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 Tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Disappearing friend! What happened?
Posted: 10/1/2011 11:08:59 AM
Original Poster:
LMAO... You obviously still don't get it so I can't teach stupid nor am I hear to bicker with you. Underneath my sarcasm I answered the question that you proposed to the world as if you were clueless about the course of events. I thought enough of you as a young man pursuing (or should I say "pursing".. Grinning..)his education and youth to try to make sense of your dilemna. "The womans mentality in the picture you painted in your scenario wanted to screw and buddy you didn't close the deal so you and your nice purse got put in the friend zone and she moved on to a more decisive male, or figured the one she was with was more of a man than the multiples she was experimenting with so she stayed put. PERIOD". All and all I will say this much to ya concerning you and me. "I may have 99 problems but a chic isn't one". I'm responding not posting. Good luck in all sincerity with your future. The fact still stands that people who mingle in the real world and less on line have far more social skills. Sorry for ruining your Facebook time go keep calling all those typing buddies your "Friends". Also, in my last point, I totally agree with you she was a nun and you were the only one she kissed and went that far with out of the multiple guys she was with. Nobody had sex with her because she was a good girl. Dude please wake up. You are probably the only dude she didn't screw and its degrading to women that you don't lable this hussie as she is. No real woman with morals will carry on like that but I do agree it's a persons perogative to live life as they choose. Peace or should I say purses. You gotta love youth... Young, dumb, and full of cum. I guess I just was that way from 12-17. All tje best to you sir.

Tye..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Disappearing friend! What happened?
Posted: 9/29/2011 9:05:23 AM
Original Poster:


Met this woman at a nightclub, we connected, and it started getting a bit touchy feely, kissing etc.
and
She was quite cool with that, and also mentioned that she was seeing two guys (one of whom she is now in a relationship with).

"The Obvious"
Ummm.. Starting out it was obvious, this female has a promiscuous sensual appetite. She already has multiple partners, she met you in a nightclub and as a strangers you both exchanged intimacy (Stupid and careless.. Watch for the herpes bump on your lip here soon). She wanted to be conquered or do the conquering sensually.
"Some Mistakes and Advice"
You entered a boxing ring and weren't prepared to "Stick & Move". Hopefullly you didn't get "Stuck" with something that even bleach can wash off. After meeting for drinks and dinner afterwards and nothing happened she realized you didn't excercise your right as a kid to watch Vampire Movies. Meaning she was pissed that you lacked the discretion of going for the "JUGGLER VEIN". Kid don't spend all your time just reading books for school, and read some books to keen your sense of basic skills in body language, people skills, and making bold moves as the alpha male. If you spend less time on FaceBook and more time interacting this will help you way better. Honestly, and I mean this with respect you seem to have been raised by a mother and didn't have a strong male figure active whether he was physically there or not. Taking a picture with a purse, going a month with communication back and forth, spending time, money on dates, and effort for a chick you should have screwed the same night but eventually didn't even get to screw because she got bored, are signs of you lacking a tad bit of male conquering. Also, I see that you used the word "Friend" to describe this female. She is totally unworthy of that title as she was an associate, aquaintance, or potential screw buddy. Honestly kiddo, I've been more than a friend to you as a stranger by being 100% direct than that masquerading potential STD transmitting person you kissed and felt up in the club that already had 2 other guys she was seeing. Choose "FRIENDS" wisely!!! Best wishes..

"1bellanella" said it best when she stated "This just goes to show that a degree doesn't necessarily = intelligence.". LMAO!! The world is filled with educated idiots... Sorry kiddo but the fact that you actually are baffled by this enough to post this thread is the proof.. Just saying...

 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
guys pof on a problem with my friend
Posted: 9/27/2011 9:59:07 AM
Original Poster:
Wow.. Wow.. Wow.. All I can say is actually "Wow". Out of all the responses that I've read concerning this 95% of the replies are addressing the circumstance and not the issue. The issue here is in no way the man who changed his status on "Facebook", the issue here is 100% the mentality of your friend, allowing herself to be in this postition in the first place. This Facebook guy has been, and is the same person he has always been. She wasn't keen and smart enough to see it in the beginning. She selfishly saw something she enjoyed and allowed herself to emotionally get attached to a person that was long distance so she could keep feeding the mental fascination of a relationship, while not having to risk the physical day to day aspect of a relationship from a local because of the rejection it possibly could present. Totally not smart and a trait you see far more in women than in men. Then the men get blamed 100% and not 50% which in term fuels my personal view of being appauled by this. This circumstance about your friend actually affects me as a man. This negative strike will just be a feather in the hat of "MEN LYING ONLINE", when people like me are totally upfront and honest while women who want "Eargasm's" slander us with their stupid mistakes.

You asked for advice and my advice would be for you to have more real life hardcore conversations with your inner circle of love ones where you lay out the pro's and con's. She more than likely doesn't know every man in her neighborhood, needless to say every man in her local vicinity that would be more than a perfect match for her. This is so juvenile for an "ADULT" to put themselves in this circumstance from the beginning. The only way for this to make some type of sense to me is if they lived in the same area met before and life pulled them apart and they tried to keep it going. Even if she was there on a 2 week vacation she was totally not smart for enjoying his company while she could then able to leave it where it started when she departed.

That man did not beguile or dupe your friend miss, your friend needs to take personal ownership for beguiling and duping herself. You on the other hand need to be able to see beyond your friends blinded vision in the future because that's what friends are for. We all get clouded vision in the circumstances that life present us, but solid friendships are where we can limit quite of few of our unnecessary mistakes. STOP FAULTING OTHER PEOPLE FOR YOUR OWN MISTAKES. Speaking in reference to what your friend should suck up and take notice to. Enjoy your day.
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Out of The Blue
Posted: 9/24/2011 10:04:19 AM
Original Poster:
I would love for this thread to be posted under a forum that allowed numerous responses because this is a meaningful question concerning men and "Funks". The psychological aspect of a man is far too overlooked by women. The mind controls the body. When a man is confronted with life changing events, perplexing decisions, unknown circumstances, or emotionally challenging circumstances everything changes. Dominant males who are above average have a self preservation mode that option them to have tunnel vision and focus on the pro's and con's of their next move. This makes them block out people. There times that people want to talk and there are times people want advice. When a person wants to talk you can down right offend them when they share themselves and you try to offer solutions. On the other hand, when a person needs solutions and you just want to be a lending ear you can put them in a further panic mode by showing them that you are just as confused on what they should do also. The best mode for self preservation is to shut down and rely on yourself.

This man is showing you a huge degree of his character. He could be a something reduced to less. He could be an active person reduced to being stationary. He could have a relationship that he was ending. He could have a host of different reasons. Far too many times women (Not saying you did) take lack of interest as options that another woman has entered or been in the picture and that's not the case in ton's of incidents. It's just easier for them to digest the circumstances that way.

If a man isn't in a stationary place concerning his inner peace and who he really is then he absolutely will be flakey and standoffish to a degree. Examples. What if this man fell in love with you and the interaction you shared, but he wanted so much for you than he could offer at the moment? What if he had loose ends going on in his life and he respected you too much to expose you to altering your life? What if he was intimidated about how you had certain aspects of your life in order and he didn't at the time? What if he created a facade to mask behind when meeting you for the wrong reasons and when he saw the real you he couldn't bring himself to look foolish being eventually exposed? Do you see how he could step away to some degree? Keep what happened in place and learn the psychological habit. We all have them and they are what makes us individuals.

