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 Author Thread: are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 269 (view)
 
are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
Posted: 11/11/2009 11:07:23 AM
The issue of women and their baby rights when a woman is pregnant is part of the subject.

You can't do those sorts of things (like making sure a child has "a mother and father figure") with a pre-nup since state law always over-rides such one-one parent "contacts",

Newman v. Newman, 653 P.2d 728 (Colo. Sup. Ct. 1982) and Osborne v. Osborne, 428 N.E. 2d 810 (Mass. 1981) are part of a growing trend to allow couples to stabilize their obligations.

When a woman tries to destablize the relationship by running to court with the baby, there are intelligent alternatives to prevent that. Visiting a notary public with a contract before jumping into bed drunk can be wise. Sex doesn't have to be mindless. People are about to commit to an act which can produce an 18 year obligation, but are too irresponsible, drunk, heartless and lazy to drop by a notary public with a contract for 10 mins. One doesn't want to stop by the notary for a minute, she's stuck with it for 9 months. Yes birth control does fail.

Maybe giving the woman a sense of stability, like the man not drinking, a contract of commitment if pregnacy develops, would give her more confidence in the man. I see a lot of men who want to get drunk, have sex and walk away.

I know we men have been raised by television to act like Rambo Boys. All surface bravado with little real strength. Its time we start taking care of our obligations beforehand rather than acting like boys and whining. Women hate whiners.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 265 (view)
 
are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:10:27 AM
Boudicca you mean? She flattened Roman occupied London to protect her daughters and the young women of Britain. Or do you mean Queen Mab who built northern Ireland. Or Queen Elizabeth who destroyed the Spanish Armada? Celtic women are a powerful force.

Recent middle eastern Abrahamic male-centric religions since 300 BCE have unbalanced gender rights, then more recent secular laws over-enabling women without a significant lasting bond to the husband are a reaction to the middle eastern male-centric Our Lord religions which entered Europe and other areas which ran counter to the most conservative and longstanding religions we have had, the Goddess religions.

Ask her to sign a good pre nuptial which takes into account state and federal laws. A really lock tight one that doesn't leave any loopholes. The main concern is the child must have a mother and father figure.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 263 (view)
 
are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:55:50 AM
For countless millenia Women were the sole creators of life, they still are for the most part. They were incorporated into Goddess religions. Today women are empowered through secular laws, however Men are not integrated in those laws for the most part. So we have a broken Goddess religion today which does no service to the woman or man.

The earliest religious writing in the entire world at about the fifth millenia BCE was literally about the Bird Goddess becomes the Bear Goddess, discovered and deciphered recently in present day Belgrade, Serbia.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bird_goddess.

Dr. Toby D. Griffin deciphered part of it.
The Vinca-Tordos script.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vin%C4%8Da_symbols

We need to return to the old Goddess religions in which both women and men had an integrated relationship of unity. Giving rights only to one gender unbalances the longstanding natural relationship and bond between woman and man.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 102 (view)
 
Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:31:39 AM
It all has to do with knowledge and details in an effort to provide a more reasonable analysis for the man thinking about dating a Russian woman.




I don't believe that Russian or eastern European women are any more materialistic than other people that have come from cultures where there was no commerce and suddenly they are in stores where there is so much, they can't make simple consumer decisions.

I think genocide based on conformist criteria does affect the gene pool. Conformism can be conforming to socialism which has little variety in economic outlets, or conforming to economic consumerism of western capitalism. So instead of conforming to communism, they conform to capitalism.

If a Russian is allowed to live in the communist system because they conform to it, then when they reach the USA they will conform to capitalist and consumer principles. It's is often told how when Russia switched from idolizing the Red flag, those who were allowed to survive suddenly began weaing gold jewelry and idolized capitalist ideals. The only core value being addressed was conformism, Conforming to communism or conforming to capitalism. That is the dynamic going on after 50 million, about 25% of the population was removed, those who were the most outspoken non-conformists.




because again, people do what they must to survive so the way they think and their actual aptitudes would not be absent, just subsumed. Refraining from following natural tendencies does not erase them from the gene pool, but they remained lying dormant until a time when they could again be open about their talents and intelligence.


The trait of conforming is that of subsuming. Conforming oneself is showing extensive conformist genetic inherited character traits. The Communist state eavesdropped on private conversations between intellectuals. Saying they kept their beliefs from the public is not addressing the fact that to live, they had to keep their beliefs from their friends and mediums of notation, paper for example is important to the exercise of the intellect, though some writers used memory alone. Natural tendencies of of intelligence and talent are in fact expressed in private, which the state security listened in on. 25% of the population, the most non-conformist types, were taken out and genocided. That does affect the gene pool in terms of available character traits.

The extremely rare examples are Andrei Tarkovsky, who semi-sublimated his intellect to such a degree that his cinema advanced the art of the world. He, like Solzhenitsyn was expelled after the authorities began to understand his films.

www.ucalgary.ca/~tstronds/nostalghia.com/

The Sistine Ceiling of the Twentieth Century.



