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sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/13/2009 5:39:13 PM
i wouldn't call after only ONE e-mail. however, if we've been e-mailing back and forth for 2 weeks, that's different. i have limited internet access. so sometimes, the conversation doesn't flow as continuosly as i'd like so it's easier to talk on the phone.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

Wrong type of response Posted: 9/22/2009 3:00:11 PM
I think you did a pretty good job of stating what you are looking for, but you might want to elaborate more on your interests. List some local bands you like, and where you go to see them play Wow, I'm glad you liked at least 1 thing about my profile. I don't do the listing because i want people to ask me. Just like you pointed out in your James Bond example.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

Wrong type of response Posted: 9/21/2009 5:44:46 PM
But I do agree things such as the "2 hours" line is unessesary... most people want that, so it's redundant. that is NOT true. somepeople will do a long distance relationship. However, I'm not interested in that so I put the 2 hour limit statement.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Wrong type of response Posted: 9/21/2009 5:40:54 PM
if I as a tall blonde guy wrote something like "Latinos need not apply" I'd be burned at the proverbial stake as a racist. Obviously that is important to you, so you might soften that up like "My ideal guy is a white male between 30-45." That's why I said what race i WAS interested instead. Thanks, for the re-wording. I added it to my profile.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Wrong type of response Posted: 9/18/2009 1:13:25 PM
I mean, if Michael Jordan or Denzel Washington called you for a date, would you REALLY say no?? actually i would say no to them. yes, i know it's shocking. however, that's just the preference that i have. anyway, i think that's as good as my profile is going to get. thanks every for your help.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Wrong type of response Posted: 9/18/2009 12:22:34 PM
hey DenverSky5280: 1) took down some of my pictures 2) have that name because i drink ALOT of sunkist soda. don't know how that is giving off the wrong impression. it's more exciting that putting: vafemale (which i use too much) 3) took out the height/weight part 4) switched the part about cooking 5) fleshed out the "white guy" part 6) explained the sarcasm, quotes, and dude part

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Wrong type of response Posted: 9/2/2009 2:38:52 PM
"Pratch" now allowing guys looking for friends (makes sense). Added that I'm OK with a guy that has kids. Can't help the pictures (not a smiler). Will have to work on the "what are you looking for in a guy part".

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Wrong type of response Posted: 9/2/2009 2:22:28 PM
Thanks for the advice " luvnlife2". However, I have those restrictions because I'm only looking for dating/long-term. No need for a guy to contact me if he's not looking for the same thing.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Wrong type of response Posted: 9/2/2009 1:42:11 PM
I'd like a profile review. Maybe I can get e-mails from guys that say something other than "nice boobs" Besides, they aren't big, I'm just short Any help would be greatly appreciated

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

Pictures on line Posted: 3/26/2009 3:59:04 PM
keep your pictures private and send them to people. or have a public picture on your profile, but just show the neck-down instead.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 53 (view)

Tick Tock, its so loud some times. Posted: 3/21/2009 5:18:59 PM
i like kids, kids like me. however, i don't want any kids of my own. besides, my biological clock doesn't tick because it doesn't have batteries.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Matchmaking Posted: 3/15/2009 12:32:32 PM
i wouldn't trust my friends or family to matchmake for me. i know what type of person i like. however, that doesn't fit with the type of person they want me to date.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Matchmaking Posted: 3/13/2009 12:37:38 PM
Would you let someone else do the matchmaking? Let your friends, family, or if you're rich the lady from Millionaire Matchmaker setup everything (profile, who to go out on a date, etc). Maybe the other person can see something that you're doing wrong and "steer" you in the right direction (especially if you've been single for awhile). Or just give you a totally different perspective on things dealing with dating.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 144 (view)

Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated Posted: 3/12/2009 5:06:48 PM
i would date someone that is seperated. however, it depends on ONE major thing: when will the seperation become a divorce?

