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 Author Thread: Alternative lifestyles
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 230 (view)
 
Alternative lifestyles
Posted: 6/18/2008 2:50:20 PM
Something on this forum triggered this thought :

Say a parent goes to a babysitters house to drop their kid off for the evening. The babysitter says 'Go have fun, I'm going to smoke some weed while you're out.' Would ANY PARENT (even those that partake) actually leave their child there!?!?!?

Guess what *Dustie* - YOU are that babysitter - THREE times a week!!
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 224 (view)
 
I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 1:48:43 PM
OP - its your God given right to be able to get high? What about people who feel its their God given right to practice a religion that sacrifices animals? There's a LOT of 'God given rights' that our society takes away from us to keep us civil, and whether this one is right or wrong, this society has taken away pot-smoking.

A see quite a few problems with your need to smoke :

o Its illegal, and you have to deal with people doing illegal things, who generally aren't the crowd you would want around a child.
o You daughter WILL find out if she doesn't know already. How could you possibly tell her drugs are wrong if YOU are doing them? She will think pot is perfectly OK. Then whats wrong with a little crack - after all, Mom says occasional drugs are OK. And why not try heroin ?
o Say you are high when she goes into convulsions, or has an accident. How great a driver will you be getting to a hospital or calling for help?
o You better HOPE your ex doesn't know, or doesn't get pissed off at you, because he could VERY EASILY take your daughter away. EVERY judge in the country will remove her from your custody because you engage in illegal activities that endanger her life!

I think its time to grow up!! You had your chance to party when you were sans child. Now its time to be an adult. It was your choice to become a mother, now act like one.
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Girlfriend’s Kid by Artificial Insemination---No Dad was Wanted!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:17:25 AM
I don't understand the people that say the child will resent their mother that used AI. You think they will say (in all seriousness, not it a fit of anger) 'Damn, Mom, I'd rather not exist then to have only you as a parent'?? Thats crazy.

Many children have 2 good parents that stay together, which is ideal. Others have good parents that get divorced - not ideal but they are cared for and loved. But many children have parents that split up and hate each other, pulling the kid between them, emotionally hurting them greatly. Others might never know their father due to his or their mothers actions.

How about this - would a child be better off knowing they were a mistake of a 1-night stand, or they were lovingly brought into this world because they were desperately wanted? I think being WANTED and LOVED is the key, not whether its with two parents. An unwanted child with 2 parents is much worse off, than once parent who went through great lengths to have them. Of course I hope the woman is financially and emotionally ready to be a mother... but there are certainly MANY couples that aren't ready but still have kids.

And adoption? Its a great thing. But it could cost $50k and a single older woman almost has to go overseas or to South America. It can also take about 2 yrs. If all her parts 'work', then she might as well get some decent sperm and go to it!
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
So you met on the internet and you hit it off, what do you tell people about where you met?
Posted: 5/30/2008 12:32:28 PM
Well, honesty is the best - its pretty common these days.

But you're asking all the people that obviously have NO problem with online dating if they are stigmatized about online dating!! If you REALLY care what other people think (and you shouldn't) then you need to ask people that do not find dates online!
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 250 (view)
 
Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:21:44 PM
I haven't read the entire thread, but agree with 1missblueeyes - I would NOT enter a relationship with a person with BPD. My ex, while not clinically diagnosed, exhibited many of the traits of it. We were in counseling and during a solo session the counselor mentioned BPD so I did some research.

My ex was so irrational, blowing the tiniest things WAY out of proportion. She would go from fine to ballistic in a heartbeat, and then never let it go. Every day I waited to see which thing would set her off and make her pissed for the rest of the night. She also started a marriage-killing 'addiction' while we were trying to fix our marriage with counseling. And all this time we had 2 kids under 3, which she gave zero thought about.

She's better now (was on meds for a while), but she threw away our marriage and family and I am tied to her for the rest of my life. I don't wish this experience on anyone.

DO NOT sign up for this if you don't have to.
 twocycles
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Pedophile or not?
Posted: 5/23/2008 5:35:53 AM
Are you kidding?? Alcoholic, pedophile, DUIs and who knows what else??? Are the pickings really that slim where you live? That is WAY beyond baggage - there has to be better choices that that.

Be objective about it - if your best friend came to you and described her new boyfriend like this, wouldn't you tell her to run away?
 
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