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nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Bf unemployed for 4.5 months... Posted: 1/18/2009 7:24:45 AM
Wow, I have to agree she is most def NOT a gold digger, in this case the point could be made that he is more fitting to the def of a "gold digger" However, as far as finding a solution to the situation, I agree that she should maybe stop paying his bills. I would suggest telling him that is it overwhelming to try and support two people's bills with the one income and you are unable to continue doing so. If you feel bad to stop completly then give him deadline that after which you will no longer pay his bills for him. Possibly he is having a hard time to find the job of his choice but as others have said he could try and find a job that may not be ideal but would help cover the bills until he can find something more suitable. I really wish you the best as this could be a very trying situation.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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How would any group go about Dumbing Down Society ? Posted: 10/5/2008 3:03:33 AM
I would have to agree with the school system being in trouble, two of my cousins just graduated high school and are able to do just basic math and are barely able to read and write!!! Its an absolute tragedy that the school system just keeps passing these kids through....and the parents of these kids are sadly not interested in doing anything to correct the situation

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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how many people u know have bad impressions of people being on sites like theses? Posted: 10/5/2008 2:36:14 AM
I was talking with a friend of mine and I mentioned something I had read on one of the forums and his immediate reaction was "OMG, you are on one of those dating sites!" as if its the equilivant of the KKK or something equally evil, lol!!! I questioned his bad reaction to dating sites and he said something to the effect of all dating sites being full of false people and people who are unable to meet someone in the run of daily life. I find the assumption to be so wrong, although I will admit that this is the only site I really use anymore because some of the others do seem to have fake profiles on them. I also love this site because of the forums, which I honestly use more then browsing thru profiles, etc. I am not sure why some people have such a bad impression of people using dating sites....when you can just as easily met someone with bad intentions at a bar.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Speaking of deal breakers...Do you consider this to be one?? Posted: 9/28/2008 4:50:00 AM
I can understand why you would feel a bit letdown....I would say that in the future if you are looking for a long term relationship then perhaps to hold off on the sex for a bit...or at least try and make it clear what you are looking for.....if however, you are fine with a casual sex experience then you shouldn't necessarily expect a phone call afterwards - if he does call, great, if not, it is what it is - move on. It does seem to hold true, as others have said, that if you have sex too soon, men seem to lose interest and not come back.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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The smell of her perfume Posted: 9/28/2008 4:08:52 AM
I love Eternity Moment...it has a real light clean smell to it, I always seem to get compliments when I wear it. My other favs are Tresor and the new one by Victoria Beckham, cant remember the name of it??? I cant stand the smell of pachulle either, lol!! I was in the convience store a few weeks ago and the clerk must have had a whole bottle on, it was all I could smell from the moment I walked into the store :( agrhhh so strong and overpowering!!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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What if you were warned? Posted: 9/13/2008 5:26:45 AM
Look at how someone treats other people! The guy who laughs and boasts about what he's done to people, or says it's all their fault, is sending you a warning That is excellent advice...thank you :) It can be very hard to try and "warn" someone about a future SO...my friend of many years tried to warn me about my ex...an I did listen but in the end decided to follow my heart instead of my head. It can also backfire on you when you try to "warn" a friend and they will end up resenting you for staining the imagine of the person they are in love with. The poster above I believe said it best...that a good friend might not come to you and say anything BUT if you go to them with suspicions they may be willing to give their opinion then.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/13/2008 5:18:17 AM
i believe it is just human nature if you see someone really attractive to look, men or women....I myself, at times will look and notice if there is an especially pretty woman in the room. I dont feel there is anything wrong with appreciating beauty, however there is a way to do so with respect and tact......and that I feel is where the problems begin

