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-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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why must I be lonely? Posted: 10/12/2009 8:25:00 AM
never settle for less than what you feel you deserve! Truer words were never written. I've waited a very long time, and often was tempted to just settle on what ever presented itself. That option often gagged me when I really looked at it clearly. I've decided to accept the 'gift' of affection which is now offered, because I feel great affection in return. Whatever grows from this will be happy making for us both, but it starts with my self respect intact and that's important to me. It starts with his respect for me too, and mine for him. Those are good seeds with which to grow a healthy tree.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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finding a co-worker's profile Posted: 10/12/2009 8:18:36 AM
I never actually found my co-worker's profile on POF, but he did tell me he had one on here and that he has seen mine. I asked him how was the fishing and he said all of the fish who sent him messages were bottom feeders who sent him naked pictures of their whatevers! So, I suggested that he use his delete key a lot and keep on fishing. He's really quite a great guy, good looking, intelligent and with a great sense of humor. A good catch, just too young for me, too bad. Ladies, don't spoil your chances of meeting a nice guy by being so slutty, my friend/co-worker is really worth putting your best foot forward with. He's secure financially, level headed and fun to be around. He has talents you'd be amazed by, in the kitchen. So far all he's seen are the pervs and low lifes, and he's getting discouraged. I was happy to know that he was here, but he may not be for long. Actually, I'm only here for the fun in the forums anymore. I think I've found my Mr. Right so I come here for the laffs.:

