who is involved with and proud of his kids. That's a good thing! The only things I would like to see there would be more interests, everything you have in that category is sedentary. Giving a longer list in my opinion gives the reader more to go on and could be a deal maker or breaker for women. For instance if I see 'hunting' as an interest I'll pass on that guy and I would rather find out now then go on a date and have him tell me all about his stuffed head collection. Get what I mean jelly bean? Add things like music you like (don't list bands) just say "old rock", "country" etc, don't be afraid to list all you like it shows how open minded you are ...or not! Add your two fave shows and movies, gives us more on who you are. Think about... it I am sure there is much more to you than what you list there so don't be afraid to go nuts. Just add things to your interests list mind you, not the body of the profile. The only thing you need to add there is give an idea of what kind of woman you are looking for. Unfortunately and I hate to say this but being so recent in your separation many women will fear "rebound" and not be interested in being the rebound relationship. We've all been there done that! Hope this helps Cheers A

Joined: 3/8/2008

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I think it's good, but the masses don't Posted: 11/7/2009 3:11:20 AM
True travel can be more fun with two (although not necessarily) however you only talk about where YOU want to travel and you do not add that you would like the girl you meet to come with. Perhaps you could clarify that you are interested in meeting someone who would also like to travel with you. When I read your profile I got the sense that if I dated this guy he would be taking off 'whenever' to go 'where ever' and I would be left flailing in the breeze while he is gone yet again. No waiting a week isn't too long of course but again one has to interpret for themselves how long you may be traveling for. Usually international travelers go for much longer than a week, sometimes for months. That being said don't be afraid to add more to give a better picture of what you want from a woman, you do sound like an interesting a productive guy and that is very compatible with dating, however your profile manages to leave the woman out of the equation. We just don't dig being left out! Do ya follow me? A

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any suggestions? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:42:04 AM
Wow...can you say cynical? You sure sound that way from your profile. Here are my suggestions and remember you did ask for this... User name, fish type and tag. Negative negative and negative. Change all three no one wants a false profit or a bottom dweller. Seems like this is what you think about yourself. Who would be attracted to that? Your first line about "loudmouth tools" and "douche bag" (two words by the way) what ever? Do you honestly think there is a women on here looking for either one of those things.? FYI, the term douche bag is not acceptable anywhere in any profile on any site and will never attract any women with the slightest modicum of self respect. That whole line just makes you sound bitter and angry that the loudmouths and DB's get the girls while you don't. And you're right sometimes they do but they never hang on long so no need to be bitter. Add more pictures with your eyes actually open and an optimistic smile wouldn't hurt either. Your picture looks forlorn like your dog just died. Over all your profile seems negative as a whole and women are just not into that persona. Try talking about the positive things in your life and the positive things you are looking for in a girl. Oh yeah, all that stuff about cocaine on a first date, I didn't particularly find it funny just more cynical thought. Put on some happy music and try again.

Joined: 3/8/2008

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I think it's good, but the masses don't Posted: 11/7/2009 1:21:16 AM
Honestly you sound too busy to date. We women do not want compete for your attention with everything else you have going on in your life, especially the younger ones. (That is to say those in their 20's). We also don't want to date someone who is likely to take off on a trip at anytime soon leaving us to do what? Wait for you? Not likely! Like I said you seem too busy so if you're not then it would be prudent of you to try again and this time make yourself a little more accessible to the dating world. JMHO A

Joined: 3/8/2008

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changed it again Posted: 11/7/2009 1:00:26 AM
Oh hang on, one more thing...your opening line is really negative. Rethink that one and try to say the same thing in a positive tone. Or nuke it altogether and say something else.

Joined: 3/8/2008

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changed it again Posted: 11/7/2009 12:57:14 AM
Pictures are great, not a stupid sunset anywhere. Poof read: it's "not mind" not "notmind" You like hockey soccer football etc. would that be playing or just watching on TV? We women love to watch you men play sports but typically hate to watch you watch sports. You may want to clarify that! Please put a space after every comma otherwise it looks like you are too lazy to care about the details. Other than that I don't see anything particularly wrong with it but then again I'm not in my 20's anymore and god only knows what the 20 something women want these days.

Joined: 3/8/2008

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Any advice? Posted: 11/6/2009 11:17:19 PM
Before you do that why don't you just ask her, "So are you thinking you would like move beyond friends or are you happy so stay where we are now?" I would imagine she will tell you if she is an honest person. If she wants to stay 'as is' then tell her you appreciate her honesty and that you are still wanting a girlfriend so you will be pursuing that elsewhere. No harm in keeping her as a friend, she may have a girlfriend that you end up with, ya never know.

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Am I just being a jealous B**ch? Posted: 10/5/2008 3:27:28 AM
So he helps out the ex...could be because he is just a nice guy and felt badly for her. Or not! He spends the weekend talking about the ex...people talk about whatever is occupying their minds. Obviously she was. Red Flag!! He's on a site and has pictures of clothing challenged women as "friends"....could be he's just umm... he's maybe...umm, possibly....umm.....showing you another big red flag?? He packs his bags and leaves without saying a word and he has done this before?? Can you say HUGE RED FLAG?? People who do this are control freaks they want you to snivel and grovel and write long e-mails because when you do that they have control over you and they know that you will eventually just agree to see things their way so you won't lose them. You are feeling jealous because he is giving you plenty of reason to feel jealous and if he was in a committed relationship with you he would never do anything to cause you to feel jealous. In fact he would understand that perhaps you may have some security issues with such a new relationship and would conduct himself accordingly. He is not doing so. No it is absolutely NOT OK to acquire new female friends while in a relationship unless they happen to be on his baseball team and they are nothing more than average, mostly attached, moms who have no interest in him or any one else on that team. Are you following my drift? He's keeping his options open in case something better than you comes along. Sorry honey but the man is a loser and you need to lose him before you lose yourself. You wanted honesty and I aim to please. Now do yourself a favour and go find a real man. A

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Simple things you remember about someone special - past or present Posted: 9/30/2008 2:25:32 AM
On our third date in my living-room, his guitar in his hands, he looked up at me and said "Do you want to hear a real pretty song"? He then proceeded to play a song he had written for his dad, the most beautiful piece of music I have ever heard from a guitar. As I sat there watching his fingers seemingly float over the strings and the look of pure contentment on his face, I thought to myself, "I'm going to love this man forever". And I do. Arlene

