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~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

Meant to be alone Posted: 11/21/2009 8:46:54 AM
I know what you mean and not eveyone has it all and you do get those people who have been alone for decades on end. I know it's negative but maybe some people are meant to be alone :s

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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men and emotional maturity Posted: 11/21/2009 8:39:19 AM
I think you're fab that made me laugh lol

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Does class matter in online dating? Posted: 11/21/2009 8:35:32 AM
I personally think internet dating can make things harder it's almost like being a kid in the candy shop you're so spoiled for choice that you may not message people because you are expecting someone better to come along. At least this is what myself and some friends who online date find. If you bumped into someone on the street you're more likely to strike up a conversation with them than if someone sends you a small and uninviting message online. There are some sites that eliminate the class thing but I don't think you're gonna find many people of a high class on a free dating site as many would be willing to pay for a subscription.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Fustrated with online dating Posted: 10/5/2009 4:49:08 AM
I agree with you it just makes things seem harder especially when people appear to be spoiled for choice!

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Dating someone who doesn`t have children. Does it work for you? Posted: 9/29/2009 6:56:41 AM
I don't get it to be honest I mean if you don't wanna date someone that has kids then don't!! She was in the wrong to lead you on if she had no intrest and being with a man that comes with baggage i.e kids then she should make it her business to know what she's getting into straight off. Would have saved everyone a lot of time and energy. Sorry it never worked out for you, she sounds really shallow anyways

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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men that love big women Posted: 9/29/2009 6:41:09 AM
There are a lot of men who only go for big women. I'm not the smallest woman in the world and the guys I have dated either don't see weight as an issue or only like bigger women. I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A lot of women out there only like skinny guys with no muscles so i guess the same thing can happen in men, you can be attracted to someone who wouldn't be seen as desirable to everyone else quite easily.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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POLYGAMY? Posted: 9/21/2009 6:10:33 AM
If you don't wan this type of commitment perhaps offer him the money back for the divorce that way you have nothing to tie you to this man. I don't think it's fair that he would be allowed 4 wived but you only 1 husband. A lot of religions and cultures allow this. I think it's down to your own personal choice and what you wanna do in this situation.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Where have all the nice guys gone? Posted: 9/19/2009 8:47:13 AM
I have no idea where all the good guys are but if you find out, let me know lol

~*Mayah*~

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Are other countries better at relationships than America? Posted: 9/18/2009 6:18:49 AM
you make some good points I mean we're told what to don when the bad things happen in relationships and hwo to react if we get cheated on etc. We don't get told how to maintain a relationship and the work involved in making a relationship work and be a happy union between you and your partner. Some cultures believe that aranged marriges are the best and there may be some truth to this as they tend to last a lot longer than the average one and your parents help select a partner for you. Having said that I wouldn't let my parents pick for me lol. We're expected to be perfect in our relationships and there's no guide book stating what's right or wrong in each senario I think it takes a lot of trial and error and taking each day as it comes.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 9/12/2009 6:26:55 AM
Online dating makes a lot of men seem very shallow it's all about looks and sex. You have to be patient and wait to find someone you click with and even when that happens it doesn't mean anything. You can't make things happen the way you want always. There's a lot of single people out there who don't seme to know what they're looking for but are hoping to find it online!! Not quite sure how that works!

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc. Posted: 9/12/2009 6:18:45 AM
I think it's a lot harder for women I mean yeah a lot of the time a man makes the first move but not always are his intensions good ones. I find that women find it hard because a lot of men are commitment phobic (not all men just a lot of them). I have heard some men say they have met girls they really like but feel they haven't slept around enough so they won't commit. Women I find tend to look for someone who will compliment their personality and everything men don't seem to be as selective when it comes to things like this as they tend to go looks first. Like i said before not all men but a large amount

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Can you ask??? Posted: 9/11/2009 8:15:42 AM
Don't ask!!! You could scare him away. If he feels love you, he will tell you in his own time. Some people just take a little longer to get there than others hun

~*Mayah*~

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Is anyone on here serious?? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:46:26 AM
I have come across some guys on here who simpy don't have the time to meet with women in bars and stuff every week until they meet someone they like, you know life work and family gets in the way of that sometimes. This is how it is with me. I also wanted to try this to see if I could meet guys different to the type I tend to meet in person. I know what you mean though a lot of people are online for the ego boost and others just want a quick fling as such but there are a lot of people who are on online for the serious matters, I reckon you'd have much more luck if you tried the sites that require you to pay. I bet people on those sites want their money's worth and will take it all seriously. Although I get that with a recession and stuff not everyone can try those.

