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Opposite Sex Friends question Posted: 9/18/2008 4:43:16 AM
If she cannot tolerate jealousy she would give you no reason to appear jealous. Also that is not normal behaviour if she has nothing to hide. My best friend is a girl, we do talk and text quite a lot. While I wouldn't necessarily talk about everything we discuss, I would have no problem doing so if asked and I would certainly like her to get on with whoever I'm seeing. The fact that she is unwilling to discuss important stuff is also a good key indicator that the relationship won't last. Nothing you describe sounds right, I'd say move on and find someone worthwhile.

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Flowers Posted: 9/15/2008 10:12:41 AM
To me it shows a need to possess beauty and in trying you have sentenced it to death, how long do cut flowers last, maybe two weeks? If I got you plastic flowers or the whole plant you'd just think I was weird. Appreciated most women probably wouldn't see it this way and I can't talk for other men, but I find chocolate(s) work just fine, even if they don't last quite so long

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Do you have a best girl friend? Would you give her up for your girlfriend? Posted: 9/7/2008 11:12:30 AM
Yes, I do. No way, in hell, ever.

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Another Profile Review Posted: 6/13/2008 2:31:30 PM
Re-done my profile many times, what I have now seems ok to me, but I would say that! Feedback appreciated on everything, particularly anything that is missing or that comes across badly/poorly phrased/unclear. Any and all suggestions welcome!

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BRITISH comedy (UK posters encouraged!) Posted: 5/17/2008 5:22:27 PM
There are loads of good ones that have already been mentioned. One of the best that I haven't seen is 'A bit of Fry and Laurie'. Bill Bailey also does some very good shows with some great examples of British humour. - 'I'm English, and as such I crave disappointment.'

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Guys asking to meet with you immediately Posted: 5/17/2008 4:45:47 PM
I think you should both be comfortable with meeting, but it should be fairly quickly. 80-90% of language is non-verbal so I don't think you can really know if you're going to get on with someone till you meet then. There are also less expectations if you meet quickly. You are just seeing if you like them and they like you and not actually going on a 'date', I want to see who you are and how you are. Yes, I must have liked something to send you a message and then ask you to meet. I want to get to know you better. That's all! If there was some way I could get this across that was believable I would, but unfortunately it is indeed hard to tell who belongs in what category.

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You say no games... but is it even possible to play no games? Posted: 5/17/2008 8:19:14 AM
Why can't you show these things? Honest communication is something that can be very attractive. It's the difference between insecurities and issues. It is certainly possible to play no games. How do you avoid playing games at this stage? As a puller, you can't speak your mind in fear of offending people; as a pullee, you can't show your vulnerability and your hurt ego out of fear of making it worse. So you can't help but play.

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lack of communication can kill a relationship? Posted: 5/17/2008 7:58:06 AM
No communication almost always means it will eventually fail.

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Do men believe in True Love? Posted: 4/25/2008 2:13:32 PM
I would say pure love not true love, but yes it is real and I guess you could say there is a romantic imagery about it. It is also very rare.

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Im Confused about writing emails to guys....... Posted: 4/25/2008 1:56:15 PM
You do and forget those that say otherwise. I think it can be quite attractive for a woman to make the first move.

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The Essential Guide to Courting a Male Geek Posted: 4/25/2008 1:48:16 PM
The first five are about right. I think the next three are geek specific traits though, they are only displayed by some and not the stereotype as a whole.

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Certain topics are so emotionally upsetting to guys. Posted: 4/21/2008 3:25:14 PM
Some people seem to take it as a personal attack on their beliefs. I quite like having my beliefs challenged though, don't know if I could go out with someone who reacted so badly to a few challenging questions.

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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 4/20/2008 1:05:19 PM
You can't make a law against it, if you did where would it stop? Swap sexual gain for political gain in that sentence and then what happens? Shouldn't the reason for having sex being YOU want to, not cos of anything he's promising you, bought you or done for you? If you did do it for one of those reasons isn't it a bit like putting a price on yourself? If you need to be in love with someone before you have sex with them, then don't you love them for them - not because they claim to love you? If it is them you love then aren't you having sex because you want to make them feel good? If that's the case I don't see how it would come back on you. If it's just because they claim to love you then there should be some self-esteem issues not too far behind. I really can't see how any serious damage could be done if you have chosen the right reasons to have sex.

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Do you trust yourself? Posted: 4/18/2008 1:09:24 PM
As long as you know why you got burned and have learned from it I see no reason to doubt yourself. Your judgement has been good in the past, if you know why you made a bad judgement this time it will help you avoid making others in the future.

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Men.. Do you have to have the chase? Posted: 4/18/2008 1:02:47 PM
Simply put, no. If anyone shows an interest in me it's always flattering, particularly when women do it. If I showed interest and it wasn't returned to engage in 'the chase' would make me feel like a stalker. As you describe it, we're really talking about mind games and I've yet to see one that's productive. Having said that, there are plenty of men who do like the chase, in some cases it's the whole point and once they've 'caught' you they lose interest. I just don't think mind games have any part in a healthy relationship, so why start off with them?

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What should I do about this date...? Help Please!! Posted: 4/18/2008 12:43:47 PM
You haven't even gone out yet and he's asking about naughty fun. I'd say he wants one thing and it's probably not the same thing you want.

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28 year old virgin... Posted: 4/18/2008 12:37:30 PM
hey dont sweat it a guy who is really worth your time will not care if you are or not. actually he would probably respect you more for holding off. guy who dont are not worth your time or energy i wouldnt worry about those ones at all.. you cant hold back information with a boyfriend cuz then when they find out (cause they always do) they stop trusting you which isnt good I agree.