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Sex Scenes... Posted: 9/7/2007 2:51:24 AM
Wow, there are so many, alot of good ones already mentioned here,lol!!! I love "Unfaithful" with Diane Lane, she was so hot in that movie as well as her foreign lover! The movie Gina Gershen (sp) where she played the part of the model who died "Gia" wow, she is insanely hot!!!! I also think Mickey Rourke is sooo hot, any movie with him and a sex scene, lol ;) The last one I can think of is also as mentioned above "Original Sin" because of Angelina Jolie not so much Antonio, lol, but they were pretty sweet together, :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Has your ex re-written history? Posted: 6/14/2007 5:43:23 AM
I have dealt with this issue and find it very strange to tell the truth, when my ex and I split he told his family some pretty outrageous stories. I, myself was not without blame in the ending of the relationship, but I tried to look back and see the things I had done wrong and be fair and not blame all the problems onto him. The most troubling instance of this behavior though, has been with my Mom. In my 8th grade year of school, my Dad and her divorced and it was a very bitter, emotional divorce. He used her terribly and she really went thru hell during that time period, to cope she was drinking too much and going out with random men and bringing them home. The whole situation was really bad, BUT talking about that time now, she totally denies the drinking, the men, the whole thing??? I find it sooo hard to understand this, she acts like I have no memory of these events?? I realize it is a coping mechanism, but I, to this day, have no idea how to respond to my Mom when she talks of that time and tells a whole different senario then what really happened?

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating? Posted: 5/22/2007 5:55:54 AM
I would definetly agree with the poster who said cheating is usually more about the emotional/mental aspect then the physical. There are all different levels to what couples consider cheating, what one does another doesn't, some couples find going to strip clubs fun, some don't mind if their SO goes with/without them....I believe it depends on what you and your partner have set for the ground rules. I, myself, wouldn't mind but everyone has their own boundaries, I would feel it is more cheating if he is online "mentally/emotionally" connecting with a woman, then having fun at a strip club. It is however, what works for each individual couple.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Girl's Favorite Animals? Posted: 2/8/2007 7:50:03 AM
I love animals, seems they have always been a part of my life. Growing up always had Quarter Horses, my Mom and I went to horse shows all over. My Mom raises and shows Australian Shepherds and is the manager at a huge kennel in Bangor, I love dogs, cats, ferrets, etc. I am not crazy about reptiles, don't like snakes and def do not like spiders. I think you can learn alot from the way a person treats animals, can be an insight into their responsibility, compassion, etc.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Is he playing, cruel mind games. Posted: 1/11/2007 1:10:38 AM
First of all, I am sorry you are in this situation, I don't think its worth trying to figure out what he is doing, my intuition would be that something is definetly wrong if he is over there at 4 am in the morning. Even if its all honest and just friends helping each other out, why the h*ll would they bother to call you and tell you about the "new" boyfriend she found, thinking it would be funny!!??!! There is nothing funny about that and it sounds like she is not a very good friend at all if she thinks it is, you are pregnant and need to be happy and healthy and taking care of yourself and the baby not having your friend playing games with your head! I would concentrate on your future with your baby, move on, let him and her play the games together if they want and ignore them. Hopefully he will grow up and be a man about it even if you have no future together and he can be a father to the baby. I wish you all the best and hope all works out for you! Big Hugs

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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How do you know when your Over your ex?............... Posted: 1/5/2007 2:56:05 PM
I believe it takes a long time, different for everyone of course, but for me, its really over when I can be friendly, see them with someone else and not feel mad or hurt, just feel the same as I would to see anyone with a new date. I can honestly say my ex and I have a great friendship now, he has a girlfriend that he has been with for some time and she is truly a sweet girl and I can honestly say that I am really happy for him and mean it, lol!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Quirky things... Posted: 12/28/2006 9:11:33 AM
I have a few things that are quirky....when I do the dishes I have to wipe down the sink with a papertowel after, so there are no water spots....I make lots of lists and like the poster above said, I do not like to have scribbles on the sides of the lists so I will make new ones, I have redone my address books many times because of this, lol! I also start at one side of the grocery store and go up one aisle and down the other in order. When i eat, I do NOT like my foods to touch one another, lol, such as corn, potatoes and steak and gravy, don't like them running into one another on the plate! A friend suggested I get one of those little kid plates that are divided,

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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No Santa Clause Posted: 12/26/2006 1:07:22 PM
funny.....I just watched a show on the History Channel that stated the same thing, that the birth of Christ is thought to be somewhere in the spring. The person who originally came up with the bc and ad calendar went by Roman Emporers and he messed up somewhere along the way,,,,,can't remember the details, lol, will try to find a link :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Bi girls contacting hetro girls Posted: 12/26/2006 1:18:51 AM
I have had a couple of msgs from women but they have all been very polite and understanding, I usually take it as a compliment, especially since a few were very attractive girls ;)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Smoking Commercial Posted: 12/26/2006 1:14:20 AM
You all have pics on your smokes??? We have the surgeon generals warning and thats it...curious as to what the pics are of?? I do agree that it is ridculous that the state/government here has banned smoking in most places including bars and runs campaigns against smoking while at the same time making a fortune from the taxes on them!!! It seems very hypocritical to make a profit off something that they do not support????