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Do You Use the Update Note on Your Favorites??? Posted: 3/6/2009 1:46:26 PM
i use the feature. then again, i'm female so that doesn't really help with your survey to the men. since e-mail is deleted after 30 days, i use notes to put things about the person that i've learned.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 406 (view)

Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 2/20/2009 1:23:43 PM
trulio:So coming from a true friend it is acceptable, and honoured, for it is truly funny, but from the outside, may be not. that is the key to sarcasm: knowing when/who to use it around.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 405 (view)

Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 2/20/2009 1:14:19 PM
mjr150:When I see sarcasm in a profile, I read it as someone who just wants to tell the world that they are bold and will speak their mind. that is what i do. i just try to do it in a "funny" way.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 399 (view)

Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 2/19/2009 5:30:25 PM
So my SARCASM is the reason I don't have a boyfriend. Darn, I thought it was becaue I was short. Guess I'll have to work on that since I'm not going to grow any taller.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Thoughts on Favorite Songs.... Posted: 2/17/2009 1:10:04 PM
NickleBack: "Gotta Be Somebody"

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 215 (view)

What is wrong with men? Posted: 2/16/2009 4:11:59 PM
hey, if you don't want them, i'll certainly be intereed.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 143 (view)

Would you ever sell yourself.........? Posted: 1/26/2009 4:40:19 PM
i don't think i would go THAT far for money. however, i always said that my "hard luck" job would be stripping. yet, i have no rythm so i'm not sure if that would hurt.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 196 (view)

Women going to bars alone Posted: 1/25/2009 1:36:24 PM
If its a bar that has a lot of live music or dancing, I wouldn't think its odd i go to bars for karoake or live music. then in-between singing or sets i play NTN bar games. that's a good way to meet people also. you're bonding trying to make the bar place high in the standings.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 195 (view)

Women going to bars alone Posted: 1/25/2009 1:32:27 PM
I wont go to bars on my own, as i feel like a goldfish in a goldfish bowl with everyone looking at me and talking about me... thing is i always assume they talking about me and looking at me cos I am ugly or something. i feel the same way in the beginning. however, i always go to bars with a friend/co-worker first before i go back alone. then i don't feel out of place.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

Have any of you found an ex on this site? Posted: 1/21/2009 3:30:21 PM
i'm seen 2, so far.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

Living Situation Posted: 1/20/2009 2:26:38 PM
Thanks for all the responses. I was trying to figure out if I would still be "dateable" if I moved back home with my parents. I guess that is yet to be determined.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Pleas review my profile. Posted: 1/15/2009 5:29:04 PM
the only thing i didn't "like" about your profile is the main picture. maybe change it to the "after hard day at work".

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Reading Between The Lines Posted: 1/15/2009 2:20:09 PM
When e-mailing/talking to someone, are you quicker to notice when things don't quite "match up" to the type of person they protrayed themselves to be in their profile? What I'm trying to say is, are you better at figuring out who is just telling you what you want to hear so you'll meet and the ones that are actually interested in dating?

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

Living Situation Posted: 1/14/2009 12:12:55 PM
Because honestly I have considered moving back home if I can no longer afford a decent place in a decent neighborhood. I have had one too many bad room-mate experiences. If the choice is between paying your 'rent money or living in a crack filled, Jerry Springer/Maury Povich/COPS neighborhood, whats the smarter choice? I feel the same way. I like having my own apartment. However, the rent is ridiculous. I'm starting to consider moving back home. I'd much rather pay my parents 1/2 of what my current rent is instead of finding a cheaper place in a bad neighborhood.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 31 (view)

Profile or pic? Posted: 1/12/2009 5:39:01 PM
i don't think i look good in pictures. so i spend more time on my profile.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Forum usage effecting your dating? Posted: 1/12/2009 5:34:04 PM
i like reading/commenting the forums. i think a person should be interested in what i'm thinking. so if they don't agree with what i say in the forums, then they really shouldn't date me.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 134 (view)

Giving or Asking for soneone's phone number... Posted: 1/12/2009 5:21:47 PM
I look for chemistry in this order: Profile, email, IM, phone, face to face. i do things in the same order. when it is time to talk on the phone, i offer my number. if they really are interested, they won't hesistate to call. if not, then i know they didn't want to take it further.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 81 (view)

How long has it been? Do you miss it? Can you live without it? Posted: 1/12/2009 5:05:35 PM
last time was november 2008. the longest has been 8 months (back in 2000). after about 4-5 months without, i didn't miss it anymore. then of course when i did it again, i wanted more. it's a cycle.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 111 (view)

Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 1/12/2009 4:54:28 PM
i have the opportunity to "just have sex". yet i'm more interested in having a bf NOT a penis.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Living Situation Posted: 1/12/2009 3:30:05 PM
Would you date someone who lived with their parents? I see the parent situation as different than having a roommate. With a roommate, it's 1/2 your dates place. However, with parents, it's more the parents home than the person you're dating.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Creative ways Posted: 1/12/2009 2:56:31 PM
"lucky" for me, I don't want children. i'm 32 and my biological clock has never ticked. i don't think it has batteries.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

Exclusivity Posted: 1/11/2009 1:22:24 PM
Some further break this down into exclusivity and committed; exclusive means you are only dating each other, but might not know each other well enough yet to have decided to be a couple. Once the pair says "hey, this might be it", they become committed to each other... which means they are no longer just dating but have moved to a relationship. Yep, people get confused by whether they are 'just dating' or 'in a relationship wow, i didn't know there was a difference.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 239 (view)

Only 17% of American (USA) women like giving oral sex? Posted: 1/11/2009 1:06:28 PM
it doesn't matter if it's done to me or if the man asks. i have to be in the mood to "give".

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 85 (view)

Woman won't tell me her last name Posted: 1/11/2009 11:31:48 AM
i actually feel more comfortable giving people my lastname (because it is more common) than my first. however, i rarely know a guys last name when i go out on the first date. usually just have a phone # and first name.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

SNORING?? Does it really matter ? Posted: 1/11/2009 10:54:29 AM
every guy i'v dated so far has been a snorer. my 2nd ex-bf was the worse. i had to wear earplugs at night.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 206 (view)

Unusual Compliments Posted: 1/10/2009 5:49:20 PM
not sure if this counts. however, every guy seems to compliment me on my smooth skin.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 57 (view)

breaking up over email, acceptable or not? Posted: 1/5/2009 5:13:10 PM
my pefered method is face-to-face. if that's not possible then by phone. i would NEVER break up with someone by e-mail/text.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Professional Pictures vs. Digital Pictures Posted: 1/4/2009 1:34:44 PM
i think one professional picture is good. however, like the candid shots better. that way you get to see the "real" person.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

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Dating advice Posted: 1/3/2009 2:28:41 PM
i say go for the hand holding and see what type of response you get in return. that will help you determine "how far" to go.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 85 (view)

Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date? Posted: 12/30/2008 5:37:48 PM
i think that is too far to go. i date long distance. however, the guy has to at least be in the same state.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 174 (view)

What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 12/29/2008 12:05:24 PM
mstennis: Can I please get to the 6th date with someone and I will let you know... LOL wow, 5 dates, i didn't know people went on that many.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 167 (view)

What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 12/28/2008 12:42:52 PM
Hi Sunkist, Why not choose men who live closer to you? i have dated men closer before. however, something always happens. i end up with men that live far away (but within the state). i personally don't mind the distancce. it's always the guy that ends up breaking it off. guess he finds a vagina that he can see more than two weekends a month.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 46 (view)

At what point are you ready to meet? Posted: 12/24/2008 5:37:52 PM
my pattern is: e-mail here, personal e-mail, talk on phone, meet in person. all of this usually takes about 2 weeks... 3 at the most.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 123 (view)

Is it ok for a person with a S/O to flirt with others ? Posted: 12/24/2008 5:30:40 PM
i'm accussed of flirting all the time. i just say that i am talking to someone. yet my friends say that i'm totally flirting with guys. so i don't think that i'd be able to stop anyway.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 10 (view)

Differences between dating websites, question... Posted: 12/24/2008 5:09:17 PM
i dislike paying sites. whenever a paying member contacted me, i just gave them my e-mail address so we could continue to talk after their time was up. that way we wouldn't loose contact.

sunkist76

Joined: 4/21/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

When Aunt Flow Comes to Town... Posted: 12/24/2008 4:41:46 PM
i always tell my boyfriends: "my vagina isn't accepting penises this week". so instead i just give him a blowjob. that seems to hold them over.

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