Here are some positive facts to take in consideration though. After 9 months you were at the forefront of his wanting to be in the company of. After 9 months he see's something in you that he deems worthy of meeting his circle of friends. If he was reclusive and shut off from everyone then he wouldn't have a circle of friends to even be able to comform a get together so it seems he has social skills. You have a venue to attend on Sunday if you choose and a possibility to add yet another smile or laugh to all the things you've experienced in life. Also, you are taking your own transportation and have an open door opportunity to leave when you choose without any uncomfortable pressure. Go relax and have an open mind. You yourself stated "I told him if he needed a friend, I'm here.", so be there. Being a friend doesn't constitute dating. That's the horrible inference that people with ulterior motives have (Not saying you, but in general). You seem to have taken his 9 month dormant behavior in stride so what's the harm?
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Should you reply back out of courtesy if theyre not your type?
Posted: 9/24/2011 8:55:01 AM
Original Poster:
Time is the only thing that we really can't buy in this life so it's of the essence to spend it wisely. That being said woman get 20 times the messages as men do so honestly why burden your time on people without a chance. You have a profile with several pics. They range from showing you enjoy decent taste in dining from the dessert pic, and wine pic. Adventurous and above average taste in relaxing from the catamaran boat, holiday coconut, and just leaning against the fence pic. Your profile has substance written in the about me section giving viewers a glimpse at the real you. All in all my point is that you took time, effort, and planning to create your opportunity for the world to get a glimpse at the real you, so why waste time with less than average blokes who should know they are in the wrong league (Yes I believe we all have our dating leagues..). So "NO". Don't respond unless you think a person is border line meeting your criteria and you want to give them another opportunity before you truly disqualify them. Best wishes..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What is your POF procedure?
Posted: 9/24/2011 8:08:11 AM
Original Poster:
Personally I use this avenue of communication to seek individuals that would merit good interaction. I have a range of hobbies that I enjoy so I go to advanced search put in my criteria and sift through the selection. I will individualize my messages but to an extent I guess you can view that as mass searching. Penmanship is everything to me online after I have deemed a person physically attractive. If they are attractive and start with "I hate this part", "I don't know what to put here", "Just message me to know more", or anything that has no substance then I view their persona as unworthy of my time because they don't know themselves, think they are too good to be here, or can't communicate well. How an individual can live over 20 years and not know what they enjoy or have a passion for totally blows my mind so I'm out. After I send a message I go about life and don't look back. I jot their name down in a Microsoft Excel Sheet that I started back years ago to make sure I only message 1 user 1 time. Personally I refuse to degrade myself chasing any woman. Reality shows that have men in competition with other men on television to pursue 1 woman are absolutely offensive for me as a man. Paa-leee-zzzzzz. If I get a response I will ask to move to an Instant Messenger type of forum so they can protect the integrity of their phone number if they choose. Then we can tell if our demeanor's match, move to a phone call or just say let's meet at a public establishment within 2 or 3 days max. It's extremely stupid to have lengthy communication online to take your mind on an emotional ride only to be let down when you don't have physical chemistry. Online interaction is the happenstance to place people in the path of others to present opportunity, not the means of how you carry out the opportunity.

I would like to add that I truly think you posting this thread was smart. Far too many times I see, hear, or read about women who give other women advice on men. How stupid is that? If I want to go fishing I better study the habits of the species of fish I'm seeking. If I go deer hunting you better believe that I don't do it the same way I quail hunt. Thanks for taking the time to at least ask the audience you are trying to perform for. Smart and best wishes..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Jeez I must suck at internet dating!
Posted: 9/23/2011 12:28:16 PM
Original Poster:
Lighten up on yourself and first stop to take 3 things in consideration. "Stop", "Look", and "Listen". Now place yourself in that arena, and think like the person you are pursuing, not who you are as a person.
"Stop".. What's your environment:
Online interaction is a gathering of countless people who are in need of something. They don't have the time to pursue, ability to pursue, knowledge to pursue, are curious to the possibilities, or specifically know what they want and are weeding out their options.

"Look".. What type of mentality is in that environment:
Men and Women who are indecisive, people who don't truly know themselves, people who want but don't want to give, people who are self-consumed, people with no social skills, people who don't want rejection, people who mask behind a character they admire but don't truly possess, people trying to run away from who they really are, and authentic people that find it hard to meet the same.

"Listen".. Hear the audience you're trying to reach, not the script you just want to say:
Take the time to pay attention to the people you are trying to captivate. Far too many times people ramble about themselves, when in all truthfulness it's not them that complete them, it's those who they are around who give the mirror image of who they really are. Instead of telling a person your life story, how about treating your life like a novel or movie revealing stage after stage keeping the mystery a new beginning just when you thought it was about to get dull.

All in all, "Online Dating" is far from easy. Sure the principal is simple and sounds like a breeze but the reality is it isn't. How do you expect a person who has been around the opposite sex with no social skills to hold a meaningful conversation? How do you expect a person who falls for lies to embrace raw honesty? My best advice is for you to gain real life social skills. You will then view this as entertainment. I have met 3 women from this site in about 5-6 years and I could care less. In that time frame I've sent hundreds of messages to female golfers with no response, heck some of which I've lowered my physical standards to just interact with. Now if I didn't have the social skills in real life to mingle and relied on this only, heck I'd probably be devastated. Instead I'm saying "Computerville" is "Computerville", real life is real life. The more real life you have the more "Computerville" because entertainment. Look at the proof! Which "Forum" on "POF" has the most submissions? "REALATIONSHIP ISSUES" & "SEX & SEXUALITY ISSUES" BY A LANDSLIDE!! What's your "environment mentality"? Duh.. "I S S U E S"!!!! So take in consideration that most people in this forum don't have the social skills to thrive in meaningful interaction. How many "OMG HE RESPONDED AND WE WENT OUT, NOW WHAT DO I DO?" threads have you read? LMAO man.. Are there authentic people online? OFF COURSE!! Question is, are they the exception or the rule? If diamonds were like grains of sand then we would see sand flaunted, and scoff at diamonds. Live life and use these avenues as an open channel but don't sink the integrity of who you are in this junk man. Once people really discover who they are, the universe will bend to put the proper people in their path. Best wishes..
 Tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Do you want to be told you are being inappropriate?
Posted: 9/21/2011 12:55:39 PM
Original Poster:
Honestly, I have 4 female friends on POF and we all laugh and go through each other messages to show the opposite sex what idiotic nonsense we are confronted with. That being said I'm sorry I can't see you having the time to respond to them all. Women are getting about 20 messages a day while guys maybe getting 20 messages in a 7 day week. Delete/Block and hopefully with the lack of response they get approaching women that way, they will evolve into better social skills or either delete their profile. Good Luck. You are going to need it..
 Tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
why disappear now??
Posted: 9/21/2011 12:39:20 PM
Original Poster:

"I had a guy who I exchanged msgs with several times a day everyday for 3 months before I got him to take it to texting and we wld text all day every day and some phone calls as well, and I did tell him while I appreciated him wanting to take it slow it was dragging out and we should meet cas didnt want to get attached talking to him and then meet and find out he didn't feel chemistry with me, we planned two dates which he canceled do to work which was fine, but took a month before he finally got around to meeting me, and that was a spear of the moment at 9 am what you doing lets get together now kinda thing, date went great, kissing and touching but nothing to heavy since we were in public and we texted for a few more wks planned a 2nd date and then he stopped talkin to me out of the blue dont know what happened."


