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 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Participation in forum posts showing on profile
Posted: 8/27/2008 2:56:32 PM

what am i the owner of this site? pay my consulting fee and i'll provide solutions

You know this is a free site right. You don't volunteer at the soup kitchen and expect to be paid doing it do you.

The truth is this feature is here to stay, if you have an idea to improve it that doesn't include getting rid of it then share it. Saying "I don't like it, get rid of it or pay me to figure out a better way" is not very constructive. This site is still run out of the guys apartment by himself and works so well because of the helpful suggestions and work by it's user base.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Participation in forum posts showing on profile
Posted: 8/27/2008 2:50:25 PM
From the many, many, MANY, threads about this subject I think the general reasoning for having forum posts on the profile is to

A) Somewhat regulate the forums. Knowing what you post will show up on your dating profile will prevent people from being douchebags.
B) What you post will provide additional insight into what kind of person you are more so than some canned about me

Any arguments against either of those reasons 9 times out of 10 just means you either shouldn't be posting in the forums or shouldn't be trying to date. If you have something to say on the forums either say it or don't, nobody forces your participation. If it's something that you think would turn someone off from your dating profile, think before you speak.


i prefer my page not be cluttered.

Come on that's just weak
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Password is visible... not good
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:45:55 PM
Sounds like a problem with your possibly closet gay friend, not the site
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Current Events
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:57:41 PM

an electric train is traveling 50 miles an hour due north..
the wind is blowing 75 miles an hour south..
which way is the smoke going?


Electric trains don't put off smoke, at least technically it shouldn't but if it did I don't think the direction of the smoke would be your highest concern at the moment
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Vacationing alone, where to go
Posted: 8/15/2008 8:25:21 PM

This is pretty much common sense--you need to ID the places you go, to be of benefit to the OP here.


No, that's fine, it would probably be pretty fun to just drive around the country and figure out what he's talking about. I mean I do have an unlimited time and money budget on this... oh wait, maybe not.

Anyway, I appreciate your suggestions and your attempt to bring this thread back to what I intended it to be shooting star. I'm thinking about email a mod to have the title changed to "Vacationing alone, where to go... on a budget"
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Sessions expiring far too quickly
Posted: 8/14/2008 9:48:03 AM

Amen, brother!!! Would appreciate mailing the instructions for saving then sending.
I'm techno-challenged and need all the help I can get from the younger generation.


If you like typing long messages the easiest way to get around the time out is just open up notepad (or any other word processor software you have for that matter), type your message in there and then copy and paste your whole message into the POF email once you're ready to go. If you don't want to have to deal with your computer remembering your password and enabling cookies and all that fun stuff that is the easiest route to take.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Vacationing alone, where to go
Posted: 8/13/2008 11:11:18 AM
Thanks shootingstarga, I thought about Florida. The reason I was looking out west is because we went down to Florida when I was like 12 and I just remember there being quite a bit of humidity. I really liked the dry heat in Arizona and Vegas but who knows.

How has the humidity been for you guys down there? If it's not as bad as I'm thinking it might not be too bad of an idea.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Vacationing alone, where to go
Posted: 8/9/2008 10:55:36 PM
I like your ideas Mr. Right, a few of those were already on my list to do someday, guess my list just got a little longer . The only problem is I was hoping to find something a little less expensive and a ticket across the Atlantic takes up pretty much that whole budget. And I want to have some vacation time left over for other things, I can see a Europe trip quickly burning away my vacation time for the next two years.

Thanks though for adding a few things to my "someday" list that I had never thought of.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
sex verse personality????
Posted: 8/8/2008 7:03:07 AM
Whats wrong with having both? I would think most guys would like a girl with a decent personality to interact with during those times there is no sex going on. At the same time though it would be nice to have a good intimate connection with someone.

In short, a great personality might be a slightly larger turn on over great sex (as long as he's looking for more than just sex) but in the end the lack of either of them would outweigh however much of a turn on the other is.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Vacationing alone, where to go
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:47:20 AM
Nothing to do with a sense of humor, I just really don't like skiing.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Vacationing alone, where to go
Posted: 8/7/2008 2:35:40 PM
Hate skiing, with a passion, hate it even more than the cold. And my main reasoning was to get away from the cold, going someplace colder just defeats the whole purpose of the trip.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Puppies at stake here.
Posted: 8/7/2008 9:47:39 AM
Well I see this thread has gone well since I last checked.

My opinion, it's obvious both parties involved here are irresponsible pet owners so I say split the cost of an ad to get these things into better homes because it's pretty apparent neither of you need more dogs running around.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Can anyone explain You make me want to be a better person?
Posted: 8/7/2008 7:45:04 AM
It means my high level of douchebaggery needs to go down for you to want to stay with me on a long term basis.

