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ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 2110 (view)

Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 8/27/2008 3:51:04 PM
OP...Believe it or not there are decent women on this site...same goes for women..it is bad at times..we do make good choices & bad..I know i've chatted with a couple bad seeds...I thnk we all have..I do wish you luck though...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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The Next Food Network Star.............QUESTION Posted: 8/25/2008 2:51:10 PM
Ok all you fans of the Nezt Food Network Star...... I have a question..on last season,,whatever happened to AMY?? She won season before last..and was supposed to have a show entitled"The Gourmet Next Door"..whatever happened to her?? this seasons winner already has his show up and running.."Big daddy's" I was curious as I seen her advertise it one time...then NOTHING!!! Can anyone fill me in on that??? I was just curious!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Do you ever get use to being single? Posted: 8/21/2008 5:04:22 PM
OP...after awhile,,you get used to it...and that could be a good thing!! I love coming home after work to a quiet house,plop down and actually listen to the news...yes..there are alot of drawbacks...but in time...you will get used to SOME aspects of being single....like the privacy...or when you are sick and don't want anyone bothering you..or having control the REMOTE CONTROL...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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What just happened here??? Posted: 8/20/2008 3:18:04 PM
OP...does your hubby know your on here looking for BW teaddy bear type?? Shame on you....why did you get married if you want to play the field??

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 52 (view)

Will he ever call me again? Posted: 8/20/2008 8:24:25 AM
OP...He is a first class jerk!! You deserve better..FORGET ABOUT HIM!! He isn't worth one of your tears..you move forward and he will soon become one of those.."Who is He" memories...you will meet that speial someone without even trying, Good Luck!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

Things that will most likley get you read/deleted after only one message... Posted: 8/18/2008 4:05:53 PM
OP..great thread!! People on here seem to think this is a meat market...I'm not here for a one night stand as I know alot of you aren't either...when someone emails me with"Hey..would you like to have some fun??" I block them quick,fast and in a hurry...if someone emails me the first time with would you like to go out for drinks..that gets NO response from me and I hit the delete button....people need to realize..get to know someone first by chatting with them several times,,followed by phone conversation..usully works pretty good!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

The worst breakup line ever Posted: 8/18/2008 8:12:19 AM
OP..I can identify with you...that absolute annoying silene that occurs after what you think is a great date,and you thought you both had a great time...then NOTHING...zilch..nada for a couple of days...and then you get this...there was no chemistry(you two laughed till the sun came up)..I didn't have a good time...(while he was feeding you a hotdog & smeared mustard on you)..I was up all night thinking about this...man the exscuses they come up with or NOT.. How about just plain..I'm sorry,I had a good time,and we could be great friends..it's being upfront,honest,,it may hurt..BUT it's honest!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 46 (view)

The worst breakup line ever Posted: 8/18/2008 7:57:13 AM
OK..OP..I have one for you...I was dating this err gentleman about 2 yrs ago and he said this to me.."I have to let you go for both our sakes" WHERE DID THAT COME FROM??lol..out of an old Cary Grant Movie?? ..

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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HELP! I need an easy Appetizer! Posted: 8/17/2008 2:11:51 PM
OP..here is an easy quick fix...get a small tub..or maybe a lg one(depending on how many guests you have) of cream cheese....a jar of dried roast beef....green onions...mix softened philly cheese with diced green onions & diced roast beef...put in bowl and let chill one hour...put in pretty bowl on LARGE plate...surround with ritz crackers...or crackers of your choice...VOILA! a quick easy party snack!! ENJOY PS....there are various ways you can add too or subtract from this dish!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 206 (view)

Verbal Abusers Posted: 8/17/2008 7:54:04 AM
OP... I went thru both...while the physical will heal on the outside...it is still raw and hurting on the inside...With verbal abuse...it's sort of being physical only with the mind...someone berating you all the time...screaming hurtful things at you..name calling...etc..it's all painful and it all hurts...sometimes I think the verbal takes longer to heal from...simply because that person is attacking your self confidence & self worth...it gets to be a habit from then on out whenever anyone raises their voice to you that you cringe,,it will get better with time,not over night... if possible..get some counselling..I do wish the best for you...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

