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mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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How to ask vanilla guy for sth more racy Posted: 3/14/2007 1:41:58 PM
give him a massage one day then stick a finger up his butt. if he freaks then ask him what he does like.

mrrl

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How can you love so much? Posted: 2/28/2007 1:42:36 PM
KEEP THEM ALL!!! as crazy as it seems, it's going to teach you a lot about yourself and what you want out of life and relationships. DO NOT go exclusive with ANY of them! you are way too young. if you have any friends who are in their late 20s, early 30s who are either married or have been in LTRs since college, ask them if they would've liked to have been so serious so young. i bet you they say no. as one other poster mentioned, don't drive yourself too insane at the expense of school. dudes are SOOOO not worth it. also, you're doing the best thing by at least being honest with them all. keep it up. one other thing, you're not in love. it's just the feeling of being on your own and being able to make your own choices. even if its stupid ones. this is what college is for!!!!

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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Would you be weirded out? Posted: 2/28/2007 1:24:42 PM
yeah, i say go for it. if he waited til the now 4th date to get some, then definately put it on him. seems like you want to anyway. even if he might think it's weird, at least you get some sex out of it.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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When a women does not have vaginal orgasms Posted: 2/28/2007 1:13:15 PM
considering the overwhelming majority of women do not have vaginal orgasms, it's not that big of a deal. i hear it's amazingly pleasureable, but not to the point of orgasm. as long as you know what gets you off, such as clitoral stimulation, let him know.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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Is it better to save the best for the one? Posted: 2/28/2007 9:25:04 AM
if you like to F***, and you seem to, go balls out. no pun intended. take it for what it is, sex. if you find it pleasurable, then knock youself out. get yours. the guy will.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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How can u tell if he is sincere or if he's just trying to get a booty call? Posted: 2/28/2007 9:09:51 AM
accept the fact that first and foremost, he's trying to get some a$$. and i don't want to be too harsh, just real, but, having a pic of you and your baby with "long term" as what you're looking for, reaks of desperation. so either you're going to find the right guy or the right now guy. i'm thinking you'll more frequently find the latter.

mrrl

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Someone for everyone Posted: 2/28/2007 9:00:44 AM
i guess i'm old school because i still believe that there's always someone for everyone. that being said, there's the old cliche' about having a "soul mate", that i do not believe in. if you do, then perhaps that's where you've had bad luck. the effort that is allocated to each other determines how far that two of you will go. and that's the rub. if one tries harder than the other, ultimately it won't work. for the most part, human beings yearn for companionship. they long for having someone to grow old with so as not be alone. if that is you, then you will find someone. besides, you're still 28, coming up on 30. and they say that 30 is the new 20. realize that a lot of the people that thought they found the "one" in their early 20s, no longer have that person.

mrrl

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orgasm vs just cuming Posted: 2/19/2007 9:13:28 AM
well, i've never not shot during orgasm. is that possible for a man? not trying to be rude, just inquisitive. i know women can cum without the orgasm and feel just as good. some women that i've been with prefer cumming without the full orgasm sometimes. me, gotta release.

mrrl

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Making the first move Posted: 2/19/2007 9:09:06 AM
umm... is the pope catholic??? i absofreakinlutely dig girls that are aggressive about what it is they want. even if it's just holding hands. now, TOO aggressive is a slight turn off, but, moderate is just right. being coy on a first date is expected and therefore mundane. spicing it up is awesome. catch us off guard, it's rad.

mrrl

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when he's all over u, then shoots u down..... Posted: 2/19/2007 8:20:04 AM
dealing with ashtray mouths is one of those things guys do in order to get some cookie. some guys would go into a tobacco field in order to nail some tail. sorry to break it to you, but, you were just a good lay, with all do respect. too bad for him though. i'm a smoker as well and i'm more than just my habit.