Singles guys have a little more leeway when they make mistakes. Guys in a relationship however have a relationship on the line so to preserve the relationship we'll make an effort to not be as dumb.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
keep being directed to the registration page?
Posted: 8/7/2008 7:39:27 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts7643922.aspx

Message 2, go there you're welcome
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
His Daughter Was in Charge
Posted: 8/7/2008 7:01:03 AM
I don't think the problem lies with the daughter, I think the problem is with him that you have to consider. It seems he is the type of guy that is reliant on someone else to kind of keep his life organized for him. You see it as mini competition, I see it as someone who needs someone to watch over him, which in time could be passed onto you.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How come certain interests are not clickable on a profile?
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:47:54 AM
It depends on how many other people list those same interests. If it's a fairly common one it's searchable, the not so common ones that maybe one or two people have don't get that feature until more people add them. Make sense?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Should we place children First?
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:46:28 PM

T'hose unwanted animal pets can be quite humanely collected, and as with farm animals converted into a wholesome and nutricious mix - all ready for exportation.


So to solve the problem of not having enough money to give to third world countries you're proposing we spend even more money to kill off all the pets and build processing plants to make them into food? Kinda defeats the purpose doesn't it? Not to mention it's pretty disgusting.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Logging on problems
Posted: 8/6/2008 11:30:42 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts7643922.aspx

POF's finest collection of log in problems and what to do about them all in one easy to use thread
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
We need a feature to report posts
Posted: 8/6/2008 10:43:18 AM
There already is, it's the Forum Rules Violation thread. That is why the messages are numbered.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Should we place children First?
Posted: 8/6/2008 9:57:48 AM
If a baby dies from dirty water every 15 seconds I think we should try cleaning the water, not trying to solve it by killing off Fluffy.

And I guarantee I've spent less this month on a pet than you have for your internet connection.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Well, here's something that flies in the face of POF mantra's.....
Posted: 8/6/2008 9:51:54 AM
So 47% of the time this study is 100% accurate right?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
exs and confusion
Posted: 8/6/2008 9:22:18 AM
Any one of those by themselves is a pretty good hint, all together and it's a no brainer. None of the actions you listed are subtle, about the only thing left is for him to start moving his stuff into his apartment, or leave off the "ex" part when he introduces you to people.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
About forum rule violoations
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:54:46 AM
Don't worry I see your point, I just think your view of the deletion process is a little inaccurate. Yes people will report threads for what people may view as petty reasons and yes the mods may delete them without much to go off of simply because they'd never get anything done if they sat and read through every thread. However they have no problems pointing out to people that they are being overly critical in their reporting behavior (read their comments in the Violation reporting thread some time, you'll see).

And obviously with as many users as this site has something that may seem pointless to one person may be important to another. The mods have to use their common sense to decide where that line is and sometimes that means stepping on a few toes in the process.

And like I said, there are other sites out there. The unneccessarily constricting rules are in place for a reason and if you don't agree with them there are sites with less constrictive rules which usually also coincides with a more unpleasant experience on those sites.

If you don't like our mean bully mods or smiley hating old ladies this site is free and I assume you're here voluntarily... right?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
About forum rule violoations
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:27:08 AM

In fact I think I'll report your post as antagonistic and inflamatory just to prove my point.


The only point you're going to prove is that a segment of users on here keep the mods busier than they really should be.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
About forum rule violoations
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:24:22 AM
Well the only thing I have to say on the subject is that yes the mods work their butts off and whatever they're doing (even if some do not agree with how they do it) does work very well.

My only suggestion to you OP is this, if you like the site how about looking past the minor faults and enjoy it for what it is. If that is not enough there are plenty of other sites out there to use instead of this one.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Reporting someone??
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:58:50 PM
From the admin you reported the person to.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
what do guys think is the worse thing a guy can do?
Posted: 7/30/2008 1:52:45 PM
Make her ride her bike home after anal.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Photos
Posted: 7/30/2008 8:21:06 AM
It's not about people being ashamed of being on here, it's about outsiders who have the power to affect our lively hood not having the same opinion as you do about the use of dating sites.

The truth is if they're a teacher you could potentially put your job at risk if enough parents at the school don't hold a very high opinion of online dating. It's the same way with a lot of professions that are in the public eye. People post information on here about themselves that is supposed to stay semi-private, for normal people like us the worse case scenario is our friends find it and rag on us a little about it. Well with someone with a little more recognizable face instead of their friends it's the local newspaper that is asking the questions.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Photos
Posted: 7/30/2008 7:49:34 AM
I'm no POF computer expert here or anything so don't blame me if I'm wrong. I believe you can upload pictures though and choose to not view them on your profile but still be able to send them with your emails.

