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danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

Would you be put off... Posted: 5/12/2008 7:01:58 PM
well I have a solution. You could sell the old pair on ebay as some people like that sort of thing.........you could make more than enough to buy a new pair...... You may even make more than one man happy sort of spreading the joy so to speak.

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

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New to dating again after more than 20 years and need advice... Posted: 5/3/2008 5:17:42 PM
hi, getting separated is not the same as being separated, You should just wait untill that point if not even longer, take some time for yourself, immerse yourself in things you like to do. This will make the transition smoother for both you and your future exhusband and after 20 years. Thier has to be some baggage and unresolved turmoil. Try to move on without upsetting eithor party. Bringing in a new lover will surely cause friction. This is not for your husbands sake but for your piece of mind. Even if he has taken a new lover , take the high road for your own well being. Cool down so too speak, You are in a very vulnerable position, I agree with the previous response you dodged a bullet. The has dating world has changed we are not in high school any more. Now if you only get herpes you are lucky......if you know what I mean. To say that your date was a player is not looking at the whole picture, sure he probably was/is. The point I am trying to make is he or anyone else is only a player if you allow him to be with you. This statement I disagree with wholeheartely because I believe you could not handle this type of arrangement. "There is NOTHING wrong with have a friends with benefits situation... However you have to be sure what you want... Just because a guy shows you interest in wanting to bang you," is that what YOU want????" I guess what I am trying to say can you handle that type of situation ? Maybe you can I know I couldn't. This man is probably afraid of any type of commitment so he preys on lonely wives as that is safe for him. Maybe not afraid of all commitments just not looking to make one with you at this time. You can not blame this man as he stated to you that he did not want to come between you and your husband. Maybe in the heat of passion He was willing to overlook that but your actions led him to believe that you were not sure of your desired outcome IE divorce or This reminds me of a lesson from a teacher in wood working in high school as the teacher stated you must put away the tool you finised using before pulling out a new one.

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 91 (view)

it is all painfull, we just hide it better Posted: 5/2/2008 5:30:15 PM
I have found a little good music helps me hide what no one should have to hear, I like to say there will be no Co-Miserating with Dan http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rawFDzBmvcI&feature=related

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 85 (view)

How can men stop having feelings so quickly? Posted: 5/2/2008 3:50:28 PM
well it would seem all has been said, but I still wanted to put my two cent's worth. I used to say never be with a girl that you would be upset you if she left you. To show/admit love for a woman is a sign of weakness. Never be with a girl whos parent's like you a little too much. Well I was jilted at a young age where all that seemed to apply, a self defense to save me from heart ache. Well I made the mistake of going back to that same woman twenty odd years later, or should I say she searched me out. Wow what a mistake as the hurt just came back and she was the same person just older and meaner. After 3 years with her I could not handle the messed up being she really was , I left her when I found she was doing drugs behind my back.This was a learning and I put those beliefs behind me. I have learned not to hide these feelings but I still have no idea on how to process them. Hurting you don't come easy...... a song but not words that my exwife lived by. I now know that the appearance of love by some people is just that. I know more woman who cheat on thier partners than I do men. I pride myself having morals and knowing to move on if you feel the need to be unfaithful as that only makes every thing worse for all concerned. I will venture to say that men who portray no hurt when most woman would feel it are just hiding it better, we are not that much different when it comes to feelings just on how we share them.

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

Would you be put off... Posted: 5/2/2008 2:52:28 AM
waste not want not....tell if he rips your undies , he can't touch them......

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

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Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men? Posted: 4/30/2008 7:08:55 PM
What to say but I like being on the recieving end of a womans orgasm , shall I say face first...I really enjoy this more that my own orgasm, well a close second......damm I got to find me a woman. wow this is almost better than Dr Ruth

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

Do I tell him I know and it is fine or keep my mouth shut and wait Posted: 4/27/2008 4:14:16 PM
Honestly rules, tell him let him know that is a cause for concern.... maybe he is just a voyeur. reading these posts, checking out for the sake of it. I don't know how far your relationship has progressed, Is it possible that you are on a differrnt timeline, different paths that will lead to the same end result? By forcing the issue who may never know where this jouney will end with interference. Give it time as you should any new realationship. Well I have stated you should tell him, and with a little more thought I seem to have advised a different approach. Well these are options what you decide is what matters, take this info and the post of others, be sure to discard the options that are really outlandish. You will figure it out and good luck with that.

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

Why do women give abusive ex's another chance? Posted: 4/27/2008 8:25:41 AM
Maybe just maybe the story was a one sided fabricated story, I know now that the abusiveness in a relationship may perpurtrated by the person telling you she/he was abused and not the alleged abuser as you are led to believe. The old addage also comes into mind It takes two to tango. So be glad those two found each and let you walk ....

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 112 (view)

When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape? Posted: 4/27/2008 7:12:08 AM
well, I always go the rule if you bring a girl to the dance you should see she gets home safetly..... I would never pick up a drunken Woman, if they don't care about about themselves , not worth my time. Lets call this what it is what it is a case of low self esteem all boozed up. I try to maintain composure while out in public. In our society where people blame everything on anyone but themselves, keep your distance. I don't know about rape but I do know about living within a moral code that am proud to have any one scrutinize.

danieljoseph

Joined: 4/13/2008

Msg: 933 (view)

Why do women post pictures of their breasts in thier profile? Posted: 4/23/2008 1:27:03 PM
well I dare say that most men are shallow and all they see boobs, and other body parts and women are conditioned by society, be it low self esteem or are just proud of their boobs, or just trying to play the game by the the rules that they percieve. They try to give the men what they want just to be noticed by us men. Which I think is sort of demeaning to themselve and also for us men . Not to say I don't like boobs as A matter of fact where are they all located... After having a wife with the man made models who just wasn't all there. My sister took it upon herself to proclaim at xmas dinner you need to find a woman who has a bigger brain than boobs, Could that be interpeted as you need to find a woman with a bigger fake brain thatn bigger fake boobs.

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