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 Author Thread: How do you answer this??????
 BeLeJeBKaaN
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 34 (view)
 
How do you answer this??????
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:19:13 AM
Check the box "you must have a picture posted to contact this user" and you won't have to worry about it anymore.

If they post anything other than a picture of themselves such as a pet to skirt the above requirement merely report them for not having a picture of themselves posted.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 136 (view)
 
WHY DID HE STOP CALLING?
Posted: 2/10/2008 2:44:28 PM
I also totally agree with pleasurecove's comments in message 132!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 135 (view)
 
WHY DID HE STOP CALLING?
Posted: 2/10/2008 2:41:09 PM
The reason I stop calling is merely that COMMUNICATION is a two way street. It’s not all up to me..it’s about US! A call gets you call. It takes two people to make something work.

It has nothing to do with another woman or outside interest coming into the equation at least as far as I am concerned.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 722 (view)
 
Why are older men so SEX oriented???????
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:00:02 AM
UMMMM...we're running out of time! LOL

I couldn't resist!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:40:58 AM
I'll usually write people and complement them on something I see in their profile or pictures. I'm a sucker for a great set of eyes and a wonderful smile. Sometimes I get a "Thank you" and other times I don't get a response. I never expect a response so it's not an issue.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Men - would you consider dating a woman who's ex turned out to be gay?
Posted: 9/20/2007 8:02:41 AM
I don’t think it matters. He’s now your ex for whatever reason. Many people divorce for a myriad of reasons (this just happens to be your particular scenario). If the next person in your life is secure with himself it should not be an issue what so ever in my opinion. Hang tough and forge ahead…you’ll make it!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 406 (view)
 
I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her
Posted: 7/9/2007 10:26:19 AM
Any updates on this story? Were you spared the "I'm pregnant" call? I sincerely hope so!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 29 (view)
 
i need some help guys
Posted: 7/9/2007 10:23:06 AM
You could be walking into a minefield on this one and get your tail blown off. I'd really think twice about this one also!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 181 (view)
 
the guys who fix things
Posted: 6/6/2007 9:49:42 PM
I fix everything around my house. Paying a contractor to do a less than perfect job is unacceptable to me. I would rather make the mistakes and know that I invested an honest effort. It’s cheaper and the personal satisfaction is great especially when it turns out first rate. In addition I’ve learned something new.

I also learned allot from my dad. Unfortunately I never matched his level of knowledge when it came to working with our hands. He was an absolute wizard!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 633 (view)
 
OTHER OCCUPATIONS FAR MORE DANGEROUS..
Posted: 6/1/2007 4:49:23 PM
Likker,

Obviously you are a selective reader. You totally evaded the question I asked to you. Instead you headed off in another direction with one of your rants.

If you re-read what I posted previously... I asked you to provide the statistics corroborating the statement you made earlier and I quote:

"Also, that is a bit irrelevant it does not excuse the misbehavior of thousands of other cops".

Where did you find the statistics on thousands of cases of misbehavior involving Law Enforcement Officers? I believe I was very clear regarding what I was asking for. Instead you once again headed off and queried construction work place deaths which had no bearing on the question I asked.

I performed several Google searches regarding the “thousands of misbehavior cases” and couldn't find them. Perhaps you could educate me and tell me where those links are.

I’m going to really go out on the limb and “guess” that you really hate Law Enforcement Officers because you tried to make the cut but probably couldn’t. There is a remote possibility that one too many moving violations or an arrest triggered your feelings of anger.

Whatever the case I want you to know there is help for you. I’m sure with the great health care system in your country you no doubt have access to some renowned mental health experts that would be most willing to aid you in your recovery. Take the first step…I urge and encourage you.

By the way I was also a United States Marine so it’s not necessary to introduce the challenges of being in the Military. I’m quite familiar with the dangers associated with that line of work also. I volunteered for the occupation with the full knowledge of what I was getting in to.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 630 (view)
 
Why do so many people seem to hate cops?
Posted: 5/31/2007 9:07:59 PM
Likker,

Please show me where you came up with the information to substantiate the statement you made below.

"Also, that is a bit irrelevant, it does not excuse the misbehavior of thousands of other cops".

Show me the facts, figures or weblinks (not your opinions)...you know the breakdown.

You were quick to perform a "Google Search" and correct a previous poster about the Law Enforcement fatalities on 9/11.

