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lightyellowishgreen

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How to draw boundaries with your girl friend/boy friend Posted: 4/7/2007 8:18:07 PM
K-lo : you are a leo and Im an Aries !! if that means anything.lol. 1) what each partner can tolerate, She can tolerate. I cannot. 2) whether double standards are involved, No not involved 3) exactly how does the gf/bf feel about their ex combined with how the ex feels about them, and Sounds platonic at this moment 4) underlying all of these things, how secure and confident do you feel with your partner, beyond this "ex" issue. Im pretty confident she is not going to engage in sexual relationship at this point because the guy is engaged to his fiance . But she admits that this guy has slept with several women despite being in relationships in the past..his fiance knows it and its cool with her ..I trust my girl friend's feelings for me but what i dont know is her history in the past and how she will be in situations like this. After all, Is it really that hard to disconnect friendship with an ex for the sake of your current loving boy friend ?

lightyellowishgreen

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How to draw boundaries with your girl friend/boy friend Posted: 4/7/2007 7:36:42 PM
K-lo Thanks for the response.I agree mostly. "THIS type of thing can even happen with someone who is a non-ex. ?" Ladies, Im only referring to your partner being friends with Someone they had sexual relationship with !!!!!! There is some difference ..dont you agree between being friends with an ex sexual partner and ex platonic friend? Am i being too shallow here? Is it okay for me to feel uncomfortable and still care for the person ?

lightyellowishgreen

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How to draw boundaries with your girl friend/boy friend Posted: 4/7/2007 6:42:56 PM
Casey, I like your answer.But i feel its too ideal. Relationships like marital are filled with stress and joys.I understand there may be times when you are unhappy with your spouse.What if your spouse choses to seek emotional friendship with an ex of his.Dnt you fear the spark could turn into a flame ? Im just wondering if it will be a good idea to not put ourselves in situations that could potentially be dangerous.May be its just platonic at this point.Imagine you have been sexually inclined to that person before and one of you usually has the power to turn it back on.How hard it is to have friends who are not people that you have slept with before? lottaWoman, I totally agree with you said. K-lo, I admire your self esteem but i think its not a bad idea to compromise a little in relationships.

lightyellowishgreen

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How to draw boundaries with your girl friend/boy friend Posted: 4/7/2007 6:00:11 PM
Im just curious.How does one determine the right boundaries in the relationship to make it work instead of bossing around. Is it okay if your girlfriend or boy friends keeps friendly [supposedly intended to be platonic] relationships with their ex partners..Oh i mean that your partner and her/his ex have slept together in the past and your partner still think that the other person is cute and great . How do you feel about that ?

lightyellowishgreen

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Dealing with a Lovers Obsessions Posted: 12/16/2006 10:25:13 AM
Obsession for disney is not so bad as compared to one of my ex's obsession with god..I just walked away, couldn't adjust. But looks like you love your wife very much..So may be if you support her disney obsession she will get over it quickly..Buy her disney gifts, adorn home with disney stuff and very soon her obsession might wear off..lol..

lightyellowishgreen

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How do I decide between 2 great guys????????? :-( Posted: 12/10/2006 6:54:46 PM
Its awesome you find him a good kisser and great communicator.I think its quite vital to the relationship.Makes you feel secure isn't it? Its pretty tough to make a strong decision saying no to one and yes to another. Even though guy 1 has some qualities [ good job, sociable] that should make you secure in relationship , apparently some vibes about him question his chances.. Honestly i think guy 2 needs you more than guy 1 ..Just imagine, if guy 1 is so good, sooner or later he will find the girl that would totally fall in love with him. Sorry, not of much help from me...Jus wanted to say good luck and no matter what decision you take, you will find peace.