In the entire history of cinema there has never been a director, who has made such a dramatic stand for the human spirit as did Andrei Tarkovsky.




"Here we are at the threshold.

This is the most important moment of your lives.

You have to know that here

your most cherished wish will come true.

The most sincere one.

The one reached through suffering."

(from STALKER)


http://archive.sensesofcinema.com/contents/directors/02/tarkovsky.html.

If you're dating a girl who came from a family that had so many inherited conformist traits, that they never spoke up against the ruling regime ever, not even in private, then she has a strong conformist genetic capability, I'm not making a judgement on whether the genetic conformist trait is better or worse, it just is.

The point would be that if you wanted a conformist, conservative, mate, then she would be appropriate for you. She could conform to communism, she can conform to capitalism. If you want a good capitalist, find a good communist who was allowed to live under communism. However I've always said there are rare exceptions, the undiscovered daughter of a Tarkovsky, or Solzhenitsyn.

Look for the rare Russian woman who has survived through great finesse of the mind and spirit.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Are disproportionate age ranges requirements a red flag?
Posted: 11/9/2009 2:34:07 PM
Age is relative. There are 45 year old men who are in better triathlete shape than 25 year old gamers. ot necessarily Mel Gibson recently hooked up with a young Russian woman.There are 38 year old women in better shape than 23 year old women. It has to do with the person having the strong mind to stay in shape from age 18 onward. It's a life force.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/9/2009 1:41:26 PM
Just to understand what many Russian women have been through, their families, and culture.

Estimates are most recent as 61 million killed in the Soviet Communist system, which includes Gulags.

Lethal Politics: Soviet Genocide and Mass Murder Since 1917
www.hawaii.edu/powerkills/NOTE4.HTM

The authors of the Black Book of Communism, R.J. Rummel, Norman Davies, and others have attempted to give estimates of the total number of deaths for which Communist rule of a particular state in a particular period was responsible, or the total for all states under Communist rule.

The number of people killed under Joseph Stalin's rule in the Soviet Union by 1939 has been estimated as 3.5-8 million by G. Ponton,[28] 6.6 million by V. V. Tsaplin,[29] and 10-11 million by Alec Nove.[30] The number of people killed under Joseph Stalin's rule by the time of his death in 1953 has been estimated as 20 million by The Black Book of Communism, 43 million by R. J. Rummel,[31] and 50 million by Norman Davies.[32]

Davies, Norman. Europe: A History, Harper Perennial, 1998. ISBN 0-06-097468-0.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criticisms_of_Communist_party_rule.

Recently, you may not have been aware of it as there is nothing to buy, the Council of Europe has recognized the Communist genocide as murdered millions on January 25, 2006 in a resolution condemning the crimes of Communist regimes,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Council_of_Europe



Council of Europe Parliamentary Assembly

Resolution 1481 (2006)1

Need for international condemnation of crimes of totalitarian communist regimes

1. The Parliamentary Assembly refers to its Resolution 1096 (1996) on measures to dismantle the heritage of the former communist totalitarian systems.

2. The totalitarian communist regimes which ruled in central and eastern Europe in the last century, and which are still in power in several countries in the world, have been, without exception, characterised by massive violations of human rights. The violations have differed depending on the culture, country and the historical period and have included individual and collective assassinations and executions, death in concentration camps, starvation, deportations, torture, slave labour and other forms of mass physical terror, persecution on ethnic or religious grounds, violation of freedom of conscience, thought and expression, of freedom of the press, and also lack of political pluralism.

3. The crimes were justified in the name of the class struggle theory and the principle of dictatorship of the proletariat. The interpretation of both principles legitimised the “elimination” of people who were considered harmful to the construction of a new society and, as such, enemies of the totalitarian communist regimes. A vast number of victims in every country concerned were its own nationals. It was the case particularly of the peoples of the former USSR who by far outnumbered other peoples in terms of the number of victims.

4. The Assembly recognises that, in spite of the crimes of totalitarian communist regimes, some European communist parties have made contributions to achieving democracy.

5. The fall of totalitarian communist regimes in central and eastern Europe has not been followed in all cases by an international investigation of the crimes committed by them. Moreover, the authors of these crimes have not been brought to trial by the international community,


http://assembly.coe.int/Main.asp?link=/Documents/AdoptedText/ta06/Eres1481.htm

If you read it carefully to better understand Russian women is says: " The “elimination” of people who were considered harmful to the construction of a new society and, as such, enemies of the totalitarian communist regimes." That left the conformist inherited character traits in whole families.

I think it's important to understand what genocide on that scale, when families are selected on conformist character traits, what that does to the current population. That's the only way we can love a person, is by understanding them. We cannot deny the genocide of 50 million Russian who didn't conform. There is healing to do and a certain amount of understanding.