mrrl

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What to think about this? Posted: 2/19/2007 8:13:41 AM
I wanted him to stay bc i liked being with him, but jesus christ.. ... p.s. and im not dissapointed about not "doing it" huh? c'mon, i know you had the female version of blue balls that nite! that IS extremely peculiar! perhaps, since he's Irish, he's going into the priesthood and has a declared a vow of celbacy. that or his penis is an "innie".

mrrl

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How long could you hold out? Posted: 2/19/2007 8:01:16 AM
well, i developed acute carpal tunnel last year on my happy hand so i went without self-love for a good while. needless to say, my dog gained A LOT of weight with all the peanut butter he licked off!!!

mrrl

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new to this - pof Posted: 2/16/2007 1:56:51 PM
P:S: I'm not a guy. if you were, you'd be a pretty hot dude. anyhoot, definately no nudies unless that's what you want in return OP. depending on what's on the dude's profile, relate to that. like me, for instance, i'm extremely sarcastic and verbose with regards to what's on my mind. tell me i'm funny or something? or, if that dude has poetry or directions on how to save the planet or is opinionated about NOT clubbing baby seals, try and inquire or respond. good luck!

mrrl

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Birthday gift for a guy Posted: 2/14/2007 1:41:47 PM
the SI thing is a good idea. better yet, get him a pair of tickets to a sports venue. since football season is another 7mos away, get something for perhaps an amateur team. spring training is coming up and maybe you have some teams where you live. or even some college basketball team. AND, since the tickets are for both of you, it will make moon fish happy too!!!!

mrrl

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Sleeping With The Boyfriend Posted: 2/14/2007 1:30:23 PM
On the other hand i'm not really putting myself out there either.. DING DING DING!!! you might have just answered it. if you've shot him down a couple times when he's ready to go, that might have been very detrimental for his manhood. then again, at his age, he should be like a rabbit! next time you're up for it (no pun intended), don't even tell him... go over to where ever he is, sleeping, studying, eating etc, unzip his pants and go to town. if that doesn't set him off then it's time to cut your losses and ....

mrrl

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the last straw Posted: 2/13/2007 2:18:04 PM
upstream: If he continues to defend his comments and attitude, then delete him. Also, I think it's important to not just shut someone down if you disagree with them - hear them out. huh? now you're confusing the poor girl upstream.

mrrl

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Do Women not Realize this??? Posted: 2/13/2007 7:10:30 AM
goddess1972: all it shows is they are comfortable with themselves as women, we all have curves and just because some may make the most of our assets it does not mean in any way we are asking for it......................... it means we are happy in our own skin and dress to make ourselves feel good not to turn guys on if you actually believe that, then i have a bridge to sell you. i realize clothes that you wear make you feel good. however, 99% of the girls i've dated wore pajamas to bed. NOT crotchless panties with metallic tassels on the bra. COME ON! Vicotria's Secret is in business, not because it's sells the most practical clothes, but because it makes women feel special. but let's be honest, what kind of women go into those stores? WOMEN with SOs. so unless you wear a bikini or a teddy to work, you're wearing items that you are hoping catches some attention.

mrrl

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How can a man cum more? Posted: 2/12/2007 3:22:21 PM
funny you bring this up because i had aspirations of having porno quality ejaculations as well. here's what i did... i masterbated several times during the course of a day. HOWEVER, i did not climax! just kinda teased Mr Happy. i built up a good amount of man juice by the time i saw my girl. during sex i kept building it up and stopping just before. then, i let it go... oh yeah... headboard needed some sponging after that. problem is, slightly too much work.

mrrl

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the last straw Posted: 2/12/2007 3:08:32 PM
1. No, you don't have anger management issues. but if you did have anger management issues, you're on the right step by at least considering you may have a problem. good luck! 2. Yes, it would be wrong. you made a point that it's ONE thing. so far. you can't get mad at someone for what they believe. it's not fair just because you don't agree with them. now, if he likes to punch disabled kids in the face, you might want to point and click.

mrrl

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How do you choose a SO? Posted: 2/12/2007 2:58:33 PM
the difficult part is you run across someone that actually meets your "criteria" and then YOU realize, that it's not or no longer what you want. i believe in the school of thought that you just have to wing it. close your eyes and fall.