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Do you eat things raw, speaking of meats especially? Posted: 12/26/2006 1:03:12 AM
I have had clams raw, also scallops....but thats when I worked on a commercial fishing boat and they were fresh, just pulled out of the water.....but still never red meat raw!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Shootout for love Posted: 12/16/2006 7:36:53 AM
I can't understand why people will lose all sanity over a failed relationship!! There was a couple when I lived in South Carolina, they were both young, early twenties, they had a young child together, anyway, long story short...they split up, he lost it, would sit outside of her apt. and watch for hours on end, she went out with friends one night and when she got home, he was waiting. He followed her inside and locked him and her into the bedroom with the baby, he killed her and then killed himself. Her mother found them the next day, with the poor little baby laying there on the bed crying!!! I have had my heart broken into what seemed a million pieces and have felt so hopeless but at no point did I ever feel like killing myself or anyone else, I wonder what happens to someone's thoughts when they feel this is the only solution???

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Love conquers all Posted: 12/16/2006 7:30:13 AM
I believe that "to love" is a choice and that if you truly love someone you can overcome obstacles together. If you have love, understanding and trust in one another you can work together to solve whatever problems that there may be. I don't think however, that you can just get by with the thought that love conquers all and not be willing to really, really work for it.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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other girl/ hotel Posted: 12/12/2006 2:00:09 PM
Trust is HUGE in a relationship and it takes so long to try and trust someone again once they have violated that bond. I personally would have a problem with it, more because you had already discussed it and asked that he not do that and he went ahead and did it anyway! It can be a very hard decision to make whether or not to try and forgive and move on or throw in the towel and admit that you can not let it go. I wish you the very best with your decision - I know what mine would be :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Help with this girl Posted: 12/12/2006 12:41:55 AM
From what I can gather it sounds like she is definetly making up a lot of excuses, if she wanted to come see you she would find a way and if she wanted to talk on the phone she would. Is she also younger, as you said she still lives at home with her parents? Sounds like way to much indecision, better to give her some space and move on.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Scratching and scratch marks. Posted: 11/29/2006 1:09:02 AM
been guilty of a little scratching before but not to excess, like drawing blood! Sometimes a little pain is good, biting, scratching, etc, makes sex a little more raw/passionate :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Circumcising at 25....Wait!! Posted: 11/29/2006 1:05:26 AM
WOW!!! What a very scary story, thats unbelievable, lmao! OP should be a spokesman on why NOT to have drunken sex, lol!! Glad all is well down below now:)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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is Black Friday a good time to meet somone Posted: 11/24/2006 6:58:46 PM
The manager where I work went shopping at 5 am this morning, she reached down to the very bottom of the rack to pull the last portable DVD player off and when she stood up with it another lady grabbed it from her hands and took off with it!!! It sounds like a bad movie for heaven's sake, lmao!! There is no way I would venture out into the middle of all these crazed shoppers today!!

nikkilynn732005

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what is the deal with lesbians? Posted: 11/24/2006 1:25:57 AM
^^^^^^ Yeah, I gotta tell ya I find that joke to be really lame too!! Glad, I am not the only one:) I think that women with women is more accepted because men are visual, so two attractive women together is appealing to them. Whereas two men together is not because "straight" guys are not attracted (visually or otherwise) to other men. However, this is just my opinion, lol!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Strange noises during nookie Posted: 11/24/2006 1:13:24 AM
Yeah, I am also really curious to know what the noises were??? Myself, I don't think it would bother me too much, UNLESS they were extremely weird noises, barking like a dog, that kind of thing, lol! I actually prefer for guys to express themselves with some sounds compared to guys who make no noise whatsoever, it can be a turn on.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Web cam issue Posted: 10/10/2006 1:01:20 AM
I do have a web cam and will use it if its someone that I am comfortable with and have been corresponding with for a while. I will NOT use it when someone asks right away cause that generally means they are looking for one thing, lol! It really amazes me though, how many men do this same thing, why do they feel its ok to pull out their "little buddy" without asking and before you even know them???? I sometimes think I will NEVER understand how different men and women truly are, lol! I have heard from so many different women who have had this very experience!!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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pheremones Posted: 10/10/2006 12:51:47 AM
I watched a show on the Discovery Channel about scent attracting humans to one another, pretty interesting really. Do you know they actually make perfume that is supposed to have pheremones added to it, lol!! Wonder if it really works??

