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 Author Thread: Drama?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Drama?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:23:48 PM
Drama stems from people who would rather make a big deal of a small grievance, never forget that time when you were 20 mins late, seems never to be happy with how you are but what you could be.
Drama Queens is someone who seeks conflict, easily offended, never wrong etc.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Meeting guys in person
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:15:53 PM
A smile can go a long way and more often than not evoke thoughts of you. However on the street a smile is a smile, its a kindness and in most cases will lead to nothing more then a return smile so there's nothing to be shy about. In a bar a smile can be more inviting. If you enjoy the feeling you get when you smile at an attractive stranger take a step further and ask for the time while blatantly sporting your on watch in clear sight.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
do guys like athletic women?
Posted: 8/8/2009 10:17:49 PM
Huge turnon, however like a few said above, it's a bit much if they can bench press you ro are generally stronger. I mean who wouldn't love a chick who will participate actively, its like you watch a chick flick and she has a game of tennis with you or kicks around a ball without resenting it.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should I Give him a Second Chance?
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:29:07 AM
Don't over dramatise things. You are not in a steady relationship 8 days in the month...minimal really. As someone above said, "life happens", take it with a grain of salt realise that he is still showing interest in you and if and only if he does something horrible leave him. Being sick after a wedding is not horrible just to clarify.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Bad phrases
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:14:39 PM
I've noticed bad reference to certain phrases lately on the forums some of which include, "down to earth" or "relaxed" etc. For me "down to earth" means a calm person not prone to frantic brain spasms or stupid compulsive behaviour, rather a thinker, aware etc.
So the question is, what are the impressions you women get from phrases like these two examples? Good or bad? What is one not so obvious example of a phrase you women might look for?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What is so hot about Goth/Alternative Girls?
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:02:33 PM
Hi, I don't think Abby is hot. As for your question perhaps its the persona you play with the costume. Personality and natural good looks are what makes it for me, clothes come and go.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
what do guys have against tomboys?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:43:21 PM
Note that the guys posting here who like tomboys are all significantly older than you. Teens and early 20s are still very instinctual. You'll be set if you go for an older guy though.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:34:23 PM
Personally I can't answer this question. Why am I posting? For some, interracial relations might be an accomplishment like dating an older woman etc. For others its simply a racial preference whether its racist or just preference that's life.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
what do guys have against tomboys?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:29:13 PM
It's instinct for the masculine to be attracted to the feminine. When you are a tomboy you are essentially lessening your feminine appeal and therefore a lot of guys will be less attracted. For initial attraction a tomboy is always going to get the short end of the stick, that's life. If you can get a connection going on then you have a chance.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Australian PoF Events
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:20:07 PM
I'm just curious and I'm not sure just how many Australian female forum goers are on here...but I have a preconception that PoF events are usually overlooked by the under 30 crowd (I'm probably wrong), for that matter are there even that many events in Australia and what are the turnouts like?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Sort of expected reply, how do I answer it?
Posted: 7/13/2009 5:50:24 PM
Imperialpilot, I'm sure everyone knows what a playful insult is, however no one mentioned it as there is no playful insult evident. Secondly playful insults are not an opener they come after a connection has been made. As for instinct it should have told him not to write that in the first place, so I wouldn't rely on it too much. Lastly what are you going to say insulting to a modelling photo...your left eyebrow is higher! OH MY GOD! I don't like your swimsuit it stinks...Oh nooo how terrible.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Sort of expected reply, how do I answer it?
Posted: 7/13/2009 5:30:46 PM
OP, I saw your post and to be honest it boggles my mind. I am a logical person and I can't wrap my head around that kind of idiocy. Please never post that kind of rubbish again so I can avoid the stress associated with trying to comprehend it.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Should I change my looks to get a date?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:53:53 PM
Cause long hair and facial hair make a person...Get real you don't have to change your personality just cause you clean yourself up a bit. Smarten up but keep the personality, nothing false there.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is this a good first date Idea?
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:14:11 AM
Terrible idea and lol your main pic looks like your wearing a tank top. I had to look closely.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:09:15 PM
OP this guy is what us guys often refer to some women as "damaged goods". Its quite selfish for him to be trying for another relationship when his previous is obviously still affecting him. Without going into any detail let me say I am familiar with this type of situation and the only advice I can give you, although there are no guarantees, is do not go for a guy less then 2 years out of a marriage or very serious relationship.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
do women in there 30's just come on stronger naturally?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:37:52 PM
If I wanted a partner in their 30's or 40's I'd be set, seriously I get way more attention from them than the younger bunch lol. That being said personally I'd have to say yes older women come on stronger as they are in most cases much clearer on what they want and have sieved out all the tactics with high fail rates.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Why do guys pick fights?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:28:16 PM
It could be one of many things;
1) Your vibe is irritating
2) You look like a **** and tough guys think they could take you
3) You have the kind of face people want to pound instinctively. I knew someone like that, needless to say it was a good idea he learnt to box.
4) You have one prick of a lookalike
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:18:00 PM
Intimate encounter carries a certain stigma that no doubt they don't want to be labeled with. They want the benefits without the title. Other reasons could include that intimate encounter is generally going to get bombarded with sleazy emails, so by not advertising it so obviously they hope to find a good guy to fool around with. Selfish to the guys looking for a proper relationship but this is a dating site, people cut corners.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:34:11 PM
If you want another date, ask for one, if she initiated the first one then you should DEFINITELY initiate the second one. Are you interested or not?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:21:22 PM
I found the best way to deal with women is just be straightforward. Let them do the hinting and you do the action. Guys who just lay down a carpet of hints often hint their way right out of contention. Say, "I really enjoyed your company and would like to take you on another date, next Saturday 7pm sound good?"
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
'Quality' of messages?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:12:21 PM