Many Russian women today are very conformist. The non-conformists, about 50 million mostly entire families, most of the artists, poets and writers, were genocided. We cannot deny genocide of the Russians.

Seeing a person in the context of their own ethno-cultural history enables us to make appropriate decisions in terms of knowing what type of person we want in a Relationship.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Looking to move in with my GF but family doesn't agree
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:48:43 AM
The goal is Marriage.

The Family thinks you two are just going to get cozy and sleep together, They probably don't think it's a fair test, and they are right.

The purpose of living or travelling together before marriage is to stress and test the relationship. If you just live together in an apartment it will be stress free. Marriage and kids add stress. So to simulate marriage, then you must look for some challenges you both can take together. Hiking in the cold, mud and rain, Having you work say 2 jobs. Increase the stress levels to see how you two deal with and help eachother.

Having the car breakdown and seeing what her reaction is. Does she panic?

Don't let it be an idyllic vacation. Stress it to test eachother. That's really the only purpose to live together before marriage. When the chips are down, are you two compatible?
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:21:19 AM
It's always a pleasure to find the less articulate women and weed them out. Thank you.

If I wanted that language I'd date a 19 year old. Very saucy. Can you teach our daughters to speak like that. Such a brain:



What a bunch of horse shit. There is more than one way to object to the way you live, many people managed to do quite well during Communism by being in the government. Kids with talent lived very decent lives in order to dance or play music. Religion didn't die despite the fact that it was illegal and everyone was supposed to be atheist.

Then you must consider the numbers of people that got out at various times throughout history that continued those genetic lines and those that went back after Communism ended


You still need to explain the common relationship issues of why women from Communist cultures we meet are so often materialistic. Yes there are materialist, shallow minded people, in every nation and culture, however, it is not contested that the genocide of 50 million Russians based largely on conformist criteria, did impact the present day Russian woman. To deny that is to deny the effects of socialist-agenda genocide which was aimed at a personality trait.

This is the part I adore the most:


many people managed to do quite well during Communism by being in the government.

You mean they were concentration Gulag camp guards and their administrators? How is being a part of genocide considered doing well, How do you define that? Just looking for some relationship morals here.

Those that did dance and play music conformed to either socialist composed approved music or didn't have a career and in the worst cases were simply sent to the Gulag to die, which happened to many artists who dared to post exhibitions which were deemed non-conformist.

There are rare exceptions, but there is also a general consensus from many American men about relationships with Russian women who were born from familes which were conformist.

The Relationship issue is we have to be patient with Russian women, understand where they came from, and do our best to bring out their true heritage. Appreciate diversity.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/9/2009 9:49:07 AM
Filmmakermike,
so you are saying American women in general are less affected by commercialism because they have revolutionary blood? Soviet union was established by revolution in early 20 century. and still many Russian people are very creative, smart and courageous even after genocide and I don't understand what on earth 'the revolutionary blood of the founding of USA' has anything to do with commercialism of now 200 something years later. People all over the world now are ruled by commercialism from western countries especially from USA.


The difference between contemporary Russians and contemporary Americans is that those who were revolutionary in the Soviet Union were killed off by the Marxists, entire families, destroying those genetics for good in many cases. I think you need to appreciate that Communism's genocide was mostly about annihilating those they considered counter revolutionary, basically those who just still had a non-conformist trait in them. That didn't happen in the USA. That doesn't mean the USA is filled with American Revolutionary types, but it does mean those US bloodlines have remained intact. When 50 million of the most outspoken Russians are genocided then it does change the personality traits of the populace. That is the purpose of genocide, to remove entire families and their genes who share common traits. There are rare exceptions of those families who had the mind to be outspoken who managed to survive. However even today they can be extraordinarily cautious and afraid.

The families the Communists left were largely those who were not outspoken in political or religious beliefs, who conformed, who went to GUM and shopped. Worked and shopped. It was a low level of commercial consumerism. Not all, but much of the outspoken family traits were genocided. Russia will rebuild in time. People don't exist in historical vacuums. At least we can understand why differences exist and appreciate them.

The Marxist Communists also did this to Poland and the Polish people, genocided millions of the most outspoken.

A large part of the Russian and Polish women who come to the US today do want to conform as those are the types of genetics left after the genocide of 50 million of the non-conformist families, just as many Americans do. Conforming is material wealth, not spiritual, artistic or intellectual wealth. Solzhenitsyn and Tarkovsky are rare exceptions. The Bolshoi Ballet is conformist. That is why each Russian and Polish woman must be carefully judged on their freedom of mind, if that is important to you.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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caught my fiance having cyber sex and text sex with other women
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:18:44 PM
She may have sexually abused by a male when she was young. Try to understand her better.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:59:37 PM
You seemed to not know the Communist Gulags existed from 1917-1987 and committed the genocide of 50 million people, largely based on conformist criteria, which is important to understand a Russian woman.

Now, you are showing understanding.

I've always had a great understanding. You didn't grant me it. I also form personal opinions on the deepest scope of Russian history and it's people.

