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flcntrygirl80

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NEW VENUE~~CASSELBERRY~~Holly & Dolly's ~~ Sun. Nov 8th Noon til ?? Posted: 11/5/2009 9:20:55 PM
seems like an older crowd at this one.... i think i would feel out of place.

flcntrygirl80

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LONGWOOD~~~ POST TIME~~~Saturday, Nov. 14th at 7pm Posted: 10/24/2009 10:39:50 PM
Well, been ages since I have been to an event (had someone special for a stretch). don't really know anyone at this event, but I like The location. My mom and stepdad had their halloween costume wedding there 6 years ago.

flcntrygirl80

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NEW VENUE~~~LONGWOOD~~~KARAOKE AT POST TIME~~~Thursday, Oct. 8th at 7pm Posted: 9/27/2009 9:17:37 PM
Love Post Time, it's where my mom and stepdad had their halloween themed wedding with the Lucky Dogg band! Wish I could make it to this one, but it's my little girl's birthday! Maybe next time!

flcntrygirl80

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Photos of Wekiwa Spring Family event. Posted: 9/22/2009 12:45:08 PM
Sorry I missed this kid friendly event, it looks like everyone had a blast. Maybe I can catch the next one.

flcntrygirl80

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Wekiwa Springs~~Family Friendy Picnic/Covered dish Event!! Posted: 9/18/2009 1:41:14 PM
Viv- No tattoo of his name and DEFINATELY no tattoo on the nether regions! It's actually an awareness ribbon that will have one side pink for breast cancer and the other side sky blue for prostate cancer with an '02 under the pink for my grandma's loss to the battle and a '93 under the blue for my grandpa's loss to the battle. Going to be an emotional hour....

flcntrygirl80

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Wekiwa Springs~~Family Friendy Picnic/Covered dish Event!! Posted: 9/16/2009 8:07:40 PM
Wolfie! Would love to come and bring my honey, but have a spa day with my mom and sister and then going to get my new tattoo... going to be an emotional experience this time... Maybe I'll get the chance to party with you and Viv sometime soon.

flcntrygirl80

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Live Band - Casselberry Patio Bar - SAT. May 16th - Casselberry FL Posted: 5/5/2009 6:41:05 AM
John seems you post this question on all the event pages. Like others have said, host an event for that age group. If you don't want to host alone, find someone to host with you. There are periodically some parties for those under 21, but the majority of people who host/attend parties are over 21. happy

flcntrygirl80

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WINTER PARK, FL--MEET LOCAL SINGLES NIGHT WITH KAROAKE AT DEVANEY'S SPORTS PUB--SAT. 4/18/09 AT 7PM- Posted: 4/7/2009 7:53:40 PM
Gonna try to make it out to this. Been awhile since I have made it to any POF parties.

flcntrygirl80

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Kick ... Party!!! Posted: 3/3/2009 8:20:19 PM
Wish I could have made the Mardi Gras party, but it was on my weekend to have my daughter and she just came home from a hospitalization in a behavioral health center so she was my priority. Maybe next time!

flcntrygirl80

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PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 3/2/2009 9:25:50 AM
Well, before assuming or trying to assume responsibility for the baby, I would definately consider the poster's suggestion that the baby isn't yours. Look into going to court and getting a court ordered paternity test. Then, if he is yours, go for what you want. Whether it is custody, just visitation, whatever. Get it rolling now so that she can't nail you for back child support in the future. Just make sure the baby is really yours before getting hit or agreeing to pay child support or anything. Good luck