This site maybe called plenty of fish, but it's not like real fishing you know different women respond to different types of bait.

I beg to differ, different fish take different bait its not like every fish will go for a prawn on the end of a hook
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:04:26 PM
Up to you OP, if they don't read your first message and haven't looked at your profile, message them till they tell you to
a) Piss off
b) Take them on a date
If they either read and/or look at your profile and you dont get a response move on. Otherwise it can't really be called suspect behavior if they don't respond in some form haha.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What do guys believe impresses a woman?
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:25:13 PM
On a dating site what will impress a woman? Hmm inthis order,
1. Photo
2. Independence
3. Intelligence (3 or 4 can be swapped depending on the intelligence of the woman)
4. Car
5. Personality/humour
Some of you will deny it but don't bother the vast majority will follow this order.
Offline I'd say
1. Looks
2. Personality
3. Finances
and then the rest.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
why the hell am i being shy .its her
Posted: 6/5/2009 7:27:48 PM
This is probably the easiest setting to approach a woman, practical free of reprisal, if your having trouble now.......................
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Whats the deal, texting verses talking?
Posted: 6/5/2009 7:13:02 PM
Speak to him about it. Why do people overlook the most simple of solutions. Explain that its not easy for you to text and you like talking to him much better. A good relationship should have good communication right? Good practise right here.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What attracts you to our profiles the most?
Posted: 6/4/2009 11:43:46 PM
1. Photo
2. Intelligence
3. Interests
4. Values
5. Healthy lifestyle
6. Sense of humour
7. Independence
8. Age
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Never viewed your profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 5:45:22 PM
I guarantee the majority of women will be browsing in ninja mode, hell I even do it sometimes when I don't want to give the wrong impression. I often find myself accidentally double viewing a profile I've put in my not interested pile because their pic changed and I don't want them getting the wrong idea just cause I viewed their profile more than once.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Pick up lines these days??
Posted: 6/4/2009 12:38:39 AM
You might say something along the lines of, "I play this online game and your pants look EXACTLY like the ones on my character, want to dance for me?"
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 12:34:04 AM
Alternatively, "You look like the kind of girl who might like (blah blah blah), I'd love to know what else your into" etc. When in doubt make shit up.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Picture Ratings
Posted: 6/3/2009 3:33:44 PM
I'm not a chick but here's my spin on things. Your pictures are cool in that they look kinda arty. However they also make you look almost 10 years older than you are (hence the older appreciation), that and you don't have a clear facial pic without glasses. I'll go out on a limb and say the younger crowd appreciate a brighter, clear and more active photo.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
I actually met a nice a guym I might have screwed it up!
Posted: 6/2/2009 11:35:29 PM
Sounds like your a naturally flirtatious girl. Nothing wrong with that, keep it strong, its you. However really engage him, tell him about your life, your experiences, your ambitions etc. A lot of guys have said he's gay if he doesn't jump into bed with you but it just sounds like they'll take what they can get. The truth is at the end of the day sex is just sex is just sex, when you bring a real connection to the equation it's really worth it on all levels. Quality over quantity right?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Which one is best preferred
Posted: 6/2/2009 11:27:08 PM
If I remember correctly you like your anime, flip that over to hentai and reenact some of the crazy stuff I'm sure you'll find there and your guy will be fine with it haha. In all seriousness though most guys will like a woman who knows what she wants and some will have that massive ego that means they have to be in control but at the end of the day it all comes down to how close you and your partner are. Women by nature are intuitive I'm sure you already know the answer=)
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Possible wrong assumption
Posted: 6/1/2009 10:29:14 PM
Uhhg I won't lower myself to your level Abby after this message. You obviously lack a logical mind among other things that and the fact that you do not understand the definition of a contradiction (if you did you would not have posted what you did). Sorry to the others for my lack of tolerance to those few unintelligent posts.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Possible wrong assumption
Posted: 6/1/2009 10:18:49 PM
I really dislike stupid and immature people *points at Abby*. I'll have to explain it simply so you might be able to grasp this simple concept.
I specifically did not provide the assumption because I didn't want to give anyone a preconceived idea of the assumption in question. If no one came up with the assumption on my mind then I would know its not a problem.
I thought people might assume that it was a pic with random girls which on dating sites is a big nono.
Thanks to the people who actually gave me a proper answer btw. Its appreciated and so far my assumption is unwarranted.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Possible wrong assumption
Posted: 6/1/2009 10:03:45 PM
Maybe the first two of you could follow up with my request before saying unintelligent and redundant comments thanks (not you kara=P). I don't need a profile review, its not how I look, I don't need extra attention it was a straightforward question directed at the women to one small aspect of my profile that might be taken the wrong way. Hide that you viewed me for all I care just answer my question with something useful.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Possible wrong assumption
Posted: 6/1/2009 9:56:58 PM
I've been wondering this for a while and don't know why I didn't think to ask here sooner.
My third picture makes it easy to assume something, if you ladies could take a look and give me your honest assumption before you actually read the text that goes with it and I'll see if I was right.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Would you (ladies) agree that this site is female oriented?
Posted: 5/27/2009 2:41:30 PM
You are talking nonsense. Do women have additional features on this site that men don't? No. Maybe you are referring your past experiences to sites like RSVP where you have to pay for contact in which case you also missed the part where both sexes have to pay to initiate contact. Apart from sites specifically tailored for one gender like sugardaddies it all comes down to one thing only and that is WHO makes contact. Furthermore I guarantee that men in general on this site send many times more messages then the women, so once again what are you blabbering about?
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Why cant undertand NO on the BFF
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:56:33 PM
Why can't you understand the need to explain it to her clearly? You had no problem writing it here, if your balls can't talk, get them to write her a letter.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Nice and slow...
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:52:57 PM
LOL! That is all.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Subjective/Objective
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:20:56 PM
I don't really think "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is an accurate quote. It would be more appropriate to say, attraction is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure the majority of men and women can appreciate beauty on both sides of the fence, doesn't mean they are attracted.
So in that sense, yes there are people who are universally good looking. As for my friends if they didn't approve who cares, I'm dating her not them.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:07:20 PM
Before you charge him for the night.