I've said I like some American women more than Russian women in general for certain reasons. That's a judgement I'm entitled to have. It's also a judgement that is based on profound understanding of how history changes cultures, genetics, and personality traits.

Russian people and Russian women are owed compassion by us in America and Canada who stood by silently supporting their genocidal Communist regime. Russian women do deserve our time.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:45:44 PM
No, most of the murders were committed in the initial decades.

History shows the Gulags committed genocide from 1917 through to 1987. That is seven decades and it was not highest in the inital decade. I don't know why you are trying to downplay the genocide or the effects on a population.

Try to have some compassion for a people who have had to survive genocide. The Russian people are great people. To answer the OP, it's the exception, not the norm, that a Russian woman will be a gold digger.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:22:22 PM
Get her a bottle of Vodka to help her hit bottom.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:10:13 PM
In any significant The slaughtering nature of communism that you describe only lasted a generation. This isn't long enough to wipe out a culture's genetic structure.


It lasted three generations. From 1917 to 1987. The last Gulag closed in 1991.

Not totally wipe out. But destroy certain traits in a large part of the population. In time those will rebuild. This is why I say judge not too harshly Russian women today.

The younger generation has adjusted very quickly.

That's what the Communist Gulag camp heads said. Nobody adjusts quickly when generations of a person's family are murdered.

The persecution of the Russian people created the 1970 era filmmaker Andrei Tarkovsky, who is the greatest artist since Michelangelo history will show.

Michelangelo created the Sistine Ceiling under death theats from the ruling regime. So did Andrei Tarkovsky.

Today the Russian people still are the most poetic on earth. That doesn't mean there aren't some shallow gold diggers in California today. There are always exceptions. Rare people.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:55:31 PM
Creative people are smart. They recognise the reality of their time and adjust accordingly. I would suggest to you that the brilliant Russians hid their talent.


You are right here. Solzhenitsyn was one of the few who had the strength to survive. Of course he survived by hiding his talent until we knew about it.


Gulag is singular and not plural. It actually the Gulag.
Questions?

Gulag can be plural, depsite its acronym for a singular system. Just as PC can be PC's. But that is in English.


It somehwat may be a fact of upbring that you eentually may adjust. But do you really believe in 300 year crap? P.S. communism was launched shortly after 1917 where is 300 years here????


Communism selected entire families because one parent was a non-conformist. That meant they were targeting the genetics of the children even, To destroy that rebellious blood line. Blood lines are genetic and take time to rebuild.

The Russian woman I'm addressing should know that the hidden culture in the Communist era was large. what they have been through on a comprehensive scale.

Russian fillmmaker Andrei Tarkovsky was the greatest achievement of the last century, and he was in reaction to Communism. He was able to survive and yet advance the history of Art.

Andrei Tarkovsky was the greatest artist, a filmmaker who put Godard and the West to shame.

True, those that were simply lucky or sublime enough to survive Communism, did create the only Art of the last century, but at great cost.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:35:40 PM
They are extremely stubborn and assertive. This is also why so many walk away from their American husbands. Often their husbands can't handle this assertiveness once they arrive in North America.

You are right in your observations. However the causes of young Russians, and I've known Russian female emigres from age 19 to 59, is that it's a fundamental genetic issue. The Gulags simply annihilated the genetic liine of any family who showed resistance, or revolutionary spirit. Those entire families and their genetic code was wiped out. 50 million people and their families.

Aculturation doesn't change who people are. Russian women, age 19-49 today are the product of the Gulag culling. Those who were allowed to live had submissive and mercantile minded genetics. Those that valued poetry, art, music, anything that defied Marxism, were removed from the living.

This is not to judge harshly Russian women today. This is to help explain their side. They have the genetics today of commercialism and submissiveness or vacant commercial reaction to that submissivness that Communism demanded.

Russian genetic pool will recover in about 300 years to what it was before Marxism murdered 50 million of the most creative, non-commercial, outspoken, Russians.

We can still love people for who they are. There is no need to make them just like us. Offer compassion. If you look deep inside a Russian woman today, you will see a small strand of her ancestors long ago. Try to develop that. She will thank you.

When 50 million people are selected to be annihilated because of their refusal to conform, then it damages several hundred years, if not more, of genetic code.

There are exceptions. Families of those who defected early on.

 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Russian women with US citizenship
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:10:06 PM
My experiences have been that they are very manipulative and for all practical purposes just gold-digging. They don't look you in the eye when talking with you. They will always expect the guy to foot the bill..


The Communist Gulags killed off about 50 million of the most creative, emotional and revolutionary minded Russians. I like American women because some of them still have the creative, free thinking and revolutionary blood of the founding of the USA. That's the main difference I have noticed in dating women who survived Communism and some American women.

When a person simply doesn't have revolutionary genetics, the courage and creativity, then they can be rather focused on commercialism.