Also you may want to look at this web page and see the growing list of Officers that die almost daily nationwide performing their jobs. You "may" learn something.

http://www.odmp.org/
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 607 (view)
 
Why do so many people seem to hate cops?
Posted: 5/28/2007 2:52:13 PM
As I stated in my previous post and for your benefit…” I was not present and cannot defend the validity or claims of either party”.

I do not know what transpired (neither do you) in the Diallo case to prompt the officers to shoot forty one times. They obviously felt some type of threat and acted. Neither you nor anyone else (including me) can look into their minds and analyze what they were thinking at that precise moment. There are also many factors which play into this scenario such as where Mr. Diallo was standing, where the Officers where standing when contact was made, did he cooperate with commands, distance between Mr. Diallo and the officers, distance between each of the Officers, language etc. etc. The list is long.

If Mr. Diallo would have been in possession of a hand gun we would not be having this conversation. Since he did not have a weapon you are now engaging in your brand of Monday morning quarterbacking.

Lastly, never judge anyone until you can walk in their shoes. This applies to any profession such as Doctors, Lawyers, Military etc.

Incidentally while reading cases I came across this article which may interest you. I am merely attaching it for its educational value.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11045681/from/RS.3/

Monkey cops keep the peace among groups
When 'law enforcement' removed, monkey society becomes divisive.

New research reveals that monkey cops help keep social groups in line.

Not having guns or nightsticks, they leverage their group seniority, craft intimidating reputations and count on good voter turnout.

Take the primate police out of a group, as researchers did, and the rest get more violent and aggressive. Interaction between cliques drops significantly.

"It's not just that violence goes up, but a whole range of behavior involving a whole range of individuals suddenly disappears," said David Krakauer of the Santa Fe Institute. "It's like saying you take police out of human society, and all of a sudden people stop going to the opera, or something more important."

The study, detailed in today's issue of the journal Nature, also uncovered a complex monkey "voting" system for appointing the peacekeepers.

Peacekeepers 'appointed'
Pigtailed macaque monkeys, Macaca nemestrina, don't just pull into town like Wyatt Earp or Dirty Harry and take over. They have to be "appointed" to the position.

Instead of a paper ballot, inferior monkeys bare their teeth to a more dominant member of the group.

"It's like they're saying, ‘You don't have to beat me up to establish your dominance, I'm simply telling you that you are,'" Krakauer told LiveScience.

When an individual receives these voting signals from most of the group, it shows he is well respected — or feared — and he becomes the new sheriff in town.

In general, the larger and more senior monkeys are voted into the policing role.

But having a gang to back you up counts for something, too. A single Schwarzenegger-like monkey may not receive as many "votes" from the group as a smaller individual with several brothers.

On the job
Once elected, police monkeys earn certain rights and responsibilities, one of which is to peacefully settles conflicts. They usually do this by stepping between combatants or chasing bad monkeys away. Very rarely do they need to dish out a whooping, but their actions are always respected by the group.

When Krakauer and his colleagues removed the police force — which in this case consisted of three males, but can also include females — they saw a drastic change in a once peaceful, interactive society.

The creatures split into cliques, mostly based on tight family relationships or friendships, and then interacted about as well as high school jocks and band geeks.

"The policers are indirectly providing the security needed for complex forms of social interaction to take place," Krakauer said. "The monkeys are afraid of approaching each other if the policers are not there to resolve a potential conflict."
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 605 (view)
 
Why do so many people seem to hate cops?
Posted: 5/28/2007 8:49:54 AM
Drq1301,

The simple fact is that neither you nor I know what may have transpired during their contact with Law Enforcement Officers. As we both know there are two sides to every story. I can not comment on the specifics regarding any statements from previous posters since I was not present or have first hand knowledge. There are probably situations where the Officer may have acted inappropriately and there are obviously some where the posters were in the wrong.

As you notice I’m speaking “generally” since I was not present and cannot defend the validity or claims of either party.

As you indicate and I quote, “All citizens are just lawbreakers that you haven't caught yet”. “All citizens” are not law breakers and therefore have nothing to fear from the law or the officers that enforce it.