~*Mayah*~

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Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:38:50 AM
I think you got the point. I would say more than 50% of sex for us (men) is like going to a restaurant and seeing the different dishes and imagining what each one would taste like. This imagination has various degrees. A starving man will almost melt inside when he sees a dish that looks good at sight while one whose belly is full will pass even the most delicious dishes and not look back, unless he likes to indulge in food. When we want sex, we are almost never in the romance world like you gals. Now, a mature, unselfish, and considerate man would know to combine romance with the experience to make it enjoyable for both. I think you're right men can seem to seperate romance and love with sex and many women can't, having said that I know of many women who are happy to do the casual thing and it doesn't effect them in the long run. I think it goes deep within our biology

~*Mayah*~

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Do women cook anymore?? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:29:44 AM
you must not have put a lot of thought into this tooic at all. Notice how all the world's most famous and celeb chefs are men!!! The tables are turning and fast!!

~*Mayah*~

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Moving too fast, still hung up on his ex? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:14:32 AM
I totally get how this could make alarm bells go off in your head but they must have shared friends and a history I think if you wanan try the exclusive thing you gotta give him the trust he deserves I mean it's not like he had to tell you about this meeting. Be cautious and be careful but give him a chance he may just be meeting with her for dinner and nothing more. It's hard to just stop contact with someone if you have a history and mutual friends.

~*Mayah*~

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:06:58 AM
See here in the UK contraception is free. I think if you are required to take it then yeah I think both of you should contribute to paying. In my experience it seems to be the guy who leaves all that stress up to the woman as he may not wanna wear condoms so the least he should do is fit the bill if not contribute.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

Msg: 187 (view)

The real problem with relationships today. Posted: 9/10/2009 7:02:27 AM
I think having so many ways to meet someone and so much choice makes us picky and it can become harder to be happy and satisfied within a relationship. Many people seem to suffer from having a case of the grass is greener on the other side. Seeing what they can get and thinking they can do better. I tend to find with myself and my friends people tend to not know what they have until it's gone. Back in the days you would meet a potential spouse at school, work, through a friend or whatever but now with internet dating, lonely hearts adds, speed dating and so much more we have too many choices.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:58:26 AM
Yes, but the big difference I've notice is that men will think of sex with no connection to anything, and even think up women that don't exist. Women tend to respond sexually to something that triggers it; intelligence, a certain guy they know, whatever. Exactly we tend to talk about experiences and stuff and as you said men we know and stuff. Some of my male friends will see a woman on the street a random woman they have never met and will proceed to talk about how good they think she'll be in bed lol.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

Msg: 133 (view)

Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:51:48 AM
women talk about and think about sex just as much as men if not more so. When women get together and this is a topic if discusion it tends to be very detailed and explicit i find. The only thing is women expose this information with a selective few people whereas men don't tend to go into as much detail and talk about it a lot more. Also for men there is more sexualised things for you to talk about as far as lads mags, porn, etc women don't have as much to draw from in that way so this may be why it seems as though we don't talk about it as much.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Does this drive all men nuts? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:44:10 AM
I think men and women have different ways of showing love and appreciation. A woman is more likely to be vocal about it or cook her man a meal etc whereas a man is more likely to either show you in the physical sense or make a big grand gesture. I guess it's that understanding that stops arguments and feeling unappreciated. I feel that not everyone can have it all. At least he shows you his affections some women can't even get their men to do that so hun sounds like you have it good to me. I totally get that sometimes you need to hear the words though because even though actions speak louder you don't always get them when you need them and to hear it can give you that little extra boost needed.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Do you reflect on what you attract? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:39:17 AM
I know what you mean I tend to get messaged by the same sort of guy and then one random guy will pop up and really attract my attention. With me it doesn't tend to be a format like single dads or whatever just guys who tend to talk about the same sort of thing.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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men outnumber women on dating sites Fact? or Myth? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:33:33 AM
This may be true but I think of it a case in quality and not quantity. A lot of men are on dating sites but many are just online to seek sex, end current relationships or just get talking to women. This really annoys me as the genuine men whom many of us women are seeking can be overlooked by the ream of men who are online for the wrong reasons and they may lose out also. I get messaged a lot by men basically saying the same kinda thing (fancy meeting up for a little fun) It gets really boring after a while and can make online dating seem kinda frustrating at times. This is just my experience in this i'm sure it's not the case for everyone.