is there a time limit for getting over a man? Posted: 8/17/2008 7:48:34 AM
OOP...It will get easier if you quit dwelling on everything(I know,sounds easier said then done) Get out of the house...put anything that reminds you of him in a box and either throw it away or put it up somewhere where you will not have look at dailey...Read a great book or 2..Go out with friends...FOCUS on you... Sometimes..noone an explain what & why it happened...sometimes it happens with no reasonable explanation...QUIT listening to the grapevine...it always sounds worse then what it really is.... Good luck OP...I do wish you all the best!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Have I lost the love of my life Posted: 8/17/2008 7:39:14 AM
OP...please first off know you aren't alone!! There are alot of people(un-fortunatley) that are right where you are..I read a post earlier(when is it time to give up) on the broken hearts forum that may help you...I do know the pain you are going thru also...to be so totally,head over heels in love,and then BAM! it's gone...I am so sorry you had to go thru that.... Now on a brighter note...you never know...why don't you stop ALL communiation with him(if there is any) and focus on YOU!! Your heart's been broken...so do something that will hopefully take your mind off of it...read a good book or 3...take a small vacation...anywhere...Maybe he's realized(or not) that he's been a jerk totally to you...and get back in touch with you....you never know what may happen...or you could meet someone else that totally makes your heart race like you've never had before..My prayers are with you and I wish you the best of luck!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

I feel lost to the world Posted: 8/17/2008 7:25:10 AM
OP I read your profile and then most of the responses..everyone is right on target for the most part..YOU had a 1 sentenced profile...if you want to attract a date..then TELL them something about yourself!! Tell them you are a MARINE & be proud of it..I'm a Marine MOm and I'm darn proud of it!! ..Tell them about somoe of your interests...you know if you are going over seas anytime soon,and you want someone to write you,,,this isn't the way to go...tell them about that crabby old GunnySgt.or drill sgt that is making your life miserable..anything except just a couple of words...Put a picture of yourself in your cammies...some girls go nuts over a guy in dress uniform..you just never know which tactic will work,,try em all...good luck OP & SEMPER FI!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

Punctuality Pet Peeve... Posted: 8/16/2008 8:21:33 PM
OP I am a stickler for being on time...that just shows courtesy towards someone else,or something else...i.e.work..if she's going to be late and she knows...why doesn't she just call you?? That would be the proper thing to do..

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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How long do you wait to avoid being a one-night stand? Posted: 8/14/2008 1:28:08 PM
OP... The one thing you do have to remember...is this,"You are both consenting adults" to begin with...and hopefully your partner will remember this to...although you will never know if you will be a "one nighstand" ...you keep respecting yourself and be selective of your choices(hope that sounds right)...good luck

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 79 (view)

Need some advice ... Especially ladies Posted: 8/13/2008 9:22:48 AM
OP...maybe it was nothing you did...and had everything to do with her... 1.She was extremely rude in not replying back to you...It's rude to leave someone hanging like that. 2.MAYBE she had a prior commitment,and truley could not get out of...BUT,at the very least she should have called you... 3. And just maybe she is already involved,with maybe a boyfriend/husband and didn't know how to tell you....or didn't want to tell you..i.e.--LETS TAKE YOUR CAR?? I could be way off base here... I do wish you luck,pls know one bad apple doesn't spoil the whole bushel....I hope I'm wrong and she truley was busy,and just c ouldn't get to you!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Feeling like the stupidest person in the world... Posted: 8/12/2008 8:53:33 PM
OP..Oh wow! What a dirtbag that guy is...If I had been you..I would have stuck to my intuition,and turned around!! He wasn't respectful...he wasn't anything!! You deserve better...so pick yourself up by your boot straps gal!! There is someone out there for you!!! And my prayers going out for your health as well!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Need some advice on how to cope with the man I love having terminal cancer Posted: 8/11/2008 7:32:05 AM
OP>>who in the world was that remark given to?? I know I have come in a little late in the forum here,,but that seemed kind of cold and callous to me.....asking if they were on drugs or something.... msg:9