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do men like to be approached first? Posted: 4/13/2008 4:26:36 PM
I really like it when women approach me, shows they have confidence and it's quite flattering.

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what's wrong with saying thanks but no thanks Posted: 4/13/2008 4:07:39 PM
It would be nice, I've only sent two or three mails, but no responses of any kind. I always reply to mails that are sent to me, it's just polite, even if it's a 'no thanks'.

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 4/11/2008 6:30:06 PM
It's not very common, but certainly possible. My best friend is a girl and it really is a fantastic friendship, we've never so much as kissed and have absolutely no plans on doing anything sexual together. We have had to talk about it, but only because all our friends thought we either were, or should be, sleeping together!

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Any tips? Just curious... Posted: 4/11/2008 6:17:41 PM
Were you depressed when you wrote it? I actually really like it, if you lived in London, UK I would almost definitely send you a message, but only because I can see the extreme potential for positive in spite of all the negative you have written about. If you can see it too then it might be worth saying so! Your profile does effectively limit who will contact you as people who don't understand depression would either think you were trying to be funny or an absolute nut job, but for you I think that's a good thing as, like you say, you will probably get on far better with people who understand it. I really hope you find someone good for you!

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Quiet in here. Innit? Posted: 4/11/2008 5:56:38 PM
Seems ok actually, not too long, but enough to get the main details across. The only thing I'd say is your pictures. 1 Not all of them are very clear. 2 You have your arms crossed in two of them. 90% of all communication is non-verbal and women pick up on it faaaaar more than men. Crossing your arms typically indicates being closed or defensive, doesn't matter if you find it a comfortable position to stand in or the picture was taken when it was a little cold. It's completely at odds with what you say on your profile in which you effectively come across as open, caring and friendly. Apart from that I quite like it.

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Would you approach a woman just to be friends? Posted: 4/11/2008 8:47:57 AM
I get on better with women than with men so I'm very open to just being friends with them, if I approach someone it's because something about them has interested me and I would like to know more, I don't do it with the sole intention of asking them out.

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how long will you wait for sex? Posted: 4/11/2008 8:07:18 AM
Dating is where you get to know the other person, if I enjoy spending time with that person I will want to keep seeing them, I do not expect anything from them. The flirting and closeness will increase as you spend time together, it should happen naturally. Communication helps, it's only frustrating when a woman acts like she's going to ride you into next week and then goes in completely the other direction, usually screams power play and I hate games.

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SAGGING PANTS, crotch at the knees ... Do genitals really go down that far? Posted: 4/11/2008 7:34:04 AM
I wear mine somewhere around the hip which I find is comfortable and unrestrictive, they wouldn't fall down if left to their own devices, but if someone gave them a really good solid tug on they would probably come down, so I wear a belt just in case I find it quite amusing when the only thing covering a guys backside is his underwear and absolutely hilarious when you can see that they aren't comfortable walking cos their trousers are so low that they have to walk a certain way to keep them up!

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would you be jealous? Posted: 4/11/2008 7:06:02 AM
I would be quite pleased actually, as long as it wasn't in a perverted way. Guys who get in another guys face for looking at/talking to their girlfriend strike me as insecure or they think they own her, neither of which I would say is an attractive quality. I know lots of women like to feel like her man is protective of her, but if she's comfortable with it then why shouldn't I be?

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Do Christian Women Scare You Off ??? Posted: 4/11/2008 6:43:23 AM
I have no objection to people believing in something bigger than themselves or believing in an afterlife, heaven and hell and so forth, but for someone to be religious I think they are following the beliefs of another or the masses. It is not a bad thing, it can provide a great source of comfort, community and inspiration. However, it is open to interpretation, as shown by different types of the same religion, catholic, protestant, evangelical, jehovahs witnesses and so on, which one is correct? It is also open to abuse because of this as things can be twisted to interpret the message to a persons own ends. As you can probably tell I'm not a religious person, I do believe in an afterlife, but only because of philosophy, the rest of it I'm still not sure about though. I try to be a good person because I believe it is the right thing to do, not from fear of hell or that some supreme being will find a way of punishing me if I do something bad. Christian women, or women of any religion don't scare me, but because there is such a high chance that our beliefs will clash and as a persons beliefs are one of the most important things to them I would not expect any relationship to go very far.

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am i being stupid or just paranoid? Posted: 4/11/2008 6:02:02 AM
You haven't done anything wrong, at best this guy is just rude.

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Am I being unresonable? Posted: 4/11/2008 5:38:17 AM
I would be quite concerned if my partner couldn't spend 3 hours with the people I care about, considering it is also for your daughter, who he apparently likes, I think he should make the effort. If he loves you then it naturally follows that he wants you to be happy and if he can't put a bit of effort in for just 3 hours to do that he should at least have a much better reason for not wanting to.

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What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic? Posted: 4/11/2008 5:29:23 AM
If the person understands and can manage being bipolar it can be a good thing, one of my friends is bipolar and she is just the best person, ever. Alcoholism would tend to indictate that this is not the case with this person, in which case steer clear!

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Looking for feedback Posted: 4/9/2008 5:04:47 PM
Thanks for feedback, changed a couple of things, will need to add a bit more to it later and get some more photos :)

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Looking for feedback Posted: 4/8/2008 6:01:20 PM
I only signed up a couple of days ago, never done anything quite like this before so any and all feedback is welcome. How's the pictures? Is there anything about myself or anything else that I should add? Is there anything in there which should be rephrased, comes across badly or just plain shouldn't be there? Basically how do you think I can improve it? Lots of questions so thanks in advance for the answers

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Would love to help you out with your profile Posted: 4/8/2008 5:56:29 PM
I'm quite new to this so feedback would be much apprieciated, be as critical as you like, all feedback welcome!

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