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greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

Shake my tree Posted: 11/21/2009 5:41:22 PM
I just assume they are just bored or lonely and trying to connect to anyone even if they know that it isnt going to work out. My gawd, this happens to me ALL the time. I meet a guy, all the yada yada seems to click, only for him to disappear and come back again, a couple months, or ever a year or more later. Case point, I had a date with a guy last night that I had not seen in a year, and prior to that, a year before that. I have long since gone past wanting any kind of relationship with him, but I still like the man and enjoy his company. If I do not see him again or hear from him again, I will just be happy for having known him. But I would like to take that quote above and change a couple words to how I see it. I assume they are bored or lonely and are trying to connect with someone they KNOW that it isn't going to work out with!

Greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Creter's Conception class Posted: 10/13/2009 12:51:22 PM
Man o man, I miss Creter. I am so glad he and his gal are on my friends list. I get Creterisms whenever I make contact with him. Yea Creter!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Dating men that pay support. Posted: 10/1/2009 10:48:28 AM
I would care less about income. As long as he can support himself after all his responsibilities are taken care of. But most important is how he treats me....all the rest is life!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Block users from making first contact that have messaged others for sex or intimate encounters Posted: 9/20/2009 5:36:18 PM
I have a question pertaining to this unclear rule. I get that if someone has IE on their profile and you contact them, you could minimize your chances to talk to other members who are not seeking IE and if you have IE on your profile, you are limited to who you can contact, but what I would like to know: Is there a way to 'flag' a person who has long term, or dating or other status on their profile other then IE that contacts people for IE?

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

Good Opening Lines Posted: 9/19/2009 7:03:06 AM
/\/\/\/\/\ where is the puke icon? /\/\/\/\/\ I like this line....I read your profile and I believe you are looking for me!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Changes in the working world - is it the area... or is it me? Posted: 9/17/2009 11:36:44 AM
It certainly can be the cause for concern for peeps that are out there seeking work that they can support themselves and their familys on. But your last paragraph is what tweeked a memory of mine! Or, are these just resume phishing ploys?. I remember a long long time ago while I was living in Edmonton, I was invited to an open interview for management positions at a major video store chain. The interview panel gave a rundown on the company...history, origins, and missives....stuff like that. Then they explained to the 15+ people that were there that they were looking to hire Managers and Assistant managers for the different stores around the Edmonton area. They said....Managers will be started at a salary of 21000 a year and Assistant Managers will be started at 16000 a year. If anyone is not comfortable with the renumeration, you can be excused now. About 5 people got up and left. I know I was not comfortable with the figures they announced, but I am not one to walk out on something. So I stayed for the remainder of the interview. I eventually was offered a position with them as a manager and it did not start at 21000 a year...but 26000. Assistants were hired in at more then 16000. It was just a phishing ploy to seperate the wheat from the chaff. So, my point is, if there is an advertised job that appeals to you and you feel you are more then qualified to do it, don't let the 'posted' wage deter you. It could be exactly what you said...a phishing ploy!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Why the men you want are not calling.... Posted: 9/6/2009 4:27:54 AM
Zeina.k, I get the point you are trying to make but you make it sound like a game as per your comment....too bad there wasn't a game. I do see a pattern for myself along a similar line. I meet someone and get very interested: he calls, I pounce on the phone he texts me, I text back immediately he IM's me and I am there IM'ing back Personally, I find that a lot of these guys then start making 'plans' and do not follow through. We'll do this or we'll go there or we'll see that...... I say when and they say I will call you in a day or two and set something up! Why not confirm something right now? POOF...gone!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone??? Posted: 8/29/2009 10:37:39 AM
I share your skepticism. I have a lot of friends on here and I have a lot of these same friends on Facebook and my msn as well. I met someone at the beginning of the summer and I kinda sorta thought that maybe something might happen. He emailed me every few days, text messaged me and phoned me regularly. We had a couple great dates, and the 'vague' promise was there to see each other more often. A week ago he contacted me and asked me for some help and my opinion on a matter and concluded the conversation with a promise to get together soon. Then Monday he took his profile down, so I text him and said...is there something I missed? You took your profile down. Does that mean you are considering more concentration on something happening here? He said...well, I am concentrating on something but I am sorry to say, it is with the other woman I was seeing. We decided to give it a go and both pulled our profiles....... So...how does a person not take their prior insecurities and disappointments into the next new situation??? Where do you go? How do you build? Sure communication is important and if you do not have that from get go, then there is nothing to start with at all. I know my situation had the communication, or at least I thought we did....but obviously not. As I say in my profile, dating from the internet is evil. There is always the temptation to keep looking for something better! In answer to the headline that the OP asked.....you stop searching when you feel you do have any interest to look further! If this thread stays alive, I may have something new to add in a week or two cuz no matter what, you have to try to stay positive and move forward. Some will, some won't! So What? NEXT!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Cooking classes? Posted: 8/22/2009 11:03:48 AM
/\/\/\/\/\ If you ever go up for adoption, can I have first dibbs? I just love this guy. He is so cute...like a nice pet! My ex-husbands name was Richard, and he is an idiot too. A little bit of knowledge about a LOT of things, but master of nothing! It is nice to take a cooking class to learn the basics and understand the lingo when reading a receipe, but the best dishes are from a little bit of this and a little bit of that, and throw away the whole darn box and think outside the universe! I am allergic to wine and can't try this, but has anyone ever been daring enough to take a bit of white and a bit of red, toss in a splash of seven up or sprite...mix it together and have a glass of "Right/Wed"? Or is this sacreligious to wine experts?