~*Mayah*~

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Is being added as a favorite an invitation to e-mail? Posted: 9/5/2009 9:00:54 AM
You would think being added as a favourite would mean you have spoken to the person for a whiel have a bit of a raport with them and that you might wanna meet in the future. I have people who have added me as a favourite and I have never spoken to them so i don't really know what that's all about. In my case those I have added I have given them my msn.

~*Mayah*~

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i`m thinking i need something stable Posted: 9/5/2009 8:05:56 AM
Give it time there are loads of women out there looking for something serious I would say more than those happy for something casual. You may have come on a little too strong and that can look a little desperate. This is a real turn off for us girls. My advice would be to pay it by ear and just see what happens.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Why do women try to make men feel quilty? Posted: 9/5/2009 8:00:38 AM
If a woman says something that gets to you and makes u feel guilty then that's your issue. If she manages to tug on your guilt strings then perhaps the question should be "why has what she said got me and made me feel this way?"

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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are all attached men still looking for another woman? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:42:47 AM
A lot of guys tend to do that and they they get all shocked wheny ou tell them you don't wanna get involved.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:26:39 AM
Women talk about sex all the time!! Women enjoy sex just as much as men do if not more. I just think we can go longer without having any lol.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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When does the pain end? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:24:44 AM
Sorry to hear about your breakup. As usual bad things happen to good people. I guess with time things will get better. It's just gonna take time to adjust to being single and doing things on your own without someone else to consider. Have you thought about going to counseling to deal with the break up issues? It really might help you to unearth some things that could be holding you back from moving on as quick as you would hope.

~*Mayah*~

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Exclusive dating??? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:20:25 AM
How many women out there date a man ONE time and have them ask you if you would please ONLY date them so that you can be exclusive??? How many men ask that of a woman after the first or second date? and why??? See I don't get it, if a woman asks a man this after like 3-4 months she could easily scare the guy off but if a guy thinks he can ask us that after date one we're meant to just be exclusive how does that work?!! And yes I know this doesn't happen with everyone but it has happened to me, makes no sense to me.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:14:20 AM
Lookign is one thing but when you're practically drooling into her cleavage then there's a problem. I mean it's not an issue if you look at her face when you talk to her put it that way.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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The Deep Spot Posted: 8/13/2009 4:54:20 AM
There are several spots a woman has to create orgasam. There an A spot and a G spot both are located within the vagina. I'm not so sure about what the other spots are called but I know they are there lol

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Does your ex still calls you? Posted: 8/13/2009 4:51:31 AM
My ex still calls me, usually to moan about his life or whatever he always seems shot down when i don't wanna hear it but at the end of the day he's an ex for a reason!

~*Mayah*~

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Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND? Posted: 8/13/2009 4:45:57 AM
I have NEVER had a one night stand and never wanted to either.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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What is too easy? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:56:36 AM
Win? You think this is a contest with winners and losers? What's a winner? A woman who has got a guy wrapped around her finger because she uses sex as a weapon? What's a loser? Someone who can't get a guy because she doesn't know YOUR rules? Sorry, a man is not a prize to be won or lost. Talk about objectification!!! I am beginning to understand why so many marriages have problems. If women STILL think sex is a treat to be handed out to men only if we're good, or we meet certain criteria, then no WONDER so many men complain that once they say "i love you" their wives or so's stop having sex with them...since they've "won" the prize already....... Oh calm down clearly you're not familiar with the figure of speech. What I mean is that no matter what we do in this case we end up on our own or confused.