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Shallow or self preserving? Posted: 10/12/2009 5:36:16 AM
Yes, Acomdata, oh indeed, the answer is yes! You have certainly got more than money right now, you've got drive & ambition and those are the qualities which lead to wealth. I know this very well! Having the strength to work 70+ hours per week for little return says that you shuld be wealthy now. You just need to direct your efforts in a more lucrative direction. Any woman who reads what you've written in this thread should be beating your door down right now! You have all you need to get ahead, far ahead. Find the right place to put your energy and efforts to work for you. It's there, you only need the self-confidence to find it and try it. Believe me, you've got what it takes. I've met you, I know that it would be easy to overlook your present state of "not-well-off and not-financially-stable" because this is temporary for you. You will prosper thru ambition and force of will. Go get it, Tiger!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Tattoos Posted: 10/10/2009 4:16:32 PM
I love tattoos, I just wish I had enough nerve to have one visible, lol. I know a few women who have them, some have a few, some have a lot, they're all great. One of my best friends has huge tattoos and they're beautiful, she has roses on her breasts even, that must have hurt! Of course I know of men who have them too, some of them are a little scary to me, some are so very well done, and interesting. I think the prison tattoos I've seen are terrible, I just know those ones hurt. All in all I approve of tattoos, and admire most of the ones I've seen. My (very special) Sister has a delicate flower on her shoulder which is lovely to see.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Shallow or self preserving? Posted: 10/10/2009 3:44:38 PM
^^^^^ I sooooo agree with all you wrote StatlerandWaldorf, it's all so true and seemingly simple. While in the throes of love with my ex I didn't care if we had money or not, we had each other and that's all that mattered to me. I had savings from way back when I started working, even from baby sitting while still in school. I ALWAYS saved a part of every dollar I earned, not matter how little. So by the time P and I married I had a tidy sum and it kept on growing. The problem was that I turned it into a joint thing with him, and when he left it left with him! Actually, it kind of dwindled before he left. My point is that I can save now, I'm a genius with money, but that sum is gone forever. I believe in saving, but now I believe in being smart too. So, save like a demon, but keep it seperate if you can. You may be luckier than I was and in that case it'll be a nice suprise for your mate one day. If not, then it may save you one day. I'm fine financially now but I did have a year or two that were very tight for me and I was scared. Now I"m fine, and not scared anymore either, lol.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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should I buy a new car? Posted: 10/9/2009 3:15:31 PM
I tried out a 2006 Honda Civic EX today, it's a better car than the Subaru, half the mileage on it and the same price, but by far the better car. I think this is the one I'll buy after all. I'll do it on Tues, after the holiday is over. The next one up from the one I tried has leather seats, I think the EX or maybe it's XE, not sure, is topo of the line. It sure has all the bells & whistles. What do you all think?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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should I buy a new car? Posted: 10/9/2009 6:53:34 AM
Thank you both for the great advice. I would be using the car for getting to work and back home safely in an NB winter, also travelling to PEI and NS on occasions and getting around NB since I have friends all over the province. And, yes, for grocery shopping as well. I'm an on-the-road kind of a gal. My plan was to visit Moncton on my way to PEI this last time but got side tracked, however, I still plan a trip there and possibly one up river as well. muhahahah. look out!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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New season of F'ton coffee meets starting Posted: 10/9/2009 6:45:27 AM
I tried to renew the coffee meets here in F'ton but didn't get any interest at all. I've decided that it's not worth it to me to go and sit at the Coffee Mill waiting for folks who don't show up. NBnative got the thing started and it went along well for a time but then it stopped by itself. I havent got the time or the energy to do it unless a few more people show some interest. Maybe you could get something going again in your area. That city used to hold them and parties too and they were quite successful as I recall.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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should I buy a new car? Posted: 10/6/2009 8:21:32 AM
Now that's a reply with merit! Thank you so much for that input. I've been googling (sp?) a lot of vehicles, and a lot of the car dealerships too, also have been talking with friends. I'm ready I think to go in and look serious. My only problem is that sales people don't usually like to deal with a woman, we can be difficult. My plan is to go and try the one or two that I've got in mind one more time, and then let the dealer 'sell' it to me. I've got my list of questions from my mechanic ready too, and if I pronounce everything correctly he may believe I know what I'm talking about. The one I especially like is a Subaru Legacy, what my research says is all good so far. What do you think?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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should I buy a new car? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:52:05 AM
My present car is pretty old now, it was 4 years old when I bought it, that was 5 years ago. It still runs great, but I feel that at my age I should have something newer, just in case. So, with that in mind I've been looking at new and used cars for a while now. My question is this, should I buy a new car now? Should I do this alone or should I bring a manly man along with me to help with the 'dealing' part? I've found a great newer car, 3 years old, has been well protected and runs like a sewing machine, smooth as silk and has a great , tight feel to it. This may be the one. What do you all think?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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OMG!!! 4 months away Posted: 9/30/2009 5:17:21 PM
Forgive me please, both of you, I guess I'm a little over sensitive just now. It's like I told the mod, I'm getting sick of being a target for every inarticulate yahoo on here with an axe to grind. By way of update, not just Christmas coming but Thanksgiven as well, and both new guys expect my company over that holiday. Oh my, I'm loving this way too much.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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OMG!!! 4 months away Posted: 9/30/2009 5:02:28 AM
OH, OUCH! Actually, I donate on a regular basis to a few charities, of my own choosing for my own reasons. To ask why anyone 'needs' to do something to help others only at holiday seasons is presupposing that you know everything about people who do charity work. Some do what they can when they can, don't denigrate that effort, after all, there are many many people who can easily afford to do charity work at any and all times and don't even think of it. Some can do a little, some can do a lot, what ever is done is a blessing where ever it is done. I used to do a lot of outreach type things, on my own usually, untill I was attacked by someone I tried to help. Now I do what I can in a safer way. I must say that if you don't do what you can, you are not in a position to put me down for what I do.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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The Nice,Cool, and Interesting Thread.. Posted: 9/29/2009 6:06:17 AM
