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miss_contemplative

Joined: 3/12/2008

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For the cheaters, what steps have you taken to reform and results? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:02:12 AM
Counselling won't strengthen your resolve. YOU have to do that. All counselling is meant to do is to help you find reasons NOT to cheat and what effects your cheating is having on you and what you want to do about it. Cheating is a decision. Change your mind. If you have no control over your actions, it's a problem. If you are saying that you have no control over yourself when it comes to having affairs, maybe your real problem is that you're a bona fide sex addict. But the recovery for such an addiction is difficult. Most sex addicts lack the resolve to stay sexually "sober." They'll find any excuse they can to cruise or escape reality in their current relationship. I don't know which you are, but reading your post made me think of a boy, not an adult.

miss_contemplative

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Is he cheating or not. Posted: 10/29/2009 7:55:55 AM
Next time , just for effect, walk up to him with printouts of the photos in question and start laughing vehemently, at which point you cup your forehead with a well formed "L" sign and your tongue hanging out the side of your mouth. Then walk away giggling and singing some song with the word loser in it. If confronting them doesn't work, maybe humiliation will. If it were me, I'd be shopping for a new boyfriend.

miss_contemplative

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Best friend was hitting on your spouse. What would you do? Posted: 10/29/2009 7:53:44 AM
I'd just tell my S.O.'s best friend that if he values the testicles in his panties, he'd better lay the hell off. Then I'd let my S.O. know what I think of his very poor selection of 'best friends.' Then again, I'd be concerned about their compatibility and wonder if my S.O. wasn't prone to doing the same thing with his best friend's girl...hmmmm.

miss_contemplative

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HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN? Posted: 10/29/2009 7:22:58 AM
What an ego filled statement when I hear people say something like "She/He will just be devastated when I giver him/her the news that I'm dumping him/her." Some people just assume that being attentive to and loving someone well does not mean you will die without them. LOL! I have often seen this attitude backfire on them. They agonized for so long over how they could be noble about breaking up and in the meantime, the other party really is far more resilient about it than they end up being when they see that they don't have an admirer so eager to love them in the sidelines. To the OP's friend, I would ask what makes him think she can't live without him or furthermore that she actually won't recognize herself as better off without him? There really are a lot of men out there who believe they are the rescuers. In the meantime, it is often them who needed the security of a pseudo-relationship they could feed off of to rescue THEM! Caretaking has the word 'TAKING' in it for a reason. I think she'll be just fine. I've seen most women have major growth spurts after they are dumped by some guy who thought she'd be lost without him. It always makes me smile to see that. Edit: OP, you might want to run by your friend that having relationships with people he feels sorry for is pretty stupid if he wants to avoid painful breakups.

miss_contemplative

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Lost in Translation Posted: 10/27/2009 9:15:34 PM
Bottom line, I screwed up. Ya think? You never get a second chance to make a first impression. You blew it and I suggest you move on. And yeah, you might want to get evaluated while you're at it. What guy in his right mind (obviously doesn't apply here) would have the nerve to talk about some raving murderer who likes to slice and dice human beings to exact his revenge on an ungrateful humanity? Real appropriate fodder for discussion. ::walks away shaking head with disbelief::

miss_contemplative

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question to the girls Posted: 10/27/2009 9:11:26 PM
Being as how most people minimize their shortcomings and being that YOU readily admit that you are a 'little messed in the head', it's a pretty sure bet that you're a raving lunatic and I wouldn't even want you to have my phone number. I'm allergic to nuts.

miss_contemplative

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Is he in to me or what? Posted: 10/27/2009 9:10:14 PM
I leave it up to him whether he calls back or not and I haven't heard from him since. Do you see my dilemma? Yeah, your dilemna is that you don't have a mind of your own. And losers use the psycho tag all the time...avoid them. They are bad news. Surely you can do better than this wingnut?