Your perceptions are your interpretations to what you have read, sensed, believe or viewed. Your perceptions as well intentioned as you think they are may not be necessarily fact based.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 602 (view)
 
Why do so many people seem to hate cops?
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:02:58 AM
Byrd,

Law enforcement officers don’t make the laws…they just enforce them. I suggest if you have an issue with city government you should address your complaint to them. Perhaps you should even take it a step further and help draft future legislation that will address your specific issue and get it on the ballot.

As far as bad cops vs. good cops they are no different than any other segment of society. There will always be a portion that doesn’t measure up. This occurs in every other profession including doctors, lawyers, politicians etc. You read and hear about these situations daily in the news.

Several people complaining in this thread have no doubt violated some law or infraction. Their brush with the law has been negative because they have been called to account for their actions. The only thing I can suggest to them is “If you can’t do the time…don’t do the crime”.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Leona Valley (Pick Your Own Cherry)
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:43:11 PM
Which Cherry Ranch? There are over twenty ranch/farms out that way. What is the fee to "pick your cherry"?
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship?
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:50:08 PM
Mom says..."Better alone than in bad company"...she's absolutely right!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 123 (view)
 
Why do guys go for the bad girl?
Posted: 5/5/2007 11:36:37 AM
Because they initially look the best...but they're usually not...duh!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Bad Dating Experiences? Bah, meet the DARRENATOR !!!
Posted: 5/1/2007 5:41:56 AM
This story put me to sleep...before I could finish it.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 173 (view)
 
Have you been tempted to lie about your age?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:24:14 PM
Never...what's the point? It all comes out in the wash if you do!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Interracial Relationships..
Posted: 4/29/2007 10:35:50 AM
It’s all about preferences. The same applies to every other thing like cars and food. What is good for one person may not be good for another. Some people are just more open minded and tolerant than others.

Personally race is not a factor in my dating. I look at other things like what comes out of your mouth within the first five minutes of a conversation, intelligence and personal appearance.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 109 (view)
 
are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 7:48:14 AM
Who?...............................................................................................................................
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 130 (view)
 
What do you bring to a relationship ?
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:32:24 PM
I bring a map to guide me home just in case!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 147 (view)
 
How many messages a day do u get on average?
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:28:39 PM
Filio if that comment was directed at me...thanks! :)
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 158 (view)
 
Is There a Man Out There That Can Give Me Advice?
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:00:09 PM
I'm afraid you've been hosed...and hosed big time.

Unless you have anything in writing for the loans you've made you have probably lost the money.

First of all you should cease any further loans. Secondly you should avoid the penniless "Don Juan" for your own safety. Third you should seek legal advise to see if you have any recourse.

There is nothing wrong with going to the movies by yourself especially if you don't have a date regardless of the day of the week.

Good luck to you!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 140 (view)
 
How many messages a day do u get on average?
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:48:59 PM
If the volume doesn't increase I'm going to start emailing myself!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Can a home cooked meal lead to true romance?
Posted: 4/24/2007 7:19:44 PM
Bubba,

I wouldn't sweat it. You'll never make everyone happy here regardless of how funny your humor happens to be.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Can a home cooked meal lead to true romance?
Posted: 4/22/2007 7:39:18 PM
To funny! We only had "sea rations" when I was in. Wonder if I could of done that with those wonders in a can back in yesteryear?
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Which books have touched your life?
Posted: 4/21/2007 8:41:01 PM
The good old Sears catalog!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How soon to you reveal your own bagage ?
Posted: 4/20/2007 9:30:47 PM
I only have carry on baggage!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How far would you go?
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:12:20 PM
I've gone to San Diego to meet some not from this website.

Generally the closer the better...one hour and or 50 miles is best for me.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Who should be more domineering in the bedroom?
Posted: 4/16/2007 9:08:35 AM
My previous post was merely posted for laughs. Since I've just been chastised I thought I’d add this little disclaimer so as not to offend anyone else. Whatever happened to a sense of humor? DUH!!!!!!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Who should be more domineering in the bedroom?
Posted: 4/16/2007 8:55:34 AM
I’m available as a “crash sex dummy” to study the possible effects of this forum...LOL
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 1308 (view)
 
Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:43:14 AM
Some profiles are excessive, boring, repetitive or just say to much about nothing.

I would rather read something short and concise. After all if I read it all on your profile what will we have to talk about if we meet in person?

Lets face it men are visual creatures...pictures first...profile text second.

