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onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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What's the most exciting part of a new relationship? Posted: 7/1/2006 4:16:53 PM
The first kiss for sure!! That can make or break the rest!!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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who should do the asking? Posted: 7/1/2006 3:06:34 PM
I was the initiator between my ex hubby and me....and we were together for ten years. I was also the initiator in ending it...lol! I'd say I was successful though...I got what I wanted...then I got rid of it when I didn't want it anymore!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is it just me...or was that ignorant? Posted: 5/26/2006 9:35:37 PM
Thanks Dawn and Smiles...you're both right...I don't really care about him seeing someone etc...but it did rub me the wrong way. It was careless on his part ...but Dawn...you're right...I should just make him aware of how he made me feel and be done with it...and Smiles ..I'm smiling...and moving on for sure. Like I said...this was more just to vent out my frustration.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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The Players and the Stayers..and the Minority Posted: 5/26/2006 9:20:02 PM
For you Trubblemakr....Hmmm...let me seee... The Trouble Maker - This man can typified by his devilish grin, his unique perspective on life and how it should be. This man can be quite fun...but you better wear a seatbelt, cause you are in for quite the ride. If you like adventure...not knowing which direction he will take you in next then this is the man for you. He is loyal once he feels you have earned it. You can earn this by laughing at his foolishness or you have him for life if you actually join in. ;) Hehe..how'd I do trubble? ;)

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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The Players and the Stayers..and the Minority Posted: 5/26/2006 9:00:16 PM
Hehe...so thought I'd give you all a theory I have formulated on men. ( Just having a little fun folks...not trying to offend or truly categorize.) I place men now in three categories: The Player - While these clever characters may vary..they often have many commonalities such as telling a woman what she wants to hear, buying her wonderful things, making her feel like she is the most special woman he has ever met etc. This man, while making many a woman feel good about themselves...is literally making MANY a woman feel good. He has a wandering eye and is often dating more than one woman at a time, or dates one for a while, til the next "shiny" thing catches his attention. The upside to the "Player" is he often showers you with lovely ego boosting compliments, gifts, dinners, romance etc... and allows you to have your freedom ( as that means he has time to go to his other woman ). If you don't mind sharing...this man is ideal for you. The Stayer - These men will win a woman over in the beginnings of a relationship, by showing you he is all about you..that you can trust him to never leave you, he is loyal, sincere and says what he means. These men can be trusted, however, hold one major character flaw. While they may be faithful...they are often controlling and expect you to only be about them as well. Should you be the type of woman that likes to have some personal freedom and space...you should not be with a "Stayer"..hehe...the "Stayer"..seems to expect your undying gratitude for his faithfulness and dedication to you. While many "Stayers" are good men at heart...they are constant work and you should be prepared to do battle. They are often known to try to belittle you. If you have no self-worth or self-esteem anymore, that is there ultimate goal as they insure your "loyalty" and faithfulness to them. The Minority - These men are the few that have the good in the Player and the good in the Stayer. These men are often already married, not your type or too damn shy to approach you to show you that they are both. Should you happen upon a "Minority" man...do not let him away...reel him in as fast as you can and live happily ever after!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is it just me...or was that ignorant? Posted: 5/26/2006 8:35:40 PM
So I dated this guy for awhile...off and on for a year. Got along great...but never got too serious as he had a lot going on his life. We had a great relationship in that we could talk openly about anything, a strong physical and mental attraction....chemistry ..you name it. Due to some issues with him fighting for more time with his son etc...I decided to just let him have his space...never pushed too much, and always told him, that no matter what happened between him and me...we could always be friends etc. As time went on though...I could feel myself getting more and more attached to him. I was good if he wanted to just be friends...but was deep down hoping for more. So I opened up to him..told him how I felt. He admitted that he wasnt quite ready to go any further then what we had, just yet...but he really liked me...enjoyed my company etc... I explained to him that I can't just be casual with someone...just not my nature and that we should in fact just stick with a friendship. He agreed. This lasted for about a month. He then started wanting to go out again, and do things together...so I went along with it for a few more dates to see where his head was at etc. Didn't take long though, before I came out with the conversation again, as his actions, his words, the way he looked at me; all told me that he genuinely cared for me, yet in the back of my mind, I knew that I couldn't keep going if his heart wasnt in it. When we talked about it...I got the same lines as before...thus I decided to end it once and for all. He clearly wasnt ready to go beyond what we had. I was a little hurt...but heck..I'm old...I got over it quick. No biggie...not everyone is going to be what/who you want them to be...is right for you etc...and what we want and what is meant to be, aren't always the same thing. This was about a month ago. We have talked on the phone here and there since. Just to keep in touch, as we do have a mutual respect for each other and both were there for/ supportive for each other over the past years trials and tribulations. I was good to go...even went out on a couple dates with a new potential etc. I was careful not to mention this to him though, as I did not want to hurt his feelings, and felt that while we were in friend mode now...not really appropriate to start talking about who we are now dating...a few months from now maybe...but not yet. Then, the other night he called me. Small talked for abit....then ticked me righhhht off..lol! Bearing in mind, before I go on to tell you what irked me...that I had only a few weeks earlier, poured out my feelings to him about how I felt, and bearing in mind, that it was me who ultimately decided that we had should end...(for my sanity...lol)...annnnd bearing in mind, that he had been very empathetic and understanding of my feelings. So...while talking...he just comes right out and says to me...that a buddy at work...set him up with some girl that had liked him for quite some time...and that they had gone out on a few dates. He went onnn to tell me that she seemed really nice and was probably going to go out with her again. ( After telling me a month previous...he did not want anyone in his life etc). Why did this irk me??....Not because he is seeing someone...not because he was obviously feeding me lines of crap...lol....but out of the sheer disrespect. I could understand if I was still making him feel I "liked" him...but I hadnt...I completely backed away. I could understand...if he was the one that had wanted more with us....and I ended it. I cannnnnot comprehend why on earth the man would be so ignorant as to tell me that after all we went through together and him knowing how I had felt about him! All I could think was "You b#%sta*d! How rude and disrespectful can you be? We agree to be friends...go about that way for a month..all is good ..then you make a point of telling me about some new girl after telling me you didn't want anyone???" I thought..."What are you trying to brag or something?...did it kill you that I was the one that ended it...so you had to try and find a way to get back at me?" So, anyway...lol.. here I am folks...wondering what your takes are on this...prepared for all that you throw at me...hehe...and mostly just to vent and get this off my chest! Would love to hear others takes on this though...am I just over- reacting?...or do I have a right to be pissed off? Peace all!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Should women show cleavage on first date Posted: 3/12/2006 8:00:04 AM
If I actually had cleavage...lol.....I'd do a happy dance! yay: Would I show it on a first date?....not likely. I would have in the past....if I had cleavage...but after a few times out with a friend of mine who had her chest largely "enhanced".....I realized that men were't talking to her face....they were talking to her chest! While I still get men trying every line in the book on me...lol....least I know there looking me in the eyes while there doing it! So should the breast fairy ever come my way...( I must I must I must increase my bust! ) the "girls" would be cleverly tucked away for that first date...only to be showcased at an appropriate time!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/11/2006 5:52:48 PM
You know....a thought has been lingering with me from the start of my first post on this issue....that thought was "Why are you even bothering with this.....a/ no one has ever knowingly held you "separated" status against you b/ and you wouldn't date a narrow-minded, self righteous person anyway.". That was my thought at the beginning......then I thought "What the heck...puttin in my two cents worth"...in the ever optimistic hope, that mayyyyybe, just mayyyybe ...someone might "get it"....get what some of us are trying to say...get a new perspective etc etc etc. Each time I posted....deep down this little voice kept telling me....."you're wasting your breath".....hehe....and you know what....I should have listened.... That little voice is always right! Onehelluvawoman is leaving this post...thank you, thank you very much ( in my Elvis impression voice ;) ) PS - Bandito.....you're the best!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/10/2006 8:34:31 PM
LOL...hehe...that's between you and the Big Guy....just wanted to point out that while it may not feel right to you....and I do understand that....if you are going to make a decision about a person....not a grape then do so knowing all there is to know....make an educated decision and do what you feel is right for you. Not saying that if it feels wrong to you to go ahead and do it....but if you do or dont do something without weighing in all the factors....truly knowing all there is to know....going by the "knowledge is power" rule...then have you really done yourself or the other person true justice? Would you want to be "ousted", because a good portion of society thought that all blondes are dumb?

