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poet of tragedy

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Why doesn't anybody answer me? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:49:59 PM
Nostradamus, 2012 and opinions all share one thing...they are open for endless explanations and does not make one "loony". Simply be who you are, some will answer and others will not; however, keep hope alive and you will fine someone.

poet of tragedy

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Do ya think? Posted: 7/17/2009 6:48:41 PM
It is your soul right to think and express yourself as you feel, some will find such fault only through their own inadequacies and failures. These forums are for the expression of thought, and perhaps the lady in question is of a different character than you prefer; however, the rudeness in which you so desperately and unfortunately clutch and reply too should have been passed over if it is not of your ambiguous standards. I have viewed her profile and have found nothing to devalue or deserving of insult and immaturity.

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Art Versus Commerce in Pop Culture Posted: 7/16/2009 7:44:34 PM
My personal favorites are on two fronts, the absolutely fantastic exploration of color and surreal atmosphere of the Italian giallo films of the 60's and 70's. While on a more modern note I am obsessed with the films of David Lynch, Richard Kelly, Alex Proyas and David Cronenberg.

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religion in a relationship...deal breaker? Posted: 11/20/2008 5:08:13 AM
The fact that you would resort to name calling because someone beliefs differ from yours, and that they want to find someone whose beliefs and faith are compatible to them , shows you to be judgemental and childish. There was no name calling, however, I was speaking of the situation and not her. But, by the same token please take time and review your statement, the same could be said about yourself.

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religion in a relationship...deal breaker? Posted: 11/19/2008 7:14:26 PM
I have encountered this situation recently, regrettably. Everything between her and I was working out fine, each enjoyed spending time with the other until a discussion came up. One that I knew would happen eventually and naturally; however, being honest is must with me. So, I mentioned to her that I am an atheist and believe everyone has a right to find what ever faith best suits them, unfortunately, this was an automatic stopping point for her. Shock and absolute awe that anyone would push away someone that touches their life with a bit of happiness over something that is only a fraction of what life is about is crazy seems absurd and negative. That some would be afraid of what they do not understand or unwilling to simply discuss it rationally.

poet of tragedy

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New Neil Young album! Posted: 10/15/2008 2:35:21 PM
Count me in, I am a huge Neil fan.

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Death Metal and Dating... Posted: 10/14/2008 5:43:30 PM
The genre of music, be it death, grind core, gore core, black-metal (nsbm and primitive), doom and the thousand others out there, what does it really matter? The person should like you for who you are. The two of you will not always agree on all things; however, to let music stand in between you and another is a bit shallow.

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One night stands - Can't stand them and here is why Posted: 10/8/2008 4:53:05 PM
Of course my last brief encounter was schizophrenic and a thief, so learn we still do.

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One night stands - Can't stand them and here is why Posted: 10/8/2008 4:49:09 PM
I prefer something lasting and long term, the one night indulgence is a learning exp. and a part of youth. As age and hopefully a little wisdom is bestowed through the years i have found something of depth and meaning is much more fulfilling.

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Why would........? Posted: 10/5/2008 5:53:57 PM
Ignore the shallow minded and ignorance, beauty like a book, is more than the cover. Each page a refreshing and colorful view of another's life, live and be who you are and forget those that prefer to judge.

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Delerium w/ Elsiane Posted: 9/29/2008 9:02:46 PM
While I enjoy Delerium, many of Bill Leeb's other projects interest me more. Perhaps they are a bit darker and chaotic, but entertaining. Have you tried Front Line Assembly, Noise Unit and Skinny Puppy (only a brief time in this one)?

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punk rock/hardcore bands Posted: 9/25/2008 7:35:42 PM
the exploited A.O.D. Bad Religion Minor Threat Social Distortion (old)

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Just something I ponder...do you? Posted: 9/23/2008 7:04:54 PM
To define what you desire and want through predetermined criteria places you behind blinding self-doubt, put away your list and truly open your eyes to the world. Discover yourself and possibly your dream date. Who knows he may not be anything on your list, then again he may be much more.

