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 Author Thread: How do you know if he is just being a guy or he is just not into you?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How do you know if he is just being a guy or he is just not into you?
Posted: 6/3/2012 12:45:53 PM
I would think why doesn't she initiate it?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Im a little confused about this guy im suppose to be friends with
Posted: 5/30/2012 8:53:05 PM

i do have feelings for him and well i'd like a chance though


The time has now come for you to face things head on and deal with them :) You can sit back quietly in the hopes that he tells you what you'd like to hear or you can be all grown up about it and tell him how YOU feel and where you'd like it to go.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Never a Religious Man around?
Posted: 5/29/2012 7:56:30 PM
I would say that it's because they have chosen to focus on and believe in what can be proven and is not just stories past around and around.

We are not stupid but rather more realistic.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
how long would you wait?
Posted: 5/26/2012 9:50:11 AM
Oh I hear you as I and most others also shared your current view point as they too waited for “the one”.

But what we all learned is that even if you wait, “life's” reality happens.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why is it guys only want sex??
Posted: 5/22/2012 9:48:21 PM
Well, guys really like sex and when there's a challenge to get it, some guys like that.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Just curious, but how important is having a comfort level on a first meet?
Posted: 5/21/2012 8:00:44 PM
Of course being comfortable with someone right off has a bearing on whether you'd want to get to know them better since it's that first meet that will dictte if you want another.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Do I simply just not answer, or tell them I'm not interested?
Posted: 5/20/2012 11:17:24 PM
As a guy, he should just get the hint but, a nice friendly « thanks but no thanks » is good. Just make sure you mention that your reply is not an invitation for a discussion.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What's up with this?
Posted: 5/17/2012 4:21:25 PM
Are you saying this IS what happened or you envision happening?

Either way, he is wanting to know you better... and you make it hard for him to do that.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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How much 'vision' do you apply to your life?
Posted: 5/14/2012 9:23:06 PM
Ohhhhh boy that is a fun question with a fun answer!

I would suspect that most guys have a vision for a career... problem is that they may not know which one.

To figure that out, start at the end when you retire. Where are you retiring from?

Then think five years before that, what did you have to do to get there? Then think of five before that. Keep thinking about it until you get to today!

I never planned for a future soul mate as that is unpredictable.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is it usual for men to say I love you within 24 of conversing with a woman online?
Posted: 5/13/2012 5:07:57 PM
He doesn't love you but, he does love the illusion he has of you.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Does this mean he is not serious about a Relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2012 4:56:00 PM
Please don't tell me you are drawing conclusions based on him deleting your conversations on POF. You should be basing it on how you two interact and your fee;ings towards him.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Emailing back and forth
Posted: 4/28/2012 9:09:02 PM
If you're also interested, why don't YOU make the suggestion?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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A New Girlfriend?
Posted: 4/27/2012 9:15:07 AM
Ask 1,000,000 people and you'll get 1,000,000 different answers. So what you should focus on is YOU.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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frustrated..
Posted: 4/24/2012 8:57:59 PM

How long do guys wait when there interested in someone to get a hold of them


It could be that HE is also waiting for your call. With you not calling him, you sure are giving him an odd message so, just call him.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Is a sense of humour a good trait ?
Posted: 4/21/2012 2:56:41 PM
A sense of humour to me is a MUST. No she does not need ro crack jokes all the time but at least get my humorous nature and gooder sense of humour.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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confused
Posted: 4/15/2012 5:56:07 PM

he just doesn't see us being together at the moment but still wants to be friends but we still sleep together


So you then chose to have a fwb.


he just using me or does he actually have feelings for me?


He seemed to be clear on what he did and did not want... but whe about you?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Advice please :)
Posted: 4/15/2012 10:37:17 AM

how do I do I show interest without appearing needy or aggressive?


Oh boy, how complicated we sometimes like to make things. The answer is simply to do what you feel feels right. If you feel like calling him then, call him. If you go on a date with him and don't feel a spark, tell them that you don't feel a connection.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Is he interested or just playing around?
Posted: 3/31/2012 12:46:03 PM

he's flirting with me via emails


Ah I see so now we know what HE'S done and now, what about YOU?


When I FINALLY noticed him after months of effort, we started talking more often via email. Then, he gave me his number. We started talking via texting


Hmmm, and you did not call to speak to him?


he hasn't asked me out on a date


Why don't you??? Let me guess, it's up to rhe guy to, right?