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

Msg: 167 (view)

Is separated single? Posted: 3/10/2006 8:10:51 PM
Hehe...and one more thing....to all of you clinging to the "legal and religious" aspect of this.....I have something to say on that as well. If everything in your life....you do 100% as God or the law has set out for you....you never lie, never taken a thing not yours ( this includes stealing cable...downloading songs/music etc from the internet)....never ever done one thing ethically, morally or technically wrong....then to you out there....kudo's for being perfect, and sticking to your convictions....100%. To the rest of you....and you know who you are... ...talk to me when you are 100%. A piece of paper, bottom line are all that stands between a person being "separated" and "divorced." That little piece of paper....may not be signed for a zillion reasons.....some valid...some not. But the reasons why that little piece of paper not being signed...are between the piece of paper and the people that are supposed to one day sign it. No one else. If you choose not to date people...because after talking to them etc....you feel that they are not ready for a relationship....have issues etc...then by all means...don't date them. To not date someone....because of their status...or that little piece of paper.....well ...hehe....it just ridiculous to me...cept those people that are 100% perfect. To say that in the eyes of God that there is a difference between a separated person and a divorced person....there isnt a difference. The church brought in divorce to give people a "legal" out to a bad marraige. If you read your Bible....you'll see that the only re-marraige God allows is if the spouse dies. Other then that ...he expects you to stay married. God forgives those that ask for forgiveness with all their heart...no matter what sin they have committed. What has happened in a persons life....is between God and the person....and the only one that can judge that person is God. No one else has that right. Last point to make while Im on a roll.... A single person can have issues....cause they have been single too long....cause they've dated tooooo many people....etc etc etc. A divorced person can have issues....cause they arent over it....they were the cause of the divorce....they never learned....etc etc etc A widowed person can have issues....as the person they are no longer with, was taken from them. Someone they loved is no longer with them..for reasons beyond their control. Ok....Im done now....NEXT!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/10/2006 7:42:45 PM
@sweetie..lol....you are right, in that..no one should date someone who is not emotionally ready to commit...or date someone on the rebound.....to imply that a "separated" person is not emotionally ready to commit however...sorry I beg to differ. "Separated"...does not mean they have "unfinished" business either....the only "business" they havent finished is signing a divorce paper...to imply anything else....is assumptive. Bandito is dead on in what he has to say....and it is extremely relevant to this thread. He is saying that to imply that a separated person has any more issues then anyone else out there....regardless of their title....could have "issues"...the very issues you have stated that no should have to put up with. Separated people can be more emotionally available to you then a "single" person....depending where in the separation process they are at...depending on their mentality and overall life perspective etc....depending on EACH and every different situation a separated person may have come from. Personally.....I wouldnt go back to my ex if you offered me a date with Brad Pitt.....5 zillion dollars and told me he had been "transformed" to Mr Perfect by aliens. I get along well with my ex...but I left him...I left him for valid reasons.....and I would not go back to him for valid reasons. He is a great guy...but not for me..plain and simple. I have been separated for 3 years....have my crap together....have no "issues", and am most definitely "emotionally" ready and available to anyone that I may wish to pursue dating. I have a friend who is my age....single...never married...no kids...very attractive...and overall a sweet person........but she...admittedly so....has "issues"....and is not emotionally ready for anyone right now. Moral of the story sweetie and all other folks that like to attach an assumption to a title....doesn't matter what a person's status is....they can be screwed up just like anyone else...have issues just like annnnyone else....and not be "there" for you ....like annnnyone else.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/10/2006 5:48:35 PM
Those hugs are for Bandito, Bikeman and rockdotcomchick.....you all have a wonderful outlook and perspective on life. I'm behind you all 250% with what all of you have had to say! Sienna...... for you too....even though I disagree with you....hehe....got to give you a hug just for being so darned stubborn and standing your ground. You go ahead and keep you preferences the way they are...they work for you and they must make you happy...or you wouldn't be so darned adamant about them. Some of us here were just trying to offer you another perspective in hopes that perhaps you would see that there can sometimes be a grey and that sometimes...setting aside your predeterminations...may not only help you grow as a person, but also introduce a possible wonderful person in your life..that you may overlook by holding so strongly to your views. You have your reasons for not seeing the grey in this....and by all means....you have every right to stand your ground. Perhaps all your reasons if they were shared, would completely be understandable etc.....regardless though...based on what you have shared here...it appeared that maybe you are just stubbornly holding on to a view ...just for the sake of holding on to it...rather then being open enough to grow further as a person. Not saying that is the case....just shedding some light/thoughts/explanations as to why some of us have been directing a lot of our comments at you. Just trying to help..if you needed it...and if you don't then awesome....disregard what we have all had to say...and give us all back a hug

