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spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 136 (view)

That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal Posted: 10/15/2009 11:27:11 AM
Some people actually want to really get to know someone before they perform so intimate an act. How much money is spent and how much time is spent is irrelevant. People put off their carnal desires just so they can become close friends with someone before they maybe later have sex with them, a precious few even save that for marriage. There are shallow men who expect sex because they spent $50 bucks on a woman and there are good men who truly want to know who she is (n visa versa). Women are surprised sometimes when a guy dumps her because she doesn't put out, she mistakingly thought he was a good guy. The longer we wait to sleep with a man, the clearer his MOTIVES become. What kind of a man are YOU?

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Love or Not Posted: 10/12/2009 1:19:30 PM
you can know you love someone pretty fast... the only thing lacking is time... he just needs to get to know you better, and i bet after he has known you 6 months he will still love you our guts let us know who is good "marriage material" he is just expressing his gut, his heart time will tell, so will his actions and i bet you will be feeling the same way too... just keep hanging out

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Why This Holy Terror of I Love You? Posted: 10/12/2009 1:16:04 PM
somehow the human race can more easily say ugly things to each other rather then nice things--- if i love someone i say it, whether they do or not... i will be honest, open, and real with who i am... if it freaks them out they will get over it, and even like the idea... i'd rather speak good words then mean ones and hope those around me will try the same keep saying " i love you" but only when you really mean it, not as a way to hang up the phone

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 75 (view)

divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/12/2009 1:12:13 PM
how selfish! don't bring children into this type of confusion if you want to sleep with a bunch of people i have a great idea! STAY SINGLE!

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

Firgiving a cheating spouse? Posted: 10/12/2009 12:44:52 PM
Forgiveness does not equate relationship--- You can and should forgive her, but it doesn't mean the relationship has to be restored. There are only 3 reasons the Bible gives for divorce, and adultery is one.. God knows how it destroys trust. Trust can only be rebuilt with 2 people whose motives are right, it doesn't sound like her motives are. I think you should forgive her and give her a set amount of time to move out. That way she can gather the money for a car & apt. Forgiveness is for you...this way you let her go, let God be the judge. God wants you respected, you are not a yo-yo, a door mat, or a sucker.... I understand about your son, this part sucks... I wonder how she feels about what she is doing to him? I think you may be the more caring parent. Put his needs above everyone else's...

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Why are there no hippie chicks on pof? Posted: 10/9/2009 7:33:04 PM
i think many women have a hippie hidden inside... i like being professional, biker, country, hippie, hood, beach, tourist, and suburb... all about the look at that "part" of a woman... the right man brings the many facets of a woman out...

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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A bit of a quandry Posted: 9/11/2009 9:34:37 AM
don't over think the situation. let nature take it's course. the subject will come up eventually and naturally... just enjoy the journey of getting to know someone

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Question for the guys about dating and children Posted: 9/11/2009 9:32:02 AM
I've raised my kids, love kids, but also don't want to be a mom again...I am the kind that takes the role (even if it is 'step-mom') seriously. I know the energy and work and sacrifice that comes with it- I would like to focus on my man and me for once in my life--so I choose to date guys with older kids, shared custody...better yet, no kids. I've seen groups on meetup.com for singles with no kids

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 69 (view)

Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot? Posted: 9/11/2009 8:56:12 AM
It amazes me how so many who respond to these posts, start an immediate investigation on the poster...isn't the goal here to simply exchange advice. Instead of making it a csi investigation and proclaiming judgement on the poster based on pure assumption, take them at their word and give your input... OP... this man is choosing a drug over you, as always an addict will do. Compromising your morals is not the answer. It really sucks because you must have a lot of love between you two in order to marry, so I feel your pain. There is no hurry to divorce, how about just a legal separation? Let him know that if nothing changes within a reasonable amount of time that you will file for divorce. Hug him and kiss him goodbye, but stand firm on your morals. He will respect you for this, probably not now, but in time to come--- and more importantly, you will respect yourself! Good luck Girl

spanishsugarrrr

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Msg: 151 (view)

Why do women fall for players? Posted: 8/27/2009 10:43:07 AM
when a woman is young and lacking confidence a player is attractive because he knows the right things to do n say to give her confidence....as a woman matures and discovers what a REAL man is and experiences a nice guy who is all that, she is turned off by players nice guys finish first with smarter women

spanishsugarrrr

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Msg: 44 (view)

Problems in the bedroom :( Posted: 8/27/2009 10:17:55 AM
windroper...u had kids? great... i bet they are just as ugly and cold hearted as u are

spanishsugarrrr

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Problems in the bedroom :( Posted: 8/27/2009 9:37:53 AM
windroper.... after reading all u write i wonder what the hell any man sees in you--- talk about cold hearted and ugly OP--- you're on the right track... casually talk about your sex drive, don't talk about what he isn't doing...use "I" statements.... 'i need to cum more' , 'i am craving u to make me cum' ' i love it when u do this n that to me'... tell him these things outside the bedroom... no need to be so serious about it either (too much pressure when people r too serious) joke about it, say it and giggle, flirt...it sounds like he may not have any idea how much satisfaction he will get when he SEEs u cum...keep the lights on he sounds like he cares, if he does, he will change when he DISCOVERS what fun it is to make u cum first... it sounds like he just hasn't discovered that