lightyellowishgreen

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How do I decide between 2 great guys????????? :-( Posted: 12/10/2006 4:39:36 PM
Most often, dating is a forecaster to future relationship patterns. What spark are you seeing in guy 2 exclusively? Think this way, how many people have ended in divorce, single struggling parents, kids with lack of parental care..They all have found spark in their partner at some point.. What mattered finally? Guy who has a character and stability.They usually raise healthy kids, strong family relationships and nice life etc..Thats just my opinion. I would suggest being friends with both of them until you know whats coming or find another one who is a balance of both.. I would love to know what is connecting between you and guy 2. Good luck

lightyellowishgreen

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Men don't like TALL women Posted: 12/8/2006 2:10:46 PM
That is bullshit.. I like tall women and oh btw did i mention slender or not so big?

lightyellowishgreen

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How to make your girlfriend smile Posted: 11/21/2006 12:25:54 AM
Jus being a true gentleman at heart..All those instant gratification tips are great. What will really melt their heart is growing true love.. Jus to know someone loves me dearly is enough to bring out the inner smile for me.. Dont you agree?

lightyellowishgreen

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How do you tell a friend her boyfriend is hitting on you? Posted: 11/19/2006 8:27:01 AM
You said she adores him..And that will fall off naturally..May be in a week or two.Its a natural process and it will be taken care.. Your friend is not dumb.She will find it..When you say this to her,She might take it in many ways you dont want her to take..Like [ judging her choice of bf, judging her ability to be attentive in relationships,judging her attractiveness as compared to you , etc] I would give your friend lot of solace when she needs.I believe thats what she needs the most.

lightyellowishgreen

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Non-Religious Person dating a Jehovah's Witness Posted: 11/9/2006 8:02:40 PM
My 2 cents.. Truly depends on the degree to which the person is strong in religious convictions.. Here is a plan.. 1.Ask his history of religious endeavors. If the history is rich with a lot of involvement,i say back off.. 2.If he is a self confident person by nature , you have a better chance.If he seeks religious interventions to revitalize his persona, you will be a barrier rather than support for his general well being.. 3.The other way is , try attending sessions with him relating to his ideology.See if that helps your life..Either you like the idea or you hate it..You will know sooner or later. And one more thing, god comes first and he will tell you that some point..So you will be second in his life? Got that...So may be women come and go, his god is the same.. So think about it.. Honestly, i think you are at a point pissed off by him but you want things to work.. I say MOVE ON..you will never regret..

lightyellowishgreen

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Can ugly women get studmuffins/?? Posted: 10/29/2006 10:28:46 PM
right on Jimi77

lightyellowishgreen

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Does your Horoscope sign really matter? Posted: 10/28/2006 12:03:09 PM
What about Aries?

lightyellowishgreen

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The difference between Romance and Intimacy Posted: 10/14/2006 9:32:18 AM
Beautiful Thread... Truly, its the inner character compatibility that acts as a glue in the relationship. I personally think if we sincerely attempt to gain more self control on ourselves, we could find the intimacy that could spark a strong real romance which is perpetual.. What i mean by self control - Not hurting someone verbally,spending money wisely,planning your future and working towards it,consciously developing patience and kindness etc.. - more precisely, thinking and acting before reacting.

lightyellowishgreen

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what is the Web dating etiquette? Posted: 10/9/2006 6:22:46 PM
Personally i think its disrespectful to inform the discontinuance through email or Phone.I think it should be in person with full eye contact, especially so cuz there has been some dating meaningful history between you and him.. But people have choices and etiquette revolves around their personality..Etiquette as such is a fake act.Why do we need to have etiquette to deal with our partners.Shouldnt we allow just our heart to talk?

lightyellowishgreen

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Dating Must-Haves Posted: 9/15/2006 2:31:19 PM
No drugs No smoking or Trying to quit No fundamentalists No over weight/obese

lightyellowishgreen

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Do guys like when a girl makes the first move?? Posted: 9/12/2006 6:07:34 PM
Just kiss him on his forehead and look at his reaction..

