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Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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What Women Want? Posted: 7/1/2008 8:54:14 AM
Completely agree with message 6, couldn't have put it better myself !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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How do I politely extract her from a group? Posted: 7/1/2008 8:48:18 AM
As a woman i think there's few things sexier than a confident man who can approach and engage a group of friends, win them over then single out the one lucky girl for the approach. There's nothing else like it, she'll feel like the cat that got the cream ! you look back at her after you depart (with her number, of course), I bet she'll be beaming from ear to ear !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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what constitutes a creepy guy? Posted: 7/1/2008 8:35:24 AM
One evening I was IM chatting with a guy on here. It was the first time we'd talked and we were just having a laugh and a joke about life and work etc, and out of the blue (and I mean, TOTALLY off topic) he says to me, "Do you like rimming ?" THAT IS CREEPY !!!! Generally any man who puts you in a situation where/makes you feel like the hairs on the back of your neck are standing up can only be described as creepy !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Is it your intention to change a man to suit you in a relationship? Posted: 7/1/2008 8:30:27 AM
I wouldn't say it's a woman's intention to change a man from the very beginning of a relationship but like every diamond, they (men) all need a little polishing, and the smart woman will spend a lot of time searching for the diamond that requires the least polishing. Sorry, fellas, but it applies to women too, that no diamond comes in a perfect package, ALL need at least a little bit of polishing ! In relationship terms, it could be that you meet someone who is 98% perfect for you but there may be one or two niggles you're not so keen on, but it would be silly to throw away a potentially sound relationship for something so minor, so a choice must be made, change it or learn to live with the niggles. In my opinion, in order to form a healthy relationship, both parties should make equal amounts of compromises, and perhaps change one or two things each, to better suit their partner. Equally, though, it's difficult to know where the line is to be drawn. I can appreciate that some women do go overboard and try to do an 'extreme makeover' of a man. Any man who finds himself in this situation should run !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Missed opportunity or lucky escape ? Posted: 6/16/2008 11:06:43 AM
You could cope with that? Find some self respect and self worth. Thanks for being so judgemental a.m.a - as I said before, shit happens to everyone at some point in their lives and I wasn't going to write someone off altogether just because he was unemployed. How callous are you ? that's pretty harsh imho !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 6/15/2008 7:27:06 PM
OP it's not just men that stare at big boobs, I used to work with a woman who had the largest breasts that I have ever seen in all my life, and every time she walked in the room, I just couldn't take my eyes off them (and I'm a straight woman!). Eventually one day she was telling me how she was going in for a reduction and we got talking about it and she was very open about all the problems she'd had because of the size of them, and I had a total attitude adjustment, and I now feel very sorry for women with huge breasts. They often feel just as self conscious as flat chested women, if not more so. Incidentally, I used to want large breasts but I'm now more than happy with my generous handful !

Loobyloo234

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marry first week????of chatting Posted: 6/15/2008 6:54:09 PM
What a wacko ! Glad to see you're not spooked by this freak and you've retained your sense of humour !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Missed opportunity or lucky escape ? Posted: 6/15/2008 6:17:24 PM
And Browolf, yes I have been wonderinghow I let it get so far, again, I was aware that the guy had low self esteem and I was trying not to hurt his feelings, however, I think I was in denial and trying to make myself believe there was a good explanation for these things, but when they're all added up I think maybe I was living in cloud cuckoo land. I should also point out that this guy said in his profile that he was looking for friends, which is why I replied and started communicating with him in the first place, but he seemed to want more than I was prepared to give and it escalated from there.

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Missed opportunity or lucky escape ? Posted: 6/15/2008 6:09:01 PM
Thanks for your advice everyone, I see the general consensus is that my gut instinct was right, and although yes, I do like to see the best in people and understand that sometimes crap does happen in all of our lives, I think you're all right and yes, I did have a lucky escape. I shall heed this valued advice and block him from contacting me. Thanks everyone.