He's definitely not single, or serious if he doesn't contact me on weekends or hasn't asked me out on a date after all this time


HE'S not serious? What did you ever initiate with him? If you are expecting him to initiate everything, I can see where this is going.


What does he want?


Better question is “What do YOU want?”.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Girls with guns?
Posted: 3/27/2012 10:03:26 PM
To me it's merely an interest of hers just as stamp collecting is to others.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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DATING BOOKS
Posted: 3/27/2012 6:22:03 PM

So how do men feel about this and at what point in the dating process is it ok to just start calling to chat and ask him out


First of all, I would H HIGHLY recommend you get a dating book that's up with today's times as what you mention was true yesterday. Now a days, women want to feel a as they too can take charge.

So if you meet a guy you like, don't be hesitant to reach out!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Should I ignore him?
Posted: 3/25/2012 8:06:39 PM
You've done exactly what you needed to and now, it's time fot him to get the message by you not returning his messages.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Do I tell him I like him ?
Posted: 3/23/2012 1:29:03 AM

I was thinking of doing it over email


Doing THAT is the last thing you want to do. This has to be done face to face.


ive never been a word-smith


This is where you need to not worry so much as to how it's to come out as what you should focus om is speaking from the heart.

Tell him how you've grown to like him now as when you first met, you were at a different stage in your life but now... you're ready to explore the world of possibilities with a man.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Your First Love
Posted: 3/18/2012 7:49:09 PM
Mine was a girl I met years ago! Even though we loved each other, I knew she would always go from job to job as she would always tire of them. What I remember most about her is that the sex was GREAT!!!

I would love to see her again but, she moved to the UK :(
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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3 Dates and No Spark - What to do?
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:52:38 PM
If you keep going out with, you will be leading him on.

To end it, speak from the heart as you did here and tell him


I don't see this going anywhere
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
I think he likes me
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:05:42 PM

What I am worried about is that she may sabotage any potential interest by saying something bad about me


The only real sabotage will be you if YOU don't act.


Should I keep my interest quiet from now on from the girl?


Why on earth would you do that and let him slip away?


The other thing that is a problem is that I get really unconfident and stuff up what I am going to say to him when he asks me stuff, will this be a turn off for him?


It will be a turn off if you choose not to act.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Just a drink.....nothing more?
Posted: 3/12/2012 11:07:47 AM

I need to get inside a certain man's head


No you don't as it's what's in yours that's important and need to worry about, not his.

All you can do is speak from your heart and let him react to you.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is intellegence a deal breaker?
Posted: 3/12/2012 1:43:18 AM
You make laugh! Being knowledgeable of current events is not everyone's cup of tea. For me, as long as she does not go on and on about fashion and hair styles and cloth for hours.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should I make contact or wait?
Posted: 3/10/2012 2:25:55 PM

Think I should wait to hear from him?


Wait? For what? Comes a time where one needs to set aside all negative thoughts and pursue what you think is right.


Should I try to contact him?


Sure seems to me you should.


Is he even still interested?


There's only one way to find out isn't there?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Copy and Pasted Messages
Posted: 3/7/2012 10:00:14 PM

1) Do you send out copy and pasted messages?


No I don't as I want each response to be specific to them.


2) Have you received copy and pasted messages?


Yes I have and had I been interested, I would of replied.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do some men PREFER blondes?
Posted: 3/7/2012 10:48:10 AM
It's typically a 100% personnal preference. I'm a sucker for blonds... and boobs so, if a C cup blond walked by... oh boy!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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can a younger man be man enuf
Posted: 3/6/2012 9:55:53 PM
At that age, it's more to do with sex and obviously, with you!

By the way, “alot” is spelled “a lot”.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Asking the OP if they are keeping their options open.
Posted: 3/6/2012 6:17:00 PM
Oh my, talk about making a mountain out of a moll hill.

Let me get this right, you met someone from here and went out and got along.

Now you saw him on-line here and you're wondering if you're... something like a fling?

Bare in mind you've met ONCE, and you seem to think you guys are life partners already.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is it ruder to tell someone you aren't interested in that way or simply not reply?
Posted: 3/6/2012 3:17:09 PM
Yes, some people are like that so if you're not interested then, politely say so.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Very confused
Posted: 3/6/2012 11:56:55 AM
Let's look at the facts here and not “what we make them out to be.