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Is it rude not to respond to an email??? Posted: 8/20/2009 6:24:42 PM
lot of you pof members male & female tend to be desperate people and think who ever replies wants to date you or get into your pants! Well I have never been desperate let alone dateless! But then that whats seperates me from the rest of you ! I just had to quote this and repost it .... just so the rest of the masses can have a chuckle the second time around, or should I say the 20th??? In one word to that comment above.....bullocks! 90% of this pofers posts SCREAMS desperation! And wait for it....he will come back with some kind of snide remark about me, cuz that is what richards do! On topic, I reply to all emails, even to say thanks for saying hi, and I hope you have much success in your search. That reply is generally appreciated! It is nice to be acknowledged, even if there is no interest!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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POF outdoor/indoor events Posted: 8/18/2009 5:54:07 PM
Oh an another note greansie you where one of the ones who asked if the winter tubing was gonna be someplace to get a drink at or not ! But she was not the only one asking about the drinking !! YOU SLANDEROUS HYPICRITOCAL WHINING WOOSE! I DON'T CARE IF I GET BANDED FOR THIS OR NOT BUT I, (AND A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE), AM SICK TO DEATH OF YOUR HOLIER THEN THOU MANNERS. You can ask ANYONE from any POF party that knows me and they will tell you.....I DON'T DRINK EXCEPT FOR A RARE OCCASSION!!!! I COULD NOT CARE IF THERE IS BOOZE SERVED AT A PARTY OR NOT! SO WHY DON'T YOU STICK YOUR TRIPLE W Q NOSE SOMEWHERE ELSE!!!!! Maybe no one wanted to go to your beach party because of who the HOST was!!!!!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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POF outdoor/indoor events Posted: 8/17/2009 5:50:41 PM
I was refering to Firmbear's comment re booze! He's making it sound like anyone on POF attending events wants to drink! So far from the truth and unwarranted! True Leeanne....it is unwarranted. He is always whining that all events are booze related. I do recall a couple years ago Devine arranged a winter tubing party at a snow park. I so wanted to go to that but it fell on a weekend that I was working. Then there have been many events that did not include swilling draft. I went to a drive in movie event with a group of POFers and not one person had a drink other then pop and popcorn! Again....a thread search will show what has happened in the past and what was successful. Organize it and they will come!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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FYI Car thieves Posted: 8/17/2009 5:45:29 PM
I think GPS implants should be manditory for all CHILDREN at birth. Think about it...no more Amber Alerts, no more missing children, and if they become 'youth gang' members, then they are already tracked! Of course this will get a lot of nay say from the bleeding heart doogooders who will scream invasion of privacy and crap like that, but I bet Little Tori's parents sure would have been happy to have something like that on their precious child when she first went missing!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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How many of you get messages like this (men and women) Posted: 8/10/2009 6:30:09 PM
I used to get stuff like that....some were really inventive, but I would sic Annabelle on them, and they would go away. For those of you who remember Annabelle.....then we all have been here too long!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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is there such thing as love? Posted: 8/2/2009 8:45:53 AM
it's like a favorites competition seriously 500 plus favorites My question is why do men bother going after those women or women go after those men??? I had a gal friend on here who had 400+ men add her as fav within one month. I asked her...why do you keep them on your list if you have no intention of contacting them or seeing any of them. Her reply...'it makes me feel good that so many think I am hot. They are all pieces of sh!t and I could not be bothered with any of them!' Some of those pieces of 'sh!t' were friends of mine who would contact me and ask me to introduce them to my friend....sigh! The sad thing is....she was not hot...she just took a nice photo. There are really good men and women on here. Generalizing because you do not get replies is not fair to the decent folk.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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is there such thing as love? Posted: 8/2/2009 4:39:32 AM
Women here get hundreds of emails from guys a day REALLY???? Must be a problem with my inbox cause I don't see any emails there! To answer the OP, yes there is such a thing. I know a lot of people who met their mates from here...some are married now, some are living together, and some are planning their weddings. The one thing these couples had in common...they got out to the parties, socialized, made friends, and opened up their hearts to let someone in.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Are thier real ladies out here Posted: 7/23/2009 7:42:16 PM
I'm just being a nerd. ahhhhh .... yup