I'm very happy to see you back posting again, I thought you were gone forever! As always, you're right about long distance relationships, they don't work well. I tried it once, those were the days when I would have tried about anything just to end the emptiness I felt. I have one more nice, cool & interesting event to mention here, I think it's nice that I've met a nice, cool & interesting man who pays a good deal of attention to me, and really knows how to kiss a woman. This one is blush in addition to the last mentioned 'new man' I've met this month. My birthday month must be a lucky charm.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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OMG!!! 4 months away Posted: 9/29/2009 5:54:24 AM
Oh my, I just can't wait for Christmas! I'm getting excited already, I feel just like a little kid. This season gets me to thinking of ways I could bring some joy into the lives of those less fortunate than myself, so every year, about now, I begin to save up for a 'something special'. I often bring dinner to shut ins, and have brought a few international students into my home for Christmas Dinner and an evening of stories and gifts and plain ole fun. I do have family to spend the time with and they're always included, but there always seems to be enough room for more if you want to make it. Christmas is the time of year when folks get the loneliest, so I try to bring a few of those who are far from their homes to mine. It sort of makes up for the mistakes I make if I do something 'good' at least once a year. At least I hope it does.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Fredericton Coffee Meets @ the Coffee Mill Thursday Night, 7pm...plus other interesting gatherings.. Posted: 9/28/2009 1:38:01 PM
Maybe you should just take it down, nb, it's dieing a slow and terrible death by starvation right now. It looks like no one is interested, or they've all gone on to something else by now. Maybe the idea of POF parties is passe and it's really time for a whole NEW BREATH OF FRESH AIR to blow all the dust & cob webs away and start something fresh and exciting to take the place of the bars and booze.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with Posted: 9/28/2009 1:33:02 PM
It really is a hard thing to do, as a woman, to go 'out' alone. It takes a lot of self confidence to do it without looking like a 'pick-up' or a 'Ho' as it has been lately termed. I think a lone woman has to be careful just where she goes on her own too. There are some places where it's perfectly OK to be by yourself, coffee shops for instance. The singles' group I belong to makes it OK for me to enter alone where ever they are having a dance or event, so I go to those things alone without a worry. But in this city any woman going into a bar or pub on her own is deemed to be up for grabs. So, I don't do that. Thanks for your input, d123x, it's good to know how things work in other places.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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New Social Trend Posted: 9/26/2009 7:31:42 AM
Rearguard, you make the most sense of this idiotic thread of all the posters on it. The OP is acting like an idiot, writes like an idiot and possibly has done this as a joke. If not, then I pity him. You, however, make good sense, you write with a sensitivity and intelligence which is hard to find these days. OP. get off it, you've tried to incense the crowd, you've got blood pumping, now apologize to the ladies you've offended and play nicely. This isn't a gender bashing site, it's a dating site, you're supposed to be making love here, not war!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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The Nice,Cool, and Interesting Thread.. Posted: 9/25/2009 4:21:14 PM
I always call it Band Camp. In fact another banned member penned that one first time I got sent there. She is a classy dudette, you'd like her.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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The Nice,Cool, and Interesting Thread.. Posted: 9/24/2009 5:35:57 PM
What Constitutes A Valid Thread Now that would be a great new thread! Why don't you do that Bottom? You always know how to get the correct definitions of things, thoughts, ideas, words! Where do you get that stuff/information? Actually I think the Earth is older than anyone really knows, or can tell. I have the idea that science and the Bible tell the same story , they just use a different format for the telling. Sort of like how men and women use the same words but attach different meanings. Who really knows what Adam & Eve looked like, maybe they were dinosaurs themselves?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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This is just for fun: What not to do on a First Date Posted: 9/24/2009 5:19:55 AM
During a conversation with a friend this morning, I realized there are two other things a girl might consider NOT doing on a date(first or otherwise) one is don't drink too much, you may say something stupid, and the other is, don't eat salad, it's noisy & too crunchy. I have tomato juice instead, <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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starting over Posted: 9/23/2009 1:00:28 PM
Starting over, getting over, thinking it over! It's all about 'over'. Somehow you do it, somehow the days keep on going by and sooner or later one goes by without you crying or wanting to give up. It does happen, you do heal and find reasons to smile again. It happened for me and it will for you too. I was bitter and full of hate and fear for a very long time, I went to lots of groups for help and finally accepted my situation. That's when I began to get better. When you accept that it's happened to you, nothing you can do about it, just get over it, what ever that means! That's when the healing starts. I went to a church sponsored group called "Divorce Care" and that gave me a lot of insight into why I felt the way I did and what I could do about it. I hightly reccommend the program, it took me from fear and hate into a world of feeling better about myself. Then, each time I redid the program I got more and more out of it.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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The Nice,Cool, and Interesting Thread.. Posted: 9/20/2009 4:54:35 PM
The nicest and best mamories I have are of my childhood in Toronto, I grew up in Rosedale with my Brother and Sister. We had picnics with our parents, went to the zoo often and to the museum nearly every week.. I remember one afternoon at Casa Loma, while my Mom was telling us the story of the place I imagined it was mine. That story is so romantic! Next to those, are memories of when my own children were small, especially my first. What a sweet little boy he was, now he's a tall strong man, owns a lumber company in B.C. and writes home about once a month. Still a sweet boy to his Momma.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Afraid To Make First Contact? Posted: 9/19/2009 4:35:32 PM
Being shy won't help you here on POF, you need to be bold and sure of yourself. You're a pretty woman, just go ahead and make that contact. Sooner or later someone will answer. Or just keep trying the same one till you wear him down! The times have changed so much, we women have to be proactive and still retain our femininity, that's the tricky part. Just realize that you're not living in the old days, it's OK for you to make the first move. Be ladylike about it but not so coy that he would fear answering you. Good luck, I'm cheering for ya!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Honesty? Posted: 9/19/2009 5:27:59 AM
I understand your point, tracyms, it's very hard to be honest, and the penalty for fudging the truth is even worse! LOL, Maybe it's a case of degrees, perhaps a few degrees can be forgiven. After all, this is the net, and we're all trying to make the best impression we can. For the most part, we all keep honesty as a guide(guard) post, we keep it honest on the larger issues, but to fudge a few inches in height or weight is forgivable I'm sure! LOL