miss_contemplative

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Do women really like anal? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:57:33 PM
I'm seriously considering buying stock in the "Depends" undergarment industry. Yeah I like anal sex...about as much as having my eyeball stabbed with a screwdriver. Stay the hell away from my ass.

miss_contemplative

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Clitoral vs. Vaginal orgasms Posted: 10/27/2009 7:50:00 PM
Oh God Op, please tell me you aren't falling for these women's stories of how their body works and yours doesn't. Who cares what kind of orgasms they are having? The point is THEY ARE HAVING some. And the vaginal and clitoral are two in the same...they only COME by way of two different methods. There is no evidence to support another hypothesis. Then again some other woman will chirp in that she has amazing , mind blowing, blah blah blah blah blah...and that I can't possibly have a clue what she's talking about because of course, our sexual prowess is always far less stellar than their awesome porn-queeniness. (I'm talking about your girlfriends here) ::rolls eyes and makes puke sign:: OP, all is well. Experiment, play around...different sensations with sex abound. There are no definition of what you should feel. We are all wired differently. Faking any kind of orgasm just diminishes your own pleasure. And who are you trying to please with the facade? Why? The only one getting ripped off there is YOU.

miss_contemplative

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silken fire how do you encapsulate 'like your doing in your post?' Posted: 10/27/2009 7:40:37 PM
There is dressing to look "hot" and there is dressing like a cheap whore. If she was dressing like the latter, I wouldn't gripe her out for it but I would definitely lose respect for my daughter and I would definitely ask her how much she's charging for her services that night and that I require a 40% cut to pay for her laundry, food and every other thing she sponges off me as an adult. She might be 25 but she acts like she's 10. Tell her to grow up. And a business suit will get her farther in life than a damn mini skirt. Her mother is right.

miss_contemplative

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Does Sex Change How you feel ? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:36:39 PM
My opinion? Who gives a rat's ass what men think. They aren't the judge of your life, YOU ARE! I'll fck who I want to fck when I WANT to f*ck him. I really don't care what a dude thinks about it.

miss_contemplative

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Caught between that rock and hard place Posted: 10/27/2009 7:33:17 PM
You aren't from Canada, have nothing good to say about it. Piss, whine and moan that you've been mistreated and focus entirely on how this woman feels about you while completely avoiding your lack of capacity to love her back, but you sure aren't having trouble sharing her goodies now, are ya? I say go. And don't let our Canadian Redneck door hit you in the ass on the way out. You've enjoyed the spoils of this country long enough now. We can do without feeding one other hungry mouth. Racism...lol...give me a break. This IS CANADA! What color is your skin? Green? Ever consider that maybe everyone is against you because you're just not highly likable or possibly a selfish individual? I could see that fitting considering your post you know.

miss_contemplative

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Reading between the lines! Posted: 10/27/2009 7:25:52 PM
What do I think of those people who can't say it like it is? Fearful , cowardly, lack of courage, empty hearted, lacking conviction... And nauseating...I don't have time to "read between their lines."

miss_contemplative

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fall in love too quickly? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:23:38 PM
OP, you're in love when YOU say you are. There really is no outside quantification for it other than your own conclusion. If you believe you are, then you are. If you aren't sure yet, then you likely aren't sure yet. Being in lust and infatuation is easy. It really happens without your consent most of the time. Love however, a whole other puppy. If you want to actively LOVE him today...then that's all that you can do. Being "in love" is something I have yet to understand. You're either loving someone, or you just aren't. There is no 'in' to me. But there most definitely is a 'do.'

miss_contemplative

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Golden Bird Cage (ADVICE, YO!) Posted: 10/24/2009 1:58:27 PM
There will come a day when you would gladly trade in Mr. DAngerous-and-Exciting for Mr. Grampa. Until then, do what you will. You'll talk yourself out of this relationship anyway.

miss_contemplative

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heyy :) i need to know how to get over jealousy Posted: 10/24/2009 1:43:20 PM
You have yourself listed as 'single' on a dating site and you're pissing and whining about some gf talking with other men online? Geezus...

