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britt884

Joined: 3/30/2008

Msg: 78 (view)

What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:32:25 PM
Ugh, how disrespectful! This has never happened to me, but I would definately RUN soon as it did!

britt884

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just to gather opinions,would you date a guy who said this? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:28:27 PM
He's honest but...I wouldn't go there. I prefer being monogamous with whoever I'm dating.

britt884

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Msg: 125 (view)

Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:16:02 PM
Um, I definately agree with you OP. I am in no way a gold digger, but I appreciate a man who has drive and ambition. I have goals for myself, and I think a man that comes into my life should have some for himself also. Doesn't mean I only date guys who make a lot of money...just you know, like the OP said, not a total BUM.

britt884

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Msg: 406 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/13/2009 11:34:03 PM
This still isn't over yet? Both parties should keep their pants on if they aren't willing to deal with consequences. End of story!

britt884

Joined: 3/30/2008

Msg: 336 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/12/2009 3:26:28 PM
But some men out there think that they should be able to make a woman abort the child. When it is my body that will have to endure this process, I think I have the right not to do it. And I would not have a problem doing that.

britt884

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Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:24:17 PM
In my first very serious relationship, my ex fiance waited till our 6 month anniversary to take my virginity-and he wasn't one. I think because it was my first time was why I wanted to wait and make sure it was right. I definately don't expect a man to wait that long now though. The last person I dated and I decided to do it after a little over a month. We wanted to get to know each other some before we took that step. I don't think theres a certain amount of time you should wait, butI don't believe in giving it up RIGHT AWAY either.

britt884

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Msg: 333 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/12/2009 3:17:02 PM
Really? Out of all the points you could have picked to argue you pick the one which is least relevant. This is about the rights that men should have post conception, it doesn't matter whether or not they used a condom as the act could result a pregnancy either way. If it isn't relevant, then why did you bring it up? It IS relevant becuase condoms can prevent this whole issue from arising in the first place. While some accidents do happen, If a condom is used correctly, they usually are pretty effective. I do agree that men should have input in the situation that say, a woman wants an abortion and he has a desire for her to have the child. But some men out there think that they should be able to make a woman abort the child. When it is my body that will have to endure this process, I think I have the right not to do it.

britt884

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Wanting AND fearing intimacy; an internet syndrome? Posted: 11/12/2009 2:39:32 PM
Fear of commitment does exist in SOME people, but it is also a term overused today. Some people take it and use it as an excuse to get out of a relationship they don't care for anymore. There are people who have personality disorders (schizoid, avoidant) or EXTREME anxiety disorders that avoid relationships but these people are a small minority.

britt884

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Msg: 323 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/12/2009 2:23:19 PM
Also, condoms will not always be available for everyone every time and are not full-proof. Oh, please! ANYONE can walk into a health department or a Planned Parenthood and get free condoms. So, I don't see any excuses for not wearing one.

britt884

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Msg: 92 (view)

how many women have orgasms whil giving head Posted: 11/11/2009 9:53:15 PM
It turns me on, but thats about it. Def. need much more stimulation for an orgasm.

britt884

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Msg: 110 (view)

what do you feel is the most UNATTRACTIVE piercing commonly done today? Posted: 11/11/2009 9:51:00 PM
Genital peircings. I once found out a guy I was dating had one of these and was grossed out. Also, I think lip peircings on majority of people are fugly. As a woman, I would never get anything else peirced..all I have is my navel and ears.

britt884

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Msg: 33 (view)

Chemistry/Attraction Posted: 11/11/2009 8:55:58 PM
Well, you definately know if your attracted to them and if you're hitting it off or not. But it's funny how often that "spark" fizzles out when you get to know the person, isn't it?

britt884

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Msg: 33 (view)

Chemistry and Feelings versus just a piece of @ss. I don't get it. Posted: 11/11/2009 8:51:25 PM
She doesn't sound like a very good person anyway. Sounds like she's only into the other guy because he's "hot"..which is pretty shallow. No amount of good looks can make up for a terrible personality in my opinion. I've always tended to fall harder for guys that were slightly on the nerdy side but made up for that because they were a blast to be around. So don't let this woman hurt your self esteem. Plus, she's cheating. She would most likely do the same thing to you if you were dating her.

britt884

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Msg: 115 (view)

What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 11/11/2009 3:40:24 PM
I forgot men who love animals too!