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40 Tons of Butts! Posted: 9/20/2008 6:46:39 PM
It always amuses me how someone invariably reads something incorrectly (usually due to their heightened defensive nature) then a whole dialogue of 'failure to communicate' thus follows. Just for the record 'Walts'; I too am one of those people who can smell the cigarette smoke from the car in front of me as it enters through my open window and or vents. I do not have to be sitting at a stop light as you suggest spewing toxins into the air. I can be going 100 K's down the free-way and still have the smoke assault me in my vehicle. I am extremely allergic to it and when I am in my truck I do not appreciate having to suffer from sneezing and itchy runny eyes because some****needs to hang their cig out the window so they don't stink up their own car. By the way, my 'truck' is a p/up and it runs on propane so don't even go there. As usual the smokers have jumped on the "yea well everyone else litters too" bandwagon in an attempt to exonerate themselves from their sins. I'd say that 15% of any one thing is pretty high and as someone else pointed out it is 15% that is caused 100% by smokers. "Do you have suggestions how smokers can be more appropriately dispose of their cigarette butts?" This is the OP's question and if I may butt in I would like to suggest that perhaps smokers just start smoking filter less cigarettes. Seriously, what the hell is the point of a filter on a cigarette anyway? Here you have this toxic little stick full of death and to top it off they add another toxic little piece of fluff to what avail? To placate the smokers that perhaps they are not getting quite the full amount of chemical intake so therefore they are somehow safer? What is the difference between getting 96% of arsenic or 83.7 % of formaldehyde or any imagined lower percentile of the 4,000 plus chemicals being sucked into the lungs with every drag? How many of those chemicals are actually coming from the filter itself? Perhaps smokers would really be safer without them, after all we already know the environment is. Just think of the impact banning filters on cigarettes would have, first of all we wouldn't have fish with cancer or birds dying from extra hazard. We would have 15% less garbage on our beaches and everyone who insists on smoking would kick off that much faster and the savings on our MSP would be huge. Sounds like a win win situation to me. A

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Ever thought about giving a ex lover an STD because you're still pissed about the way it ended? Posted: 9/19/2008 12:34:13 AM
Oh for Pete's sake people, we have long ago determined that this site is a hoax and not real so why are so many still going batty over it? However, just for arguments sake, I would venture a guess that there would be a market out there for such a thing if it were possible. Giving your ex crabs and watching them do the itch-scratchy dance in public would be a hoot it's making me laugh just thinking about it!! In fact the more I think about it the more hysterical it gets. Now before you all jump on the bandwagon to attack me, lets keep this in perspective... we are talking "crabs" here and crabs are NOT an STD. They are a parasite not a disease and there is a huge difference, one being a very serious life altering condition while the other is nothing more than a temporary irritant easily remedied with copious amounts of lotion and laundry. The thread headline is a complete misnomer and should have been worded differently. I wouldn't imagine knowingly giving someone crabs would be considered any more illegal or serious than sending your child to school knowing they have head lice. From the notices I keep getting from the school my daughter goes to I would guess many are doing just that. On a side note, years ago a friend of mine got revenge on her ex when he cheated on her by shoving a dead fish down into the furnaces hot air vent in his bedroom. It took him forever to find where the smell was coming from. We still about it to this day. Now that's revenge! Arlene

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/16/2008 1:01:30 AM
I see that you are 48 so I can only assume that he is near your age, given that, he is too old to not already be very used to talking on the phone. If he were in his 20's maybe but for someone at this age he would already be much more familiar with phone technology then text and IM. I think he's married and looking for attention. Next time you IM him ask him to meet you on Sat. night, if he says he can't then tell him you are only available for Sat night meets at this time and could he pick a Saturday that would suit him. If he gives you the run around about not being able to meet on Sat. but can get together on a week night, he is definitely, absolutely, undeniably, indisputably, attached! Dump his azz and move on! You deserve better. A

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Running and hiding from kids? Posted: 9/8/2008 1:36:30 AM
This question has already been answered for you, just take another look at poster #3. This is the epitome of the typical attitude that women with kids have to deal with. With men who think like this surrounding us, we get used to the idea that finding a man who doesn't mind us having a child or two is pretty much a crap shoot. I have even come across a few men on here that have stated that although they have their own kids, they want a woman who doesn't have any because she should be free to be at his beck and call even though he can not return the favour. Seriously, what a freaking nerve... As if! Arlene

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Do I tell a family friend that our spouses have been having an affair right under our noses? Posted: 8/30/2008 5:43:22 AM
E-mail?? e-mail????? oh hell while your at it why don't you just send her a text message? Do not under any circumstances send her an e-mail telling her this news, the use of e-mail for any personal and sensitive purpose is the lowest form of insensitivity next to a text and I for one cannot believe that so many on here have suggested it. Also, it amounts to a 'paper trail' and that is not necessarily in your best interests and how would you know if it would even get to her and not be intercepted by the husband first? Really dumb and bad idea and I hope you would not even consider it! As for your question, do you tell her and is the truth preferable to living a lie? This is an extremely tough one for sure due to the complication that the son is so ill and dying, I couldn't even imagine how that would feel. However, being a woman who lived through a cheating husband and everyone knew but me I would say that it would have been better for me if one of my so-called friends had had the balls to tell me the truth. When I asked some 'friends' if they knew if anything was going on I always got confused looks and "what are you asking me for, I'm just a dummy" kind of responses. When I later found out that I was duped by all I felt just as betrayed by my 'friends' as by my husband. If I had known sooner I would have kicked his ass out sooner and there are a lot of other things I would have done differently as well. I felt like an idiot who got played by more than just one person. Many years later I have maintained a friendship with only one and she is the only person who had the guts to tell me the truth. So yes, the truth is preferable to living a lie. Lies alter reality and this poor woman is living a 'reality' that does not truly exist, she only believes it exists because she doesn't have the truth. Therefore she is making decisions as I did based on what she believes is her reality and I suspect that if she knew the truth she would be making much different decisions for herself and her family. You need to tell her in person and a public place is not a bad idea if it is somewhere like a quiet park or whatever where she will not be on display as such. If you can get a mutual friend preferably a woman to come along all the better. Explain why you had the outburst of anger at your wife. Do not under any circumstances take on a lover, first of all it is grossly unfair to the woman you will be dragging into this mess making you as selfish as your wife and her lover. Second of all it will only serve to be used against you when your wife accuses you of having your lover first so therefore exonerating herself from guilt. Then it just becomes 'he said she said.' Do not join them, take the higher road your libido should be the last thing on your mind at this time. Tell her the truth but do not give her all the details, only that you caught them yourself and you understand it is still going on. She can find out the rest from her husband if she chooses. Tell her that you would like to maintain her friendship and would like to be there for her if she needs you. Then get your wife her own place and tell her that you are only paying half the rent for the sake of your son who I am assuming will have to be with her for the day while you work. She needs to get a job to pay for everything else she needs for her new life and not sponge off you. File for divorce and custody or joint custody and be the role model you should be to your son. Letting your cheating wife stay in the house and leech off you is no way to show him how to be a man. If I had a man that would support me and let me live in a nice home all while shagging his friends on the side, I would have less than zero respect for that man and the disdain I would feel for him would be hard to hide. But hey, it sounds like a great deal so where do I sign up? I can pretty much guarantee that this is what your wife feels for you, is this what you want your son to see as acceptable? I truly feel for you and especially for the other wife but seriously as others have said, quit making up a litany of excuses for keeping her around. Any woman who would shag a married man who had a terminally ill child is the epitome of the bottom of the self serving selfish barrel. And him OMG!! I can hear it now... "Oh poor me my child is dying and my wife doesn't want to have sex with me any more cuz she is too distraught to think about sex, so poor little me I'm so lonely... can I dry my tears on your panties?" Holy shite...what a disgusting piece of garbage he is!! If there is a hell these two will surely in it! All the best to you and your son, you will need it. A