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Honesty? Posted: 9/16/2009 1:47:27 PM
One of my favorite sayings is this: I'd rather have you hate me for who I am, than have you love me for who I am not. That's pretty simple and I live by it. It gets me into sooooo much trouble though!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Fredericton Coffee Meets @ the Coffee Mill Thursday Night, 7pm...plus other interesting gatherings.. Posted: 9/9/2009 9:03:23 AM
I've changed my mind, I want nothing more to do with POF events. It's too hard to get folks interested in anything that is 'old' or 'out-dated'. I don't have the organizational skills to get it going, so I'd best just leave it alone and let someone else 'take the reins'. Maybe I stepped on some toes, I didn't mean to.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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another season has passed,,,,,,,,, sigh Posted: 9/8/2009 6:20:43 PM
I usually like Summer best. I love the lazy warm days. This coming summer I'm going to take riding lessons, it's something I've wanted to do for a very long time and never had the nerve and the time at the same time. According to my 5 month plan, I'll have both the time and the nerve in early Summer! That's as good a reason as any for liking summer best. That and the fact that I usually have a lot of time off in summer too. Working at the university has it's perks. Yipee!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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What's your 5 year plan? Posted: 9/8/2009 6:17:10 PM
You may be onto something there! I did rather well already without having a plan. Now what might I do better? I guess now that you've got me thinking, I'd have to say, that it would depend a great deal upon what the fates have in store for me. OR, it might depend upon what the weather might have in store for my part of the country. It seems that we're having tornadoes in areas where they never happened before so the weather patterns could be a contributing factor. Darn it James! You went and made me THINK!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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What's your 5 year plan? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:23:58 AM
At one time I thought that I'd be retired by now, and travelling a lot and relaxing even more. Oh well, so much for that plan! Now I'm enjoying life a lot, I have a good job which pays very very well, and I live in a home I own, not shared with a bank, same with my car. It's a good life, just a little lonely is all. My 5 year plan is to be living happily with a man who loves me and I love him equally. We take trips overseas, but have seen Canada first. My way of seeing the country is from the seat of a hot motorcycle, with my adored one riding beside me on a bigger bike. The idea is to liquidate everything, and then just follow the sun forever! Sounds good to me!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Fredericton Coffee Meets @ the Coffee Mill Thursday Night, 7pm...plus other interesting gatherings.. Posted: 9/7/2009 6:04:49 PM
I'm sorry you feel that way, I'm truely sorry it got to be a burden for you. I sure hope it won't be that way for the next person who tries to host a coffee meet. I just thought I'd pick it up , and see if you and the others were interested in gathering again. As for what night it was on, well, as you know I've had a stroke so my grasp on stuff is tenuous at best. Tues, Thurs, they both start with a T so that was close enough for me. All I know is that they werent' on Wed. If anyone wants to join me I'll be there on WED. evening at 7. I'll wait for an hour, and if I have company, great, if not I'll have a book with me. It's worth a try, it was fun in the past and might be again. I really don't know what went wrong, why folks lost interest in coffee meets. But, I'm willing to try it again. Once.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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New season of F'ton coffee meets starting Posted: 9/7/2009 5:29:57 PM
I agree with everything you said, right up to "take the reins". I can't ride! I went once and fell off! I'd just like to get the coffee meets going again, I'm being selfish as usual, just want a night out, get back in touch with some old friends and make some new ones. I'm not into party planning or anything like it. I'm not a party type person, just love to dance is all. I always thought it was the coffee meet that led to the party, just not on my account, If anyone wants to plan such that's great. As for me, I'd be up for bowling, skating,going out for a dinner together, see a live performance at the Playhouse. That sort of thing is more my style. I couldn't plan my way out of wet paper bag! So, let's meet for coffee, Wed. Sept 9th at the coffee Mill at 7 PM.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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What's your 5 year plan? Posted: 9/7/2009 5:31:50 AM
Do any of us have a concrete plan for what we're going to be doing in 5 year's time? I haven't really thought about it very much, but was asked the question, and now I am thinking! I'm thinking hard about where I'll be with my life. Will I be happpily living alone, or will I be happily living with a great guy whom I adore? Will I still be working or will I have finally given it up? I just don't know! Does anyone know what they'd like to be living in 5 years? We've all heard of the friends who made the pact that if they were still single in 5 years they'd marry each other. I wonder how that worked out.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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The real problem with relationships today. Posted: 9/7/2009 4:58:57 AM
I think that the real problem with relationships today is rather simple. We live in a disposable society. If its broke, don't fix it- replace it with something shinny and new! We apply the same ideology to relationships that we apply to our material possessions. YES! That's the one! I sincerely believe that is one of the paramount problems with relationships today. That, and the fact that people feel no accountability(previously stated) at all these days. Who cares if someone gets hurt, just toss the 'broken thing' into the trash with that camera/can opener/torn shirt, etc. It's no more good to me so what do I care?????? Once upon a time we met and pursued one we deemed adorable and once we won our heart's desire we married and cherished them for all of time. No matter what changes time wrought upon our loved one, the love remained. That was real love. Now we miss love, fall in lust with every shiny 'thing' we see and before we know it, it's over! The shine wears off and we're off to the store to find a new toy. Let's just stop that!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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New season of F'ton coffee meets starting Posted: 9/7/2009 4:35:17 AM
It's nearly that time again, Sept is here and I'm thinking about the weekly coffee meets, and hoping we can get it started up again. I've been unable to attend for quite some time because I work untill 8PM most shifts. I do have Wed. off every week, so if we could change the evening from Tues to Wed I could make every meeting without fail. I've missed getting out to chat with the F'ton chapter of POF, and hope that you all have missed it too. Previously we all met at the Coffee Mill on Smythe St. on Tues, but if we could switch it to Wed. (middle of the week) I could attend, perhaps others would like a recurring event mid week for the winter to help beat the winter blahs. Meeting for coffee in a group always was a great way, no pressure meet-ups can be fun. If you'd rather meet at Tim's that's good too, just drop a suggestion into this thread. I'm prepared to make a committment to be there every week. Red suggested that we have a few meets on her side of the river and that's a good idea. She could attend too if they were closer to her home. We have a lot of POF members in F'ton, these coffee meets would be a nice way for eveyone to meet without feeling awkward or shy about it, Everyone likes coffee too and the doughnuts are a bonus.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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Fredericton Coffee Meets @ the Coffee Mill Thursday Night, 7pm...plus other interesting gatherings.. Posted: 9/7/2009 4:12:07 AM
I'm still interested in the coffee meets, my only problem with them has been the day and time scheduled. As you know I work a later shift(get off at 8 PM) than most people and my day off is Wed. So when you kept the schedule for Tues at 7PM that left me unable to attend. I actually came into this thread to see if anyone was interested in doing it again but on Wed nights instead, so I can attend. I'm willing to make a committment to be there every Wed. at 7, without fail if there is any interest. If the Coffee Mill is inconvenient just suggest some other spot. Come on peeps, this is a great way to meet up and keep the F'ton Chapter alive.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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what in your opinion constitutes racism? Posted: 9/4/2009 3:06:50 PM
oh, here's a similarity I practiced untill I got it right, I can now do it without making any sort of mess, and I've done it in the 'appropriate' place, in disguise, and without detection! I can pee standing up, and I can even aim! I know, I'm really just a BRAT most of the time, and when I work at it I'm better! Try it sometime, it takes a bit of work to get it right, and you must do it wearing the gender specific clothing too. I laugh every time I think of it, I did for fun then demoed on a dare.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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what in your opinion constitutes racism? Posted: 9/4/2009 1:18:01 PM
Intellectually, I see no differences in emotionally balanced, healthy men or women. Therein, I think, lies the deciding point of the question! "emotional balance" is the factor which tells the tale. Because lots of people think that women have less emotional balance than men it may be that those people would tend to believe that the genders are unequal with the men being at the higher end of the equality scale. I'm not going to say what I believe, I just got back from banned camp and don't want to return there today.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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This is just for fun: What not to do on a First Date Posted: 9/1/2009 4:52:27 AM
I just thought of a new one! It's from days gone by(last year) and dates gone by(he has my hand print on his cheek). Here it is: The guy looks at you, his eyes get big as saucers, and he croaks out; "Holy Smoke! Are those real?" Another one would be, when he asks you for a date he also asks if you're on the bus route. Brings you candy and then eats it all himself. Here's one for you guys: She is having her Husband drive the two of you to the restaurant.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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something interesting about the 'viewed me' Posted: 8/31/2009 12:30:28 PM
OMG! 'looking' I just read your first date scenario, you're just too funny! I don't understand how some smart lady hasn't grabbed you by now! You're perfect match material, and if I were about 20 or so years younger you'd have to run pretty fast to out run me! I really do appreciate your help with my profile too. I hope that guy is reading this forum right now and maybe thinking he shouldn't have acted so fast! LOL, ya think so? Some other man just sent me an e-mail saying that I was a very cute 'older' lady too, it's just too funny!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