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Missed opportunity or lucky escape ? Posted: 6/14/2008 5:05:00 PM
Hi all, this is my first thread, and hope it doesn't have any rule infractions I have a question for all you guys out there. I've been talking to a guy I met on here for around six weeks now. He lives fairly locally but I had seen his profile before he first contacted me, and, to be honest, I didn't find his profile all that enticing, it was pretty run-of-the-mill stuff, so I skipped past him. A few days later he contacted me, and we began corresponding exclusively through this site. His profile did say that he was looking for friends, so we started chatting, but something in the back of my mind was a little disconcerted. I tried to ignore the voice at first and played it cool. He was much more keen than I was and badgered me to phone him, but I didn't cos the nagging voice said that if i phoned or texted him he would then have my phone number and could then pester me by phone too. He quickly began sending me messages on pof twice a day every day and getting a little grumpy if I didn't reply daily. I told him he was moving way too fast and he slowed it down slightly, but he continued to message me daily, but barely told me anything about himself and expected me to tell him my life story. Every time I asked him anything about his past he was very evasive and I only got one sentence answers. He did tell me he had been married before and that he didn't get on with his family and had fallen out with all his friends, he has been unemployed since he moved to the area 5 years ago and living on benefits, he doesn't have his own computer so he uses the public library. All of this I could cope with so we arranged to meet, but the night before a few things happened which gave me cold feet. 1) His profile and all the emails he had sent me spontaneously disappeared from POF and he came up with some way out bizarre explanation about a friend of his being jealous and deleting his profile !! Err, I don't think so mate ! 2)Before his profile disappeared he said could we meet somewhere other than where we had planned, but then the profile disappeared before we could decide a new location. 3)After looking at the forums I read that some women on here google their potential dates and of course I thought; what a good idea. Wrong - I discovered that my potential date is a local mental health service user. On it's own this wouldn't put me off per se but combined with a few other troubling facts I'd already discovered about him, this was the final straw. He created a new profile and has started messaging me again. I told him my concerns and that I wouldn't be meeting him and he continues to message me and pester me to meet up. My question is this, am I judging the guy unfairly, should I give him a chance or should I listen to my instinct (which is telling me to give the guy a wide berth)? Also, do any of you guys out there think I handled this wrongly ? I'd be grateful for some male advice on this one as this is the second freakish stalkery type I've met online.

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Is It Time The UK Pulled Out Of The Euro Song Con?.... Posted: 5/28/2008 7:07:06 PM
How about this for an idea, separate contests for eastern and western europe, in the western european one we could have all the traditional old eurovision die-hard countries, in the eastern one we have all the new entrants (ie former soviet/balkan/baltic countries) battling it out amongst themselves. It's far too big now with too many countries competing. In my opinion it started going downhill when they let Israel in. ISRAEL ?? since when is that in Europe ? next we'll be having kuwait and iraq joining in ! Incidentally, what morons voted for spain ??? And what was that washing line one all about ? bizarre that even they got more votes than us. I'm not saying I thought Andy Abraham's song was all that suitable for eurovision, I actually expected something a bit more dancey like Iceland's entry would have won it. Hmm... where's the scratching your head looking confused smiley ?

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Anybody been to or know much about Prague? Posted: 5/25/2008 7:42:24 PM
Hi Samantha Jayne, I just thought I'd post a reply to your questions about Prague, I was there just about 3 years ago, and I'm sorry but I have to disagree with schmoo and North and say that I found the people very rude and unfriendly. It is, however a gorgeous city and was scorching hot when we went in July. We stayed in a hotel in between Charles Bridge and the Castle, which was a beautiful part of the city. There is plenty to see and do in Prague, but for eating out I noticed that if you look at the menus in the most touristy areas they are pretty much all the same and quite expensive. I did find that if you go into the sidestreets and away from the big squares that you get more diverse cuisine and better prices/quality. One final word of advice, if you're going for the clubbing, watch out for your money being stolen, credit cards cloned etc. If, on the other hand you are going to absorb the culture and scenery, I do think it's quite a coupley place and going with a friend rather than a partner, I did feel I was in a minority, when seeing all the lovey dovey couples, particularly in the evenings. Overall I'd say, yeah it's nice, but in my opinion it's a bit over-rated. It's much like any other pretty european city. I, for example much preferred Stockholm, which, incidentally isn't as expensive as people think! However, if you do decide to go, then Bon Voyage !

Loobyloo234

Joined: 4/23/2008

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Helping out - how far would you go? Posted: 5/25/2008 7:22:52 PM
Hi there GOW, I have a lot of sympathy for your situation, I also have a tendency to take other people's problems on my own shoulders and get taken for a mug into the bargain, usually. Over the few occasions it has happened I have learnt to harden myself up and would no longer stand for being taken as a soft touch. It's one thing helping a good friend who is genuinely in need, (and I really would do anything I could to help a true friend), but to me it sounds as though this woman is a bit of a leech and the fact that she is a victim of domestic abuse is inadvertently being used as a form of emotional blackmail against you and a very effective tool for manipulating you which makes me angry FOR you ! I hate to sound cynical but if you can possibly try to look at this situation from a detached point of view, I predict you'll find that when her benefits come through she'll drop you like a hot potato, which hopefully will come as something of a relief to you. Thus speaks the cynical voice of experience ! Here's a hug for encouragement Be Strong !!

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