mrrl

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Do Women not Realize this??? Posted: 2/12/2007 1:02:26 PM
if the majority of your pics have you either in a string bikini, miniskirt with a$$ hanging out, cleavage popping out with no face, upside down in your bed etc... men will instinctlively be drawn to you sexually. me included. here's my specific gripe (and ladies, just in case you'll respond, here's the correct spelling according to Webster's... c-h-a-u-v-i-n-i-s-t) .... i recently read a thread where the OP, a nice looking female, complained about how a guy who she thought was nice before meeting turned out to be a horndog who only wanted to lay her. at first i felt for her cause she seemed to be really shocked and disappointed. then, i looked at her profile. understandbly i'm drawn to the pics first... 2 low-cut cleavage shots with no head or lower torso, 1 bikini on the beach shot ground level laying down, 1 lingerie pic and 1 miniskirt/high heels in the doorway posing shot. please help me, because i never graduated college, elaborate on what women believe a cornucopia of revealing and sexually suggestive by Larry Flynt standards pics lead a straight man to believe? ps: i dont' condone any type of force or coercion to fullfill one's sexual appetite, but, i do use some getlemanly persuasion. also... this woman was no teeny bopper. she was quite mature.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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I think I messed up??? Posted: 2/12/2007 12:08:13 PM
it's ironic your last response was that you just listened to Mary J Blige because the song was just ending as i pulled up your post... hmmm... interesting... but, i digress. at the onset of your post my mind just started going crazy as to what you did to F--- things up, like make out with his buddy or something. but, in all actuality, you telling him you're falling for him, isnt' that big of a deal. especially if you've been seeing him for 2 months. my ex gf of 2 years told me on a dance floor in Vegas while she was drunk too that she was IN love with me after dating for 2 mos. then she got on the stage and proceeded to do the macarena. i'm sure drunk or not you're feelings would have come out anyway. if he's not an idiot, then he realized how you feel about him. give him a little time because, like me, it kinda freaked me out. it'll work itself out and the best decision will be had. good luck.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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Giving it up 20 mins after u meet, and it was my first time??? Posted: 2/12/2007 11:44:59 AM
20mins??!?!??? i am so not worthy. i thought i was smooth. damn.... anyway, back to your question... i pick heartbreak, IF you let him. if he's good in bed then stick around and have fun. he's already put it out there so dont' have expectations. Now if tequila was involved then thats a whole nother scenario! since i think that stuff makes every girls clothes fall off MadGirl... thanks for the heads up. i'm investing in some Jose Cuervo stock.

mrrl

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Not in college, but dating someone who is, good idea? Posted: 2/12/2007 10:26:30 AM
i say go for it dude. just dont' get attached. you've pointed out the fact that college is a time to find yourself and meet people etc etc, which is all true. just bring a backpack next time you meet up with her so it looks like you belong.

mrrl

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Love or Sex Posted: 2/12/2007 10:22:54 AM
it depends. are you referring to dating siamese twins?

mrrl

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question Posted: 2/12/2007 9:58:38 AM
I mean, he only sent me two emails, and I've sent him alot perhaps he'd be more inclined to respond to girls who don't stalk him.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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Guys have you had this very real dilemna? Posted: 2/12/2007 9:55:40 AM
i dont' believe that it's another person who takes your interests away. it's just a matter of having perhaps commitment phobia or relationship boredom. which, is natural for some people. if someone were really into another, there would not be a reason to consider dropping them in favor of a complete stranger.

mrrl

Joined: 8/2/2005

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What do you think guys? Posted: 2/12/2007 9:49:44 AM
it says on your profile you're looking to "hang out". so just hang out. the problems start when people start investing way too much emotion too soon. until he actually defines your relationship or until you decide as well, then take it as it comes. have a good time, hang out with other people you meet. he seems like a nice guy and that might be his curse. he treats you special and is attentive. he definately could be playing games, but, it could also be a personality trait. slow your roll and go with the flow.