Often there is a much larger dynamic of why people who they are. Understanding that at the cultural, historic and genetic level is fundamental.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Was I wrong ??
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:46:01 PM
I have been emotionally abused and need to deal with that and move on.


I agree with you. I know video game addicts. They are very egotistical and hurtful because they have their ego built up in these imaginary games which they control and build their own artificial egos in.

My best supportive advice considering your recent post is to maneuver him into addiction treatment such as AA which will break his ego connection with artificial worlds and get him back into reality, which for him sounds like it may need a significant spiritual connection of some sort.

He may just have to hit bottom hard.

Tough love. Have your loving father terminate his employment so he hits bottom hard. Then you send him some AA literature. Wait about 4 years and see if he has recovered.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Was I wrong ??
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:35:19 PM
Since marriage or formal bond recognition was not important to either of you, then your only choice is to ask your father's company team to design a better video game that can addict him back to you.

Video games can be addictions which require a spiritual re-connection to break free from. If you are bright, and you probably are, construct an elaborate Shakespearean Merchant of Venice plot to design a better video game with your CEO father to entrap his mind back to you. Portia's suitor must choose the right video game. In this case you modify that to create different circumstances in his head.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Influential Visual Artist
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:13:32 AM
Michelangelo. The first to bring comprehensive perspective and 3D graphical composition to the figurative genre. Michelangelo is the Bach of painting with far more advanced graphical compositions than Leonardo da Vinci or any since.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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Abusive Women : Signs to watch out for
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:32:08 AM
Lets not confuse an abusive woman who is attempting to abuse, with her actually being successful in that abuse.


........my 13" boot up her ass... right that second..pfft!

It's a character issue. Go ask around and see how many "real" alpha males getting abused by their female partners.....I'll be waiting....


It's a cultural issue. European Celtic Brehon Law offers extensive protection of women in society. Middle Eastern Shahira Law or Mosaic Law on the other hand has more of what you are talking about. This is not to cast judgement on either culture, just to point out the factors involved.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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omg that explains alot!!
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:19:07 AM
Using the acronym OMG is where the issue is. First understand the situation, then there's no more OMG. I think the problem is in understanding. You can do research into psychology on the side.

The OMG mindset is one of misunderstanding, a shock. To remove that shock, just research the subject out.

I think what you found out does less to explain the subject than you would like. OMG means you don't understand the explanation in full. In time you may if you apply effort. Right now you have partial understanding.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 309 (view)
 
Abusive Women : Signs to watch out for
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:33:00 AM
The OP:

Other Signs : Slaps. Punches. Kicks. Threats. Verbal bashing.
Emotional bashing. Pretends to be your friend, yet hurts you.
Pretends to be doing all these things for your own good.


The OP is actually right.

It wasn't until I met a psychotic abusive woman one time that I found out that these creatures do exist. They can be extremely physically violent. Of course as Men we can't respond, so the situation becomes untenable to continue. They apologize and their violence goes away for a while, but it nearly always returns. We are talking slaps, punches, kicks, hitting, threats, etc. I think it may be tied to childhood expressive conditioning as well as quite possibly heavy psychotropic drug use, ecstasy, some LSD, which has altered their brain chemistry and neurology to prohibit constructive social behavior.

I told her that I believed violence was totally unacceptable, and she would amend her behavior, but it was always there. It would periodically, during one of our seven break ups, resurface again and again. I finally just had enough of it. At a certain point you just have to accept you won't change them, that you can't help them.

These women are caught in the vacuum of gender expectations crossover and become extremely frustrated. The physical violence part still remains a mystery to me. I just don't understand why a woman would become physically violent, it seems so strange yet it does happen. I now know this to be the case.

I basically told her I could never marry her because I didn't want my kids to inherit her propensity for violence. I didn't want her hitting our kids. Violence is unacceptable.

The sign to watch out for is disproportionate use of violence. An overly hard slap for a minor infringement, things like that should be signs that something is wrong. That this person's perception is way off calibration.

There is a chill, and a feeling of something scary when you realize they react with an amplification that they themselves may not fully understand.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
is there a reason that girls in vancouver dont look/smile at guys?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:41:45 AM
As a photographer I had some outrageously open and engaged contacts with Vancouver women. Probably the best out of 24 countries. On a par with Sydney, Stockholm. In terms of friendliness.

Once you break through the ice of a foreign culture, they become very open.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
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What is art?
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:34:33 AM
Actors and Dancers are artists all as well.

Art invokes the aural and Music invokes the visual. The Dramatic arts inspire the Plastic arts and vice versa.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 465 (view)
 
Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive?
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:21:57 AM
I think natural blondes are more attractive. The women in my family are all blondes, so it's just natural that that is what I feel a kindred spirit to.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 64 (view)
 
What is art?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:39:49 AM
Art is beauty.

The fact that beauty can be quantified is why art exists. There are universal structures in the physical visual world which many people find beautiful. The visual art of Tarkovsky or Michelangelo uncover some of the roots common visual mystery. Beauty is physical and in on the path to mystery, the sublime.