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Are thier real ladies out here Posted: 7/23/2009 12:27:05 PM
Lady From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia A lady is the female equivalent of a lord, the counterpart of a gentleman, or any adult woman, though this usage is constrained. Last time I looked, I am an adult woman and I am real. I checked...honest I did. And I liked it!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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The funny things Posted: 7/23/2009 12:22:18 PM
So many times I have come across a profile that says they are looking for long term and in the body of their profile they say they are a gentleman of the old-fashion type and respect all women, but contact them and the response sometimes is: Wow baby, you want to get naked? You just made me hard!!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Is blood really thicker than water? Posted: 7/8/2009 7:06:21 PM
Way to go hellgremlin.... You definately are aptly named! I am laughing my ass off. That was friggin funny!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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what does dating mean to you? Posted: 6/20/2009 4:37:15 AM
This is what dating means to me: Boy calls girl. Boy ASKS girl out. Girl accepts invitation to go OUT! Boy picks up girl in some motorized transportation. Boy takes girl to intended destination. Boy and girl engage in activity at intended destination. After all intended activities are concluded, Boy takes girl home. Boy and girl say goodnight however they see fit. That, to me is a DATE! If Boy and girl choose to repeat the process together on a regular basis, then to me that is DATING!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Is it rude not to respond to an email??? Posted: 6/19/2009 7:38:04 AM
In defense of my Bovine friend.....I concur that the majority of supposed 'emails' we women receive are along the variety of: Wanna Chat? What's up? What are you looking for? Are you open to a fck Buddy? Wanna meet? So, not to be rude, but how does one respond "politley" to that? Wanna Chat?........ Sorry there is no chat function on this site anymore and no, you are not getting my msn! What's up?........I am sure you will say my nose is up in the air if I say I am not interested in persuing that line of opening conversation. What are you looking for? ........... Thought that was what a profile was for?????????? Are you open to a fck buddy? ............ again, see above /\/\/\ Wanna meet? ................. Ah, who are you?

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Legal Issue: Ex's Old Cars in Her Driveway Posted: 6/14/2009 8:35:34 PM
Any one with a brain cell would make sure they go through the propper channels in dealing with items left by an ex. And what you call scap may not be just scrap! YEP dam glad I am not as smart as MR Took !LOL The correct spelling is proper! Wonderous knowledgable advice from someone who never had an ex!!!! and as for glad your not as smart as MR Took????? I think we can all agree on that one! phew!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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PoF on the first date?! Posted: 6/9/2009 6:57:29 PM
Ya know...so many people are so ready to get on the moral high ground and do the tsk tsk tsk about going to someones house on the first date. If the topic of the thread was...I went to a guys house on the first date ... was this the right thing to do? Then I can see a place for all the naysayers and tskers about the 'dangers' of such a thing. You don't know the situation, or the conversations that took place or the safety measures that were already put in place. You don't know who else was in the house or what the building or housing situation was like so get off your moral high horses and deal with the topic or start your own thread and I will be glad to post in it about my experiences of going to a mans house on the first date. But on topic....no it is not cool for someone to POF on a first date. Not cool text message someone on a first date (been guilty of that one...sorry), and not cool to keep your cell phone on during a date. It is also definately NOT cool to talk to another woman/man on msn while on a date! Cheers and happy first dating!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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PoF on the first date?! Posted: 6/9/2009 7:21:06 AM
I have had it happen to me. And yes, I went to his house on the first date! He was a hoot, and I had no issues with meeting him at his house. He's also a cop but that is not the topic. What part of cop did you not read? If you want to discuss safety steps when having a first date, start a thread! Stay on topic. Yes, it is rude to surf POF while on a date. Rude to talk about the date you had the night before, and also rude to discuss the date you have set for the next evening...