lightyellowishgreen

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Pattern formation or baggage? Posted: 9/8/2006 2:31:59 PM
I can identify your experience with one of my ex.. She had a lot of baggage , yet it was okay with me.The reason is she had the ability to understand how the baggage is affecting her and so she apologized on many occasions...That is a heart melter to me.It created more space for compassion when she apologized. I am not sure how much baggage could be unloaded subconscioulsy.Try talking to your partner and see how he reacts to your baggage and adapt to the dynamics. If he is extremely impatient with your baggage, may be its time to ponder.

lightyellowishgreen

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what do you mean when you say no chemistry Posted: 8/31/2006 6:13:06 PM
What i dont understand is how can you judge a person within a few dates.. Dont you all had experiences in the past when you were attracted to your colleague or friend after spending enough time like atleast 2-3 months.. To get a good view of what the other person's life is about, some time is required. Quickly saying not interested might make you miss some really beautiful people in your life.. Thats why Friends First Lovers Next works better

lightyellowishgreen

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What If I Just Wanted New Friends To Email? Posted: 8/20/2006 5:27:14 PM
You have clearly mentioned that you are in a relationship with someone else. If someone is still emailing you for a date,it means either they have not read your profile or they are flirting with you.Why bother friendship with people who dont pay attention to you? Have you considered friendship from international english speaking populace , who live outside usa? Lastly you can write blogs [go to google and type blogger]..You can make a ton of friends if you write a blog.

lightyellowishgreen

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American Business in INDIA Posted: 8/18/2006 4:03:57 PM
Have you ever thought about closing of smallscaled companies in india when multi national companies from America venture into? Remember coke saga..Walmart is getting in and so are Car companies like Ford. As you might be aware of global compettition, will you travel if suddenly your flight prices go up to 800$ for a 500 $ ticket? If outsourcing is cancelled,there may be thousands of call center employees in US who may get the benefits , but millions will get affected of the price change [ Less people travelling, travel industry gets affected, people cant travel to get their freaking business meetings done] America is protecting its economy . No big companies means No money for Research and Technology.No Technology means No money.. Stop that out cry on India please.If its not india, It may be china,brazil or russia or any nation willing to work for low.Agreed-Indians may have accent and english usage sometimes painful to tolerate.They are getting better in English.Literacy rate was 18% in 1947 [independence from Brits] now in 59 years, the literacy rate is 65% .May be in a few years, they could surprise a lot of people. Learn to compete with skills world wide.This is a small world and it is inevitable to remain isolated from other countries , being a pioneer of capitalist economy.

lightyellowishgreen

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Fixing the problem or comforting words-Which is important? Posted: 8/7/2006 4:06:40 PM
I fear if i leave her alone, she might think that i dont care for her enough to consider and help her out of the misery...interesting to see if someone felt this way and if its okay.

lightyellowishgreen

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Fixing the problem or comforting words-Which is important? Posted: 8/7/2006 3:59:01 PM
If my partner talks to me about a problem that worries her,my natural tendency is to find a solution for the problem after listening to the exact nature of issue. This has had devastating effects.According to her,instead of offering a caring solution that would end the misery,i was required to listen and comfort by saying "Im sorry this has happened to you." Is this a male vs female thing or is it just me to offer advice / solution? I personally think if i dont offer her the solution that she is looking for, i feel bad for not helping someone i like.. So guys and girls, which do you think is right? Fixing the problem or comforting words -Which is important?

lightyellowishgreen

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Onions and crying. Posted: 8/7/2006 3:47:26 PM
Jus wash them in coldwater or wear contacts

lightyellowishgreen

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Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free or why buy a Pig, just to get sausage Posted: 8/2/2006 1:27:10 PM
I find this hilarious.Thought i could share this with you guys.Some of them seem to be so true. Here is a piece written by Andy Rooney - of CBS 60 Minutes. Women Over 40 As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why: * A woman over 40 will not lay next to you in bed and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. * If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting. * A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her or what she's doing. * Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it. * Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. * A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 40 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her. * Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know. * A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women or drag queens. * Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. * Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire Pig, just to get a little sausage.