flcntrygirl80

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Tough Love Posted: 3/2/2009 9:22:05 AM
Wow, in 10th grade and mom still wakes him up and practically does everything for him... I don't think I would have taken responsibility for myself either at that age if I had a mom that was willing to do everything. The way I was raised, because my mom was a single mom who was out the door for work long before I needed to be up for school, was that I used my alarm clock to get up and I went to bed at a reasonable time. If I didn't get up and missed school because I wasn't responsible enough, then I lost privelages like tv and hanging out with friends. You have done a whole lot more than I would have in regards to his fundraising. I would not allow my sister to do all his baking, help him yes but not do it all for him. I also would have given him an idea and guidance on how to write the support letters for his trip to Mexico and then told him I would answer whatever questions he had. School guidance counselors don't really care beyond the school bell. He might rebel a bit in the beginning, but make sure you stick to your guns and don't give in. As for his grades, he woudl either maintain a respectable GPA or would spend a very boring life in his room studying and doing homework, or if he says he's done, I'd find him lots of chores to keep him busy. There would be no fun stuff. I would also put a GPA requirement for his mission trip to Mexico. I know that trip is for a good cause and serves a purpose for others, but I am quite sure he is looking forward to the trip. Perhaps when/if he has to miss a trip to Mexico and maybe even repeat 10th grade, he will open his eyes and realize that he needs to get his academic butt in gear. Good luck with him and hang in there.

flcntrygirl80

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Should I let my ex husband see our daughter even though he doesn't help at all? Posted: 3/2/2009 9:11:41 AM
OK Summer, one thing you have to understand about kids is that they know when the absent parent is not around. Whether the other parent pays support or not the child should never be in on that part of it. I personally am all for you allowing him acess to your daughter, but on your terms. If he wants to see her, he needs to come to her. If he doesn't like your terms for visitation, then he can take you to court and take his chances with deportment, back child support, etc.... honey, in these tight times (not saying you are in a tough position) you should foot the bill, even half the bill, to allow a deadbeat illegal dad to see his child. If he really wants to see her he will make the arrangements or will take his chances with court. Good luck. btw from one single mom with a deadbeat ex to another, court is your best route to protect you and your daughter.

flcntrygirl80

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Should Single Parents be allowed to have invitro? Posted: 2/25/2009 9:16:46 AM
I 110% agree this was wrong of her and her doctor! She lives in a 3 bedroom house with 6 kids and her parents. Most of her children are special needs children already. The doctor needs to have his license pulled, he filed federal fertility ethics by implanting more than 2 emryos. As a single mom of only one child, I am finding it difficult in this economy not to have to make a move towards government assistance.. I can't imagine more than that much less 14 children, most of whom have or will have some sort of special needs. Those kids need to be taken from her and placed in families who desperately desire children but are unable to have them for whatever reason. Edit*** I jsut read an article that said the hospital may not release the babies to this woman until and unless her living situation changes for the better. Her mother's home goes on the foreclosure auction block May 5th because she is more than $23K behind on payments. Sounds like California CPS needs to make a decision for the wellfare of these babies and the other 6 kids since it sounds like there will be no roof over their heads pretty soon/

flcntrygirl80

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~~~~It's Mardi Gras! / Let the Good Times Roll!~~~~ 2/28 - Green Parrot / Casselberry 7:00pm Posted: 2/24/2009 9:10:00 AM
JoJo, I found King Cakes at Fresh Market... Pretty reasonable. There are also internet sites they can be ordered from. Will keep my eye out for more.

flcntrygirl80

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a question for all single parents Posted: 2/22/2009 8:26:26 AM
As a single mom, if the situation was reversed for me and my child's father was being investigated by DCF, I would be in the middle of it and petitioning to get custody of my child. I hope you kept proof of cs payments, or you won't get credit for them if she takes you to court about it. My advice, go down to the court house in their county if they live in a different one) and file the petition for custody and child support immediately. It is pretty simple to do it yourself, no real need for a lawyer. Good luck.

flcntrygirl80

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Question about pseudo blowjobs Posted: 2/22/2009 8:07:23 AM
Personally, as a woman who has issues with performing oral, I think your honest approach with her was good. If you were truly non-confrontational and respectful of her and her "attempts" then she should have had no reason to get pissed at you. She sounds like she can't take honest critisism or anything.