You've not gotten the feeling that he is genuinely interested in pursuing something with you, so why look any further?


I can take a hint but why do men sometimes go thru all that then don't want to meet much less chat?


because it sometimes makes sense to them to string you along... go figure.

Situation 2, in the end, what has he shown you about his true interest?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Had a great time with my friend, one small comment at the end irked me : say something or not?
Posted: 3/3/2012 11:04:17 PM

should I let it go or not, if not, bring it up how?


Bring what up? Seems to me that if it's something that urked you enough to write about it here, then just maybe it's something you should address.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Did I do something wrong?
Posted: 3/3/2012 10:41:25 PM
Who says there's something wrong with you?

You think that a few people from here will dictate if something is amiss with you? C'mon, beside having wayyyy too much coodies, I think you're fine :)
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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How do you know?
Posted: 3/3/2012 6:26:53 AM

when do you decide which women to ask out??


We will ask when it simply feels right :)


Are you safe only asking the women most likely to say yes??


Well think about it, if you know she's going to say no, why would you even ask, right?

Or is the only the ones you are the most attracted too??


That does seem to be a general thing :)


Do you go in expecting sex a the end of a date?


He'd be a fool if he did.


Would you be offend if a woman could only afford cheap dates?


Of course not, he would just be pleased he was on the date!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Valentines Day
Posted: 3/1/2012 7:35:19 PM
You tell me, you blocked a guy for NOT contacting you on Valentines day, and you wonder if you were too harsh?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Hot and Cold. Seems interested but then....
Posted: 3/1/2012 5:19:20 PM

since he obviously did not seem to want contact anymore


There's your reason for choosing your course of action.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
What do men notice about women?
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:29:01 AM
There is no ONE thing that makes or brakes the deal as it's an overall package.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Waiting for a guy to ask me out
Posted: 2/28/2012 12:04:20 PM

how long should I wait for them to ask me out


Right there lies part pf the problem. Why are you waiting for them to ask you? Why don't you ask them?


If a guy is interested, how long should I wait for him to ask me out?


You can be waiting a long long time unless you get with todays times and do what YOU feel should happen.


waiting like this and playing these games are leaving me empty


So then why are you?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Conversation going round in circles
Posted: 2/27/2012 5:02:58 PM

but he doesn't make a move to try to get closer


And do you? I've heard MANY women complain of the guy not making a move but, I always ask them why THEY don't?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
A boyfriend jealous of your cat
Posted: 2/26/2012 2:44:19 PM
Can you tell that this has nothing to do with the cat and everything to do with how HE feels in regards to the cat?
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
When a guy gives you his #
Posted: 2/25/2012 4:46:04 PM

the girl texting a guy first makes her look clingy/desperate


It also shows a sign of her self confidence.

Tes you can send him a simple hello ot\r you can c-a-l-l him too.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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What evidence do we have that the historical Jesus lived?
Posted: 2/23/2012 7:20:20 PM
I hear your point of view and considered the same things. I had even asked a question here wondering if someone would “show me the light” but alas, I was essentially told that I was correct in my belief.

What is that belief? No one has shown me ANY p-r-o-o-f as there is is, stories passed from person to person. But NONE of it has any proof behind it.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
money inside my bra cup
Posted: 2/23/2012 3:01:45 PM
To be honest, I would think it odd that she do that and I'd be very tempted to warn her of potential paper cuts and would offer a fr ee check-up!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Intelligent, confident girls - intimidating or attractive?
Posted: 2/22/2012 3:28:21 AM
An intelligent and confident woman? Wow, did Santa com e by?

I would agree that it depends on the guy as some guys may feel intimidated and others, not so much!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Where is this going?
Posted: 2/20/2012 5:53:06 PM
Oh for pete's sake, ask 1000 people and you'll get 1000 different answers.

At this point, you need to stop hiding behind « what others think » and do what you think is correct.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
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Do you get shy around girls you find attractive?
Posted: 2/19/2012 12:11:40 PM

was it shyness or was he not very interested


Does it really matter? Bottom line here is how do YOU feel? You should act on THAT only.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
which do you prefer?
Posted: 2/18/2012 6:00:01 PM
Even if either way will explain the same thing, “I” would prefer a response of "I'm not interested in you".
 
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