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Domestic Violence
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:49:07 AM | I work in a Women's Refuge and I have also been in an abusive relationship, many years ago. (I don't like the label, victim or survivor!!) I have read many of the threads and you have been offered some good advice, on the whole........
It is very early days and don't think that you can run before you can walk.... you are doing really well, but I would say you still have some way to go. On average a woman will leave 7 times before she leaves for good, but she gets a little bit stronger each time.
Domestic Abuse can be so gradual that many people do not realise (entirely) what they have been through until they actually leave, or until they have been in the relationship for a long time......
And with most emotions, they cannot be switched on and off like a light bulb.........A very powerful example would be a child who is abused by a parent: they would not like what is done to them, but they would not stop loving that person!!
It would be simple if it was as cut and dried as some people seem to think. Surround yourself with things and people that make you feel good and that pass the time, because time is the key.
Try to do most things for yourself as this will empower you and that is what you need.
You will become the person you used to be, but as I said earlier, don't try to run before you can walk. Take one day at a time and take advantage of the support that is on offer.
Talk, Talk, Talk and Talk....... And remember that NO ONE has the right to abuse you. YOU deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
If you want to chat - leave me a message and I will be happy to talk to you.
Well done for coming this far and realising that you are worth more than he can offer you. Good luck with the rest of your journey........you will get there......I did. XX | | | |
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