flcntrygirl80

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Orlando Florida - Free Drinks, Dance & Live Band at COWBOYS - Round 3 - Friday February 20 Posted: 2/18/2009 7:14:46 PM
I'm going to try to make it to the lessons, but sometimes they go a little too fast for me.

flcntrygirl80

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Pics / 2/14 ~~ Valentine's Bash~~ Casselberry - Green Parrot Pub & Eatery 7:30pm Posted: 2/15/2009 6:15:20 AM
Sorry I missed it! I was beat from a day at Universal and then the Mardi Gras parade. Next time hopefully!

flcntrygirl80

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cure the valentines day blues Posted: 2/13/2009 9:18:47 PM
I am spending the day at universal studios for mardi gras and seeing frankie valley and the 4 seasons perform after the parade with my family. then possibly a pof party in casslebarry. Cupid can shove his arrows up Hallmark's keester!

flcntrygirl80

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Orlando Florida - Free Drinks, Dance & Live Band at COWBOYS - Round 3 - Friday February 20 Posted: 2/11/2009 6:49:09 PM
A maybe is better than a definate no! Hope you can make it.... We'll celebrate your birthday!

flcntrygirl80

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Men dating single mothers Posted: 2/11/2009 6:28:07 PM
fun tall... wow..... you obviously have no children and have never had anyone that had to rely 100% on you for their care and well being. Perhaps you have dated a single mom who didn't want to leave their comfort zone...whatever you mean by that. I for one am a single mom who is very protective of my daughter because nobody else can be. I am not one of those women who bring random guys around her child, because it isn't fair to the child. It takes a mature man to be able to date a single mom and understand that the child has to come first because that child relies on their parent for everything. That is not to say that a man I date and eventually marry cannot or willnot become a priority in my life. He would just be a different type of priority. If a man doesn't want to date a single mom then fine, but don't put them down until you walk in their shoes... To the poster saying we single mom's are on welfare and are just looking for a financial backer they need to open their eyes and get real. To posters saying an baby's father is always going to cause drama because they are an ex.. get a clue. Even a woman who is not a single mom could have an ex that would cause drama, so don't place that stigma only on single moms. I for one have a decent parenting relationship with my daughter's father, but NEVER want to get back with him. He's an ex for a reason. A man looking at dating a single mom needs to remember 2 things. 1:you have to be flexible because things can happen with the kids that can cause plans to change. 2:don't always think the woman is looking for a father or father-figure for her child. ok, end of single mom rant.

flcntrygirl80

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Orlando Florida - Free Drinks, Dance & Live Band at COWBOYS - Round 3 - Friday February 20 Posted: 2/11/2009 4:10:41 PM
I definately need some dance lessons.... As for the free drinks, it's self-explanitory... wells, drafts and wine are free (just be sure to tip your bartender) for the set amount of time. You walk up to the bar and get your drink.

flcntrygirl80

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I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her Posted: 2/10/2009 10:59:03 AM
Wow! Talk about resurecting an old thread....

flcntrygirl80

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Orlando Florida - Free Drinks, Dance & Live Band at COWBOYS - Round 3 - Friday February 20 Posted: 2/10/2009 10:44:27 AM
There are a few options for breakfast after... there is an ihop down OBT towards the mall, there is a Denny's on East 50, there is an ihop that is usually pretty empty on east 50 near the arena also. Guess I am gonna have to refrain from drinking much bc I have no DD for the night.... Lookin forward to a fun night though. Been too long.

flcntrygirl80

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2/14 ~~ Valentine's Bash~~ Casselberry - Green Parrot Pub & Eatery 7:30pm Posted: 2/6/2009 6:59:18 PM
I am in your age group, and there are always tons more people who show up that do not sign up. You should also come to the Cowboys party on the 20th. Check out that thread too.

flcntrygirl80

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Orlando Florida - Free Drinks, Dance & Live Band at COWBOYS - Round 3 - Friday February 20 Posted: 2/4/2009 8:04:20 PM
Woo HOOOO!!!! Been too long since the last Cowboys party! I am soooo ready! I'll be there with hats, boots, and buckles on!