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Are you a pack or a soliatary creature? Posted: 9/23/2008 6:55:28 PM
There is wisdom to be found in one who can be happy in solitude, within silence and absence of the intruding influence from the world with out. However, through this journey of the self we discover another that gives meaning and further depth to our happiness, are we not then in a far better place to appreciate the beauty that now touches our lives?

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New Metallica album Posted: 9/8/2008 8:02:36 PM
In my not so very important opinion, I think Metallica have overstayed their welcome and the last few albums by them are absolutely horrible. Then again, I thought the black album was the last decent thing they recorded.

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age Posted: 9/8/2008 7:58:37 PM
Nah, never judge a book by it's cover....lol

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Conventional trend follower, or unique setter? Posted: 8/25/2008 6:06:38 PM
To go against the grain, intruding not upon the familiar, instead detaching the chord and truly living. Be it bizarre or strange, it matters so very little so long as we live honestly and with purity of conviction that trends and social patterns do not hold sway in our hearts. Others will either enjoy your company or not, that is their choice; however, I will always be myself regardless.

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Is being an individual really a turnoff for people? Posted: 8/20/2008 6:58:05 PM
Simply be who you are, never falter in your course or let yourself become dislodged what others may or may not think. In time you will find one who will think you are truly special, no rush or pressure, just nature.

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Most Abstract Music Videos Posted: 8/9/2008 7:41:22 PM
Skinny Puppy "killing game" or oHGr's "majik"

poet of tragedy

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picture Posted: 6/25/2008 5:21:18 PM
I agree with you to an extent, nothing should be based on your looks and should be on the many qualities that make up who you are. However, both sexes are stimulated in part through the visual aspect, where as your headline may not catch their interest your picture may give them reason to read your profile to discover more about you. It is a give and take situation, it entirely up to you to choose which best suits you.

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Do You Feel Stuck In The Middle? Posted: 6/25/2008 5:12:56 PM
I'm in the same boat as you are friend, mid thirties and I have a beautiful daughter who is 10 next month. I have also encountered many of the same problems as you; however, we simply must go on.

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Married men less drama...dont tell me lies that your gettin a divorce Posted: 6/16/2008 8:49:30 PM
You let yourself get involved with a married man, what did you expect the outcome to be? Can you really be upset or mad, what gives you that right? Just move on, live life and forget about him.

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Soulja Boy Off In This Hoe Posted: 6/16/2008 8:40:03 PM
Eh, definitely not my style of music. I prefer something that is a bit more mature and original, even though the song has a beat it does not qualify it as actual music. Music can be erotic and sensual with out being degrading.

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Respect Posted: 6/13/2008 7:14:50 PM
Actually, that is exactly how I view things. My daughter will be ten next month and in a few years I am sure dating, so I want her to see through me how she should be treated and respected. To learn from my mistakes, my fortunate times, bad times and good times. Everything I am in this life I would like for her to one day say that she is proud of the things I have shown her, and hopefully she will find her own happiness.

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Any Industrial music fans? Posted: 6/12/2008 4:51:01 PM
I dunno, skinny puppy has always held such a special place in my heart.

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Why do some people confuse other people? Posted: 6/11/2008 6:28:28 PM
Wish you luck with what ever you decide. Roanoke is not an easy town, I am reminded of that every time I go to pick my daughter up....lol

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Has a woman ever lied about her job or marital status? Posted: 6/11/2008 6:23:00 PM
In answer to your broad question, yes I have had at least one woman lie to me on just about every level. I originally met her through the retail store that I manage, on first impression she was quite attractive with a very warm and caring personality. She later found me on POF and asked if I would care to get to know each other outside of my job, naturally, I said I would love too. We met later that night for dinner, talked about the ups and downs of each others lives. Normally I try to stay close to my own age, give or take a couple of years, then she hit me with her age (19); however, I said what the hell. She appeared quite mature and good natured. So we get together a few times after, with each time her giving me more and more details about her life. At which time I began to think there is no way she has experienced all of what she has said. From the nature of her employment to her living situation. Here is where my intuition started sending up signals all over the place. It quickly became apparent that what she said and really was quite different from the reality of it all. Later, she would try to reiterate certain ’facts’ about herself, only failing to realize I have an excellent memory and I am quite observant, the contradictions was painted with clarity. Then, in comes the sympathy card, various excuses and lies later the only time she came around after I became distant was wanting a hand out, so once I gave in to see the extent of her lies and baited her. I gave what she asked and asked if we could meet later, she agreed and even set a time and place, guess what she even lied about that. However, karma has a way of humbling you. So let those who misrepresent or lie about themselves do just that, it always catches them in the end.