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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You must be this tall to speed date... Posted: 10/9/2006 1:26:07 AM
Wow, I can't believe that they would do such a thing!! Would seem as though that would certainly open the door for a lawsuit against them, I can understand if they had it set up that you could put what you prefer but not that is is "required" that "only" men be a certain height?!?! I honestly don't understand how that can be legal???? I have never tried the speed dating thing but it does seem like it would be hard to try to get to know someone in that short period of time, but might be fun just to go for a new experience and have a laugh or two:)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Same Guy Posted: 9/10/2006 12:39:38 AM
And now he thinks you are back, lmao!!! ^^^^^^^^ Thats a good one,,,,

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Colourful Relationships-bi with children & more Posted: 8/15/2006 7:27:49 AM
I believe that the children are far better off to grow up in a household that is loving, open and understand and tolerant of others then to be raised in a home of racism, hate, neglect and all the other types of abuse that take place today. I would however, have concerns that it was described as a "revolving door" of other people coming and going, that could be an issue, I don't believe its wise to have the kids seeing all the random people coming in and out, or to expose them to these strangers. As far as alternative lifestyles and children are concerned though, I strongly believe that a child can be raised just as happy/healthy in a home with two homosexual women as a home with a hetro couple.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Does anyone of you have low sex drive ? Posted: 8/10/2006 8:44:51 AM
Wow!!! Three orgasms a day, lol!!! Thats a bit more then I average, lol! OT: I would have to say "nope" don't have a low sex drive, however, I do think alot of it for me is emotional as well as physical. I am much more in touch with my likes/dislikes now that I am more mature and comfortable with myself.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Trust Posted: 8/9/2006 6:17:24 PM
Its funny, I have been told in the past that I have a twinkle in my eyes like I am up to somethin.......and its sooo not true, lol!! You know what they say....the ones who shouldn't be trusted are the quiet, librarian type!!!

nikkilynn732005

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attraction to the voice Posted: 8/7/2006 5:48:22 AM
I was born/raised here in Maine and when I was 27 moved to Charleston, S.C. wow, I sooo LOVE the southern accents!! A guy with a deep voice, talking in that slow southern drawl, very, very sexy!!! Could listen to it all day, I also love deep voices on guys, like the poster above said Vin Diesel, he has a very sexy voice, Love it!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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I keep short circuiting Posted: 8/6/2006 5:49:34 PM
Actually not a bad idea^^^^^^^^^^at least would stop all the blowing fuses and sweating, lol!!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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I keep short circuiting Posted: 8/4/2006 9:02:03 AM
Funny, ^^^^^ I am not much for trying to figure out the wiring either, lol!!! I have been doing the same thing, I just turn off the tv and the little fan and then dry my hair!! So far, this is working well, I have the same problem, after I do my hair I usually do my make up and then get dressed and I hate to get all sweaty, yuck!! I am paying more attention to how much is plugged in and running at once now though :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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I keep short circuiting Posted: 8/2/2006 6:27:26 AM
Funny, mine has been doing the same thing, so I have been taking a little mirror and blow drying my hair in the kitchen now, lol!!!! I didn't realize that hair dryers used so much power, I live in an older apt building so I figured the wiring was screwey!! I will be more careful in the future :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Bizarre Coincidences Posted: 7/19/2006 5:06:13 AM
Wow, really cool story, thanks for sharing!! Makes ya wonder about fate, destiny, that kind of thing?!?! I wonder what the end result would have been if the sea gull had pooped on her head, lol!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Is it wrong? Posted: 7/14/2006 6:30:54 AM
[could someone please tell me what kind of dog is on _Saint's profile pic?] I am not sure, but it kinda looks like a Chow puppy?? OT: I would probaby be a little frustrated if my mate stopped right in the middle of sex to go get something to eat, lmao!! If you were "both" taking a little break thats something different, but not to just stop right in the middle of things, lol, that could be a little odd!!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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I got to ask...Low cut jeans, and Muffin tops Posted: 7/6/2006 5:25:47 AM
^^^^Thanks, lol, as a matter of fact I got it from these forums!! A while ago there was another thread about clothes and one of the girls said that was her rule of thumb and I thought what a good idea!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Dependance? Posted: 7/6/2006 5:15:35 AM
I agree, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be with someone who has their own opinions and likes/dislikes and is willing to voice them. I do think, like was said above, that there is a problem with women who are independent and outspoken being labled as b*itchy or bossy.