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Room for an argument???? Posted: 3/4/2006 6:48:58 PM
LMAO.....great way to break things up a little there worstguyonhere!!!!

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 6:39:35 PM
@ Bandito - anytime Bandito....I think you make a lot of sense and we share much of the same views...you have a very healthy overall look on life and how it should be...shame more aren't the same. you rock sister!!....it takes one hell of an awesome woman to come in to a forum area and post on such a controversial, hehe..it seems, topic...and share so much in an effort to try and help other see the flipside of the coin. I also agree with you on how you reacted to Sienna's remark about a "false impression", by telling it like it is....And I may add...that I, like you, have had no one "hold it" against me for saying Im separated. I have many ask...I tell them the situation...and that's the end of it. Heck..if someone ever did hold it against me, I wouldn't want to be with them anyway...lol! @Sienna - for crying to pete...Sienna I keep trying to respect that you have a different point of view...and that you have that right...but really...what the heck were you trying to prove when you made that comment to rockdotcomchic???? So what if she has dating up there instead of separated...were you trying to undermine her after she sat here and poured out a good portion of what happened in her life..in a difficult time? Perhaps that wasnt your intention....but sure came out that way. @bucsgirl - liked your post...honest...encouraging and open minded :) Hehe....sorry folks..I tried to stay away again...but got drawwwwwwwn back in ;)

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 12:10:42 PM
Sienna...I am not accusing you..or judging you...honestly....I am only stating my opinion about what I feel people are doing when they "label" separated people. I didn't say I was right...I just personally feel that way. As for the rest of my comments...again....I actually was sincerely trying to offer advise...not to diss you.... In my...hehe..."opinion"...it just appears to me that people that are so quick to close a door on someone because of a label... and that this may not just hurt the person they have closed the door on, as you have taken away their chance of meeting you...a wonderful person with a lot to offer...you may have hurt yourself...by closing a door too quickly on someone who just may have been perfect for you. I guess bottom line..it just saddens me that the majority here do agree with you Sienna....and it saddens me because...it shows to me that this world has gotten so worried and so caught up in itself...that it has lost its ability to truly open doors...to try and see people for who they truly are. Too many people it seems...jump to quick conclusions...then justify them so they can "sleep" at night....so my apologies to you Sienna in that I took my anger at what this world has come to....on you. For that I am truly sorry. I do wish you well...and hope I havent offended you. I am here to make a point just like everyone else...but should not have been so sarcastic and condescending about it.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 11:26:55 AM
Um, onehelluvawoman - this isn't about me being right or wrong - there likely is no right or wrong here. The original post posted the question of is someone who's separated single...and like many others, I expressed my opinion on the matter and why I felt the way I did - I was then accused of being judgmental for having such an opinion Umm...Sienna...you're right...the original post was a question that asked for opinions....my opinion...was that you and those that "jump" to conclusions about separated people....are being judgemental....not saying Im right or wrong...just expressing my opinion about people with your opinion...lol! Did that make sense...lol! And I only commented on the below quote from you....to point out...that your comment just wasnt called for....that comment insinuates to me...that only those with your opinion were right. Sorry..hehe...maybe I was just being too "sensitive". Funny though - the only ones in this thread that take issue with my point of view are those that are 'separated' - coincidence? No, i don't think so.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 11:19:34 AM
Exactly jumpypants...that does have a lot to do with it...the leaver....usually left long before they "left"....the leavee...often didnt see it coming...and may need more time to get over it....but even then...some people....depending on their life outlook....no matter what happened in their relationship...can actually...deal with it and move on. By all means...if their is an ex of any kind....proceed with caution...heck...when first dating annnnyone....proceed with caution....people arent always whom they seem to be. Bottom line folks...it's easy to make yourself appear together in the beginning....it's the longer haul that will prove one way or another. Theres also this little voice inside your head that tells you something is or isnt right about someone. I go with my instincts....and read people by what they say...how they react to situations etc.....not by their marital status. It really isnt that hard to 'see' people for who they really are....you just need to be smart enough to be able to catch the subtleties in what they say to you...how they are with you...their body language and so much more... these things will give you all the answers you are looking for....or at least a good start to decide whether to proceed....or put the brakes on.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 11:03:10 AM
Hehe...that's the best you could do..lol! Of course their the main ones..maybe the only ones Sienna....they are the ones that are affected by people closing the door on them just because of their "title"...because their being generalized. Just because not many 'single" people have jumped in to put their two cents worth....doesnt make your opinion right....nice try though ;)