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new car vs old car Posted: 6/8/2008 4:46:18 PM
If the type of vehicle I drive is part of the requirement of the woman’s appeal for me, I would have to say thanks, but no thanks. Though I do drive a 07 model, this is for transportation and personal use, not a status of my social standing, income level or attractiveness.

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What would you inscribe or etch for posterity about yourself Posted: 6/3/2008 5:12:42 PM
Simply, a spiral, with my name scribed within. To represent the hypnotic path of my life, while leaving the rest to the observers subconscious . Sometimes, the most obscure things are beauty and mystery, much like life.

poet of tragedy

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Is this person Bipolar? Posted: 6/2/2008 7:51:04 PM
It sounds like a lady i know....lol

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Masturbation=cheating Posted: 6/2/2008 7:47:21 PM
Masturbation is a very natural act, like anything else, it can be abused; however, who is she to make such a demand over another’s life? She should step and re-evaluate her relationship and he should grow some balls and tell her no!

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questions you WISH you asked early in relationship? Posted: 6/2/2008 5:01:33 PM
Is your ex-husband also your stepbrother? (yes, quite strange and I must start asking this) Does your personal life resemble a painting by Picasso? Is it really necessary to change jobs every other week? Is it absolutely necessary to lie about everything? Is your intent to use me for money, housing or a fun time? If it is just sex, tell me, you never know I might just say yes.

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do you get scared off? Posted: 6/1/2008 6:44:07 PM
You deserve respect and the admiration of all, through your illness you have shown strength and courage. I can only assume those whom you become close with can only feel the warmth and strength to truly live as you.

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Models in skin mags: what do you think of them? Posted: 6/1/2008 6:40:01 PM
I prefer real women, not what the megalomaniacs and corporate titans project. I am not perfect, so why should I expect a woman I find attractive to be perfect?

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Why do women think that the men are the only ones out for casual sex? Posted: 6/1/2008 6:32:45 PM
I agree, both genders have this issue. Unfortunately, you just have too weed out the good from the bad.

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Self forgiveness equals no more broken heart Posted: 6/1/2008 6:23:32 PM
Yes, forgiveness of self is a must. Sometimes we are to blame, while other we are not; however, the thing that we must realize we gave the relationship everything we had. We must move on, grow and live.

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 5/29/2008 6:01:22 PM
This I know all to well of late. A woman who initially contacted me through POF and latter I discovered is a customer of the retail store I manage, started talking, went out for dinner, we had a great time and shared a lot in common, so I asked if I could see her again. We made plans for the weekend, that went great as well, so we decided to see each other again; however, at this point her visits to my store increased greatly (more than her reoccurring payments required), which I really had no problems with until I began to notice drastic ups and downs in her moods, absolute changes in her personality and her personal problems with her family (which is another long and really strange story itself). Unfortunately, I decided to look past the small red flags and give it a go, I am a firm believer no one is perfect and everyone has flaws and things progressed at comfortable pace. Intimacy became a steady part and she became a regular overnight guest at my home until another small flag appeared. My clothes had been rearranged, personal items had been changed or gone through and various contacts that I keep on my computer contacted. Once again, her moods started going off the scale, a complete change in personality and a emptiness behind her eyes. So, a situation happened in concerns to the item she had financed through my store and her ex-husband, so advised her to seek legal action under the grand larceny law in the state of Virginia. Over the past month she grew distant and I welcomed it as an opportunity to re-evaluate our situation and discovered many other warning signs that I should have noticed, but because of my desire I was quite blind to. Today, the case was taken before the judge and everything on my part was resolved. Afterwards, I had a few details still to be ironed out with her ex-husband I approached him (and to this moment he knows nothing of my personal relationship with his ex-wife outside of my store), we begin to chat first about the business at hand and then he breaks down and tells me all the things she has accused him of and all the things believes about her. I started to notice a pattern, (I am in no way saying that he is the victim or innocent) down to how she even acted right before court. Like a an exploding volcano, she became unpredictable and volatile. Absolutely exploding in contradiction to almost everything she has ever did or said to me, painting a moment of absolute clarity to the stream of lies over the past few months. Her many disorders and personal problems became quite apparent, then the commonwealth’s attorney made a few comments that verified my worse fears.