Art is the beautiful process by which humankind further understands the mystery of life and eternity.
Tarkovsky, Michelangelo, Bach, Shakespeare.

The antithesis of Art is revolutionary Marxist Bolshevism, the destruction of refinement of the consciousness.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 125 (view)
 
He is 32 and lives at home?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:12:02 AM
Look for a man that has built a house for his parents at age 28.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How to know if he Likes you, Likes you
Posted: 10/27/2009 2:58:46 AM
Men do love Women. The Turn Around is a reflection of the deep bond Men have for Women. We want to be with you, a lot. The instinctual attraction for a man towards a woman is extremely powerful. We don't want to part from you. We never want to be apart from you.

To put it in women's terms taking a man away from the woman is the same as taking the baby away from the mother. It's that kind of bond.

Woman tears herself apart from child. Man tears himself apart from woman. It's biological.

Some Turn Arounds are so powerful that the couple just end up back in bed that morning.

Goodbye, goodbye, see you tonight, goodbye....oh the hell with it. Morning is over.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Would you date a cheater
Posted: 10/27/2009 2:44:10 AM
issues with trust, bitterness, and insecurity that stems from that.

For me it's not so much those elements as that of disdain. I lose respect for the person. It doesn't change the way I feel about myself or relationships, only the sole character of that person.

If a person wants to sample other fleshpots, then just cut off the relationship for good. I simply see cheaters as weak. Now they can gain courage over time and development, so they can be rehabilitated.

It's not bitterness, it's pity and sympathy for the girl who has to cheat because she doesn't know who she is. Knowing a poor, confused soul does not make me bitter. Pity is a form of love and caring not bitterness.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
poetry as foreplay
Posted: 10/27/2009 2:22:32 AM
Poetry is great deep foreplay emotionally. You can pass a sheet of poems to a potential lover and start a year long relationship. Poetry builds confidence between kindred hearts. There are things that poetry can communicate that prose cannot. There are great, great poems by Shelley. Great poems are ageless.

I once passed a date a set of poems and we spent the next year in eachothers arms in nature, bed, everywhere. Poetry builds trust between like minds. I wrote poetry living alone in NSW.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 130 (view)
 
Would you date a cheater
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:20:00 PM
Cheaters usually come from families in which the parents were not married for 50 years or more. They have no appreciation or education in fidelity. They don't understand the idea. Nobody taught it to them. Love to them is changing brands, commercialism, not changing oneself for another person to merge together.

One is not an idea cheaters get.

The U2 song of "One" is about Love.

The idea of growing apart is learned from divorced parents who are selfish and don't care about the principle of love, family, children and the pagan Druid Gods.

Would I date a cheater? No because I date courageous women, women who have the courage and ability to be alone until they find their mates. Those riding several horses because they are afraid to be alone, don't know themselves, are cheap commercial products without value. A woman riding a horse as she looks for better rides is the lowest of human beings, somebody without a soul, strength or character.

When I run across a cheap, falsely confident, empty, mulit-rider, I just have to laugh in her face. They usually get shaken, but it doesn't change them. Corruption levels are in the genetic code we are born with.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 57 (view)
 
No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:11:19 PM
If you were with someone for a while and they never gave you an orgasm, would you leave them? Would it be a legit excuse to end it, especially if there were other problems in the relationship? Or would that be a petty reason to dump someone?


All women can have an orgasm, each one is different, it can either be physical manipulation or psychological. It can take a little extra brains and work. Sometimes they don't even undertstand their own psychology completely and you can unlock them. Sometimes they understand part of themselves and their machine. I can be like driving a different car or rebuilding a motor.

Orgasm absence are not a dealbreaker, just a problem to work out. Couples should have the orgasms at the same time for best fertilization and happy children. Smiles on faces come from some event.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 86 (view)
 
Problems with the Past
Posted: 10/26/2009 3:10:30 AM
One of the hardest things is taking partial responsibility for any crimes committed against oneself. This is a critical aspect of personal history recognition. Especially between the partners in a relationship. If they both see abuse from the same angle, then they will have an easier time. If each sees the context of abuse from strongly different angles, then there will really be no meeting of minds. I have found that most abused don't heal unless they take partial responsibility for being a victim., It's nothing that can be forced on a person, they have to do the work to do a searching and fearless moral inventory and stop living in a psychodynamic world of the perpetual victim. Abuse survivors are beyond a doubt people with the most character in this world.

The remorse in abuse recovery psychology is from the feeling that one did not protect the body that was given by the higher power to oneself, this commonly translates as guilt. Victim guilt can be changed into responsibiltiy when enough thought is applied to the history and it's actually thought about rather than blacked out from memory as in many severe abuse cases.