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Need some advice on how to cope with the man I love having terminal cancer Posted: 8/11/2008 7:24:12 AM
OP..I used to take care of people in hospice...this anger he is going through is totally normal..and he is pushing you away because he is having alot of issues going thru him right now...not because he doesn't love you or need you or want you...Get in touch with a local Hospice or go on;line,,they have a huge amount of information there...as for this trip..this is something only you an decide for yourself....but they will tell you that even loved ones need breaks,,,especially if you've not even grieved for your father still...you need solace for your soul and your heart and some kind of healing process on the part of your father....My friend was terminal breast caner...she had it 13 years...with remission and all..she passed away Thanksgiving morning 2 years ago..Sure she got angry at me..but I'm an in your face type person and so was she...lol..we yelled and screamed and we laughed and cried...such turbulence of emotions we went thru..she would go thru this period of what your best pal & ex is going thru right now..I would back off just a wee bit..and that storm would blow over & maybe a week or less,depending on her state of mind another storm would brew...Honey..you are not alone in this although you may feel like you are.Please look up on hospice..talk with them,,they are npt only there for the patient..but for you(family) also....pls feel free to talk to me anytime! My Prayers for you & yours...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 8/10/2008 5:42:11 PM
OP..Violene of any kind is NEVER okay from either male or female...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Played again... Posted: 8/10/2008 9:11:19 AM
OP.. Sometimes that is easier said then done....they say you learn from expierence...so this getting played UNLESS you let them play you can go either way...

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Played again... Posted: 8/10/2008 9:09:07 AM
Dear OP..Unfortunataley..I believe I an relate to what you just went thru having gone thru it myself and think I just got "suckered" yet again...you meet a gentleman and get along so great...and like you I wear my heart out on my sleeve..then all of a sudden..BAM! IT's like a fist to the heart,,they either quit talking,or they really don't want the same things you want,or whatever..You just hang in there and I am quite sure you will meet the RIGHT gentleman..just PROCEED with caution this time.....Good Luck !!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Claiming To Treat You Like A Princess Or Goddess Posted: 8/7/2008 6:48:28 PM
OP..if a man promises me the moon,stars & like a princess....I am running the opposite direction as fast as I can....and I'm not stopping at go to collect200.00 either!!!

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Would a Girl Take a Broken man Posted: 8/7/2008 6:45:13 PM
OP..to be very honest with you....it's not really the ;looks that attract me..it is the personality!!! To me it is what's on the inside that counts..not the outside....

ArkansasAnjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Getting The SUBTLE Brush Off!! Posted: 8/7/2008 3:47:26 PM
IF..and I say that lightly...I had not heard anything from someone that was "supposedly"interested in me..and I would give them a day or two...I would assume that they have moved on and just plain did not have the courage to tell me/...I told my friend that...and she keeps waiting by the phone..sigh When I started this thread..it was out of curiosity,and how others would handle it....WOW....I know what I would do..and that's just plain write em off and move on!!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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just wanted to get some opinions on a man hitting a women when.... Posted: 8/7/2008 8:19:16 AM
OP..My mama always told me that if a woman hits a man,then she is putting herself in a mans posistion....I for one do NOT agree with violence of any kind between a man and a woman...there are other more logical ways to work things out...such as leave the room till things cool off....just my opinion

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Getting The SUBTLE Brush Off!! Posted: 8/6/2008 4:44:41 PM
Answer to Msg 22.. NO this has not happened to me....it happened to a friend....I started the thread simply because I was curious if it had happened to others....there are alot more weirder threads on here then this one.... As for my user name....that is really a personal question and one I choose not to answer..but I will say this...I am not broken,nor damaged....nor am I a victim....so go pick on someone or something else...this thread was meant to find out how others dealt with it or if it had happened to them...

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Last Seasons Winner On Food Network Star Posted: 8/6/2008 7:23:40 AM
Ok..has anyone HEARD when Amy is going to start her show.The Gourmet Next Door? She won last seasons The Next Food network Star & I've not seen hhide nor hair of her...now Aaron on the other hand won this season and they have already aired his first show alled "Big Daddys(something or other..lol) Does anyone KNOW what happened to Amy??

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Getting The SUBTLE Brush Off!! Posted: 8/5/2008 9:29:32 PM
Ok Op's...I don't know if this has already been brought up..but here goes... How do you know when you are getting the "subtle"brush off? It sort of sneaks up on you and when you realized what happened,,you are like...WHAT HAPPENED here? You know what I mean...things are going great..chatting dailey..going out to eat every once in awhile or watching movies..then all of a sudden it stops...is there some kind of new rule here I don't know about?? I'm pretty sure it has happened to both gals & guys alike on here... I can understand the abrupt"I don't want to see you anymore"..or the "we don't click things....but this total silence(well almost)...it leaves you wondering where you stand with a certain person....I did bring this thread up sepecifially because it seems to be going on alot on this site.... So what is everyone's take on this? Has it happened to you? What did you do about it? As for me...If I thought I was getting that..I am not going to chase them down with phone alls,and just in general bugging them...that's not to cool...so whats everyone's opinion on here about this??

