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bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

when you are ok with being single, why do you waiver sometimes! Posted: 8/31/2009 6:00:20 PM
Its just a moment and it will pass. I think that it comes down to feeling wanted and needed by someone more than your children/child. I've had that feeling and then when I see friends and family members linger in bad marriages or relationships, I come back to the fact that I am single and I am happy and I have shortage of admirers. Its nice to get that hug and hold hands with someone and hopefully have sex whenever you want, but living with someone means you have nowhere to run either. I think for now I like my space, and until the someone really special sweeps me off my feet I'll just be content with my dating lifestyle. HAPPY HUNTING EVERYONE!!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 76 (view)

Is partner swapping ok???????? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:42:33 PM
As long as both you and your partner were in agreement to the swapping then I don't see why it should cause a problem. It takes a lot of trust for couples to swap. And when there's trust, the swapping can be a "fun" thing to engage in, without trust, there's probably on jealous and resentment.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 97 (view)

Girls: do you let a guy cum inside you? Or always with a wrapped tool? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:37:02 PM
Yes, it feels great to have my man cum inside of me... but unless I'm in a serious monogamous relationship and I trust that the man I am with feels the same, then sex will only be with a condom. Its a very intimate feeling when you have skin on skin -- and I tend to save that for very special people.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 75 (view)

Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First Posted: 8/30/2009 3:30:45 PM
My heart is definitely harder to give away... though my body is pretty darn picky too. Neither wants to be tossed aside.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

too cute? wtf lol Posted: 8/30/2009 3:20:30 PM
Maybe its their way of saying "you remind me of my kid brother" cute.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Does it boils down to looks only? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:19:17 PM
Perhaps a pic where you don't look like a "deer-caugh- in-headlights" would get you more replies. I think initially people reply because they find your photo attractive but if the personality doesn't match the looks, then I wouldn't want to meet up with them. Its a whole package deal.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

Why all the Dogs? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:15:49 PM
Sorry, can't help you there. My photos are just of me. :P

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

Would You? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:15:12 PM
She must've been trying to kill time of something -- but that's a little messed up. I certainly wouldn't spend 2 hours on the phone with someone if I didn't think there might be some chemistry.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

What is your POF protocol when you receive a message from a new guy? Posted: 8/30/2009 3:12:39 PM
I look at the profile first The read the message If I don't think that the person messaging me has anything interesting to say, I delete the message... which unfortunately is often as it appears they didn't even read through my profile. BIG NO-NO!! Sorry.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

If you started with no strings attached, is it possible to move into something more serious? ROP... Posted: 8/29/2009 7:17:36 PM
I don't know if I agree with the above post. I think he messaged me in the first place because he was interested in a relationship and I wasn't. I'm not unhappy at all by what we have now. I just don't want to lose it if we get more serious, I'm just not sure if its possible or if its something he wants.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

If you started with no strings attached, is it possible to move into something more serious? ROP... Posted: 8/29/2009 7:13:43 PM
I think that its probably going to be a bit difficult to bring up the topic, but I suppose if it is a NSA or FWB relationship, then sooner or later when he decides he wants a gf -- if I' m not that gf that he wants, then I will be on the losing end either way. :( As much as I would hate to lose him, I will have a heart to heart with him and see what happens. I mean, he found me on here and he obviously read my profile and liked it.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

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If you started with no strings attached, is it possible to move into something more serious? ROP... Posted: 8/29/2009 6:36:39 PM
The only way to find out is to tell the guy that you're looking for a real relationship now. So the FB stuff is over. If he wants to have a relationship with you, he'll pick up the ball. If he doesn't.....well, you were going to have to have this talk anyway once you did meet someone. Part of me wants to have that talk... but I also don't want to lose what we have now in case he doesn't want something more serious. What if I ask him and he bails?

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

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If you started with no strings attached, is it possible to move into something more serious? ROP... Posted: 8/29/2009 6:32:53 PM
It was me, I initiated this situation -- I'm a single mom, I didn't think that I could devote time to a guy other than to have a booty call here and there. But now I'm having a shift in that attitude. Whenever we're together, we both enjoy each other's company and its not just the sex. We can hang out and laugh and not have those awkward silences. He's got a great personality and I'd like to think that mine is pretty upbeat also. He lives at his parents' house right now but last weekend he said something about once he found a place of his own that he liked to have a girlfriend... but I couldn't tell if he was trying to say I would/could be the girlfriend or if I'd be out the door so he could get a girlfriend. Was I to try and read between the lines? Or was he fishing to see what I would say?