AND THE AWARD FOR THE LONGEST RUN ON SENTENCE IN THE WORLD, GOES TO THE WOMAN WHO ALREADY HAS A RECORD FOR THE LONGEST ONLINE EXCHANGE IN THE WORLD BEFORE MEETING!!!!! 3 MONTHS!!! What in the heck is wrong with people like you online? You tell the world you are open to meeting quality people then drag real interaction out for weeks and months? Wow.. When is the last time you ran bath water only to submerge yourself in the tub 3 months later? When have you turned on a stove to cook and prepared your food right next to it and came back to finish cooking 3 months later? Sorry but the stupidity of this, mixed with you leaving yourself open emotionally to a guy with chronic health issues, and you being seperated while in the dating pool is enough to make me want to hit a golf ball directly in your direction if I saw you in the audience while playing in a tournament.

Pathetic how women make absolutely the wrong choices from day one when they clearly see the end to their beginning. You only scar yourself emotionally which keeps you apprehensive going foward with your future of true happiness. Therefore, you will never achieve true happiness and live through the lives of smothering your kids, pets, job, or something other all because you are too affraid of embracing that which challenges you and throws you out of your comfort zone. I would bet you have been messaged by 10 people from this website that more than could have made you authentically happy and you choose the dude in ICU on feeding tubes that talks with his pinky toe and blinks when he has to pee. Unreal.............. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And you wonder "WHY DISAPPEAR NOW?"? Ummmm.... Maybe because real men like ambition and back bones and he see's neither in your predictible demeanor. Just saying..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
New Year's let-down
Posted: 1/1/2010 10:49:59 AM
Original Poster:
(Sorry but it's my opinion.....)

Honestly "Cloudhero", I think your head is so far in the "Clouds" that you are missing the forest for the trees... I think that she threw the mad caveat in place to make other plans with someone else. After that was over she shifted the blame on your blunder and stuck you with the emotional bag. What make me say this..... Simple my dear Watson... The fact that you stated that she is your "MY SWEETHEART OF TWO MONTHS" and then state later that "We're getting to be friends before we make the "boyfriend/girlfriend" leap. At least that's what she wants. This is an elementary circumstance of the high possibility that this situation is 1 sided. One of you cares more for the other than the other does. If not then 1 of you would have easily called to say "Hey Babe, what's going on...". You seem gullible and she seems to be capitalizing off it.

Get your head out the "Clouds" Mr. Hero, and get more grounded. That will be $199.99 please because I possibly just saved you hundreds if not thousands of dollars and hours, weeks, months, or years of heartache.

Tye...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Please answer this for me!
Posted: 12/31/2009 11:19:48 AM
Original Poster:
(I'm treading lightly here..... Gulp.......)

MAYBE THEY SAW THE GUN YOU WERE SHOOTING ON YOUR PHOTO AND THEY KNEW THEY WERE UP TO NO GOOD, SO THEY CHOSE TO RE-THINK THE SITUATION BEFORE YOU HURT OR KILLED THEM..... Hmmmmmm...

All in all Bro on the serious side of things..... Go out tonight pick up a woman in the real world and don't take this shiat to heart man.. You have sparked a Thread I'm going to post with this... Hmmmmm.....

Tye...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
 
sub consciously asking a man for money
Posted: 12/31/2009 10:49:01 AM
ORIGINAL POSTER:
Carbuff1950

Honestly Sir you should move on. I know it hurts and you were in a relationship for 2 1/2 years. Could be though, that you were in a relationship where she was in a situation that benefited her and her circumstance? It's not about the money to you, it's the emotional let down that you allowed yourself to be in, so you should move on. Don't go to court, don't accept the money back, don't contact her, just move on with your life. You got played, and you also played yourself... Embrace it as a learning situation, and move forward without bitterness. Learn from your own mistake and allow that to keep you out of trouble that is similar going into the future. WALK COMPLETELY AWAY AND DON'T EVEN ACCEPT HER ADVANCE TOWARDS YOU EVEN IF SHE CHOOSES TO GIVE YOU THE MONEY.

(My advice for the current and future matter...)
Be a man and kill her with the kindness. Don't allow her to pacify her own self conscious. By that I mean, there will come a time where she reflects on this situation and possibly feels bad over it. Then she will try to reach out to someone else or you to ease her comfort. If it's you, your job is to "NOT!!! help or soothe her own wrong doing. Hearing your voice-mail and being able to leave a message, having you on the other end of the phone, mailing you a letter, or speaking with you in person will give her ease. If she contacts you don't accept her call, if you see and recognize the number answer without speaking and just hang up in her face so she doesn't get voicemail. If she mails you then don't open it and return to sender, cut all forms of communication and this will destroy her ass, forcing her to linger with this void forever. While you go on with life as happy as possible because you aren't lying to yourself and know you are true. This sounds harsh but when people wrong others they need to understand how foul their wronging is. There is no better way to do that than by punishment. Actually, you will be helping her more because you will give her that 1second extra that she possibly needs to reflect on before doing what she did again, and it may make her remember the True Friend she lost and cause her to mature. What she did was wrong if your scenario is as posted, but you have to realize you have a wrong that you did to yourself also in this matter by not heeding the signs of her past showing she wasn't worthy of this. It's not just her fault, that's why you don't need to be bitter, you need to infuse this experience with your character to extract the positive from it. Which in this case is the fact that you aren't afraid to show your vulnerability, which makes you a stronger person than the average. Be happy man that you found out in 2 years instead of 20 that she was unworthy. And all before 2010 so you can move to a better life....

Going forward Sir, stop asking the question: "CAN I SEE MYSELF WITH OFFERING ALL OF ME TO THIS 1 PERSON FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?" Start asking, "CAN I SEE MYSELF WITH OFFERING ALL OF ME TO THIS 1 PERSON, AND AT THE SAME TIME CAN I SEE THIS PERSON OFFERING ALL OF THEMSELVES TO ME FOR THE REST OF BOTH OUR LIVES"? At that stage in your life Sir, you will become a Forum Reader and laugh at all this stuff you see people get themselves in. My best wishes to you...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Do guys have backups?
Posted: 12/30/2009 4:51:06 PM
Original Poster:

Ummmmmm.... How do you say H E L L... Y E A H.... in English?

Truth be told, heck I have a "Back Up", for the "Back Up", for that "Back Up", that "Back's Up", that "Back Up", when they "Back Up", because I needed a "Back Up", for the other 4 "Back Ups", just in case they "Back Up".

So if you are in the "Back Up" and we just did this then you better believe you are gonna have to wait sometime to hear from me, because you will be the "Back Up", for the last "Back Up" because you lost your spot.

I'll be darned if I ever sit around looking lifeless over a woman.. LOL.. If you act right then so will I, if you get out of line baby please you are replaced before I get out your driveway. Dang I love being single.. LMAOOO...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Giving number out on POF
Posted: 12/27/2009 4:54:25 PM
ORIGINAL POSTER:

I OWE THE ORIGINAL POSTER "CARTIER84" MY DEEPEST REGRETS AND APOLOGIES AS WELL AS EVERYONE ON THIS SITE WHO HAS READ HER THREAD!!!!! I MISREAD THE THREAD AND THOUGHT IT WAS ANOTHER CASE OF A GROWN UP PUTTING THEMSELVES IN A DUMB SITUATION THAT HAD NO FUTURE AND I WAS HORRIBLY INCORRECT... I CAN DEFINITELY ADMIT WHEN I AM WRONG AND APOLOGIZE. I THOUGHT HER THREAD READ "THAT SHE GAVE HER NUMBER OUT TO A PERSON THAT SHE DIDN'T SEE A FUTURE WITH, AS IN THE CASE WITH WOMEN IN CLUBS OR BARS.."

CARTIER84 I APOLOGIZE... ALSO FORUM THREAD READERS I APOLOGIZE ALSO...

Tye....
OOooppssssss.......
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Why would a guy play cyber peek-a-boo?
Posted: 12/26/2009 4:53:18 PM
Original Poster:
(Just my opinion... Grinning...)