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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are guys scared off by confident women who make the first move? Posted: 8/27/2009 9:24:52 AM
it's in a man's blood to be the aggressor...when a woman makes the moves u leave him nothing to chase--- a turn off--- has nothing to do with confidence or strength i am very strong and confident but i let a man be a man, they love to chase, to conquer-- if i want them, i let them if u see a man u am interested in all u have to do is smile-- if he likes u and has the balls, he will make a move, when u chase down a man, u get the weak & lazy ones

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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No Confidence... Posted: 7/20/2009 3:07:15 AM
focus on making friends only, then love will follow can't feel rejected if ur just friends

spanishsugarrrr

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What kind of single girl are you? Posted: 6/17/2009 8:13:37 AM
the article should have been called " what kind of single NUT girl are you?" none of the above apply

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Bad Dates Resulting in Picked Noses Posted: 6/16/2009 1:17:48 PM
you don't need to tell him during the date that you're interested or not ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER tell him "no" when he asks you out again if he is driving you nuts during the date, then just tell him you are ready to leave thank him for the date and leave! no need to lie or pick ur nose hahhahhaha

spanishsugarrrr

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:14:34 PM
this is God's definition of love.... Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. 1 Corinthians chapter 13

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 62 (view)

Someone please help me.... Posted: 5/21/2009 2:00:20 PM
fyi....men get super gaga at first, he will calm down naturally (just like how we are physically: men are ready "now", women "heat" up) when u are apart...do u MISS HIM? if its no, then break up, if its yes...then its only going to take time for u both to be on the same page

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Someone please help me.... Posted: 5/21/2009 1:55:03 PM
many times both partners are not on the same time table....u can date someone and know within a short amount of time if they are "it", it just takes time to get to know them to confirm your gut feeling he may sense u are "the one" based on what he knows already(his gut too)...the falling IN love together will take a little time if u don't feel the same about him in a couple of months then its time to go no formula to love, follow ur gut when ur head doesn't understand

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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a moral dilemma Posted: 5/21/2009 1:47:55 PM
APPLE PIE: COMEDIANNE!!!

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Catch 22 ( a friend's situation) Posted: 5/21/2009 1:40:34 PM
--she could out of town with him now n then --she could fill her down time with friends --if they are meant to be with each other, they will be satisfied with the time they have now ***bottom line: is there clear commitment from both? if yes and they love each other, don't dump it, LOVE IS HARD TO FIND

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/31/2009 9:14:37 AM
matchlight....sad to say there are very few that still enjoy what we know as real romance....i love being treated like a lady, i don't feel unequal at all!!! ever! and i certainly don't perceive a man who is a gentleman as a chump, he is to be respected and thats because he deserves it

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/31/2009 8:28:54 AM
this isn't about money and this isn't about entitlement! it's about good manners! ....if i invite ANYONE to coffee, dinner, etc, i plan on paying girl i don't blame u for being turned off there are still some great men out there, be a good woman n u will find a good man

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 123 (view)

Help! Is he more than just Cheap? Posted: 3/31/2009 4:14:04 AM
the bible says that where a man puts his money is thats where his heart is a man who is into u--wants to make u smile, he wants to protect u, he wants to experience u, he wants to provide for u.... a man who doesn't care, doesn't if the man doesn't have money but he still likes u, he will either get creative or back off, but he wont continue "splitting the bill" he will appreciate it if u offer, but he probably wont let u pay...i like to just do things (cook, clean, etc) for a man or buy him gifts girl, find a man who REALLY cares

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Moving in, or not moving in Posted: 3/2/2009 12:27:36 AM
u gotta buy this cow to get the milk!!

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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My gf won't even let me touch her down there Posted: 3/2/2009 12:20:46 AM
it sounds like u have met someone rare...a good girl! i think its a good idea she waits...if u are worth it and REALLY care about her u will wait.... and i bet u she is worth the wait if u cant wait and need a girl that gives it up fast, they are a dime a dozen

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/2/2009 12:13:54 AM
i think even tho people meet and truly are loyal to each other, they are kind of addicted to the virtual attention.... i think as the real life relationship grows, the cyber stuff will naturally be boring..... BUT if someone's eye is wandering there is a reason-- and its best that comes out sooner rather then later

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Should I out a friend that cheats? Posted: 3/2/2009 12:06:44 AM
If I was the nice new GF talking about marriage, I would want to know. It sounds like she deserves a much better man, not a boy like your friend. Tell your guy friend to straighten up or you will rat him out. The reason you didn't rat him out before was because your ethics are situational (you didn't care about the other girls). He needs a chance to straighten up, if he doesn't, the new girl needs to know as best as you can put it...he is a loser. I have a similar situation....the guy is my nephew(on my ex's side), the girl one of my best friends...i found out after they broke up how he lies, cheats, and uses... now if she talks about getting back with him, i emphasize the things she has found out---tell her how he isn't good for her (she isn't with him anymore) but if she considered going back with him, I would bring out the bomb and tell her the horrible things he has done and said about and to her. even tho he is family, it's WRONG how he has been and i don't want my friend living a lie. As a side note: Please do consider this your business...it sucks, but in the long run it will be appreciated.