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

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If you started with no strings attached, is it possible to move into something more serious? ROP... Posted: 8/29/2009 6:19:31 PM
And how would you know if the guy wants something more. Are their hints? I just don't want to lose what I have with this person, but I'm also looking for something a little more than just booty call now. Am I out of luck? Please help me out guys.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 186 (view)

single mom body issues Posted: 7/23/2009 4:37:44 PM
I feel a little better about myself after reading some of the comments from this post. I too have my battle scars after gaining a hefty 70lbs and having my daughter... and 4 1/2 years later, I still have my stretch marks (which I describe as being scratched by a bear) and c-section scar which looks like a wide "grin". They won't go away and that's just something I have to live with. Thanks to having a good diet and doing my daily pilates, I have been able to lose all the weight... however, I still find myself wearing my Spanx at least twice a week to "hold in" the bulges that still stick out from the "loose" skin. Oh well, the reward I got for those "scars" were well worth it. LOL. Luckily the few people that I have chosen to date over the past 2 years have been understanding of my scars and stretch marks and I still feel pretty good about myself and I still think that I look pretty hot -- naked and with clothes. ;)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

F*ckers vs. Lovers Posted: 7/19/2009 9:27:44 PM
That's why I would need two men in my life... one for love making and one for pure f*cking! LOL.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 162 (view)

WER'S DA MOS FREAKY PLACE U'V EVA HAD SEX???????? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:25:38 PM
On top of a mountain in Arizona at the break of dawn. Now only was it amazing, but it was unforgettable!!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 117 (view)

why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:21:53 PM
You obviously haven't met the right "pretty" woman.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 236 (view)

Women That Wear Thongs... Posted: 7/19/2009 9:19:30 PM
Pantylines are never sexy... but that said, I do wear more fullbacks than I do thongs. Its the comfort. Besides, if you buy the right FB's, you can still avoid the pantylines. :)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

what makes women feel insecure about themselves? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:15:40 PM
I don't like my stretch marks... but I have learned to live with them and even let others see them. One lover called them "love tracks" -- which I thought was very sweet.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

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what do you feel is the most UNATTRACTIVE piercing commonly done today? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:13:27 PM
I don't like nipple piercings on men or women... and I've seen quite a few on men I've dated -- ew, yuck!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

Wicked Night Club In Toronto! Has anyone been there? Posted: 6/29/2009 4:06:17 PM
This thread is a bit old so I thought I might revive it... has anyone been there recently and would like to share their experience or opinion about that place?

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 776 (view)

Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT? Posted: 6/20/2009 8:03:39 PM
When I'm in a relationship, I am true to my man. Even when I am not looking for something serious, I only need one FWB. I'm terrible at lying and I'm sure I would have trouble keeping my stories straight if I had to juggle more than one man -- so the answer to your question is YES, there are women out there who DO NOT cheat.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 217 (view)

Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 6/17/2009 7:53:21 PM
I don't have that problem... I'm only looking for someone who's wants to pleasure me at my calling, not looking for anything serious... and doesn't mind being my booty call. LOL. Good looking, white and in the city is preferred. Please apply within. ;)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 86 (view)

Group Sex Posted: 6/17/2009 7:49:15 PM
Jealousy can definitely come into play... and hence the next time around, it will have to be with people who I am not "in love" with. I find most asian women generally attractive and I like my men "white". I've been in 3-somes with 2 men and me and also another man and woman and me. If you like the man, there will be tension when he's with the other girl, its natural. It was fun, very naughty and something I don't mind trying again... but next time, I would rather do it with a FWB and another couple so there's a 4-some and no one gets left out and there's no jealous streak. :D

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 78 (view)

long trips , car sex ,, and road head Posted: 6/17/2009 7:42:25 PM
I gave roadhead once to my bf and we got pulled over for "speeding"... we pulled over as I put my shirt back on and he zipped up his fly. We both had a good laugh... and we luckily got out of that ticket... I think because I left my shirt open "by mistake". HAHAHA. Those were the days. When I'm really into someone... I want it all the time -- doesn't matter where we are or who sees us. :) i don't mind flashing the truckers. :P

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 86 (view)

good kiss / bad kiss Posted: 6/17/2009 7:38:57 PM
A good kiss will make you melt... a bad kiss will make you want to stop kissing NOW!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 53 (view)

Ladies, your honest to goodness answer would be nice Posted: 6/17/2009 7:37:44 PM
Size does matter to a certain degree... but what really matters is what you do with what you have. Its a whole package... I rather a good looking guy with a smaller package than a not attractive guy who's well hung. HONEST.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Stories of how you got a FWB Posted: 6/17/2009 7:31:01 PM
Its not that hard to find a FWB as long as you're both looking for the same thing and you're honest about it. :) Finding one on POF is an idea... though I wouldn't openly state such as an opening line... I think it would be a turn off. However, once you get to know someone, if you're both looking for "not serious and NSA" then hey, get to know them, and voila, you have your FWB if you have sexual chemistry. Its certainly nice to have someone to kiss and hold on those lonely nights. ;)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

Making love or having sex? Posted: 6/17/2009 7:23:42 PM
I much rather make love... but that doesn't mean that I have to be in love. Having sex... just seems a bit impersonal to me.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

How Important is Sex in a Relationship???? Posted: 5/23/2009 10:32:22 PM
Like my license plate says... XTREMELY!! LOL.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 310 (view)

How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed? Posted: 4/9/2009 8:09:18 PM
You don't... but do make suggestions. ;)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 268 (view)

Do women want men to lie, or to be upfront about wanting sex? Posted: 4/9/2009 7:48:07 PM
Tell me you want to rip my clothes off!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Ladies...when do you expect sex. Posted: 4/9/2009 7:43:08 PM
Whenever I want it!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

How open are you REALLY to discuss why you're still single? Posted: 4/9/2009 7:39:36 PM
I'm very open about why I'm single. I have yet to meet the man who will sweep me off my feet. And yes, I am very happy right now and guess what?!? I'M SINGLE! Don't you envy that?