miss_contemplative

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Let me try it again -- Posted: 10/24/2009 1:28:27 PM
Yeah, nothing says 'I love you and want you back' like a dirty pair of panties. OP, successful relationships are often based in solid communication. They don't create "guess what it is I want" non verbals that you have to work with but rather direct and to the point dialogue about what your partner wants. If she wanted to try once again, she could have said so. The same goes for you. I do find there is a significant number of men on these boards who play the passive possum approach to rekindling past loves. Sh*t or get off the pot. Be clear. If you want to try again, say so. And beware of black mold from crusty underwear. ::gag::

miss_contemplative

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 10/23/2009 6:55:58 AM
I'd tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. But that's just me. OP< you are teaching him how to treat you. So far you indicate to him that you're willing to swallow quite a lot for his sake. I predict drama in your future. ::throws disposable crystal ball away::

miss_contemplative

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Internet dating .... the ones you want and the ones you dont Posted: 10/23/2009 6:53:56 AM
Yes, it's called being attracted and excited by emotionally unavailable people. Those aren't sparks. Those are short circuits.

miss_contemplative

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FWB: Mans view vs. a Womans Posted: 10/23/2009 6:50:38 AM
Men I affirm are wired, in deep DNA roots that go all the way back to monkey shit that makes them want to wander, hunt, conquest and then move on. Females on the other hand nest, dig roots and circle wagons to protect. It appears to be a universal trait between the two species regardless of genus. Yet primarily only saw in the mammal/vertrebare species. Not true at all. In fact there are many species of mammals who mate for life and some of the males are very attentive to the young, even more so then the females of the species. I was told by a friend here that it wasn't a fair analogy to say that men are comparable to another species--that you can't compare human beings to birds and so on... And I know many men who are NOT wanderers and very committed to their women.

miss_contemplative

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Opinions and Honesty wanted!!!! Posted: 10/23/2009 6:46:01 AM
I don't see "men" as the problem here. It's obvious that you don't stand your ground when it comes to what kind of treatment you are unwilling to tolerate with a man. And involving your kids in this? Not a good idea. Not a good idea at all! You might want to consider a life coach or some counselling for your damaged boundaries. I wouldn't have taken a man like that back if my life depended on it. That you DID consider taking him back indicates a problem with your resolve. Know what you stand for , otherwise you'll fall for anything.

miss_contemplative

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Dating again after relationship ending Posted: 10/23/2009 6:43:44 AM
My suggestion would be for you to examine why it is you are allowing one human being to define you. Define yourself. When you know who you are, you won't be so easily lead into insecurity about yourself.

miss_contemplative

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Guys/Gals... How true is... Posted: 10/23/2009 6:42:18 AM
I think that generalizations like this one are flawed. While I'm sure there are SOME people who make their mate's selection based on this criteria, I doubt it's the case with everyone. I think we love who we value most. That value is established by personal biases.

miss_contemplative

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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 10/22/2009 10:49:27 PM
I refer myself as able to be interdependent. Independence isn't something I aim for. While I am occasionally one who prefers to do most things on my own, I know when I require help and I know how to ask for it if need be. Sometimes you need to pocket your pride. But I will readily admit that I don't require a man specifically to fill my needs. I'm flexible, versatile and able to adjust my sails in order to get my needs met. It would be a sorry life to have to rely on any one gender for something. That's what community, friends, family is for.

miss_contemplative

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Why.. Posted: 10/22/2009 9:20:01 PM
Just because a guy meets you and isn't attracted to you after all doesn't make him shallow or a jerk. It just means he's not attracted to you.

miss_contemplative

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Kissing cheating? Posted: 10/22/2009 9:18:36 PM
If it's something you wouldn't want your S.O. to know about, it's usually considered cheating.

miss_contemplative

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What do we like about men/women? Posted: 10/22/2009 7:58:22 AM
Sincerity. Men with sincerity. So few with this attractive feature. So many are just so full of shit.