Agree with the others about being up front. There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship and being an escort at the same time after all its great money. There is however something wrong with sleeping with other people while committed, so if your that type of escort he will prob get rid of you unless he gets off on that type of thing.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
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What do girls think about guys who watch anime?
Posted: 5/25/2009 10:09:00 PM
Nothing wrong with anime OP, just like there's nothing wrong with Grey's anatomy. Doesn't mean you'll catch me dead watching Grey's anatomy lol but each to their own, some people won't mind it and some will.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
There's no such thing as free sex, right?
Posted: 5/22/2009 11:03:14 PM
Sounds to me like your just not getting what you want easy. There is free sex for attractive people. If you want free free free absolutely free sex go find some chick so drunk she cant see properly.
Oh and also you say
<div class='quote'>But with women, it seems like it's *never* just for the sake of sex itself.\
For men also it's *never* just for the sake of sex itself, do you go around jumping on the fugliest chick around? No because girls are "paying" you with their looks.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Things you ABSOLUTELY DON'T do on a first date.
Posted: 5/22/2009 9:07:27 PM
Hahahaha some very amusing replies! Chill Pill no. 7 classic lol
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Things you ABSOLUTELY DON'T do on a first date.
Posted: 5/22/2009 5:09:27 PM
Title says it all. Obviously everyone has a different line to cross but I'm curious for some personal opinions. Surely there are several that cross the line for everyone.
For example
-Rocking up with a friend to your date I would have to say is a massive nono.
-Asking if you could order a bit of extra food so you can take it home.
-"I left my wallet at home"
-Smelling like you haven't seen water or soap in the last year.
-Launching a surprise food fight
-Demanding payment for wasting your time.
and so on.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Whats Going On?
Posted: 5/22/2009 4:58:22 PM

The thing is he doesn't like me being on internet dating sites either.

Riiiiggggggghhhhttt. So let me get this straight...You both have a good connection, you enjoy time together...
Here's the thing, you found someone you like yet your still on here. That's pretty much like saying; "I like you but I'm too scared of commitment, but I like attention so I'll stay on this dating site so I can gather as many men to be scared of commitment with for no apparent reason". And you wonder why he doesn't like it...
Get over yourself, your effectively ending anything good before it can start.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
why women think they should be chase
Posted: 5/21/2009 6:13:47 PM
One problem is anyone can say they are an honest moral person. Another problem is like it or not internet dating is highly visual so regardless of whether you are really honest, moral or whatever if they don't like the look of you chances are you aren't getting contacted.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
How long? A bit different of a question.
Posted: 5/21/2009 6:07:34 PM
Stare at a paddle pop stick, when it ceases to resemble your ex then you are ready for a new relationship.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
another one of those super crit threads! :P
Posted: 5/21/2009 5:59:37 PM
Your profile screams casual fling, maybe thats your probkem, they may be looking for more than that.
 Raever
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
No response but not deleted?
Posted: 5/21/2009 5:57:29 PM
Mickey its Cloud's sword from Final Fantasy 7=P
 
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