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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PoF on the first date?! Posted: 6/9/2009 4:37:23 AM
So everyone can stop being the OP's Mom on this one and quit with the lectures of going to the guys house. You or I have no idea what saftey nets were put in place or what was arranged before she went there, so just can it. The topic was about someone surfing POF while on a date! I have had it happen to me. And yes, I went to his house on the first date! He was a hoot, and I had no issues with meeting him at his house. He's also a cop but that is not the topic. But he did pull pof up on his puter only to show me some of the women that have added him to their favs and wanted to know if I knew any of them....which I did. It was kinda wierd and ackward at first, but he and I have more of a base to be friends only, so now if I go see him, if he pulls up fish, it is more like each other helping to find the right fishing hole.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Date from Hades.. Posted: 6/5/2009 8:16:53 AM
and most importantly wear a helmet If you don't wear a helmet, it is your turn to lick the windows! I absolutely try not to sterotype, or act with prejudice with anyone I meet. Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time...some people are fortunate enough to be able to HIRE someone to do that for them! I have met very wealthy people and very poor people and everything in between. I like to think that I have treated each and everyone with the same regards and respect that I would treat any decent human being. Just because someone drives a mercedes does not mean that they are a rich 'pr!ck' and if someone drives a rusted out Gremlin, does not mean they are a 'poor' ba$tard! We are all wealthy in some way or another based on our own merits and achievements and we all have moments of being poor...emotionally, physically, spiritually....even monitarily, but it is not fair for another person to judge or base any assumptions on a persons character based on rags or riches, but base it on our individual moral actions!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Dating outside of your culture/ethnicity Posted: 5/30/2009 1:26:07 PM
I dated off and on a guy from Iraq for a few years. He was a great man and I enjoyed my time with him but the cultural differences are what killed things. He had lived in Cananda 10 years by the time I met him but he still had a lot of antiquated views on how women should be in public and their place in society....