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/4/2006 10:51:28 AM
Okay...I was gonna stay out of this after my last posting...hehe...but gosh darn it all I just can't resist a good debate...lol! First...kudo's to you Bandito...for standing up for the "legitimate" separated people..for having your opinion....and in my opinion being very well rounded about it...I disagree with Sienna...I dont think you are hypersensitive about this issue at all...you are merely voicing you opinon and putting in your two cents worth. Sienna...again....I do see your point...my issue with you is a/ calling anyone that disagrees with you and speaking up for the other side of the coin as being "sensitive" or "bitter". It appears to me...that perhaps before you start calling "names" you should take a closer look at yourself...as an outsider looking in...you are starting to come off as being the one that is sensitive and defensive....and you are certainly starting to look bitter...because some separated people did you wrong...so lets just write them all off. Forgive me...I know Im generalizing you to some degree here...and I really honestly am not writing this to diss you...my purpose for pointing this out...and I feel that the reason Bandito keeps coming back to comment....is to just say to you....perhaps you need to be a little more open-minded. If you choose not to be...so be it...and perhaps you will do well in life...perhaps you won't....my personal experience...is that closing a door out of bitterness etc...will only leave you as the one that pays the consequences. Bandito..I think...and most definitely me...is only trying to say that if people opened their minds more...and stop generalizing so much...maybe they will grow more as a person themselves....and see that not all things are always as they seem. So Sienna....you continue to do what you feel is right...as it is you that has to look yourself in the mirror...so if staying away from separated people is your preference...so be it. We others out there though that are more open-minded...will continue to try to help you see that generalizing in the end can hurt more then just them. One last comment....for now...lol..till I get drawn back in again...is that saying that someone, that anyone, has baggage....no matter what their marital title is....no matter whether they have kids or not...is just plain assumptive and close-minded. Not everyone with kids....not everyone who has been in a long relationship..no matter what the "label"...has baggage. There just so happens to be some people in this world that can evolve....learn from what life has dealt them and move on....in a healthy meaningful way.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/3/2006 11:44:03 PM
Again...understood.. Sienna...you're right...everyone does have a choice for personal preference. My apologies, by the way...as I used your post to post my last reply...which wasnt really directed at you. While I see the "cons" to dating a "separated" person...and the personal choice issue etc....my main reason for posting at all....was to give those reading this another viewpoint...another perspective on the situation. For every person that views "separated" as "still married"....you will find another person that views it as "single". For those out their that really aren't sure which way to take it....they have this thread to look at ...and decide for themselves how to view it and formulate their own opinions. In my opinion...it is prejudging though..more then a matter of personal preference....they really arent quite the same thing in this particular situation as far as I'm concerned. I personally don't care what a persons marital status is....so long as it isnt married..lol! Cause really....who am I to say that just because someone has kids...or someone that is separated...may be a "red flag" for any number of reasons.....I'd rather say....I can look at myself in the mirror and gave someone and honest chance to prove themselves to me one way or another....let me see them for who they really are....then I will decide whether I want to date them after that. Sure, I may waste more time that way....hehe...but you know what....at least I know that I did the right thing and gave someone a chance. Personally...I treat those as I expect to be treated....and I would certainly hope that someone, despite reservations over my having a child or my marital status..or whatever the case may be....(less they find me downright hideous ..or to tall for them...lol....) that they would take the time to get to know me...to see if I really am who I present myself to be. Sometimes those you close the doors on too soon...could have bestowed more gifts on you then you could ever imagine ;) Hehe...so Sienna...shall we call a truce and just agree to disagree?

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 3/3/2006 10:50:18 PM
onehelluvawoman - of course this subject gets you defensive because you're separated. And while you have your "reasons" for remaining married (to many, separated means still married -in the eyes of the law, in the eyes of God), some people out there value marriage and they don't care about reasons. We live in a day and age where people don't value marriage very much - and it's now become a lot more socially acceptable to be separated and date and get into relationships. That being said, those who are separated shouldn't be bitter when good people pass them by due to their marital status. I am not bitter at all....I do see everyone's point..honestly....my point is that to judge someone ..based on marital status alone...in my personal opinion....regardless of my marital status...is just again..narrow-minded. I was brought up in a very religious upbringing...and one thing I always remember and live my life day to day by...is "judge not lest ye be judged". To categorize, label, assume that someone that is separated..."may" have issues...or "may" be someone that is "playing" with you...is being far too judgemental in my opinion. My point also is....someone that is "single" or "divorced", may also be playing you...have issues...have doors they have not yet closed or dealt with....but your willing to take the chance on them...just because they have the right "label". Sorry ...but to me ...that's just wrong.

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

Is separated single? Posted: 3/3/2006 10:33:27 PM
My two cents worth.....while there are many players out there....umm...the players..the ones that have issues...the ones that tell you one thing but really it's another....exist in ALL marital statuses and are non-gender specific. To discriminate against someone who is separated..because some separated people "lie" about their situation...is just narrow-minded to me. There are some truly legitimate "separated" people out there..that aren't playing anyone...that have valid reasons for not being divorced. I have been separated for three years...I left him...and the only reason why we aren't divorced yet..is one, I was trying to help him out so he could keep the house ( he was self-employed and the bank wouldn't renew the mortgage if I took my name off the house ) ...and two...not like either one of us is walking down the aisle anytime soon....so I really could care less if we divorce this year ..next year...whenever. If I found out someone actually pre-judged me ..just based on my marital status...a marital status I am being honest about (heck I could lie and just put divorced...as it really isnt anyone's business anyway....at least not for the first few dates..lol!)....I would be quite offended. How dare anyone judge me...just based on my marital status!!...its not only narrow-minded...its just plain petty in my opinion. While we all have a right to determine what we think is best for ourselves....if you close too many doors on what you deem as acceptable or unacceptable....then how do you really think you will find anyone. The signs of someone playing you....no matter their marital status....are always there....you just need to be open-eyed enough to see it. Sounds like an awful lot of people out there are suffering from the "Seinfeld" syndrome.....the "let's find something wrong with the person..so we don't have to commit to anyone" syndrome. Just remember all..."it is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all."