One of the greatest recovery tools for severe abuse is seeing where one could have escaped from the situation. The abuse could have been so traumatic that the thought of thinking about it is prohibitive. But thinking about it, going through the flashbacks, begins to set forth the cognitive reality of the circumstances surrounding the crimes, circumstances which could have led to escape back then. Realizing that one did not keep their head and blacked out, but could have escaped from the situation, is tough. Re-experiencing flashbacks can in some cases be life-threatening, so it's best to let nature take its course as flashbacks are part of the natural cognitive process. But it leads to longterm healing because the abuse victim now sees the mistakes of the past and can prevent them in the future.

The victim essentially owns their own abuse and are then in control. They have taken responsibility for their part in it. It's extremely harsh barrier to pass for many, but it's vital for strength. Spiritual growth and practice is a very significant part of this whole process.

I say this because I've known women who have struggled with childhood sexual abuse and have not
survived. Drugs, destruction, death. There are many good souls out there to save. Really good people, the best.

It takes an abuse victim to know one. Regular people don't have a clue. Understanding is tacit.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 151 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 10/17/2009 1:30:46 AM
I like strong willed women because you can see what they want to do much earlier. There's another type of strong willpower, the ability of a woman to endure physical hardship such as mud, rain, cold, vertical, to see how tough mentally she really is. Does she have the willpower to physically endure nature's elements, does she have a tenacious mind to survive -30 below and +130 while packing, lifting, hiking. Not many city girls can handle that. A strong willed person is strong enough to go your way and still get what they want done. Is she strong willed enough to fight 5 ft waves swimming in freezing cold ocean across a bay at Scotland or B.C.'s latitude in late fall. I want to see what she's made of, not a suburban stomping hissy fit.

I expect a blue face from the cold and a smile written across her face of silence. Willpower is silent. Willpower of a chief female executive is one of determined, silent, moving the parts around of a company.

A person who opens their mouth doesn't have a strong will. Unless singing and performing are their professions. Willpower is exhibited by a woman being capable of staying up 2-3 days working on her projects. That impresses me.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Dating more than one person at a time
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:41:21 AM
Dating 40 people or 2 people at one time shows, in my opinion, a very low intelligence. One does not know oneself well enough to determine who is compatible.

The more one Simul-dates, the lower one's intellect and comprehension are. There's nothing wrong with not knowing thyself well enough that you can't figure out if 1 or 1000 people are needed to sleep with, it's just not my morals.

Sleeping around with multiple partners I think shows an extremely low self-knowledge.

The prostitute who does that isn't fooling herself that she's looking for love. Usually.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 103 (view)
 
What gym behavior annoys you the most?
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:18:04 PM
Standing around talking on cell phones.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Help me make my meal plan
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:42:06 AM
To gain control of your diet eat:

Raw Kale
Raw cabbage by the head.
Yeast is one of the best to balance.
Garlic to clean out the sugar infestation.

You want to stabilize your body with vitamins and minerals so all unbalanced cravings cease.
Cut out all refined sugar and alcohol. See if you can go a year without sugar and alcohol. Both leech out vitamins, minerals and enzymes from your body.

Lots of raw vegetables, and it won't be fun. But you have to do it. You will like it after you start.

Chew on a raw whole beet. Wash it off and chomp into it. You'd be surprised what you can eat.

Buy an organic raw cabbage head, wash it. Sit down and just eat it whole, completely, all the way through. Make it your dinner. Let it settle in your stomach and then listen to your stomach to find out what next to eat to balance it out. Your body will tell you. That's the best test of nutrition.

A whole head of organic cabbage, though bitter, can be a really great meal.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
when to eat
Posted: 10/13/2009 1:04:13 AM
Vegan diets are great for sports training so you get a fast turnaround. When to eat as a Vegan has much more flexibility than other diet regimes. Ones training schedule can go down to 2 hr intervals, instead of 4 hr intervals.

 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Nobel - The devaluation of an institution
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:50:01 AM
In the international context, Nobel Prizes are to glorify Nobel, not the recepient. They always were.

In the US, Obama, the alleged liberal, increases 25,000 US troops to kill more children in Afghanistan.
How is that Peace? The political context of the Nobel prizes reflect on the giver, Nobel, a munitions maker.

It's like Dow Chemical, the inventor of Napalm, giving out a Peace Prize.

Australian Dame Joan Sutherland should have won a Nobel Prize in her time. This is why the prizes are political.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Culture in Australia. Is there any?
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:27:04 PM
It is not a great fear of mine that a totalitarian regime will sweep through Australia and cull our intellectuals, because our culture essentially does that already... insidiously, brilliantly and, to my mind, just as brutally.

Insidious, not brilliant.

It goes beyond cultural marxism and deep into cultural bolshevism. In the true meaning of the word.

Truer words have never been spoken out in Perth. You begin to describe the bolshevik totalitarianism that has struck the arts in the West since 1920's. I think you may be aware of it.

The fine arts and culture of Australia or New York are the same. The identical power broker's insidious non-thinking, non-feeling, promotions of anti-art. Having lived in Australia for a number of years, I observed the same international cultural bolshevism going on. Of which gallery could out-bolshevik the other.