miss_contemplative

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How Do you break up nicely??? Posted: 10/22/2009 7:52:41 AM
How about telling him the truth. That you think he's a great catch and that you lack the assertiveness to tell him you want to do something OtHER than have sex every time you see each other and that because you lack the ability to actually tell a man what you want, that you need to dump him. At least then, he'll know the truth and not some bullsh*t line like , "it's not you, it's me." And we wonder why people don't trust anyone anymore. Duh.

miss_contemplative

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How do you tell her Posted: 10/20/2009 11:06:17 PM
Put some Englebert Humperdink on in the background. That oughta do it.

miss_contemplative

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How can i help him cum??? Posted: 10/20/2009 11:04:38 PM
His whacky weed is making his willy whacky. Tell him to stop whacking his willful willy. Okay that was just widicuwous.

miss_contemplative

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when are standards too high? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:56:23 PM
The only time a guy dumps this "your standards are too high" nonsense is when he's NOT meeting those standards. You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Don't change what is fundamental about yourself in order to please some guy who isn't getting into your "romance zone."

miss_contemplative

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pof chemistry test... Posted: 10/20/2009 10:49:49 PM
I'm not looking for chemistry. I'm looking for electricity.

miss_contemplative

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Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:45:16 PM
^^^That was priceless! I rarely attract what I'll call "knuckle draggers," probably because they lack the intellectual stamina to keep up with my annoying propensity for deep thought. I think for these types of men, an intelligent and witty woman is kind of like a novelty, like a unicycle...really cool to watch someone ride one, but has one hell of a learning curve! To that, I'd ask, what quantifies this intelligence exactly? I mean is it the ability to communicate effectively? Is it how quickly she can grasp things? I still think that intelligence is cool but I suspect that most men are more attracted to a woman who makes him feel lucky to have her in his life. What determines the element of this luck is something HE has to measure, but I think it's more in how you make a guy "feel" as opposed to what you make him "think."

miss_contemplative

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Not to feed your ego... Posted: 10/20/2009 10:32:00 PM
No actually, when I think about this long and hard, I usually come up with something like "oh, the poor schmuck has no idea what he's up against."

miss_contemplative

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Single for a month... Posted: 10/20/2009 10:16:52 PM
Setting yourself up for disaster? Not necessarily. For confusion...absofreakinglutely!

miss_contemplative

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Is this man for real Posted: 10/20/2009 10:12:14 PM
He's being real.

miss_contemplative

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girls like to have fun right Posted: 10/20/2009 10:04:02 PM
Ask her to ask God where her sex drive went. Apparently that's the answer she needs.

miss_contemplative

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How do you fight that... Posted: 10/20/2009 10:02:58 PM
Stop fighting reality. It always wins. Accept it. It's normal. And it's only if you believe that you are inadequate in some way that it actually takes hold of you.

miss_contemplative

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Brown eyed Men? Posted: 10/20/2009 9:57:35 PM
I find most men hard to deal with regardless of eye color.

miss_contemplative

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So I met this girl... Posted: 10/19/2009 12:07:45 PM
Waiting for a female who is in a relationship to come around is like waiting for the previous owner who just got the loan on that car you're looking at to drive it long enough to get tired of it. OP, you're being desperate. Seriously.

miss_contemplative

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Understanding Women, just for fun... Posted: 10/19/2009 12:04:41 PM
Gaahhhhh~:::slams head uncontrollably into keyboard, plastic letters flying everywhere::: If I never see this list again , it'll be too soon. OP, this thing has been circulating for like EVER on the internet. By email, on every forum for singles, heck I think it even made it into a recent newsletter I read! I'm nothing like the women in that list. God help anyone who lives with one who is!

miss_contemplative

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A question about preferences... Posted: 10/19/2009 11:58:38 AM
No worries Polarbear. I have a preference for men who are tall, svelte and have a thick head of dark hair on their heads. See? It's allowed. And you're allowed to be biased against your own race, illogical in your approach to dating and every other inconceivable issue you can cough up around your dating standards.