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Is banning bottled water a good idea? Posted: 8/20/2008 3:43:49 AM
"Evian is Naive spelled backwards........." So true and this was proven on 20/20 on just how naive people are. They did a taste test with 5 different types of water, four bottled with Evian being one of the brands, along with New York City tap water. Evian was quoted as tasting like dishwater, toilet water and so on and rated the least liked of all the waters the taste testers tried. The NY City tap water was rated the best!! Go figure eh? A

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Is banning bottled water a good idea? Posted: 8/20/2008 3:28:27 AM
Bottled water is one of the biggest scams to hit the modern world along with Antibacterial soap and damn it, I wish I had thought of it!! I personally believed it should be banned. Two billion bottles that get thrown into the planet every year is beyond disgusting, which goes to show that far too many who are brainwashed into buying bottled water also couldn't be bothered to recycle. There has never been any evidence to support that bottled water is better than tap water on any level, how could there be? Most bottled water is simply tap water or well water in the first place. The exception of course being Mineral or Spring water which as the names imply contain a certain level of minerals and both must come from an underground spring. In Canada Mineral water must contain 500 mg of dissolved mineral salts per/ltr. to be classified as mineral water. However... in the US it only needs to contain 250 mg. of mineral salts per/ltr. so what is mineral water in the US is simply Spring water to us. Another reason to buy Canadian! Mountain Loin you are the one who is incorrect, Canada tap water consistently tests to be among the cleanest water in the world and as for your statement that the earth can only filter so much, that is a moot point. All our tap water is treated to remove the harmful bacteria before it comes to our homes and interestingly enough it is treated with the exact same methods as bottled water. Treatments of both tap and bottled water consists of either of the following, carbonation, ozonation, ultra-violet light, irradiation or filtration. These treatments serve to disinfect the water of harmful bacteria which people should realize is not 'Sterilization'. If you want sterilized water you need to boil it for at least one minute at a rolling boil. You only need this if you have a compromised immune system are very old or making baby formula. The reasoning behind not using your water bottle over again is due to contaminates that are introduce into the bottle after you open it that could be harmful. For the record, almost all bottled water tests positive for bacteria but due to the disinfecting process the levels aren't high enough to hurt you... Just like TAP water!!!!! As the bottle ages it does break down and leaches not so nice chemicals into your water so you should only reuse it a few times at best and must thoroughly wash it between each use with soap and water. The guideline is that once you have opened your bottle you should refrigerate immediately [with cap on] and you should consume it within 1.5 hrs as that is when the bacteria really starts to party in the bottle. Small bottles should be refrigerated right after purchase as the bacteria levels already present in the bottle will reach maximum levels in 6 weeks without refrigeration. They still won't hurt you but...Yuck! And don't share because now you have someone else's bacteria having a in there. Store your "Emergency water" in a cool dark place and replace every year. OP if you think your tap water tastes "metallic" then you should just do what the producers of bottled water do since unless you buy Mineral or Spring water you are only drinking tap water anyway, and that is to let it sit. Run your tap water for about 30 seconds, fill your jug, put the cap/lid on and put in refrigerator. Wait till it's cold then drink it. Urrrrreeka!!! No Flavour I would never waste my money on bottled water and my so-called Brita water is just tap water in a Brita jug sans the filter. When water sits for some time it has no flavour and there has never been anyone who has drank my fridge water who has complained that it was not good. Quite the opposite in fact, they have made comments about how they would only drink Brita water and yum yum isn't it good!!! Never suspecting that they were drinking lowly old tap water from a Brita jug that was never filtered. Just goes to show, people get sucked in by hype, confused by false truths and terrorized by scare tactics that are put out there for the sole purpose of making someone else rich on your fear. 'FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL'....people, don't fall for it! There's my 2 cents. [OK maybe 50 cents] A