~*Mayah*~

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What is too easy? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:44:33 AM
I'm just curious, most men want women to jump into bed with them as soon as they meet them, but then get tured off or loose interest if the woman does. Men say women are confusing. If you don't a lot of men lose interest and if you do they lose interest. What is it? It's like men want you to, but the really don't. That's my exact same thought how the hell are we meant to win!!! I mean the messages being sent by a lot of men are mixed ones. I hate it when men say women are complicated because fact is if they asked us what we wanted we'd be pretty straight forward and come out with it, men do this treat em mean keep em keen thing. I just don't see why people can't treat others they way they would wanna be treated, it would make life so much easier.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Inter-racial dating Posted: 7/19/2009 9:09:02 AM
I come from a mixed race family and I am around people who date out of their race all the time. I have never dated a black guy and people think I am weird because of it. It's not that I don't find black men attractive it just hasn't happened yet. I think it can be beneficial also I mean it opens you up to different cultural experiences and I feel you can get the bost from both worlds.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:05:19 AM
There are loads of great men left I know loads as they are mates of mine the only thing is I find that a lot of women like to be treated badly by men, not sure but so many women claim they want a nice guy but tend to only go for the treat em mean keep em keen types. I'm not sure of this is because they wanna be the one woman to finally make a man change but it seems to boggle my mind I don't get that lol. I personally am after one of the good guys my trouble is that they are usually taken, married or just wanna be friends. I guess one of these days one will turn up but I hate it when women use the line "all men are the same" I mean that's just rubbish, more to the point we would never tolerate a man saying that we're all the same I think you have to judge a person as they are and take a person as individual and not part of a collective.

~*Mayah*~

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Long Distance Relationships Do they work? Posted: 6/25/2009 11:17:16 AM
If you really want it to work it will hun. A friend of mine was with his girlfriend for a while year long distance and now she's back they seem closer than ever. If it works out to be something more long term you can always talk about one of you relocating.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Constructive Criticism Posted: 6/24/2009 11:51:13 AM
I think it depends on what you're commenting on. Say it's an issue that's sensitive with some people such as weight, you need to be careful with what you say and how you say it.

~*Mayah*~

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Seems great, so what's the problem.... Posted: 6/24/2009 11:49:56 AM
I ask myself that all the time. Some people just like the online community and have no wish to look for something serious (not sure why). Some men tend to find women who not only look good but have a lot going on upstairs intimidating. So many men say they want a strong independant woman but when it comes to it many of them get scared by that.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

Deal Breaker? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:47:43 AM
^^^^ Most people are doing jobs they don't like to keep their head above water. Better than having no job at all.

~*Mayah*~

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Do I really look scary ? Posted: 6/24/2009 8:35:56 AM
No not at all i mean no matter what the person there will always be someone who loves what they see. Don't change how you look I mean a person should take you as you are if they're interested in you.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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what does it feel like to have a healthy long lasting relationship??? Posted: 6/24/2009 8:32:54 AM
When it works it's amazing!!!!! If you have hard times and manage to come out of it all, it can almost seem like a fresh start and you get a new energy in the relationship. The good times outweigh all the bad when things are working and to have a strong connection with someone physically and emotionally and to know that your partner has your best intrests at heart and wants you happy is an amazing feeling.

~*Mayah*~

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How about this one.... Posted: 6/24/2009 8:30:30 AM
Hahaha sorry but that made me laugh that is the most random thing for someone to wanna do after sex! It shows you that you're good at what you do and she liked it but still a little weird IMO.

~*Mayah*~

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What Do You Ladies Think Of... Posted: 6/24/2009 8:26:36 AM
It's not something I mind but I think more than 5 can be a turn off to someone but it's generally down to personal taste. As long as they don't look painful or uncomfortable it's fine with me.

~*Mayah*~

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Deal Breaker? Posted: 6/24/2009 8:24:52 AM
Someone old enough to be my father!!! (I get messaged by people a hell of a lot older than em all the time it's really annoying!) Someone who tries to force his religion down my throat. Someone with kids usually does it for me (no one wants baby mama drama) Someone with no goals in life who wants to spend his life living with mum and never amounting to anything.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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What Do You Think? Posted: 6/24/2009 8:21:12 AM
Thanx for the advice guys I had a read of what you said and made a few alterations hopefully it helps.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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I don't know exactly what to do. Posted: 6/24/2009 6:26:47 AM
I see your problem. He have been on here checking messages though he may not have been here fishing for women. I think maybe talk it out and just see how each other feels maybe give it a try and if he is serious about giving it a go he may come off POF.

~*Mayah*~

Joined: 4/25/2008

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Dating cliches Posted: 6/24/2009 6:18:20 AM
"I am attractive / pretty / good looking" etc. Your perception of your looks is irrevelant. It can come off as being arrogant as well. I hate that one also I mean beauty, attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. I mean nine times out of ten when i get that in a message from a guy aI don't find him attractive at all lol. It is very off putting.

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