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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London Bringing in Spring Semi Formal Saturday May 30 2009 Posted: 5/30/2009 12:52:51 PM
I so wanted to come out tonight and see some old friends and meet some new, but I just can't make it!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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POF should create a spot for description of preferred body-type/look Posted: 5/30/2009 12:10:22 PM
Joking aside as I put in my last post, I do have to agree with dwinottawa and five-marie. I have dated all sizes and appearances. I do know what I prefer, but I like to give someone a chance if the dynamics are there. A number of years ago when I lived in Alberta, I was conversing with a man for a few months. He did not have a 'clear' photo posted and we did not live in the same town....8 hours apart actually. He really wanted to meet me and after a few months, he invited me to go on a ski trip with him to Banff. After numerous phone conversations, and a great comfort zone built, I agreed to go to Banff. When I walked into the restaurant that we agreed to meet at, I nearly fainted! He was short, pudgy, balding, and had a couple teeth missing! I wanted to run so bad.....like...holy sht, he did not appear to be anything like his blurry photo or the man I had talked to for so long. But I stuck it out and had lunch with him and that comaradarie that we had built up on msn and over the phone came back and I was reminded why I liked him in the first place. It ended up we had a great time skiing and getting to know each other. That was in 2002 and he and I are still friends today. I have not seen him since 2003, but we drop each other an email now and then. I learned from that experience not to judge a book by its covers, but you better have one dmn awesome story inside!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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POF should create a spot for description of preferred body-type/look Posted: 5/30/2009 6:54:34 AM
maybe it should be expanded even further and we can include Preferred body type, income, penis length, breast cup size, shaved or hairy etc etc... Taller then 5'8", hair on his head and not on his back, more then minimum wage, shaved and commando... ......and if you have to measure, you are too small!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh...pardon me, I thought this was a thread to post your preferances!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Staying positive with negative emails from men Posted: 5/23/2009 5:59:09 AM
/\/\/\/\ Oh dear!!! What to do. I also do not drink and I like to go out to POF events. My life has been insanely busy the past year and I have not been out much...maybe two or three events. The London bash is coming up and I had hoped to go if my work schedule allows. I have to work that day and then I have to work the next day, but I so want to meet a few peeps that have become forum friends over the years....but I don't want to become an instant overnight alcoholic.......so what to do? I know I don't have to worry about finding my night in shining armour because the only man who thinks he is worth anything is just a retard in tin foil, so I should be safe!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Pregnant, alone and in a bad financial situation Posted: 5/22/2009 5:04:48 AM
PEOPLE!!! DID YOU NOT READ THIS PART OF THE OP'S first post???? We tried to have kids when we were living together and it failed. I was told by a fertility doctor that I had Ovarian Syndrome. In october I started treatment, but as things started to be rocky and he kept coming in and out of my life, I skiped the treatment in january and february, only for me to find out at the end of march that... The gal realized that the marriage was failing and STOPPED the treatments to get pregnant!!!!!!!!!!! Stop BASHING HER and offer the advise and support she seeks...not condemnation from what mother nature decided would be her path. Jeeze. the poor thing has not even come back and made any comments in her own thread becuase of all the bull crap that a lot of you are posting with regards to motives and blame and other irrelevant issues. I certainly hope that she is having side conversations with the people who have offered supportive advice. I know the feeling of being with a man who is the father of my baby and not wanting anything to do with it. It is the most horrid thing in the world to a woman. HORRIBLE!!! Not to mention what it does to the child when it is born and finds out his/her father did not want him/her! I wish some of the men who have commented in here could walk one day in the shoes of a woman who is in her first trimester of pregnancy and feel the emotions, the morning sickness, the hormones...just live it as a woman does and not as the man on the periferal.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Staying positive with negative emails from men Posted: 5/22/2009 4:54:08 AM
I know he has thrown a few digs at me too and it just shows how a small m ind works. When he rides the short bus, I am sure if he is not wearing his helmet he licks the windows. IF he was in my area and the last single man alive, and he emailed me, I would switch sides myself. A totally negative, uncompromising attitude oozes through everything this man writes, so if I got an email from him, I know it would be negative and I would not give it the time of day. I would rather have a "hey babe, you wanna?" But then again, I am one of the lucky ones to be spared from his approaches because I am not living next door, and I am not the skinny barbie model he THINKS he is entitled to have. Rock on Richard. Sometimes we do need a bit of amusement to keep our day on a balanced path. People that think they know it all really annoy those of us who do!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Pregnant, alone and in a bad financial situation Posted: 5/21/2009 7:33:18 AM
First of all......YOU WILL SURVIVE IT!!! Now will people stop flaming and slamming the gal for how and why and what. It is not like some Joe Schmuck came over one night for a quick.......you can finish the rhyme.. This man, the father IS her husband and they were working on their marriage when things got rocky. She stopped the fertility treatments when things were shaky, but by that time, Mother nature got her kick! Any man will get scared when baby makes three, but when the relationship is on the outs, this probably has scared the bejebus out of him. I am not defending him, I am just pointing out possibilities. Maybe he needs time to adjust and maybe he is a dolt and is gone! Only time will tell. On top of that, the OP's hormones are running amock and trust me honey, they have not finished messing with you yet! The OP is in 'panic knee jerk reaction mode' and is searching for some solace and security. It is called the nesting instinct!!! As a couple women stated, they went through something similar and they survived. We all have our different levels of tolerance and you will evolve and merge into yours. Trust in the universe that all is as it should be and believe the baby was brought to you for a reason. You will get through this.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Staying positive with negative emails from men Posted: 5/19/2009 8:58:14 AM
Gawwwwwwwddddddd....will someone PLEEEESSSEEEEEEEEE land this carp so we can all be spared?????????