lightyellowishgreen

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Platonic Dates Posted: 7/31/2006 9:37:52 PM
Haha..Funny answers.. I think i would stay in a relationship even if its not too overwhelmingly romantic in the initial few dates.Once i fell in love with a woman totally after 2-3 months of not really having romantic feelings..The key is though staying... I guess women tend to cut the relationship quickly than men if they dont have romantic feelings.but its just me..

lightyellowishgreen

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Platonic Dates Posted: 7/31/2006 8:56:04 PM
Have you ever met a person and dated them for a while only to realise that you dont have romantic feelings for them. 1)If you had, what made you think you dint have romantic feelings. 2)And later,how did you convey to that person. 3)Have you ever continued that relationship and did it ever work ? I would like to hear your experiences. Thank you

lightyellowishgreen

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The Word On Virginity Posted: 7/26/2006 9:11:09 PM
I think the ball is in your court.It is who you should realize the comfort point in your relationship. If the guy cannot find connection without sex, how long will he stick with you after sex? I guess its better to find connection in doing things together, help each other, and strive to form a strong bonding and sex will fall in its place.

lightyellowishgreen

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Interracial Dating.... Posted: 7/26/2006 5:40:26 PM
I love women from different races.Just adds more excitement and fun in life to involving in a relationship from a different race.

lightyellowishgreen

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How would you like to be romanced or show romance? Posted: 7/26/2006 5:35:00 PM
How about buying gifts surprisingly

lightyellowishgreen

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Judging a relationship based on sun signs? Posted: 7/24/2006 4:31:12 PM
Annette, Thats a well made point.Did you notice,we are somehow judging people based on sun sign.It kills the instinct of exploring the mystery behind them.Instead im like "oh she is a virgo and so she must be ... Although a lot of positive qualities should be observed in that person based on the sign, we still judge the negative character before experiencing fully..Dont you feel this weakens our ability to romanticize or idealize our partner initially?

lightyellowishgreen

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Judging a relationship based on sun signs? Posted: 7/24/2006 4:26:31 PM
Sounds like a good recommendation. Thanks

lightyellowishgreen

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Judging a relationship based on sun signs? Posted: 7/24/2006 4:00:49 PM
I got rejected from a lady who believed capricorn should not be in a relationship with Aries. How accurately would you believe in sun signs to determine the future of relationships. Does this mean being an Aries man, I should prefer women of Sagittarius,Leo,Gemini and Aquarius. I realize that I have a lot of similarities in the qualities an Aries man is supposed to have. 1. Do you think astrology really is a good indicator of relationships? 2. What were your experiences in dating women who had incompatibe sun signs? http://www.astrology-online.com/love.htm has compatibility information..

lightyellowishgreen

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How would you like to be romanced or show romance? Posted: 7/23/2006 11:22:35 AM
Folks, Everyone has a different way of showing romance .I would like to know how would you like to be romanced or show romance? Could you tell me some of the best romantic moments you had with someone.

lightyellowishgreen

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For all the guys asking why so few, or no responses? Posted: 2/26/2006 7:38:19 PM
great advice SWJJA

lightyellowishgreen

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Getting Herpes Posted: 2/25/2006 5:45:09 PM
What a gross site..But certainly informative..Everyone should visit this site sometime

lightyellowishgreen

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Is old fashioned courtin out of date? Posted: 2/25/2006 4:24:53 PM
WellSaid !! @ChasingNormal

lightyellowishgreen

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question on etiquette Posted: 2/17/2006 7:10:59 AM
I think its great that u asked him what to bring and he gave u the perfect reply.... Good luck