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eee the male ego Posted: 5/22/2008 7:51:09 PM
Ego, a most over rated thing. I am who I am and my intimate life is just between me and who ever I shared that moment with. My friends need not know all the details of my life.

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Is this a new social phenomenon??? Posted: 5/22/2008 6:20:53 PM
It truly is a beautiful thing to find one that you can share your life with; however, as stated before the independent nature of both male and female has caused a shift in society. I think though, if we are ever to find that special one in our lives we must be able to calm the independent spirit restless within and find a place of mutual clarity where two can share the core of who they are.

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Social Distortion? Posted: 5/21/2008 11:54:04 AM
"mommy's little monster" or "another state of mine", before Mike Ness' departure from punk.

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Sweet girl? Posted: 5/20/2008 5:14:07 PM
It would appear that being “sweet” or ‘nice” is the kiss of doom. My question is why do so many choose to continually go after those they know will lie, cheat or abuse them in some fashion? Has society sank to such depths where the perversity of being an all around bad or unpleasant person preferable to a genuine and decent person?

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Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours? Posted: 5/18/2008 1:47:12 PM
Yes, recently. Out of respect I will not go into any of her personal problems or red flags. Lets just say, i let us drift apart with out any attempt on my part to make contact after seeing the lies and obvious psychiatric issues.

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he left her at a gas station Posted: 5/17/2008 5:58:24 PM
That was a most honorable thing that you did and if you believe in karma it will return to you in the most unlikely of ways. And you are right, money is not everything. I would rather be broke and happy than rich and lonely. A person could use more friends like yourself.

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Why am I single? Posted: 5/15/2008 7:17:38 PM
A club that seems to be growing.

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Abusive men, why do we forgive and go back? Please help. Posted: 5/14/2008 3:03:25 PM
I have often wondered why some women choose an abusive man over one that treats her with respect and dignity. I have personally witnessed this on multiple occasions and it absolutely puzzles me. Why, would you want someone that hurts and degrades you?

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 5/13/2008 10:32:07 PM
You have good times and bad, single some days and others not single. Just take each day as it comes and see where it takes you. Try not ponder upon it to much.

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Are you lonesome tonight? Posted: 5/13/2008 8:13:49 PM
Loneliness may not always be resolved by just socializing or one night stands, that may make you feel at ease; however, there is nothing like the warm caress of a loving touch. Each day, refreshed and angelic.

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Claiming To Treat You Like A Princess Or Goddess Posted: 5/12/2008 6:45:24 PM
Simply I will treat a woman as I hope she will treat me in return, with a little respect and honesty.

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Dry humor vs sarcasm Posted: 5/12/2008 6:42:15 PM
I have an odd sense of humor, sometimes sarcastic in a playful way and at others times off the wall strange. But, I have never had anyone offended or insulted by my words or intent and I have been told by those close tome it is quite addictive.

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Do you think it's degrading... Posted: 5/12/2008 6:36:30 PM
Sexual exploration, is fundamental in a healthy sex life. Some things you may care for and others you may want to avoid after the first time. Simply let go of your inhibitions and discover yourself anew, please her and please yourself in the process. However, never force, let everything flow naturally and have fun.

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