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Easy access to weapons? Posted: 8/1/2008 3:48:39 AM
Normally I wouldn't bother to post on a thread like this but I have to say that this one has been nothing less than fas-r-naton!! I'm not sure if more than 3 people have actually answered the OPs question in these 4 pages of posts. "just how easy is it for teenagers to gain access to guns?" I was doing a little research and I believe I have an answer for you, it would seem that the average American boy gets his first gun at the age of 12. Usually a gift from dad, so that the lad can carry out the time honoured tradition of killing innocent birds and small animals that are arrogant enough to roam about minding their own business. From there it naturally progresses into the boy getting older and wanting a bigger more powerful gun to add to his new found passion. Dad or the nearest uncle is always happy to oblige it would seem. Maybe it's at this point that for some at least the target needs to get bigger along with the gun, some opt for deer, others for humans. Same diff I guess! "But for those who grew up/are growing up in America, how do you feel? Did you feel safe back when you were attending high school?" Well I'm just a dumb Canuck and a chick at that so I can't speak for Americans but I can tell you that the biggest threat I ever remember was the odd guy who allegedly had a switch-blade in his pocket. More often than not it was just a comb As I said earlier this thread has been quite the "fas-r- naton" read, so full of mistakes, misconceptions, attacks and downright made up bull. "Jumpinjohne".. you have mad me laugh more than once and you seem to be one of the few level headed posters. "mungojoe"... your post #87 is very well said. "Jimtash71".... on your claim in post 35 that the Americans sent their personal guns to the British during WW11 is a whole lot of hooey... I just asked my dad and uncle, both veterans of the war and they would sure like to know where the heck you got that idea. They both spent over 1.5 years in the UK during the war and stayed with many different families including their own relatives while there and worked right beside British soldiers daily. They assured me that not one person ever had a gun sent to them or have ever heard of any one getting a gun sent to them from the US during the war. Fact was, all mail in the way of parcels coming from anywhere was thoroughly scrutinized and there would be a very unlikely chance that a gun would even make it through. Just for the record, my Father not only has first hand experience to refute your claims but he also studied the History of the World Wars as a major in University, so he likely would have heard of such a practice at some point. What evidence do you have prey tell?? This may come as a shock to you but they have been making guns in the UK for quite some time now. My Grandfather even carried a British made rifle during the First World War at Vimmy Ridge where he fought on the front lines. The British had several of their own gun manufacturing plants don't ya know? The Webley Pistol (made in the UK) was the regulation firearm for the British Armed forces and the LeEnfield was also a very abundant and popular gun used by the British at the time. Yes, you guessed it...also made in the UK... go figure!! So it would behove you to get your facts in order before making claim on nothing more than what would seem to be American folklore passed along by what we here in Canada like to call "the blind leading the blind eh?" Sorry to burst your gun-tote'n bubble but you are not the War hero's you perceive yourselves to be. The British were well equipped in the firearm dept. thank you very much. As for the ongoing debate about the right to bare arms, I say if you have nice arms by all means show them off, if you don't then wear long sleeves. OK seriously lets take a look at the long known stats, shall we? The countries ie: the excited states of America for instance who have no gun control also have the highest murder rates involving guns. The countries that practice gun control, on average have the lowest rates of gun related murders. Lets just add that in the latter Countries the large majority of murders, no matter how they are committed are either gang verses gang, or the victim knows their attacker. Fewer than 10% are random or accidental. Hmmmm let me think about that, I'm not sure if my blonde brain can wrap around those figures... should we all be packin' heat?? Man that's a tough one eh?? I'll have to get back to you on that!! Please don't shoot the messanger Arlene

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First Date Shallowness...I really need some help on this. Posted: 7/27/2008 1:47:16 AM
Well, being a Pisces like you I probably have a little more compassion than average, so for myself I would not be swayed by it, especially if it is something you have had since age 2. However, if you had wrecked your hearing through your own stupidity and lack of respect for yourself, that would be a reason for me to not want to date you. That not being the case in this situation, I would guess that you have just managed to hook up with some pretty shallow girls. Here's a thought, why not just add this info to your profile? You may as well now as you have just more or less thrown it out to the pof population anyway. I would bet you could throw this into your profile in a humourous way to defuse the subject right off the bat. Then there would be no surprises and the girls that mail you will be doing so with full disclosure. After meeting you if they 'just want to be friends' then you know it's not the hearing aid. You're a nice looking guy and I can't see you having any serious problems in the dating pond, put it in your profile and just by default you will be aiming a little higher in the quality of women you hook. Good luck and Happy fishing. A

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Ex remains in the picture....how would you feel? Posted: 7/7/2008 12:50:53 PM
Whisper you are so very welcome, and I am glad that you had the strength to end this "nowhere" relationship. You were only in for continued heartbreak with this one, you deserve much better as do we all in cases such as this. Whom ever "he" is, he is out there for you, you will know him because he will be the one who puts 'you' first. Cheers! Happy A

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Ex remains in the picture....how would you feel? Posted: 7/6/2008 9:29:55 PM
Wow....is what first comes to mind! Second thing, is don't let anyone tell you that you have to get over your own jealousy, this isn't about jealousy it is about unacceptable behaviour. Posts 2 & 3 hit the nail along with a few others. She cheats, he's shattered, he lets her back, she leaves again and he 'forgives' her and remains friends. Hmmm the writing is on the wall pretty clearly on this one from my perspective, he's still in love with her and she knows it and is taking advantage of it to use the cabin that she has always had use of, among 'other' things. Why the hell should she let a pesky little problem like oh, say...his new woman, get in her way? If the only way you find out she is there is through the diary then he is being deceitful, it's called "lying through omission". The diary is left out for "everyone" to use so that makes it seem innocent but in reality I see it as a case of "hide in plain sight!" His nonchalant attitude abut the diary is meant to placate you and keep you off guard... "after all if I had something to hide why would I leave the diary out so you could read it honey?" Don't buy it! As for the wife, she writes what she does in the diary to tell you and anyone else who reads it that she still has a hold on him and she is effectively throwing it in your face. If she was a woman of any integrity or had a smidgen of maturity she would not be there when he was, she would certainly not accept back rubs from him and she wouldn't even consider writing about it in the diary for all [especially you] to see. This is not about two people "remaining friends" it's about two people who haven't moved on. She may profess to not love him but she certainly doesn't want anyone else to either. She has no respect for you or your relationship with him and her actions which effectively control his are a blatant indicator to point out that he has no real respect for you either. He gives her back rubs because he wants to be close to her, She accepts them because she wants you to know that he wants to be close to her, and this gives her an ego boost. When two mature, respectful people "remain friends" the scenario goes more like this.. Her; "Hi are you and whisper using the cabin this weekend?" Him; "Nope, you go right ahead." Her; "thanks, say hi to Whisper for me" She goes to cabin-- he doesn't-- when she is done she writes in diary " had a lovely weekend, hello to all, blah blah" Grown ups who have moved on have boundaries and respect them, these two don't, he remains hopeful, she uses him for comfort until someone better comes along. If he won't ask her to respect your boundaries and he won't respect your boundaries, then I would suggest that he still loves her, you will only ever be second best. It's lost cause and you should move on. There is a belief that the Muslims have: When a man and a woman are in the room alone they are not alone, for the is in the room with them. Heed that, in most cases it's true. Hope this helps.