If you upload an image and go to your image settings there should be a little check box by it that says "show on profile." As long as you don't check that box it's my understanding that the picture stays hidden but still allows you to attach them to an email.

Hope that helps.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why would a guy care how much a girl dated?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:47:24 AM
Sounds like the guys just a little insecure and afraid of having competition, or he's thinking "date" means something else so he'll be expecting some after date action. To be honest though for either reason it's just a dumb question that doesn't need to be asked, the guy should only care about how many you're out on a date with now.

If you're not sure what to say to it just counter with "You look like you use a lot of itch cream, do you?" If he doesn't see the absurdity in asking either question then at least you got a free meal out of it... hopefully.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What is wrong with this guy?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:40:28 AM
He stood you up three times because you answered his call after the first time.

He stood you up so you give him a pass, he does it again and doesn't call for awhile and you still give him a pass. See a pattern here?

The answer is it isn't just him with the problem. It's both of you combined. He's a flake and kind of a douchebag while you let a guy you've never met walk all over you. Ya he could have had the decency to call but you also could have had the common sense to not even take his call after the first time it happened.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Software Upgrade Suggestion
Posted: 7/25/2008 7:54:10 AM
heck according to admin this is just a one man operation
that being said, i guess all departments are him

You didn't know, each department is represented by a different folder on his desktop. I think he even gives them names (like Phyliss for Finance, Jim for advertising)

Sorry back on topic, not bad idea but like Allison said, it's a one man show. Not sure of the programming required but if the work required is outweighed by the benefit it's something that is plausible.

Edit: Another thing to consider is how many people actually use it. I can see a limited number of people actually wanting this feature. If it's only say 1000 out of the 100000 of pof'ers it probably won't happen
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Block parameters are to tight as proven by how many complain
Posted: 7/25/2008 7:26:31 AM
I still don't see why people don't like the email restrictions. If you can't send an email to someone it was them that selected those restrictions not POF. If thats not a big sign that says not interested I don't know what is.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why the heck have the last two threads I've started been deleted?
Posted: 7/24/2008 2:28:57 PM
What were the subjects?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Kids at concerts_your opinion?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:49:20 PM
Like others have said, it depends on the concert. I've seen some pretty bad ones that I wouldn't want my kids to see but I've also seen some pretty good ones.

I guess it should boil down to how many times are you telling your kids don't do what that guy did or don't say what she said. If it's minimal, I guess it would be alright, they'd probably see stuff like that on tv once and awhile anyway. If it's constant though and you start adding things like don't stick your fingers there like he did or don't bite on that then you might want to rethink taking them.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is pof the right pond?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:15:21 PM

Isnt expecting nothing from pof a vary good reason to not put any more effort into it? If a guy shouldn't expect a response, then why send a mail?


Expecting nothing shouldn't amount to not sending mail. By all means send all the mail you want, talk to all the girls you want, just don't expect magical things to happen with each one of those emails or conversations.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is pof the right pond?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:13:13 PM

So what's Your approach to PoF? What do you hope to find on PoF and what are your expectation?


I think someone else already nailed it. You have to come in here and expect nothing. I see too many people come in and get upset because they couldn't find what they expected. The key is you have to be happy with your life as a single person and look at finding someone on here as a bonus, not a necessity. Thats the attitude I take, if something comes along I'm all for it. If it doesn't it doesn't, life will go on no matter what so I might as well make the most of it.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Blocked e mail stating person does not want to talk to you
Posted: 7/24/2008 9:29:54 AM
Mail Settings (To message userxxx you MUST meet the following criteria.)
Age between 23 and 55
Live in United States
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
You must have a picture to contact this user.
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be married


Anyone that has set up these filters has this on the bottom of their profile (varies depending on user). If you got that message you didn't meet at least one of these criteria and in turn you can't message them because you don't fall into the basics of what that person is looking for.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Blocked e mail stating person does not want to talk to you
Posted: 7/24/2008 9:26:35 AM

My attempt at e mailing her was blocked by a message that said she did not want to talk to me, that I was not what she was looking for and go back to my inbox. What is this sort of pre reviewing about? Isn't the entire object of this site to allow the members to say yes or no after they have looked at the possible date? How do you know that I would not fit the requirements?