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something interesting about the 'viewed me' Posted: 8/31/2009 10:15:11 AM
Hey, thank you all very much! I was feeling pretty bad about myself untill I read your posts. Thank you, I feel much better now. I take a lot of stuff personally, I tend to internalize way too much. It may be that living alone does that to me, I don't really know. Perhaps when I get into conversations with 'me' I don't always get an objective point of view. Thanks for your input, each one of you has 'made my day'. I went back to my profile and corrected those errors you mentioned, Looking, thank you very much. Spelling errors on a profile wouldn't be making a very good first impression!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

Single Moms in this economy? How are you doing it? Tips to share? Posted: 8/31/2009 9:52:24 AM
I have to say this about that, I really admire all you parents who have found so many imaginative ways to save money! I know it's not easy, I raised my 3 children alone and half the time on welfare, I fully understand the challenges you all face every day. Having lived in the US for many years I have a slim basis for comparison and I believe that living conditions south of the border are much easier on the wallet than in Canada. I learned, to my delight, that the income tax is lower and there are more options for how you might 'file', single, married, joint and like that, also there are more deductions in the US system. The cost of living in Canada is higher, on the average. Comparing apples to apples you'll find that we pay more for less in Canada. The good thing is that we often have higher quality goods available to us. I'm not putting anybody down, but, it's a fact that jeans I bought in the states lasted less than 2 years of normal wear and jeans I bought(same brand) in Canada are still being worn 6 years after purchase date. Let me say this, I loved my time in the states, I still have great relations with the friends I made there, and that country is amazing in so many ways, I really loved it. I still cry when I hear the American National anthem. The school system alone is most enviable, I could go on forever pointing out many qualities of the states which are admirable, but we're talking about financial matters here. This is the most helpful thread I've found on POF, please don't spoil this very good thing by 'fighting' with each other when you really only want to help and share good ideas.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