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How do you deal with unsolicited sales calls? Posted: 6/28/2008 10:34:29 PM
^^^^yeah...flock! That's how he put it, and apparently baaaaaaad behaviour is frowned upon

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What makes you sigh... and say "I wish" Posted: 6/27/2008 12:58:09 AM
I was driving down the highway yesterday , in afternoon rush hour, through construction, on my way TO work, when a truck with a camper pulled onto the highway. It was loaded with camping gear and pulling a trailer that held 3 dirt bikes. One for him, one for her and one little bike for the little guy. I thought, "lucky family, lucky lady to have a guy who packs up the family, dirt bikes in tow to take a holiday" I let out a big sigh and said to myself "I wish"

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How do you deal with unsolicited sales calls? Posted: 6/27/2008 12:31:00 AM
My girlfriend taught me two ways to handle phone calls, 1] speak Chinese - and no she is not Chinese 2] Ask sales person to hold on while you get pen and paper, then come back and say "I would really like to hear what you have to say but I am really stressed for time right now, so give me your name first and last { the dumb ones will} now give me your phone # at home so I can call you when it's convenient for me " This makes them go away fast. For JW's an ex JW told me this one; Tell them that you were excommunicated from the flock due to your behaviour and you would really like to talk to them & tell them all about it. Apparently they are forbidden to talk to X JW's so they will not come back.

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Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 6/27/2008 12:02:40 AM
I dated a guy many moons ago that would have been unanimously voted into this site he was stunning to look at. All the women drooled and said "Heeeee's your boyfriend???? " OMG you are soooooo lucky!!!! I ran into him not too long ago after... we'll just say over 20 years and he knew me right away. I on the other hand took 1/2 hour to figure out who he was, I was flabbergasted to say the least, time has not been kind to this poor man. So much for the so called "beautiful people!" What I want to know is, when one gets older and perhaps starts losing their perceived beauty, do they then vote them off the site? I see a new reality TV show coming round the bend 'Beauty Now Beast'

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Cat Question Posted: 6/16/2008 10:24:22 AM
"Dogs have masters...cats have staff." --Rush Limbaugh Too funny!! I had a bf once who hated cats, he thought they were stupid, then our neighbour gave us an adorable kitten. He tolerated the kitten until one day 'Katie' our kitten, was looking at himself in a mirror, he thought he was looking at another cat and kept hissing at himself with hair all up on end, back arched trying to look real mean. At one point Katie [yes he was a boy named Katie, long story] lunged ferociously at his counterpart in the mirror only of course to have his mirror twin lunge ferociously back at him. The result??? He scared himself shiteless, literally. He pooped on the floor and ran off. We both laughed our heads off and after that my bf decided he loved cats! Now to your query: My current cat was 13 when I started dating a guy who had allergies, so kitty on the bed at night when bf was over had to stop. I simply closed the door and kitty stayed out, she made a fuss the first few times but eventually gave up and learned the routine. When bf wasn't over, kitty slept with me, I have trained her to sleep only where I want her to, which is on my side of the bed. If she is in the wrong spot I simply move her to where she needs to be. If she moves to wrong spot again she gets moved back, this happens a few times till she gets the boot off the bed. Eventually she learned that when on bed she sleeps on one side or she gets off. It takes some time and patience but you can train a cat to do many things believe it or not. Be purrrsistant and she will eventually get the picture, a special blankey isn't a bad idea either, I have one in the living-room and she sleeps on it wherever I put it. Cats can learn to comply even when they're old, they would just rather not. Cat-nip???? God no, have you ever seen a cat with cat-nip? It gets them high, if you want some entertainment on the bed, go for it. Otherwise you would be wise to save the cat-nip for another room. Good luck. Arlene

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/14/2008 2:39:50 AM
Nope......sorry arleneangel, but not necessarily and I was the proof of that! I have always loved stretching and been very flexible, but I had the strength of a kitten. My workout buddy was just saying the other day, that when he would touch my upper arm (before I started working out this past winter), my flesh would squish to the bone, now it is filled with muscle. My girlfriend is a Yoga instructor, she is flexible enuf to twist herself into a pretzel and she has the most beautiful muscle tone I have ever seen on a woman. She has never done any weight training. One can be supple, that is to be flexible without tone [like a baby] and some people are very supple without even trying. I was actually referring to flexibility thru the proper exercise technique which does build muscle.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/14/2008 2:05:48 AM
1. When doing resistance training for the purpose of building, do not work the same muscle group 2 days in a row. Depending on the intensity of the exercise, allow 24 to 48 hours for recovery. Pain is not bad, but the type of pain is very important. Gradual, increasing burn in the muscle fiber as you approach the failure point is generally ok. Pain in the joints, ligaments, or tendons is bad. Sharp, sudden onset pain is bad (regardless of severity). If you're just starting out, it's best to be on the safe side until you get to know your body. There's a difference between pain caused by over-stretching and pain caused by exercise-based fatigue. Just moving extremely light weights around with extremely high reps may be acceptable if you want to do some light toning, cardio, or fat burning, but won't do much to increase your muscle strength or endurance. I made one comment about "stretching, muscle building whatever". I then pretty much stuck to stretching. You carried the conversation onto muscle toning, not me. My only objective here was to give some people who may be reading this a better outlook on exercising. To tell people that are not in shape and want to become so that they have to feel pain in order to make progress is counter productive and is the core reason why so many just don't bother. One hell of a lot of people who are sedentary decide to start training with this attitude and they only succeed in hurting themselves. Then they quit. Wow there's a lot of gain there eh??? One can become flexible and strong and not put themselves through pain to get there and I was only trying to give some positive encouragement to those who may want to try. Well excuuuuuuse me. Instead of taking my original post in context and perchance adding something positive to it, you decided to pick it apart, attack it, argue each and every word and tell me and the rest of pof that I am wrong and you are right... You obviously seem to have some knowledge on the subject , but instead of using that knowledge to encourage those who may be interested you stuck to your bandwagon that "it's gotta hurt or it don't work". Fine, I'm wrong and you're right, you stick to that and more power to ya! Put yourself thru as much pain as you please if it makes you feel better, I personally don't give a My own body is my own testimonial and that's all the prof I need And I'm feeln no pain Arlene