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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summer nostalgia Posted: 5/17/2009 5:46:12 AM
I will be dating myself....but that does not matter cuz my age is posted....but dayam I remember how idylic my days were in the mid 70's and "Seasons in the Sun" was the most appropriate song. Goodbye to you, my trusted friend. We've known each other since we're nine or ten. Together we climbed hills or trees. Learned of love and ABC's, skinned our hearts and skinned our knees. Goodbye my friend, it's hard to die, when all the birds are singing in the sky, Now that the spring is in the air. Pretty girls are everywhere. When you see them I'll be there. We had joy, we had fun, we had seasons in the sun. But the hills that we climbed were just seasons out of time. Goodbye, Papa, please pray for me, I was the black sheep of the family. You tried to teach me right from wrong. Too much wine and too much song, wonder how I get along. Goodbye, Papa, it's hard to die when all the birds are singing in the sky, Now that the spring is in the air. Little children everywhere. When you see them I'll be there. We had joy, we had fun, we had seasons in the sun. But the wine and the song, like the seasons, all have gone. Goodbye, Michelle, my little one. You gave me love and helped me find the sun. And every time that I was down you would always come around and get my feet back on the ground. Goodbye, Michelle, it's hard to die when all the bird are singing in the sky, Now that the spring is in the air. With the flowers ev'rywhere. I whish that we could both be there. We had joy, we had fun, we had seasons in the sun. But the stars we could reach were just starfishs on the beach

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Would appreciate it if someone could help me out Posted: 5/14/2009 7:48:00 AM
POF events hun.....lots of friendly approachable good people attend these events every week!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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Collectors, and collections... Posted: 5/13/2009 7:48:33 AM
I have been collection boyfriends, unfortunately, as much as I would love to, it is hard to HANG them on the wall! Seriously, a number of years ago, I got into collecting Beanie Babies. It was around the time my marriage was falling apart. When I became single, I continued to collect until one of the old BF's that I would just LOVE to hang on the wall, pointed out that I started collecting beanies as a form of focusing on something to love while letting go of something else. He was right and I have not collected another one and they are all now resting comfortably in plastic totes in my shed.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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What If A Date Wants You To Do Most Of The Talking? Posted: 5/10/2009 6:28:54 AM
/\/\/\/\/\ EXACTLY!!! I am ashamed to admit that I do that sometimes myself. If I am not into someone and just can't seem to get a convo going, I will do the one word answer thing. I know...rude...but when it is not there, it is not there!!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

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What If A Date Wants You To Do Most Of The Talking? Posted: 5/7/2009 1:10:50 PM
/\/\/\/\/\/\/\ Now that is funny!!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

How much does the type of job matter? Posted: 5/7/2009 4:38:56 AM
Also...your male friend you picked up the deadbeat drunk....if he had asked only one question....what do you do.... he would have gotten the message he needed...and hopefully would have ignored her. Actually....he did. She told him she was retired. Even when he found out that was not so, he still went ahead with seeing her because he rated her on her fvckability and nothing else in that case mattered. After 6 months of knowing her and 5 being with her, he is only now seeing how bad of a drunk she is...now that she has him where she wants him. The artists I know are NOT successful. Only a select few are. And that select few have been through many relationships, separations, divorces. The ones I know that are struggling have solid significant others....because what these people do does NOT MATTER. As long as they are happy, they spread the happiness like a disease. When I meet a man I am interested in, I really do NOT CARE what he does for a living. I just have to be attracted and interested in the person. There is no superficial bone in my body when it comes to what a person does. I am more interested in how a person looks after themself and how they treat others. Are they kind to animals? I have met some that were superficial about what I do, and it is their loss. I take care of myself, but many have a problem that I am around ripped gorgeous men all the time...so guess they have self-confidence and trust issues. I have met Lawyers, Doctors, mechanics, salesmen, photographers, musicians, stock broker, writers, an ebay buyer/seller, truck drivers......... lots of great people, but the ones I liked the most ...funny to say.....were not working~ either on EI or trying to make a go of it with their art. I will never believe that asking someone what they did for a living in a first date situation actually denotes an interest in how you spend your day. what a load of politically correct shite. Greanize and Sweet Euphoria...thank you for restoring my faith that people can put a spin on downplaying any superficial question and turning it into a touchy-feely,self discovery, philosophical epiphany on why I exist for 40 hrs a week mon-fri. What a load of cr@p! When you meet someone for the first time, what the he!! are you supposed to talk about? The WEATHER? Asking get to know you questions....such as what do you do....shows interest in the other person and lets you spin the conversation into other interesting directions. Man oh man....you must have been taken by some gold diggers in your past or are one yourself to not see the polite social interaction such a question provides. I personally would be offended if I was on a date and the guy did not ask me what I did? I would think he was not interested in me at all and was just killing time. As for what the answer to such a question means to others....when it comes down to basic attraction and desire to know someone...it does not matter. The only thing that matters is if this other person can compliment or enhance your life...physically, spiritually, emotionally....and do you really ENJOY each others company? If I met two men and one was independantly wealthy in what he does and the other was just getting by on what he makes.... and I had to choose one of the two....I would choose the man that makes my toes curl and snap!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