something interesting about the 'viewed me' Posted: 8/31/2009 7:39:56 AM
Here's something I don't quite understand. I check out the 'viewed me' section of POF each time I sign in to see who has been visiting, and who I might want to contact. IF I like the profile I make contact. Yesterday there was a new face among the 'viewers', so I read the profile and sent a 'Hello", to my suprise I got an automated message from POF stating that the fellow had blocked me. What's up with that? I mean, I know each of us has that right, it just seemed so odd to check out my profile and immediately block me! I think the message said something like that he didn't want to hear from me. And now his thumbnail is gone from my viewed me section! I'm positive I don't know this individual, so, what's up with that? Wow, my profile must be the scariest one on POF to get that reaction! What should I do about this? Does this sound familiar to anyone?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Do women and men speak the same language? Posted: 8/30/2009 12:57:33 PM
Personally, I think the confusion stems from the fact that men and women use the same words when we speak, BUT, we have different meanings for the words we use. For instance, man says :"I'm going out for a beer with the guys." He means he's going out to get drunk and ogle other women, pinch bottoms, and make lewd remarks at the waitress. A woman says:"I'm going out to have coffee with the girls." She means she's attending a Tupperware party, going to spend a lot of money on plastic containers. You see, the words sound the same but mean different things. When he says leave me alone he means leave him alone, when she says leave me alone, she means I'm hurt and I need a hug. When will you guys ever learn that we understand you and all we want is for you to understand us.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