onehelluvawoman

Joined: 7/31/2005

Msg: 58 (view)

The problem with Sagittarian men Posted: 3/1/2006 8:40:32 PM
The problem Sagittarians.....are the ones that have not yet evolved....do not truly know themselves...have issues etc....just like the rest of the men out there of any other sign....in other words...the "players" or the "problematic" Sag's are only that way due to life influences...and can be carbon copied to every other sign in the zodiac. It is not their "sign" that has made them that way. Sagittarian men that aren't players or all messed up with "issues"......are really just misunderstood by the rest of us folks in the remaining 11 signs of the zodiac. Sag's do value their freedom....as in they do not want to feel confined, fenced in or controlled by another. They do feel they have a lot to offer...and most do ( most people no matter the sign have a lot to offer...if given the chance to show it). They will not "settle" down with a woman, until they feel that they are "understood" by the other person...they will not settle down if they don't feel you offer value to their lives ...they will not settle down if they don't feel they offer value to your life and they 100% will NOT settle down with you...if they do not respect you. Sag's have high morals and high standards for themselves....they sometimes stress themselves out beyond what is "normal" because they like to be the best...they like to learn/do something to it best and to its fullest. You don't have to have the same high standards and morals...they dont expect you do be just like them....and you dont have to be the best. If you have no real morals...dont stand behind what you say...try to deceive them...back them into a corner....and really have no plan or direction in your life....you will not keep a Sag for long though. Sag's respect people that are open and honest with them...they respect that even if your opinion is different then there's...that you are strong enough to stand behind what you say/believe in. It is largely because of this...that many Sag men are in fact single...they will not settle for just "anyone". They may have fun with "anyone" though, till the find someone that they feel is valuable enough to keep. If you are successful enough to get into a relationship with a Sag...as mentioned many times before in this thread....they will do many things for you...and gladly without even a second thought. Sag's...male and female...can be very self-absorbed....but really do not honestly realize it till it is pointed out to them. If someone of value points out any flaws in their character....and goes about it the right way...they again...respect that...and do try to make a conscious effort to be more aware. Ultimately....if with a Sag ...it is inevitable that there will be moments of self-absorption....but they are easily brought back to earth...and truly don't mean to offend anyone. To keep a Sag from straying away from you..once he is yours....you must always keep him on his toes....they do bore easily...and like adventure. They will be forever loyal to you....and forever yours...if you respect them, understand them and value them...only if you yourself though....respect yourself, understand yourself and value yourself. If you ever lose any of those qualities....you can start counting the days it will be before he walks out the door and doesnt look back. Once a Sag is completely "done" with you....once you lose their respect.....good luck every earning it back. So if it happens to be true that there are more Sag's online then any other sign ( which I dont doubt )..it is not just that they are players...or looking to be eternal bachelors. It is more that a woman has not yet truly understood him....a woman has not fully earned his respect...a woman has not yet managed to light his fire.

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Benefit of the doubt... Posted: 1/14/2006 7:55:03 AM
So glad to hear that you feel better now and have your closure!!! You handled that whole situation very well and I personally am proud of you!!! That was a difficult situation to handle and I think you handled it gracefully and with style. You not only put him in his place but you had the pleasure of exposing him to the other woman...and walked away from both, washing your hands of the situation. With him out of your life now, it is my sincere hope that you find someone you deserve...and that you remain positive and focused on you're happiness. Take care and wish you all the best!

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Benefit of the doubt... Posted: 1/9/2006 7:16:30 PM
@misspurr What happened is unfortunate ....I had hoped things would work out for you...despite the warning signs...but it appears it didnt. You seem like a wonderful, sweet, caring woman and you do deserve a man that can appreciate that and not take advantage of it. Please don't take this wrong....but what I think you need to focus on, is not avoiding meeting men on the internet....but to be wiser about the men you meet...be it the internet or otherwise. If you read back through everything you've written, and look at it as an outsider looking in........there were clearly several warning signs right from the start that were trying to tip you off as to who this guy really is. He obviously has some very good qualities...but heck even the devil himself Im sure could be seen to have some nice qualities ( depending on your perspective of the devil )....anyway....bottom line...what Im trying to say is...just because someone is "nice", does "nice" things for you...doesnt mean that they arent capable of hurting you, or doing things that arent so "nice". When you look at someone for a possible relationship, you have to look at the "whole" package....not just the parts of the package you like. With this guy....while he had a good heart..helped you get things fixed etc....on the flip side, he clearly avoided you, on several occasions, which is extremely disrespectful, came up with "stories" that were just a little toooo elaborate...(sign of lying is an elaborate tale)....again disrespectful. So nice as he was.....being disrespectful, not having the courtesy to call you, making up excuses, placing other things in higher importance etc....all show how self-absorbed this man truly is. Men that are really into you, that are really, truly the "whole" package....while they may not be perfect ( no one is afterall ), they will be respectful...by calling you...by returning your calls, and by being truly honest with you, not making lame excuses or elaborate stories. Any man that makes you work that hard, that makes you give him "the benefit of the doubt" that much....is not worth your time. You are a good person and you see the good in others. Deep down, Im sure you want to believe that there is good in everyone...and if you are patient enough, show them how warm etc you are that even if they have some flaws, eventually they will come around. Heck I used to think that way at one time....hehe...the romantic in me I guess, and the insecure part of me to, when I look back at it now. While it is honourable that you are so kind hearted, giving and forgiving....and willing to overlook the little things...give the benefit of the doubt etc....if you do this all with blinders on....you will continue to find the types of men who will take advantage of your good nature. My best advise to you....is dont change you....stay exactly the way you are, just be more careful and wiser on who you choose to bestow these gifts on. If you can get into the mindset of..."Hmm, he's nice, got this good quality and that etc....but he has to prove himself worthy of me first"....you are on the right road. You can still be nice, giving etc....but in smaller doses in the beginning....and only to be continued, if he continues to earn it. ( This advise by the way....works for both men and women....) Anyway misspurr....so sorry to hear about what happened....hope you can get something from what I wrote, that will help you....either way...I wish you the best...and hope a man that deserves you, one day crosses your path.

