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Joined: 5/10/2004

Msg: 28 (view)

When you know it's right? Posted: 12/7/2004 7:14:53 PM
I could feel your struggle as I read all your posts concerning BJ. I was going to suggest to you to copy and paste EVERYthing you had written in posting and print it for him. Give it to him one night and say, "This is how I feel and I need to know how you feel about what I wrote." Then you should have told him you were leaving that moment for home to give him a chance to read it, soak it all up and get back to you. I see upon reading the last posting that it came to its fruition already. It's always better to give an ultimatum on what you need from someone, than to go on forever tormenting yourself trying to guess at how they truly feel. I'm sorry it didn't work out. I'm also writing to say that I can understand a place for comfort instead of love. I have an ex who wouldn't let me love him; in fact he was down right inconsiderate to me and often. Neither of us had wanted a relationship when we met, but we liked each other and ended up in a relationship regardless. But regardless of all the torment I also got from that relationship wonderful affection, companionship, a strong attraction and pretty good sex, all of which I miss to this day. Sometimes when you can't get everything you need, you tend to settle for what you’re given and that's what I did. And some days I wish I could crawl back into his companionship just to get me through this time where I want to stay single until I can search for what I need again. I can understand in different ways, ways beyond my own, how people can just desire companionship instead of love. The true problem is that he wasn't upfront with you that, that is what he wanted. Since some people have a hard time being upfront, sometimes you have to ask straight out what they're looking for in the beginning so that you're not left wondering. Take care and don't give up, Dateless

Joined: 5/10/2004

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Interracial Dating.... Posted: 11/24/2004 12:12:36 PM
I really enjoy seeing two people of different cultures together. In my eyes there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. Additionally, I've never heard a good argument against it either. Instead of taking a poll on what other people think when there is nothing wrong with it, go with what your heart and mind tell you and if you run into problems or worry, start a poll on thoughts on how to deal with it.

Joined: 5/10/2004

Msg: 47 (view)

Am I jaded? Posted: 11/24/2004 12:01:56 PM
You are placing your anger in the wrong direction. If there is/was an issue of mistrust, it would be your soon to be ex, not marriage. Yes, you are jaded, but understandably so. Hopefully it will pass in time so that you can heal and move on and not be a bitter man. Bitter people tied up with what happened in the past are not that attractive to be around. Try and remember that everyone is different and also that everyone changes through the course of life. Perhaps there is something in all the terribleness that will help you in the future. Blame always goes both ways in a divorce. Perhaps it was neglect, or maybe you just judged her wrong, everyone has there reasons. Place your anger in the right direction for healing and then let it be. To help make that easier...think of divorce as a good thing. Although it is a terrible thing to happen and go through.....so would staying in an obviously bad marriage where one or two people in it are unhappy or miserable. In time you'll have a new chance in life for something different, don't ruin it or someone else by being jaded. Dateless

Joined: 5/10/2004

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~ Friday's Survey On Kissing ~ Posted: 10/30/2004 11:33:35 AM
Alright, this subject certainly got my attention. When involved in a relationship I place a big emphasis on kissing. Perhaps because I haven't had a good french kisser in ages. My last boyfriend would not french kiss at all, and although he was sensual, passionate and affectionate, I need a real kiss to go all the way. I find most men to be bad french kissers and I'm ecstatic when I find a man who does it good. Kissing, not only is a show of affection but it's the first step to set the mood and also furthers the excitement. When a man kisses bad, I am left feeling really detached from the moment and sometimes completely turned off. Here are some bad kissing experiences for men to look out for: #1. Turn your D* head! Two fully interlocking mouths need both heads to be cocked to the side enough to be good simultaneous tongue stroking. Tired off kissing men who refuse a neck breaking head movement to make it nice, lol. 2. Don't have slobbery lips. 3. Don't try and suck her tongue out. (at least not for me.) 4. Know the Big difference between licking a woman’s c* and kissing her! Not the same fellas....get with it. 5. Don't try to force how far your tongue will go in -- not sensual. and finally... #6. If your woman doesn't directly tell you that you are a great kisser, than there is always room to improve and/or you are doing it terrible and she is just going along with it because she kinda likes you and your feelings. You can ask what would make it better, how she would like it done different, and/or you can try and take one moment to completely relax and let her take lead...if she falls into play then you may be able to feel where you are supposed to be in there to make it nice and become a really hot turn-on you both will enjoy. Hope this helps the stragglers, Dateless

Joined: 5/10/2004

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Y dont guy's post there pic in profile?? Posted: 10/13/2004 2:19:40 PM
It is an accepted gender trait that males are more visually sexually stimulated than females. Such and importance can possibly lead to many women being self-conscious about their looks. It's common to hear a man state that he likes a woman’s breasts above hearing that a man likes a woman’s personality. Perhaps some men have a fear that women will be as harsh a critic when it comes to being visually attracted to them. Following is 8 reasons why some people don't post pictures. My reason being the last, although I do appreciate seeing other people's pictures posted. And in addition to the next reasons, there is also the fact that some men although on the site, are still not technologically advanced, lol....no, I'm kidding.....many people still do not have scanners, digital cameras, cams, etc. or access to them. Cheers, Dateless - A fear that one will be judged too quickly & harshly by posting a photo since you can see pictures without reading the full profile or even the beginning part of it. - Self conscious about appearance. - Afraid someone will think they are not sexy after they have declared it. - Don't want to be recognized by friends and relatives. - Want "who they are" their personality to be judged before one's looks. - Don't want people who know them already to have a means by which to anonymously message them or harass them. - A picture could possibly cut down on the number of interested parties since one way of judging someone is looks. Whereas if there is no pic, then people would only have words by which to judge someone and people who are particularly keen or people who have a dislike for a certain body type or facial features, etc. might still message such people. - Considers a picture of oneself personal property until given. Any picture on the net can be copied and saved and they may not want their picture available in this way.

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