Simply put there are only 2 reasons why he or anyone won't meet face to face at this stage.
1. EITHER HE SAW YOU AND HE WASN'T INTERESTED...

or

2. EITHER HE SAW YOU AND WAS INTIMIDATED OR SOME SELF CONSCIOUS ACTION MANIFESTED...

Honestly, I say you deserve it because you are online with no photo seeking a person to "DATE". LMAO... That makes about as much sense as a person spending 2 hours or more at a car dealership just to get a price... LMAOOOOOOOOOO.... Advertise like you plan on selling it..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why do you change?
Posted: 12/18/2009 4:10:16 AM
Original Poster:

Are you sure you truly want an answer to this? I'm going to be a gentleman and wait until you personally tell me "yes" before I reply....
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What if she fell asleep?
Posted: 12/18/2009 3:59:37 AM
Original Post:

I'd let her sleep and cuddle there with her while possibly knapping with her. Its my experience that if a woman isn't drunk and is just in casual chill mode and happens to fall asleep, then its a plus because she is comfortable with you. Now mind you that there are some women who play sleep to see what move you will make (winks...), its still a plus.

Cute post...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Now I'm confused, please interpret for me
Posted: 12/18/2009 3:48:26 AM
Original Poster:
Your thread reads "Now I'm confused, please interpret for me"

After reading your post my interpretation is "You are less mature than my 14 year old, and you are a negative impression of good strong women in the world. You are diverting your energy toward the wrong issue. The issue is "YOU". "You" need to interpret "YOU", and realize he is the circumstance, while "YOU" are the constant issue.

Yuck you are 51 asking this..... That guy is lucky as heck to avoid you.... I can't stand females that open up to strongly communicate with everyone except the person they have the circumstance with.. Kick Rocks..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Was it me or her?
Posted: 12/15/2009 11:49:52 AM
Stafer965 (Original Poster)...
(Just my opinion.....)

It's your fault 1,000%. I don't understand for the life of me why men and women can't see the signs of a person losing interest. At the end of the day the common denominator for every relationship we all have is "US". Whether it is a bad decision in the type of people we choose to open ourselves up to, whether it's a change we see happen within a person and we know we can't see ourselves with them long term but choose to ignore it, or whatever the reason... It's our decision to choose our significant others, friends, associates, or people we mingle with. Therefore, no matter what the reason for the unequal balance, it falls on us and our previous relationships failures are our on... Not the other person's. They were/are who they were/are and we saw/see it but choose to move forward..

Every human being, animal, plant, insect, or living thing has a cycle. It's what we/they do on the normal and it's constant. When that cycle is broken you can choose to ignore the signs or you can challenge them for a deeper explanation why (Which is what all adults should do in relationships..). Say this is your girlfriend for example...
A woman getting off work every day around 6pm, then going to the gym M,T,W,T,F, where she then leaves around 8pm, then get's home and settled around 9-9:30pm is her cycle. If she starts floating in around 10 or later and you don't have a developed enough bond of communication for her to somehow mention to you that she had other plans afterwards then you are the dummy. I know some idiot is going to read this and take this out of perspective so let me address that I'm not on the lines of "OMG YOU WANT A PERSON TO CHECK IN, YOU WANT TO BE TOO CONTROLLING, OR BLAH.. BLAH.. BLAH..". "KICK ROCKS... THAT'S NOT WHAT I'M SAYING.. I differ.. When people have good strong relationship it's done out of mutual respect to reinforce their trust, not because they have to. When you have to it's bullcrap and won't last.

So all in all sir.... I guarantee you that she gave you signs and you chose to ignore them so it's your fault. Whether it was her bodies response to your touch, a pause in your humor, wanting to go out less, not being as passionate, not appreciating the simple things you all use to do, or just not wanting to see you as much. Something was done where she wasn't responding the same and you chose to ignore it and that gave the other guy a chance to present himself... PERIOD!!! Be more observant next time Bro.. She wasn't the right one, or she could have been the right one but you didn't fuel her desire and she got bored. REGARDLESS, BE STRONG BUT PUSH ON MAN.... PLENTY MORE OUT THERE... JUST LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES, YOU WILL BE FINE...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
If she texts first after First Date
Posted: 12/11/2009 12:55:49 PM

I literally laughed out loud at this thread.... Oh my goodness!!!

Original Poster:
Sir, from the surface you look like a cool dude. I click on every posters profile male or female when reading their post, and all I have to say is that something wasn't adding up. Just looking at your pic to the left of your post I was like, "Ok harmless interactive question from a dude". Then as I kept reading I saw how you went and asked another question after you heard back from her and the questions started racing like mad through my head. "Seemingly, cool dude asking kinda girly questions.... Okay let's look deeper into this.".

Dude!!! As soon as I get to your page I see you kissing another dude on a photo posted to the world!!! W.T.F.!!!! That's gay man.. Even if you are in the UK. The Alpha Male in me is like, "HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM HERE". LMAO.... I say you are confused because you mingle better with the same sex, that's why you are in such an unfamiliar situation. You are gay man, whether bi-sexual or full blown. The quicker you realize it and get out of my mingling pool the better. Quit taking good women on a ride so they punish the next man who could be me.

FUNNY... I DIDN'T SEE A POST THAT YOU MADE LABELLED "WHAT TO DO IF A GUY KISSES YOU?".. YOU WERE PRETTY COMFORTABLE SHARING THAT WITH THE REST OF THE WORLD." WERE'NT YA... RED FLAG MAN.... GUESS THE 100 WOMEN TO 1 MAN RATIO JUST WENT UP TO 101. THANKS DUDE...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
tips on how to handle competition
Posted: 12/11/2009 10:24:51 AM
Original Poster:
(Just my opinion....)
Accepting your post as it sits, and answering or giving advice to it is kinda pointless to me. Not that it isn't a great post, or heck of a dilemma. It's just that women are far to different. Not knowing the female, what she likes, how she carries herself, how she likes to be talked to, what you all have talked about and her engagement of the conversation, or any of the intricate things about her, know one can tell you the secret to her inner self. Not even another woman.. Sorry.. LOL.. The same question you are asking us, I would just simply type, talk, or just ask her. "Hey, it's obvious that I'm drawn to the way you carry yourself and our exchanging of messages. You have my attention and being that this is an online forum where you have many options, I'm wondering if, or what I can do to give you a closer look at who I am to see if you like what you see.". Directness is a b i t c h to avoid because the dilemma isn't on you anymore it's on the other party.. LOL....

MY TIP....
Differs a bit from your question but at the same time covers your issue... I would continue to build great, wonderful bonds with women outside of this "Computerville", and just use the free advertisement for the people smart enough to accept me for who I am because we are like minded. That/this way know matter what the issue is online, it's a shoulder shrug away, or only an "x" in the top right corner away from being discontinued.

Personally...
I fill that you are in violation of being online period... You have "Dating" as your preference, listed "A Few Extra Pounds" as your physical attributes, and "HAVE NO PHOTO". I SAY MARCUS DELETE'S YOU, AND I HOPE YOU MEET A SASQUATCH CHICK THAT HAS A CHAIN-SAW COMPARED TO YOUR AXE" But that's my opinion..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Do I ask for more pictures?
Posted: 12/11/2009 9:53:33 AM
Original Post:
My advice is more or less with future interactions (If this isn't your last 1st date.. Grinning..). It will be more simple if this happens again to load the direction of 1 of your conversations about the wicked behavior of people misrepresenting themselves online and how selfish and dumb it is, especially if you are actually going to meet the person so they see you face to face. That direction of conversation is either going to spark distance, silence, or a demeanor change for the negative (which is a sign to beware.., or it will get embraced with stories she's gone through, heard about, or can relate to in the positive (which is a sign of partial relief that you share the same sentiments.