mrrl

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I don't wanna see one more middle finger! Posted: 2/12/2007 9:39:30 AM
alright! i'm taking off the "bird" pic. but, i am keeping the shirtless pic and the camera fone in the bathroom mirror self portrait.

mrrl

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Things your ex did in bed that your current does'nt! Posted: 2/11/2007 2:54:27 PM
my ex used to squirt like there's no tomorrow. had to sleep with a towel on the bed so i wouldn't catch pneumonia.

mrrl

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whats it feel like? Posted: 2/11/2007 12:56:49 PM
well, have you ever gotten up in the middle of the nite, walked around in your dark living room and BANG! accidentally hit your shin on the coffee table? it feels like the COMPLETE opposite of that.

mrrl

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Roses for V-day. Overrated? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:30:17 AM
i forgot to mention that i got her sunflowers just 4 days ago. DAMN!

mrrl

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Roses for V-day. Overrated? Posted: 2/11/2007 10:20:31 AM
I've read a couple other threads about Valentine dillemas from dudes but mine is more specific. I've known this girl for 15years and we recently started seeing each other. I've never given her roses and we had a discussion once about how she likes sunflowers more than roses for general occassions. HOWEVER, it's Valentine's! Granted you don't know her personally, she is pretty much a girly girl. Shopping, shoes, chick flicks, etc etc. So, should I go with the Roses for Valentine's? Would you as a woman, appreciate Roses for Valentine's? Or would you consider it overrated?

mrrl

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i need to know if its normal for a guy to do this... Posted: 2/11/2007 9:36:57 AM
it's all normal... if you're dating an a$$hole.

mrrl

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don't know how they do it Posted: 2/11/2007 9:30:00 AM
i know it's an overused cliche, but, sex is just sex. i've gone from one to another to another, etc. the feeling doesn't have to be there unless you want it to be, which, as a matter of fact, and most of us can agree upon, IS the most important. most people can and do kiss during the course of dating someone without ever having made them a SO. so why is that not frowned upon? if you both are adults and understand the consequences of what you do, then do what you want. i personally believe that kissing is more intimate than sex.

mrrl

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Should I ignore the tell tale signs? Posted: 2/8/2007 10:31:33 AM
two words: run. fast.

mrrl

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when to catch a friend and when to let them fall? Posted: 1/25/2007 11:25:55 AM
my best bud has been seeing his girl for 6.5 years. he's ALL up in her koolAid and doesn't even know the flavor. plans to marry her and i'm best man. recently she had a slight change of heart (which we all knew she would) and during the course of her explanation, she revealed she cheated on him IN their own place (we figured this part would happen too)! she said only with one dude, but unlikely cause he caught her on some other dating site. understandably he was devasted. this is when i picked him up, dusted him off and blah blah blah. since they live together he had to go back. after a day of talking and having dinner he called me and said that they're gonna "work" on it because SHE wants to! and of course he doesn't want to give up on them. i listened and bit my tongue. i've been biting my tongue for 6.5 years because he's a grown man and i believe we all need to make our own mistakes. my question is, how many times should i let my bestfriend make the same mistake with the same B****??? i believe he is seriously lost but he believes he's in love. also, he has some confounded idea that he's to blame for her letting some other dude park his car in her garage. mind you, i'm not trying to be biased (yes i am), but he pays rent, he takes them on vacation, he pays for the cars AND he picked her over HIS mom!!!! i tried to like her but i knew and now know that i don't need to.

mrrl

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Anyone here regret having oral sex too early in a relationship? Posted: 1/22/2007 5:37:50 PM
as last time I noted, it takes two to perform that act speak for yourself

mrrl

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Anyone here regret having oral sex too early in a relationship? Posted: 1/22/2007 2:20:33 PM
i'm not into giving/getting oral sex too early. i usually like it better in the middle of the day or if need be, in the evening. i'm just not a morning person and i like kissing so there's always the obligatory get up and brush my teeth then get back in bed thing to kill the mood.