onehelluvawoman

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Why do women.... Posted: 12/21/2005 8:21:52 PM
Dear dear Sparda...( shaking my head and looking sadly at you...wondering what it will take to somehow heal that heart of yours ) People...Sparda....not women only...not men only...hurt people, use people, do f*&ked up things to people. More then half...dont even have a clue they are doing it either. They think that they are the "victim" or that their crap don't stink. Sadder still, is that most people....even the nicest people....have hurt, used or manipulated etc another person at some point in their life. Sparda....people hurt people...it's not right...its not fair....and it is very frustrating to those growing smaller in numbers people, that have to deal with the hurt, the frustration etc. This my young friend is called Life. This my young friend is called human nature....the nature of the beast. So anyone that feels frustrated with how the matters of the heart seem to work...need to deal with it. We humans can choose to accept what goes on in life, accept that not all people will do the "right" thing. Or we can choose to try and change how society has become. Today's society is becoming more and more self -absorbed..."what's in it for me? We that are not of this self-absorbed nature, can try to "change" this sad fact...or we can learn to accept it in the sense of...we cant change human nature in a day.

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Msg: 87 (view)

Changing to Christmas Season to the Holiday Season?????? Posted: 12/21/2005 8:00:43 PM
First I would like to say MERRY CHRISTMAS! NOT happy holidays.......not seasons greetings etc etc etc....but MERRRRRRRRY CHRISTMASSSSSSSSS! Okay..now that I got that out.... So I went to Tim Hortons today and upon ordering my coffee, the woman taking my order said " Is that everything hun?". I chuckled...thought nothing of it and drove up to the window. The window opened and the first thing the woman said to me was " I am so sorry for calling you hun...I hope I didnt offend you...." I just laughed and said "No worries...Im not one of THOSE people..." She smiled back relieved and apologized again then said " I just thought I should apologize...what with people saying we need to change Merry Christmas to Happy Holidays now...." I shook my head...advised her not to worry about me...and I wished her a MERRY CHRISTMAS as I drove away. Then I was saddened....I thought..."What is this world coming to ...that a poor women in Tim Hortons felt so concerned over the word "hun"....one little word..not meant in any evil way...that she felt she had to apologize?". Then I was MAD....I thought...you know...the day "they" tell me I can't say MERRRRRY CHRISTMASSSS....is the day they can lock us all up an throw away the key!!!!! I have watched us all be quiet and passive enough ....we all need to stop being so darned easy going about this crap and stand up for what WE believe!!! All those in favour, stand up, sit down do what you must but dont let them take away your MERRY CHRISTMAS! I opt we start a vote....all those in favour of MERRY CHRISTMAS never to be abolished....say AYE!!!! Oh...and one more thing....MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL!!!!

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Msg: 96 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/20/2005 8:18:46 PM
If you would have laid off of onehelluvawoman, I wouldn't have had to gotten Joey involved. Benjammin66...that was so sweet...you can watch my back anytime! Hot Latina, alas777, doomedbutterfly....you all rock sisters!

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Msg: 95 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/20/2005 8:06:06 PM
OP....man you continue to crack me up! Could you dig any bigger of a hole for yourself?

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Msg: 84 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/19/2005 9:45:31 PM
Hehe...you know...when I wrote the words "simpleton"....I thought to myself....the OP is going to zone in on that...as he did not use that exxxxxact word. Annd what do you knooow...low and behold..it happened!!!! Ummm OP...I did that on purpose..for two reasons....a/ I knew it would get to you b/ it was my word of choice to portray what you insinuate. And you know...if the good people out there really looked at how you just reacted to my last post....by going so far as to call me "stupid"...( classy there, reallllll classy )....and then elaborating the insult to a full paragraph...well maybe then they will see that while you may be an educated 25 year old, that can write well etc.....but really in the end...you are just a little boy that cant take an insult like a real man! ( I might add, I threw in a few jabs at ya in the last post...cause I knew they'd get a rise out of you ).....(I might also add that I at least tried to be short and sweet about it...and have never once knocked you for your writing skills....merely you're egotistic, arrogant attitude.) So bring it on little man...keep em coming I can take it...it is after all just your opinion...which holds no value to me. Buh bye now! Psst....anyone got any crayons for me? If you do....leave them here for the OP...oh what am I saying....they're not for him...he's colourful enough all on his own...give me the crayons....I need to go eat some wax to get the bad taste out of my mouth! ;) PS...thanks OP for graduating me to the 8th grade now at least...sheesh I was in the 4th grade with you yesterday....I just doubled my number in one day....hehe...yet Im "stupid"..lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Msg: 34 (view)

Anyone Tried Speed Dating? Posted: 12/19/2005 9:15:40 PM
Tried it...for free even...with free drinks...(have a friend in the media....was something to do...but had no real desire to try it )and I still found it a waste of time! 25 men...25 women...score cards....ready set gooooo....you have three minutes to present yourselves/ get to know someone. Minute one - Man has pre-check off score card for or against you but sits down anyway, pretending that he isnt going to score you till after....woman is looking you over from top to bottom and saying a/ this could be a looooong 3 minutes...or b/ I'll take this one to go! This first minute I might add..is really wasted in the sitting down process, the hide your score card process, the scanning process and the "Hi, I'm so and so". Minute two - Man/woman make small talk...this ranges..from intersting to dull to just plain painful. Minute three - Man/woman thinking "Crap one more minute to go...a/ this is a loooooooong minute b/ let's blow this joint and go make out somewhere. Pfffffffffffffttttt....the whistle blows....man pretends to check off what he has already checked and looks ahead to the next one he can pre-check. Woman fills out scorecard....only after thoroughly looking it over to see if there is one more option not listed on the checklist. 75 -80 minutes later.....you have no idea what just happened...your brain is whirling with tornado-like speed and your brain overloads trying to sort out all the mass information crammed in such a short time. Call me old-fashioned....but just didnt work for me....I like to spend at least 15 minutes with someone...cause you can realllllllly learrrn sooo much more then...lol! ( Side note - the only man I thought was somewhat intriguing that night, was a man standing at the bar watching all the action, but was not a part of it. Worst part...I shrugged him off when he tried to talk to me cause I thought he was part of the whole carnival.....didnt realize till 25 men later...he wasnt...lol!)