After that I have to agree with "Malice From Wonderland", "cfb62", "peppermint petunias", and "cutie*katie" on just going to meet. My reason however is different from yours because I'm here for friends, people to hang out with, and great times. I'm not here for a "Wife" or "Girl Friend". That makes me more acceptable than in your case.

In your case I have to agree with "RushLuv". Simply because you are meeting and here for the purpose of being open to find a special person worth your time to build a serious bond with. Therefore, time, money, and effort is more critical and you need to be more sound in your choices..

There are plenty of gorgeous women who have very low self esteem from the choices they have made in life. Asking one of those diamonds in the rough for more photos could kill your chance of meeting one of the best friends you will ever have. Stay direct, look at the photo's, but LISTEN TO THE CONVERSATION AND PENMANSHIP. That's a bigger sign than any pic in the world.... Good luck Bro...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
or are my chances long and over and should i move on?
Posted: 12/8/2009 4:54:25 PM
Original Poster:

Interesting post... Mind you that all we have to work with is what you typed and just so I have it right here is what I gather from what you are saying. You are saying that you dated a woman that you liked then and love now. Your reason for the breakup is due to it only being long distance and her wanting and needing something more tangible correct? You see a few flickers of sparks but did the gentleman thing and tried to ask her how or if you 2 should procede, and she stated she needed time to get over him. I'm I at least 85-90% correct?

Just in case I am 85-90% correct here is what I would do if I knew I wanted this woman..... SMOTHER HER A Z Z. If you are half the man that you are projecting in this post, and the only issues that you all had was the distance, then you being around this woman and showing her who you are and who you have matured to will cause her to fold. MIND YOU NOW... THIS IS IF YOU SHE REALLY CARED FOR YOU... IF SHE DIDN'T... YOU ARE GONNA GET HELLA REJECTED, BUT YOU THEN NEED TO MOVE ON ANYWAY. The reason I say this, is that she needs time to get over her ex, and there is going to be that period where she doesn't feel appreciated (you showing her she is gets you more of her). Next, if there were great times you all shared then they aren't gone, they are still in her memory and that will promote to you putting her in a happy state. By the time all the ripples settle you two if you really care about each other will be enjoying your time together. You have done enough talking now take what you know about this woman and shut up and start showing her. Action speaks louder than words... Go get her dude...

Also, the fact that she is allowing you to be around to talk to her says that she somewhat or still likes you. When a woman decides to see a man all we have to do is keep logs on the fire and not put it out... Just don't be stupid and try to start a California forest fire when she is only thinking of a cozy fire place. Pay attention.. LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How soon should you ask for a number?
Posted: 12/8/2009 4:33:53 PM
Original Poster:
(I'm being polite while typing this.....)

Would you go try out for a major league baseball team if you had never swung a bat or knew the rules to the sport? The answer should be an undoubltly NO... The same thing holds true to you learning how to read body language before you dare try to approach a woman, especially to date (YIKES...). If you wear your feelings on your sleeves man and yet you approach but are scared of women then you are eventually gonna be taken to the cleaners by a few and it's not their fault, it's yours. Stop looking at them as girls, females, women, or chicks, and start looking at them as just people.

I understand that your post is in regards to a phone number Regoleo, but you are missing some major rudiments before even getting to that stage in my opinion. Be confident man, loose the glasses and sleep well at night knowing that you boldly tried to obtain whatever it was in life that caught your eye. You mentioned that you "Chickened out", right? Well, when you go to the zoo do you 100% expect to see humans behind the bars and in the cages? NO.... Well, when a woman is seeking a man, why would she settle for "A Chicken"?

The old "I need the perfect line" to approach a woman is bullcrap man, don't fall for that crap you see advertised in movies..... All you have to do is just ask her for her number and tell her why you want it. Keep it simple.. Good Luck..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
how long should i give her before i try to call her again?
Posted: 12/8/2009 3:52:13 PM
Original Poster:
You posted in a public place to get advice that should be naturally within you since birth. I say you are acting pretty gay myself and questin your sexuallity. I don't know 1 real man on the planet that will bluntly have a woman tell them to "Kick Rocks" or never call them again and they would. OMG!!! Dude I have a scowl on my face like yuck right now.. Get your left, right, or both hands and grab your gonads and push on bro. If you turned her off a fraction of the way as you pissed me off reading your needy dilemma then I'm telling you that she is more of a man than you are and her next move may be to use a 3 wood to break the back glass of your Caddillac Escalade. (IF YOU CATCH MY DRIFT...)LOL....

I'm beginning to think women are probably right... Maybe there is a shortage of real men. Dude go start a bar fight or something.. Do you knit, or play the musical instruments that require blowing? Wow... LEAVE HER ALONE DUDE!!!.
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Music or No Music?
Posted: 12/7/2009 2:36:38 PM
Geezzzz man I love these post because you can see the world from views that you never knew existed. Laughing my butt off at the women who say they need something to focus on. LMAO!!!! You have my deepest apologies that you have not been introduced to a spectacular sensual encounter. OMG!! Stop and just watch tv or something but let the dude know that he needs to step it up or step himself out.. Women kill me when they subject themselves to a lousey lay. LOL.. You have to be 5 years old, or just unaware of great sex if you don't understand that sex is more mental than anything else. Grinning..

Original Poster:
Sir music can get you in a crap load of trouble or a crap load of applause but I strongly suggest you take the time to understand the mental stability and futuristic outcome of what the partner you have chosen to seranade has in store with you.
For instance:
1. Playing love songs with words being said can cause a woman to invision that you are potentially her last 1st date, and can set her up for here is my knight in shinning armour. That's going to make her bitter, confused, hurt, and wanting more explanation, while you are just considering her efforts to talk and communicate as being needy and physcho. Pick accordingly... Grinning..
2. Playing heavy rock or rap could send a message that you are trying to just screw and have no respect towards her actual needs, which could puts her in "Booty Call" mode. Unless it's more of the party girl type where you are just laughing and acting silly while drinking and cutting up. Play music like that with a woman who is in a romantic state of mind towards you and overnight you will have room in your phone to store another phone number, because ya won't need her space anymore... LOL!!!
3. Jazz on the other hand or instrumental music can totally soothe a wider variety of situtuations because it sets a more laid back tone, can be upbeat or mellow, doesn't have words like "love", fairy tale bliss emotions, or things that can be taken as something more. Therefore she can get lost in her own world, and your job is to do nurture her mood and not fugg it up. LMAO!!!..
4. If you are making a cd you better change the tone of music and select accordingly based on where you think you will be at the time the song is playing. I know that sounds like some serious planning, but it's actually simple as knowing your name once you know the mindset of the person you are creating that moment for.

Fool around and play some love making music with a woman that you are just physically attracted to and she has mentioned how wonderful you are and wants a guy that she can call her own if you want to. I am gonna be reading about your a z z on the front page after she goes phsycho.. LOL.. KNOW YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU PRE-PLAN TO INJECT MUSIC TO PURPOSELY SET A MOOD. It can make or break ya..
That will be $199.99 sir. Do you have paypal? LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Number or no number?
Posted: 12/5/2009 2:15:46 PM
Wow... Original Post... If you saw a 5 story building on fire would you run in just to see if you could get a cup of water from the top floor before it collapsed? This is about as much sense as your question makes.

SHE HAS FOOLED ALL OF YOU... THIS WOMAN IS LYING... AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN READ? LAUGHING MY BUTT OFF...

