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If you're independant, why R U here?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:11:25 PM | Ya know, I have read all the comments on here and I want to share something; When I first started dating "back in the day", I made the mistake of telling a really nice guy that I didn't "need" him. I told him I wanted him but didn't "need" him. Now, I have matured and realized everyone wants to be NEEDED! I can cook , do laundry, clean house, raise children (all grown now), mow the lawn, rake the yard, plant a garden, change my oil, rotate my tires, tape and sand drywall, paint, lay carpet (not very well) but have found I enjoy doing all those things WITH someone else. And just because I CAN do these things, doesn't mean I wouldn't let a man or even ask a man to do them for me if there was one available. In fact, I recently met a gentleman that flat out told me he WANTS to be needed and depended on. Well, I can do that! I would much rather be the nurturer and spoil a man that would do these trivial things for me or with me than one that would tell me "you're so INDEPENDENT, do it yourself"
And the guys are right, it is a FEMALE word because guys have been raised to be the caretakers and providers. When they can't, they are looked upon as lowlifes and worthless. Guys are expected to be independent. Women are supposed to be the nesters.
The women are right as well though because too many men get it into their heads women (especially ones with kids) are looking for a meal ticket! Perhaps they assume the father isn't paying support because they didn't or knew guys that wouldn't. My ex never paid "child support" as such. I didn't ask for it. But he did buy school clothes, shoes, toys, Christmas, birthdays, and even assisted with my bills if I ever got in a bind. But for the most part, I am/was independent. Now, kids are grown, I live alone and, hey, if some nice guy wants me to "depend" on him, I'm ready! lol Nothing holdin' me here so he can sweep me off my feet! lol Seriously though, it was interesting to read everyone's true thoughts on the subject. | | | |
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