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Msg: 82 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/19/2005 8:33:09 PM
@benjammin66 .... No thank you benjammin....if only there were more of us @kubla khan..... You rock!!!! Read over your version of the OP's thread and may I say ....well done!!! Couldn't have said it better myself!!!

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why do people assume so much? Posted: 12/19/2005 7:59:36 PM
Seinfeldt syndrome, whats the deal with that. That does it helluva woman...NO SOUP FOR YOU. DOH ( smacks hand on head )....careful nosoup4u...I might get you "accidently" deported!!!

onehelluvawoman

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Msg: 80 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/19/2005 7:48:32 PM
Hehe...you know I wasnt going to bother commenting anymore on this thread....but what the heck!!! Yes I slammed the thread....yes I slammed the OP....and yes I slammed a good portion of you who backed the OP. It's called all in good fun...it's called being the voice of contradiction... Some people write, crazy stupid things, for reasons we may never know, for which the OP had a field day with...(I maintain my stance much of it was in poor taste). I know the OP was just trying to be funny...practise his writing skills etc etc etc...however...if you are going to write a topic that borders on poor taste, tearing apart common mistakes many people make....yet admit that you yourself had trouble writing your profile as you were trying to taper it to just such the type you have previously shredded apart for their simplicity, you become in my eyes a hypocrite. Plain and simple. I found it quite hilarious that he put so much energy in finding fault in others writings/profiles...but admitted to have trouble with writing his very own profile. He admitted that his biggest problem in that was to come up with something that satisfied him but would satisify the "simpletons" that may be reading it. That said...I slammed the thread...due to poor taste...in my opinion. I slammed the OP for his egoism and his hypocrisy ...in my opinion. I slammed the masses as I really and truly was saddened that that people's words in their profiles ( which even the best of us and the smartest of us have a hard time writing....see the millllllllllllllions of threads from people asking for feedback on their profiles)...can be picked apart so distastefuly by a hypocrite...and you all patted him on the back. So yes I still maintain that I am a little disappointed in you all...there are other threads that have done similar topics...but were clearly done in good fun and in good taste...my hats of too them.!! This one was down in poor taste ( my opinion ) by a egotistical 25 year old ( my opinion)...looking for validation from the masses to tell him how smart he is. ( my opinon ) UUUUUh oh...Im getting nasty again....must get back on track here....... ;) Anyway...bottom line people....I just thought that it was a sad state of affairs how, that on a dating site...meant to help people find a significant other, turned into a free for all to tear down those that may not know how to portray themselves or may not have a gifted mind or vocabulary. If you all want to think it was a great thread...awesome....that is your opinion for which we all have the right to have after all. I did not think it was a great thread....and I wasnt about to just lay back quietly about it...that after all is all part of what forums are about. Find me a thread with a subject line similar to this, that has not had varying degrees all over the spectrum in matters of opinions. That's what makes these threads so darned addicting and fun!!! No real anger was meant towards anyone...no real animosity...and only mild disappointment was meant. Heck if we all put up threads and just had everyone agree with us all the time....then what kind of fun would they be?

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Msg: 50 (view)

Different Types of Women's profiles Posted: 12/19/2005 4:35:44 AM
LMAO...awesome Amazon!!! You know it's funny...there are so many people that are a contradiction of their profiles....the chest people are the most guilty of this!!!

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Msg: 62 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/18/2005 10:54:41 PM
Hmmm...you know my fourth grade mind just hasss to sayyyy..."Stick and stones can break my bones....." You have confessed your fabulous ignorance in each and every sorry attempt you've made to sit at the adult table, with adult words and adult concepts. Who needs to sit at the adult table? Id say its a boy trying to make himself appear as a man. Real men can take some criticism....especially the smart ones!! I maintain my stance in my last post...."You have come across as a pompous know it all that mere mortals are too thick to understand. Step out of your box, and learn with your heart, not just your mind. Your value to yourself and others will greatly increase when you learn that lesson in life." That said OP....I came here to be the voice of contradiction...and to see what you were really made of. (Hmm...I'll be nice and not touch that one ;) ) If I wanted to truly challenge you ...you would lose..hands down.... but Im not here to win or lose...Im here to give my opinion of your post...Im here to give people another perspective...things in life are not all one-sided after all now are they? Hehe...and most of all, Im here to show to all those that read your thread..just how easily riled you can get when the voice of animosity comes knocking at your door. I can take my knocks OP....heck I thought the little banter was fun...but Im much simpler after all....and I find the little silllllllly things in life kind of comical. Must be my pea brain that enjoys looking at the humour in even an antangonist setting. Lighten up OP...deep breath....let the anger you are feeling leave your body and free your mind!

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Msg: 4 (view)

ladies plz review my pro Posted: 12/18/2005 10:23:18 PM
I definitely think your profile concentrates too much on what you don't want, than what you want. No offense, but it's a pretty negative sounding profile. Polish up the spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc. Expand on the interests you list above the "About Me" section. Above all, though - nix the negativety. Hope this helps, no offense intended :-) Good luck. What she said!! Your profile makes you " appear" negative and uneducated.

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Tell me ladies, what is wrong with my profile? Posted: 12/18/2005 10:05:42 PM
anytime....have read some of your other posts/advise....you have a good head on your shoulders.

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Msg: 37 (view)

Men don't like TALL women Posted: 12/18/2005 10:02:59 PM
I find that many tall girls have bad posture. They've been trying not to be tall since junior high, so they have a serious slouch. It doesn't matter how tall you are, standing up straight is more attractive. Sheesh....there was a need to say that because????