Penmanship is a window to the soul. Let's dissect hers:
1. She states that she met someone from work that she was interested in and then she states that they have chatted and there seems to be a spark. Dude she is using the word “CHATTED” BECAUSE SHE IS TALKING ABOUT A DUDE ONLINE…
2. The words “SPARK GOING ON” are from her being drawn to this guy with online communication and nothing tangible has been shared.
3. She states “ACCORDING TO HIM HE IS MOVING OUT OF STATE IN A FEW WEEKS”. That’s because she knows nobody that knows him and has to only take him at his words. If it were a real employee others would be wishing him off and know for a fact when he was leaving. He is probably doing that as a buffer because he is hoping that if you do move forward he has an exit strategy, but him not asking you for your number is a sign that he doesn't want it!!!
4. The statement “I DON’T WANT TO WAIT AROUND FOR HIM”, and “SHOULD I GIVE HIM MY NUMBER?”, more than likely means he is messaging her and not going for the aggressive means of meeting her while he is seducing her with his occasional messages.
5. The statement “I don't know how he would take it considering I have just met him and we haven't really talked to much. I don't want to come off as desperate, but than again I don't want to miss something that could possibly happen… Dude she is right they haven’t talked much they have only chatted.

If you read her other post you will see that this is a typical case of a needy, I have to have approval from others, I'm easily swayed type of situation. I feel more for the guy for having to deal with you than you having to deal with him. Heck at least he is smart enought to not ask you for your number because he see's you are "NEEDY CITY"..

Winks.......... Blunt but honest. Call me what you will, but dumb, and a liar you will never...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why do men do this...
Posted: 12/5/2009 12:14:10 PM

My problem is that statistically the kind of men I'm compatible with are think on the ground. So, I decided wil though if I had several that would work as well.
have another will you?

I'm sorry.... Miss, I'm an intelligent gentleman but I can't get past your 4th paragraph to save my freaking life. I'm soooooo confused.. What in the sam hill does it mean when you state "My problem is that statistically the kind of men I'm compatible with are think on the ground. So, I decided wil though if I had several that would work as well.. I swear i have read this over a dozen times, and stopped watching the football game to have my friend who is an 11th grade English teacher assist me and we both are clueless to what on earth you are trying to say.

I am entering this puzzling sentence on www.brainteasers.com and I'll split the prize with you when we win...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Dateing at 35
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:37:21 PM
Patrick,

Simply put it's difficult. You can go out with beauty queens and still be the most bored guy in the room. You can sleep with the pretty face and be all alone in the bed. Mental stimulation and great conversation from women these days is becoming a lost art but there is still plenty in circulation. Let me ask you this.... Are you generally speaking about women that you are meeting for the 1st time at a bar/club/ or public establishment or people that you have had at least 4 or more conversations of dialogue with that know your demeanor?

Tye
Hang in their bro... Remember running game and having game are 2 totally different things... Without "Game" you are dead in the water.... Like it or Love it... Stay positive, just not with HIV... LOL
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Creative Pick Up Methods...
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:57:18 PM
OMG!!!!!!!!!! YOU SURE GOT THE RIGHT IDIOT TO READ THIS POST.. LMAO..
You would have to know me and my demeanor to fathom all the crap I get away with saying. It's virtually unreal how I can say or do them most off the wall things and pull it off, and I honestly don't even try. Here are a couple that I've done over the years that have led to me not only joking with the person for the night, but currently I'm still good associates or friends with them.

1. I got some mutual and disarming body language from across the room by a woman and I then put some fake teeth in my mouth as I made my way across room and when I smiled spit her drink every freaking where... OMG I'm laughing thinking about it and the majority of it was on me but it was so authentic and she was apologizing profusely.

2. I squeezed in between 2 women waiting for a drink at the bar and told one of them if I got the answer wrong I'd buy their drinks. I said I bet I can tell you what you do for a living and they took the bet. Then my silly self say's you must be a chicken farmer...... because you sure no how to raise C O * K... They died laughing.... My buddy today.

Dude I can go on and one.... LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 6/4/2009 6:54:35 PM
Laughing my block off BASSGIRL... While I was typing my statement I had to play the odds. The odds were more in favor of this being "Plenty of Fish" that you were refering to "Fish"... LOL... I knew the possiblity of it being the other homonym but live and die by my choices.. LOL.. YOU JUST KILLED MEEEE... LOL..

Back to your topic. I say that Dutch Treat is a lost art.. Don't ask me for anything that you can't do for yourself. Wanna fly anywhere in the world or take a trip? I have my portion... Winks..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 268 (view)
 
Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:54:27 PM
Mike (Original Poster)...

Sir, I feel that it is totally acceptable to drop a person a line because their profile sparks something so similar to your thought process or intrigues you in a way that makes you echo their sentiments. Everyone doesn't express this view because the web is full of people in denial and battered in emotional ways. Therefore, you will have people in your area who state they are seeking "Friends" to "Hangout" or "Just Talk/Email" and they will frown on you nudging and joking with them because they aren't physically drawn to you. They are so blinded by their own selfish ways they don't see that everyone with eye's knows they are trying to date or be whisked off into a fairy-tale where Peter Pan exists... LOL...

Drop everyone a message whether far or near to show them they are appreciated and enjoy life without being a prude. Peace...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:17:31 PM
First off I must say this is extremely funny.. Actually hilarious if you ask me. LOL!!!. Sweetie the next time it happens all you have to do is tell the waitress to split the tab with your items on it and leave him on his own. Duh..... You learn by your mistakes...

Feed a hungry man a fish, and you have him looking for you to help him when the hunger pains come back. Teach a hungry man to fish, and you will nourish him for life.... Winks....

You would have thought a woman named "BASSGIRL" would have known to throw that little fishy back because he wasn't big enough. Hmmmm... LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 2473 (view)
 
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:02:00 PM
To the Original Poster... I've seen some sexy tatoo's on women and I've seen some that I don't deem as my cup of tea but thier cup of tea is still a cup of tea none the less. I don't have any tat's but I'm not opposed to them either.

This forum has me seriously considering get one though. But I'm torn between 2 different one's. I either want a $100.00 bill tattoo'ed on my man hood or a Rooster hanging from a rope on my calf.

Reason: What woman do you know that won't blow a $100.00 bill and I would love to show a woman my C O * K hanging below my knee... LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Living with mother over 30? Would it make me Untouchable?
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:00:54 PM
Oh yea..... Make you mom sign "A Waiver of Interest" also.. Meaning when she heard the head board thudding against the wall she couldn't get mad and kick you out....

Can't you see his mom and him doing this... "But Mom".... "She was over 21"... "She's not a Stripper, she's an Exotic Dancer...

Or even better....... WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOUR MOM INVITES COMPANY OVER TO GET HER GROOVE ON? Laughing My Butt Off.........
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Living with mother over 30? Would it make me Untouchable?
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:09:46 AM

Right now i've a great flat, in the middle of Ealing, near the shops and the pubs. But my dad passed awayed last year, and my mum is very lonely and often infirm. If i moved back in with her, would it ruin my chances of finding someone to love. I'm 38 now, woman around my age, want men with money and a house, to start a family with. I had that for a while but no woman came. Should i let my mum live lonely and unloved in her twilight years, just so i can keep a bachelor pad, which never get woman back to any. Would it leave such a bad impression with woman, that i'd miss my chance to get married and be a father. What do you think?


"nightman37", I'm a bit analytical but here is my take on your pondering. In my circumstance I'm to "Alpha Male" to move home with mommie. My mom raised me to be this independent so she wouldn't be throwing me any signs of weakness like she wanted me to come live with her. Now I do see that there is a big difference between "A MAN" living with his parents over 30, and "A MAN" comforting his parent in there time of need. All in all in either circumstance there is a way to do any circumstance and carry a thriving relationship. If I may pass judgment on you for a moment and pick a part your penmanship there is something I'd like to say pertaining to your direct circumstance. I hope you take with a grain of salt. Grinning...