flcntrygirl80

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Women Peeing In The Men's Room Posted: 2/3/2009 10:21:14 AM
I have taken over the men's room pretty often. There are never enough ladies rooms, so why not? I always holler into the bathroom that the women are about to invade, so if you're shy hide it. LOL I have also done it when my daughter had to go really bad and the women in line for the ladies room where being obnoxious and wouldn't let a small child go ahead of them. I cover her eyes on the way in and out so she doesn't see anything inappropriate. I have gotten crap about it, but taking her to the mens room is better than having a "potty accident". When it is just me invading the mens room, I gotta take a peak at what the guys who don't hide it are packin. Rarely will I use a mens room in a gas station though, bc they are usually gross and smell like the guys missed the urinal or toilet. EWWWWW!!!

flcntrygirl80

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone you did not find attractive physically? Posted: 2/2/2009 11:51:14 AM
I have and my relationship with him, even though it started in high school, was one of the best relationships I have ever had. We were together almost 3 years. The only reason I broke up with him is because I was a dumb college kid who was never satisfied with where we were. That is the one relationship where I think if I could go back and have a do-over, I would sleep through the day we broke up, instead of breaking up.

flcntrygirl80

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2/14 ~~ Valentine's Bash~~ Casselberry - Green Parrot Pub & Eatery 7:30pm Posted: 2/1/2009 6:25:57 PM
How in the world am I supposed to find a Valentine when there aren't many men signing up?

flcntrygirl80

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Cranes Roost Park @ Uptown Altamonte: Any interest in a Walkabout gathering? Posted: 1/31/2009 9:35:23 AM
I'd be up for it, as long as I have the weekend off from being mommy.

flcntrygirl80

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Would you perform oral sex on your date at a walkin movie theatre? Posted: 1/31/2009 9:31:35 AM
I would be concerned about what was on the seats and/or floor in that situation. I can handle sticky soda, candy, popcorn and other typical movie debris. But the thought of what would be on the floor and seats in a poro theater scares me and grosses me out.

flcntrygirl80

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Would you perform oral sex on your date at a walkin movie theatre? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:24:44 PM
Sorry, but I just can't beliewve there are regulations where you love than prevent them from mentioning sex on the radio. Are you living in bloody pleasantville? Actually, yes the regulatory powers that be have guildelines for what is on the raido similar to those for tv. It can lead to huge fines for the station and cost the dj their job. For instance, you can't cuss, you can't play music with cussing in it, you can't play music with references to certain things, and there are certain topics that can not be taken beyond a certain point.

flcntrygirl80

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How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:10:53 PM
Who needs SAA? The OP thinks sex is an evil or dirty thing.

flcntrygirl80

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Would you perform oral sex on your date at a walkin movie theatre? Posted: 1/30/2009 9:37:18 AM
Wow, talk about revival of an old thread.... I love sex in the movie theater. I like going to the theater with a balcony, because not many people sit up there and the floors are usually cleaner bc not many people sit up there allowing for guy on girl oral, and late movies provide more assurance that kids won't be around. As a side note, there is a local radio station's mornignn show dj's that refer to sex as "going to the movies" to get around regulations and stuff.... Damn, now I want to go to the movies in the movies.........

flcntrygirl80

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Sex and Dreams... Posted: 1/30/2009 9:31:00 AM
I find that I have the most intense and vivid sexual dreams when I have a) been drinking or b) under insane amounts of stress or c) have recently had mind blowing, body numbing, earth shaking sex with someone...... As a matter of fact, had one pretty recently, woke up in the midst of an intense orgasm, and had to change the sheets and take a shower.....it definately wasn't from option c, so it was either a or b.......They are far more fun to have when there is a man in the bed next to me, bc then I can continue with him when i wake up.....