Users can set up email filters. The most common ones are location (more than 75 miles away), age (users can set whatever parameter they want), looking for status... etc. Since these are set up by the users themselves I'd say they've made the choice themselves pretty well.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
would you consider this special?
Posted: 7/24/2008 7:03:23 AM
I guess it depends on how she feels about it. The way you word it sounds to me like she couldn't stand the wait any longer and you just happened to be the guy she was dating when she finally broke.

If she wanted to give that up to you simply because she thinks you have something between the two of you and not just that she had an itch to scratch then yes I will work harder. Staying a virgin is a huge commitment and for her to sacrifice that shows me she really cares and would make me really want to be with this girl.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
How big is it?
Posted: 7/23/2008 5:57:58 AM
So after you're done doing the dirty do you also ask him, "That was only 45 seconds? It felt so much longer."
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
My info is being posted on CL
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:20:21 PM
You do have a few options but none of them involve pof because this site is just a domain for you to voluntarily put up as much or as little about yourself as you like. If you don't like whats going on, either take it up with craigslist or take your profile down. The only thing POF can do for you is block your profile from everyone else (i.e. delete your profile).
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
PLEASE HELP!
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:01:49 PM

The profile I had just recreated it and it was deleted again. Can someone explain what's going on? I am thinking about taking my profile elsewhere.


You do realize you already have a profile right? 1 profile (loathingspirit) + 1 profile (nice_guy1) = 2. See where they're going with this?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:34:53 AM
I know it sounds harsh but maybe you're not that great. If it's something that is happening repeatedly you might want to look in the mirror and figure out what is that makes these guys think they have better options. Sorry if that sounds mean, I don't mean it to be but that is the most honest answer I can come up with.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Not looking for a married guy.
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:09:52 AM
Not to sound all old and sageish but you must first expect out of yourself what you expect out of others.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Just a question I wanna expand on?
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:36:26 AM
If you want to mess with people the best thing to do if it's just you and another guys is walk to the urinal right next to him and say;

"Hey, thanks for meeting me. Pablo said you were the best of the best. So heres what you gotta do. The target should be leaving his house at 1700 tonight, everything you need to do the job should be in the trunk of your car by the time this conversation ends. Your money will be in the account you gave me when I receive confirmation from my guy on the ground. Anyone asks we never met, got it?"

Then just walk away
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
why was my thread deleted and not this one???
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:56:27 AM
They have a lot of work to do amongst very few people and can't get to deleting everyone's thread (especially if it never gets posted to the Forum Rules Violation Thread). I have no idea what your thread was about or what material it contained so I can't make a judgment really but the truth is they just don't delete threads willy nilly for kicks. If it was deleted it was either voted to be deleted or someone found a reason to report it and the moderator agreed with their reasoning. The example you provided is probably still up because they just haven't had the time to get to it yet (It was put up at 8:30 last night mind you). Give it time and it will be gone as well.

And just because you didn't say anything against the rules doesn't mean someone else didn't. Whole threads with good topics can be deleted for the simple fact that one person can run amuck and ruin it. Who knows what transpired between you posting the question and when you went back to check.

Just move on, if you think it's a worthy question (and are positive it wasn't against forum rules or redundant) post it again and hope for a better outcome.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
The girl or the job?
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:45:52 AM
Well even though the chances are slim of making the relationship work in these situations there is still a chance. I doubt you'll find those same chances when it comes to making the job work if you decide to stay with the girl. A girl you have been dating a year will put forth more of an effort to make it work over a long distance than a business you just got hired at will.
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Suggestion: A Thread Hall of Shame
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:37:55 AM
Sometimes when I'm really bored at work I go through the thread violation thread to look through some of the threads being reported to humor myself a bit. Think we could keep some of the better ones (as long as they don't contain offensive material) in kind of a hall of shame for humor/educational purposes. Maybe title it "This is what not to do in the forums"

Another thing I noticed is that on the Forum Home page when someone posts in the Forum Rules Violation Reporting thread it will show up in as the Last Post with that users name but when you go to the POF Site/Suggestions/Help page it shows up as "Piranha" making the last post (I assume so users can post without other users seeing). Anyway to bring that feature to the home page?
 secret_agent_thing
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Please translate into women's language
Posted: 7/22/2008 8:34:45 AM

"I really really like you, I always have and I would do anything for you"


translation: "I really really like you (He likes you), I always have (He always has) and I would do anything for you (I'll even shave more than once a week to keep you)"

Why can't a guy mean what he says? Stop over analyzing everything. If you love him tell him, maybe he feels the same way, maybe he doesn't but at least you'll both know where you stand. Why the need to play these little word games?
 
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