Your statement that you had "a bachelor pad and you couldn't get any women back to it anyway", says a tad bit of volume to me in answering your own question. Sounds like you aren't really under par at mingling with women so you may be doing a better deed at moving back in with mom. If she welcomes you, and you welcome doing it, who cares what an outsider thinks. Man you can get a woman if you have 1 leg, a bicycle, 4 teeth, and live in a card board box. It isn't rocket science.. Take care of your mom and learn how to keep mystery about yourself. Who said she had to know where you live? Go to her place. Oh wait she is taking care of her sick dad right? Heck even in that scenario you have a match made in heaven... LOL.. Hook them up while you and woman build a shed in the back to monitor them. LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 351 (view)
 
30 and never married?
Posted: 1/25/2009 11:30:51 PM
"Muziklover", there are a bunch of people who fit this scenario and I'm one of them. If it's not for love I will never get married. I actually get further and further away from doing it possibly as the days come and go because I'm so comfortable doing what I want when I want to. My sentiments are for you and anyone else for that matter to keep doing what you are doing and to stay single until you find someone that's worth the stretch.


Sounds more like : I hate to be committed therefore I won't wed. That is more like the advice that I got from reading your post.

That is kinda sad how you stated that but of course to each his own.


"Trejalace", I couldn't help but read your post and had to respond after I posted my thoughts on the question from the original poster. How did you come to your deduction of reasoning from what the original posters question. His or Her statement has nothing to do with lack of commitment. They just stated that they haven't got that this is my last 1st date feeling from the people they were with and decided to make a better choice. What am I missing?


Tye
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
he's still on POF
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:35:08 PM
Wow!!!!!! Utterly amazing..... And people ask me why my tags say "BCHLOR"... Laughing my butt off!!!! With this type of non-sense in the "Dating Pool" why in heavens sake would a person even consider dating? Please tell me you are really 12 and you snuck on to your parents computer so I will have more respect for you. Please..... Please.... PLEASE!!!!!!!!! Don't tell me that you are an adult and asked this question.... I can see you now doing this after a month "Who is she" "Were you with her when you told me you were sleep?" "Is this why our dinner plans were cancelled?"



Also.... MetalVixen has a heck of a point... LOL!!!!!!!!!!
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why does she have pictures of us after the breakup?
Posted: 1/18/2009 2:03:06 PM

Dear click

I think this is a question to ask her..why is it men don't just go to the source? seems so typical of them these days

another case of 'women do the oddest things' ::sigh::

best of luck

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

As I was metally shutting down to this post, I got to your statement "Alluring" and had to do a double take. Do you really feel that more women go directly to the source in whatever type of circumstance puzzles them rather than men? Surely you were just making this statement in general to the "Original Poster" and not claiming that more men talk with others instead of the one they are experiencing the difference with right? I think it fair to say that no matter if it's 1 vote less than the other, that women are less direct than men. If not then someone needs to explain the daily phone conversations I have with my female friends talking about co-workers, men, other friends, assoiciates, or people in a store that did what or how on issues they never brought to the table when the time was prevelant with the corresponding party.

Tye
(excuse the typo's this wasn't checked before sent)
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Activity partner???
Posted: 1/18/2009 12:55:03 AM
Put your status as "Hang-Out" if you are seeking no pressure interaction and state your intentions and what it doesn't mean in your profile. Truth be told, you could list your preference as "The", "Bird", or "Ironing Board" and someone is going to take it sexually because that's their aspirations. "Activity Partner" generally carries the connatation of someone interested in a hobby, sporting event, trade, or something of that nature. Sex can be looked at as an "Activity" so you may attract more people that way other than "Hang-Out" in my opinion..


Tye
(This message wasn't proof read so forgive any typo's or flaws)
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why does she have pictures of us after the breakup?
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:13:43 PM

I just got out of a relationship with this girl I was dating for a little over six months. She ended up breaking up with me a few weeks ago and I just had a question regarding some pictures of us. On facebook/myspace she still has all the pictures of us when we were together and I would have assumed that she would want to delete most of the pictures because we are not together anymore and she broke up with me. (at least the obvious ones of us as a couple) This leads me to believe that there might be a possibility of rekindling the romance in the future, or at least seeing where the path goes down. Is there any significance of this or am I just grasping at straws?


Fair question in your post sir.... Fair question indeed....... I agree that you are grasping at straws and that is actually alright, especially if you are pressing toward growing and getting beyond a milestone in your life. Might another more pressing question for you to ask be "WHY ARE YOU GOING TO A WOMAN'S INTERNET SPACE THAT DUMPED YOU?"... Man let it gooooooooooooooooo..... This is why women online use the word "Stalker" so darn loosely. Dude get a backbone and enjoy all the fun things you took from the experience and go further in the next one. Do you not know how many women are out there that will accept you for who you are? Come on man you said that she broke up with you a few weeks ago right? Well I'm kinda seeing why "MR. NEEDY"... Go to www(dot)INeedABackbone(dot)com. Man up!!! Hate me for telling you right but it won't change the fact that I gave you the kick in the rear end you needed. Good luck man...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 168 (view)
 
Being in The Right League
Posted: 1/17/2009 7:16:18 PM
Before anyone comments on all the "Bold" I had no idea that the whole thing was going to come out that way.. LAUGHING MY BUTT OFFFF.... I SWEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL... I only wanted the part that said "This is the original posters question"... LOL!!!!!!! I'm not screaming nor was it my intent.

On the other note. For all of the people who argue whether or not "Leagues" exist, well lets just say that you are arguing a loosing battle. The definition of the word and it's meaning being put in action notates an existance. You are only making yourself look utterly dumb if you don't acknowledge they exist. You can disagree with them but how can you say they don't exist. Moron's.... It's like Charles Barkley stating "I am not a role model". Know matter how much he sought out to just be himself, lesser people of envy followed and mocked his antics. Henceforth, he had to publicly announce that no matter how much he wanted to just be an individual and be judged for his sole actions, he had a responsibility because of his success to be more mindful. Point being...... You may choose to say you don't believe in it but it doesn't disolve the fact that it's there...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Being in The Right League
Posted: 1/17/2009 7:05:06 PM
What are your experiences in-your-league versus out of your league?

I noticed that in-the-league and out-of-league borders are continuously shifting based on level of confidence, physical, emotional or social shape.

THIS WAS THE ORIGINAL POSTER'S QUESTION

In my opinion it makes good sense to have a working definition of what's debated in order to intelligently argue a view. The word here in question is "League", did you look it up to get a definition of what it is? For those of you who haven't looked up the word, here is what "Dictionary (dot) (com)" states that the definition is:
league[b/]
noun, verb, leagued, lea·guing.
–noun 1. a covenant or compact made between persons, parties, states, etc., for the promotion or maintenance of common interests or for mutual assistance or service.
2. the aggregation of persons, parties, states, etc., associated in such a covenant or compact; confederacy.
3. an association of individuals having a common goal.
4. a group of athletic teams organized to promote mutual interests and to compete chiefly among themselves: a bowling league.
5. Sports. a. major league.
b. minor league.