flcntrygirl80

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How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 1/30/2009 9:15:41 AM
Has anyone read the OP's other post on anti-sex? In that one he states he is agnostic... Doesn't seem to me you can be agnostic as well as Christian/Catholic or whatever.... trying to decide if this kid is seeking attention or what, but this kids definately needs serious help.

flcntrygirl80

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Spanking Your Monkey in Public Posted: 1/30/2009 9:01:57 AM
And that is of course not in front of everybody, but where you may or may not get caught, such as hallways, parking lots, dressing rooms, elevators, movie theaters and so on. Wow, haven't had sex in a movie theater since I was in high school! Damn I miss high school! Cars, movie theaters, under the bleachers, swimming pools, and in the Atlantic Ocean...... Ahh to be back in high school again.LOL

flcntrygirl80

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Clit Peircing? Posted: 1/27/2009 12:04:46 PM
Hahahaha newblue1970..... nice observation of howbigisyourlove. It is hypocritical to say "mutilation" in the way she wants it is ok, but the OP's desire to "mutilate" herself in a less obvious way is somehow wrong......Something doesn't make sense. howbigisyourlove, it isn't like the OP is going to drop her pants in front of everyone and expose a clit piercing. It is for her pleasure and possible the pleasure of a lover, not for the whole world to see. More power to you that you are into reading and learning about mutilation and stuff, but I personally don't want to look into it at all. I also don't think it is right that you are condemning someone for putting a hole in their body, that you may not agree with, when you have done the same just in another part of you body that is more "socially acceptable".

flcntrygirl80

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Men coming to your home.....timing? Posted: 1/26/2009 8:30:47 PM
Stand your ground! In my experience the more they push to come into your home, the less they can be trusted and the more likely they are looking to get laid. e-mail and chatting is not the same as in person dating. Nobody comes in my house that I haven't been out with at least a few times. I don't even let guys pick me up at home for 1st or 2nd dates.

flcntrygirl80

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Abstience Rocks! Posted: 1/26/2009 8:23:40 PM
OP, after taking a look at your profile and having posted on you other posting abotu being comfortable enough to have sex, I stand by what I posted there.... Your views about sex are warped. I also tend to lean towards the opinion of the poster who asked if you were taking a martyr stance bc you aren't getting the opportunity. Like the little kid who says they don't want the toy anyway after they'd been begging for it for 10 minutes. Plus, you are contradicting yourself in both posts on this topic. In the other one you say you are staying a virgin because of religious beliefs that sex was dirty and essentially bad and/or evil. Then in this OP you say you are agnostic and are not remaining virginized because of your religious beliefs. Sounds like you are just looking for the attention. One word....Therapy!!

flcntrygirl80

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Clit Peircing? Posted: 1/26/2009 8:09:31 PM
I have one question for those ladies who have had it pierced already. How much did it hurt? howbigisyourlove... a little pent up aggression there? If you had nothing but angry comments to make that are off the OP's actual question, why bother forcing your long-winded opinion on everyone else who might actually be interested in this thread?

flcntrygirl80

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Do you guys think this is fair? Posted: 1/26/2009 8:01:15 PM
Hun, you have to look at the big, long-term picture here. He is a controlling man. Should he decide to take the step towards marriage, he shows classic domestic violence tendencies. He withholds your orgasms and only worries about his pleasure, won't "allow" you to use toys, you have to hide the fact that you masturbate.... he's a woman beater in the making. He's just working up the balls to actually take it to the next step. It also doesn't seem like you have real high self-esteem. You could do so much better. Are you sure that the "LOVE" you are professing for him is not just comfort and a fear of being alone or not having the comfort of a relationship, even a bad one? Bottom line, leave his abusive, controlling ass and find a REAL man!!

flcntrygirl80

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Sleeping naked Posted: 1/26/2009 7:49:42 PM
I prefer nudity all the way around. Sleeping naked is the best, especially when sharing the bed. Nothing better than feeling your partner's skin touching you anywhere, even an arm or thigh or somewhere innocent. Bring on nakedland! When my daughter isn't home, I am running around the house in the buff. Especially during the summer when it is 95 degrees out.