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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I got to ask...Low cut jeans, and Muffin tops Posted: 7/6/2006 5:10:31 AM
I work in a store so I see people come in and out all day long and some of the outfits are horrifying, lmao!! Especially now that it is summertime!! I have seen girls with skirts on that are sooo short that their azz is just barely covered, and I mean just barely! Also see the low rise pants all the time with half shirts and the belly hanging over, Although to be fair I see men with outfits that are bad also, lol, shorts with socks pulled waaayyy up to the knees and sandels on!! I have a full length mirror in my bathroom that I always check right before I leave for work and I try to go by the motto that if I am doubtful if it looks allright it probably doesn't, lol!!

nikkilynn732005

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seriously Posted: 7/6/2006 3:50:42 AM
While I agree that drink and driving is a horrible choice to make and it sounds like the OP has made some bad choices in his past, I don't think there is any reason to be calling names?!!? I don't think it is right to judge people this way, it sounds as if the OP realizes he made a terrible decision and holds noone but himself responsible for it, why should he not be given a chance to start over? I hate to see posters on here calling each other names and passing judgement on each other, we have all made mistakes in the past, I don't believe anyone is perfect, so why not try to be a little more openminded and fair!!

nikkilynn732005

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aaaaaaaaaaaagh Posted: 7/4/2006 4:13:54 AM
I have to agree that some people say " I love you " and it means very little to them, and they say it with very little thought to consequences. If he answered you when you wrote to him as another woman, I think that would be enough to tell you that he is not serious. I am sorry for you that you had developed strong feelings for him, but there is another man out there who would be so much more deserving of your love, save it for that person instead of getting your heart broken over someone who is playing games. You deserve better!!! Edit: Sorry, I just realized this is to ask a guy, lol!! Sorry guys, :p

nikkilynn732005

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It's late. What do you grab? Posted: 7/3/2006 11:57:10 AM
Like the poster above said, I also LOVE cereal, lol!! I really like all the sugary kids kinds, so I will have a bowl of cereal or ice cream ;) Nice healthy snack, haha!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Ask A question Posted: 7/2/2006 4:23:10 AM
I think the new categories of "ask a girl/guy" are great!! Love it, thanks admin! Wonderful idea, should be lots of fun :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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What's he doing?! Posted: 7/2/2006 4:15:38 AM
Thats sooo strange, I was really kinda wondering about the "making out with the elbow" thing also????? I also don't believe his excuse that he wasn't awake when he initiated having sex with you. Seems like a very odd relationship and I can't really offer any helpful advice as I am having a hard time trying to figure it all out! But I wish you the best :)

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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PMSing!!!! Posted: 5/24/2006 12:16:38 PM
Its funny some months I get PMS really bad and others not so much. When I do get it though, oh Lord, its soo bad!! I get overly emotional, crying over silly movies, or little things, easily frustrated, edgy feeling, get angry easy, etc. The worst part of it is I realize that I am being unreasonable and yet still feel so angry or upset, which ever it may be, its like not being able to control my emotions, lol! I sometimes wish men could go through it to see that its not just an excuse to act like a b*tch, lol!!

nikkilynn732005

Joined: 7/20/2005

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Phone chat lines...anyone ever done it? Posted: 5/23/2006 4:08:00 AM
I have never used phone chat lines before??? Is this the same thing as the commercials that are on late at night with the women models advertising to "call now"??? I am not sure how it even works, if its over the phone then how do you pick who you want to talk to???

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