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/13/2008 1:21:22 AM
well RD it is in fact an analogy, I was using stretching in particular as an "analogy" to explain the "no pain no gain" theory in regards to fitness /exercise if you will, in general. I never made a comparison between stretching and muscle building. As I recall you brought up strength training and used it to make your point, not me. I ignored your comments on strength training because that is not what I was ever talking about so there was no point commenting on it from my view. And to say that your fitness level has nothing to do with your flexibility is just plain dumb. If your a muscle bound freak with no flexibility, when you reach out to grab that steroid shake that is 3 inches beyond your grasp you're gonna pull a muscle & get hurt. However, when you're very flexible, weight training is more effective. A flexible muscle is a strong muscle. It may not be Incredible Hulk strong but strong non the less. Mobiledj made a very good point, I also have a friend who was a pro power lifter and he did exactly the same thing. He too ignored the pain when he should have backed off and did some substantial damage. Still bugs him to this day. Which makes my entire point, to give people the impression that you have to feel pain to make progress is ignorant. First of all the pain they believe they "need" to feel and then subsequently will feel, will deter them from committing to any exercise, be it cardio, strength, stretching whatever???? Then they give up and just get fatter. You can get a nice body that is both strong and flexible without putting yourself thru torture, that is my point and I am sticking to it. I am my own living proof So there

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Guide, Assist dogs Unwelcome. Posted: 6/13/2008 12:18:46 AM
Well ML1 it would appear you have been doing some Googling. What you have to say is all well and good but it's all pretty much moot in this case. The woman in the quandary has "good credit, glowing references and a steady job". She is also a home owner [no not here] and she ironically rents her place out to tenants with a dog. Go figure. She came to Vancouver to help with her 84 yr old Dad who has a penchant for wandering off. The landlords have refused her tenancy because of the dog, and as I had previously stated they know they can get away with this because they know that 99.9% of perspective tenants will take the path of least resistance and move on. Which is exactly what she did do until she had had enuf. The law is as such: "No one may discriminate against a blind person with a dog guide in regard to rental housing, except where it involves sharing the living area with another family" The fine for refusing these people is a paltry $200.00 Big Whop <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> She is not looking to be a roommate and she did not hide the fact that she had the dog, so a landlord could not have a legal right to back out of a rental agreement even if she had done so because the landlord doesn't have the right to refuse the dog in the first place. I personally don't believe your stereotype is what fits here. I think it's more the stereotypical " It's my place and I make the rules and I don't care what the law is because no one is gonna tell me what to do, I'm in control and you just have to live with it, so there. " In other words it's just a plain childish state of mind. As for your comment about pointing fingers, You Bet. I'll point many fingers at these landlords because they are guilty and they know it. I'd like to poke them in the eyes and then when 'they' need a guide dog they will soon repent. Lets talk about your walking in someone else's shoes eh?! Now being the filthy rich and greedy slum lord that I am I would be happy to rent her a place if I had an opening. But seriously, if I was in a position to be a landlord I would never refuse pets, Hell I'd take the pets and kick out the people. I would consider that to be the epitome of hypocritical since I have my own petting zoo. My cat is currently digging her claws into my arm as I type and my "didn't make the cut" assistance dog flunk out is farting up a storm Time to open a window! I my pets

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Guide, Assist dogs Unwelcome. Posted: 6/12/2008 3:22:54 AM
Ok there ML1, you're getting into sum-an-tics here. Technically you can say that "entry" hasn't been refused as per your post but in reality the landlords are refusing "entry" into a tenancy agreement. And if the dog is their real reason and lets face it we all know it is, then they are breaking the law and they know it. That's why they won't disclose that as the reason. As for the 'NO PETS' policy, be it in a grocery store, mall, appt. building, Dr. Office, whatever????? Guide dogs are exempt. Period. We need a dog emoticon this'll have to do

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/12/2008 2:52:48 AM
^^^^^^RD Yes precisely, I was talking about stretching specifically at this point. And yes I do very well know the difference between a stretch and a muscle building exercise but thanks for assuming I don't. Given that I do stretching everyday, and I also have some pretty nice biceps for a girl, I think I have a fairly good concept of working out. However, it seems we are on the same page with the stretching issue, and I was only using that analogy to try to make a point that exercise doesn't have to hurt. You may notice that I also did say that 'bouncing' during a stretch is potentially permanently damaging. So I will assume that you are only reiterating what I said for the sake of the masses. And No, I don't "seriously think athletes get into the condition their in by giving up as soon as there's any discomfort?" Please view all posts and find exactly WHERE I ever said that and get back to me.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/12/2008 1:00:23 AM
Dear Miss Missy, Who are you defending, with whom are you arguing and at what point did I ever claim anyone was perfect? Kindly go back and read the last paragraph of post 13, then read posts 15, 18 and 29. Please take note that I said >"I agree with you"< you brought up 'some' people who "have personal radar tuned in" and "enter the blame game". So why are you taking my quote about these people out of context and then reiterating what you already said and I already agreed with, about 'relatively normal' people, and the mistakes they may make? Where's the 'brainer' in that? Furthermore, I will reiterate that if you are with a mate that you are likely to "misinterpret and question" then you are with the wrong person. When you are with the right person you 'click' with them and you can do really fun things like... know what they are thinking simply by the look on their face. Know their likes & dislikes, so you know how they feel about certain situations. You get to share inside jokes with this person so you are actually able to "determine what is behind their intention". When you are with the 'right' person this is how it works about 98% of the time. Doesn't leave a whole lot of room for error. I'm guessing you've never experienced this. So, as I said, reread the posts, think about it and then think about this; "The Lady doth protest too much, me thinks"