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 483 (view)

Does accepting an expensive dinner from a man obligates a woman to have sex with him? Posted: 8/5/2008 7:54:03 AM
OP...WHERE IS BILL ENGVALL when you need him?? Seriously..there are a "few" guys out there that expect obligatory "anything" from just taking them down the road to the local Mikey D's...I'm serious on this!! Now as for an exspensive dinner...same rules applies....(Who the h*ll makes these rules anyway?) There should be NO put out of any kind unless I guess it is acceptable on both sides...a lady should not be made to feel pressured into anything she's not comfortable doing....and if said gentleman went into this date and ait,etc..then he is a "rat" in my book....just my lil ol opinion....

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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OK, what about the World Court and its opinion on the Child Rapist/Murderer on Death Row Posted: 8/5/2008 5:16:33 AM
OP I agree that Texas will indeed take care of it and as for Medellin...I don't give 2 figs about his rights,,,he HAS NONE!!!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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How do you stop loving someone? Posted: 8/4/2008 10:55:44 PM
OP..I have found out one thing thru the years,,,when you truly love & care for someone,then something happens to that relationship/marriage..a piece of your heart goes with them..and you will always carry a piece of theirs...Moving on is and will be the BEST thing you can do for yourself....then not only will you regain dignity back...but also your self worth.,...GOD DON"T MAKE NO JUNK!!! I wish you all the best OP!!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 96 (view)

Breaking up via email - is it the new way to end it? Posted: 8/4/2008 10:50:56 PM
OP...breaking by a note or text is pure coward and that shows you,that you are better off without him...I would hope this is not THE NEW TREND,but these days you never know....I truly hope you meet someone deserving of you!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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The 3 Day Rule Posted: 8/3/2008 11:19:44 PM
RULES SMULES...I don't know who in the world came up with that idiotic rule..but it needs to be put to rest..the way I see it..we are all adults here...if you meet someone and the chemistry is there..go for it...and what I mean is this..if you want to text or all..JUST DO IT!!! Don't play these silly little head games with them..thats the BIGGEST turn off for anyone...because while you are sitting there wondering if you should call or not...he could be there thinking..well maybe she really didn't like me that much and he starts fishing around for someone else...if you went out on a date and had a wonderful time...and you laughed and talked about everything from a to z..call him and tell him thank you....he will appreciate it alot more then what you think...and it will more then likely lead to a second date.....good luck!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Me time... Our time... Tightening of the leash Posted: 7/28/2008 4:41:49 PM
I'm not exactly sure if this is the answer you are looking for,but here goes..in every HEALTHY relationship...there should be a WE time,where the 2 of you do something together..then there should always be a time where each is allowed some space..it pertains to TRUST!! Either you trust then enough to have their own space(as every couple needs) or you don't...and if the trust is not there..then 9 times out of 10 the relationship will not work...just my humble opinion..

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 296 (view)

What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Posted: 7/27/2008 10:24:48 AM
I just happen to have a salt shaker sweetie...I bought it brand new just for you!!never ever change who you are for anyone..because that is what ATTRACTED them to you in the first place!!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 295 (view)

What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Posted: 7/27/2008 10:22:36 AM
Boy easy question BUT tough to answer!!! In my last relationship I trulybelieved I loved him and I virtually allowed him to mold me into something that I was not,,nor will I ever be!!! His ex wife...I wasn't aware of it at the time because I had blinders....he said I was way to country for him..I talked to southern,and i did not dress right..i.e blue jeans and tank tops are my usual attire in summer,well besides shorts...soooo he took me shopping and picked out my clothes...etc..the whole nine yards...I allowed it..MY FAULT!! This went on for 2 weeks..I seen apicture somewhere and his son said dad she looks just like MOM!!! I put on the brakes right then & there!!! I took,,rather tore pff the clothes..put my jeans and tank top back on along with my boots,,,threw the clothes and makeup i the trash and I burned rubber and NEVER once did I ever look back...The moral to this story is this: If the lady/gentleman you are with cannot accept you for who and what you are,,flaws and all..then you are with the wrong person....if they truly love you,,none of it would matter....plus it will save alot of hurt in the end...don't ever change who you are for anyone because after all thats what attracted them in the first place right!!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 206 (view)