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 1/26/2009 11:53:54 PM
i think your habits (whether she knows them or not) will rub off on her eventually as a mother i think its a bad example, plain and simple to need to alter yourself (by getting high) is simply saying your not satisfied with who you are smoking cigarettes is legal, drinking is legal...i think those are also bad habits. key word BAD HABITS as a mother its not about you anymore, its about the child teach your daughter some GOOD HABITS....she will thank you...trust me (i have 3 grown kids)

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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You call this Dating? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:38:46 PM
let me ask....didn't you see this coming earlier in the date, in your conversations with him online or the phone? sounds like you need to do some more pre-screening, i don't think most men (or women) are so rude.....

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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High maintenance definitions Posted: 1/26/2009 11:14:42 PM
high maintenance man: a man who is always wanting stuff, loves getting gifts, complains about the gifts others give him, when he always wants to do what HE wants to do all the time, when he wants the girl to look, smell, and be the way HE wants her to look, etc, when he wants the world to revolve around him on his time table, desires, etc....... this man is too much effort and he isn't even worth it !

SpanishSugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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No biggie or a tad bit creepy?t Posted: 1/26/2009 10:57:00 PM
I think you are reading way too much into it. He just may not be that suave at "electronic communications"...the guy wanted to see you....I thought you liked him? Seems you would complain no matter what...

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Best way to 'break up', even though it wasnt exclusive Posted: 8/22/2008 8:07:51 AM
go with prettymoons advice...no need to tell the girl that u prefer another woman, ouch! i think she may have the idea already that your "not that into her"...otherwise you would have squeezed in a date, no matter how busy ur a nice guy

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

How do you know when a POF member posts a fake pic? Posted: 8/12/2008 7:22:10 PM
meet the guy, problem solved

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 281 (view)

ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/12/2008 7:06:56 PM
i know exactly why i'm attracted to a certain race: EXPERIENCE i have had good and bad experiences and hence am attracted or not, based on those experiences just like I prefer certain cars, music, colors, smells...these PREFERENCES are developed and change over time based on experience when it comes to dating I will be open, talk to a guy, even go on a date if he's a nice guy...but i've learned that even tho i will give a non preferred race a chance, i still revert back to my original racial preference this is not discrimination, it's PREFERENCE

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Date thought I was taking advantage of him by asking him to get me a pack of gum Posted: 8/12/2008 6:56:51 PM
This ladies and gentlemen is the difference between a GENTLEMAN & a LOSER. I have dated GENTLEMEN who have spent a lot of money for dinner (their choice) and NEVER EXPECTED anything from me other than respect, which they got. One time I went out with a guy who spent $60 on me and he was pissed because I didn't want to kiss him. The reason I didn't want to kiss him was because he said some totally off color sexual remark to me which shocked me. not even an issue of chemistry, it's an issue of manners and class. Girl, learn to choose wisely...there are 2 kinds of men: GENTLEMEN & those that have no training---blame the parents.

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 7/25/2008 3:01:31 PM
girl u did the RIGHT THING! its like showing up in dirty wrinkled clothes, or smelling funny---turn off! you're not being shallow!! being stuck in another fashion decade is a sign of someone who has stopped growing...we change styles as we grow

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Chinese ladies are they scammers?? Posted: 7/24/2008 4:10:31 PM
kissable0325: in defense of "american ice queens" it takes a man with CHARM, CONFIDENCE, AND SKILLS to make any american woman "hot"...we are an intellectual, financial, and emotional challenge...so a man that would make us "HOT" has to rise up to those standards by the way...dude ur not kissable

spanishsugarrrr

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Msg: 70 (view)

Chinese ladies are they scammers?? Posted: 7/24/2008 3:51:30 PM
i'm close friends with 3 asian women....all 3 want big money, and 2 of them have no problem cheating on their husband

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 7/8/2008 7:57:17 AM
I have both sides to me...strong and independent because I have had to be...but I very much like the traditional role of a man taking care of me...him being the protector, provider, the rock..... hard to find that these days unless the guy is much older then me, which i don't prefer all depends where you live...in california...well u can guess what the men are like here

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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males who like to act like slaves for women Posted: 4/23/2008 2:37:25 PM
james ur demented

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

Msg: 261 (view)

y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose Posted: 4/21/2008 5:58:31 PM
in my book........spelling counts!!

spanishsugarrrr

Joined: 3/16/2008

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Dinner With An Old (Female) Friend Posted: 4/21/2008 5:20:52 PM
i think if you ALL meet together all the insecurities will disappear, and ur gf will realize u can be JUST FRIENDS with other women...simply hug on ur woman in front of ur friend, ur woman will feel secure and see ur just friends....case closed if ur gf is still tripping, then maybe she either has 1-cheaters guilt 2-insecurity 3- or a reason to not trust u we women have that 6th sense...we can sense crap, so as long as ur not dishing any crap out, u'll be fine

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