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Guide, Assist dogs Unwelcome. Posted: 6/10/2008 1:27:06 AM
Well, one would logically think that if the owner of a guide dog were in the operating room they would not be in need of any guidance at that particular time. On the other side of that coin, if the Doctor were in need of the dog in the operating room having the dog in a sterile environment would be the least of anyone's worries. However, they are allowed in hospitals.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/9/2008 9:31:55 PM
Walts, Walts, Walts.... Let me see if I can explain this to you so you fully understand what I am saying. Picture this: You are sitting on the floor legs straight out in front of you, your objective is to be able to bend forward enuf to reach your toes and rest forehead on legs. You proceed to bend at the waist and reach hands toward toes.... at some point your back muscles are going to protest with a twang of 'pain'. Do you, A; keep going till pain gets really bad? B; bounce forward to elongate the muscle and never mind that each bounce comes with pain? C; recognize that your brain has triggered a pain response and slowly sit back up b4 the pain gets worse? Then do the stretch over again until "just the point of the pain threshold"? If you do A or B you are subjecting your back muscles to minor or in the case of B even permanent damage. If you do C, you are inflicting no damage. When you stretch to the point of recognizing the first tinge of perhaps slight discomfort, but not 'pain' hold stretch at this point, then back off to neutral position, rest 5 seconds then repeat. When you do the exercise in this manner with each rep you can bend forward ever so slightly more. The next day when you repeat this exercise, instead of feeling muscle fatigue and extreme pain you will feel no pain and will find that you can actually stretch toward your toes much further than the day b4. Within several days depending on you fitness level you will achieve your goal of touching your toes with zero damage and zero discomfort. If you do this exercise with the' no pain no gain' attitude, you will have already done slight [at least] damage to the muscles and you will find that in fact you can't stretch as far forward as you did the first day. You actually set your exercise routine a step backward and not a step forward. Hence the need to rest 24 to 48 hours before next attempt as someone said. And 'that' is the reason so many people won't follow thru on a fitness routine, because it hurts and the mobility the next try is even less than the first time. Doesn't feel terribly productive or encouraging to hurt when trying to get fit. People stick to something when they can see/feel more or less instant positive results and not when they don't. "No pain no gain" in relation to fitness is an old worn-out misnomer that should have gone the way of the Dodo Bird. And by the way the sentence "stop just b4 the pain threshold" are the words of my Physiotherapist not mine. We actually had this exact discussion about 6 weeks ago, when I was complaining that the stretches hurt. He reminded me yet again NOT to stretch to the point of pain. Does no good!!! If you want to take it up with him go right ahead, but be warned, he has 30yrs. experience over you, is on the Board of Physiotherapy of BC, and has been in a bad accident himself so knows personally of what he speaks as well as professionally. Good Luck with that!

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Guide, Assist dogs Unwelcome. Posted: 6/8/2008 11:15:36 PM
This is one I have personal experience with, I have worked as a volunteer puppy raiser/trainer for assistance dogs. My most beautiful dog Scooby Do is a failed candidate from the program whom I had the option to adopt and could never consider not adopting. It is against the law to refuse entry to' anywhere' to an a assistance dog. The Governor General made a declaration to this back in 97 or there about. This however, does not stop some people from trying. I had to put up with many ignorant folk who tried to refuse entry to my dogs, from bus drivers to grocery store clerks, waiters, you name it. They all tried, they all failed! This issue came up many times with clients trying to find accommodation. The landlords know full well that they are breaking the law but the bottom line is they don't give a damn. They have their rules for whatever reason and they will NOT be dictated to by anyone trying to circumvent their rules. It's nothing more than a matter of ego for these people. "It's my ball and you will play my way or you can go home". They get away with it so often because they know that the renter is 99.9% more likely to take the path of least resistance and just go look somewhere else. And that is exactly what they do. After all, who wants to force themselves into a rental situation where they are not welcome? The prognosis for a happy habitation is not good, so they move on. Hence the reason this woman has tried 40 times. I have not read the article in the paper so I do not know where this assistance dog came from, I would assume CAN.GUIDE DOGS FOR THE BLIND. The providers of the dog I would hope are working with this woman to help her out as is the common mandate for these societies. I know that we always did. They may use the dog and the perceived 'damage' that the dog will do as an excuse but the reality is that these dogs, no matter what the breed, [all kinds are used] are highly trained and socialized for up to 18 months 'before' they start intensive training to learn the skills needed to help the recipient. They get one hell of a lot of training in other words! Any dog found not to be fit for whatever reason, mine for instance was skittish on shiny mall floors, is released from the program. So to make claim that the dog would be a nuisance in the home is completely and grossly unfounded. You will not find a more level headed, obedient and perfectly behaved dog than a guide dog. This is the whole point of these dogs, if they can't be trusted for any reason they simply don't make the cut. Just goes to show how cold , callous and ignorant some people are, I can't help but wonder how fast they would change their ways if they or a loved one suddenly had a stroke and found themselves in the need of an assistance dog. Put yourself in someone else's shoes before you make an arbitrary judgement.

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Please, don't say . . . Posted: 6/8/2008 8:59:18 PM
To post #20... 1] When people come up to us and say, "Do you know your daughter looks just like Dakota Fanning?" Oh but she 'is' Dakota Fanning, would you like her autograph? 2] After I've spent the day in the sun, "Wow!!! you should see all you're freckles!!" What???? I have freckles?? OMG I had no idea... When the hell did that happen?? 3] This one is daily... "How long have you been growing your hair?" [it's 3ft. long] Oh I dunno, probably ever since sometime just before birth just like everyone else! And one more for good measure, " Wow, your hair is sooooo long it must be soooo hard to take of!!" Oh yeah, I wash it, I condition it, I comb it......And this one time... at band camp...I even brushed it!!! I'm so exhausted, quick someone rub my feet and get me a Martini.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/8/2008 3:40:36 AM
Dear Miss Missy, I do agree with you to a certain level that we humans sometimes cause our own pain. However, if we are with a mate that we are likely to misinterpret and question their intentions, then I refer back to my original statement that clearly one is with the wrong person. Keep in mind here that I am talking about relatively 'normal', run of the mill, sane people who in-bark into a relationship. If there is that much guessing going on then someone is likely not being terribly upfront and honest. The person you describe who has personal radar turned on and always looks to blame etc., is not a mentally healthy person in the first place. Obviously, one who points the finger and never takes responsibility for their own actions/emotions has problems within themselves. Isn't that a no brainer? A person like that would be a pain in any relationship and really would have no bearing on the point I was making.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/7/2008 4:02:17 PM
My apologies, In the above post I referred to you as "Dreamcatcher"...... I of course meant Realisticdreamer. Just another note to your comment, if you have to spend 48 hours recovering, then clearly you have done damage. How does this help?