My son is on drugs....... Posted: 7/17/2008 10:00:09 PM
In Regards to msg 6 I agree with the home testing to a certain level...DON'T TELL HIM when you are going to test him...just do it...you have a better way of catching him off guard...I know of a parent that did this....he was always clean until one day said parent pulled child out of class and took him to the hospitol..GUESS WHAT??? They found drugs in his system..she was in total melt-down although she was expecting it... She did tell him of the legalities of what would & COULD happen to him...one day he was watching Interventions...that kind of got to him more then anything else did.. And I also agree with if you tell the child to quit..then you need to quit also..and pls be supportive of him...he will be a very angry child thru all of this...GOOD LUCK My Prayers will be with you & your child

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

Dating an Alcoholic Posted: 7/17/2008 5:49:56 AM
OP.. I was married to an alcoholic....the only thing you can do is simply this...get them to detox(most are 72 hour sign ins..they can sign themselves in)..or completely leave her,and have no contact with her until she clears up her act if she ever does...I an and will tell you this...most people who abuse..not all of them are hurting or have been hurt badly on some level and turn to booze,drugs whatever the case may be to "cover"the hurt..what they don't realize is it will be there the next day..or maybe they do realize it and don't care..If you really care about this lady...talk to her,,see what she says about re-habs...counselling..etc...let me ask you this....ask yourself this...are you in it for the "Long Haul?" an you be part of her support system? Or are you going to disappear on her after she starts seeking help?? No pressure,,just asking you to ask yourself these questions...it is NOT an easy road by any means,and will get harder before it gets easier...but if she really wants help...there are all sorts of plaes out there for her to reieve it...Good Luck OP...my prayers are with you...

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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What`s on your regular grocery list that is unusual. Posted: 7/15/2008 8:58:40 AM
I have to agree with the earl Grey tea..you wouldn't catch me without it!! Aa for unusual on my list??hmmmm..I can't really think of anything...and to be honest,while I love to cook,and expierment..I have never heard of endamame....what is that??

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 96 (view)

What do you put on potatoes??? Posted: 7/15/2008 8:56:15 AM
Actually..I love butter,cream,salt & pepper on mine.smothered w/hicken gravy..I had an ex that put Miracle whip in his...amazingly enough it was pretty good!!! Now I have 1 for you!! My Daughter in law puts sour cream in her spaghetti!!! The family loves it..has anyone ever heard of that??

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Anthony Bourdain or Andrew Zimmern- What intrigues you about one or both of these shows? Posted: 7/15/2008 8:54:13 AM
I have seen Bourdains show,not Zimmern's yet..and I honestly think Anthony likes that shock effect by some of the things he will do...and some of the food he eats I would not even think of picking it up,let alone tasting... ..but he does take you to places you never even knew existed and seems to have an awful lot of hangovers...lol..could it be to get the taste of food out his mouth he has eaten??..One of my favorite shows is when he went to Mexico,and had a Native take him around...he put one of the local foods in his mouth(after asking what it was,and you could see tha Native laughing)..his eyes immediatley watered up,but he was brave and swallowed by about a quart of the local brew...lol

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 292 (view)

A place for stupid cooking questions Posted: 7/15/2008 8:48:20 AM
Ramen Noodles are great for a quick fix,especially if you are single..lol..they ome in like pkgs of 6 for a buck,depending on where you buy them..add to boiling water,cook for 3 minutes & voila! an instant meal that will fill you up!! I will add the packet of flavor..or drain the water and add salt,butter & garlic!! Happy Cooking!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

Soldiers Coming Home Posted: 7/14/2008 4:21:43 AM
OP.. First off what you need to do is BE THERE for your friend... Don't ask him questions about what went on over there... they will talk about it when & if they are ready to.. They will eat alot and sleep alot the first several days there,and jump or twitch at every little sound.... They have been thru alot and seen more horror then you or I could ever in our wildest dreams imagine... Some find it hard dealing with "civilian" life,and it may take awhile for makiing adjustments...Just pls be patient with him/her and things will be ok in due time.. My hat is off to your friend..He is a Hero in my eyes and I thank him for what he is doing!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 364 (view)

eHarmony...STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!!! Posted: 7/13/2008 9:26:51 AM
You know...while this ould be or not be a laughing matter....I have heard from different friends that eharmony actually REJECTS some profiles if they do not meet their EXPECTATIONS!!! Now how rude/stupid is that??