6. group; class; category: As a pianist he just simply isn't in your league.
–verb (used with object), verb (used without object) 7. to unite in a league; combine.
—Idiom8. in league, working together, often secretly or for a harmful purpose; united.
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To answer your question from my perspective "Fingerprick68" I have to say that "in-your-league" mingling for me works out 10 out of 10 times better than "out of your league". The common geared aspirations and goals that have been achieved or exposure that people "in my league" have makes our interaction more meaningful. Who wants to have a conversation with a volleyball, other than "Tom Hanks" in the movie "Cast Away"? I want to carry worthwhile conversation and interaction that leaves me bettering myself, or leaves me wallowing in the past fun. I don't want useless conversation and interaction that makes wonder why in the heck I spent my time and or money on being there. Heck the person in that situation might as well be a volleyball because I'd want to kick the living crap out of them for wasting my time I've been on the lower and higher perspective of this scale in my life. I've been the more achieved and also the lesser achieved and even as the lesser I was still well above average. The issue I found as the more achieved was that the person was always on guard no matter if I didn't care or not. It was always them saying or feeling they weren't good enough, so that put their self esteem at risk and they would let themselves be happy. The issue I found as the lesser achieved was that the core circles and values the higher achieving person had really meant nothing to me so our mingling didn't really has as much meaning. Even though there were some good times shared. All in all I say there are exceptions to most rules but in my life it's better to stick within “your-own-league", and this is coming from a man who has been above average for quite sometime. Peace.......
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Women kissing after oral sex
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:39:31 PM
Well thank's to "Catkin2007" posting this post in another thread I didn't know it existed. LOL... Anyone with an issue to this question will probably have a high rate of being cheated on. LOL.. Then I guess I could see why they didn't want to kiss after the fact because they were confused on who they were tasting... LOL...

On another note (Laughing my butt off while I'm typing this... ) I think every man on P.O.F. is obligated to buy MR. "I_Luv_Fish" a round a beers each... You wondering why?.... Heck he has exposed every woman online that does oral with this post... LMAO!!!! Just find one who's local and start sending messages... LMAOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! Sorry the made me say... I didn't want to... LOL...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Blocking a User
Posted: 1/9/2009 1:51:48 PM
I'm a "Block-A-Holic" I have to say. If I send a person a message and they aren't interested I take no offense but keep sending a message titled "Block Me Please.. I'm Serious" until they either reply or they "Block" me. The contents of the message are polite and it works well for me. Then you have those who won't reply so you can "Block" them so I just learned to send the same message about 5 or 6 times and they will. LOL... What do I care if they get pissed, they didn't want to institute any means of conversation anyway. The goal is to get them out of my search.. LOL...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
If the sex aint mind blowing
Posted: 12/16/2008 3:03:25 PM
To the original post:

I would have to say in the scenario of actually dating someone that I would have to address it. There are many variables that could be the issue. Going to the individual and discussing the issue to share your honest opinions could make you understand that they were inexperienced or just not able to handle your sex drive right off the bat. An eager person to please you could adjust, but a person set in their ways and over sensitive to you being adult enough to actually address the issue needs the relationship boundaries renegotiated. I think friendship is the most important element of all and if you see that you won't be satisfied long term them stop the interactions that will cause the friendship to dissolve and just keep it simple. I will only date a person that I’m screening for marriage, so if I’m considering giving up every woman in the universe for 1 woman, I’ll be darned if I settle for average sexual engagement… Heck, we all can get great sex with out a commitment.
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
 
What do you think of White Suburban Women who act likeHoodrats?
Posted: 12/13/2008 8:38:27 PM
Grinning at my own silly blunder. I tried to correct you Palmer and I realize I wrote "you" instead of "your" in a sentence. I think I need to be put in time out. LOL.... As far as your statements "Tomic", funny.... LOL. We will have to open another post on Sushi and Darts.... LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
What do you think of White Suburban Women who act likeHoodrats?
Posted: 12/13/2008 5:36:50 PM
Palmer I don't think you were wrong man because I hate that. It's down right insulting to think I want to be related to that. Now I'm a professional guy that can go "ALPHA MALE" in 0-60 seconds but we all don't act like "HOOD RAPPERS". I don't roll on 26 inch wheels, where flip flops out in public, smoke weed or anything for that matter, and talk like something out of an "EBONICS HORROR FLICK".

Speaking on "EBONIX" for a minute Palmer you have to help me out as a good black man to another. Man I read your post and know what you were trying to say but understand the scrutiny we are under just for being black. Big Dawg I need for you to fix you spelling on some words because if you sent her a message and you were typing like that she possibly thought she was relating to you better because you chopped up and screwed your sentences.. LOL... Picking at you man but check this out..

1. Sentence number 2 says "I a black guy", that's suppose to be "I'm a black guy.".

2. Sentence number 3 says "So I emaled her back", that's suppose to be "emailed". Now this could be the reason that she started talking slang because you "MAULED" her instead of "MAILED" her. Baby was geared to be in fight mode man.. LOL...

3. Sentence number 3 again says "Soon", no need to capitalize the "S".

4. Sentence number 3 again says "begam", that's suppose to be "began".

Now I know you understand and know these things but you got in a rush but honestly if you think about it, this may very well be the reason that other nationalities don't care to mingle with black men online. They could see this so much that they feel we are underneath understanding the rudiments of what they need. Do your thing man but fix your sentences.. LOL..
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 290 (view)
 
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 12/13/2008 2:46:27 PM


OH MY GOODNESS.... AND THE AWARD FOR FUNNIEST ACTUAL ONLINE MEETING GOES TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... "ABANDONEDBYCUPID"... LAUGHING MY BUTT OFF...... WOW... LOL!!!!!!!!

Sweetie my 2 cents worth say this on the subject;
1. If you are here to date then you made the right choice and it was a good call. The reason is because there is a rational deduction to why he was wearing the "FANNY PACK" and I guarantee you that deductive reasoning is something that would manifest through other interactions.

2. If you were here to just have friends to hang out with then you were too hard on him. You could take him to only low lit places and fill his "FANNY PACK" with drinks, snacks, and paper towels. Think of the movies you could sneak food and drinks into. LOL...

3. If you were here for physical interaction you were too hard on him. Imagine never having to look for a camera, condoms, or lubricant because it was right in front of you.. LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL...

4. If you were here for online chit chatting you were too hard on him. If the man wanted to keep Windex, and cloths in his "FANNY PACK" while he chatted so he could keep his screen clean then why would that bother you because you aren't together..

It sounds like you told him to "PACK HIS FANNY" and he is kicking rocks right now. There is nothing wrong with having a perogative sweetie. I've told attactive women that I wasn't interested because I didn't like their shoes, feet, or the way there fingernails were colored or not done. Am I wrong? Or is it all just perogative. PEROGATIVE... YOUR LIFE YOUR RULES... WINKS.. ON TO THE NEXT FISH... LOL...
 tyegolfsndallas
Joined: 3/10/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How do you start talking to a girl across the room in a bar and not sound dum
Posted: 12/11/2008 7:10:09 AM
White-Cowboy the quickest way to any destination is a straight line, but once at your destination you could discover it's not as wonderful as you thought... Meaning I'd do a little people watching 1st. It simplifies your efforts and can make you bullet proof. Read her body language and see what she is receptive to. For instance when you glance at her is she more receptive to silly things going on and pointing, attire mocking at what people are wearing, straight fun open to savor her night, serious and like the prude of the place, out with her girls just enjoying there company (This one is a NO..NO.. unless you have the gift of conversation), and how is she mingling with the people who possibly have the nerve to approach her before you. Just kicking back to watch you can pretty much sum up a room. Especially if you see her drinking. Just wait until her glass is near empty stroll over before she is done, introduce yourself and comment on your body language read. It's simple but be confident and leave a little mystery to yourself. Your goal is to see her again. Then you can set the record straight. At the bar isn't the time to leave your life's story, it's the time to intrigue her for the opportunity to interact with someone.
 
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