Yes I do read the profiles after I look at the picture (if posted).
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 38 (view)
 
still a virgin at 46.
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:58:40 AM
Bill, I can't help you with this one. It's sort of like learning to ride a bike. Everyone learns in time and in a slightly different way. Some fall once and while others fall many times before they master their skill on the bike. I can tell you that once you learn...you'll never forget. Good luck with your quest.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
still a virgin at 46.
Posted: 4/13/2007 7:18:03 AM
Bill...I think you're a shoe in for the next episode of "Dirt Jobs" on the Discovery Channel. Don't forget to wear protective gear!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 129 (view)
 
Inland Empire Singles Mixer (Upland,CA) Feb 16th, 2007
Posted: 2/19/2007 8:15:27 PM
Hey Bryan,

The event was pretty good. The only negative thing that I can say was the attendance was only one quarter of the people that signed up to attend. This is no reflection on you. No doubt as these events occur on a regular basis more people will attend. I mingled a bit and then settled down at a table with two ladies and had a good time. I would definitely come out again for another event.

I’m sure you invested a lot of effort in planning and getting the event off the ground. To some of the people complaining the only suggestion I can make is…if you can do a better job go for it.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
what goes around, comes around
Posted: 2/15/2007 9:51:10 AM
Engine...just on the surface I would say she probably had several men on the hook. She chose what she thought was the best for her “money” and went and had a romantic interlude. What she probably didn’t bargain for was that Don Juan “POF” was probably just in for a roll in the hay. Naturally upon learning that she was just a momentary object of lust and desire a feeling of rage over took her. Now that is she absolutely angry all men in her foreseeable future will be pay for what this one guy did.

Personally I’d say move on. Just from your description I would say she is not very stable and prone to bad choices in life. She would no doubt be a potential long term headache if you pursued her further.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Where do you see yourself in 5 beers?
Posted: 2/14/2007 9:11:38 AM
Tequila does not contain a “worm”. You are referring to Mescal.

Tequila and mescal are Mexican aperitifs, distilled from the sap of different species of the agave plant. Tequila is to mescal as Cognac is to brandy. Legally tequila can only be produced around the town by the same name, near Guadalajara -- just as champagne only comes from the Champagne region, near Paris. Oaxaca is famous for mescal, distinctive for having a dead caterpillar at the bottom of each bottle to prove the high alcohol content.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 227 (view)
 
I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her
Posted: 2/12/2007 7:15:26 AM
OMG…

1.Stop seeing this woman immediately. It is evident she cannot be trusted. She apparently is intent on trapping you with an unwanted pregnancy. If she becomes pregnant and it is determined that you are the father you in all probability will have to pay (like it or not).

2.Next time you decide to go out and play I would suggest you neutralize your left over swimmers in your wet suit so they can’t surface and be used against you. I’m sure there is something in the medicine cabinet you can add to your condom to deliver a coup de gras to the survivors of your romantic interlude. Try Listerine…it kills germs by the millions…LOL. At the very least tie a knot to your latex catcher’s mitt and flush it down the toilet.

3.See items 1 and 2
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
All-night happy hour at Sushi Roku in Pasadena. Great food, great drinks, great prices, new friends
Posted: 1/29/2007 10:19:05 PM
Didn't see anyone else besides Kimberley so we ate "PLENTY OF FISH" at the sushi bar and enjoyed some wonderful conversation.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
first date- he farts in the restaurant!!
Posted: 9/12/2006 8:09:57 PM
How original! I’ve never tried the flatulating angle before. To think he rescued you from inhaling his vapor trail. I think that was very giving of him.

This could be a useful tool when you know that you don’t want a second date with someone. After all you probably won’t see them again so what does it really matter...just pass a little GAS.

Actually this is pretty damn funny and I thought I’d toss in my two cents of laughter!



 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Stood Up Twice and Pissed Off About It
Posted: 7/17/2006 3:44:02 PM
Better alone than with bad company. Drop her like a bad transmission and move on!
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
kids is it a deal buster?
Posted: 10/9/2005 9:23:46 AM
Your children may voice their opinions however ultimately the decision will be solely yours based on all the relevant factors.
 belejebkaan
Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 72 (view)
 
HELP... Need your opinions PLEASE !!
Posted: 10/9/2005 8:38:51 AM
Mom always told me (she's right by the way)..."Better alone than in bad company".
 
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