britt884

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Msg: 282 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/11/2009 2:53:06 PM
The way I feel about it, this child is growing in MY body. If I don't want to subject myself to an abortion, I should absolutely NOT have to because the man wants that. Not to mention an abortion can wreak havoc on the woman's body. What I had said earlier about keeping it your pants if you don't like the consequences...I meant that for both sexes. I know my risks every time I choose to have sex, and I am willing to deal with them responsibly if an accident is to happen. I would never dream of not giving my child a chance at life because of an accident on my part. I would be willing to raise them and love them regardless. If the man didn't think about the possiblities before he had sex....then BOO HOO. I guess I tend to defend the women more in this situation because I have quite a few friends that got pregant, usually in relationships, and the man bailed because he didn't want to take responsibility for his actions. I didn't mean that women should be coniving either and purposely not take birth control without the boyfriends knowledge or whatever. I was talking about situations where both man and woman know there is no birth control being used and know their risks.

britt884

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Msg: 42 (view)

Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/11/2009 2:39:12 PM
Like I said, i'm not trying to play games. I'm just so afraid to tell him the extent of this because I know how he works emotionally. He doesn't deal with emotions. Like we talked about in Psychology before, it's almost like he's got a complete lack of affect. Like a brick wall. Just emotionally very cold because of how his life has been. So then I tell myself maybe theres no point in saying anything. I have thought of the letter thing before..because I tend to able to express things better that way in writing. If and when I decide to just cut him off for good, I may just do that. Thanks everyone.

britt884

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Msg: 55 (view)

How is Having Unprotected Sex NOT Trying to Get Pregnant? Posted: 11/10/2009 11:33:45 PM
Some people VERY mistakingly think that if the guy "pulls out" that they will not risk getting pregnant. I myself know quite a few people that relied on that method and wound up with children nine months later. I know yall have heard the joke about that one. What do you call couples who use the withdrawal method? Parents. I mean, even using contraception isn't 100%. Theres a slight risk that you could get pregnant every time you have sex, even if those chances are slim (using birth control pills and whatnot.) I wish people would get all this through their heads and there would be less unwanted and neglected children out there!

britt884

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Msg: 255 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/10/2009 11:21:41 PM
I believe a woman has the right to keep her child if she becomes pregnant. If certain men do not wish to risk having children, then it's pretty simple to me...take more precautions to ensure safe sex (even though accidents can still happen) OR DON'T HAVE SEX! You don't want to be a daddy? Keep it in your pants. However, I don't agree with women who try and get pregnant to keep a guy or something. That's wrong too. But at the same time, the man doesn't have to agree to sleep with her or engage in unprotected sex! It really annoys me when certain men use excuses for why they don't want to support children they helped create. My opinion is don't have sex unless you can face consequences like adults. It's really not that hard. Go home and masturbate or something.

britt884

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Msg: 75 (view)

She said she dosen't need men for sex, because she has her toys Posted: 11/10/2009 11:12:38 PM
Toys are definately NO substitute for the real thing. She crazy!

britt884

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Msg: 36 (view)

Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/10/2009 10:09:28 PM
I know I'm in the wrong, and I feel bad about it. We touched on things some in the beginning, and at that point he was unwilling to take down walls and be in a serious situation again. I know he knows I LIKE him to some degree..but I havn't told him the EXTENT of it. It's not that I'm really trying to play games, I'm just really afraid, and in a way guarded myself. But I totally understand what you are saying, and thank you for the advice. I am just trying to take one day at a time right now and I will hopefully be able to move past this soon.

britt884

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If you found out he used an escort Posted: 11/10/2009 7:47:11 PM
I have to disagree with some on here that are saying ALL men have paid for sex atleast once. I think that's going a little overboard. Lots of men I know havn't and wouldn't.

britt884

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Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/10/2009 6:41:45 PM
Yeah, I'm just afraid I'd break down in front of him while telling him how I feel really. I get so upset about it just by myself, I can't imagine how it would be sitting in front of him. I don't want him to see me like that. I even talk about seeing other guys in front of him. It's just easier to act like I feel the opposite and not have to deal with possible consequences...even though I know it's wrong. At the same time ,I feel like he should probably be able to tell I'm into him anyway, without saying anything. But idk. he has said that he's not going to tear down his walls for pople anymore anyway, so I don't see a point.

britt884

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Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/10/2009 2:31:07 PM
Well, see, I have never really sat him down and told him exactly how i feel..bc I was always afraid to be vulnerable in front of him. Whenever I talk to him, I totally act the opposite of what I feel if that makes sense. I act like I dont care. We were never able to have a serious talk bc he's a very defensive, emotionally guarded person. He doesn't commit to any kind of relationship-family, friend, woman..whatever. He's dated one person and it wasn't long before he moved 5 hours from home (here) to get away from his family, friends, and her. He spends lots of time in isolation too..which I always thought was strange being he's a young guy-23. I guess if the situation had been normal, you know, normal dating and final breakup, I would have been able to get over it MUCH easier, like I have in the past with others. But this situation has been such a strange one and so confusing, that it has driven me crazy.