mrrl

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the upside down orgasm Posted: 1/7/2007 12:23:22 PM
usually with my satin sheets we slide off it and she ends up upside down anyway. slippery sucker. it does have it's benefits, according to the girl at least.

mrrl

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why do i have a hard time cumming? Posted: 12/4/2006 8:56:24 AM
my opinion is that you don't know your body well enough OP. you're only 19. i think the more you masterbate and learn what YOU like to do to yourself, you can share that with a partner. and i don't want to burst your bubble, but according to lots of statistics, a lot of women have a hard time cumming. unlike jo~ up there who apparently is a very envied woman.... ...........I have just the opposite problem crys16...........Sorry!!!!!I need to concentrate and think how boring it is so I don't explode right away!!!! WOW! try watching lesbian porn too. maybe with your partner so he can pick up a couple pointers on the art of cunnilingus. most women have an easier time with oral than with penetration. good luck!

mrrl

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Best place to carry your condoms? Posted: 12/2/2006 10:22:39 AM
at home i keep it in my DVD case for "The Notebook". after watching it with a female, i put the DVD back and pick up the condom. FYI-this movie is almost Barry White status

mrrl

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Is it really important that a girl knows how to cook. Posted: 12/2/2006 10:00:58 AM
I can crochet really good though. :P Make a great afghan. well, at least i'll be warm while i'm starving.

mrrl

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Why are guys friends with girls? Posted: 12/2/2006 8:49:03 AM
If I'm friends with a guy and he has a girlfriend what exactly is my position in his life? what exactly was your position before the gf came around? you make it seem like you fullfilled certain aspects of a gf. if that's untrue, then you're exactly where you should be, wherever that was before.

mrrl

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After love making... Posted: 12/2/2006 8:14:34 AM
i take a shower, pay her and go home to my gf.

mrrl

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Your Girlfriend Is Manlier Then You... Posted: 11/30/2006 1:58:19 PM
i do treat her normal, i have never said anything bad to her, or about her, only when she took my boyfriend from me like 2 - 3 years ago, but that was childish, and i was only 16, or something, AHHHH!!!! now i see where the resentment comes from. deep seeded anymosity towards her because she stole your man. and if you deny it, you're lying to yourself because if it wasn't an issue, you would've not brought it up. i knew it was more than just her being more of a dude than a girl.

mrrl

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help me out here...please!!! how can he last?? Posted: 11/29/2006 6:46:36 PM
a therapist wouldn't work, because he just gets so frustrated (he'll start crying and then get up and leave)... I know it isn't intentional, but how long should I stay with him when he feels so sorry for himself that my needs don't matter?? We do have other issues...but the whole sex thing is the biggest.... at this point you just have to cut your losses and head for the nearest exit. the sex thing might be the biggest but it's only the culmination, and perhaps the most tangible, of your issues with him. it seems he just has way too much on his plate and it's spilling over.

mrrl

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having a gf? more appealing? Posted: 11/29/2006 10:59:55 AM
You are "safe" to flirt with, meaning that you won't be taking the flirting too seriously and expect more from the women flocking around you since you are committed elsewhere so you're saying i should NOT be taking these women who come on to me home? hmmm... interesting concept you have contrived.

mrrl

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having a gf? more appealing? Posted: 11/29/2006 5:56:23 AM
so, during my periods of relationshipitis, i had slight dryspells. not sahara status, but still few and far between. HOWEVER, whenever i start seeing someone, it seems that i become more appealing to other women. you all seem to come out of the woodwork! i'll be out at a bar and being the social butterfly i usually am, i start conversations. as soon as the mention of me having a significant other comes out, i become a chick magnet. what is it about dudes that are taken that make women want them?

mrrl

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Would you date a woman with piercings? Posted: 11/27/2006 6:04:48 PM
Well she says they are for "stimulation" basically its a sexual thing and thats what scares me! which part scares you??? the stimulation? the sexual thing? the piercing itself? the fact that she's a female? i apologize for having more queries than solutions. i'm just boggled as to your quandry.

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