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 318 (view)

The mind of an abuser Posted: 7/13/2008 9:11:17 AM
msg 311 OP..you and I are SURVIVORS in every sense of the word....it takes a very strong person to be drug through hades and back,and nstill have the strength & the faith to begin a new life!! God Bless you!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 317 (view)

The mind of an abuser Posted: 7/13/2008 9:05:38 AM
OP..I think this is a thread that really needed to be brought out,and I hope it does not get deleted...as this is a serious issue in today's world... Now for an opinion to your question...does an abuser go into a relationship with intentions of abusing?? That is a catch 22 sort of answer....some actually go into a relationship with the best of intentions,then one day something happens,and the "abuser" snaps...he/she needs to teach someone a "lesson" or they truly believe they are metting out an "appriopaiate" punishiment... And then sometimes I honestly believe that 2 people can really bring out the worst in each other.... I have a friend that was married to a guy for 13 yrs....whenhe got drunk he had to "teach her a lesson" by kicking her with the toe of his cowboy boots...she loved him,and therefore thought she had it coming,and strived to do better the "next"time...there was always a next time because she truley believed her love could change him...FOLKS,that just does not happen....one day after she woke up,covered in bruises,she had the help of her co-workers pack up a moving van and left!!! I truley believe that the person being abused always on some level believes...he/she can change the abuser with their love...maybe they will be lucky and the abuser will change,,,or maybe not...abusers are like alcoholics...they NEED HELP/COUNSELLING to help control their anger issues....if you are in an abusive situation..for your own safety & your children if there are any..RUN...DON"T WALK TO THE NEAREST SAFE HOUSE..if you cannot find one..police officers will be more then glad to help you get to one....press charges against the offender..in some cases..the "victim" goes back sadly enough,and may do so several times before they have had enough or worse....if you need to know some numbers to safe houses..pls just email me.....there are links....I'm sorry this is so long....Good luck and I hope this helped you a little...and remember,this is just my opinion only...

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

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Please critique my profile Posted: 7/12/2008 9:13:35 PM
I enjoyed reading your profile....what I look for in one is this,,,what are your hobbies,,,,what do you like to do in your spare time? Sometimes it is also good to put something humorous in there...it can show your lighter side...,,everyone looks for something different in a profile,,you have great pictures and a beautiful smile!!

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 149 (view)

What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 7/12/2008 9:04:56 PM
I honestly did not intend for this to be a BASHING thread....I had a problem on how to deal with somone and wanted advice...I did not want to be ridiculed or made fun of...this can be a dangerous thing for SOME people..I Know that not all men are like this,,,I am very much aware of this fact..I have read & re-read alot of profiles,forums,and have talked to some very nice gentlemen on this site...I have even made friends...but the deal is this,,the man in question does have a control issue..and he did demand I go to his house some 4 hours or so for the week..I politley refused at first..he became persistent,and then it got out of hand,,I did not honestly know how to handle him,that is why I came on here....Yes,I may have been brought up old fashioned...but there is nothing qwrong with that at all...what is wrong is someone making fun of me because of it...but hey..I an take it,I am a big girl... You gentlemen & ladies may or may not think this is a serious issue..but in all reality it is...if someone wants to meet you or vice versa...I think it only fair that you meet half-way..in a public place,and ladies bring your gal friend or sister along....it is called a comfort/saftey factor,,,you gentlemen should respect that...I also realize that the majority of you do indeed respect that & I applaude you for it... and being the lady I am I do thank you for your advice..it has happened my eyes...

brokenanjel

Joined: 4/1/2008

Msg: 148 (view)

What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 7/12/2008 8:41:51 PM
Smart..in the first place..I absolutley refuse to drive 4 hrs or so to some man's house whom, I do not know,have never met..and I would be COMPLETELY OUT OF MY SAFETY ZONE!!! It was not wrong of me to ask to meet half way,or for him to to drive down here..1/2 way i would have gone for,BUT would not have gone alone...I would have taken my sister with me..I a,m not completely bonkers...and yes we watch the news...and while there is wild and sometimes terrible things going on..I do not believe all men are that way...

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