How much does the type of job matter? Posted: 5/6/2009 7:47:37 AM
become friends first before you start getting serious, find everything out, how they interact with your friends/her friends, social , or just relaxing..It's not the amount of income that makes me want to be/stay with someone..but rather how we compliment each others lifestyle. OMG...so true. My best friend did just that. Jumped into something deep and serious without getting to know her first. Just thought she was hot and fvckable and went for it. He did not see how she interacted with his most important friends and when we all met her and instantly disliked her, he thought WE had the problem. He never questioned that she had no friends to bring to the group and blend in with everyone. He did not question that she was not working, but was 'retired' as she put it... but he has now found out that she is an alcoholic and too lazy to work, and for now, he is stuck. However, like me, what she does, or does not do for a living in her case, was not important to him. It was the attraction and how she made him feel. She saw the goose that was about to sh!t the golden egg and kept her true self from him until she had him hooked whereas most women would take the time to build that foundation to make the relationship solid. So now, all his friends stay away because no one wants to be around a nasty drunk, and he is stressed...emotionally and financially. In the end, it still DOES NOT MATTER what a person does for a living. It is the attraction that brings you together to make you decide if you want to date that person.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

How much does the type of job matter? Posted: 5/6/2009 4:59:39 AM
I have no blinders...but you have rose coloured glasses.... My glasses are bronze actually....and in my work life, I hang out with a lot of artists and I also associate with a lot of 'financially successful' people. (And an artists is not always defined by paintings). I can't think of any of the artists I am blessed to associate with that is single. They all have significant others and MOST of these artists are not very affluent, but I can tell you one thing that you can take to the bank.... They are the happiest group of people I know because the do what they LOVE for a living. And when you are around such a happy group, it is infectious. Whereas the 'financially successful' people I know have a poorer track record for successful relationships. I know one man who has deep pockets and is interested in me, but blah...I am not interested. Some of these artists have made it very big and they are not dead yet..actually they feel fine! When I got divorced...it was not over money. It was over the fact that he could not keep his tongue out of other womens mouths. Money was not even an issue during the divorce. When I meet a man I am intrigued by, I do ask...what do you do for a living. And it has nothing to do with wondering if he has the dineros. It was because I was interested in knowing how he occupied his time, if he was happy with his life, and to open up a stream of conversation that could allow us to share common factors. The last date I went on, I did NOT ask what he did for a living. I was not that interested. He was more interested in learning about what I did and we had fun discussing the many different aspects of my work. He had some things in common with what I do, so the conversation did not go stale. Again, from a single woman who has been on dates with different walks of life, what each and every date did for a living did not matter. I can't think of ANYONE I may have rejected because of what he did for a living. There is one man I dated that is unemployed and is having a lot of difficulty finding a job, but I am willing to see him again. I would like to see him again...so it is not ever the job for me, but whether the spark is there. We are not a superficial society. We have superficial people within our society that try to make their personal requirements the 'bar'. There is one thing that Frankie did say that I do have to agree with. We are looking for a partner that will compliment our lifestyle. I hang out with artists, entertainers, models, and rockstars. I would prefer someone who can fit in with that lifestyle and understand the persnickities of that kind of life. He has to understand that if I am on a shoot til three in the morning, I am on a shoot til three in the morning...end of story or if I have to go on tour, it is no different then someone going on a business trip...come with me or stay at home.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 232 (view)