britt884

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Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/10/2009 12:47:57 AM
Thank you everyone. I guess it also makes it harder being i'm one of his only friends, and then I feel bad for him on top of everything else. But I know I need to get past that bc in too many ways I am hurting myself in the current situation.

britt884

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Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/9/2009 7:06:56 PM
Yep, I should def know having been a Psych major. But I guess I kept telling myself that something this simple I should be able to get over alone. But that hasn't been successful so far, so I'm thinking I might need to take the next step. Whatever it takes to get me to move on and stop taking this guys calls. I know cutting off contact is the right thing...and I do it for a certain length of time. But the thought of losing him entirely always ends up scaring me. Thanks for all imput.

britt884

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separated but still living together... to believe or not Posted: 11/9/2009 6:12:51 PM
Well, if he's completely over with the wife, then why isn't he getting a divorce? Why is he just "separated"? AND still living with her? hmmm.

britt884

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Has anyone gotten counseling.. Posted: 11/9/2009 5:59:58 PM
For getting over someone before? And also, did it help any? I ask because I am thinking about going. I just don't know what else to do right now because my heartache is impacting my whole life. I break down at the drop of a hat and can't take other men seriously because of him. I have tried just spending time not being friends with this person period and dating other people, but the other guys never live up to him to me. So then I wind up being friends with him again bc I can't live without him either. I feel like I can't give anyone else a fair chance until I get over this. Has anyone had this hard of a time dealing with heartbreak before and how did you get over it? If you sought counseling, did it work?

britt884

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Psycho Girls--- who's had one Posted: 11/9/2009 3:54:09 PM
I've had a MAN who fit all of those qualifications pretty easily. It's funny that these people usually don't see anything wrong with themselves either!!

britt884

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/9/2009 3:51:20 PM
Lots of interesting posts in here. I guess I asked this question mainly bc I see so many people on here in various posts claim that if a man meets "the one", he will sacrifice his beliefs and get married anyway. But then again, look at how many people stay single forever. Was it just that no one was ever good enough, or did they just enjoy being unattached?

britt884

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Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/9/2009 3:48:02 PM
I agree with what someone else said. There are also plenty of women who prey on married men or men in relationships to enable this behavior. Honestly, I don't think some people are meant to settle down with anyone...because they are never satisfied with what they have. They could have someone at home who meets all of their qualification and is perfect for them, but they will STILL cheat. It just disgusts me.

britt884

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:32:11 PM
I like athletic, outoorsy kinda guys. So watching a guy play sports or anything like that is a turn on. I also think that a man that is good with children is sexy.

britt884

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If you found out he used an escort Posted: 11/9/2009 2:29:30 PM
It would definately be a dealbreaker for me, sorry. I don't prefer to date a man who has to pay for sex with a hooker. I think it is quite disgusting personally. Especially with all of the STD's that run rampant outh there.

britt884

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separated but still living together... to believe or not Posted: 11/9/2009 2:26:06 PM
If someone is "separated", they are still married, plain and simple. He is probably looking for a hookup on the side or something. I would forget about him and find someone who is actually single.

britt884

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Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:15:53 PM
Ugh. The true personality always comes out within a couple months. Its funny how perfect someone can seem in the beginning bc they are on their best behavior, and then before you know it, they are a completely different person than what you thought. This is the real them though. What you see in the beginning is a lot of the time a front bc at that time they are trying their hardest to impress you. I'm sure you can do much better than someone who acts like this!

britt884

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Msg: 140 (view)

Is she too young for me? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:10:07 PM
Idk, I guess if both of you are comfortable with it, then go for it. I personally prefer to date guys closer to my age, but thats just me. Just something about a guy being my dads age or close to it is enough to kind of gross me out. lol. The oldest I'd probably date i 34, 35 maybe..if me and the guy just really clicked.

britt884

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Msg: 63 (view)

help! F*** friends/buddies and/or on/off relationships... what does he really want from me? Posted: 11/7/2009 4:10:19 PM
I agree with some of the others. Just the fact that he was 22 and slept with a 16 year old says a lot about his character.

britt884

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I gave my girl an orgasm..... through her nipple? Posted: 11/7/2009 3:19:17 PM
um, lucky girl is all I can say! lol! wish it was THAT easy for all of us!

britt884

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Msg: 64 (view)