flcntrygirl80

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Losing your virginity. Good,bad or funny Posted: 1/21/2009 9:26:53 AM
My first willing time was kind of funny. Inexperience on both our parts, his bony hips poking me, a broken futon, and very tight time contraints. Thank God the next time was so much better, the Atlantic Ocean makes for fun sex, and being 16 with his VERY Catholic parents 5 feet away makes for exciting sex. AHHHH to be 16 again.

flcntrygirl80

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just wondering what to do Posted: 1/21/2009 9:17:39 AM
proud nana, you need to get far away from this man. The way a man treats animals and children that are not his is a telling sign. It sounds to me like he is a controlling, potentially abusive man. If you chalk his "ill" behavior towards your grandchildren, who will ALWAYS be there long after any man is gone, and his screaming at your dog up to you being an overprotective grandmother you are taking the first steps towards an abusive and potentially violent relationship. You need to ditch him and not look back!

flcntrygirl80

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Porn and recreational Valium? Posted: 1/21/2009 9:09:57 AM
The porn thing wouldn't be a big deal. The big thing for me would be the addiction to valium and the illegal possesion of unprescribed pills. That is a serious offense that could lead to jail time. Again a little voice in my head would be screaming Danger! Danger! Danger!

flcntrygirl80

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Would you give him another chance? Posted: 1/21/2009 9:00:40 AM
IMHO, camming is the same as sitting in front of someone in person and masturbating. there is no touching of the other person, but they are still in an intimate situation. Then there is the "relationship" with the Aussie woman. Honey, he is a cheater to the core and seems like he was just working up the balls to take cheating to the next level. In my experience once a cheater always a cheater. If you choose to get back with him, A: have him tested for std's, and B: go slow.

flcntrygirl80

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My ex has moved on, and strangely I'm not happy about it Posted: 1/21/2009 8:52:49 AM
I was right there with you. I definately don't want my ex back, but I was jealous that everything was working out for him while I sit at home every night playing mommy. He only has to play daddy when it is convenient for him, so it never gets in the way of his romantic life. Me on the other hand, guys find out I have a 6 year old at home 90% of the time and they can't run fast enough it seems. The best way to get past the "jealousy" is to remind yourself that he is a scumpuppy and is now the new woman's problem. Rarely does a guy like your ex, or my ex, permanently change his spots. Plus there is the irrational fear that the new woman will try to replace you as mom in the kids' eyes, or that you will have to be the "mean" mom who disciplines, while she gets to be the "fun" mom every so often.

flcntrygirl80

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When your on a break and your partner sleeps with someone else. Posted: 1/21/2009 8:46:35 AM
I am leaning towards those saying a break is the beginnings of a break up. It sounds to me like she doesn't want to work on your relationship, it's hard to think about really working on a relationship with you are screwing someone else. Whatever you do, do NOT stay together or get back together just for the kids. The kids will be the ones hurt in that situation, because they can sense more than you think. It is far less damaging to them and the pysche to see their parents apart and happy as opposed to together and miserable and cheating and fighting. I know this one from experience on both sides, as the kids and as the mother.

flcntrygirl80

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Taking it slow? Posted: 1/21/2009 8:40:02 AM
It means she was in a bad marriage and it can take a long time to recover from that and trust a man again. If you like her, then hang in there until she is ready. If you are too impatient and try to push her into making a decision, you will push her away. I don't know if her "controlling" marriage is her way of sayign he was physically and mentally abusive or not, but it sounds like it was heading that way if not already there. You also fail to reveal how long she was in the marriage, that can play a big factor in how long it will take her to be ready to move forward with you. So, bottom line, if you like her and want to see about a future with her give her the time and space she needs to get over the bad marriage. It can take awhile to fully recover from a bad relationship and even longer from a bad marriage.

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