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Confused..... Posted: 4/9/2009 7:35:43 PM
I think what he really meant to say was that to stay in the relationship they just need to have their own space -- and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I love my own space... on second thought, sometimes I would like someone to invade that space but no such luck. LOL.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 46 (view)

Where did you meet your sexiest one night stand? Posted: 3/15/2009 12:01:20 AM
Whiskey Saigon in Toronto. Does it still exist? I have no clue.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 367 (view)

Do women really get wet panties without getting physical? Posted: 3/14/2009 11:58:47 PM
Yes, it happens... come meet me and see if you bring on that reaction. :) I dare you.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Is it true that women prefer a guy who already has lots of sexual experience? Posted: 3/14/2009 11:43:44 PM
Truth... yes, I'd like a man who knows how to please me without needing explicit directions.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 135 (view)

Do women understand what a Posted: 3/14/2009 11:39:05 PM
Yep, porn without the camera or paycheque -- wouldn't that be great!! But please make sure the guys are just as fit and attractive and can last more than just 5 minutes. For me to really get into it, I have to have eye candy. :)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 213 (view)

50+ Partners Posted: 3/14/2009 11:33:24 PM
If he truly loves her... a number is not something that I think should cause a break up. People change. Who we are when we are in our teens or in our early 20's is nothing like the person that we are as we mature. Trust me, 5-10 years can do a lot to you -- you grow up, learn to love unconditionally and respect yourself and your body. Your body is yours -- OWN IT!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 283 (view)

Are women afraid of Attractive guys? Posted: 3/14/2009 11:30:04 PM
Not at all... are men afraid of attractive women?

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 180 (view)

Wearing Lingerie for no reason but to feel great for yourself! Posted: 3/14/2009 11:28:28 PM
LOVE IT!! I have an entire drawer dedicated to my sexy lingerie. I especially love satiny corsets and bustiers. :)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 890 (view)

yes or no? Friends with benefits! Posted: 3/14/2009 11:15:10 PM
Sex is never meaningless regardless of whether there are strings or not. In fact, there are days when I wished I could find a FWB. Anyone want to apply? ;) Must be young, attractive and have a great sense of humour!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 164 (view)

Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right.... Posted: 3/14/2009 11:12:11 PM
I think your first mistake was not letting him know that you were annoyed at the fact that he was late 3 times. Perhaps he thought your silence meant it was ok to be late. As for the cell phone call... that's just downright RUDE!! I'd be like "TALK TO YOU NEVER LOSER!" :)

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 1487 (view)

so, why are you still single? Posted: 3/14/2009 11:07:43 PM
If I knew why I was still single, I wouldn't be here! AND NEITHER WOULD YOU!

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 213 (view)

WHY DO MEN WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU, BUT NOT DATE YOU? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:43:49 PM
This isn't a relationship my dear. This is a booty call. If that's what you want, then keep "seeing" him, but if you want something a little more meaningful, then I suggest you look elsewhere. Maybe you're not considered "dating" material for him. Sorry.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 155 (view)

Am I just a booty call????? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:37:53 PM
Where can I find one of those men? jk. Sadly, yes, you are just a booty call for him. But he probably doesn't want you to think that since he will converse and watch tv with you. He's got it pretty good. He doesn't even have to clean his own place because he just comes to your place, eat your food, use your cable and you have to do the laundry for the sheets. If you're starting to have feelings for this guy, find out his true intentions. You deserve to know don't you think? And if all he wants is sex, then you have to decide if you're happy just being his f_ck buddy. :( The ocean is vast, just cast your fishing pole out and test your luck.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

Would you give this person another shot??? Posted: 1/30/2009 12:02:44 PM
I think that people can change... but before you really give her another chance, go out with her and get a feel for the situation. IMO, I think that once someone is capable of hurting someone they supposedly love, its pretty much unforgivable. Its not to say you can't be friends but I probably wouldn't make this person someone important in my life.

bebe_doll

Joined: 3/20/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Should I ask out a best friend? Posted: 1/29/2009 5:33:00 PM
I just wouldn't go there. If you think that your friendship is worth risking, then go for it... however, if she's already made it clear that she isn't looking for the same thing you are, why waste both your time? My best friend and I have been close for 17-18 years -- I would never risk that friendship for something that may or may not work. I love him to death, and that's why I would never cross that invisible line. I would be devastated if I ever lost him as a friend. We can spend any amount of time with each other and not leave feeling "weird" if you know what I mean.

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