lightyellowishgreen

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Getting Over Being Blown Off Posted: 2/16/2006 8:59:03 PM
Probably she is unsure at the moment.And that she doesnt want to hurt herselves to commit with you and at the same doesnt know how to say no.. Be a gentleman and move on..Perhaps you might wanna leave a note that you respect her decision

lightyellowishgreen

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Confidence Junk Posted: 11/14/2005 7:16:04 AM
If you think you have stuff that women u like need, self confidence comes naturally... Introspect and write down qualities in you which may be a glitch in relationships. Start working towards a solution.As you progress, confidence flows all your body.. And with women,dont take rejection strongly..Think it this way "A good relationship starts only when both like each other...Move on and have Fun

lightyellowishgreen

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Iraq investigation Posted: 11/13/2005 9:13:23 PM
Lives consumed by a decision: Americans - 2057 Ref: http://icasualties.org/oif/ Iraqi's - 30000 Ref:http://www.iraqbodycount.net/press/pr12.php Totally : close to 33000 [considering lost lives] , and still more to come If i were a Iraqi and if Americans killed my family of wife and kids or even parents and relatives,for a noble cause of ousting a tyrant leader like saddam , sorry my family is more important...Charity begins at home.

lightyellowishgreen

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What keeps women interested?? Posted: 11/12/2005 12:53:24 AM
It means you havent met the right woman yet for you ..With the right woman, conversation building becomes easier. Find why you are interested in her...Praise her a bit for what she is and how she attracts you.And think of things that matter to you..keep talking abt them until she responds with an interesting answer..If she doesnt like anything you talk, dude u r wasting your time

lightyellowishgreen

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What is my type? Is there a guidebook? Posted: 11/1/2005 3:41:44 PM
Guidebook- It may be a good idea to write down what you need in a woman for a succesful relationship [ essential qualities, would be nice, must not have ones] And then spend your time with the lady until you calculate how good she is for you.. That will tell you what your type is.

lightyellowishgreen

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What do women really look for? Posted: 10/30/2005 4:58:43 PM
If you know what you need from a woman very clearly, the right woman will find you.. Be sure of what you need and work for it...

lightyellowishgreen

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How do YOU play the game? Posted: 10/29/2005 4:42:49 PM
Oh that advice i was talking abt is from Sagi..

lightyellowishgreen

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How do YOU play the game? Posted: 10/29/2005 4:42:20 PM
Fantastic Advice..All the things you have it are common sense.. Strange,people do lose common sense sometimes..

lightyellowishgreen

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ladys dont like built men Posted: 10/29/2005 7:34:53 AM
Russ: Why are we so concerned being extra buff and extra attractive.. My target is to be healthy..And I could do only so much hours in the gym that will not jeopardize my other aspects of life[Work,Family,Hobby etc]..So will you , depending on how much time u could allocate.. If the lady doesnt understand this , chances are she is not ready for relationships.. U gotta be what you are ,if that does not harm someone..

lightyellowishgreen

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I thought he loved me Posted: 10/24/2005 8:44:56 PM
Sweetieforu :: Think it this way..It is good to get rid of people who dont like us as much..

lightyellowishgreen

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Why pretend to be something you're not??? Posted: 10/24/2005 8:17:42 PM
Trishia, i totally agree with you.. Faking profiles is like faking in an exam..Doesnt help in the long run.. Its always helpful when we like ourselves first..If we are not happy with what we are , we gotta introspect what we need [goals] to be happy..We could derive happiness from simply working to achieve those goals and also eventually be happy accomplishing it..

lightyellowishgreen

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Ladies, Just out of curiosity... Posted: 10/16/2005 1:30:45 PM
belladonna and country sugar : you are confusing nice guy definition with someone who lies.. Even bad boys lie... Looks like you think "badboys are very honest but bad and nice guys are nice and dishonest later" I personally think , if you have good understanding of the other person's feelings and vice versa , it will lead to good relationship..

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