You should get to know some of those exotic dancers as human beings before you make any snap judgments. I've known a lot of them, and not a single one did it because she liked it. It was a paycheck, and a good one. There aren't a lot of options for someone whose morally upright parents throws them out for getting pregnant while still in high school. Then it becomes doing whatever you can to survive and take care of the baby, usually something very low paying, until you're old enough to work in a bar or club - those places don't require anything in the way of education. I've also known some who worked hard at it in the summers to pay their way through college. It's honest work - and it is work, and it's certainly safer than hustling on the streets.

Which leaves me gobsmacked that there are tons of women who are able to make a living as exotic dancers and strippers. To imagine that there are enough guys out there paying to see semi dressed and naked women just because it's "easy" doesn't say much for the male gender.

So your guy is having sex with you twice a day, and looking at alot of porn and abusing himself every time you turn around? Sorry but does this guy have a job or any hobbies? Sounds like a bored person with an infantile need for instant gratification. He is a child, not a man.

Why would you ask her out, then ask her out again, and not set a time and place for the date? It's like you just asked her out to see if she would say yes. You left her hanging for two days then picked a time kind of as an afterthought.

And, if you see each other regularly in class, there's no reason for any of this to be arranged by text.

And the moral of the story is........ don't date a 23 year old guy unless you want him to act like a...um...23 year old guy!

Oh man, well I've been there (aroused on the dance floor) as I'm sure many men have. But when your slow dancing and the woman tells you "nice**** your busted. I would love too see this stand up to a criminal charge. Get serious man! How could that ever go over? That sounds about as logical as someone being incriminated for eating too much in a food court. Some things just can't be helped. Quit worrying so much guys and enjoy your lives

Another thread that's turned into a battle of the sexes................

well if you are admitting to being a whore - then why the reticence?

and I would never label a man a whore. that is reserved for women.

for males its called being a man.


I am still concerned however that he's probably already forgotten about you. You put the breaks on a guy and then 2.5 weeks later he's supposed to be sitting around pining for you?

But do not come crying on here because you've been placed firmly in the dreaded "whorezone"


Perhaps if you want to be his whore, then go for it.

I don't know how to put this nicely without stepping on someone's toes. At 22, the Internet should be your LAST resort to meet someone. Seriously.

At 22 you should have a huge pool of friends, be going out, doing things, finishing school, etc... meaning that you should have much more access to members of the opposite sex than someone in their 30's and 40's.

People in their 30's and 40's usually only have a hand full of friends - this is because our careers and lives really don't allow for as much free time as we had back "in the day" when we were tearing up the clubs on Friday and Saturday nights. Add kids to the mix and our "free time" is reduced even more. This time restraint also affects our ability to get out and do the things we did when we were younger.

At 22 you don't have a career... you might have a job... you might be at the door step of a career - but it's not the same as when you're 30+ with 10, 15, 20 years invested toward retirement with an assload of more responsibility.

Most of the early 20 somethings I have met or spoken to from a dating site have been whackjobs. Most of the 20 somethings I know in "the real world" have absolutely no need for the Internet to date.

Ok, so me and this man I've been seeing for a little while go downtown last night for a cup of coffee... it was rainy... dark (7ish)... We were in my car..Once we get to Denman, and I exit the vehicle, my raincoat is open and I guess my IT WAS COLD... so of course a certain part of my anatomy was protruding...through my top...

He turns and does a double, a triple, and a quadruple take at my chest and exclaims, "I can see your nipples!!"

This went on for about half a mortifying block... I kept telling him (as I pulled my inner jacket together)...' no you can't... omg.. stop...' He thought this was hilarious.

Is he developmentally challenged in any way?

My latest favorite song is called Snuff by Slipknot... ("Bury all your secrets in my skin / Come away with innocence and leave me with my sins...")... gawd I love that song...

But yeah, I suppose it's not really a dating theme song. I guess Every day is exactly the same by Nine Inch Nail would best describe my (dating) life now and for the last few years...

I believe I can see the future
Because I repeat the same routine
I think I used to have a purpose
Then again, that might have been a dream

I think I used to have a voice
Now I never make a sound
I just do what I’ve been told
I really don’t want them to come around
Oh, no.

I can feel their eyes are watching
In case I lose myself again
Sometimes I think I’m happy here
Sometimes, yeah, I still pretend
I can’t remember how this got started
But I can tell you exactly how it will end.

I’m writing on a little piece of paper
I’m hoping someday you might find
Well, I’ll hide it behind something
They won’t look behind

I am still inside here
A little bit comes bleeding through
I wish this could have been any other way
But I just don’t know, I don’t know,
What else I can do…

Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same
...

I hate it when they ask for my SS#!!!

All anybody needs to know is my first name and they can find out tons of information about me-- full name, address, phone, website with bio and four years of blogs. So online I give a shortened version, which is a nickname I don't like at all but if I didn't give any name that would seem weird. I'm forced into a lie right off the bat all for something that, really, is inconsequential.

You can't just say that a virus never evolves if 4 billion years later, it's still a virus, and not a donkey.

For the same reason this thread came about with disagreement's on a definition of 'life' and 'alive', I disagree on your use of 'evolution', you see 4 billion years ago, a donkey was something like a virus, infact something a lot simpler. Again, you have also missed the point of what was being said, to go from something that resembles a virus, to a donkey, takes more than simple mutations...
Shortly after extinction events, the variation in life 'explodes', random mutations wouldn't account for this, maybe it has something to do with being 'random'?...So are you more evolved (albeit micro-evolved) than a black African? or do you just have a different gene mutations?



Macro Evolution is when an organism changes into something radically different (over a long period of time.) This is more theoretical, and while Macro-Evolution is pretty accepted, it's never been outright observed.


Even YOU accept this but still argue the toss...maybe it's because you're American and half my age.

Funny how you think everyone is a moron...looked in the mirror lately.

1 mutated virus = a virus
100 mutations of a virus = a virus

followed by 4 billion years of mutations

let me guess...yep still a virus.

let me guess again...you're American.