Would you date a cop? Posted: 5/5/2009 6:20:41 PM
Yup.....starting to like the feel of cold metal on my wrists!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

How much does the type of job matter? Posted: 5/3/2009 4:51:48 AM
In conclusion... the job type does matter... not in the sense of what you do...But how much can you contribute to the relationship's standard of living/dating. Ummmm....if that was true, we would all be looking for a rich person and not take into account how a person makes us feel and how we make them feel. How we enhance each others life. Bringing to a relationship is not always measured in dollars and cents as a couple folks believe....so take your blinders off. I work in a financial field and I do see couples who have split up because of financial issues...it is a major leading cause of relationship breakups! But I ask...was it the money/job/income that affected the relationship, or was the relationship ever built on anything else? I know people who did not have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of, and they were happier together then two people who bring in 6 figure incomes annually. The type of job a person has should never matter, as long as they do what they like and are happy, and they make you happy....you make each other happy!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

What Are The Top 6 Listed That You Seek The Most Out Of A Companion? Posted: 4/30/2009 5:00:30 AM
1. Loves animals, especially cats. (DOES NOT LIST HIS DOG AS HIS BEST FRIEND! PEOPLE ARE BEST FRIENDS) 2. will travel with me...and not procrastinate when a last minute opportunity pops up. 3. Sings.....SINGS .... S I N G S 4. Has beautiful lips NOT SURROUNDED BY FACIAL HAIR, and knows how to kiss like he invented it! 5. Intends to get married and is not against something unorthodox in a foreign part of the world. 6. NOT a vegetarian. He is a MEATATARIAN and is proud of it. Avid supporter of PETA....people eating tasty animals! 7. Does not mock God and having his own car would be nice but not 100% manditory since I have a car.

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

There is no double standard here Posted: 4/29/2009 1:08:38 PM
This response by you to the chalk guy in this thread explains everything. You like the guy and this is why you stomped on somebody giving honest feedback I dont know chaulkartist. Never met him before in my life. I would like to think that I would be defensive to anyone who had a terribly wrong assumption made about them. So...is this another example of a double standard??? STOP ASSUMING!!!

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

There is no double standard here Posted: 4/29/2009 11:43:15 AM
Just from this thread alone, I've deduced your a potentially incompetent provider, or neglegent parent to lose custody. Take major life choices like children, or birth control way to lightly to have aquired children with two seperate woman. Are likely to cave under pressure when children arrive. You are indeed loaded with 'baggage' that other men here do not have. The cards stacked up against you, so why should you expect anything but an uphill fight. OMG!!! I am flabbergasted at such an assumption!!!!! Just stunned and lost for words! Being in Ottawa, you probably have not heard of Derringer in the Morning on Q107, but to quote one of his radio show features...called Tool of the Day, You are an ***** ah aha a ha

greanize

Joined: 7/30/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

Need advice if relocating would be benificial Posted: 4/29/2009 11:37:15 AM
Weeeeeeellllllllll, I did it! My marriage ended 8 years ago and I was going nowhere. My house I had in Alberta was paid for...mortgage clear, but I did not have a job and I felt totally disconnected from life and people (something I sense you are experiencing as well from your profile) I came here to visit my sister and see if I could get a grip on my restlessness and find what was 'bothering' me or making me feel so unsettled. While here, I tossed out a few resumes, got a job offer and decided to take it and see how things went. I leased a small apt while maintaining my house in Alberta. After a year, I decided I was going to stay in Ont, so I sold my house, got my sons places of their own, bought a house, and settled in here. I still had not found what was eluding me, but I knew I had more opportunities here then in Alb, as you will find you have more opportunities here then in a small town. I found POF, learned about the parties and social events, and started to go to them. Mr. Wonderful still has not come into my life, but the friends I have made are measured beyond value. Other opportunities have opened up to me that definately would not have come along if I gave in to my fear and stayed put in small town Alberta. If you got that sense of wanderlust and feel that there is something better waiting for y0u, then there probably is. It will not happen over night, but as with anything, time and patience will see results. Things come to us for a reason and I believe if a door opens for me, I am going to take a look inside.

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