miss_contemplative

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Please share your dating experience with a doctor or a medical resident. Posted: 10/19/2009 11:54:52 AM
Qlee, what do YOU need? Do you need a boyfriend/date who'll be more available to you? If you do, that's okay. There is no moral issue here. If you don't want to give up, then don't. His job prevents you much access to him. That is a reality you can't change. If you are feeling neglected, then tell him so. Don't tiptoe around the issue. Be direct and get your needs met. Or get them met elsewhere.

miss_contemplative

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A Twist on EXPECTING Sex by the 3 rd date. Would You Date Her/Him ? Posted: 10/19/2009 11:44:30 AM
Didn't you get the memo that "dating" isn't really "dating" anymore? I mean it's not about getting to know someone so much as it's about seeing how "sexually compatible" you are. You know...like a glorified one night stand? Sadly OP, there is a lot of "shit or get off the pot" people in the dating realm. They want someone they can bang and who'll do their laundry and like pronto! LOL I say f*ck it. NOT MY SCENE. Not like this.

miss_contemplative

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what does it mean when a woman says ?????? Posted: 10/19/2009 11:40:33 AM
It means she wants you to take responsibility for her behaviour. " Don't let me lose you..." is like someone saying "remind me to pick up bread" instead of writing it down so that they can take responsibility for what THEY need to remember. Meh...sounds flaky. Maybe she's a "relationship saboteur" and is acknowledging the obvious. That she's hoping you won't be her next victim.

miss_contemplative

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Fear of Date Rape..... Posted: 10/19/2009 11:26:33 AM
If you live in fear, if you live in a state that you will never be able to trust, eventually what you fear will become true. If you learn to trust, if you learn to recognize trust, you will never have to fear. That is also true not just with dealing with men by women, but with dealing with other people. In other words, you have to learn to trust, you have to let go. That does not mean that you are not careful, but it means that you give them the benefit of the doubt. So if you want to hang out with guys, do so. State up front your intentions, meaning you are just hanging out. Then if you have that trust, even if you or that other person get drunk as sh!t it shouldn't be any problem. I disagree with this. Firstly, one doesn't control what OTHERS choose to do. If a man is going to rape you, he's going to attempt to rape you, period. Whether you feared it. Whether you were whistling in the wind with an easy going disposition. That men rape women is a reality we all must face as women. There are certain things you can do to protect yourself but it's even more important to learn how to discern situations where you are improving your odds. For one thing, studies indicate that alcohol/drug usage and rape are very closely linked so avoid settings where your friend will be intoxicated to the point where he is demonstrating bad judgment. Stick to sober moments with guys if you're going to enjoy their companionship. Also, don't give off signals you don't want returned with significant interest. Many women make the mistake of suggesting a great deal of sexual material to the conversations while never having the intention of outright having sex with the guy and he may misconstrue that as meaning that you are highly sexual and would just jump at the chance. I've had this happen a few times, only to realize that my approach was the mistake. I had no idea that talking about sex equated me having to GIVE him sex. Don't fall for "put your money where your mouth is" routines. If he's coming onto you and you haven't given him any signals to do so, get out of the situation immediately. Rapists have a mentality that "if you just give it to me, I wouldn't have to to do this" so listen closely to the things they share and talk about around women. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Get his attitudes around sex and women out in the open so you can see what kind of mindset he brings to the table. If you're not hanging out for sex with him, don't wear provocative clothing (yes yes, I realize we should have a right to but let's get real here) or he'll likely take that as a hint that you want it...you just want him to take the initiative. Initiative in the wrong hands can lead to disaster. KNOW the guy before you put yourself in vulnerable situations with him. Further to this, I've had men on here send me messages asking if I'd like to go for a drive through the country with them and so on without even having exchanged more than a few words. This is absolutely ridiculous and a pretty good indicator that there are some men out there who have absolutely NO idea how dangerous that can be for a female. Some don't even realize that ANY sex without consent is actually rape! If you know the guy well, know his friends/family or acquaintances...know where he works and what kind of life he has outlined , chances are you're in capable hands. If you meet someone who's a total loner, you know nearly nothing about but "SEEMS" nice...don't be a fool. You aren't being responsible. Yes, there are men who rape out there. It has nothing to do with you fearing it. It has nothing to do with you doing something to cause it. It has EVERYTHING to do with mental illness. Rape is a psychotic behaviour. We average approximately 1 psychopath in every 200 persons. And don't let any guy tell you that you NEED to trust. That's bullshit. THIS ISN'T A WOMAN'S F*CKING PROBLEM! THIS IS A MAN'S PROBLEM! And don't expect a man to "get" it if he is making your fear YOUR problem. Don't make women own it...