Australia has produced Gilliam Armstrong and her film "High Tide" which should be noted among Australia's higher cultural achievements. The classical arts do have a reach to the very sensitive and intelligent, about .01% of the population, just not the mining executives and their trophy wives of Perth.

You use the word "brilliantly", I wouldn't term impending failure brilliant by any means. Cultural bolshevism is being undermined by the web media on a daily basis. Australia, like all nations today, faces a battle of content reality, what people are thinking in the universal transcendent context. There is so much political indoctrination and filler, but civilizations have always treated the arts that way. It's rare that powerful art will emerge without political ties. As artists we have to use formal, extremely complex, powerful, universal structures to get the message through. Abstract art and Reality TV are bolshevism.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Getting over Shyness? >.>
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:16:25 PM
With strangers: Smile and say Hi a lot. Don't care what people think. Just be freindly. People don't care about you, they are primarily interested in themselves. Listen to them and help them get what they need.

A lot of times very bright people are shy. So a shy to a shy needs them to think about what's important to them and ask direct questions.

 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Problems with the Past
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:57:52 PM
Take your time, learn about each other your desires, goals and things. Two months is too short of a time to get into those very deep issues in my opionion. And if you don't know the person all that well, you will be traumatized again by the lack of understanding from another person you thought you could confide in or trust.

This is super good advice^ Cindy. It's very real. It can save a lot of hurt.

The funniest thing is when the non-abused partner says the abused has to go into counselling, when its the other way around.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 826 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:57:56 PM
I cook and love to cook. I have 3 boys who have been taught to cook also. Cooking doesn't always have to be looked at like its a chore. I have enjoyed lots of family time with my kids -- all of us in the kitchen cooking and FYI also all of us cleaning up.
And cooking with someone special sounds like a great date to me. So OP -- go buy a cookbook, get your girl and your buns in the kitchen and get to cookin'.


Exactly, women who know how to cook should, when possible, teach their sons as well.

I've had to teach a few women how to cook after I learned it from my mother. Once you learn good food you will die for it. The taste buds are developed at an early age, must be. Cooking takes tremendous work, foresight, intuition, courage, and determination. It's a full time job, talk to any chef.

Good food makes the children more intelligent and creative. That's my hunch.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 824 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:47:45 PM

I take much pride in my cooking and always have. Not too long ago, my stuffed flounder elicited a marriage proposal from the gentleman I'd served it to. LOL.


So very true. I feel the same way about good food. If she can cook, the imagination of the world is hers. Honesty and cooking will get a marriage proposal.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 145 (view)
 
How did you lose your first love?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:02:07 AM
She was killed by a drunk driver. Age 19.

Took me about 8 years to get over it. It was a shock for a while. I didn't smile or laugh for a number of years. I was an artist and I developed even more getting through it. I finally realized that the Gods can take away the one you love with all your heart in this world, and there is nothing you can do about it but get on with life and try again.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 81 (view)
 
new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/7/2009 11:52:57 PM
Get her to an AA meeting. Buy her a tub of ice cream on the way home to help her get through withdrawl.

Sounds to me she's using alcohol as a way of avoiding dealing with interpersonal feelings. A little spiritual boost is all she needs and whole lotta huggin'.

She;'s probably are really good person with a lot of issues. I love women with issues. They are so interesting and have such depth. I'm bored with those who haven't lived life. Get her to talk, get her to share about why she drinks. Be there for her.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Problems with the Past
Posted: 10/7/2009 10:35:18 PM
I don't think it's wise to hold anything back about the past. Sexual abuse creates very powerful issues to address between a couple. If one partner doesn't have the willingness to accept and deal with it, then it's a breaker. Divorces happen that way.

Individuals who have not experienced sexual abuse have zero clue how that changes their partner. It is a one way learning experience. There is no negotiation.

Bring it up when you are about to get engaged. See if it breaks the possibility of engagement.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 120 (view)
 
Lying on your profile...not really divorced!!
Posted: 10/7/2009 10:24:28 PM
Rule 1. Search through all her drawers for the signed divorce papers. Unsigned ones will only lead to heartbreak.

I knew a woman who kept three sets of unsigned divorce papers in her drawer. Deciding which one in which country to divorce for the cash. A little unsettling.

She was very attractive and had the pick of the litter.
 FilmmakerMike
Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
What Are the Fundamental Tools of Building Emotional and Mental Intimacy?
Posted: 10/7/2009 9:29:44 PM
The main tool is Listening to your mate, not commenting, not judging, just hearing her and thinking about it. How you react, what actions on your part change, will earn her respect and trust. It's unspoken.

She may smile because she knows you have eventually understood the way she is. People speak not to conform but allow themselves to grow. Hearing that and helping build that growth is key. Sometimes you have to let the person go and do what they want. It doesn't mean the spiritual connection between you two is not there, it will always probably be there.

Getting closer can mean growing apart.
 
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