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Benefit of the doubt... Posted: 12/18/2005 9:44:49 PM
Most welcome Hope it works out for you!

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Msg: 8 (view)

Tell me ladies, what is wrong with my profile? Posted: 12/18/2005 9:42:50 PM
From a lady...^^^^good advise there!!!!

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Msg: 4 (view)

Benefit of the doubt... Posted: 12/18/2005 9:40:08 PM
I have been there...many times....thus the reason for my answer...I dont think you are insecure personally....I do think your instincts might be trying to tell you something though. However...that said..I will say this..it could be worry over nothing ....in the beginnings of a relationship....we often worry about things, we find out later were nothing to fear at all. Mind you....long distance relationships are tough....takes strong people and a huge element of trust...which must be built and developed....so I would advise you keep your guard up for now...assume him innocent till proven guilty...but keep your eyes open for even the littlest of possible warning signs.

onehelluvawoman

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Tell me ladies, what is wrong with my profile? Posted: 12/18/2005 9:28:28 PM
Technically...nothing is wrong with the profile itself.....why it has not been successful for you...could be the pic you have up????

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can someone rate my profile? Posted: 12/18/2005 9:23:28 PM
Hmm..your profile indirectly gives off the impression that you are still dealing with some issues in your life. Take the advise of all of the above...rewrite...with a more positive approach...write a little more about what kind of person you are etc.

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why do people assume so much? Posted: 12/18/2005 9:16:54 PM
OP...Im with you...I call it Seinfeld Syndrome...finding miniscule things wrong, making a big deal about it ....then sit there and wonder why they are still single. "Not that there's anything wrong with that"

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Msg: 24 (view)

When did you begin to know what love really was? Posted: 12/18/2005 8:49:56 PM
I had no real idea what "love" really meant...in any context till I had my daughter. I was 29, almost 30 when that day came. I grew up in a strict home, where the only sign of affection given me from my mother was a peck on the cheek when I went to bed. My brother being 7 years older then me...never formed a relationship with me as a child and treated me like the "pesty" little sister I was. My father, the one person I could relate to in any way...left when I was 10....and disappeared essentially from my life. When I was old enough to date....I was the clingy type...jealous and insecure....always pushing men away...as I craved from them, what I felt I had never gotten from my home life. As I entered my 20's I concluded that I may never know what love truly was and decided to try and accept it. Then at 23, I met my future husband....and at one time I really thought I loved him. As I grew older and wiser, I realized I was not in love with him at all....but the ideal of him. He treated me overall, like garbage...but I took it...thinking it was the best I could hope for and at least we had a home etc etc etc. At 29, I became pregnant....and shortly before my 30th birthday..my sweet little daughter was born. It was at that moment I truly understood what it was to love someone...anyone. It was from having her that I realized too, that while my mom was not affectionate etc...nor was my brother...they did truly love me, but had not ever been taught how to show it. I realized that my father..despite his leaving, had also loved me...he just loved himself more. I now have an awesome relationship with my mom....and well my brother and I do okay. I realize now too that my ex loved me, but again, he had not learned how to show it. My little girl loves me more than anything in the world and her love alone...is truly all I need. I still dont truly feel love though towards my family...I am working on this though....with time I hope to succeed in this. If it werent for my daughter I would never have truly grasped this concept...and I thank God every day for her...and what He gave me through her little life. One day I do hope to know what it is to feel some form of real love for a man....I am a romantic at heart after all, and believe that my day may come. If the only love that I ever know though, is that of my little girl...I will be forever greatful till the end of my days that I was blessed enough in that.

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Msg: 57 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/18/2005 8:24:52 PM
Oh and one more thing OP....a little advise to you. While you intelligence as I have stated before is obvious....you have a long way to go if you ever hope to become wise. You have come across as a pompous know it all that mere mortals are too thick to understand. Step out of your box, and learn with your heart, not just your mind. Your value to yourself and others will greatly increase when you learn that lesson in life.

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Msg: 56 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/18/2005 8:17:18 PM
@ benjammin66 LOL...very well written....you are truly a "wise" man. Id take that any day over "intellectual,my crap dont stink" man.

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Msg: 39 (view)

Different Types of Women's profiles Posted: 12/18/2005 8:00:10 PM
@ onehelluvawoman I like the break down on the men.lol. Thanks OP... Was fun...I may throw some more in later!!!

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Msg: 54 (view)

Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later. Posted: 12/18/2005 7:54:30 PM
onehelluvawoman, You have failed to grasp so much as one logical connection made in my last post. Observe how the sentences and their clauses relate to each other. Understand that these cannot be addressed alone and out of context. Such is the nature of the paragraph. You must appreciate this continuity if we are to exchange any further correspondence Pllllllleaaaaase! Barf...for one so "intelligent" Im quite surprised that was the best you could come up with... Oh and forgive me unknownideal for not agreeing with you and formulating my own opinion and "tearing" apart your words. Forgive me for for stating my opinion of your thread. Please oh "intelligent one" forgive me for being so simple and common. (Insert finger down throat here) And umm....okay...let me get this straight....you say to me..."that these cannot be addressed alone and out of context. " yet....you're thread is just that....pieces of profiles ....addressed alone ....and Im guessing....just a guess....that perhaps they may be out of context...jusstttt a littttttle" . So OP, while there in no denying your "smarts".....and by all means we have a right to our own opinions etc...you opened the forum to get opinions from others...am I not correct? Or did you just write this to get some kind of "kick/affirmation" from others knowing that the nature of most of the threads on here...concluding the majority would in fact "agree" with you? Either way...take your lumps like a man... PS. I just had to say in relation to the title...."Ladies: this is the most important thread you will ever read. Thank me later." ..."Oooooh I positively thank you OP and adorrre you for telling me in such and insightful way...( even though I didnt understand half of what you said ...but it looked sure pretty with all them big words)....I dont know how I could have been so blind...my online dating life will be much more complete now that I see all the things I have done wrong."

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