We need to spice up the Freddy events...suggestions please. Posted: 8/30/2009 12:17:25 PM
Well BrainyGeek, I know you tried to get something going here, it seems that a great big foot squashed it on 2 threads! Maybe this crowd doesn't want to do anything new. I don't understand it though, we were a fun group, what happened? With Winter coming I, for one, would like to have a few events to look forward to. If bowling or pool isn't interesting to very many of you all, why not suggest something else. I'd just like to go on record suggesting that we do at least ONE event where we stay sober, for a change. Is that so odd or strange?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 12 (view)

Act like you want it then act all Cristian Posted: 8/30/2009 9:41:54 AM
It's a real sin and a shame when people invade our home town forum and deride a poor hurt woman for having trust in a guy who sweet talked her and then threw her on the trash heap! Come on men, be men and admit that you'll try any trick you know to get a gal into bed. Once you've played your little boy games you decide that if you convinced her she must be a slut, what does that make you? This, and every other, dating site is what we women hope will be the answer to our prayers, we hope to find a nice guy who will treat us well, and respect us and eventually love us. What do we get? We meet men with one thing on their mind, we meet little boys in big clothes, we meet you with your candy store notions and your meat market mentality. We try to see the good in you, we try to trust and we make a mistake and bed you. Then down comes the hammer! You jump out of bed, wipe off your d#@&k and call us tramps while you run to your computer and find your next mark! I'm not going to say you're all like that, but you must admit that enough of you are, so that there are more broken women on this site than there ever should be! Come on guys, take it easy on us, treat us well and we'll make you happier than you ever thought you could be. I just know there are good guys out there, and I also know that most of the women on here are very nice people too. Be a little kinder to us, we're somebody's Mother after all. Would you want some guy to treat your Mother or Daughter the way you treat some of us? Really?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 6 (view)

Does anybody know how? Posted: 8/30/2009 9:25:37 AM
You are being a smart ass, Sgl, LOL. Don't you know it ain't nice to mess with a 'Lady'. I have 2 sets of instructions, one with pictures, neither is really clear. However, by using both sets and with the help of the picture on the outer box, I'm getting it, sort of. So, Sgl, if you can't help, don't be a smart ass! I can see you now! It's nearly finished, got the tri pod together, and the housing for the tube, all the 'parts' and rods and levers and counter weights and other stuff are in place. Now to mount the telescope tube itself and affix the viewing lenses. I don't know if I'm using the correct terms, I can barely read the names of these parts let alone spell and type them. Help, I need help!

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

Does anybody know how? Posted: 8/29/2009 5:11:27 PM
Thanks Red, I'll check that out, and if you can help I'll be your friend forever! LOL, actually, I think this one is a very elementary one, not the best in the world, maybe not the worst, just a beginner one I'm sure. It came with 2 CDs and I'm going to try them in the DVD player or the computer, whichever seems best to try. There must be a book with this thing too. I just haven't looked yet. It's still in the box it came in.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

Does anybody know how? Posted: 8/29/2009 4:28:09 PM
Does anybody in my area know how to put a telescope together? I was presented with a telescope as my 15 years of service award at work. I had a choice of many nice items, all of which I already have, except for a telescope. So, now I have one but I'm not sure how to set it up. Can anyone help me? Also, what all do I need to know to actually use one of these things? Like, do I need to study astronomy or will plain ole curiosity be enough to get me started?

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

finding a co-worker's profile Posted: 8/28/2009 6:54:00 PM
Yes, OP, I agree with daisy, workplace relationships are not a good idea. If it goes wrong you're stuck working with an X, and it's not nice. If it goes right, but you keep it hush hush, the poor foolish girl who tries to flirt with him get's the 'fish eye' from you and never knows why! It's a bad idea, unless one of you switches places of work, I'd stay away from this one. Most of the places I've worked have a rule about fraternization, it's a big NO NO for a good reason.

-mara-

Joined: 7/24/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

hehehe Posted: 8/28/2009 5:06:34 AM
A wife arrived home one day with a duck under her arm. She took the duck to the kitchen where she found her husband. Looking at him, she said;"This is the pig I've been f#@!ing'" To which the husband replied;"Stupid cow, that's not a pig, it's a duck!" She glared at him as she said;"I wasn't talking to you!"

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