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/7/2008 3:53:54 PM
Hello Walt, You ask if I have a pain meter in my body that tells me when pain is about to occur... yes I do, it's called my brain. If you were using yours you would have better interpreted what I meant by saying that. If you are stretching a muscle 4 instance, there is a point at which that muscle does not want to stretch any longer and that is the point when your brain says, "FREAK'N HELL THAT HURTS!!!" This is where you stop the stretch and back off. Presumably your brain is functioning well enuf to know for the next stretch of said muscle where your body position was just before the 'pain occurred'. So instead of stretching to the point of pain again, you stop as I previously said "just b4 the pain threshold." The point of a workout is not to inflict pain on ones self to 'feel' as if they have done something worthwhile, it is to gain mobility and strength and that is correctly done slowly with care. And yes you absolutely can work the same muscle group every day when done in this manner. As someone else [Dreamcatcher?] incorrectly stated. Each day you work out in the manner to which I speak you gain strength and mobility ergo, fitness. When people do a workout that involves pushing themselves beyond the pain, they render themselves incapable of doing the same workout the next day. The muscles in question are too busy trying to repair the damage inflicted upon them. If the damage is substantial enuf it could be several days before those muscles can be worked again. So exactly where is the "gain" in that?? This is a core reason why so many people give up and fail to keep progressing with fitness pursuits. They have this stupid belief ingrained into them that it has to hurt to get anywhere and who the hell wants to 'hurt'???? If all those "waddling" souls you speak of knew that they did not have to be in pain to be fit they would be much more likely to rid themselves of the waddle. So I maintain that the adage "no pain no gain" is moronic So as for yourself Walt, you state that you "like that feeling of pain", I do believe that that is more correctly defined as masochistic, which is indeed indubitably "weird" . As someone stated, one should seek the advise of a professional b4 proceeding with a fitness program. I am no professional, however I have had a very active lifestyle and have crashed and burned more than I cared to and have spent many hours even years working at damage repair. I am only reiterating what I have learned from professionals and passing that knowledge along. As I said , 'I love my Physiotherapist' . In respect to relationships, we have all felt pain and know what it is that will cause us pain. If we choose to revisit that pain again with a new partner and decide to proceed anyway are we not effectively bashing our heads against a wall? A relationship should be relatively easy and pain free if it's not then you are clearly with the wrong person. This is not to say that you can/may not be slightly miffed that they keep squeezing the toothpaste from the middle.

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No Pain, No Gain....Yes/No Posted: 6/6/2008 2:59:36 AM
No No No No No No a thousand times NOOOOOOO! The term No Pain, No Gain in relation to fitness is an old wives tale. [or in this case an old fitness fable.] When you start to feel pain during a workout, no matter what it is , that is your body/muscle telling you that you have gone to far. The advent of pain, is the advent of damage. When working out, especially when you are new at it, it is of extreme importance to STOP whatever you are doing as soon as you feel any pain. A muscle that is stretched to the point of pain 'gains' nothing worthwhile. When doing anything be it stretching, muscle toning whatever, you must always stop at the point just b4 the 'pain' threshold. This is why we do reps of so many at a time and add a few more each day. If you're hurtin', how the hell are you gonna work out the next day? You don't, that's how! The key is to NOT throw in that last crunch or lift just for good measure even tho you already feel the pain. If it hurts you've gone too far already. Trust me on this one. I have been doing exercises for many many years and have a very close relationship with my physiotherapist. He's a God! If you doubt me go ahead and ask one; Personally I think one can apply this to most theories, ie: relationships, if it's painful what the heck is to be 'gained?' causes wrinkles. causes cancer

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Own an Electric...Propane...Diesel...or Hydrogen vehicle yet? Posted: 6/6/2008 2:24:08 AM
I have been driving a propane powered p/u truck for 15 yrs. It passes aircare with flying colours..... However, I hate to report that I have you somewhat beat.... cost of fill........ wait for it................. $180.00 !!!! Yes u heard me correctly!

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Msg: 290 (view)

Why are so many middle-age men in the online-dating-world into motorcycles? Posted: 5/30/2008 4:07:40 AM
Wow what a kettle of fish [pun intended] this opened. There a zillion reasons to ride a bike. For sum, yes it is a matter of low self esteem. I know a few bottom crawlers that ride cuz it makes them cool [in their minds]. They join pathetic clubs and believe that everyone shakes in their boots when the "boys" ride into town. Truth is, if you truly knew some of these guys you would quickly learn that they have massive self image problems. However, there are also the element that have perfectly acceptable self esteem that truly are cool people. and no, it is not the bike that makes them cool, but the way they ride certainly does. They are cool people inspite of their bike. If you ride with respect, you ARE cool, if you ride like a jerk you ARE a jerk. If you ride becuz you think it makes you cool you're still a jerk. Fact is motorbikes are a hoot There is no comparison to gettn from A to B in a car as there is on a bike. How many people say they need to go for a drive to clear their heads?? lots. If you really want to meditate, clear your mind, think harder, put a smile back on your face, or just plain feel great, get on your bike and ride. People who don't ride couldn't possibly understand the difference between going for a 'drive' and going for a 'ride'. In your car you have a false sense of security and you don't pay that much attention at times. On a bike you need to be on top of it all. Especially 'becuz' of those in their cars not paying attention. When your mind is that more alert you have the capacity to think more clearly, hence it is a great meditation tool. I'v had two bikes and I miss them terribly. I don't ride now becuz of my child but now that she's a little older I'm leaning that way again. As for endin up dead...according to stats, 6% of traffic fatalities are motobikes accidents. The rate is 3.4 % higher than it shoud be due to the fact that the majoraty of accidents are caused by careless twits in cars who slam into bikes. Or pull out infront of one becuz they "didn't see it"!! As far as I'm concernd if they aren't gonna see you commin, they may as well hear you commin. Thats why my next bike is going to be a very loud Harley. I have always thot this should be a law: When you apply for a drivers licence a mandatory bike course should be included. This would give everyone a clearer perspective on the dangers a car poses on a biker. Maybe more of us would end up on bikes instead. Think of it, we'd save millions of gallons of fuel, the air would be cleaner, everybody would be a more concientious driver and people would be generally happier. Now that truly would be cool Oh yeah, and for the guy that thinks women ride for the "vibrations", we just tell you that so you'll take us for rides.

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Msg: 289 (view)

Why are so many middle-age men in the online-dating-world into motorcycles? Posted: 5/30/2008 2:13:28 AM
Now now,, it's not the bike that compensates for the small member, it's the way they drive it that shows any inadequacy. And this goes for bikes , cars , suvs and even the minivan. Personally I love bikes. I've had 2 myself and I can say that there is nothing that quite compares except for maybe going full out on a horse. For all you guys on bikes.. small harley or big, ride safe, dodge the big bugs and keep smilling . and remember, May is Motorcycle awareness mth.

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