miss_contemplative

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Woodies vs Moral Ethics Posted: 10/19/2009 11:04:59 AM
I don't see any moral dilemma when it comes to the coat. I don't believe that it's got anything to do with "karmic" debt either. While I'm not a big proponent of farming small animals for fur coats, leather is something that is easily come by and we may as well make use of the cattle we're breeding anyway, too much so in fact. As far as the herbal viagra dilemma...I don't see it as a problem either. It's not like he couldn't get it somewhere else. But in this case, I think it's like lending out medication (even herbal forms must be used with caution) so the moral dilemma I would see here is the fact that she just gave such a high dosage of it for a man to perhaps use indiscriminately. I hate that people think just because something is naturally derived that they can take it in large quantities without consequence. So dangerous. I hope she at least informed him of the potential affect of such a drug?

miss_contemplative

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what do i do Posted: 10/17/2009 5:58:28 PM
You're her father...not a bank roll. Act like one. Father's don't ask strangers if they should still see their kids. Uncommitted fathers do. And talk with your daughter about her stealing from you. That's not cool and you shouldn't let her get away with that without consequence. She looks to you for guidance. Provide it. And the x cheating and the child support doesn't have anything to do with today. Leave it where it belongs. In the past. You had kids with your x wife. Her cheating has nothing to do with your kids. And it doesn't matter that you were a good doobie and paid all your child support. You were supposed to do that. You don't get credit for it. It still doesn't mean you can abandon your children now and that your debt to them is somehow paid off. They aren't credit cards. You don't get to settle out.

miss_contemplative

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I can't understand this woman and her actions HELP!! Posted: 10/17/2009 5:54:10 PM
OP, holy! Relax! You are way over the top with finding someone as evidenced by your last few sentences. She's just a confused woman and she did her magic with you. She's probably trying to play the yoyo game in hopes she can get that emotional tension happen so that you can obsess over her (she succeeded). Are you serious? You aren't trusting women after this flake? What the hell do other women have to do with this wafer? Nothing! Ever think that maybe your reaction to her offensive behaviour is a little over the top? That maybe you are putting way too much expectation on a date? Get some perspective. Pull back a bit. Really take a look at yourself. Fools rush in. You don't trust YOURSELF! And your self is right...it isn't trustworthy when you're putting so much stock in some chick you met in a coffee shop who's whining that you haven't paid her any attention. She crippled? Mute? Deaf? If she was so bent on getting your attention, the damsel could have come over and chatted with you herself. Ya know?

miss_contemplative

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i just want to kiss you.......all night long !!! RIGHT................... Posted: 10/17/2009 5:39:13 PM
Oh for crap sakes, OF COURSE he wants to have sex with you. Do bears shit in the woods? What is with women acting like 2 year olds on here? Come on OP! Get real. What's wrong with having sex if the guy is what you say he is? What if you find him totally bangin'? You won't have sex with him? Why not? The guy is coming home from a 10+ month deployment. What do YOU think is on his mind. You can't be serious about someone when you haven't even met them. You can be serious about actually meeting him though...the rest if just a fantasy in your head. But you never know...he might be a great lay. Or he might have cooties. Careful.

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