When you spend more time analyzing and stressing over the things... Posted: 11/7/2009 3:16:49 PM
thanks, everyone!

britt884

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Msg: 34 (view)

23 year old woman without children, and I'm weird? Posted: 11/7/2009 3:09:06 PM
I know how you feel. No one ever asks me about it on here, but all of my friends my age are either married/have kids or both. When some of them ask me why I havn't settled down yet, I'm like WTF is the rush?! I'm 25, not 40! I just want to make sure I find the right man to have a family with and make sure I can help support children before I have them. Of course, I find that most of my friends that got married and had kids very young also have problems in their marriages now too. lol.

britt884

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:49:11 AM
I'm a natural brunette and have had my hair at both extremes of the spectrum. To me personally, and from what other people have told me, blonde highlights like I have right now suit me the best. I know brunette is my natural color..but I just don't think it looks too good on me. :/

britt884

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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 11/7/2009 1:16:43 AM
bc I wasn't interested in your emails? ;) ok, whatever you say.

britt884

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Msg: 175 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/6/2009 10:39:40 PM
I was kinda referring to men in general, but I'll admit I did think of him SOME when posting this. I know I need to just let go, bc if I don't do it, it will stay like it is right now for who knows how long. He has too many issues to work through and not only doesn't have a great opinion of women (we're all apparently psychos) but never ever wants children. I suppose it's just hard when a year has gone by and I have gotten attached and he still comes over here like part of the family. But I can't thank you all enough for all the interesting opinions and great advice.

britt884

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Msg: 29 (view)

Sex...Hurts? Posted: 11/6/2009 9:58:18 PM
Yep. certain positions hurt me with guys who are well endowed. Especially if I sit all the way down when I'm on top and from behind. Does it hurt just in certain positions or is the pain constant during sex? If it hurts all the way through sex, no matter how you change things up, you may wanna see your gyno to see if you have a minor infection...that can make sex hurt.

britt884

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Msg: 73 (view)

Do you prefer to be on top or bottom Posted: 11/6/2009 9:54:42 PM
I like both. It's fun to switch things up a little.

britt884

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Msg: 1083 (view)

Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 11/6/2009 6:33:30 PM
I agree with a lot of others that have posted. While looks still do matter to a certain extent, personality plays a much bigger factor to me than it used to. If I'm out with a guy who I consider hot, and he ends up having a personality trait that I can't stand..I'm done with him. Good looks aren't worth having to put up with someone's bad attitude to me. Just my opinion. Some of the guys I've been really into might have been considered average or a LITTLE above to most, but they had an awesome sense of humor or we just hit it off in general.

britt884

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Msg: 167 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/6/2009 1:43:53 PM
Woah, this discussion has gotten pretty heated I see.

britt884

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Msg: 484 (view)

Pregnant girl threatening Posted: 11/6/2009 2:37:54 AM
Some people's responses on here are ridiculous. Some men just think they should be able to have all the no-strings sex they want and not have to worry about consequences. This man is 38 years old...did he not have Sex Ed. in high school like the rest of us? Does he not have common sense? Engaging in sex with or without a form of birth control always poses a risk of pregnancy. I know women who have gotten pregnant using birth control pills..which is supposed to almost guarantee no pregnany. Anything can happen when you have sex. He should have thought about that a bit before sleeping with a 20 year old GIRL. Now of course, he wants to walk away from the situation without any responsibility. Please. Man up and take of the child YOU helped create. It takes two to tango. His future child should be coming first in this situation..not him worrying about not wanting to deal with the consequences. BOO HOO.

britt884

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Msg: 116 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/6/2009 12:13:28 AM
TuffLove's post makes me wonder though...I wonder if any of you met your "dream girl", the anxieties would go out the window and you would get married anyway. You just hear it all the time. The man has a fear of commitment and then he meets the right person and the fear is all of a sudden GONE. lol.

britt884

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Msg: 31 (view)

help! F*** friends/buddies and/or on/off relationships... what does he really want from me? Posted: 11/5/2009 11:14:12 PM
First of all, he was in the wrong to be sleeping with a 15 year old at 22. Can we say statuatory rape? Doesn't sound like a good guy anyway! My guess is it's just sex...let me guess, you probably just go over to each other's houses and sleep together..I'm betting he doesn't really put in much effort besides that. Does he take you on dates often or anything?

britt884

Joined: 3/30/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

People won't share or exchange pictures Posted: 11/5/2009 10:30:39 PM
I simply responded that pictures are important bc atleast some physical attraction is necessary. After which he said that "I probably wouldn't care if the guy had herpes, so long as he was hot." That's when I just pressed BLOCK.

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